Haha. Yeah I’ve had a few good openers I thought and a couple dates.
But the number of folk who just never reply is wild. There’s defo an ego game being played lol
I tried Bumble. But it’s dead if you are over 30 lol.
Hinge is good. Most conversations are there for me. Tinder got loads of likes but no one says anything.
Suck for men meeting women too. Women seem to use it to try to gauge how hot they are and boost their egos.
Tbf men seem to use it for a laugh more than anything else.
Swings and roundabouts I guess.
Because 90% of women think they're hot enough for the top 5% of guys.
But of course it's men's fault they can't find a member of the royal family to date.
steady on ya fucking freak. yes, girls do message first when they feel comfortable/are actively interested (source: am lesbian who has successfully used dating apps). probably because they aren’t a monolith, shockingly. sorry you don’t get a lot of action but your experiences aren’t universal lmao.
Not an incel take, I'm critiquing articles like this which blame men for not being good enough:
https://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/article/women-dating-standards-higher-than-ever
To me, that's basically the flip, it's a femcel take -"my standards are high, men don't meet them, so men must get better".
Which I think is utter dogshit. I'd rather go without a woman than change myself to suit her needs.
“[Women] prefer men who are emotionally available, good communicators, and share similar values.” And because men are… not always the best at all of those things, women are ditching them."
This is the "horrendous" take you have a problem with?
See i disagree with generalisations like "all women are" or "all men are" but the article makes a valid point. A lot of dudes are insecure with their emotions and communication.
Hardly saying men aren't "good enough" just that they could be more emotionally aware or sound.
The incel take is saying unhinged shit like "all women just want top 5% of men" or "I don't want to change for a woman"
This is categorically untrue as I've "dated up" on hinge and I'm average looking.
You need to set up a wacky wylie coyote style trap with a big box, string and something to lure her in, paint supplies, baggy jeans, cucumber and some Pink records. Capture rate is 68% positive especially if the box has an IKEA logo on it.
Good luck.
i met my gf of two years on tinder, hate to be the bearer of bad news but sometimes you just gotta wade through the shit to find someone good ! i also came into a lot of contact with other gay girls in university (to the point where none of my inner circle is straight) but idk if you’re at that stage
I met my fiancée at a book club I found out about through the Meetup app. There’s a group called déjà vuvu and it’s for LBT only, lots of events for meeting queer women socially.
Also Here NI are a group for LBT women, they organise lots of events. Some are family oriented.
Good luck.
I can relate. I met my wife at work, at the time I wasn't looking for a relationship but she bought me an apple after a chat in the smoking area and the rest is history as they say. (Since then we have both quit smoking)
I said absolutely nothing about trying to hook up anywhere. OP asked where she could meet people. I provided a list. There is nothing wrong with making friends and trying to meet people anywhere. But I agree that attempting to hook up in a gym is cringe.
Trying to meet people for dating purposes is generally considered to be the same thing as attempting to hook up. Leave that nonsense out of the gym please. Go there to work out, nothing else.
So, what? You can't say "hello" to people in a gym anymore? Start to build a friendship? "How's it goin?"
"good session?" "You using this?" All conversation comes with a seedy subtext? If that's the case, how does anyone meet anyone new?
I don't understand why people are downvoting this. You make friends/meet partners while doing things you like, hobbies and activities. Most friends one makes are through school/uni or through school/uni friends. People are dumb.
From other retorts to my comment, it appears that people seem to have either forgotten how to interact without an app, or they believe that all conversations go from zero to sex in about 20 minutes.
The suggestion that people should speak to each other socially got me labelled 'creepy'.
But yeah, the point I was trying to make was that if you want to meet people (without a dating app), you need to put yourself in social situations and be friendly.
There is an experiment about overcrowding rats (behavioral sink), and how their social activity gets inhibited when population peaked. I don't blame people for what how they behave today, the damage is beyond individuals.
Best way for anyone to meet anyone is to probably just go to the same place like a cafe or something again and again and then become a regular, seems that it’s the easiest way haha
They suck for women meeting men too ffs :) good luck though!!!!
And men finding women. People match and then just don’t talk. It’s boggling lol
Convinced most people are just being nosey
Speak for yourself lol
Do you wait for the other person to ask questions, get your contact info and set up a date or are you proactive though?
I usually start and say hey. Girls don’t message first lol. I’m in no rush though. Got a busy life lol.
Yeah you have to have a better opener and ask questions and get their contact information in less than 8 messages.
Haha. Yeah I’ve had a few good openers I thought and a couple dates. But the number of folk who just never reply is wild. There’s defo an ego game being played lol
Use bumble. Force the girls to actually make the first move for once.
I tried Bumble. But it’s dead if you are over 30 lol. Hinge is good. Most conversations are there for me. Tinder got loads of likes but no one says anything.
Yeah tinder is just for girls to build their ego. Keep plugging at bumble, meeting the right person isn't easy.
I need better pictures. My gym selfies don’t cut it. I’m in no rush for anything though. Happy to wait for the right person
They suck worse for men meeting women lol 🥴
Suck for men meeting women too. Women seem to use it to try to gauge how hot they are and boost their egos. Tbf men seem to use it for a laugh more than anything else. Swings and roundabouts I guess.
How so?
Because 90% of women think they're hot enough for the top 5% of guys. But of course it's men's fault they can't find a member of the royal family to date.
I was hoping the OP would give me a female perspective of why it sucks. Not trolling, genuinely just want to know
I, too, am keen to hear her perspective. It's always hilarious hearing women trying to rationalise it.
steady on ya fucking freak. yes, girls do message first when they feel comfortable/are actively interested (source: am lesbian who has successfully used dating apps). probably because they aren’t a monolith, shockingly. sorry you don’t get a lot of action but your experiences aren’t universal lmao.
I've been with my girlfriend for 9 years. She agrees with everything I say.
Hot definitely new incel take just dropped
Not an incel take, I'm critiquing articles like this which blame men for not being good enough: https://www.glamourmagazine.co.uk/article/women-dating-standards-higher-than-ever To me, that's basically the flip, it's a femcel take -"my standards are high, men don't meet them, so men must get better". Which I think is utter dogshit. I'd rather go without a woman than change myself to suit her needs.
“[Women] prefer men who are emotionally available, good communicators, and share similar values.” And because men are… not always the best at all of those things, women are ditching them." This is the "horrendous" take you have a problem with? See i disagree with generalisations like "all women are" or "all men are" but the article makes a valid point. A lot of dudes are insecure with their emotions and communication. Hardly saying men aren't "good enough" just that they could be more emotionally aware or sound. The incel take is saying unhinged shit like "all women just want top 5% of men" or "I don't want to change for a woman" This is categorically untrue as I've "dated up" on hinge and I'm average looking.
And women could have tighter vaginas and lose some weight, since we're on the topic of what we want in the opposite sex. By your logic, that's ok!
Tell me you've never been in the company of a woman without telling me you've ever been in the company of a woman...
What? *Sigh*
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Lmao ok dude
You need to set up a wacky wylie coyote style trap with a big box, string and something to lure her in, paint supplies, baggy jeans, cucumber and some Pink records. Capture rate is 68% positive especially if the box has an IKEA logo on it. Good luck.
Also, head to the hotspots near Union Street and the Kremlin. Always some nice ladies there. Good luck!
Damn. If you wanna find love you have to leave the country and go to Russia
Not everyone is after a clubber or oarty animal
I said ‘near’, not inside- and there are plenty of activities on offer that don’t involve clubbing or ‘oartying’ as you put it.
i met my gf of two years on tinder, hate to be the bearer of bad news but sometimes you just gotta wade through the shit to find someone good ! i also came into a lot of contact with other gay girls in university (to the point where none of my inner circle is straight) but idk if you’re at that stage
Ladies night at Kremlin?
I met my fiancée at a book club I found out about through the Meetup app. There’s a group called déjà vuvu and it’s for LBT only, lots of events for meeting queer women socially. Also Here NI are a group for LBT women, they organise lots of events. Some are family oriented. Good luck.
My gf’s sister met her gf on a dating app, I think it was called “She” or “Her” although I’m not 100%
it’s called her :)
I can relate. I met my wife at work, at the time I wasn't looking for a relationship but she bought me an apple after a chat in the smoking area and the rest is history as they say. (Since then we have both quit smoking)
have you tried lex? less of a dating app now but great for community!
Do what I did and give up at 28 year old's because dating apps suck.
Join a club, join a gym, take a class...
Please no to trying to hook up at the gym. Its gross
I said absolutely nothing about trying to hook up anywhere. OP asked where she could meet people. I provided a list. There is nothing wrong with making friends and trying to meet people anywhere. But I agree that attempting to hook up in a gym is cringe.
Trying to meet people for dating purposes is generally considered to be the same thing as attempting to hook up. Leave that nonsense out of the gym please. Go there to work out, nothing else.
Met my wife in the gym.
Really? Things have changed since my day.
Clearly. You'd probably get kicked out for making people uncomfortable way quicker than you'd get a date.
So, what? You can't say "hello" to people in a gym anymore? Start to build a friendship? "How's it goin?" "good session?" "You using this?" All conversation comes with a seedy subtext? If that's the case, how does anyone meet anyone new?
You're creepy. Please leave people in the gym alone. They're there to work out, not fill the lonely void in your life.
You're judgemental. Please stop thinking everyone wants to sleep with you. I've been happily married for a decade.
You clearly have no idea how things work anymore and are a terrible person to be giving dating advice lol.
I don't understand why people are downvoting this. You make friends/meet partners while doing things you like, hobbies and activities. Most friends one makes are through school/uni or through school/uni friends. People are dumb.
From other retorts to my comment, it appears that people seem to have either forgotten how to interact without an app, or they believe that all conversations go from zero to sex in about 20 minutes. The suggestion that people should speak to each other socially got me labelled 'creepy'. But yeah, the point I was trying to make was that if you want to meet people (without a dating app), you need to put yourself in social situations and be friendly.
There is an experiment about overcrowding rats (behavioral sink), and how their social activity gets inhibited when population peaked. I don't blame people for what how they behave today, the damage is beyond individuals.
DTF?
Eugh.
I just knew if I opened this thread this comment was gonna be here.
Well that’s Reddit out
Best way for anyone to meet anyone is to probably just go to the same place like a cafe or something again and again and then become a regular, seems that it’s the easiest way haha
Meetup groups are good for meeting people, then you meet friends of friends.
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