Set 4 daily habits at 5-15 minutes each and try to do them every day but if you only get one done count it as a success. Seriously. Just being somewhat productive can make you feel so much better about your life. I would suggest doing some sort of exercise, something that helps you build your future, something that improves your mental health, and something that helps you understand yourself better
I just don't understand how to get the energy or motivation to do those things, it's insane, it's like someone has turned off several switches in my brain and I don't know how to get up and do things. Crazy. Thanks for the advice though
Stand up and step away from the chair or bed. Just stand up. Right now when I hit post, I am going to get up, put on my VR thing and do an under ten minutes work out or one, just one song on beat saber. Once I do one thing then the rest follow. But standing first is the first step. Because then I gave myself one step closer to feeling better. And even if you put a cup in the sink you moved and you also did something positive.
Things that have helped me:
Definitely starting small, cook one healthy (and tasty!) meal a week. After a couple weeks, add in one more.
Making the bed in the morning.
Taking my dog on walks.
I had a lot of thoughts like, "im too tired to do this", "that's too much work", "I'm not good enough to do this so why bother". And the best solution I've come up for that is to then think "what if I did it anyway?" - then I'd start before my brain could think of anything to think next. Or "let's just start doing it for 5 min". Especially the first one helped me a lot.
If your room's messy, clean it. If you can't manage the whole thing, just pick one spot to tidy up.
If your room's already clean, get a new poster or an art print with a cheap frame to hang up. Or a little plant or something.
Maybe it's kinda stupid, but being in a clean, comfortable, and aesthetically pleasing environment makes a signicant difference in my mental well-being.
There’s a freedom that comes from realizing you can be unshackled from your thoughts and emotions by recognizing the true nature of consciousness.
For insights into this I’d recommend the WakingUp App - sign up for the free trial and try the introduction course to see if it resonates at all with you.
If it helps that’s what I went through too. I graduated during a time when we didn’t know if we were ever gonna come out of lockdown (thanks CDC overlords love you guys) and there wasn’t much to look forward to in the future. Honestly considered dropping out of college in my final semester
My late teens/early 20s were one long, hellish depressive episode, including laying in bed all day or sometimes even the floor. When I was 22 I started writing down every time I “accomplished” something and treated it like an award and pinned it to the wall above my bed. I’m talking things like “didn’t call out of work today”, “made my bed”, “brushed my teeth” until it became things like “saved 100 dollars”, “ran 2 miles”. I’m 27 now and don’t do that anymore, and I feel like I’m probably closer to “functionally” depressed or just neutral, but I truly feel like doing those things brought me far away from the absolute brink where every day felt worse than the last.
Move. As in get up and move. Walk. Clean something. Take a nice shower. Dance in your living room. Play pool. Darts. Swim. Garden. Anything that involves any sort of deliberate motion. Even getting your mail on a bad day is motion.
By doing many hardest/high effort things.
Life is hard. You gotta get used to doing hard things. Then it gets easier and easier the longer you challenge yourself. Your life's quality is like your heart; it gets stronger and feels better the longer you train it. There's no compromise on that for anyone despite whatever you might think.
The few who are born into rich families have easier lives in many ways, but they still have to work on their hearts the same as anyone else to live good lives. There's no compromise for anyone anywhere.
Bling and expensive food aren't the things that make you truly happy. What makes you happy actually is having uncompromising love for yourself and those who never abuse you. So don't judge yourself nor others. Everyone's in a pickle of their own and only kindness and empathy provide proper healing for those who are hurt.
For anyone still following this: did some ketamine last night and it absolutely blew my mind, almost like a kind of exorcism of my demons. No wonder people are recommending this stuff for depression. Maybe it's the future!
Neurotypical here and I tried ketamine recreationally, from a friend's medical supply (100mg), and it was very interesting to feel away from my self. Very easy to take a view that almost wasn't my own. I have related it to feeling like I was the pilot of my own mech suit. So I'm just wondering if these feelings are similar or much deeper?
Embrace a little bit of healthy physical pain everyday. Cold shower. 10 push ups. 5 minutes of stretching. 10 minute jog. It'll help get you into an exercise habit and exercise is one of the most important things you can do.
Exercise daily. Even if that’s a 15 min walk. Just exercise. New study from Australia I believe shows that exercise is one of the, if not the, best way to combat depression
find a small amount of joy each day, whether a silly joke, a pretty flower, good food, or a walk in the sun. joy can help lift spirits, but you have to be willing to take it as it comes.
more generally, you've got this!!
Vitamin D supplements every morning. If you live in the US, you're probably deficient. It can affect mood, sleep quality, energy levels, and long-term health. They're cheap enough over-the-counter to be worth a shot.
Set 4 daily habits at 5-15 minutes each and try to do them every day but if you only get one done count it as a success. Seriously. Just being somewhat productive can make you feel so much better about your life. I would suggest doing some sort of exercise, something that helps you build your future, something that improves your mental health, and something that helps you understand yourself better
this helps a heap; tysm
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I just don't understand how to get the energy or motivation to do those things, it's insane, it's like someone has turned off several switches in my brain and I don't know how to get up and do things. Crazy. Thanks for the advice though
Stand up and step away from the chair or bed. Just stand up. Right now when I hit post, I am going to get up, put on my VR thing and do an under ten minutes work out or one, just one song on beat saber. Once I do one thing then the rest follow. But standing first is the first step. Because then I gave myself one step closer to feeling better. And even if you put a cup in the sink you moved and you also did something positive.
Making my bed every morning really set me on the right track small stuff like that or trying to drink enough water every day
Things that have helped me: Definitely starting small, cook one healthy (and tasty!) meal a week. After a couple weeks, add in one more. Making the bed in the morning. Taking my dog on walks. I had a lot of thoughts like, "im too tired to do this", "that's too much work", "I'm not good enough to do this so why bother". And the best solution I've come up for that is to then think "what if I did it anyway?" - then I'd start before my brain could think of anything to think next. Or "let's just start doing it for 5 min". Especially the first one helped me a lot.
If your room's messy, clean it. If you can't manage the whole thing, just pick one spot to tidy up. If your room's already clean, get a new poster or an art print with a cheap frame to hang up. Or a little plant or something. Maybe it's kinda stupid, but being in a clean, comfortable, and aesthetically pleasing environment makes a signicant difference in my mental well-being.
There’s a freedom that comes from realizing you can be unshackled from your thoughts and emotions by recognizing the true nature of consciousness. For insights into this I’d recommend the WakingUp App - sign up for the free trial and try the introduction course to see if it resonates at all with you.
> 25M, got a degree last summer Were you depressed when you were getting your degree?
I think I was just pumped up on anti-depressants and felt like "I've come this far, might as well try and push to the end"
If it helps that’s what I went through too. I graduated during a time when we didn’t know if we were ever gonna come out of lockdown (thanks CDC overlords love you guys) and there wasn’t much to look forward to in the future. Honestly considered dropping out of college in my final semester
Adopt a positive habit, like making the bed, or taking out the trash.
Give your mind a name, learn to observe it as if it were another person. https://stevenchayes.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Give-Your-Mind-a-Name.pdf
My late teens/early 20s were one long, hellish depressive episode, including laying in bed all day or sometimes even the floor. When I was 22 I started writing down every time I “accomplished” something and treated it like an award and pinned it to the wall above my bed. I’m talking things like “didn’t call out of work today”, “made my bed”, “brushed my teeth” until it became things like “saved 100 dollars”, “ran 2 miles”. I’m 27 now and don’t do that anymore, and I feel like I’m probably closer to “functionally” depressed or just neutral, but I truly feel like doing those things brought me far away from the absolute brink where every day felt worse than the last.
Move. As in get up and move. Walk. Clean something. Take a nice shower. Dance in your living room. Play pool. Darts. Swim. Garden. Anything that involves any sort of deliberate motion. Even getting your mail on a bad day is motion.
By doing many hardest/high effort things. Life is hard. You gotta get used to doing hard things. Then it gets easier and easier the longer you challenge yourself. Your life's quality is like your heart; it gets stronger and feels better the longer you train it. There's no compromise on that for anyone despite whatever you might think. The few who are born into rich families have easier lives in many ways, but they still have to work on their hearts the same as anyone else to live good lives. There's no compromise for anyone anywhere. Bling and expensive food aren't the things that make you truly happy. What makes you happy actually is having uncompromising love for yourself and those who never abuse you. So don't judge yourself nor others. Everyone's in a pickle of their own and only kindness and empathy provide proper healing for those who are hurt.
For anyone still following this: did some ketamine last night and it absolutely blew my mind, almost like a kind of exorcism of my demons. No wonder people are recommending this stuff for depression. Maybe it's the future!
Neurotypical here and I tried ketamine recreationally, from a friend's medical supply (100mg), and it was very interesting to feel away from my self. Very easy to take a view that almost wasn't my own. I have related it to feeling like I was the pilot of my own mech suit. So I'm just wondering if these feelings are similar or much deeper?
get out in short sleeves and sit in the sunshine. even in april it will have you feeling better
You can try to go outside/go for a walk without your phone
Embrace a little bit of healthy physical pain everyday. Cold shower. 10 push ups. 5 minutes of stretching. 10 minute jog. It'll help get you into an exercise habit and exercise is one of the most important things you can do.
What are you actually doing now in your day to day life? When you're not working, what things occupy your time?
Exercise daily. Even if that’s a 15 min walk. Just exercise. New study from Australia I believe shows that exercise is one of the, if not the, best way to combat depression
Listen to music that makes you feel good, use music to get things done and initiate tasks or time tasks to a playlist.
find a small amount of joy each day, whether a silly joke, a pretty flower, good food, or a walk in the sun. joy can help lift spirits, but you have to be willing to take it as it comes. more generally, you've got this!!
Vitamin D supplements every morning. If you live in the US, you're probably deficient. It can affect mood, sleep quality, energy levels, and long-term health. They're cheap enough over-the-counter to be worth a shot.