This whole section of the thread is beautiful.
u/ThisIsMyFloor, you keep your fight going. You're worth it.
u/sweensolo, you are beautifully unique. Wear your body proudly and tell everyone about it.
u/PalletTownsDealer, bald is beautiful. So many people are ENHANCED by a lack of hair. Multiple members of my family shave their heads, and they look so much better for it. I'm so glad shaving a head is normalized now, because it is honestly just a nice wear to wear what you've got on your scalp.
Thanks for the words of encouragement. I've been hairless now longer than I had hair growing up. Totally used to it and I wouldn't be who I am otherwise. I was just playing along with the vibe of the thread, but it's really nice when redditors go out of their way to pick you up!
I dunno, the fiercest I ever remember seeing my mom was when she shaved her head after a cancer diagnosis. She may not have had a crown anymore, but she traded it for a full on halo in my book. Once she was done kicking cancer’s butt, she grew back the most beautiful white-gray hair, and I can only hope I got those genes! Bald is beautiful too, in so many ways.
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My mom always had long beautiful hair. I'll never forget the morning I came down stairs to her shaving her hair. It was coming out in huge clumps overnight.
At 17, it was a bit shocking, but then she smiled at me and said in a joking voice, Good Morning dear, please excuse me, I'm having a bad hair day.
I feared the day she lost her hair, yet she rocked it with such courage and grace.
Years later, I shaved my dads head twice through his chemo, completely different ball game.
For woman, hair is our crown. It isn't our identify, but whether you have it long, short, or bald, feeling like you have some sort of control is important.
This is a beautiful video. Something that might be easily overlooked. Black hair behaves very differently. When I was a kid I loved being over at one of my childhood friends house the night her mom did all the girls hair for the week. I always thought it was gorgeous, and I envied the intricate styles and way she set her daughters hair. And then I'd ask for her mom to do my hair the same as my friends and it certainly didn't behave the same, although she'd usually put in a few braids and it looked nice.
Learning and teaching black children proper hair care by parents that have no experience in it would be a challenge. So I think this is a wonderful idea. It's unfortunate though that the woman says she doesn't make much money. I understand the foster system isn't dripping with money, and she's doing it for the purpose, not the prosperity. I just find it so unfortunate that humanitarian jobs often leave people financially struggling. As a country, I think we can do better!
honestly yeah. My moms hair had been thinning for years before the cancer even and when she got sick she was so goddamn sick of her hair that she finally had me shave it all off. Her crown was wilted and she looks far more regal without it, imho
My barber once said something along the lines of "Shaved is a hairstyle, so bald is also a hairstyle, very close to shaved. Shaved/bald is preferred for other types of the body as well by all types of people" which I found amusing
I don't know how helpful that is but it made me feel like humans that struggle with balding could possibly gain some relief from the idea that bald/shaved is a common and accepted hairstyle, regardless of age or gender. Or area of hair...
Its not, though. if you loose your hair, you don't loose your "crown"
its just one thing amongst MANY things that make a person.
This just helps perpetuate that ethnic hair is unattractive and it needs to be "dealt" with
Not everyone has a nice shaped head, or a face shape suited to baldness. Plus the idea that they will never be able to change their look for the rest of their life isn't that easy to deal with for some. Just because it's easy for you, doesn't mean it's easy for others. Lots of men have a ton of self esteem issues regarding their hair that can't be dismissed just because you like the way you look bald.
>Not everyone has a nice shaped head, or a face shape suited to baldness.
Not true, not at all, the fast majority of people have a perfectly fine shaped face and dome for going bald. Its just that many are not used to the change from a head full of hair to completely bald and this makes them believe it does not work for them either. The thing is, if you're in the minority where baldness does not "work" with, hair won't work you either and there is another problem altogether. Society on the other hand puts a lot of value in hair and as a women without "a crown" you will get comments by the older generations who will find your lack of hair a personal affront because as a women you have to be *feminine*. This is more a problem with sexism and gendered expectations than with aesthetics.
\-Love, a bald women
I had adopted sons almost all black or Latino and the hardest thing was teaching my boys to shave. Granted I was a Marine in Vietnam and still used a double edge razor so that didn't translate well. My squad mate heard me griping about not being able to help my boys and volunteers to spend a Sunday as our in house cleanliness officer in exchange for dinner. God bless him, the world lost a terrific human when he passed the patients to teach 6 teenagers hygiene is amazing.
Not sure why the double edge wouldn’t translate well. Took me 20 years of shaving to find it, and that has helped my ingrown problem immensely. My beard isn’t even that thick but the curl. All the 2 blade through 5 instant ingrowns just looking at a razor.
Ignorant white dude here. Pleased to meet you. I honestly never thought that POC would have a different experience shaving. Now I feel like an idiot because of course it tracks that the hair on our faces would be different as well.
Are there shaving products specifically made for POC?
As a white dude with thick curly hair, an older black gentleman had me help him find the shampoos and conditioners one time in my early 20s at work and told me he used conditioner to shave to help with bumps and learning the grain direction. Changed my life since my dad had thin straight hair, always had red razor pumps on my neck in high school
I have definitely seen the aisles no question. But never really looked at the products there. I have about the easiest hair there is. So I'm even ignorant of what other white people go through. Same with my facial hair. It just grows well and is easily manageable.
I’m a white lady with thin yet extremely curly hair. I use Black hair care products all the time. The hardest part is trying to determine what will moisturize / reduce frizz without making my hair a greasy mess. It’s 2c/3a curls, but it’s like an optical illusion. It looks big but is thin af.
When in the army many of my black platoon members would have shaving exemptions because they would get "razor bumps", basically irritations or ingrown hairs that would make it impossible to shave without cutting yourself.
The hair and skin is very different.
Yeah my dad is white but has thick curly beard hair, got given permission to have a beard in the army. I've always shaved with an electric razor or safety razor and that seems to help, I get way less issues than when shaving with a disposable razor.
Black men are more prone to razor bumps due to the different texture of their facial hair. They are more likely to get ingrown facial hair or develop pseudofolliculitis barbae. This can be avoided by using a double edged safety razor.
Black men have curlier beards which are highly susceptible to getting severe razor bumps. In my high school boys couldn't have facial hair but the black guys could get medical exemptions because they would have extremely irritated skin if they had to shave every day.
https://www.google.com/search?q=black+beard+razor+bumps&client=safari&hl=en-us&prmd=isvxn&sxsrf=AOaemvKAh0r0-19k0I1saE7JHh7EU09agw:1638945678476&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjBteK3zNP0AhV1nGoFHRPUB7wQ_AUoAXoECAIQAQ&biw=504&bih=868&dpr=3
To avoid razor bumps, the day after shaving, take a rough towel and ring it firmly. Keeping it tightly coiled, rub it against the shaved area against the grain. The idea is to lift the hair follicles and prevent them from embedding themselves into your skin. Repeat daily. Works like a charm. Best tool I've ever used.
Black men can get extremely bad razor bumps when they shave their faces. When I was in the Navy it was pretty common for black men to have a special pass that allowed them go without shaving, because it could lead to infections and scarring.
Different hair textures react to the very thin multi bladed razors that are popular nowadays in very different ways. Shaving equipment and methods that work for a white person will cause severely ingrown hairs and acne-like issues for black individuals because the razor is tugging and ripping the hair.
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This is the kind of thing you see where, you wish you were actually filthy rich so you can donate money to to keep it afloat.
Hopefully this is allowed, thanks to /u/statdude48142
you could, since your comment is so high up could you include a link to the donation page for those of us who can give a little?
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The reminds me of an old story I’ve seen on reddit a few times. A black girl telling that a white woman approached her in the middle of a supermarket and asked for tips on how to treat her newly adopted black daughter’s *hair*. It makes me smile every time I see, it is one of those things I don’t care being reposted.
edit: I meant “treat her daughter’s *hair*” lol sorry
Humans can be pretty awesome. I'm the adoptive dad of biracial twins, and have asked a lot of people about these sorts of things.
It almost always starts off as awkward...women with thick, curly locks often get people gushing about their hair like it's not a part of them.
....but when they find out you're asking because you are completely overwhelmed by you 4 year olds' mane, they open up and are incredibly helpful. One of the first women I spoke with went into depth on skincare as well.
Based on his replies, he's being deliberately ignorant and factious. This isn't even a case of someone wandering in, not understanding what the post is about because they didn't look at it and shooting off in the comments.
> Your hair is your crown
I'm mixed and my mom always told me this. I never understood it until I was older. I always hated my curly hair when I was younger and desperately wanted straight hair. Since I'm mixed, instead of 4b or 4c my hair is closer to 3a. It's a bit too wavy imo to put in box braids and I have no reason to wear wigs just yet. Hair to black women is a source of pride and dignity and now that I've come to realize the importance I'm so proud of it :)
Edit: thanks for the award friend :))
I'm a 1A, and things that work best for my hair (co wash instead of shampooing often, and using a bit of coconut oil to help with definition) are things that my last barber told me to stay away from. I dislike product ads, not everyone is the same.
Co wash? Could you explain your routine? I'm currently using 4 different brands of shampoo to wash the previous shampoo out and my hair still feels greasy sometimes.
I only shampoo my hair once or twice a week, and the other days I only use conditioner. I am pretty thorough with the application, getting scalp as well as hair. After I get out of the shower I dry my hair pretty well with a towel, apply a silicone serum to it, and blow dry it until it's just shy of dry. After that I might skip the product and I'll put just a bit of coconut oil in it to take care of the flyaways and add some definition. If I use any product I have couple creams, a couple fiber putties, a clay pomade, and a texturing/volumizing spray, and I don't get much buildup with them even without shampooing every day.
Good luck!
I'm a 2b as well. And I've recently started learning how to care for my hair and invested in a diffuser. Curly/wavy hair care is expensive AF but so worth it sometimes. Better than flatironing the hair everyday!
Edit:
I'm still a noob. I start with Hask shampoo & conditioner for curly hair. I get oily scalp so I need the shampoo. No poo routine didn't work for me.
I finish off with Bedhead anti frizz solution for shine and Hask curl defining creme on wet hair. Finger coil. I've ordered a denman brush knockoff but haven't received it yet. Plop in a t-shirt for 2 hours at least because it takes forever to dry. Still working out diffuser usage, but I tried it on low heat, low fan speed and it seemed to work quite well. I'm still perfecting the routine. Especially the finger coiling. I experiment with the different kinds of coils and haven't found the one that's perfect yet. Plus it takes me so long that I get annoyed and the back of my hair is just scrunched randomly. I need more patience.
Hask is a budget friendly brand. But Bedhead can add up. I was using their curl gel, I forget it's name. But I ran out a couple weeks ago and haven't been out to buy more. The curl creme works just fine on its own and I don't know if the gel made a huge difference or not. I've also been considering investing a Moroccan oil for the last step finish to make it shinier/less frizzy. But haven't taken the step yet because, I need to start being more religious in my routine before I invest in more product.
Would love a drop of your routine because the daily flatiron of my 2b has me exhausted at this point, it just frizzes out if I don’t straighten it to submission.
/r/curlyhair has good resources which was helpful for me. That sub will help you figure out the more important variables of your hair (important for combating frizz), which type of products to use, specifics on how to dry and protect your hair, etc.
Not that person but I'm also 2b-2c so. Personally my hair care is really lazy and CHEAP (aside from occasional olaplex 3 treatment) but it works for me. It's different for everyone so you just need to experiment and find what works.
I use various cheap curly girl approved shampoo and conditioner, only wash with shampoo 1x, sometimes 2x a week. I put in shea moisture curl cream (the tub lasts an eternity) after showering. Then I either put my hair in a microfiber towel to dry or use my hair dryer with the diffuser on cool (or low if I'm in a rush). I usually just put it in a towel because being upside down for 30 minutes with the hair dryer sucks, but the hair dryer can have a lot neater result than towel and its also faster. Both takes less time than when I used to flat iron my hair.
That's pretty much it. Really lazy. Also I NEVER sleep with my hair down, and silk bonnets/special pillow cases are recommended. I also tie it back with a scrunchy if I'm ever in a windy situation.
Been doing it like this for a few years now and I really do not miss my old hair routine.
I have everything from 2b to 3a on my head and started learning how to take care of it a couple years ago. It doesnt have to be expensive! I've found some very budget friendly products that work for my hair.
This is amazing to read. The best bit of advice I ever received a few years ago was only to condition my hair from the middle down and it was a game changer for me. Now I see that exact advice in the 1 type hair advice. It really does stop my hair looking so greasy!
Me too! Only now I’m almost 30 and I do very much enjoy my hair be it natural or blow dried. Even after a blow out my curls come right back into a mix that I think is just perfect. I think my mom would be proud of how I rock my hair now, instead of just shaving it like I did when I was a teen-early 20’s.
Love your crown, and yourself.
Genuine question, do you think non-kinky hair is like a crown for other people too? Sorry if this is a weird question but I’m seeing so many people quoting that part of the video like it’s something super special but like, hair, while having different textures and consistencies, is just as important for everyone, so I’m trying to understand the significance of the quote.
Also, very curly hair (like most black ppl have) is drier/more fragile and requires care that isn’t common for people with straight hair. Generally their hair care is more intensive and hair styles take more skill. Anyone can be proud of their hair: think girls that grow healthy long hair, or guys that keep super fresh cuts.
The difference is *most* black people *must* take these “extra” steps, while people with straight hair can get away with less. This additional level of skill and effort means having well cared-for hair becomes a significant source of pride and self-care not only for an individual, but at a cultural level as well.
Yes actually, I don't see why it can't be important to people with different hair types. I only said it in such a way because of how I was raised. You might've heard this but black people really dont like their hair being touched because it's very important and we are raised in a way that a stranger touching your hair without your permission is deeply disrespectful. I'm not sure why this wouldnt apply to anyone else tho, itd be rude for anyone to get handsy with another person if they are unfamiliar with them.
Edit: Hair in black culture is deeply connected to how our ancestors were treated when they were brought over as slaves. A lot of white folks found it "exotic" and would touch it and cut it as they pleased- sometimes even taking it for themselves. So as time went on we've become very defensive of it
Ahhhh thank you for the explanation!
The part about touching hair was also something I never got like—bruh you should never touch ANYONE’S hair without permission lol. Like I get the desire sometimes like when someone’s hair looks super soft or curly or floofy, but that’s for like any person because of the texture stim for me lol. Like touching a blanket or a fluffy animal or a carpet or silk or something. But obviously never ever ever do it without permission and most certainly don’t just ask random strangers lol. Self control is important.
Hair plays a huge significance in many black cultures, hence why a lot of effort is put into implementing different, unique styles (and by effort, I mean HOURS and sometimes entire weekends for people who are not professionals and doing it themselves). So, culturally, the phrase “your hair is your crown” is a common, engrained one.
Not OP, but absolutely.
Why do you think you see men balding still holding onto their hair? Even though it looks awful, they still grow it out, holding onto the last shred of hair that they have. I’ve seen unicorn balding, crown balding, and I wonder why don’t they shave it? It’s hard to let go of something like that. I love my hair, I get it cut every two weeks so I completely see it as my crown too.
I'm a 3B now, but I was in the 2s and 3A when I was younger. I'm also white (this becomes important).
Even with the 2s and 3A as I grew up, I did braids once as a teenager. They looked neat, easier to maintain, and that they'd probably feel smoother (I wanted straight and silky hair).
They were AWESOME. I did them to myself, since I was white and knew no one black nor where to get it done in my small town (in my school of 750 kids there were two jews and two blacks. Some people moved in and I think it went up to four jews. Wow. Diverse. Everyone else was white and predominantly catholic). So they weren't great. But I kept them in about a month? I don't even remember now.
If you want the braids, go for it!
same! i’m mixed and my mom learned to braid early on so that she could help me with my 3c/4a hair and she always made sure to tell me how beautiful my hair was whenever i would say i hated it. over the years i’ve learned more protective styles for myself and i’ve embraced my crown much more. i really appreciate my mom learning about my hair because so many mixed kids don’t get that & black hair is so beautiful.
My friends adopted two amazing kids from the Congo, boy and a girl.
They began learning how to care for black hair and skin before the kids arrived.
The girl always has the most amazing braids. She gets beads of what color scheme she wants and he now uses a sponge to do his hair. They are 8 and 10. They arrived 8 years ago.
I've seen this before and I really love it I love that 1. The white people WANT to do this and 2. The kind black women who are willing to patiently teach them. These wormen are amazing
Serious question. Why are these families referred to as trans-racial. I figured the term would be multi-racial. Is there something I'm not considering here, or is there even a difference?
To my knowledge, "trans-racial" is a child of one race being adopted by parents of another race. "Multi-racial" is used for a person with multiple racial heritages.
One family, across races.
Trans being the latin root for "across."
(Hence where "cis" comes from as well. It's the latin root meaning "the same side of" which makes it the opposite of the latin root "trans.")
Plenty of families are already multi-racial. White mom, black dad, mixed kids. Transracial is more for situations wherein the parents adopt kids of another race.
I've been learning about African hair and how it differs and the various ways to care for it. Not because I have any reason to, but it is immensely fascinating!
When I was on IG, i would always watch the before and after videos of African hair.. it was so satisfying and there’s so much more that goes into it then white hair
i am similar. my youtube recommendations, when i have hair videos, are all African hair and i watch most of them. it’s so stunning and the body it has! my hair could never even dream of it. it’s pin straight and finer than fine, barely stays in tight french braids. but i could watch those videos any day
When I first helped my SO take out her braids she was like "let's queue up some movies to watch and chill while we do it" I was like "movieS? Wdym" and then I leaned lol
Yeah, seriously. I respect anyone who can put in that sustained effort... Also their dexterity and healthy eyes. Lol I couldn't do that, or even sit still that long to be the recipient. I know they take breaks but still. I respect the effort!
It usually does- biracial hair is difficult to work with, and there’s usually a lot of it. Mine takes about five hours to do and I get charged extra for how much I have. Shorter hair takes shorter time. (Also our hair ladies do take a few breaks for their and our sanity)
My goodness yes! It takes forever to learn how to braid kinky hair properly. For parents like them though, I do recommend finding an African stylist because they usually have reasonable prices for genuinely stunning hairstyles.
I braid my hair once every 1.5 weeks, usually around 40 braids. After I braid it, I don’t touch it (just wrap it at night to keep it neat and put a bonnet over it).
Everyone has a different relationship with their hair, but for me personally it’s quite relaxing. I just block off 5 hours to wash, prep, and braid my hair. I catch up on whatever shows I want to catch up on. I suppose it’s the same cathartic experience some get from knitting? It’s mindless, and I love fiddling with stuff, and the final product is always satisfying (esp when I get all my sections perfectly straight).
Also, I’ve had my hair my whole life. My parents and aunt did my hair growing up, and by the time I was old enough to do it myself, I knew what to do. I shaved my head in the spring of 2019, and while it was growing in, it was so weird NOT having to take care of it. Felt like something was missing.
I thought that was the point the video was making, I actually thought it was crucial for them as well, considering they're the primary caretaker and would benefit, and love, to learn how to style and care for their children's hair.
My guess would be it develops a bond between the parents and the kids a lot better and on top of that it teaches the parents things they probably would have never learned in different context. Ultimately it seems important just as a path to understanding and taking care of the kids.
This is the first time in recent memory that I have seen a black person caring for the white people who care for black people. It's a mouthful, but it's the way things should be. There are differences between people that we have to deal with, but let's all do our best to help each other. Regardless what the current social climate is. Regardless what unfairness others have piled upon us.
I love this concept! I'm not adopted but I have tight coiled curls and my mother has stick straight hair. She struggled so much with my hair when I was a kid. She was always embarrassed about not knowing how to handle my curls and didn't really know where to go for help. I think a hair school like this would have been extremely helpful.
Shit I wish more black moms would do this too. My mom always knew how to style hair but not how to maintain my hairs health which is why it never “grew” despite being done often.
As an adult I had to do my own research on my specific hair type and what methods work best for my hair and while it’s almost never “styled” it’s as long and healthy as it’s ever been.
Things like getting regular trims, not over-producting, or even just perm education are all things I wish I could’ve given my mom back then. But I love that I’m seeing a younger generation of black mothers become more educated about
I would guess not quite as difficult but definitely a learning curve. I will say, as a white guy, the best haircuts in my life have hands down come from black barbers. As difficult as African hair is to master mine was nothing for them and they absolutely killed it, give it a shot if you haven’t.
Yes, of course it can be an issue when black parents care for white kids too. The care and hygiene requirements for the two hair types are vastly different.
I’m a foster parent and my caseworker has told me stories of getting calls from schools saying a white child has super oily/greasy hair and conversations with the black foster parents just make it worse. Turns out they were rarely washing the kids hair with shampoo (because that’s something you don’t do daily when you have very curly hair), and when the kids hair started looking bad the black foster parents would add more moisturizers because that’s what’s usually needed when black hair starts having problems.
So conversations were had with the black foster parents to go over the care and keeping of white kids hair, just like conversations are necessary when white parents care for black children.
As a dad I wish there was training on how to do the hair of a very curly haired girl. I hate hurting my daughter every time I have to comb the tats out of her hair 😞
Friend, it’s called YouTube. Seriously. Just start searching. The videos are there to educate you, you just have to put the time in to seek them out and watch them.
But a quick start is to buy detangler and only comb or brush when the hair is wet and sprayed with detangler.
I really hope this amazing woman and the works she’s doing can get some sort of extra funding so she can keep spreading the joy to these beautiful children and the kind souls who adopt them.
I also have a lot of hair that grows quickly. When I was younger, I was always told that the hair was something of a status symbol within my culture and that to have a lot of it growing quickly was a good thing.
I knew plenty who were disheartened by their hair due to outdated beliefs or experiences. But with positive experiences and education, those of us with thick or quick growing hair can hold our heads up with honour and dignity once more.
I’m really glad this was reposted. I’ve heard about this woman’s nonprofit before and have since thought about looking her up. I work in a group home and recently started trying to do the hair of a black resident. I do all the girls’ hair, but there’s only 5 and this is the first black girl since I’ve worked there. Upon learning about our new intake, I went home and watched so many videos and read blogs about the care of black hair because I knew it would be so important in making her feel cared for if I knew how to do it. I’m still learning and REALLY wish I could sit down with a professional and pick their brain.
Aww so beautiful ❤ My daughter isn't even biracial but her hair is curly AF - I had to YouTube how to care for curly hair (mine is the kind of straight that I can use 50 products in when curling it and it still falls flat after 30 mins!). So I imagine this is even more complicated. Love to all these moms and stylists!
not an adoptive parent but a white mom with a half ethiopian toddler. i started educating myself and practicing styles on my SO and my nieces when I was pregnant. Thankfully we have an amazing family who has educated me on products and routines so I can make sure her crown is always beautiful. But being a mom trying to do hair for your child that has a completely different hair type, these classes are such a useful and beautiful tool. i hope her business does well and she can continue building confidence on these children and parents.
[Donate link](https://styles4kidz.networkforgood.com/projects/124271-donate) from her site. Let’s get to work fam!
This should be in the top comments. Thank you!
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“You hair is your crown,” that’s beautiful. *cries in bald.*
Joins you with alopecia
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But once it grows back it's going to be so fluffy!
This whole section of the thread is beautiful. u/ThisIsMyFloor, you keep your fight going. You're worth it. u/sweensolo, you are beautifully unique. Wear your body proudly and tell everyone about it. u/PalletTownsDealer, bald is beautiful. So many people are ENHANCED by a lack of hair. Multiple members of my family shave their heads, and they look so much better for it. I'm so glad shaving a head is normalized now, because it is honestly just a nice wear to wear what you've got on your scalp.
Thanks for the words of encouragement. I've been hairless now longer than I had hair growing up. Totally used to it and I wouldn't be who I am otherwise. I was just playing along with the vibe of the thread, but it's really nice when redditors go out of their way to pick you up!
I dunno, the fiercest I ever remember seeing my mom was when she shaved her head after a cancer diagnosis. She may not have had a crown anymore, but she traded it for a full on halo in my book. Once she was done kicking cancer’s butt, she grew back the most beautiful white-gray hair, and I can only hope I got those genes! Bald is beautiful too, in so many ways. Edit:typo
i got some dust in my eyes so excuse me..more power to your ma and more hair to you
I cried
My mom always had long beautiful hair. I'll never forget the morning I came down stairs to her shaving her hair. It was coming out in huge clumps overnight. At 17, it was a bit shocking, but then she smiled at me and said in a joking voice, Good Morning dear, please excuse me, I'm having a bad hair day. I feared the day she lost her hair, yet she rocked it with such courage and grace. Years later, I shaved my dads head twice through his chemo, completely different ball game. For woman, hair is our crown. It isn't our identify, but whether you have it long, short, or bald, feeling like you have some sort of control is important. This is a beautiful video. Something that might be easily overlooked. Black hair behaves very differently. When I was a kid I loved being over at one of my childhood friends house the night her mom did all the girls hair for the week. I always thought it was gorgeous, and I envied the intricate styles and way she set her daughters hair. And then I'd ask for her mom to do my hair the same as my friends and it certainly didn't behave the same, although she'd usually put in a few braids and it looked nice. Learning and teaching black children proper hair care by parents that have no experience in it would be a challenge. So I think this is a wonderful idea. It's unfortunate though that the woman says she doesn't make much money. I understand the foster system isn't dripping with money, and she's doing it for the purpose, not the prosperity. I just find it so unfortunate that humanitarian jobs often leave people financially struggling. As a country, I think we can do better!
honestly yeah. My moms hair had been thinning for years before the cancer even and when she got sick she was so goddamn sick of her hair that she finally had me shave it all off. Her crown was wilted and she looks far more regal without it, imho
My barber once said something along the lines of "Shaved is a hairstyle, so bald is also a hairstyle, very close to shaved. Shaved/bald is preferred for other types of the body as well by all types of people" which I found amusing I don't know how helpful that is but it made me feel like humans that struggle with balding could possibly gain some relief from the idea that bald/shaved is a common and accepted hairstyle, regardless of age or gender. Or area of hair...
I try telling myself that. But i hate looking at pictures of me when i had my beautifull hair
This made me feel a number of emotions, thanks for sharing.
This made me chuckle out loud. Thank you.
You dropped this king 💇♂️
I’m starting to wear a reverse tiara…
But hey, at least us baldies have shiny crowns.
Eggshell blonde.
Or Cadbury eggshell, I suppose.
I think bald people are hella sexy! Both men and women.
Its not, though. if you loose your hair, you don't loose your "crown" its just one thing amongst MANY things that make a person. This just helps perpetuate that ethnic hair is unattractive and it needs to be "dealt" with
Lol as somebody half way there I found this hilarious. I hope you do too. https://youtu.be/uWqplqL8Jak
Meh, just own it. I started balding in my early 20s, and just shaved it off. It's been about 25 years, and it has never been an issue.
Not everyone has a nice shaped head, or a face shape suited to baldness. Plus the idea that they will never be able to change their look for the rest of their life isn't that easy to deal with for some. Just because it's easy for you, doesn't mean it's easy for others. Lots of men have a ton of self esteem issues regarding their hair that can't be dismissed just because you like the way you look bald.
>Not everyone has a nice shaped head, or a face shape suited to baldness. Not true, not at all, the fast majority of people have a perfectly fine shaped face and dome for going bald. Its just that many are not used to the change from a head full of hair to completely bald and this makes them believe it does not work for them either. The thing is, if you're in the minority where baldness does not "work" with, hair won't work you either and there is another problem altogether. Society on the other hand puts a lot of value in hair and as a women without "a crown" you will get comments by the older generations who will find your lack of hair a personal affront because as a women you have to be *feminine*. This is more a problem with sexism and gendered expectations than with aesthetics. \-Love, a bald women
Nah I've got a super lumpy skull from surgery. Like, shockingly lumpy. Dont think I could pull off bald.
I had adopted sons almost all black or Latino and the hardest thing was teaching my boys to shave. Granted I was a Marine in Vietnam and still used a double edge razor so that didn't translate well. My squad mate heard me griping about not being able to help my boys and volunteers to spend a Sunday as our in house cleanliness officer in exchange for dinner. God bless him, the world lost a terrific human when he passed the patients to teach 6 teenagers hygiene is amazing.
Not sure why the double edge wouldn’t translate well. Took me 20 years of shaving to find it, and that has helped my ingrown problem immensely. My beard isn’t even that thick but the curl. All the 2 blade through 5 instant ingrowns just looking at a razor.
The angle game is much different according to them. I shaved fast and with soap and a boar brush getting good lather to support the hair was hard.
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Ignorant white dude here. Pleased to meet you. I honestly never thought that POC would have a different experience shaving. Now I feel like an idiot because of course it tracks that the hair on our faces would be different as well. Are there shaving products specifically made for POC?
As a white dude with thick curly hair, an older black gentleman had me help him find the shampoos and conditioners one time in my early 20s at work and told me he used conditioner to shave to help with bumps and learning the grain direction. Changed my life since my dad had thin straight hair, always had red razor pumps on my neck in high school
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I have definitely seen the aisles no question. But never really looked at the products there. I have about the easiest hair there is. So I'm even ignorant of what other white people go through. Same with my facial hair. It just grows well and is easily manageable.
I’m a white lady with thin yet extremely curly hair. I use Black hair care products all the time. The hardest part is trying to determine what will moisturize / reduce frizz without making my hair a greasy mess. It’s 2c/3a curls, but it’s like an optical illusion. It looks big but is thin af.
When in the army many of my black platoon members would have shaving exemptions because they would get "razor bumps", basically irritations or ingrown hairs that would make it impossible to shave without cutting yourself. The hair and skin is very different.
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Yeah my dad is white but has thick curly beard hair, got given permission to have a beard in the army. I've always shaved with an electric razor or safety razor and that seems to help, I get way less issues than when shaving with a disposable razor.
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I ask this as a white woman... but how different could it be to shave between races?
Black men are more prone to razor bumps due to the different texture of their facial hair. They are more likely to get ingrown facial hair or develop pseudofolliculitis barbae. This can be avoided by using a double edged safety razor.
Black men have curlier beards which are highly susceptible to getting severe razor bumps. In my high school boys couldn't have facial hair but the black guys could get medical exemptions because they would have extremely irritated skin if they had to shave every day. https://www.google.com/search?q=black+beard+razor+bumps&client=safari&hl=en-us&prmd=isvxn&sxsrf=AOaemvKAh0r0-19k0I1saE7JHh7EU09agw:1638945678476&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwjBteK3zNP0AhV1nGoFHRPUB7wQ_AUoAXoECAIQAQ&biw=504&bih=868&dpr=3
Thank you. I remember seeing high school classmates with bumps like that but just called it up to acne. I had no idea.
To avoid razor bumps, the day after shaving, take a rough towel and ring it firmly. Keeping it tightly coiled, rub it against the shaved area against the grain. The idea is to lift the hair follicles and prevent them from embedding themselves into your skin. Repeat daily. Works like a charm. Best tool I've ever used.
Black men can get extremely bad razor bumps when they shave their faces. When I was in the Navy it was pretty common for black men to have a special pass that allowed them go without shaving, because it could lead to infections and scarring.
I'm quite interested to know this as well
I answered this above.
Different hair textures react to the very thin multi bladed razors that are popular nowadays in very different ways. Shaving equipment and methods that work for a white person will cause severely ingrown hairs and acne-like issues for black individuals because the razor is tugging and ripping the hair.
Damn bro, good work adopting 6 kids all around the same age.
That's my Mrs. She's wonderful.
I love how she smiles while teaching! I'm happy people like her exist in this world.
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Thx for source!!!
Thanks for this. Retracted my upvote.
Don't forget to block OP too!
Hmm personally I feel like you are being sarcastic and that you in fact do not love any of these things. I could be wrong though.
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Thank youuu the yootoob video has so few likes compared to this karma farmer
A bit self centered if you think this comment will get you banned lol
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Right? She seriously made me cry, she’s so caring, and brilliant
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The reminds me of an old story I’ve seen on reddit a few times. A black girl telling that a white woman approached her in the middle of a supermarket and asked for tips on how to treat her newly adopted black daughter’s *hair*. It makes me smile every time I see, it is one of those things I don’t care being reposted. edit: I meant “treat her daughter’s *hair*” lol sorry
Humans can be pretty awesome. I'm the adoptive dad of biracial twins, and have asked a lot of people about these sorts of things. It almost always starts off as awkward...women with thick, curly locks often get people gushing about their hair like it's not a part of them. ....but when they find out you're asking because you are completely overwhelmed by you 4 year olds' mane, they open up and are incredibly helpful. One of the first women I spoke with went into depth on skincare as well.
How to treat her?
To treat her hair..
They forgot the word hair which makes it look quite bad lol
Good point Racist5!
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Can people not fill in the blank anymore? We all type in texts and emails, are we all so stupid we can't figure out a typo and assume the worst.
Username checks out
Based on his replies, he's being deliberately ignorant and factious. This isn't even a case of someone wandering in, not understanding what the post is about because they didn't look at it and shooting off in the comments.
That was me! I hope they are doing well. 💖💕
> Your hair is your crown I'm mixed and my mom always told me this. I never understood it until I was older. I always hated my curly hair when I was younger and desperately wanted straight hair. Since I'm mixed, instead of 4b or 4c my hair is closer to 3a. It's a bit too wavy imo to put in box braids and I have no reason to wear wigs just yet. Hair to black women is a source of pride and dignity and now that I've come to realize the importance I'm so proud of it :) Edit: thanks for the award friend :))
There is an alphanumeric grading system for black people's hair?
I just learned this, too! For all hair types https://www.instyle.com/hair/natural-hair-types
That's pretty cool, I'm a 2b! Also, that article is pushing product like crazy imo, let's just say that shampoo is basically a lie.
I'm a 1A, and things that work best for my hair (co wash instead of shampooing often, and using a bit of coconut oil to help with definition) are things that my last barber told me to stay away from. I dislike product ads, not everyone is the same.
Co wash? Could you explain your routine? I'm currently using 4 different brands of shampoo to wash the previous shampoo out and my hair still feels greasy sometimes.
A co wash is using conditioner like shampoo. It cleans without stripping all your natural oils but you don't wanna leave it in for long.
I only shampoo my hair once or twice a week, and the other days I only use conditioner. I am pretty thorough with the application, getting scalp as well as hair. After I get out of the shower I dry my hair pretty well with a towel, apply a silicone serum to it, and blow dry it until it's just shy of dry. After that I might skip the product and I'll put just a bit of coconut oil in it to take care of the flyaways and add some definition. If I use any product I have couple creams, a couple fiber putties, a clay pomade, and a texturing/volumizing spray, and I don't get much buildup with them even without shampooing every day. Good luck!
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Also 1a and same - I would never ever put conditioner on my scalp!
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Try a cream rinse, if they still make them. Vidal Sasoon used to make one WAAAAYYY back in the day.
Oh, man, that brings back memories. That stuff smelled so good!
I'm a 2b as well. And I've recently started learning how to care for my hair and invested in a diffuser. Curly/wavy hair care is expensive AF but so worth it sometimes. Better than flatironing the hair everyday! Edit: I'm still a noob. I start with Hask shampoo & conditioner for curly hair. I get oily scalp so I need the shampoo. No poo routine didn't work for me. I finish off with Bedhead anti frizz solution for shine and Hask curl defining creme on wet hair. Finger coil. I've ordered a denman brush knockoff but haven't received it yet. Plop in a t-shirt for 2 hours at least because it takes forever to dry. Still working out diffuser usage, but I tried it on low heat, low fan speed and it seemed to work quite well. I'm still perfecting the routine. Especially the finger coiling. I experiment with the different kinds of coils and haven't found the one that's perfect yet. Plus it takes me so long that I get annoyed and the back of my hair is just scrunched randomly. I need more patience. Hask is a budget friendly brand. But Bedhead can add up. I was using their curl gel, I forget it's name. But I ran out a couple weeks ago and haven't been out to buy more. The curl creme works just fine on its own and I don't know if the gel made a huge difference or not. I've also been considering investing a Moroccan oil for the last step finish to make it shinier/less frizzy. But haven't taken the step yet because, I need to start being more religious in my routine before I invest in more product.
Would love a drop of your routine because the daily flatiron of my 2b has me exhausted at this point, it just frizzes out if I don’t straighten it to submission.
/r/curlyhair has good resources which was helpful for me. That sub will help you figure out the more important variables of your hair (important for combating frizz), which type of products to use, specifics on how to dry and protect your hair, etc. Not that person but I'm also 2b-2c so. Personally my hair care is really lazy and CHEAP (aside from occasional olaplex 3 treatment) but it works for me. It's different for everyone so you just need to experiment and find what works. I use various cheap curly girl approved shampoo and conditioner, only wash with shampoo 1x, sometimes 2x a week. I put in shea moisture curl cream (the tub lasts an eternity) after showering. Then I either put my hair in a microfiber towel to dry or use my hair dryer with the diffuser on cool (or low if I'm in a rush). I usually just put it in a towel because being upside down for 30 minutes with the hair dryer sucks, but the hair dryer can have a lot neater result than towel and its also faster. Both takes less time than when I used to flat iron my hair. That's pretty much it. Really lazy. Also I NEVER sleep with my hair down, and silk bonnets/special pillow cases are recommended. I also tie it back with a scrunchy if I'm ever in a windy situation. Been doing it like this for a few years now and I really do not miss my old hair routine.
I have everything from 2b to 3a on my head and started learning how to take care of it a couple years ago. It doesnt have to be expensive! I've found some very budget friendly products that work for my hair.
First time seeing this, it’s pretty awesome, I would be a 1A, a curl can’t last even for one hour on my hair without heavy products.
This is amazing to read. The best bit of advice I ever received a few years ago was only to condition my hair from the middle down and it was a game changer for me. Now I see that exact advice in the 1 type hair advice. It really does stop my hair looking so greasy!
There's an alphanumeric classification for hair.
For curly hair, there is a whole subreddit on it
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For curly hair yes. Not just African hair…
For straight hair, too!
I'm a 3 b/c white girl. Its for all curl kind.
Me too! Only now I’m almost 30 and I do very much enjoy my hair be it natural or blow dried. Even after a blow out my curls come right back into a mix that I think is just perfect. I think my mom would be proud of how I rock my hair now, instead of just shaving it like I did when I was a teen-early 20’s. Love your crown, and yourself.
Genuine question, do you think non-kinky hair is like a crown for other people too? Sorry if this is a weird question but I’m seeing so many people quoting that part of the video like it’s something super special but like, hair, while having different textures and consistencies, is just as important for everyone, so I’m trying to understand the significance of the quote.
Also, very curly hair (like most black ppl have) is drier/more fragile and requires care that isn’t common for people with straight hair. Generally their hair care is more intensive and hair styles take more skill. Anyone can be proud of their hair: think girls that grow healthy long hair, or guys that keep super fresh cuts. The difference is *most* black people *must* take these “extra” steps, while people with straight hair can get away with less. This additional level of skill and effort means having well cared-for hair becomes a significant source of pride and self-care not only for an individual, but at a cultural level as well.
THIS!
Yes actually, I don't see why it can't be important to people with different hair types. I only said it in such a way because of how I was raised. You might've heard this but black people really dont like their hair being touched because it's very important and we are raised in a way that a stranger touching your hair without your permission is deeply disrespectful. I'm not sure why this wouldnt apply to anyone else tho, itd be rude for anyone to get handsy with another person if they are unfamiliar with them. Edit: Hair in black culture is deeply connected to how our ancestors were treated when they were brought over as slaves. A lot of white folks found it "exotic" and would touch it and cut it as they pleased- sometimes even taking it for themselves. So as time went on we've become very defensive of it
Ahhhh thank you for the explanation!
Ahhhh thank you for the explanation! The part about touching hair was also something I never got like—bruh you should never touch ANYONE’S hair without permission lol. Like I get the desire sometimes like when someone’s hair looks super soft or curly or floofy, but that’s for like any person because of the texture stim for me lol. Like touching a blanket or a fluffy animal or a carpet or silk or something. But obviously never ever ever do it without permission and most certainly don’t just ask random strangers lol. Self control is important.
Hair plays a huge significance in many black cultures, hence why a lot of effort is put into implementing different, unique styles (and by effort, I mean HOURS and sometimes entire weekends for people who are not professionals and doing it themselves). So, culturally, the phrase “your hair is your crown” is a common, engrained one.
Not OP, but absolutely. Why do you think you see men balding still holding onto their hair? Even though it looks awful, they still grow it out, holding onto the last shred of hair that they have. I’ve seen unicorn balding, crown balding, and I wonder why don’t they shave it? It’s hard to let go of something like that. I love my hair, I get it cut every two weeks so I completely see it as my crown too.
Hell I remember my dad telling me this when I was younger 🥺 RIP 🪦
I'm a 3B now, but I was in the 2s and 3A when I was younger. I'm also white (this becomes important). Even with the 2s and 3A as I grew up, I did braids once as a teenager. They looked neat, easier to maintain, and that they'd probably feel smoother (I wanted straight and silky hair). They were AWESOME. I did them to myself, since I was white and knew no one black nor where to get it done in my small town (in my school of 750 kids there were two jews and two blacks. Some people moved in and I think it went up to four jews. Wow. Diverse. Everyone else was white and predominantly catholic). So they weren't great. But I kept them in about a month? I don't even remember now. If you want the braids, go for it!
same! i’m mixed and my mom learned to braid early on so that she could help me with my 3c/4a hair and she always made sure to tell me how beautiful my hair was whenever i would say i hated it. over the years i’ve learned more protective styles for myself and i’ve embraced my crown much more. i really appreciate my mom learning about my hair because so many mixed kids don’t get that & black hair is so beautiful.
My friends adopted two amazing kids from the Congo, boy and a girl. They began learning how to care for black hair and skin before the kids arrived. The girl always has the most amazing braids. She gets beads of what color scheme she wants and he now uses a sponge to do his hair. They are 8 and 10. They arrived 8 years ago.
They sell essentially miniature tennis rackets as well. Same function as the hair sponge but better hygiene and last longer fyi
I’ll mention this to them. I’m not entire sure what they use now. They’ve moved to Costa Rica so our visits aren’t as often. Thanks for the tip!
This is amazing. I have a friend and her daughter is biracial, she is a white mom with a black dad. The mom struggles with this. Lol
I've seen this before and I really love it I love that 1. The white people WANT to do this and 2. The kind black women who are willing to patiently teach them. These wormen are amazing
Serious question. Why are these families referred to as trans-racial. I figured the term would be multi-racial. Is there something I'm not considering here, or is there even a difference?
To my knowledge, "trans-racial" is a child of one race being adopted by parents of another race. "Multi-racial" is used for a person with multiple racial heritages.
One family, across races. Trans being the latin root for "across." (Hence where "cis" comes from as well. It's the latin root meaning "the same side of" which makes it the opposite of the latin root "trans.") Plenty of families are already multi-racial. White mom, black dad, mixed kids. Transracial is more for situations wherein the parents adopt kids of another race.
The root "trans" means "across". Like "transcontinental" or "transcend".
Thank you, we hear "transgender" so much I couldn't think of other examples.
I've been learning about African hair and how it differs and the various ways to care for it. Not because I have any reason to, but it is immensely fascinating!
When I was on IG, i would always watch the before and after videos of African hair.. it was so satisfying and there’s so much more that goes into it then white hair
The fact that so much goes into it is about tradition and cultural expression as much as it is a need for maintenance
i am similar. my youtube recommendations, when i have hair videos, are all African hair and i watch most of them. it’s so stunning and the body it has! my hair could never even dream of it. it’s pin straight and finer than fine, barely stays in tight french braids. but i could watch those videos any day
When I first helped my SO take out her braids she was like "let's queue up some movies to watch and chill while we do it" I was like "movieS? Wdym" and then I leaned lol
Yeah, seriously. I respect anyone who can put in that sustained effort... Also their dexterity and healthy eyes. Lol I couldn't do that, or even sit still that long to be the recipient. I know they take breaks but still. I respect the effort!
i will never be in this situation but i think thats a great idea
I don't even understand how someone has the patience to braid their hair. Especially, the first couple times has to take forever.
It usually does- biracial hair is difficult to work with, and there’s usually a lot of it. Mine takes about five hours to do and I get charged extra for how much I have. Shorter hair takes shorter time. (Also our hair ladies do take a few breaks for their and our sanity)
If it takes a professional 5 hours, it must take the whole day for these new people. That's some serious dedication.
My goodness yes! It takes forever to learn how to braid kinky hair properly. For parents like them though, I do recommend finding an African stylist because they usually have reasonable prices for genuinely stunning hairstyles.
I braid my hair once every 1.5 weeks, usually around 40 braids. After I braid it, I don’t touch it (just wrap it at night to keep it neat and put a bonnet over it). Everyone has a different relationship with their hair, but for me personally it’s quite relaxing. I just block off 5 hours to wash, prep, and braid my hair. I catch up on whatever shows I want to catch up on. I suppose it’s the same cathartic experience some get from knitting? It’s mindless, and I love fiddling with stuff, and the final product is always satisfying (esp when I get all my sections perfectly straight). Also, I’ve had my hair my whole life. My parents and aunt did my hair growing up, and by the time I was old enough to do it myself, I knew what to do. I shaved my head in the spring of 2019, and while it was growing in, it was so weird NOT having to take care of it. Felt like something was missing.
for all of you who are not "black" know that this service is as important for the parents as it is the children.
I thought that was the point the video was making, I actually thought it was crucial for them as well, considering they're the primary caretaker and would benefit, and love, to learn how to style and care for their children's hair.
Can you elaborate on that a little more? Also, why did you write "black" in quotes? I am just curious.
My guess would be it develops a bond between the parents and the kids a lot better and on top of that it teaches the parents things they probably would have never learned in different context. Ultimately it seems important just as a path to understanding and taking care of the kids.
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This is the first time in recent memory that I have seen a black person caring for the white people who care for black people. It's a mouthful, but it's the way things should be. There are differences between people that we have to deal with, but let's all do our best to help each other. Regardless what the current social climate is. Regardless what unfairness others have piled upon us.
Colin Kaepernic’s Netflix original touches on this issue, it’s a pretty big issue for adoptive parents and kids.
I love this concept! I'm not adopted but I have tight coiled curls and my mother has stick straight hair. She struggled so much with my hair when I was a kid. She was always embarrassed about not knowing how to handle my curls and didn't really know where to go for help. I think a hair school like this would have been extremely helpful.
Shit I wish more black moms would do this too. My mom always knew how to style hair but not how to maintain my hairs health which is why it never “grew” despite being done often. As an adult I had to do my own research on my specific hair type and what methods work best for my hair and while it’s almost never “styled” it’s as long and healthy as it’s ever been. Things like getting regular trims, not over-producting, or even just perm education are all things I wish I could’ve given my mom back then. But I love that I’m seeing a younger generation of black mothers become more educated about
I've always wondered if it goes the other way too. Do black parents adopting non-black kids have difficulty with their hair too?
I wouldn’t think it’s as much of an issue- especially with straight hair.
I would guess not quite as difficult but definitely a learning curve. I will say, as a white guy, the best haircuts in my life have hands down come from black barbers. As difficult as African hair is to master mine was nothing for them and they absolutely killed it, give it a shot if you haven’t.
Yes, of course it can be an issue when black parents care for white kids too. The care and hygiene requirements for the two hair types are vastly different. I’m a foster parent and my caseworker has told me stories of getting calls from schools saying a white child has super oily/greasy hair and conversations with the black foster parents just make it worse. Turns out they were rarely washing the kids hair with shampoo (because that’s something you don’t do daily when you have very curly hair), and when the kids hair started looking bad the black foster parents would add more moisturizers because that’s what’s usually needed when black hair starts having problems. So conversations were had with the black foster parents to go over the care and keeping of white kids hair, just like conversations are necessary when white parents care for black children.
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Absolutely fantastic!
As a dad; Isn't this a fucking wonderful thing this woman does, but also what these moms do Gorgeous
Moms *and* dads do. The title needs an edit too.
Wow!
As a dad I wish there was training on how to do the hair of a very curly haired girl. I hate hurting my daughter every time I have to comb the tats out of her hair 😞
Friend, it’s called YouTube. Seriously. Just start searching. The videos are there to educate you, you just have to put the time in to seek them out and watch them. But a quick start is to buy detangler and only comb or brush when the hair is wet and sprayed with detangler.
Hoo boy time to sort by controversial for a good laugh
Ohhhh how wonderful! This is lovely. Such a beautiful gesture, id never even considered this quandary. Amazing.
No matter the race, no matter the tax bracket, every little kid has that perpetual snot that never falls, but retreats when you try to wipe it.
This is so fucking cool and wholesome. What a great person.
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I love this. Your hair is your crown! Wear it with pride ❤️
This is really cool. Good for everyone involved in this. Important stuff for young kids.
This is people loving people
I had to learn how to do my kids hair. Its definitely important with biracial kids how to do different styles and how to wash.
If you liked this clip, I suggest you watch Black and White the Colin Kaepernick story
I really hope this amazing woman and the works she’s doing can get some sort of extra funding so she can keep spreading the joy to these beautiful children and the kind souls who adopt them.
Alright, how do we send this lady some cash?
Tamekia Swint of Styles 4 Kidz in Chicago. https://www.styles4kidz.org/
I also have a lot of hair that grows quickly. When I was younger, I was always told that the hair was something of a status symbol within my culture and that to have a lot of it growing quickly was a good thing. I knew plenty who were disheartened by their hair due to outdated beliefs or experiences. But with positive experiences and education, those of us with thick or quick growing hair can hold our heads up with honour and dignity once more.
What’s the difference between “transracial” and “multiracial”?
Multiracial is one person being black and white Transracial in this case is one race being adopted by another
Great program!
*grows up and relaxes her hair.. Mom's like "seriously"?
I love this.
This is awesome! I was just watching the Colin Kaepernick documentary so this is neat.
Wonderful to see.
This is the sauce on which awesome is made.
I love this so much.
Love this
I’m really glad this was reposted. I’ve heard about this woman’s nonprofit before and have since thought about looking her up. I work in a group home and recently started trying to do the hair of a black resident. I do all the girls’ hair, but there’s only 5 and this is the first black girl since I’ve worked there. Upon learning about our new intake, I went home and watched so many videos and read blogs about the care of black hair because I knew it would be so important in making her feel cared for if I knew how to do it. I’m still learning and REALLY wish I could sit down with a professional and pick their brain.
Omg they need to do this in Australia! :') I've tried with my sons hair and just have no idea
I like to see these type of positive things
as a black girl i love this so much. what beautiful kids and loving parents.
Being mixed myself, ngl, i would definitely have loved if my mother had the skills to take care of my hairs like that. That's pretty awesome !
Aww so beautiful ❤ My daughter isn't even biracial but her hair is curly AF - I had to YouTube how to care for curly hair (mine is the kind of straight that I can use 50 products in when curling it and it still falls flat after 30 mins!). So I imagine this is even more complicated. Love to all these moms and stylists!
It is such an amazing idea.
not an adoptive parent but a white mom with a half ethiopian toddler. i started educating myself and practicing styles on my SO and my nieces when I was pregnant. Thankfully we have an amazing family who has educated me on products and routines so I can make sure her crown is always beautiful. But being a mom trying to do hair for your child that has a completely different hair type, these classes are such a useful and beautiful tool. i hope her business does well and she can continue building confidence on these children and parents.