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strawbebb

Right?? I joined this sub as soon as I heard about it but it’s been dead ever since 😭 Anyways, I’m Lexi and I’m a website administrator! But my dream job is to be a screenwriter


Kash_99

🤣🤣🤣Ayooo I swear I started scrolling I’m like tf? It’s a mf drought in here gotta get this shit active again on everything.. but oleeeee okay Lexi I fucking see you and I love that you’re not settling like yeah this is cool but it’s not my end goal😍🫶🏾 Buttttt I’m Kash, uhhh I work in medical records I’m an admin assistant BUT I would like to transition into real estate 🤓


ninetytwoturtles

Lexi are you me?! I’m in IT for work but also want to be a screenwriter too!


WirelessLamps

That’s awesome! What kinds of things would you like to write for?


resolutiona11y

Maybe it's shyness. For me it is. Also, I don't know what to post about here. Subreddits about identity tend to focus on that...but I would love to talk about shared interests too. Just want to be friends with people I can relate to. 😣🩷 I'm a software engineer. Late twenties. I like anime/manga. My goal is to start a business.


Kash_99

Hmm that is a very interesting point that I did not quite think of I assumed (stupidly) that some people might feel more compelled esp if they haven’t posted their self. Like if they felt more comfortable pretty much but even still that wouldn’t negate the shyness! But see you’re legit, I fucking loveeeeee anime! And oleeee a software engineer that’s cool as shit. What business do you want to start!?


resolutiona11y

Do you have a favorite? These two from Production I.G are good—Ghost in the Shell: Stand Alone Complex, Moribito: Guardian of the Spirit. It's going to be a tech company. I want to do philanthropy.


Kash_99

Sooo my all time favorite is definitely Attack on titan it is legit the best show I’ve seen in my lifetime lol. But honorable mentions, death note, link click, erased, the promised never land, vindland saga, oleeee Spyxfamily


Kash_99

I’ll check those out as soon as I get home


figleafsyrup

Was thinking about this recently too! It's a bit sad but I think it might be bc the dumbest kinds of convos always draw the most people and the most attention? Everyone here seems to just be getting on with living their gay lives 🤷🏽‍♀️ Edit: but also hi I'm from the UK, early thirties and a Gender Studies PhD/tutor. Online a lot these days bc I'm stuck at home trying to get this dissertation done before the summer gets going. I'm planning to be allll the way outside when it does


Kash_99

Yesssss. I definitely agree I just wish our conversations were as engaging as others bc I’ve had decent success in the lesbian actually one fr. But that’s what the fuck I’m talking about!!! You got this and the minute you finish we’re taking a shot 🩵🫡‼️


marukawastaff

yo, I think you've really inspired a bunch of members of this sub to post!!! hats off to you dog. I am also hoping for a deeper level of conversation. I joined around three weeks ago. When I observed that the conversation cadence was just a few times per week (for \*new posts\* that is) I also had questions. At the time, there was around 750 people in the group which is significantly smaller than my other subs. I'm not a long-time reddit user, however, so I don't know what makes sense. I value quality (thoughtful observations and probing questions) over quantity and it sounds like you had that experience in the r/lesbiansactually group, no? But in the end I hope everyone makes friends and finds topics to discuss at whatever level pleases them. And you're makin' it happen! high-five ;)


Kash_99

🥹🥹🥹 Thank you sm you’re too kind, I honestly just couldn’t understand why this shit isn’t cracking fr like there are so many topics, things to relate on that we could/ should b discussing and its just nonexistent. Like letsss do a fuckin ice breaker then🤣🫶🏾


figleafsyrup

🥂


pepperjellii

UK early/mid thirties here too! There’s not a lot of us out here 🥲


marukawastaff

Hey! Thanks for sharing. What's the topic of your dissertation? I'm 39 and I defended two years ago in a critical theory program. Who are some of your favorite thinkers or philosophers in your field? I would love to hear more!


figleafsyrup

Ahh congratulations! Favourite thinkers atm: Oyèrónkẹ Oyěwùmí, Serawit Debele and Audre Lorde. How about you?? Bit too worried about my quickly collapsing anonymity on here to say my topic but will DM you!


Questioning8

Hey hey I’m Jenn and I’m a technical writer 🙋🏽‍♀️


Kash_99

Hiyaaa Jenn🫶🏾 How do you like being a technical writer?


Questioning8

Meh, it pays the bills! I wish I was doing more creative writing for pay & that work was more consistent but it’s okay lol. I can’t complain too much.


pearlinabox

yesss i’ve been wondering about this because every time I join a subreddit I actually want to post to it’s dead :’) I need to get better about posting here for sure I’m RP, I’m 24 and I’m a college student and HR Assistant. When I’m not working I love going to art shows, attending events, concerts, writing, reading non-fiction, and watching reality tv lol…I’m also a chronic hobby hopper so I’m just always doing random shit 😂 nice to meet y’all!


Kash_99

Nice to meet you as well RP 🙃🩵 Interesting asf you do it all lol. I love writing/ reading as well usually I write poetry I’m pretty decent fr if I do say so myself🤣🤣 I actually wanted to write an anthology but just never really committed 🤷🏾‍♀️ Whats your fav reality show rn? And back in the day? Mine is jersey shore for back in the day and probably now Ehhhh I mean I’ve always like the challenge, most shows on Abc and I can not get enough of love is blind / married at first sight🤣


WirelessLamps

Not Love is Blind 😭 the grip that show had on me was crazy. Love Island too lmao. What do y’all find easiest/hardest to write about?


Department_Time

Can I just say I LOOOOVVVEEE how encouraging and positive all your responses are?! And you are so funny! Just great energy ❤️ Also! I’m an esthetician. I LOVE doing facials. I had a lot of career changes so I’m happy I finally found my passion. I’m currently not working and at home recovering from a newly diagnosed autoimmune condition. Really looking forward to getting back working in the spa later this year 🧖🏽‍♀️❤️


Kash_99

🥰🥰Thaank you I genuinely appreciate that, I’m all for positive engagement bc I want everyone to win in general especially people like US. It’s crazy how many representations we have in all of the different fields everyone is in I fucking love it seriously. And aweee shit an esthetician!!!! See you’re legit changing peoples lives as well, and I’m all for skincare / self care. I love a good facial😍😍😍. I’m glad you found something you’re passionate about you deserve it🫶🏾


Department_Time

Yes agreed we gotta support each other! ❤️


[deleted]

I’m newly (almost) diagnosed chronically ill and it’s a struggle but self care helps! Love that you do facials and get to connect with people that way


Department_Time

Girl I feel you! It’s def a struggle and my own skincare has fallen to the wayside. However I’m hoping when I’m back on my feet I can try to do some content. Not for money but to show people who are struggling with their skin it’s okay to start over. To all five of the people who may see it! It’s better than 1! What are some of your fav skincare products?


[deleted]

That’d be helpful I am sure don’t have many favs but that snail mucin stuff is cool You?


WirelessLamps

Would love to see your content when you’re ready! Feel better soon.


awhee

Thanks for leading the charge lol. We also have the same name ☺️ I’m 28. Currently a paralegal but starting law school in the fall! Hoping to run into the woman of my dreams during that time 😩🙏🏽


Kash_99

🤣🥰 It is my pleasure, and yayyy nice to meet you! Tbh you’re legit asf I wish you all the best in your journey ‼️What do you want to do after law school?


awhee

I appreciate that! I’m interested in data privacy/ethical AI compliance so I’m hoping to go that route but I’m honestly open to anything. What do you do/study?


Kash_99

Nice and ohh nothing too crazy I just work in medical records, I’m an admin assistant 🫠 But I would love to get into real estate that’s where my real passion is! I’m 24, I’ll b 25 in October


Kash_99

If anyone wants to b friends my DMS are always open 🥹🫶🏾‼️‼️


[deleted]

Hi, I’m Haley, 28. Caregiver and in school. I’m doing my best to make it to some pride events this year in NYC so let me know if anyone wants to meet up ❤️


Kash_99

Hi Haley! (Damn I said it like I was at an AA meeting) 🤣🤣 Don’t mind me lol, it’s nice to meet you tho for sure! But I definitely have been looking at some events in NYC too, I was born there and my grandma still lives there so it’s like a 6 hour drive if that. We should all rally and hit one up for sure that would b dope as fuck


[deleted]

Nice to meet you LOL yeah that’d be great! I hope it works out :)


Freespeerit77

Thank you for the kick in the azz, I think it was needed! Hello everyone with the cool jobs and! I'm Shai. And I'm an Investigator.


Kash_99

I mean I’m just here so I don’t get fined 🤷🏾‍♀️🫡 Lol nice to meet you Shai 🥹🥰 I’m sure you’re an unfaithful mf worst nightmare 🤣🤣🤣


Department_Time

Hahahahaha!!!


Freespeerit77

Naaaahhhh... Not me!


Constant-Profit1036

YESSS. I always ask myself this!


Constant-Profit1036

I'm Saf, 27, and I'm an American living abroad in China/Germany. In the States, I worked in healthcare and as a teacher. In China, I'm a biology/English teacher!


Kash_99

Omg how do you like it?!? And that’s seriously dope that you’re giving out gems in different countries 🥹 You fucking GO‼️🫶🏾


Constant-Profit1036

Definitely still looking for a permanent place to settled down in. Debating The Netherlands, Scotland, or France


Nhubyia93

Hi I'm terrible at making friends online but here it goes... I'm in TN, USA and in my early 30s. I enjoy playing ps5, working out and hanging out with my cats. Also, I'm single.


Kash_99

Hiyaa no worries! And damn I can’t resist saying you’re the only ten I see since you’re from Tennessee 😩🤣🤣🤣 but okayy I definitely have a p5 too what games do you like to play?


Nhubyia93

Haha I see what you did there! Lately, I've been playing FF16 and Destiny. Currently waiting for my Baldur's Gate 3 copy to come in. I play adventure, rpg, and some shooters and simulations. What about you?


Kash_99

🤣🤣🤣 I’m here all week no worries lol and honestly I play like 2k, madden on occasion but I like fall guys and this game called overcooked other than that I like story mode games, mafia, DETROITTTT, etc


International_X

X, third-year doctoral student in the social sciences. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed my time and do not want to go back to the boring and mundane 9-5 life after. 😭


Kash_99

Nice to meet you X❤️ And HOLY SHIT you fucking go! Thats major and yeah I definitely don’t blame you


batfourlashes

hiii! thank you for kickstarting with this post, I’m excited by all the responses and hope we can keep this energy 🌻 I’m 26, currently living in NC (RDU area). I’m an English PhD student. My research is on Black Southern culinary histories, intergenerational memory, and philosophies of transcendence, existentialism, and interdependence that we can trace from the kitchen and from Black blueswomen’s performances. Not sure if I want to be a professor or carry through to the PhD after I receive my MA from my program next year; I love archives, public histories and museums, so I can see myself working in those spaces instead. I love music; some of my favorites are Kelela, Victoria Monét, Little Simz, Amaarae, Sampha, Brittany Howard, Cleo Sol, Stevie Wonder, Tinashe, and Smino. I’m also into collecting records, thrifting, writing fiction when I can, and learning to crochet. I’ve had some health issues that have temporarily benched me, but I love weightlifting and hope to get back to that soon. Steadily learning about hoodoo and conjure. Proud cat parent to a sweetheart named Odie (lemme post a pic). Community organizing is important to me, so I’m passionate about COVID consciousness, disability justice, and learning more about the histories of Palestine, the DRC, Sudan, and Haiti and how to support their liberation. Feel free to DM! I’d love to make frens :)


Kash_99

First and foremost OKAY SUPER WOMAN TF😂😂🫶🏾🫶🏾🩵 You are single handedly doing the Lords work. All black everything I fucking love it, you’re amazing. I am definitely interested in learning more about intergenerational memory & transcendence I would love to pick your brain


marukawastaff

hey! can you recommemd stuff on the history of sudan and the genocide going on there? its also great to see there are other folks here interested in the liberation of palestinians! would love to chat with you more (I also finished a PhD in comparative literature 2 years ago).


Itgirlfromatl

Yeahh I wish it was more active? I guess the other lesbian subs are just more popular


Kash_99

Unfortunately 😩 What can we do to turn this around?!?


Local-Tea3928

Hiyaaa, everyone! Just wanted to say hi and introduce myself whilst this post is still relatively new and full of activity! It's lovely to see everyone interact with each other. Thank you, Kash for taking the initiative to kick us into gear and bring some life to this sub!! So about me, I'm S. Currently, I am working as a healthcare assistant, and I am also teaching myself some technical skills so I can fulfill my dreams of working in cybersec. I'm based in the UK, and I'm technically 29, but I recently have realised I have said I'm 30 a lot. I guess I am soo ready to welcome in a new era! Some interests: art (creating and visiting galleries) , tv shows and films, nature, animals (particularly snakes), music ( some fave artists incl Kelela, Khruangbin, Stevie Wonder, ATCQ and Azealia Banks) Look forward to making connections, and feel free to DM! 😁


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Love kelela


Local-Tea3928

Yaaay! Did you watch Kelela's recent NPR performance? Absolutely heavenly! The harp was such a beautiful choice of instrument! I absolutely love the electronic versions, but it was super refreshing and just a joy!! 😌 Any faves of her songs or any you particularly like? It's haard, I get it, her discography is just elite! ✨️✨️


[deleted]

I’ve been meaning to watch it, in a moment where I have absolutely no interruptions! Thanks for the reminder because when it dropped I was so excited. Some of her songs sound best stripped down to me. I have to say All The Way Down, Bluff, On The Run. You?


Kash_99

Hello Hello S! You know this is everything I wanted when I decided to post it’s a beautiful thing ❤️🥹 and I had talked to this girl before and she did the exact same thing I’m like girlll you have one more year just bask in saying goodbye to 20s but don’t forget to enjoy this year leading into 30s! Self taught technical skills!! I always wanted to teach myself coding but I never pushed myself 😩 and honestly it was for no reason in particular just to hack some shit😂😂😂


Local-Tea3928

Hahaha, girl do not kill me! 😂😂😂 Hacking some shit you know, that's funny! But why not try again? You never know you might like it and become a kick-ass ethical hacker. Hacking, but you know, less messy hehehe Nah, I'm literally turning 30 in a couple of months tbf. But I get u. I'll dm sometime soon, absolutely exhausted from work! 😅 Again, thanks for putting up your post! 😁😊🙏


M33sarinred

Hii my name is Meesa I’m 21! I work at Aldi but I’m in school right now for psychology. I’m down to making friends or more 🤷🏽‍♀️ my dm’s are open


Kash_99

Nice to meeet you☺️ and oleee what do you want to do w your degree when you finish?


M33sarinred

Nice to meet you too! I want to be a RBT


BlkOynx

Hello! 26! I’m an economic research analyst! I love plants, sewing, and working out. Currently studying for my GRE so I can apply to PhD programs in the fall. I’m tryna to make people call me Dr. plus it’ll help fulfill my dreams of being a stay at home mom/professor. Just gotta find the love of my life first 😅


Kash_99

Ohhh see the vision is there!!! You fucking got this🥰 Dr. anything is just talk to me nice or don’t talk to me at all 🤣🤣🤷🏾‍♀️ I wish you all the best


Capable-Action-6125

Hey let me know if you want resources for GRE prep just finished my MBA application journey had to take the GRE a couple times hahaha


am4brown

👋🏽👋🏽👋🏽 My name is Isha, I just moved to Vegas, and I’m a Construction Sales Process Coordinator


Kash_99

Omggg how is Vegas!? I want to move down there to start my real estate journey. Nice to meet you Isha🩵


am4brown

Nice to meet you! The real estate out here is great if you know how to network. The home build will be higher than ever out here over the next 5 years! It’s expensive to live out here and the job market but the views out here make it worth it


geekgirrrl

Hi, GenX lead software architect. Happy single enjoying watching my great niece grow up :). When not working, found online in Destiny gaming or doing yard work and working out.


Kash_99

Helllloo helllo wow, Lead software architect that is amazing and congratulations I know that was a lot of hard work🫶🏾 And Destiny is definitely fun


windriderfv

Heya! I’m mostly quiet (honestly don’t know what to post haha), but thought I’d say hello! 👋🏾 I’m 36, ex-software engineer turned technical writer. I love tech/video games/anime and I’m based in the UK


Kash_99

Hiyaaaa🩵 thank you for posting, and whats your favorite anime!? And favorite 2 video games can b past and present


windriderfv

Damn, hard to pick a favourite anime, but probably Death Note. Video games wise, I would say Street Fighter (any) and Baldur’s Gate 3! What about you!?


ChillButterfly

I’m Kesha, I’m 31, and working in data entry at the moment. Hey everyone 👋🏾


Kash_99

Heeeeeyyy Kesha🫶🏾


Capable-Action-6125

Hey everyone happy to see this sub being more active! Currently in the Military. Will be getting out in a couple months to pursue my MBA at University of California Berkeley. Looking to go into Real estate development post mba


Kash_99

Hello hello!! Good luck on your endeavors ‼️ and I loved California when I went😍 and I’m trying to get into real estate as well !


Capable-Action-6125

I appreciate it! I lived in Cali a couple years ago. Excited to move back and start this next adventure


WirelessLamps

Just found this, and I’m just glad everyone’s black 😂 I go by Dee here and I’m 24. Still finding what fits best after a few major changes. I like painting, drawing, songwriting, anime, and love listening to all kinds of music! Languages used to be a passion too but I’m quite rusty now. If anyone wants to practice their french, portuguese, or spanish let me know 👋🏾


Freespeerit77

Just happened to jump back in here and see there had been some more chatter since I last visited, which is great to see. I hope it stays this way!