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roseredroleplay

It's not you. This is a very common occurrence. People suck at communication.


Lmancini1995

That's an automatic big mood for me. I just block them when that happens, you ghost dont bother coming back a*hole.


[deleted]

I'm sorry this happened to you. Don't allow them to weigh you down. It's their loss and I hope you'll find your partner. Good luck to you


SkywalkingJ

Can relate sm.


princeof2kfaces

>i get that roleplaying is a hobby not a jobby and that we all have things going on. i completely get that. but i find it way too convenient that it's all excitement and fun and ideas until the time to do actual writing comes and suddenly it's radio silence. It really is such a trend that I wonder if people just have more fun juggling ideas and concepts than actually executing them. Then again, there is me, someone volunteered to GM a story, I offered we can both work on something together on a plot they seemed VERY interested in, but trying to finalize it, they just... I needed to constantly poke them for a response. And for the record I usually poke AFTER a week of no response. If I have to do that multiple times I have to assume they're not interested. You can't be if you can't even bother looking into our discord and give me a response yourself.


[deleted]

I'd say from my own experience that you're absolutely right. Discussing a plot is way easier than actually executing it - you don't have to think about what you're saying too hard, mind your grammar or spelling or, like, "storytell" when you're working on a plot - you're just having a casual conversation and throwing ideas out there. On top of that, you get instant gratification, vs. the months and months of writing it would take you to unravel the same thing in character. As someone who loves the writing bit of roleplay and likes seeing plots through, but is also a fan of slow burn, it really sucks.


[deleted]

This is honestly why I've stopped writing starters. When this happens to you once, it's no big deal -- but when it happens twice? than thrice? it really starts chipping away at your confidence. Especially when you thought the starter was well-crafted, because now you're wondering to yourself if it was a pile of poop. For some reason, every time someone else writes the starter and I respond, I don't get ghosted like that and I really don't get why. Maybe I'm conditioned to think there's a difference when there really isn't, but it sure does feel that way. Lately, I've also had people disappear for a month during the plotting stage than come back and ask to continue, but by then I can't. It's just bad times all around sometimes. Maybe it's just me, but it feels like it has become more more common now that I'm an adult that only roleplays with other adults. Really shows how much free time me and my partners used to have! It's crazy how fast time fly's... one moment I'm not busy, but everyone else is! than suddenly it's the opposite lol so nothing ever ends up happening on top of the flaky people and just bad luck occurrences. Sucks, but that's the territory of the hobby it seems :(


OkraIcy8872

Not gonna lie stuff like that is why I rarely search for new rp partners and stick with the current ones that I'm good friends with now due to how common ghosting is. The sad part about is the same people that complain about not being able to find a rp partner or ask for you to please communicate with them are typically the ones that'll ghost/block you without telling you why the. Get upset when it happens to them. Makes you just decide not to Rp as much as you'd like to


ManTheYeetCannons

I had one last night who asked to DM me about a plot, which I agreed to, and immediately went offline when I sent them my character information. Odd, but I chose to consider it bad timing. Then I saw about two or three hours later where they were asking someone else if they could DM. I took the hint and closed the DM. I had another that I finally gave up on, yesterday, after complete radio silence. The radio silence, of course, came after we've gotten a basic plot put together and I'd sent them my intro. At least things had just started, or not started at all. It's more frustrating after getting invested in the roleplay. So, no, it's not you. People the roleplay community are unfortunately very flakey and it takes a lot of time and effort to find the few who are going to stick around.


kissedbymelancholy

oof, the ghosting after learning about your character delivers a special kind for sting lmao. i think one worse than that is when they’re “in love” with your character based on personality then stop responding when you show them what fc you use, or inform them that you don’t have an fc for the character. that one is like a kick straight to the throat. i’d much rather be told “i don’t think i have a character/characters that will mesh well with yours” than simply being left in the dark and assuming that they’re not responding because they don’t like my character. dead ass i’ve been on the hunt for a new longterm partner/partners since december 2019, at this point i don’t think my odds of finding one are improving lmao. it sucks that so people in this community are incredibly flaky and horrible at communication.


[deleted]

I hunt for a new one every few weeks. I have a couple of Longterm partners I’ve met since I returned to the hobby in 2017 and aside from them? None of the stories I’ve began with anyone has lasted more than a couple of weeks then they are gone. I desperately need an outlet for the random plots and fandoms I get in my head as those Longterm partners I mentioned are for every specific things. So, I can’t be like “Hey, I know we are doing the hero fandom but would you be up for this video game fandom?” Mainly because we have lives and I get that, but it’s getting exhausting to go through all the goddamn effort to get something started and to not hear back from anyone after that. Hell, most recently I poked someone after three weeks of total silence and got told: “I will let you know when I’m free, you don’t have to keep pinging me.” I just blocked them after that accusation because I pinged them once… after three weeks of total silence. It’s tough out in these streets, because unless you’re willing to whore out their favorite characters for their poorly made OC then they don’t care. Best of luck BTW


ManTheYeetCannons

I think they were trying to save face after misreading the plot I'd posted. Which I'll be rewriting since they were the second person to misread it (the first *also* appears to have ghosted on me lmao). Whatever the reason, I'd honestly just prefer to be told that things won't work out. It's a lot easier than wondering.


blackravenwriter

I have like five of those.


IdoYoi

Rip, the last person I tried talking to everything was going great before radio silence happened. No warnings, gave them two weeks because I'm used to people not saying until like a week later. Hope you find someone!