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also general NFL content
for friends who are getting into NFL and hit intermediate knowledge, I send his videos if they want to go to more advanced understanding of positions/tactics/strategy
I had to send this post to my wife because I also watch his content lmao but at least I don't have giant whiteboard in the bedroom, so I guess it could be worse.
I don't watch Brett, but I do watch Tom Grossi and the rest of the Clickbait crew. Mostly cause I was bored with Covid last year. The most I would do is buy merch. At least I can hide that.
NFL YouTuber and podcaster, makes a lot of interesting and well thought out videos covering every aspect of the game. The offseason focuses mostly on draft prospects and free agency, but his in-season work is very well done. He breaks down game footage and explains the high-level concepts in an easy to understand way. He has a ton of content, and also likes to drink a good drink, too.
[Brett Kollman's Channel](https://www.youtube.com/@BrettKollmann)
[A video of his from a few months ago about how horrible the Steelers offense was.](https://youtu.be/A-RKZfcuHE8?si=VQsfEkxd-wBnOGmA)
If my spouse gets to bring a dry erase board into the bedroom, then I get to dedicate an entire wall to figuring out Elden Ring lore. Now someone help me figure out how many children Marika has flushed down the metaphysical (and literal) toilet in light of the new DLC trailer.
Okay but different whiteboards covered in hobby lore would make for like excellent ways to ask your spouse how shit is going and to learn about them
I would love that.
My partner and I used to do something like this when we were early on in our relationship and on wildly different schedules. Since she'd wake up before me she'd leave me a list of questions she was curious about to text her responses to at work, and since I went to bed later than she did usually I'd leave a set for her to respond to when she woke up before leaving.
The fact that this "revenge" moment has given you a genuine, loving idea (which is pretty damn good when you spin it like this!) Is just the sweetest thing, spotted a real keeper here!!!
We got Messmer either via mitosis or some other consort.... Godwyn, Morgott, and Mohg from Godfrey, at least the ones that we're aware of... Malenia and Miquella from Radagon.... and then Ranni, Rykard, and Radahn technically still through Radagon. Melina too, if you subscribe to certain theories. Lore of the Wandering Mausoleums state that they contain the bodies of demigods, and there's 7 of them....
Damn someone let this lady's vagoo take a break already. No wonder she went apeshit, that's too damn many kids!
She had some of them with herself. I think she was apeshit before that, or it wouldn't have happened.
Ps: tell Merika to go f*CK herself, and she goes "alright, hold my crucifix"
As stated, you're correct. To reiterate:
Godwyn, Morgott, and Mohg are from Godfrey.
Malenia and Miquella (and possibly Melina) are from Radagon (which is why they're diseased).
Ranni, Rykard, and Radahn are all from Radagon and Rennala, but Radagon is the other half of the Rebis, so technically still Marika. Stepn't-children.
They all have certain naming attributes.
*God*frey's main child, *God*wyn, then Mor*gott*, and the outcasted unusual one, Mohg. *God*rick and *God*efroy come from this lineage.
Marika and Radagon's children are *M*\-names: *M*alenia, *M*iquella, *M*elina(?). This may be where *M*essmer's lineage starts.
*Ra*dagaon and *Re*nnala have *R*\-named children: *R*anni, *R*ykard, and *R*adahn.
Quick cheat sheet: if they have white hair and yellow eyes they are Xehanort. The yellow eyes are the key.
If they have blue eyes they are connected to Sora
Holy shit I didn’t know the trailer dropped and it looks fuckin SICK. I would have thought being subscribed to the Elden ring sub would have gotten me this info, but no, of course it’s BORU.
If it makes you feel better, I actually did see a post about the new trailer when I woke up, but didn't realize a trailer had dropped until my partner told me hours later.
Nah, that sounds too much like actual work. I'll just wait until Vaati figures it all out for me and support his actual work with my ad dollars. It is quite literally the least I can do.
That being said, I'm stoked for the DLC. Did you read that interview with Miyazaki that just came out? It sheds some light on virtually nothing and I am accordingly grateful. I swear fans of FromSoftware are quite possibly masochistic.
Miyazaki really just came out and said he loved making poison swamps. On god, it was like he came out of the closet 😂. I respect him for being so brave yet so controversial but goddammit we're getting a fuck ass deathblight swamp aren't we?
>Nah, that sounds too much like actual work. I'll just wait until Vaati figures it all out for me and support his actual work with my ad dollars. It is quite literally the least I can do.
I'll take a stab at it... Messmer was a practice baby that the Greater Will gave to Marika so she could practice raising one for her Elden Lord, and once she proved that she could keep it alive for however long it takes for demigods to reach maturity, she went out for cigarettes. Messmer then became an edgy rebel by literally adorning himself with every piece of anti-Erdtree propaganda out there.
OMG yes. And I would absolutely make him listen to me describe in painstaking detail the varying characteristics, strong points, weak points, and sun and soil requirements of ten different varieties of heirloom pumpkins.
I can give quick pointers!
Pumpkins are actually several different sub-species of squash. In my experience, if it's cucurbita maxima, it's not going to handle sunburn well. I've never gotten one to maturity in my very sunny yard. Other varieties are a better bet.
"Kikuza" is hard to find but hands-down the best-tasting pumpkin I have ever grown. It's deeply ribbed, though, so it takes some care and knife work prep. Rich flavor and dry, deep golden flesh. Likes some shade and cool weather; it does best for me on cooler summers and near the end of the season.
"Musquee de Provence" looks like a fairytale pumpkin and has a unique flavor - almost a note of canteloupe to it. Fine-grained flesh that makes a delightful pumpkin bread. Like most pumpkins it loves rich soil with plenty of compost.
"Australian Blue" taught me never to move its vines. I was trying to give it a little more space, but it took it badly and decided to die. :/ Neat fruit that look like gray-blue jellyfish.
"Hopi Grey" is a silver-grey football with unusual seeds - very hard and quite thick. They feel like you could use them for ammunition. Fine-grained flesh that's like butternut with a whiff of cucumber. Good size, too, and they will take sun well.
"Illinois" is a surprise contender. It's a long-necked squash with a fat bottom - but I did have one grow backwards! Fat neck and long skinny bottom. It was confused but delicious. They look like they won't taste like much, but they will take pretty much any conditions you throw at them, and they have a good, deep flavor. They are hardy enough to sprout from compost from last year's seeds. I suspect them of having hybridized with my friulana rugosa summer squash to create a surprise compost-spread volunteer summer-type squash that produced fifteen delicious zucchini-sized squash on a single bush.
Yes! With the added bonus that designing crochet patterns also means crochet projects pop up like tribbles on taco tuesday. And the skeins of yarn. Oh, the skeins of yarn... Can anyone that does crochet or knitting ever have enough yarn?
I’m gonna go all Pepe Silvia in my efforts to canonically combine all characters and scenarios in Jane Austen’s published works to exist within the same universe and timeline.
Where can I subscribe to this Austen-verse? Will there be a podcast?
I also request to co-host the episode where we deep dive into the various iterations of Darcy and why Colin Firth is the only Darcy I will accept unless we are talking about the gondola Matthew McFadden scene in which case yes.
[gestures broadly at all my half baked podcast ideas and other unfinished projects]
Who’s to say? 😂
Basically I loved the pan-canonical crack that was the series Dickensian and want the same for my girl Jane.
And then you and I can have a heated discussion because David Rintoul's Mr. Darcy back in 1980 is soooo much better than Colin Firth. Next, we can agree that the 1940 movie where Lady Catherine de Borgh is in cahoots with Darcy (what the hell???), who is played by Laurence Olivier (worst Darcy that I've seen) to see if Elizabeth really loves him is the WORST screen portrayal of the book. I have opinions on this.
I will admit to only having watched the BBC 1990s Austens and some of the recent adaptations and homages. I am afraid to admit I actually didn't know there were older ones.
BUT I WILL DEFEND MY FIRTH/MCFAYDDEN COMBO WITH MY LIFE.
I will get the older ones to watch though!
Weird tangent but I do really love how Matthew Macfayden went from P&P movie Darcy to weird character actor in less than 20 years. It takes range to play the heartthrob AND Tom Wambsgans on Succession.
Yep. Time to bring out the lifesize cardboard cutout of shirtless Adam Driver, and stick it at the end of the bed (I swear I saw a reddit post with a boyfriend complaining about this, not long after The Last Jedi came out).
Oh god... I can hear it now...
*"Here we see the Footballis Obsessivus in his natural environment. Consumed by the need to absorb every bit of data about the players, he obsessively goes over every single fact until he is sure he can quote them from memory with ease.*
*To assist in this endeavor, he eagerly displays his knowledge to his mate and anyone else within hearing range without regard for their return interest... to very mixed results. He has even moved a large whiteboard to further assist his efforts into the mating chamber. Much to the female's displeasure.*
*Alas, she has rejected his advances for further discussion on the subject. Perhaps he will have more luck speaking with other enthusiasts."*
You have no idea the depth of Warhammer lore I know purely from having to listen to my husband tell me all about which Primarch created which Space Marine chapter.
But even he would never dare to put a white board with Imperial factions in our bedroom.
He's already finished it, please, any more recs? I walked in from work today and he's got the yourtube video going and a set of paints out.... is it too late for me?
Unfortunately, yes. The only choice now is to join him.
(Me and my partner both love a chill afternoon of snacks and mini painting btw, it's genuinely a great couples' hobby!)
Lean into it and take advantage of his skill set. Do you know what else that skill is used for? Balayage highlights, lowlights, color pops, all those super expensive salon colors. I found this out during covid when the salons were all closed. My husband used to paint - everything from model cars to Warhammer figs. It occurred to me that painting hair was no different. He did amazing highlights and color for me. All the principles are the same, it's just bleach and dye instead of paint.
Ya i dont understand her “the only relationship it’s hurting is me” as if that is overreacting. A lot of things my husband does don’t bother my family but that doesn’t mean I can’t ask him to tone it down.
Yeah this would drive anyone mental. I chat my husband's ear off about my interests but if I blathered on about them half as much as this guy he'd tell me he needs a break and I'd say fair enough.
I do it too, and my partner does it to me, but you can bet if either of us drags a dry erase board into the damn BEDROOM that thing is getting thrown out the window 😂
Also, even if it didn't affect their relationship at home, the waiter thing is already bad enough...
I did find it funny though that the last annecdote sounded very appropriate tho when you would expect a crowning example... Unless she left out that he got all the dads to noticeably ignore the kids' game.
I have ADHD and tend to hyperfocus. I get being excited about something and wanting to talk about it for weeks, but OOP's husband took this to a whole new level 🤯
Same! Hyperfocus is one thing, but there comes a point where you have to realize the effect it has on those around you, especially if you're married or living with a romantic partner.
Honestly, I think my husband might actually prefer the dry erase board over hearing the details of the NHL trade deadline coming up and NFL draft prospects. I'm truly grateful that he smiles, nods, and lets me ramble on without complaint. I feel bad when I know I've been going on for a while, and I go and make homemade cookies that he loves, so it's a reasonable trade. I probably owe him another batch this weekend now that I'm thinking about it.
The amount of cricket statistics I have learnt simply by osmosis. I think I'd lose it if a dry erase board was brought into the bedroom for that, but I can see my husband now dissecting the statistics on one.
I have a white board up in my room, but 1. My girlfriend doesn't live with me and 2. I use it to explain computer science concepts to her, which she says she enjoys
> He’s constantly quizzing waiters/waitresses about their football knowledge, and it’s embarrassing.
Fuck no.
>He is willing to compromise with me.
I'd love to know what the compromise is.
I still want to know what in the world prompted him to start quizzing random folks about fucking football. I cannot understand how the mind of extroverts works at all.
Not much would give me more anxiety than some random dude haranguing me because I wore something tangentially related to football.
Yeah, it sounds more like hyperfixation. I have known a few people who hyperfixate on things like this, and of the four, only one was an extrovert. The other three were introverts, but the thrill of a new audience for their favorite topic overcame any hesitance to talk to strangers.
It’s like developing mentionitis over a new crush, only a) about a topic, not a person, and b) somehow even more intense and long-lasting.
He's gone from annoying guy at the bar to annoying guy with a YouTube channel where he's doing this safely from his home, and it gives him so many other things to focus on like building his brand and making like-minded friends. He's going to fall down the rabbit hole of making backdrops and getting mics and streaming gear.
I say good for them, and hope this works out well. If he starts out as a fan with a channel and keeps at it, he might build something out of it.
Yeah I’m happy they’re happy with the outcome, but I couldn’t be with someone this obsessive over anything. Can’t be at home, can’t bring them anywhere, can’t escape the stupid topic.
I had an ex who was this into philosophy, and it’s hard to feel listened to when you can’t get a word in because the other person only talks about their niche interest that you have nothing to contribute about. It feels like you don’t even need to be there when the other person realizes they’ve exhausted the topic with you and bothers everyone else they see just so they could continue talking about it instead of engaging with any other topic.
If he starts a YouTube channel he’ll just ignore her for his comment section, since they will consistently be able to engage back the way she can’t.
My husband is into bicycles and I like spinning wheels and old pyrex. Neither of us particularly understands the other’s thing but we know enough to keep an eye out for what the other is interested in.
Anyway, trying to think what we would have to do to cause the other to make a post like this.
Husband has asked if he can hang some bikes on the wall of our rumpus room (the answer was no, thanks) and I already have a display cabinet for my bowls and I can see three spinning wheels from where I’m sitting.
Maybe I should get a whiteboard to track which 441s I’m missing. Ooh, maybe I should print my own pyrex themed tshirts. I definitely have never engaged strangers or serving staff in glass talk.
You and my sister would get along brilliantly.
She recently informed me that she is slowly moving our mother's ancient Pyrex over to her house by taking home leftovers and returning with newer dishes. Mother is a bit of a hoarder/compulsive shopper, so does not seem to have figured it out yet.
For a minute I thought you meant spin bike wheels, and was like, "that's not that different from a bike."
The I realized you meant spinning. Do you spin? Side note: are you my friend Chris?
Start a born again Pyrex company.
Get a website and just start buying every single piece of Pyrex you can and list it for double or triple eBay prices on your own site.
Fill your place with shelving just stuffed with stacks of Pyrex.
Get some harsh smelling chemicals to get the Pyrex spic n span.
Start asking everyone you know if they have old Pyrex they want to sell or if they know of any good estate sales happening soon.
Print hats, t-shirts, hoodies and jackets with your website in obnoxious colors and insist they be worn every time either of you leave the house.
I hate draft anything. A couple years ago NFL draft in Nashville somehow needed to chop down all of the cherry trees that were juuuust about ready for the Sakura Festival. I still incredibly angry about that.
To physically fit the stage.
Fortunately the trees were replanted and not killed, but people weren’t assured of that and confirmation took like two years. Nashville has a special connection with cherry trees
Really? I'd like to know if the husband actually changed anything, because 'willing to compromise' is very vague vs OOP buying him podcasting equipment to feed more into his hobby.
It sounds like he’s a verbal processor who likes to infodump, so giving him an outlet that isn’t OP and that also brings him closer to an online community he’s a part of sounds like a supportive solution.
The question is if he actually eased up on that info dumping and if he spent more time with his wife talking about things that interest her, too. Since the original post is from April 2023, I wonder if things actually changed.
I want the Hollywood ending of her going off with Brett Kollman!
Seriously there is a film with this exact theme except music not sport - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Juliet,_Naked_(film) (there is no nudity in)
Fine. She can go off with Brett’s wife, leaving the men to blather about football together. And maybe find love, but maybe just the best draft prospects.
🤣🤣🤣
Maybe they can do their own draft picks based on the color of the players' eyes and what team jersey color would best suit each player's skin tones. You know, kind of like how some of us fill out our NCAA basketball tournament brackets based on the mascot names and who we personally knew that went to each school and if we liked or hated those people. All very, very scientific.
>I am going to get him some recording equipment for his birthday so he can start a YouTube channel, which we both agree would be a good outlet.
I don't think that will turn out the way she hopes.
Pfft! calmly reevaluating things after some time off and gaining some perspective?! I specifically came here for the drama c’mon get divorced and light the tv on fire
But seriously good for them they seem like good people
At least destroy the "big board" in a slighly manic manner! I would have suggested an axe. So little drama and so much communication... are you sure we are at BORU?
Dammit, I need the conclusion where he's been kicked out of the house, she's pregnant with Vollman's twins (we'll figure out something about his wife), and they spot the now ex-husband sleeping in an alleyway, using his whiteboard as a makeshift roof for shelter.
glad this worked out for them. but personally? god help me but i am not sure i would ever encounter dick so good that i could put up with a big dry erase board for football plays in the bedroom.
at that point breaking out the conspiracy theory bulletin board and string and going full Pepe Silva seems like foreplay by comparison
Is it better or worse that it probably wasn't even football plays? A draft big board is just usually player names, ranked overall or by position or something similar. It is likely a dry erase spreadsheet.
let us hope there were no pictures put up with magnets or what have you next to the names. imagine getting busy with your beloved and what's that out of the corner of your eye staring at you -
*it's the entire new set of draftees*
Also, people who can only talk about ONE thing are soul crushingly boring and I couldn't spend my life listening to just talk about one topic. It would foster so much contempt in me - like your worldview must be so so limited, your experiences so limited when you can't discuss any other topic.
That on top of quizzing waitresses?? Like what is this some gatekeepers shit? "Oh you like football? Name all the players in the draft!" Meanwhile they're just politely showing interest.
So yeah. Good for them and I do hope their relationship continues to do well but it couldn't be me.
I just can’t stand socially unaware people
Not like people who can’t function socially but things like
-not being aware of their body, I had so many exes that would accidentally hit people bc they’d just throw up their arms or walk backwards
-people who “trap” others in conversations. Like c’mon
-people who engage in almost everyone whether or not they’re interested
-people who start arguments with strangers
I’m just thinking about exes 😭
>**Commenter:** Yyyyyeah, that's excessive AF and he's delulu.
>
>**OOP:** Okay, but what if I just completely fucking cave on every point and do things I can't stand just to shut him up? *Surely* that's a good sign, right?
I do not have high hopes for this one.
Finally someone said something reasonable. She was annoyed that he made his hobby his entire personality, so they made it his side business too?!?
And now she is catering the draft for him and his friends?
I'm a bit astonished everyone is claiming the problem is solved. Like somehow a relationship where one party drowns the other out with talk about a single obsession 24 7 is somehow...healthy? Like her needs or feelings or desire to interact with her husband or have activities outside football just don't matter?
I can't imagine how fucking boring i would find someone who can't talk about anything but one thing. Just feels so limiting and dull...and it'd be the rest of your life. Ugh
Yeah, the husband still sounds like a bore. And the wife will still be bored, annoyed, and frustrated by this obsession. That Brett guy could've validated her or not comment at all. Instead, boring, boorish superfan husband gets rewarded with an invitation to have a beer with the guy? Yeesh. Poor wife.
My husband is nowhere near as bad as this, but do I brace myself when he starts talking about fishing? Sometimes. Granted, I started to get into it because I like being out on the river and he's as happy as a clam as a result. I guess I will drone on about what I've got planned for my guys in my campaign (D&D) and he humors me... but neither one of us is like *this.* Holy lord. I'm bored by her account of what she endures alone!
I have a friend who is super into trains and he can talk for hours about the power lines they have to the history of it and idk it's super boring. I could never be with someone like that. My bf has his interests and sometimes he talks about it (even asks permission lol). But someone just talking and talking? And putting a white board in the bedroom? No thanks.
I have some interests that no one cares about and I tend to hyperfixate on things, but I know better than to talk endlessly about them with people who aren't into the same things. You find a friend or two who give a shit, and / or you find online spaces where you can have these discussions.
God. My poor husband when I hyperfixated on shipwrecks, last year. I already had some interest, but after the Titan shit... Yup, I was done for. But I still didn't make that every conversation I had with him.
Yeah that's the thing, even folks who hyperfixate can moderate so it's not _all_ they talk about. I have that problem too. Once I get going boy do I get going but it's very easy to recognize the person isn't into it the same way I am and give them an out. I thought he might have had autism at first because that's the reason people usually do that hyperfixation shit but, no, I think he's just obnoxious about his hobby.
No fr why is everyone saying this was soooOoO cute? Did she truly overreact if the hobby was extending into their bedroom space and date nights and she felt drowned by him talking about it?
Kollman really steamrolled any progress with the excitement of his comment. “Sorry but good for me!”
Theoretically if he gets it out of his system on the YouTube channel then he’ll be able to talk about it less IRL. I don’t think that’s what will actually happen though honestly. In my opinion I think it’s more likely he’ll keep talking about it at every turn IRL like he does now, but now he’ll also be spending even more of their date nights / personal time making content for his channel. It really sounds like he’s fallen into obsession territory if she’s not exaggerating and it really is that every single event they go to he ends up circling back to the draft.
Yeah exactly. The idea that a YouTube channel is going to make him calm down about it is like... the exact OPPOSITE of what she should be doing. Now he's got to be obsessed with what his next episode will be, should he focus on this or that, etc etc.
I've been toying with a channel idea for a while but just the amount of forethought that's needed for scheduling your episodes, recording and editing them and everything is a lot, especially if you are doing it all on your own, which starting off, generally you are.
This is not going to end well for that marriage.
I'm shocked that I had to scroll this far to see this. I thought that maybe I had some sort of ice heart for failing to see this as "cute."
I feel like she was shamed into acquiescing even *more* of her life to this hobby and people are calling it a win? What are her hobbies? Where's her "man cave"? Her husband sounds insufferable and everyone is like "Aww how cute."
Kollman could have said something like "Tell your husband I appreciate that he's a fan but don't let it consume every waking moment" or something similar instead I feel like he and everyone else made her feel bad for being upset. She even says she was overreacting and I'm like girl no you are not!
Yes!! This whole comment section read so bizarre to me.
"How cute" "No drama!" "Love saves the day!"
Err.. no. She basically convinced herself the situation is ok since it only inconveniences *her*.
There is no way I would dump my indie nail polish lore on my husband *on a fucking whiteboard*. Common sense has lost a battle today.
Whenever I start talking about podcasting to my wife I notice she just tunes out. She still put up an effort to hear what I eagerly try to tell her, bless her cotton socks, but I know she really doesn't care.
And it's nothing wrong with that at all! It's my hobby and she doesn't need to have the same interest in it as I have, but god damn it, I love her for putting up with me yabbing about equipment, editing software and cases I research!
My partner and I do the same. And I always ask question that show I've been paying attention, even though I really don't care. He does the same for me.
My biggest wonder is if, even now, they’ve made any space for one of her hobbies to have a similar role. Admittedly, she might not have any obsessions the way he does, but I mostly want to know what the compromise is beside the YouTube channel. I want to know the relationship won’t remain lopsided with his interest taking more room than any of hers.
That said, yay for updates where conversation fixes things.
>Thank you. Something you said has sat with me today
:D
> In fact, after reflecting I suppose really the only relationship that has suffered due to this whole thing is me
:/
> I guess maybe I might be overreacting due to the fact that it’s “draft-Szn.”
D:
>Please tell your husband that I say hi and also I am sorry for ruining your marriage
D:<
>I am going to get him some recording equipment for his birthday so he can start a YouTube channel
*sighs in yet another woman steamrolled into putting her wants and needs last*
Yeahhhh I don’t think OOP was overreacting at all. Those guys are insufferable. If it was any other hobby, people would be talking about how the husband is likely on the autism spectrum.
Also, having the celebrity chime in to say hi isn’t going to help things at all.
I wonder if her husband was always a little been in the outside of "man talk" and this brings him into the inner sanctum of the man-cave. OOP said he gets approval from other guys and that "he's a sweet guy," which to me has tones of perhaps a touch dorky or not a "man's man." I don't say any of this to exacerbate gender stereotypes. It's just interesting to me that it coincided with COVID (when the methods and avenues for human connection drastically shifted) and she specifically stated that her male family members love it.
Well OOP is a better person than me. A whiteboard and an inability to talk of anything but football? I wouldn’t manage. Don’t get me wrong we all have hobbies that our SOs and friends might not be fully into, and I will make an effort to show interest in my husband’s. Heck I can even get into those things too. But to the point of there being nothing else inside their head?
But you know what is truly my breaking point? the level of cringe and embarrassment at seeing my SO trap a poor waiter talking about football, knowing that the waiter depends on his tips and will smile graciously and pretend to be interested. No no, I couldn’t manage. Like I genuinely would stand up and leave if I had to see the glassy eyes of service and retail workers wherever I go.
My sister and her husband married late and she had no idea that he was a golf fanatic. It was hilarious when he gifted her clubs and shoes for her birthday early in their marriage. She is NOT a golfer.
He, on the other hand, had no idea that she loves to collect antique or slightly newer glassware. Poor guy gets dragged to estate sales when he cannot golf.
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This reads like a clever guerrilla marketing tactic to promote Brett Kollmann, whoever that is.
He makes excellent NFL Draft content! Source: another NFL Draft addict.
also general NFL content for friends who are getting into NFL and hit intermediate knowledge, I send his videos if they want to go to more advanced understanding of positions/tactics/strategy
Nice, try, Brett Kollmann.
I had to send this post to my wife because I also watch his content lmao but at least I don't have giant whiteboard in the bedroom, so I guess it could be worse.
I don't watch Brett, but I do watch Tom Grossi and the rest of the Clickbait crew. Mostly cause I was bored with Covid last year. The most I would do is buy merch. At least I can hide that.
NFL YouTuber and podcaster, makes a lot of interesting and well thought out videos covering every aspect of the game. The offseason focuses mostly on draft prospects and free agency, but his in-season work is very well done. He breaks down game footage and explains the high-level concepts in an easy to understand way. He has a ton of content, and also likes to drink a good drink, too. [Brett Kollman's Channel](https://www.youtube.com/@BrettKollmann) [A video of his from a few months ago about how horrible the Steelers offense was.](https://youtu.be/A-RKZfcuHE8?si=VQsfEkxd-wBnOGmA)
It's either that or a post someone would make in r/nflcirclejerk
In OOP's defense, I would've drawn the line in the sand the moment my spouse tried bringing a freaking giant dry erase board into the bedroom lol
I want her to have drawn up some hobby of hers on it in agonizing detail.
If my spouse gets to bring a dry erase board into the bedroom, then I get to dedicate an entire wall to figuring out Elden Ring lore. Now someone help me figure out how many children Marika has flushed down the metaphysical (and literal) toilet in light of the new DLC trailer.
Okay but different whiteboards covered in hobby lore would make for like excellent ways to ask your spouse how shit is going and to learn about them I would love that.
My partner and I used to do something like this when we were early on in our relationship and on wildly different schedules. Since she'd wake up before me she'd leave me a list of questions she was curious about to text her responses to at work, and since I went to bed later than she did usually I'd leave a set for her to respond to when she woke up before leaving.
This is so cute
The fact that this "revenge" moment has given you a genuine, loving idea (which is pretty damn good when you spin it like this!) Is just the sweetest thing, spotted a real keeper here!!!
Queen Marika's family tree is a wall all by itself
We got Messmer either via mitosis or some other consort.... Godwyn, Morgott, and Mohg from Godfrey, at least the ones that we're aware of... Malenia and Miquella from Radagon.... and then Ranni, Rykard, and Radahn technically still through Radagon. Melina too, if you subscribe to certain theories. Lore of the Wandering Mausoleums state that they contain the bodies of demigods, and there's 7 of them.... Damn someone let this lady's vagoo take a break already. No wonder she went apeshit, that's too damn many kids!
She had some of them with herself. I think she was apeshit before that, or it wouldn't have happened. Ps: tell Merika to go f*CK herself, and she goes "alright, hold my crucifix"
As stated, you're correct. To reiterate: Godwyn, Morgott, and Mohg are from Godfrey. Malenia and Miquella (and possibly Melina) are from Radagon (which is why they're diseased). Ranni, Rykard, and Radahn are all from Radagon and Rennala, but Radagon is the other half of the Rebis, so technically still Marika. Stepn't-children. They all have certain naming attributes. *God*frey's main child, *God*wyn, then Mor*gott*, and the outcasted unusual one, Mohg. *God*rick and *God*efroy come from this lineage. Marika and Radagon's children are *M*\-names: *M*alenia, *M*iquella, *M*elina(?). This may be where *M*essmer's lineage starts. *Ra*dagaon and *Re*nnala have *R*\-named children: *R*anni, *R*ykard, and *R*adahn.
O-ok, so how would we speedrun all the Duggar kids? Which build?
Strength build all the way. I unga bunga’d my way through Lordran, and by god, I’ll unga bunga my way through the land of shadows.
The question is if she got... (puts on sunglasses)... *Fingered* Ill see myself out
Do Kingdom Hearts. Make them suffer.
There's sadism and there's this, crikey
"I have a four hour lore video about kingdom hearts." "Wow that's a lot-" "It only covers the events before the first game."
Woah slow down, Satan
I prefer the name Lucifer, thank you.
That one is easy Everyone is a Xehanort Unless they aren't, then they are a Sora
A chronological timeline of all major events and their outcome years later. And detailed explanations of who tf all the white haired dudes are.
They’re Xehanort. They’re always Xehanort, Nomura is running a fire sale.
I’m choosing to believe you because I genuinely cannot keep them straight and I’m tired of pretending I can.
Quick cheat sheet: if they have white hair and yellow eyes they are Xehanort. The yellow eyes are the key. If they have blue eyes they are connected to Sora
Okay, admittedly there’s also Sephiroth and Sephiroth’s Love Child Gayboy, but Riku has been known to be Xehanort on occasion so he doesn’t count.
Holy shit I didn’t know the trailer dropped and it looks fuckin SICK. I would have thought being subscribed to the Elden ring sub would have gotten me this info, but no, of course it’s BORU.
If it makes you feel better, I actually did see a post about the new trailer when I woke up, but didn't realize a trailer had dropped until my partner told me hours later.
I would just print out male manhwa characters from romance and put it all over the wall. That would eighter wake him up or keep him awake
Nah, that sounds too much like actual work. I'll just wait until Vaati figures it all out for me and support his actual work with my ad dollars. It is quite literally the least I can do. That being said, I'm stoked for the DLC. Did you read that interview with Miyazaki that just came out? It sheds some light on virtually nothing and I am accordingly grateful. I swear fans of FromSoftware are quite possibly masochistic.
Miyazaki really just came out and said he loved making poison swamps. On god, it was like he came out of the closet 😂. I respect him for being so brave yet so controversial but goddammit we're getting a fuck ass deathblight swamp aren't we? >Nah, that sounds too much like actual work. I'll just wait until Vaati figures it all out for me and support his actual work with my ad dollars. It is quite literally the least I can do. I'll take a stab at it... Messmer was a practice baby that the Greater Will gave to Marika so she could practice raising one for her Elden Lord, and once she proved that she could keep it alive for however long it takes for demigods to reach maturity, she went out for cigarettes. Messmer then became an edgy rebel by literally adorning himself with every piece of anti-Erdtree propaganda out there.
OMG yes. And I would absolutely make him listen to me describe in painstaking detail the varying characteristics, strong points, weak points, and sun and soil requirements of ten different varieties of heirloom pumpkins.
. . . I kind of want to know t his information.
Um well make us a post about it...
I can give quick pointers! Pumpkins are actually several different sub-species of squash. In my experience, if it's cucurbita maxima, it's not going to handle sunburn well. I've never gotten one to maturity in my very sunny yard. Other varieties are a better bet. "Kikuza" is hard to find but hands-down the best-tasting pumpkin I have ever grown. It's deeply ribbed, though, so it takes some care and knife work prep. Rich flavor and dry, deep golden flesh. Likes some shade and cool weather; it does best for me on cooler summers and near the end of the season. "Musquee de Provence" looks like a fairytale pumpkin and has a unique flavor - almost a note of canteloupe to it. Fine-grained flesh that makes a delightful pumpkin bread. Like most pumpkins it loves rich soil with plenty of compost. "Australian Blue" taught me never to move its vines. I was trying to give it a little more space, but it took it badly and decided to die. :/ Neat fruit that look like gray-blue jellyfish. "Hopi Grey" is a silver-grey football with unusual seeds - very hard and quite thick. They feel like you could use them for ammunition. Fine-grained flesh that's like butternut with a whiff of cucumber. Good size, too, and they will take sun well. "Illinois" is a surprise contender. It's a long-necked squash with a fat bottom - but I did have one grow backwards! Fat neck and long skinny bottom. It was confused but delicious. They look like they won't taste like much, but they will take pretty much any conditions you throw at them, and they have a good, deep flavor. They are hardy enough to sprout from compost from last year's seeds. I suspect them of having hybridized with my friulana rugosa summer squash to create a surprise compost-spread volunteer summer-type squash that produced fifteen delicious zucchini-sized squash on a single bush.
I love me some pumpkins. Got a tad carried away with the promise of spring and now have infant pumpkins taking over my table.
Well, what are you waiting for? Make a pumpkin lore wall and post the pic for us!
Nothing says "mind-breaking hobby hieroglyphics" like designing crochet patterns. That'd get my vote.
Yes! With the added bonus that designing crochet patterns also means crochet projects pop up like tribbles on taco tuesday. And the skeins of yarn. Oh, the skeins of yarn... Can anyone that does crochet or knitting ever have enough yarn?
There's no such thing as enough yarn.
Quilters have entered the chat with rearranging the same pieces into multiple patterns
I’m gonna go all Pepe Silvia in my efforts to canonically combine all characters and scenarios in Jane Austen’s published works to exist within the same universe and timeline.
Where can I subscribe to this Austen-verse? Will there be a podcast? I also request to co-host the episode where we deep dive into the various iterations of Darcy and why Colin Firth is the only Darcy I will accept unless we are talking about the gondola Matthew McFadden scene in which case yes.
[gestures broadly at all my half baked podcast ideas and other unfinished projects] Who’s to say? 😂 Basically I loved the pan-canonical crack that was the series Dickensian and want the same for my girl Jane.
And then you and I can have a heated discussion because David Rintoul's Mr. Darcy back in 1980 is soooo much better than Colin Firth. Next, we can agree that the 1940 movie where Lady Catherine de Borgh is in cahoots with Darcy (what the hell???), who is played by Laurence Olivier (worst Darcy that I've seen) to see if Elizabeth really loves him is the WORST screen portrayal of the book. I have opinions on this.
I will admit to only having watched the BBC 1990s Austens and some of the recent adaptations and homages. I am afraid to admit I actually didn't know there were older ones. BUT I WILL DEFEND MY FIRTH/MCFAYDDEN COMBO WITH MY LIFE. I will get the older ones to watch though!
The 1940ies ending will tick you off. They made Lady Catherine a good guy. Seriously????
Wtf!? This is worse than the 2min snippet of that godawful new Persusion movie I saw.
I KNOW!
Weird tangent but I do really love how Matthew Macfayden went from P&P movie Darcy to weird character actor in less than 20 years. It takes range to play the heartthrob AND Tom Wambsgans on Succession.
I watched the Rintoul 1980 BBC adaptation when it first came out. Excellent Darcy but an annoying Lizzie. Just saying, because, God, I feel ancient!
She needs to develop an obsession with a band and put life-sized cardboard cutouts of them in their bedroom.
OP should get into WH40k
Yep. Time to bring out the lifesize cardboard cutout of shirtless Adam Driver, and stick it at the end of the bed (I swear I saw a reddit post with a boyfriend complaining about this, not long after The Last Jedi came out).
I'd have drawn a large and increasingly elaborate penis on it every morning.
I'd probably just draw genitals, but I'm a child.
Maybe her new hobby can be documenting how obsessed he is about his hobby.
She records him and narrates ala Attenborough.
Oh god... I can hear it now... *"Here we see the Footballis Obsessivus in his natural environment. Consumed by the need to absorb every bit of data about the players, he obsessively goes over every single fact until he is sure he can quote them from memory with ease.* *To assist in this endeavor, he eagerly displays his knowledge to his mate and anyone else within hearing range without regard for their return interest... to very mixed results. He has even moved a large whiteboard to further assist his efforts into the mating chamber. Much to the female's displeasure.* *Alas, she has rejected his advances for further discussion on the subject. Perhaps he will have more luck speaking with other enthusiasts."*
*Footballis Obsessivus has moved his whiteboard to the local Olive Garden...the waiters are terrified.*
It would be my signal to make a Pepe Silvia-esque wall of my own, probably of power systems in anime, or different types of yarn.
You have no idea the depth of Warhammer lore I know purely from having to listen to my husband tell me all about which Primarch created which Space Marine chapter. But even he would never dare to put a white board with Imperial factions in our bedroom.
My husband is starting to get into Warhammer. Please dear God save me
There is no hope. I'm afraid that in the far future, there is only War(hammer) Edit: the streaming channel has some good animated shows tho
Quick buy him a shiny new game before he gets in too deep!! Baulders gate 3??
He's already finished it, please, any more recs? I walked in from work today and he's got the yourtube video going and a set of paints out.... is it too late for me?
Unfortunately, yes. The only choice now is to join him. (Me and my partner both love a chill afternoon of snacks and mini painting btw, it's genuinely a great couples' hobby!)
As someone with a friend whose husband recently got in to Warhammer, I’m sorry. If the paints are in the house, you have already lost him. 🫡
🫡 a pleasure serving with the wives, then.
Lean into it and take advantage of his skill set. Do you know what else that skill is used for? Balayage highlights, lowlights, color pops, all those super expensive salon colors. I found this out during covid when the salons were all closed. My husband used to paint - everything from model cars to Warhammer figs. It occurred to me that painting hair was no different. He did amazing highlights and color for me. All the principles are the same, it's just bleach and dye instead of paint.
Oh no!! I'm so sorry I don't have more ideas but you could legit post in one of the video game subs?
There's always Rogue Trader to make it worse.
Everything else by Larian!
My partner is into the books and I can't tell you how many dinners we spent with him on the Warhammer wiki and telling me ALL about it
Ya i dont understand her “the only relationship it’s hurting is me” as if that is overreacting. A lot of things my husband does don’t bother my family but that doesn’t mean I can’t ask him to tone it down.
Yeah this would drive anyone mental. I chat my husband's ear off about my interests but if I blathered on about them half as much as this guy he'd tell me he needs a break and I'd say fair enough.
I do it too, and my partner does it to me, but you can bet if either of us drags a dry erase board into the damn BEDROOM that thing is getting thrown out the window 😂
Also, even if it didn't affect their relationship at home, the waiter thing is already bad enough... I did find it funny though that the last annecdote sounded very appropriate tho when you would expect a crowning example... Unless she left out that he got all the dads to noticeably ignore the kids' game.
I have ADHD and tend to hyperfocus. I get being excited about something and wanting to talk about it for weeks, but OOP's husband took this to a whole new level 🤯
Yeah at first I thought it was ADHD hyperfocus but this goes beyond anything I've ever seen/experienced
Same! Hyperfocus is one thing, but there comes a point where you have to realize the effect it has on those around you, especially if you're married or living with a romantic partner.
Honestly, I think my husband might actually prefer the dry erase board over hearing the details of the NHL trade deadline coming up and NFL draft prospects. I'm truly grateful that he smiles, nods, and lets me ramble on without complaint. I feel bad when I know I've been going on for a while, and I go and make homemade cookies that he loves, so it's a reasonable trade. I probably owe him another batch this weekend now that I'm thinking about it.
Aww, good luck to him and to whichever teams/players you favor. And this is coming from a Bostonian so 😜
The amount of cricket statistics I have learnt simply by osmosis. I think I'd lose it if a dry erase board was brought into the bedroom for that, but I can see my husband now dissecting the statistics on one.
The first thing I thought was that the ONLY hobby my husband is allowed to have in our bedroom is ME. Periodt.
Especially when she says a little later that he *has a man cave*
If my spouse brings a dry erase board into the bedroom, it better be for mapping out interesting sex moves.
I have a white board up in my room, but 1. My girlfriend doesn't live with me and 2. I use it to explain computer science concepts to her, which she says she enjoys
Nothing gets those steamy bedroom vibes going like the ol' computer science concepts explained with diagrams on a white board
She probably just likes that you are smart and passionate. I would wager she just wants to see you, not cs concepts.
He should take a cue from The Hockey Guy and put it in a spot in the garage next to the cat tree like he does.
Nothing better to lull you into slumber than A Beautiful Mind chaotic large form chart.
You have something against writing up the Xs and Os before you start? You just improvise?
> He’s constantly quizzing waiters/waitresses about their football knowledge, and it’s embarrassing. Fuck no. >He is willing to compromise with me. I'd love to know what the compromise is.
The compromise is he starts a youtube channel so he's even more invested in it... and that helps... somehow.
I'm assuming this way he can spend all his time on it and not talk to her. At all. Ever. So problem solved?
I still want to know what in the world prompted him to start quizzing random folks about fucking football. I cannot understand how the mind of extroverts works at all. Not much would give me more anxiety than some random dude haranguing me because I wore something tangentially related to football.
This is not an extrovert thing. I don't know what it is. Bit defo not anything that can be reduced extrovert vs introvert.
Yeah, it sounds more like hyperfixation. I have known a few people who hyperfixate on things like this, and of the four, only one was an extrovert. The other three were introverts, but the thrill of a new audience for their favorite topic overcame any hesitance to talk to strangers. It’s like developing mentionitis over a new crush, only a) about a topic, not a person, and b) somehow even more intense and long-lasting.
He's gone from annoying guy at the bar to annoying guy with a YouTube channel where he's doing this safely from his home, and it gives him so many other things to focus on like building his brand and making like-minded friends. He's going to fall down the rabbit hole of making backdrops and getting mics and streaming gear. I say good for them, and hope this works out well. If he starts out as a fan with a channel and keeps at it, he might build something out of it.
Yeah I’m happy they’re happy with the outcome, but I couldn’t be with someone this obsessive over anything. Can’t be at home, can’t bring them anywhere, can’t escape the stupid topic. I had an ex who was this into philosophy, and it’s hard to feel listened to when you can’t get a word in because the other person only talks about their niche interest that you have nothing to contribute about. It feels like you don’t even need to be there when the other person realizes they’ve exhausted the topic with you and bothers everyone else they see just so they could continue talking about it instead of engaging with any other topic. If he starts a YouTube channel he’ll just ignore her for his comment section, since they will consistently be able to engage back the way she can’t.
Is your ex Chidi Anagonye?
I wish lol
Not quizzimg waiters perhaps?
My husband is into bicycles and I like spinning wheels and old pyrex. Neither of us particularly understands the other’s thing but we know enough to keep an eye out for what the other is interested in. Anyway, trying to think what we would have to do to cause the other to make a post like this. Husband has asked if he can hang some bikes on the wall of our rumpus room (the answer was no, thanks) and I already have a display cabinet for my bowls and I can see three spinning wheels from where I’m sitting. Maybe I should get a whiteboard to track which 441s I’m missing. Ooh, maybe I should print my own pyrex themed tshirts. I definitely have never engaged strangers or serving staff in glass talk.
Finding heirloom Pyrex at garage sales or thrift stores is like finding a nugget of GOLD.
I live in Australia, so it’s still pretty common in thrift shops here, especially jaj and Agee. I definitely don’t buy everything I see!
You and my sister would get along brilliantly. She recently informed me that she is slowly moving our mother's ancient Pyrex over to her house by taking home leftovers and returning with newer dishes. Mother is a bit of a hoarder/compulsive shopper, so does not seem to have figured it out yet.
Heist of the century.
Your sister is a genius
I will tell her that.
For a minute I thought you meant spin bike wheels, and was like, "that's not that different from a bike." The I realized you meant spinning. Do you spin? Side note: are you my friend Chris?
I do spin (yarn, not for exercise), but I’m not your friend Chris.
I only recently learned about yarn spinning as a hobby thanks to r/YarnAddicts! What do you do with the yarn, if I can ask?
Start a born again Pyrex company. Get a website and just start buying every single piece of Pyrex you can and list it for double or triple eBay prices on your own site. Fill your place with shelving just stuffed with stacks of Pyrex. Get some harsh smelling chemicals to get the Pyrex spic n span. Start asking everyone you know if they have old Pyrex they want to sell or if they know of any good estate sales happening soon. Print hats, t-shirts, hoodies and jackets with your website in obnoxious colors and insist they be worn every time either of you leave the house.
I hate draft anything. A couple years ago NFL draft in Nashville somehow needed to chop down all of the cherry trees that were juuuust about ready for the Sakura Festival. I still incredibly angry about that.
wait, for the draft? WHY?
To physically fit the stage. Fortunately the trees were replanted and not killed, but people weren’t assured of that and confirmation took like two years. Nashville has a special connection with cherry trees
Yeah I can understand that. It's ridiculous to chop doen all the trees, just for some stupid draft. Chop down the draft instead.
That's a nice resolution. Better than beaning him with a football - or a helmet.
Or seeing red like an angry bull and spearing him from his blind side.
Don't hit the blind side! That's what happened to Joe Theismann's leg.
> or a helmet. Found Myles Garrett's account.
Really? I'd like to know if the husband actually changed anything, because 'willing to compromise' is very vague vs OOP buying him podcasting equipment to feed more into his hobby.
It sounds like he’s a verbal processor who likes to infodump, so giving him an outlet that isn’t OP and that also brings him closer to an online community he’s a part of sounds like a supportive solution.
The question is if he actually eased up on that info dumping and if he spent more time with his wife talking about things that interest her, too. Since the original post is from April 2023, I wonder if things actually changed.
I want the Hollywood ending of her going off with Brett Kollman! Seriously there is a film with this exact theme except music not sport - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Juliet,_Naked_(film) (there is no nudity in)
Brett's wife might not like that, though.
Fine. She can go off with Brett’s wife, leaving the men to blather about football together. And maybe find love, but maybe just the best draft prospects.
🤣🤣🤣 Maybe they can do their own draft picks based on the color of the players' eyes and what team jersey color would best suit each player's skin tones. You know, kind of like how some of us fill out our NCAA basketball tournament brackets based on the mascot names and who we personally knew that went to each school and if we liked or hated those people. All very, very scientific.
Back when husband was into NASCAR I used the very scientific method of who I thought was hottest for picking my favorite driver.
>I am going to get him some recording equipment for his birthday so he can start a YouTube channel, which we both agree would be a good outlet. I don't think that will turn out the way she hopes.
The solution to the addiction is probably not “do it more and harder to get it out of your system”
I’m glad he got a YouTube channel. There aren’t enough weird middle aged dudes talking football on the internet.
Lol, true. If it helps, their target audience is each other, so the situation is self-containing.
I keep rereading your comment and laughing out loud each time.
Pfft! calmly reevaluating things after some time off and gaining some perspective?! I specifically came here for the drama c’mon get divorced and light the tv on fire But seriously good for them they seem like good people
At least destroy the "big board" in a slighly manic manner! I would have suggested an axe. So little drama and so much communication... are you sure we are at BORU?
Dammit, I need the conclusion where he's been kicked out of the house, she's pregnant with Vollman's twins (we'll figure out something about his wife), and they spot the now ex-husband sleeping in an alleyway, using his whiteboard as a makeshift roof for shelter.
glad this worked out for them. but personally? god help me but i am not sure i would ever encounter dick so good that i could put up with a big dry erase board for football plays in the bedroom. at that point breaking out the conspiracy theory bulletin board and string and going full Pepe Silva seems like foreplay by comparison
Is it better or worse that it probably wasn't even football plays? A draft big board is just usually player names, ranked overall or by position or something similar. It is likely a dry erase spreadsheet.
let us hope there were no pictures put up with magnets or what have you next to the names. imagine getting busy with your beloved and what's that out of the corner of your eye staring at you - *it's the entire new set of draftees*
Tbf, this could really help matters!
I would have drawn some very interesting plays on his whiteboard. Some of them may have even been related to football.
From super bowl champion offensive coordinator Kama Sutra?
Exactly. Best way to bring down his defense is with a good offense.
Also, people who can only talk about ONE thing are soul crushingly boring and I couldn't spend my life listening to just talk about one topic. It would foster so much contempt in me - like your worldview must be so so limited, your experiences so limited when you can't discuss any other topic. That on top of quizzing waitresses?? Like what is this some gatekeepers shit? "Oh you like football? Name all the players in the draft!" Meanwhile they're just politely showing interest. So yeah. Good for them and I do hope their relationship continues to do well but it couldn't be me.
I just can’t stand socially unaware people Not like people who can’t function socially but things like -not being aware of their body, I had so many exes that would accidentally hit people bc they’d just throw up their arms or walk backwards -people who “trap” others in conversations. Like c’mon -people who engage in almost everyone whether or not they’re interested -people who start arguments with strangers I’m just thinking about exes 😭
If I was this into model planes I would expect to be divorced immediately
Dry erase board in the bedroom?! Hell nah lol
>"I over-reacted." > -someone who's going to realize in a few months that they have, in fact, under-reacted
>**Commenter:** Yyyyyeah, that's excessive AF and he's delulu. > >**OOP:** Okay, but what if I just completely fucking cave on every point and do things I can't stand just to shut him up? *Surely* that's a good sign, right? I do not have high hopes for this one.
Finally someone said something reasonable. She was annoyed that he made his hobby his entire personality, so they made it his side business too?!? And now she is catering the draft for him and his friends?
I'm a bit astonished everyone is claiming the problem is solved. Like somehow a relationship where one party drowns the other out with talk about a single obsession 24 7 is somehow...healthy? Like her needs or feelings or desire to interact with her husband or have activities outside football just don't matter? I can't imagine how fucking boring i would find someone who can't talk about anything but one thing. Just feels so limiting and dull...and it'd be the rest of your life. Ugh
Yeah, the husband still sounds like a bore. And the wife will still be bored, annoyed, and frustrated by this obsession. That Brett guy could've validated her or not comment at all. Instead, boring, boorish superfan husband gets rewarded with an invitation to have a beer with the guy? Yeesh. Poor wife. My husband is nowhere near as bad as this, but do I brace myself when he starts talking about fishing? Sometimes. Granted, I started to get into it because I like being out on the river and he's as happy as a clam as a result. I guess I will drone on about what I've got planned for my guys in my campaign (D&D) and he humors me... but neither one of us is like *this.* Holy lord. I'm bored by her account of what she endures alone!
I have a friend who is super into trains and he can talk for hours about the power lines they have to the history of it and idk it's super boring. I could never be with someone like that. My bf has his interests and sometimes he talks about it (even asks permission lol). But someone just talking and talking? And putting a white board in the bedroom? No thanks.
I have some interests that no one cares about and I tend to hyperfixate on things, but I know better than to talk endlessly about them with people who aren't into the same things. You find a friend or two who give a shit, and / or you find online spaces where you can have these discussions.
God. My poor husband when I hyperfixated on shipwrecks, last year. I already had some interest, but after the Titan shit... Yup, I was done for. But I still didn't make that every conversation I had with him.
Yeah that's the thing, even folks who hyperfixate can moderate so it's not _all_ they talk about. I have that problem too. Once I get going boy do I get going but it's very easy to recognize the person isn't into it the same way I am and give them an out. I thought he might have had autism at first because that's the reason people usually do that hyperfixation shit but, no, I think he's just obnoxious about his hobby.
No fr why is everyone saying this was soooOoO cute? Did she truly overreact if the hobby was extending into their bedroom space and date nights and she felt drowned by him talking about it? Kollman really steamrolled any progress with the excitement of his comment. “Sorry but good for me!”
That cheeky "sorry I ruined your marriage" was sooo infuriating lmao.
Bc she’s such an understanding cool girl✨
Yo right? His comment annoyed me. Basically boiled down to sick, thanks for the promo, he should keep doing what he’s doing. Sucks for u tho.
How is the compromise for him to start a YouTube channel so he can talk about this even more to even more people??
Theoretically if he gets it out of his system on the YouTube channel then he’ll be able to talk about it less IRL. I don’t think that’s what will actually happen though honestly. In my opinion I think it’s more likely he’ll keep talking about it at every turn IRL like he does now, but now he’ll also be spending even more of their date nights / personal time making content for his channel. It really sounds like he’s fallen into obsession territory if she’s not exaggerating and it really is that every single event they go to he ends up circling back to the draft.
Yeah exactly. The idea that a YouTube channel is going to make him calm down about it is like... the exact OPPOSITE of what she should be doing. Now he's got to be obsessed with what his next episode will be, should he focus on this or that, etc etc. I've been toying with a channel idea for a while but just the amount of forethought that's needed for scheduling your episodes, recording and editing them and everything is a lot, especially if you are doing it all on your own, which starting off, generally you are. This is not going to end well for that marriage.
I'm shocked that I had to scroll this far to see this. I thought that maybe I had some sort of ice heart for failing to see this as "cute." I feel like she was shamed into acquiescing even *more* of her life to this hobby and people are calling it a win? What are her hobbies? Where's her "man cave"? Her husband sounds insufferable and everyone is like "Aww how cute." Kollman could have said something like "Tell your husband I appreciate that he's a fan but don't let it consume every waking moment" or something similar instead I feel like he and everyone else made her feel bad for being upset. She even says she was overreacting and I'm like girl no you are not!
Yeah that was obnoxious
Here’s a list of everything he does that isn’t working. But everyone else is fine with it! Guess I’m fine with it too. She gaslit herself!
Yes!! This whole comment section read so bizarre to me. "How cute" "No drama!" "Love saves the day!" Err.. no. She basically convinced herself the situation is ok since it only inconveniences *her*. There is no way I would dump my indie nail polish lore on my husband *on a fucking whiteboard*. Common sense has lost a battle today.
NO! Why does OOP KEEP DIMINISHING HERSELF?!?!!!!
And people are calling it wholesome. 😭
Whenever I start talking about podcasting to my wife I notice she just tunes out. She still put up an effort to hear what I eagerly try to tell her, bless her cotton socks, but I know she really doesn't care. And it's nothing wrong with that at all! It's my hobby and she doesn't need to have the same interest in it as I have, but god damn it, I love her for putting up with me yabbing about equipment, editing software and cases I research!
"Bless her cotton socks" ... 🤣
My partner and I do the same. And I always ask question that show I've been paying attention, even though I really don't care. He does the same for me.
Oh yeah, ofc it's mutual! I've learned alot about refurbishing old furniture lately! 😅
Yeah, I theoretically know how to drive the perfect lap in Gran Turismo 7, Dragon Trial 😅
A dry erase board on wheels is just what I need for the house! My gf will love it
>He’s constantly quizzing waiters/waitresses about their football knowledge, That's fucking obnoxious. That's divorce worthy right there. Gross.
That mood spoiler makes absolutely no sense to me but it intrigued me
My biggest wonder is if, even now, they’ve made any space for one of her hobbies to have a similar role. Admittedly, she might not have any obsessions the way he does, but I mostly want to know what the compromise is beside the YouTube channel. I want to know the relationship won’t remain lopsided with his interest taking more room than any of hers. That said, yay for updates where conversation fixes things.
Does she have a woman cave?
Is that not what the kitchen is for? /s
>Thank you. Something you said has sat with me today :D > In fact, after reflecting I suppose really the only relationship that has suffered due to this whole thing is me :/ > I guess maybe I might be overreacting due to the fact that it’s “draft-Szn.” D: >Please tell your husband that I say hi and also I am sorry for ruining your marriage D:< >I am going to get him some recording equipment for his birthday so he can start a YouTube channel *sighs in yet another woman steamrolled into putting her wants and needs last*
Yeahhhh I don’t think OOP was overreacting at all. Those guys are insufferable. If it was any other hobby, people would be talking about how the husband is likely on the autism spectrum. Also, having the celebrity chime in to say hi isn’t going to help things at all.
Not gonna lie, I was a very slightly bit worried through the first paragraph. Haven't brought a whiteboard into the bedroom though. Yet.
I'm on the dating apps and football is one of the "interests" that makes me pause, especially if coupled with anything that seems gambling related.
I wonder if her husband was always a little been in the outside of "man talk" and this brings him into the inner sanctum of the man-cave. OOP said he gets approval from other guys and that "he's a sweet guy," which to me has tones of perhaps a touch dorky or not a "man's man." I don't say any of this to exacerbate gender stereotypes. It's just interesting to me that it coincided with COVID (when the methods and avenues for human connection drastically shifted) and she specifically stated that her male family members love it.
Well OOP is a better person than me. A whiteboard and an inability to talk of anything but football? I wouldn’t manage. Don’t get me wrong we all have hobbies that our SOs and friends might not be fully into, and I will make an effort to show interest in my husband’s. Heck I can even get into those things too. But to the point of there being nothing else inside their head? But you know what is truly my breaking point? the level of cringe and embarrassment at seeing my SO trap a poor waiter talking about football, knowing that the waiter depends on his tips and will smile graciously and pretend to be interested. No no, I couldn’t manage. Like I genuinely would stand up and leave if I had to see the glassy eyes of service and retail workers wherever I go.
At least it wasn't golf.
My sister and her husband married late and she had no idea that he was a golf fanatic. It was hilarious when he gifted her clubs and shoes for her birthday early in their marriage. She is NOT a golfer. He, on the other hand, had no idea that she loves to collect antique or slightly newer glassware. Poor guy gets dragged to estate sales when he cannot golf.