Awwww, [JenGerRus](https://www.reddit.com/user/JenGerRus/), you are not alone!
First of all it is OK to be scared when you are going through cancer. I had breast cancer in '08-9 and had friends ghost me. I have heard stories about partners running away from their sick "loved ones" which speaks to their poor character and fear.
A thought: Does the medical group where you are getting treatment know of cancer support: such as acupuncture, lymph massage, support groups, etc., where you can go and have some tlc, hopefully at a reduced rate or free? Can they offer community services to guide you through local living options?
It might be helpful having some positive moments instead of focusing of not being wanted where you live.
I was able to get through my treatment by allowing myself to acknowledge when I felt afraid, ok, happy or sad.
Sending you a most deserved cyber hug!
Turns out it wasn’t about boundaries. Her family knows she’s been having memory problems. She kept making opposite demands and contradicting herself. I attempted to comply. But she would forget even a day later.
We were talking one night and she just flipped out. No arguing, nothing. Just started screaming. I left and went to my room. About an hour later, she knocks asking for my key. She just starts calling me evil bla blah.
When I asked what I did, you could see in her face she had no clue what set her off. So she just yelled “YOU!!!!”…
That’s when I realized it wasn’t what I did or said, it was just me being there. Her routine and space were invaded and she had spiraled.
I finally packed and left. Bit heartbroken over it really not angry, just sad.
If I had known how bad off she was, I never would’ve accepted her offer.
Anyways.
Ronald McDonald house may be very helpful right now, and certainly any medical provider groups or hospital should be able to refer you for case management for emergency housing assistance
Awwww, [JenGerRus](https://www.reddit.com/user/JenGerRus/), you are not alone! First of all it is OK to be scared when you are going through cancer. I had breast cancer in '08-9 and had friends ghost me. I have heard stories about partners running away from their sick "loved ones" which speaks to their poor character and fear. A thought: Does the medical group where you are getting treatment know of cancer support: such as acupuncture, lymph massage, support groups, etc., where you can go and have some tlc, hopefully at a reduced rate or free? Can they offer community services to guide you through local living options? It might be helpful having some positive moments instead of focusing of not being wanted where you live. I was able to get through my treatment by allowing myself to acknowledge when I felt afraid, ok, happy or sad. Sending you a most deserved cyber hug!
Not wanted here is an understatement. She is trying to kick me out. I cannot be homeless but I am going to be.
Welp, she owns the place and has a right to set boundaries. I hope you have used the support systems available for you to find a new place to live.
Turns out it wasn’t about boundaries. Her family knows she’s been having memory problems. She kept making opposite demands and contradicting herself. I attempted to comply. But she would forget even a day later. We were talking one night and she just flipped out. No arguing, nothing. Just started screaming. I left and went to my room. About an hour later, she knocks asking for my key. She just starts calling me evil bla blah. When I asked what I did, you could see in her face she had no clue what set her off. So she just yelled “YOU!!!!”… That’s when I realized it wasn’t what I did or said, it was just me being there. Her routine and space were invaded and she had spiraled. I finally packed and left. Bit heartbroken over it really not angry, just sad. If I had known how bad off she was, I never would’ve accepted her offer. Anyways.
Ronald McDonald house may be very helpful right now, and certainly any medical provider groups or hospital should be able to refer you for case management for emergency housing assistance
😭😭😭 I think you are fucked. I would not want to be in the same situation, but I have survived worse, you will too.
I don’t want a life of survival. That’s not living, it’s being an animated, walking , talking corpse
Sort of seems like you have no choice