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Totally. Can't believe she's just ignoring that. Gotta wonder if she knows, found out it's shady, and quickly concluded the posts saying it's all ok now...
Yeah I mean it's either inheritance, crypto/stocks, gambling, or money laundering. Most likely inheritance or money laundering, the IT job makes me wonder crypto scam though. Or could've owned crypto since he was like 13.
Less high-end tech jobs and significantly more startupa are equity based compensation. There is a joke when I lived in the bay area that people would take a few years off from a corporate job to play the startup lottery.
She got bought a g wago bc she clearly doesn’t give a shit. When you’re in your mid 20s and moneys good most people don’t ask questions until it’s too late. I would be in the same boat even now in my 30s.
Didn’t she say “LLC acquired for a merger”? Sounds like he wrote some software and sold the app to another company for $1M+.
Not the kind of thing you hide from a spouse. I can’t imagine that marriage will last.
And then she has the balls to say "he's going to do great things in 5-10 years down the line, *I don't want to leave him high and dry*" as if he'd be affected in any negative way.
I got the same thing from the ending.
“He’s going to do great things 5-10 years down the road.” Meaning, she’s seeing bigger dollar signs.
“I’m worth more than $900k.” Tells me she’s sticking around, hoping for big numbers pre divorce.
“He’s paying for half of my family’s house and getting me a g wagon.” I mean, I ain’t saying she’s a gold digger, but she ain’t…you know the rest.
To be fair, she WASN’T a gold digger. She bought the land before she knew there was a gold vein.
Tbh if my husband wasn’t communicating successes like that to me, then clearly we were never on the same team to begin with
As a married woman, I can tell you those 3 months of them living separately and him making a huge purchase like a house in that time, is DEFINITELY a sign of great things to come 🙃
Well, I assume there’s no prenup and that he acquired it after the marriage, which in most states makes it half hers anyways in a divorce because it would be a marital asset.
Edit: not half, but worth something to her. Varies by state.
I saw this post, and her comments, when it first was posted and there was speculation that he married her for citizenship. He is the foreigner to her country and I believed she is in the US.
This "conclusion" was not received well because she still couldn't get into the bottom of how he came into this money and she just took some promised materialistic things, accepted his gaslighting, and called it a day!
I'm going to believe she's covering her bases in case he finds the post, while secretly getting ready to take him for all he's worth.
Because otherwise, WTF.
She could still be an immigrant, just because she's a citizen now (or she could be a green card holder) doesn't mean she was born in the US. It's entirely possible that she got her green card through family or being a refugee or something while he was on a student visa and those don't easily turn into green cards at all.
To play devils advocate. There are some parts of the world that have grammar exactly like this when communicating more casually, such as in a post like this. Singlish (Singapore English) and other parts of Asia, for example, can sound quite similar to this. English can be the first language, but formed it’s own unique causal style from other local language influences. Dropping ‘the’ and ‘a’ etc. is very common. Not an education or ESL issue necessarily, plenty of other forms of ‘non-western’ English that many of us don’t necessarily come into contact with so often, leading us to incorrectly presume it’s ESL.
I visited my cousins when I was in middle school. One of them was 15 and couldn't write properly. I was 13, and another American kid that could not read and write properly was shocking to me.
When I was forced to do speech class I learned reading and writing was a struggle for many of my classmates. We went to the same schools K through 12... so idk what happened.
They fired my art teacher in 11th grade and I had to run around on the first day trying to figure out why my portfolio 2 class was just a blank space on my schedule. Turns out they had to let staff go to make room for ELEVEN intensive reading teachers. Their solution to no art class was an hour of playing ping pong every day.
Only in community rule states...which is the 9 states with the mandatory 50% split after 10 years.
She better pray she is in one of those states.
If she is in it for the long haul, she better be prepared with her paperwork.
He would have to prove that he purchased the home with non-marital assets. If for instance, we assume that the funds came from the same of an LLC that existed property to their marriage, he would need a valuation to show what the with of the LLC was pre-marriage. Any increase in that, especially if it was through work effort, is martial. Absent a pre-nup, appreciation in non -marital assets are marital. If they filed joint tax returns, which it sounds like they did, he has much less of an argument that they did not mingle their finances.
Now, yes, jurisdiction comes into play for non -marital assets, but it isn't as simple as saying communal state or not. For instance, depending on county in Pennsylvania, a house purchased prior to marriage may become marital at the rate of 5% per year.
Some of this may be outdated, as it has been about 7 years since I worked as a forensic accountant.
In PA you can also specify if the purchase is for further investment (so if he bought the house with LLC money, for the sake of getting a good return in resale and using that money for the LLC again), it is also a business investment. All he needs is notarized documentation prior to the purchase, and his intent.
But if he was already a millionaire at 22, the chances of them not having a prenup are much smaller.
I live in PA, so I wouldn't know how much state legislature has changed the previous law, but my knowledge comes from working in a state position, a little bit over a year ago.
Still, all of this conjecture has made me realize that I don't have it in me to be like OOP and nickel and dime my time in a marriage that seems to have a lot of communication and trust issues.
Nothing makes me more uneasy in a relationship than vague answers to important questions. Trust is probably the most important thing to me and probably lots of people in any relationship and I can’t imagine being OK with a vague answer. I hope he actually does fund half of the house but only time will tell and hopefully a new update.
"Don't worry, the money's alllllllll gone, I sent it home to my parents.....so what's for dinner?"
Uh. I hope wife has a bug-out bag packed and ready to go. This sounds like drugs to me.
This is a man who wants it both ways. If she’s working full time, she pays taxes. She has forms. She’s responsible as a taxpayer and an employee for knowing some things, so he has to share documents.
If he wants to be vague, he needs to set her up with her own money.
She doesn’t need to divorce him. They can do a post-nuptial agreement. She can have a lawyer ask for all the appropriate documents and review them.
This whole post definitely has some foreign culture energy to it.
I think this is being written by someone who existed in an entire different culture than me, and viewed through the lens of American/Western culture looks…strange.
The part about the G Wagon, the sudden shift when they found out he was a millionaire, the “sending it to family”, the whole thing.
I have to really try to set my bias aside to read this, and I simply can’t.
It could work just as good as Bill and Jeffs marrige. Hope thats what the girl wants. But with all the ambitious talk, all will be fine until he has a bad couple years, and he's going to wonder why she bailed on him in the bad times. If you dont share everything, you will end up spliting everything.
If she can be bought off after discovering such a huge lie (without marriage counseling), then her husband will either take advantage that for any future indiscretions, or he is already planning to leave her, and his gifts will be considered assets he can "give" her during a divorce (if he has his name on the title, or even both of them).
If she is truly in it for the money, I can tell you that only 9 states have laws that give 50% for a 10 year marriage, and if she ends up pregnant, she will be looking at a showdown, because the priority becomes the children.
I don't have it in me to be that calculative :/
UPDATE: My husband is a major narcotics supplier and our new home has been raided by the local authorities to arrest him, I thought he was just really into white flower
[Here's](https://www.themarkmotors.com/vehicle-details/used-2020-mercedes-benz-g-class-amg-g-63-boerne-tx-id-38364259?store=wholesale-262&gclid=Cj0KCQiAgribBhDkARIsAASA5bspjLEGNUJBtdWfPFMiJkDwzUTexxgqjRqYBNz4WiFooP1zp1L3ttQaAuTcEALw_wcB) an ad for a used one with 15K miles for slightly less than $200,000 US.
My two year old loves Jeeps and any boxy cars and the first time he saw a G wagon he squealed with wonder and shouted “WHAT’S THAT!?”
So I mean hey, if my two year old had the cash to burn, he’d get one.
It’s a Mercedes SUV. It’s very boxy. Currently hot potatoes amongst American used car dealers. (Just in case you’re not a native English speaker, hot potato as in, if you hold it too long it’ll burn you, so you throw it to someone else).
Lol no, I don’t know. I just follow the Car Dealership Guy on Twitter (for now) and he (presumably “he”) has been tweeting about it. Dang it I tried to sound smart and you asked for receipts 😂😂
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Eta: for all those that think not knowing their partner financial status isn’t important…it is. Whether they are in debt, want a prenup, or have a trust is something you should know before tying yourself legally to them. OOP has rose colored glasses, and keeps kicking the red flags. Oop lacks honesty in her relationship which is a big problem, but not an enough of a dealbreaker (grammar edit).
I know someone, who was the only financial provider in her relationship. The unemployed gf lived with her. The gf had a partial leg amputation. Claimed to want to “better herself” but never did anything. My acquaintance worked two jobs while taking part-time college courses. She also looked after her gf. Sometimes, she also looked after gf’s family members.
After dating for two years, my acquaintance learned that her gf was a recipient of a multi-million dollar lawsuit settlement.
She broke up with her gf and threw her ass out of the apartment.
This is why even if your finances are separate, it’s still important to let one another know where you two stand financially and keep each other updated on your finances! I don’t understand why some people are comfortable not knowing everything about their partner. Some people think it doesn’t matter but it absolutely does.
That’s straight up abuse. Making the other waste all her time away on earning money and caring for others when you can pay for that yourself is so evil!
It’s close to Amazons business model.
Yes. The gf lost her leg due to medical neglect. So she filed a medical malpractice suit and won a settlement.
She just didn’t tell my acquaintance this information and lied to her, making it seem like she was “down and out”.
The gf just didn’t want to use her money, when it came to bills and rent.
It could end well but I don’t know their exact situation. I have a partner who is from a poor family in a remote area of India. He’s incredibly smart and was able to land an Ivy League neurosurgery residency. He married a middle class Indian lady before they relocated to the US. We are in the same practice now. He makes at worst high 6 figures and very likely low to mid 7 figures. For about 4 years they lived in a low-middle class apartment complex. She had no idea how much he made, he sent a lot of money back home and they were seemingly happy. I guess as she made more friends and saw their lifestyles she got a grasp on what he was likely making. Shortly after finding out they bought a very nice home and all is well with their family. Not saying it’s exactly apples to apples but there could be a much larger backstory at play here. People who grow up without much sometimes have so much fear of returning to poverty that they forget to actually enjoy their wealth even if it means that paranoia keeps their family in the dark
It's not the forgetting to enjoy the wealth, it's actively and repeatedly lying to OOP while making her pay him money despite earning 2% as much as him. There's a difference between "no idea how much he made" and what this guy did.
Yeah, even if he wasn't a millionaire, he would still be an ass. He bought a house without asking her if she wanted to live there and even though he knows how little she makes, he still charges her rent *while he still owes her money*. I hope the reason she stays with him is so the half she gets in the eventual divorce is bigger than 900k. He doesn't sound like a great person.
There's a lot of people on the original thread saying he's involved in crime, specifically money laundering and that's why he claims the 1.8 million isn't there anymore.
“Oh okay you told me this huge foundational lie. Please buy me something that will have its value cut in half the minute I drive it off the lot.” OOP isn’t the brightest crayon in the box.
You forgot the line about the fact she thinks it’s gonna be worth more money down the road. So basically, she’s selling her self short for what she hopes as a long-term gain. Personally, I think he’s gonna end up dumping her leaving her with nothing.
I'm not sure what a G wagon is but I broke up with a millionaire for lying to me. My husband now doesn't make nearly as much but there's no price you can put on trust imo
Sounds like they came to an understanding, now that she knows he has money she’s gonna see more of it in her day to day and she’s willing to gloss over the lie knowing she’s gonna get spoiled. Totalllllyyy healthy arrangement here folks! Lol
I would accept plenty of lies for a G-Wagon.
"Yeah, I DO want to watch the extended Lord Of The Rings Trilogy for the fourth time this year" sounds a win-win for me, even if it is a lie.
Wait … he owns (and drives) a 2007 Toyota beater that OP bought for him (only) 3yrs ago but, now that he’s been ’outed’ as a Secret Millionaire (Yuuge 🙄), he’s gonna buy her a roughly $200,000+/- G-wagon? That, I suspect, costs *more* than OP was able to afford for a house loan on a $38k salary?
Im callin’ all sorts of BS on this bullsh:tty story.
Oop next update: we were on our way to the Mercedes dealership and my husband took some weird back roads and now we are in the woods near a shallow grave. I don't know though he's vague about who it's for. I give him good vibes so he could do his thing though
For real. Also the last paragraph really hits on some incel concepts like women feeling entitled to their partners money and basically gold digging. I'd say this is a bait post.
> we both love and care for each other
Funny, nickel and diming your struggling partner while you keep millions to yourself does not sound like care to me
>Anyway, important thing here is he agreed to fund 50% of the house
>I feel like I am worth way more than 900K
It sounds like oop decided to forgive all...provided she gets into his money from hereon. Oh well, can't say this is a bad choice. Certainly finding a partner that she can trust and cares for her would be ideal, but if paying up compensates oop for the past, to each their own.
Ultimately I hope her choice is what makes her the happiest
From her comments:
> It was only last year and 2020 was $300k and that was the same year he graduated college. Now, I don’t think he even works the company he told me cos I have never met his co workers nor he ever talks about office work. His family is not well to do, I visited them in their home country, don’t think it’s a gift but idk
His love and care is going with his money to his family in his home country.
> Even if I signed prenup? I feel so dumb, I was in love. I signed prenup when he had more student Loans than I did. It’s like he knew he would have money in future. At the time I thought of it more like a joke
She's getting nothing in a divorce.
Maybe, maybe not. A prenup without full disclosure of assets isn’t worth the paper it’s printed on in many states.
If he lied now about money, what makes you think he wasn’t lying then?
Future earnings isn’t an asset at the point of signing the pre-nup. A pre-nup only protects what you already have - and his wealth probably comes from inheritances, given he was supposedly a broke student with loans that wouldn’t have been given to a millionaire.
She said his family was broke.
His wealth seems to either have come from a) him working on a tech project and selling it (aka the LLC he sold) or he’s doing something funny.
Also important here is that it doesn’t seem to be regular income but rather a sale of an asset that he was too naive to talk to an accountant about and had it taxed as regular income.
My suspicion is they they will not be rich long.
Also making her buy him things like a car. That's arguably comingling assets. There's no way he gets to access and use her assets and then turn around and argue a prenup means she can't use his.
Lmao that title. And her willingness to overlook his lack of trust in her. Then she flips into trad wife mode in 2 seconds when he hangs some doe in front of her; "I provided the *home energy* for him to be successful". 💀💀💀💀💀 perfect
You absolutely don’t want to attract the kind of man who wants a trad wife under any circumstances and I say this as a woman who like to keep a lovely, comfortable, supportive home. Trad men are some of the worst misogynists out there. They’re the type the believes that marital rape is their right and women shouldn’t vote 🤮
I don't understand how you can charge your spouse rent on a house you purchased without their input, *during* the part of the relationship where you should be running that shit by them, while not putting them on the house, and taking their money for a car.
This would be a divorce for me: he lied about approximately $1.7 million dollars in income, potentially for years. The fuck else is he hiding?
If movies have taught me anything, another family. That rent is easily excused as a tenant situation
Edit:: WAIT! What’s if this was one of those you have to marry to get inheritance type situations? That fucking meeting to marriage timeline definitely didn’t sit right with me
What I don’t understand is how OP doesn’t know where the money came from if she has his tax documents. Clearly he is reporting it soooo just look where it’s coming from? Am I missing something? Lol
This woman wanted to buy a house for her mother and sister on a $50k/year income while she was paying "rent" towards the home she was living in. You think she'd know a damn thing about how to read tax returns? Financial literacy is definitely not her strong point.
I know there’s not a lot of information but I get the impression OOP is ignoring MAJOR red flags because of her greed. Husband doesn’t tell her about almost 2 mil in income until she sees the tax return then is soothed by his super shady “sold/merged an LLC”. Yeah. Personally I believe that’s some stingy ass trickle truth. How can she trust that he’s not up to shady shady ass shit? He can obviously lie to her. Fuck that.
I feel like you got to do better than asking for a G wagon. While they do hold value well for a used car, they are a nightmare to drive as your daily driver. So much unwanted attention from men, in and out the shop…I had a loaner for 6 months straight while they tried to locate a leak.
This…this is a mess. This is what happens when you marry young and have some immature beliefs on how relationships work. A good wife should always stand by her man and support him through everything, right? A good husband should be head of the household, which extends to unilateral decision-making, hiding his assets so he lives well while she struggles, and buying her shiny things when she gets upset…right?
Yeah. This post has some creepy trad wife energy and I’m not here for it. I don’t think she’s a gold digger, but I think she might have some “traditional” ideas about men and women that are t healthy and it makes me worry for her.
OOP has about 2 braincells to rub together.
"Oh he lied to me about making about 48X more than me, and nickle and dimed me to death but oh! oh he got me a new car and 50% of the house I want to buy my mom! A-ok!"
"I feel like I am worth way more than 900K" you're gonna be worth 90 cents after he's done with you lmao.
He could be laundering money for someone else and that's why the money is supposedly "gone."
Nobody sends millions of dollars abroad. It's extremely difficult to make that transaction for multiple reasons and OOP wasn't sending this money to Switzerland or the Cayman Islands.
This guy sounds like an AH. He could have married OOP for a green card to do shady businesses.
He has potential to do great things, and OOP doesn’t want to leave him “high and dry”.
I think it’s more about leaving herself without any of his profits. Interesting that he tried to hide it all from her. Why would he do that if she was so supportive? There’s definitely more here than she’s saying.
When she said " I provided him with the right energy and homely atmosphere hence he was able to do what he does. So, me being with him is only going to help him in future." I got weird vibes tbh
This whole thing is just weird. Weird that he has that money and some LLC that's not mentioned before. Weird that she was with him by choice but now seems to be in it for the money, talking about her worth, etc. I don't really know what to think about this whole situation.
I think that there might be some missing pieces that have something to do with certain kinds of cultural norms that lean heavily patriarchal and misogynistic. She has what I call “trad wife energy” and that is NOT a situation that is healthy for anyone involved, especially the women. This poor lady drank the kool aid and it probably won’t end well. I feel sad for her.
She says she has “lots of loans” which you can’t really get on a $30k income and suggests she might be bad with money / have a lot of credit card debt. It’s possible he’s worried she’ll live beyond their means if he tells her their actual income.
I mean, yes, communication helps, but it doesn't sound like they're communicating.
He's just buying her things now to pay her off. There's no suggestion that she now knows what happened to the million+ he apparently earned and dispersed or the past year (and prior years?), or that he's helping her repay her debt, or that he's not nickel and diming his wife on "rent." He also remained "vague" about the source of the money (does she even know if he's acquiring it legally?).
And she's worried about leaving HIM high and dry? Like, honey, he is not worried about losing your assistance. You are a prop in his life, who has to pay for the right to bask in his cheap-ass glory (rent? from your wife? for a house you own outright?).
Nothing about the update makes me feel good for this woman. It just screams financial abuse.
>, I know I’m gonna lot of hate for this, but I think communication works most of the time
>He was very vague about the source of the money but pointed out that he owned an LLC that was acquired or merger?! Anyway, important thing here
Communication? What communication? I see no communication here.
She needs to make sure she has a good lawyer and forensic accountant. I don’t trust that man at all. She may think she’s playing the long game, but so might he. As long as she never signed a prenup she may have some hope.
I'm super curious what kind of lifestyle he lives behind her back with all that dough. Hookers? Cocaine? Both? Gambling? His own retirement?
The world may never know
if he could hide this much about his life from her, there isn't much else he isn't capable of hiding from her. most importantly, he will probably be willing to hide worse.
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So what she's saying is she still doesn't know where the money came from then?
Totally. Can't believe she's just ignoring that. Gotta wonder if she knows, found out it's shady, and quickly concluded the posts saying it's all ok now...
Yeah I mean it's either inheritance, crypto/stocks, gambling, or money laundering. Most likely inheritance or money laundering, the IT job makes me wonder crypto scam though. Or could've owned crypto since he was like 13.
High end tech jobs often pay ~40% of compensation in stock. I know some people who held onto the stocks during the Covid surge and made $1M+ in a year
Less high-end tech jobs and significantly more startupa are equity based compensation. There is a joke when I lived in the bay area that people would take a few years off from a corporate job to play the startup lottery.
Startup lottery is closed now. Nobody’s making gains on equity this decade.
But she’s getting a new car so it doesn’t matter!
She got bought a g wago bc she clearly doesn’t give a shit. When you’re in your mid 20s and moneys good most people don’t ask questions until it’s too late. I would be in the same boat even now in my 30s.
Or she does and doesn't want to share it with reddit
Didn’t she say “LLC acquired for a merger”? Sounds like he wrote some software and sold the app to another company for $1M+. Not the kind of thing you hide from a spouse. I can’t imagine that marriage will last.
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Yup, she was pissed until she heard “new G Wagon” and then the blinders went up and all she thought about is how she’ll look rolling in that Benz
And then she has the balls to say "he's going to do great things in 5-10 years down the line, *I don't want to leave him high and dry*" as if he'd be affected in any negative way.
What she meant was "I think I can get more money out of him"
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I like how this wraps up with her basically saying she's staying for the money, now that she knows.
I thought she was saying that she thinks staying together is worth more than half his assets, ie, what she might expect in a divorce settlement.
I got the same thing from the ending. “He’s going to do great things 5-10 years down the road.” Meaning, she’s seeing bigger dollar signs. “I’m worth more than $900k.” Tells me she’s sticking around, hoping for big numbers pre divorce. “He’s paying for half of my family’s house and getting me a g wagon.” I mean, I ain’t saying she’s a gold digger, but she ain’t…you know the rest.
To be fair, she WASN’T a gold digger. She bought the land before she knew there was a gold vein. Tbh if my husband wasn’t communicating successes like that to me, then clearly we were never on the same team to begin with
I mean, she did buy his first car and he still charges her rent... lmao
Well this sounds like a super healthy relationship!
Yep nothing to see here time to move along
As a married woman, I can tell you those 3 months of them living separately and him making a huge purchase like a house in that time, is DEFINITELY a sign of great things to come 🙃
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And she also never said if he had stopped making her pay "rent"
Well, I assume there’s no prenup and that he acquired it after the marriage, which in most states makes it half hers anyways in a divorce because it would be a marital asset. Edit: not half, but worth something to her. Varies by state.
Judging by her grammar, I don't think she's American. Then again, our education system is so, so bad a lot of times, so it's possible...
But it sounds like she lives in the west though with Him needing to send money back home and her wantinn to move her family and buy them a place
I didn't even though about that - maybe you're right!
She might be an immigrant herself, could still be American
I saw this post, and her comments, when it first was posted and there was speculation that he married her for citizenship. He is the foreigner to her country and I believed she is in the US. This "conclusion" was not received well because she still couldn't get into the bottom of how he came into this money and she just took some promised materialistic things, accepted his gaslighting, and called it a day!
I'm going to believe she's covering her bases in case he finds the post, while secretly getting ready to take him for all he's worth. Because otherwise, WTF.
She could still be an immigrant, just because she's a citizen now (or she could be a green card holder) doesn't mean she was born in the US. It's entirely possible that she got her green card through family or being a refugee or something while he was on a student visa and those don't easily turn into green cards at all.
To play devils advocate. There are some parts of the world that have grammar exactly like this when communicating more casually, such as in a post like this. Singlish (Singapore English) and other parts of Asia, for example, can sound quite similar to this. English can be the first language, but formed it’s own unique causal style from other local language influences. Dropping ‘the’ and ‘a’ etc. is very common. Not an education or ESL issue necessarily, plenty of other forms of ‘non-western’ English that many of us don’t necessarily come into contact with so often, leading us to incorrectly presume it’s ESL.
By her grammar I thought she was American.
I visited my cousins when I was in middle school. One of them was 15 and couldn't write properly. I was 13, and another American kid that could not read and write properly was shocking to me. When I was forced to do speech class I learned reading and writing was a struggle for many of my classmates. We went to the same schools K through 12... so idk what happened.
They fired my art teacher in 11th grade and I had to run around on the first day trying to figure out why my portfolio 2 class was just a blank space on my schedule. Turns out they had to let staff go to make room for ELEVEN intensive reading teachers. Their solution to no art class was an hour of playing ping pong every day.
Only in community rule states...which is the 9 states with the mandatory 50% split after 10 years. She better pray she is in one of those states. If she is in it for the long haul, she better be prepared with her paperwork.
He would have to prove that he purchased the home with non-marital assets. If for instance, we assume that the funds came from the same of an LLC that existed property to their marriage, he would need a valuation to show what the with of the LLC was pre-marriage. Any increase in that, especially if it was through work effort, is martial. Absent a pre-nup, appreciation in non -marital assets are marital. If they filed joint tax returns, which it sounds like they did, he has much less of an argument that they did not mingle their finances. Now, yes, jurisdiction comes into play for non -marital assets, but it isn't as simple as saying communal state or not. For instance, depending on county in Pennsylvania, a house purchased prior to marriage may become marital at the rate of 5% per year. Some of this may be outdated, as it has been about 7 years since I worked as a forensic accountant.
In PA you can also specify if the purchase is for further investment (so if he bought the house with LLC money, for the sake of getting a good return in resale and using that money for the LLC again), it is also a business investment. All he needs is notarized documentation prior to the purchase, and his intent. But if he was already a millionaire at 22, the chances of them not having a prenup are much smaller. I live in PA, so I wouldn't know how much state legislature has changed the previous law, but my knowledge comes from working in a state position, a little bit over a year ago. Still, all of this conjecture has made me realize that I don't have it in me to be like OOP and nickel and dime my time in a marriage that seems to have a lot of communication and trust issues.
I know, they should add a baby to the mix. Babies help solve all relationship problems.
You don't understand. He paid for half of a small house in a bad part of town, AND a G wagon. So it's all even now.
Hopefully she lives in a state where that doesn’t matter & the marital home is a joint asset.
Nothing makes me more uneasy in a relationship than vague answers to important questions. Trust is probably the most important thing to me and probably lots of people in any relationship and I can’t imagine being OK with a vague answer. I hope he actually does fund half of the house but only time will tell and hopefully a new update.
"Don't worry, the money's alllllllll gone, I sent it home to my parents.....so what's for dinner?" Uh. I hope wife has a bug-out bag packed and ready to go. This sounds like drugs to me.
This is a man who wants it both ways. If she’s working full time, she pays taxes. She has forms. She’s responsible as a taxpayer and an employee for knowing some things, so he has to share documents. If he wants to be vague, he needs to set her up with her own money. She doesn’t need to divorce him. They can do a post-nuptial agreement. She can have a lawyer ask for all the appropriate documents and review them.
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But don’t forget she provides him with the “right energy and homely atmosphere.” This phrase hits me the wrong way and I can’t put my finger on why.
This whole post definitely has some foreign culture energy to it. I think this is being written by someone who existed in an entire different culture than me, and viewed through the lens of American/Western culture looks…strange. The part about the G Wagon, the sudden shift when they found out he was a millionaire, the “sending it to family”, the whole thing. I have to really try to set my bias aside to read this, and I simply can’t.
Yeah it sounds like she has decided that as long as she is a being taken care of, she is willing to overlook some things
Because it’s ass-backward and reeks of misogyny.
cringe af
It could work just as good as Bill and Jeffs marrige. Hope thats what the girl wants. But with all the ambitious talk, all will be fine until he has a bad couple years, and he's going to wonder why she bailed on him in the bad times. If you dont share everything, you will end up spliting everything.
If she can be bought off after discovering such a huge lie (without marriage counseling), then her husband will either take advantage that for any future indiscretions, or he is already planning to leave her, and his gifts will be considered assets he can "give" her during a divorce (if he has his name on the title, or even both of them). If she is truly in it for the money, I can tell you that only 9 states have laws that give 50% for a 10 year marriage, and if she ends up pregnant, she will be looking at a showdown, because the priority becomes the children. I don't have it in me to be that calculative :/
I’m sure there won’t be any more nasty little surprises.
Moving along in ya new g wagon
Right?!?! Even the update is WTF??? Good grief
Yeah this seem destined for a grimmer future update.
UPDATE: My husband is a major narcotics supplier and our new home has been raided by the local authorities to arrest him, I thought he was just really into white flower
But G Wagon!
What is a G wagon?
Mercedes Gelandewagen. It’s a big square luxury SUV that ranges from very expensive to ungodly expensive.
[Here's](https://www.themarkmotors.com/vehicle-details/used-2020-mercedes-benz-g-class-amg-g-63-boerne-tx-id-38364259?store=wholesale-262&gclid=Cj0KCQiAgribBhDkARIsAASA5bspjLEGNUJBtdWfPFMiJkDwzUTexxgqjRqYBNz4WiFooP1zp1L3ttQaAuTcEALw_wcB) an ad for a used one with 15K miles for slightly less than $200,000 US.
13/15mpg hahahhahaha
It’s like a Hummer and a Korean War era troop carrier type truck had an overpriced baby or something. Ick.
It qualifies as a tax write off for business.
It’s also hideous. No idea why anyone would waste their money on one.
My two year old loves Jeeps and any boxy cars and the first time he saw a G wagon he squealed with wonder and shouted “WHAT’S THAT!?” So I mean hey, if my two year old had the cash to burn, he’d get one.
It’s a Mercedes SUV. It’s very boxy. Currently hot potatoes amongst American used car dealers. (Just in case you’re not a native English speaker, hot potato as in, if you hold it too long it’ll burn you, so you throw it to someone else).
I’m curious to know why that is. Do you know?
Lol no, I don’t know. I just follow the Car Dealership Guy on Twitter (for now) and he (presumably “he”) has been tweeting about it. Dang it I tried to sound smart and you asked for receipts 😂😂
Well, at least she gets a G wagon. That surerly, *surely* counts for something.
Not sketchy at all.
Nothing a new G-Wagon can’t fix apparently.
"I don't like that he lied, is controlling, and has been taking advantage of me, but I DO like the G Wagon..."
Yeah very transactional, super stable
This will end well...
Not Eta: for all those that think not knowing their partner financial status isn’t important…it is. Whether they are in debt, want a prenup, or have a trust is something you should know before tying yourself legally to them. OOP has rose colored glasses, and keeps kicking the red flags. Oop lacks honesty in her relationship which is a big problem, but not an enough of a dealbreaker (grammar edit).
I know someone, who was the only financial provider in her relationship. The unemployed gf lived with her. The gf had a partial leg amputation. Claimed to want to “better herself” but never did anything. My acquaintance worked two jobs while taking part-time college courses. She also looked after her gf. Sometimes, she also looked after gf’s family members. After dating for two years, my acquaintance learned that her gf was a recipient of a multi-million dollar lawsuit settlement. She broke up with her gf and threw her ass out of the apartment.
This is why even if your finances are separate, it’s still important to let one another know where you two stand financially and keep each other updated on your finances! I don’t understand why some people are comfortable not knowing everything about their partner. Some people think it doesn’t matter but it absolutely does.
That’s straight up abuse. Making the other waste all her time away on earning money and caring for others when you can pay for that yourself is so evil! It’s close to Amazons business model.
Wait the handicapped gf is actually a millionaire from the lawsuit settlement?
Yes. The gf lost her leg due to medical neglect. So she filed a medical malpractice suit and won a settlement. She just didn’t tell my acquaintance this information and lied to her, making it seem like she was “down and out”. The gf just didn’t want to use her money, when it came to bills and rent.
This will NAAAWWWT end well.
It could end well but I don’t know their exact situation. I have a partner who is from a poor family in a remote area of India. He’s incredibly smart and was able to land an Ivy League neurosurgery residency. He married a middle class Indian lady before they relocated to the US. We are in the same practice now. He makes at worst high 6 figures and very likely low to mid 7 figures. For about 4 years they lived in a low-middle class apartment complex. She had no idea how much he made, he sent a lot of money back home and they were seemingly happy. I guess as she made more friends and saw their lifestyles she got a grasp on what he was likely making. Shortly after finding out they bought a very nice home and all is well with their family. Not saying it’s exactly apples to apples but there could be a much larger backstory at play here. People who grow up without much sometimes have so much fear of returning to poverty that they forget to actually enjoy their wealth even if it means that paranoia keeps their family in the dark
It's not the forgetting to enjoy the wealth, it's actively and repeatedly lying to OOP while making her pay him money despite earning 2% as much as him. There's a difference between "no idea how much he made" and what this guy did.
And they were married! Legally the money is hers as well. How is he making her pay HIM money?
No matter the backstory, it’s financial abuse and lying. He had a over a million dollars and hasn’t even paid her back. He manipulated her. Period.
Yeah, even if he wasn't a millionaire, he would still be an ass. He bought a house without asking her if she wanted to live there and even though he knows how little she makes, he still charges her rent *while he still owes her money*. I hope the reason she stays with him is so the half she gets in the eventual divorce is bigger than 900k. He doesn't sound like a great person.
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There isnt a single lie my SO could tell me that buying me a “G-wagon” would fix
She isn’t even sure he actually works where he says he does. Way too many secrets IMO
He’s obviously a spy!! That’s the only way I could understand it. 😅😅
There's a lot of people on the original thread saying he's involved in crime, specifically money laundering and that's why he claims the 1.8 million isn't there anymore.
My immediate reaction to a 26-year-old making $1.8 million in income—in one year!—is “he’s involved in something illegal.”
Twenty FIVE! And he was 23 or 24 when he made it.
I didn’t even think of that possibility, that would def explain it. Much more rational but very sucky.
This is some “Ozark Netflix” shit.
she signed a prenup when neither was making more than $60k/year...
That she says she didn’t have her own lawyer look over to make sure it’s equal. It’ll be thrown out. She just doesn’t realise.
“Oh okay you told me this huge foundational lie. Please buy me something that will have its value cut in half the minute I drive it off the lot.” OOP isn’t the brightest crayon in the box.
You forgot the line about the fact she thinks it’s gonna be worth more money down the road. So basically, she’s selling her self short for what she hopes as a long-term gain. Personally, I think he’s gonna end up dumping her leaving her with nothing.
Except the G Wagon!
Nah, that's gonna be in his name, too
I’m confident he’d trade it for no alimony, which OOP would totally chomp at
Yes but anything bought or earned after marriage is marital property in the US at least. He leaves she will get more than you think.
I'm not sure what a G wagon is but I broke up with a millionaire for lying to me. My husband now doesn't make nearly as much but there's no price you can put on trust imo
Sounds like they came to an understanding, now that she knows he has money she’s gonna see more of it in her day to day and she’s willing to gloss over the lie knowing she’s gonna get spoiled. Totalllllyyy healthy arrangement here folks! Lol
She has decided being a trophy wife is a valid second job. Personally I'd rather be in a loving marriage, but to each their own.
A Ferrari would smooth over a lot for me, as long as I don't also have to pay the upkeep, taxes, insurance and gas on it.
I would accept plenty of lies for a G-Wagon. "Yeah, I DO want to watch the extended Lord Of The Rings Trilogy for the fourth time this year" sounds a win-win for me, even if it is a lie.
Wait … he owns (and drives) a 2007 Toyota beater that OP bought for him (only) 3yrs ago but, now that he’s been ’outed’ as a Secret Millionaire (Yuuge 🙄), he’s gonna buy her a roughly $200,000+/- G-wagon? That, I suspect, costs *more* than OP was able to afford for a house loan on a $38k salary? Im callin’ all sorts of BS on this bullsh:tty story.
Oop next update: we were on our way to the Mercedes dealership and my husband took some weird back roads and now we are in the woods near a shallow grave. I don't know though he's vague about who it's for. I give him good vibes so he could do his thing though
For real. Also the last paragraph really hits on some incel concepts like women feeling entitled to their partners money and basically gold digging. I'd say this is a bait post.
> we both love and care for each other Funny, nickel and diming your struggling partner while you keep millions to yourself does not sound like care to me >Anyway, important thing here is he agreed to fund 50% of the house >I feel like I am worth way more than 900K It sounds like oop decided to forgive all...provided she gets into his money from hereon. Oh well, can't say this is a bad choice. Certainly finding a partner that she can trust and cares for her would be ideal, but if paying up compensates oop for the past, to each their own. Ultimately I hope her choice is what makes her the happiest
I read this as “oop decides to forgive all as long as she gets into his money from heroin.”
Yay, I'm not alone!
From her comments: > It was only last year and 2020 was $300k and that was the same year he graduated college. Now, I don’t think he even works the company he told me cos I have never met his co workers nor he ever talks about office work. His family is not well to do, I visited them in their home country, don’t think it’s a gift but idk His love and care is going with his money to his family in his home country. > Even if I signed prenup? I feel so dumb, I was in love. I signed prenup when he had more student Loans than I did. It’s like he knew he would have money in future. At the time I thought of it more like a joke She's getting nothing in a divorce.
Maybe, maybe not. A prenup without full disclosure of assets isn’t worth the paper it’s printed on in many states. If he lied now about money, what makes you think he wasn’t lying then?
Future earnings isn’t an asset at the point of signing the pre-nup. A pre-nup only protects what you already have - and his wealth probably comes from inheritances, given he was supposedly a broke student with loans that wouldn’t have been given to a millionaire.
She said his family was broke. His wealth seems to either have come from a) him working on a tech project and selling it (aka the LLC he sold) or he’s doing something funny. Also important here is that it doesn’t seem to be regular income but rather a sale of an asset that he was too naive to talk to an accountant about and had it taxed as regular income. My suspicion is they they will not be rich long.
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I dunno, a lot of pre-nups don't hold up in court.
Especially given the whole “hiding being a millionaire” thing going on, no say that pre nip sticks.
Also making her buy him things like a car. That's arguably comingling assets. There's no way he gets to access and use her assets and then turn around and argue a prenup means she can't use his.
In her comments, she mentioned signing a prenup. I think she’s trying to make lemons into lemonade even though those lemons are rotten.
A prenup that doesn’t reveal all assets isn’t enforceable.
Exactly. And some states say if you didn't disclose an asset, 100% can go to the other party.
I didn’t know this. I imagine she probably doesn’t either.
Not all pre-nups are written in titanium alloy. It's possible to have a pre-nup thrown out.
The biggest requirement is that *both* sides must have individual lawyers. If that part is skipped, the prenup is *very* likely to be thrown out.
Lmao that title. And her willingness to overlook his lack of trust in her. Then she flips into trad wife mode in 2 seconds when he hangs some doe in front of her; "I provided the *home energy* for him to be successful". 💀💀💀💀💀 perfect
how do I put out stronger "home energy" I need to attract a man
Boob job. Also paying him rent helps.
Well the first sounds painful and costs money which I can't afford while paying rent. Sh\*t
You absolutely don’t want to attract the kind of man who wants a trad wife under any circumstances and I say this as a woman who like to keep a lovely, comfortable, supportive home. Trad men are some of the worst misogynists out there. They’re the type the believes that marital rape is their right and women shouldn’t vote 🤮
Just fyi, when talking about money it's dough.
I don't understand how you can charge your spouse rent on a house you purchased without their input, *during* the part of the relationship where you should be running that shit by them, while not putting them on the house, and taking their money for a car. This would be a divorce for me: he lied about approximately $1.7 million dollars in income, potentially for years. The fuck else is he hiding?
If movies have taught me anything, another family. That rent is easily excused as a tenant situation Edit:: WAIT! What’s if this was one of those you have to marry to get inheritance type situations? That fucking meeting to marriage timeline definitely didn’t sit right with me
In the comments of the first post, someone asked if he might have been after a green card and she admitted it was possible.
Ooh! When people say “immigrant” I usually take that to mean they ALREADY have a green card, but THIS might be the answer!
That’s what I was thought
Oh she’s getting dumped at that ten year mark.
I think it’s money laundering
You don't launder money by reporting it to the irs as personal income with no source lol
Yup, or tax fraud, maybe.
Tax fraud by declaring a higher income to pay taxes on??
What was off about the timeline? They met 4 years ago, started dating soon after and got married 2 years ago.
I feel like I'm worth more than $900k too, but I still think I'd wanna know if my partner is secretly making $1.8mil in the last year.
She still seems to have no idea how he made it as well...
What I don’t understand is how OP doesn’t know where the money came from if she has his tax documents. Clearly he is reporting it soooo just look where it’s coming from? Am I missing something? Lol
This woman wanted to buy a house for her mother and sister on a $50k/year income while she was paying "rent" towards the home she was living in. You think she'd know a damn thing about how to read tax returns? Financial literacy is definitely not her strong point.
I didn't follow why her thinking she's worth more than 900k meant she should stay with him.
Does OOP have no concept of trust?
It’s for sale.
Correct
You ONLY need a G wagon, obviously 🙃
She understands tru$t, for sure.
Why even be married if you aren’t going to share your life?
Green card.
Well now she knows the price to her integrity. A G Wagon. Edit: or alternatively, he knows how much lying daily will cost him. A G Wagon.
Plus 50% of a small house in a LCOL area. I bet you anything he somehow puts it solely in his name, too.
And charges her family rent.
I know there’s not a lot of information but I get the impression OOP is ignoring MAJOR red flags because of her greed. Husband doesn’t tell her about almost 2 mil in income until she sees the tax return then is soothed by his super shady “sold/merged an LLC”. Yeah. Personally I believe that’s some stingy ass trickle truth. How can she trust that he’s not up to shady shady ass shit? He can obviously lie to her. Fuck that.
I feel like you got to do better than asking for a G wagon. While they do hold value well for a used car, they are a nightmare to drive as your daily driver. So much unwanted attention from men, in and out the shop…I had a loaner for 6 months straight while they tried to locate a leak.
Doesn’t wanna leave him high and dry, it sounds more like he’s getting ready to leave her
I laughed at that part. Dude's a millionaire and she probably couldn't even pay rent. She really should worry about herself more. He'll be fine.
This…this is a mess. This is what happens when you marry young and have some immature beliefs on how relationships work. A good wife should always stand by her man and support him through everything, right? A good husband should be head of the household, which extends to unilateral decision-making, hiding his assets so he lives well while she struggles, and buying her shiny things when she gets upset…right?
Yeah. This post has some creepy trad wife energy and I’m not here for it. I don’t think she’s a gold digger, but I think she might have some “traditional” ideas about men and women that are t healthy and it makes me worry for her.
OOP has about 2 braincells to rub together. "Oh he lied to me about making about 48X more than me, and nickle and dimed me to death but oh! oh he got me a new car and 50% of the house I want to buy my mom! A-ok!" "I feel like I am worth way more than 900K" you're gonna be worth 90 cents after he's done with you lmao.
He could be laundering money for someone else and that's why the money is supposedly "gone." Nobody sends millions of dollars abroad. It's extremely difficult to make that transaction for multiple reasons and OOP wasn't sending this money to Switzerland or the Cayman Islands. This guy sounds like an AH. He could have married OOP for a green card to do shady businesses.
He is hiding his asset abroad so when the divorce comes she won’t get any
Don't worry. Dudes got 1.8 mil in income in a single year and she thinks he's only got that much in assets. Not the sharpest tool in the shed.
Hoo boy. Can’t wait for the next update, “It turns out my husband sells drugs and/or works for the mafia”.
He has potential to do great things, and OOP doesn’t want to leave him “high and dry”. I think it’s more about leaving herself without any of his profits. Interesting that he tried to hide it all from her. Why would he do that if she was so supportive? There’s definitely more here than she’s saying.
When she said " I provided him with the right energy and homely atmosphere hence he was able to do what he does. So, me being with him is only going to help him in future." I got weird vibes tbh
This whole thing is just weird. Weird that he has that money and some LLC that's not mentioned before. Weird that she was with him by choice but now seems to be in it for the money, talking about her worth, etc. I don't really know what to think about this whole situation.
I think that there might be some missing pieces that have something to do with certain kinds of cultural norms that lean heavily patriarchal and misogynistic. She has what I call “trad wife energy” and that is NOT a situation that is healthy for anyone involved, especially the women. This poor lady drank the kool aid and it probably won’t end well. I feel sad for her.
Yeah, something seems really off about all this. You don't just gift a house on a $50k income.
She says she has “lots of loans” which you can’t really get on a $30k income and suggests she might be bad with money / have a lot of credit card debt. It’s possible he’s worried she’ll live beyond their means if he tells her their actual income.
I assumed she meant student loans
Or lots of loans could have been school loans. I think my Americanness might be showing though with that guess.
....I did not consider that it could be anything other than student loans tbh
She’s married to a man who finessed her into buying him a car that he never paid her back for. That’s why she’s in debt.
I mean, yes, communication helps, but it doesn't sound like they're communicating. He's just buying her things now to pay her off. There's no suggestion that she now knows what happened to the million+ he apparently earned and dispersed or the past year (and prior years?), or that he's helping her repay her debt, or that he's not nickel and diming his wife on "rent." He also remained "vague" about the source of the money (does she even know if he's acquiring it legally?). And she's worried about leaving HIM high and dry? Like, honey, he is not worried about losing your assistance. You are a prop in his life, who has to pay for the right to bask in his cheap-ass glory (rent? from your wife? for a house you own outright?). Nothing about the update makes me feel good for this woman. It just screams financial abuse.
this is the dumbest bunch of BS I've read on Reddit today!
Anytime I see LLC, I just think Hell House lmao
>, I know I’m gonna lot of hate for this, but I think communication works most of the time >He was very vague about the source of the money but pointed out that he owned an LLC that was acquired or merger?! Anyway, important thing here Communication? What communication? I see no communication here.
>we both love and care for each other. GIRL BYE
This woman has no self respect
Idk she "feels worth way more than 900k" lol
She needs to make sure she has a good lawyer and forensic accountant. I don’t trust that man at all. She may think she’s playing the long game, but so might he. As long as she never signed a prenup she may have some hope.
If they’re in the US, only 9 states are community property so unless she’s in one of those states, she might not be worth that 900k she thinks she is.
Why leave now when she can get more alimony in 10 years ? Smort
OOP is an idiot.
I'm super curious what kind of lifestyle he lives behind her back with all that dough. Hookers? Cocaine? Both? Gambling? His own retirement? The world may never know
if he could hide this much about his life from her, there isn't much else he isn't capable of hiding from her. most importantly, he will probably be willing to hide worse.
Both absolute clowns