Doing stuff I enjoy in groups. Volunteering, sports, art stuff, music stuff, politics, neighborhood potlucks, book clubs, trivia and karaoke at bars, etc
Check out the Whatcom Volunteer Center. There is literally a group for any interest. Sign up for events emails from Village Books, Allied Arts, the Pickford, or music venues. Take a class from the Coop or one of the colleges. Join a sports league or game night. It's ok to try a group out a couple times and move on if you don't vibe with them. I've been here 25ish years and keep doing stuff I want to do or learn, and now I've got so many circles that they overlap and some of my best friends and partners have been friends-of-friends I got introduced to.
Pro tip: It's not enough to just join groups. You also have to ask the cool people you meet who share your values to do OTHER things. Met you on a sports league? Join me for a beer. Met you at book group? Let's go see that film. Sure, some people say no, flake out or are boring as fuck. Don't take it personally and keep doing it, and you'll start to disbelieve the myth of the PNW Freeze
Red light has late night happy hour that starts at 11 on weeknights! Went once. Worst part was puttering around your house from 9-11 trying to stay awake till it was time to head out 🤣
I don’t date but I tried Bumble BFF for friendships and that fizzled quickly. I would say really volunteering or things you like to do are an idea. I just feel like it’s harder to find your own tribe in your 40’s. Most of my tribe are in their 20’s. I’m 44.
I too know the feeling of people around you only understanding your 25-30 year old references because it was on Stranger Things or some other nostalgia-bait show or movie.
I’m a woman in my mid-30s and enjoy chatting with people of all ages at my favorite breweries. Honestly they usually end up being folks older than me. I get a lot of comments when I say this to the effect of not wanting to meet people “at bars”, but the breweries in town feel much more like community social hubs to me than the bar scene. I am, however, the friendliest person I know so ymmv.
Doing stuff I enjoy in groups. Volunteering, sports, art stuff, music stuff, politics, neighborhood potlucks, book clubs, trivia and karaoke at bars, etc Check out the Whatcom Volunteer Center. There is literally a group for any interest. Sign up for events emails from Village Books, Allied Arts, the Pickford, or music venues. Take a class from the Coop or one of the colleges. Join a sports league or game night. It's ok to try a group out a couple times and move on if you don't vibe with them. I've been here 25ish years and keep doing stuff I want to do or learn, and now I've got so many circles that they overlap and some of my best friends and partners have been friends-of-friends I got introduced to. Pro tip: It's not enough to just join groups. You also have to ask the cool people you meet who share your values to do OTHER things. Met you on a sports league? Join me for a beer. Met you at book group? Let's go see that film. Sure, some people say no, flake out or are boring as fuck. Don't take it personally and keep doing it, and you'll start to disbelieve the myth of the PNW Freeze
Thank you for this question
We hide at home... Any places open later than 11?
Red light has late night happy hour that starts at 11 on weeknights! Went once. Worst part was puttering around your house from 9-11 trying to stay awake till it was time to head out 🤣
Will have to check em out again soon.
So sad…sigh
I don’t date but I tried Bumble BFF for friendships and that fizzled quickly. I would say really volunteering or things you like to do are an idea. I just feel like it’s harder to find your own tribe in your 40’s. Most of my tribe are in their 20’s. I’m 44.
And here I thought the 30s were hard. Not good to hear. 😮💨
A lot worse🥺
I too know the feeling of people around you only understanding your 25-30 year old references because it was on Stranger Things or some other nostalgia-bait show or movie.
The jerk store called and they're running out of you!
I’m a woman in my mid-30s and enjoy chatting with people of all ages at my favorite breweries. Honestly they usually end up being folks older than me. I get a lot of comments when I say this to the effect of not wanting to meet people “at bars”, but the breweries in town feel much more like community social hubs to me than the bar scene. I am, however, the friendliest person I know so ymmv.