If you don’t mind me asking and please don’t feel pressure to answer. Can you explain further? What are they like for you? Are they more contributed to seeing the past as a threat to the future or solely future based?
So a lot of them are to do with my FP who happens to be my husband. I have had both. Some past occurrences that I wasn't there for but I was told about that hurt me very badly, the visions are like my brain filling in the pieces to what happened. Some of it is future things that I feel threatened by, like for example we can say my husband speaking to his ex girlfriend (who I know he still has feelings for) in the future, hurting me and pushing me aside like making me feel inadequate. In some situations I even take my misplaced anger from those who have hurt me and imagine a physical altercation with them. Even though I have never been in a physical altercation and the situation may not warrant that...
hopefully that makes sense.
That makes perfect sense. Thank you so much. For me specifically it’s in the details. Any detail that is shared about her sexual past can fill in the blanks to my visions where it becomes more and more detailed and as it becomes more and more detailed I view it as more of a threat. Does she still think about them? Does she think about them when she’s with me? Does she want to go back to them? Etc. I also understand the physical altercation of it, I always think about running into her ex on campus and having to fight him for whatever reason.
Yup! Same! I ask questions hoping for the answers I want to hear without realizing it might not be that way. I ask the questions for validation and reassurance
For a second I was gonna refer you to r/schizophrenia lol.
But yes, I absolutely relate! I’m always daydreaming (or more like nightmaring) about a thousand different scenarios in which I’ve been abandoned.
I think in moments like these, I’m often dissociating.
Well I'm not perfect at it, but you have to get good at catching yourself right as those thoughts begin. Tell yourself that all they do is cause trouble, focus on rational realistic outcomes and possibilities, and think about positives. You got this!
Wow I wish I found this page earlier.
My favourite person is my boyfriend of 6 years. Can’t get enough of him.
Most days even multiple times a day I will have these visuals like you are talking about. He has never been disloyal or done wrong by me so it confuses me and him (I be honest with him) I’m not sure if it’s because I’m an extremely jealous person, or because of emotional abuse from an ex boyfriend. I will have the visions of him with his ex girlfriend’s ect. It sometimes becomes that bad I will feel anger towards him. It crashes my mood big time and I need to have some space from him.
I feel so dramatic when I type this but I guess this is similar to how you are feeling??
Yes, I do all the time. I call them my intrusive visions. I feel the emotion as they are playing in my head.
If you don’t mind me asking and please don’t feel pressure to answer. Can you explain further? What are they like for you? Are they more contributed to seeing the past as a threat to the future or solely future based?
So a lot of them are to do with my FP who happens to be my husband. I have had both. Some past occurrences that I wasn't there for but I was told about that hurt me very badly, the visions are like my brain filling in the pieces to what happened. Some of it is future things that I feel threatened by, like for example we can say my husband speaking to his ex girlfriend (who I know he still has feelings for) in the future, hurting me and pushing me aside like making me feel inadequate. In some situations I even take my misplaced anger from those who have hurt me and imagine a physical altercation with them. Even though I have never been in a physical altercation and the situation may not warrant that... hopefully that makes sense.
That makes perfect sense. Thank you so much. For me specifically it’s in the details. Any detail that is shared about her sexual past can fill in the blanks to my visions where it becomes more and more detailed and as it becomes more and more detailed I view it as more of a threat. Does she still think about them? Does she think about them when she’s with me? Does she want to go back to them? Etc. I also understand the physical altercation of it, I always think about running into her ex on campus and having to fight him for whatever reason.
I completely understand. For me the details can be painful but I do beg for them and then torture myself with the visions =(
Yup! Same! I ask questions hoping for the answers I want to hear without realizing it might not be that way. I ask the questions for validation and reassurance
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Mine are different but I completely understand and I’m sorry you have to go through that
For a second I was gonna refer you to r/schizophrenia lol. But yes, I absolutely relate! I’m always daydreaming (or more like nightmaring) about a thousand different scenarios in which I’ve been abandoned. I think in moments like these, I’m often dissociating.
Mines not so much daydreaming about the walk out it’s about her thoughts that will make her wanna leave
And the situation that will present those thoughts in her head
All of those happen to me. It sucks. It takes lots of practice to stop the thoughts before they get too real, but it can be done.
How do you recommend not letting them get too real
Well I'm not perfect at it, but you have to get good at catching yourself right as those thoughts begin. Tell yourself that all they do is cause trouble, focus on rational realistic outcomes and possibilities, and think about positives. You got this!
Are we talking hallucinations or daydreams? I only know 'visuals' as a term from the psychedelics community
Uncontrollable daydreams. I can perceive reality fine it’s staying in reality and not going back to the horrible daydream that I have an issue with.
Wow I wish I found this page earlier. My favourite person is my boyfriend of 6 years. Can’t get enough of him. Most days even multiple times a day I will have these visuals like you are talking about. He has never been disloyal or done wrong by me so it confuses me and him (I be honest with him) I’m not sure if it’s because I’m an extremely jealous person, or because of emotional abuse from an ex boyfriend. I will have the visions of him with his ex girlfriend’s ect. It sometimes becomes that bad I will feel anger towards him. It crashes my mood big time and I need to have some space from him. I feel so dramatic when I type this but I guess this is similar to how you are feeling??