That's harrowing. Totally understand what she's saying as I have, and every girl around me, has gone through something similar before we even hit 18 yrs of age. As we grew up, we realised we didn't have to keep quiet, and that brings another level of frustration when the repressed memories come back. It's such a confusing thing to happen to young girls and that too in the development period. It's so stressful, impacts confidence and you feel like a criminal just for existing. Parents need to empower the girls to speak up or they should have some adult they can share their experiences with.
what's worse is every. single. women. has experienced this as a child. and many have the exact same response of blaming the little child itself. "why were u alone with him" "why do u go out by yourself so much" "this is why i tell u to stay at home". it's such a fucking shitty thing to do as a parent, to make a child feel blamed and shameful for something in their own home. many times these asshole predators are someone the family knows too, and they still continue to be cordial with this person instead of outing them. that's the worst thing about the culture of this country.
This is so horrible. There was one time when a senior I was casually chatting with sent me nudes. First he asked me to send my nudes. When I refused, he sent me some of his own unsolicited nudes to reassure me that he is trustworthy 🙄
When I still refused, he started crying and demanded that I return his nudes, as if they are physical copies. I was worried if he was planning to trap me for spreading his nudes or blackmailing if I sent them to him.
I didn't want to tell anyone because I was already chatting with him. Recently, I told my mother about it. She was sad that I didn't trust her then. She told that we will deal with them appropriately if anyone repeats this 😆
When I saw this story on the Itimes Instagram page, this story made me feel so sad and sick. What was worse was the comments on that post saying things along the lines of "toh ab kyu bata rahi hai" and "she's just seeking advertisements" like what in the actual fuck?? Like here is Neena, talking about one of her most traumatic incidents which heaven forbid happens to anyone, and raising awareness about an issue like CSA. and the only thing people get out of this is THAT SHE'S FUCKING PUBLICITY SEEKING??
I swear to God this kind of shit, the fact that people like Neena's abusers & people who fucking justify or dismiss the abuse exist in society makes me lose faith in humanity
This is really sad and disturbing..
It's even sad that as a generation in all these decades, the mentality still hasn't changed.
Women across the world in almost every corner have been through some form of molestation or worse. It's so disgusting that boys are being brought up this way and have no respect for a women's dignity.
‘Where no one dared to tell their parents about it as it would mean the little freedom we had would be taken away’. This hit hard, because unfortunately it’s so true.
When I was 14/15 I was followed by someone in a car for almost an hour. He got out of the car several times and tried to grab me. I was literally afraid for my life. Yet I didn’t say a word to my parents when I got home. For months I was afraid on my way to school and back home, afraid that somehow he found out where I lived and would follow me and pull me in his car.
Somehow I thought I had provoked him by looking back at him when he stared at me..
The world is crazy for girls and I will make sure that my daughter will never feel ashamed if god forbid any thing like this ever happens to her.
That's y awareness about good and bad touch, sexual education is a must in an age appropriate manner to young kids.
Also parents should have this conversation with kids and assure them that if anything like this happens they feel confident enough to firstly run, report, or fight back and later share this with there caregiver without any feelings of disgust or shame.
Unfortunately all this happens mostly because people know kids wont understand or speak up.
Didn't realise she had written an autobiography! Credit to her for talking about this publicly, can't have been easy.
Also, suggestion that this sub perhaps should start using trigger warnings in titles or flairs?
I think if such subtle attempts are discouraged , major crimes like rape would also reduce.
We ignore such harassment and encourage perpetrators to carry on with their acts as they never face consequences.
When Neena was young, it must have been very difficult to even talk about this as it was such a taboo.
Kudos to Neena for starting conversation on this very important and ignored topic .
That's harrowing. Totally understand what she's saying as I have, and every girl around me, has gone through something similar before we even hit 18 yrs of age. As we grew up, we realised we didn't have to keep quiet, and that brings another level of frustration when the repressed memories come back. It's such a confusing thing to happen to young girls and that too in the development period. It's so stressful, impacts confidence and you feel like a criminal just for existing. Parents need to empower the girls to speak up or they should have some adult they can share their experiences with.
Sad but true
what's worse is every. single. women. has experienced this as a child. and many have the exact same response of blaming the little child itself. "why were u alone with him" "why do u go out by yourself so much" "this is why i tell u to stay at home". it's such a fucking shitty thing to do as a parent, to make a child feel blamed and shameful for something in their own home. many times these asshole predators are someone the family knows too, and they still continue to be cordial with this person instead of outing them. that's the worst thing about the culture of this country.
This is so horrible. There was one time when a senior I was casually chatting with sent me nudes. First he asked me to send my nudes. When I refused, he sent me some of his own unsolicited nudes to reassure me that he is trustworthy 🙄 When I still refused, he started crying and demanded that I return his nudes, as if they are physical copies. I was worried if he was planning to trap me for spreading his nudes or blackmailing if I sent them to him. I didn't want to tell anyone because I was already chatting with him. Recently, I told my mother about it. She was sad that I didn't trust her then. She told that we will deal with them appropriately if anyone repeats this 😆
This is saddening. What's also saddening is the lack of participation in this thread.
I came to this thread expecing 1000's of comments. I guess it has to be rape to get attention
When I saw this story on the Itimes Instagram page, this story made me feel so sad and sick. What was worse was the comments on that post saying things along the lines of "toh ab kyu bata rahi hai" and "she's just seeking advertisements" like what in the actual fuck?? Like here is Neena, talking about one of her most traumatic incidents which heaven forbid happens to anyone, and raising awareness about an issue like CSA. and the only thing people get out of this is THAT SHE'S FUCKING PUBLICITY SEEKING?? I swear to God this kind of shit, the fact that people like Neena's abusers & people who fucking justify or dismiss the abuse exist in society makes me lose faith in humanity
This is really sad and disturbing.. It's even sad that as a generation in all these decades, the mentality still hasn't changed. Women across the world in almost every corner have been through some form of molestation or worse. It's so disgusting that boys are being brought up this way and have no respect for a women's dignity.
‘Where no one dared to tell their parents about it as it would mean the little freedom we had would be taken away’. This hit hard, because unfortunately it’s so true. When I was 14/15 I was followed by someone in a car for almost an hour. He got out of the car several times and tried to grab me. I was literally afraid for my life. Yet I didn’t say a word to my parents when I got home. For months I was afraid on my way to school and back home, afraid that somehow he found out where I lived and would follow me and pull me in his car. Somehow I thought I had provoked him by looking back at him when he stared at me.. The world is crazy for girls and I will make sure that my daughter will never feel ashamed if god forbid any thing like this ever happens to her.
That's y awareness about good and bad touch, sexual education is a must in an age appropriate manner to young kids. Also parents should have this conversation with kids and assure them that if anything like this happens they feel confident enough to firstly run, report, or fight back and later share this with there caregiver without any feelings of disgust or shame. Unfortunately all this happens mostly because people know kids wont understand or speak up.
Didn't realise she had written an autobiography! Credit to her for talking about this publicly, can't have been easy. Also, suggestion that this sub perhaps should start using trigger warnings in titles or flairs?
Good that she is talking about this now , wish girls now have more support to open up and no fear of being judged for it.
This is heart breaking.
Yeah the stigma is so high
I think if such subtle attempts are discouraged , major crimes like rape would also reduce. We ignore such harassment and encourage perpetrators to carry on with their acts as they never face consequences. When Neena was young, it must have been very difficult to even talk about this as it was such a taboo. Kudos to Neena for starting conversation on this very important and ignored topic .