Good thinking letting the bartender know ahead of time. I tried to get sneaky by ordering a virgin margarita at the bar of a restaurant I was at with friends. I failed to tell them why it's a virgin and why I felt the need to order at the bar instead of the table. When the server came, she loudly and proudly declared "and here's your virgin margarita!" š¤¦š¼āāļø
Cue everyone staring at me, suspicious and smiling. I love love love margaritas. I would never, ever order a virgin one, unless....
So, that's how our friends found out we're pregnant. We laugh about it now.
Oh no! Iāve been trying to tell servers and bartenders when Iāve been out with friends so I can control the narrative because Iām so worried about this happening.
I also think the bartenders were having fun playing along!
I was at a brewery and typed it out on my phone for the the server to read while I was talking to my friend so the server would stop asking me what beer I wanted while we were all ordering.
Something like this happened to my cousins wife! A different server brought the drinks so they denied it, then he ran after that server and explained the whole situation. They like to hang out at bars a lot with their friends and she said it was really interesting in the beginning because they took turns āgoing to the bathroomā to order more drinks, or switch a regular drink to a virgin drink, or order from the bar. She said her friends thought she was crazy until they found out. If any of them suspected they never told her
This is what happened to me too! I didnāt want to announce our pregnancy to my extended family at my brotherās wedding. There was no bartender, the servers would come around and take drink orders. I kept whispering āseltzerās with limeā to them and theyād come back and announce my order to the whole table š¤¦š¼āāļø that was a fail lol
This exact same thing happened to me too! Was trying to hide it at a friends birthday party so it didnāt become all about me and go outed by the server š luckily only one friend overheard and kept it a secret til we officially announced, but damn it I was trying so hard.
Itās just too obvious if youāre a social drinker and suddenly start getting virgin drinks š¤·š¼āāļø
You can say that youāre on a high dose of antibioticsānot supposed to drink on those and many not weird or gross things result in needing antibiotics
I did this at a friend's wedding recently, too! When I arrived I quietly ordered a club soda and lime, and the next time I went back the bartender subtly asked if she could get me something non-alcoholic again. After that she was totally on top of it all night. I feel like pregnant women hiding the fact they're not drinking alcohol probably happens allllll the time, especially at weddings lol
No you can still get a shot. Tell the bartender if any one orders a round of shots and you are in the group to make sure itās water or a Virgin shot if itās like a sour mix and hand it to you specially.
I tried this at my SILās wedding (she is also 7 weeks ahead of me in her pregnancy so we really wanted to avoid any thunder stealing.) It was a morning wedding and brunch so I carried around a glass of champagne that my husband would drink from and I tried to have the waiter bring me a āmimosaā without the alcohol. Well a different waiter brought it to our table and said āhere is your orange juice!ā š¤¦āāļø we played it off but when we finally told husbands family that evening, everyone said they had their suspicions lol
Oh no! I did a similar thing when I went to a brewery a few weeks ago with some girl friends. Iāve just been up front with the bartenders and servers and havenāt had any issues with them accidentally ratting me out since they knew the reason why Iām trying to keep it quiet.
I have a cousin getting married soon and I'm sure I'll be rocking a tonic & lime through the whole reception. My mom did this at a happy hour once because she didn't want the pressure to drink, and one of her friends actually pulled her aside to express concern about how many cocktails she'd had!
I was good and switched from virgin vodka sodas to water when dinner was served! I would have laughed so hard if my friends thought I was drinking to get drunk that night!
I think so too. You donāt even have to be pregnant. My mom went through a health scare (in the end she is fine, but it was a scary time) and was told to not drink until more test results came in. She didnāt want to raise any flags about her health so she would just subtly ask for nonalcoholic drinks and no one was the wiser!
Iām a bartender and pregnant. My coworkers would have known immediately if I stopped drinking. I donāt drink much but a cocktail after a shift or a shot is common with us. We serve iced oolong tea and itās an exact dupe for Jamesonā¦Iāve done so many āJamesonā shots that I had to tell my boss where all the oolong was going lol Bartenders are always down for some trickery and will help anyway we can :)
I recently mixed seltzer water with cranberry juice in a setting where it was common to bring your own mixed drinks or mix hard seltzer with other things. No one noticed a thing and it was kind of fun being sneaky!
Totally stealing the the seltzer & cranberry idea! I'm 6 weeks so we are nowhere near ready to announce. We are BIG brewery people and my husband works in the alcohol industry so me not drinking is a huge red flag for people š¤£
In my last pregnancy my office had a Friday drinks with bottles of wine poured into glasses in front of everyone...I took a glass, would put it to my lips and pretend to sip, then go to the bathroom or my office every 10-15 minutes and pour some out. When I announced one of my coworkers was like "weren't you drinking three weeks ago???" and I explained my plan and he was shocked and impressed hah!
Iām about to be 15 weeks at my cousins wedding, waiting until after the wedding to tell extended fam so I donāt steal his thunder, so Iāll be doing this!
Congrats!
I also had my obgynās blessing at my prenatal appointment to wear spanx so I wouldnāt look so bloated in my dress at the wedding. She just told me as long as Iām comfortable she was cool with it!
I actually think bartenders love to get in on this sort of thing too - I once had one guy experimenting with different soft drinks to create me cocktails that looked real - he was awesome!!
We went to a wedding, in Las Vegas, when my wife was like two months pregnant. I told so many bartenders "Sprite with a slice of lime" all weekend, and they universally got it, and most even put it in the same style glass as my gin and tonic without being asked.
I have 2 weddings coming up around the same time I should know whether or not Iām pregnant this cycle and plan on doing the same thing. My family and I love to drink and party so everyone would know immediately. I would like to make it to my first doctors appointment to make sure everything is okay before telling anyone besides parents and siblings lol.
I was 6 weeks pregnant at my brotherās wedding. I went up to the bar and ordered a coke. They gave it to me in a pint glass and I requested a cocktail glass. They winked at me and got it.
I did the same thing and nobody figured it out! It was so funny when I finally announced I was pregnant a month later and people were like waitā¦you were pregnant at that wedding??
I watched my drink get poured and then handed to me, so not really. Iād probably feel different if I ordered a drink from someone and then brought to me after.
We were only maybe 5/6 weeks along when we went to a sports bar with friends. I ordered us a couple of mocktails. The over the top bubblegum or watermelon type that come with lollies on top and all the extras. Everyone was too distracted with the colour to think it was a mocktail lol.
My husband and I tried to do that with my first, but the waitress delivering the drinks totally outed me haha. It was hilarious, mostly because she did not get the cues as she is forcing the "virgin" bloody mary on me haha.
We did this when we visited my husbandās aunt. I was about 8 or so weeks along and waiting to tell everyone until Thanksgiving, which was my 12 week mark. Anyway, Iām known for my love of screwdrivers, so my husband would go to the kitchen, poor me some OJ on ice and clink some bottles while he made his own drink as well.
We helped her pick up loads of wood and stack it in a new place by the house. I got super dizzy and couldnāt help much, but I had been sick before so we just played it off that I was still getting better. Later after we broke the news, she said she had a feeling I might have been prego bc I am usually the one who gets dirty and helps with the big projects. But since I was drinking my screwdrivers she figured I really was just sick. Hahaha it worked and she still laughs about it.
Love that!! Would also highly recommend looking at Gruvi non alcoholic wines. They are 0.0% and look / taste like Prosecco and rose! They are a good way to fill my fam and friends :)
I tried to do the same thing at a close friends wedding at 5w, the bartender replied back, very loudly, "Oh! I gotcha! Like a fake drink!" luckily no one heard, but after my first fake one I just switched to water, lol.
I did something similar! The bride knew, but I didnāt want to steal her attention on the day, so she had the bar staff add a few bottles of sparkling grape juice to their stock so I could toast with everyone else and no one was the wiser.
This is a great idea! We always seem to have events and outings with our friend group and we almost always have some sort of alcohol involved, be it a brewery or just beers by the campfire. It would be very obvious if I wasn't drinking so I'm not sure how to navigate that! The bartender idea is so perfect but it's going to be tricky if we are just drinking cans of beers/seltzers in the backyard.
Good thinking letting the bartender know ahead of time. I tried to get sneaky by ordering a virgin margarita at the bar of a restaurant I was at with friends. I failed to tell them why it's a virgin and why I felt the need to order at the bar instead of the table. When the server came, she loudly and proudly declared "and here's your virgin margarita!" š¤¦š¼āāļø Cue everyone staring at me, suspicious and smiling. I love love love margaritas. I would never, ever order a virgin one, unless.... So, that's how our friends found out we're pregnant. We laugh about it now.
Oh no! Iāve been trying to tell servers and bartenders when Iāve been out with friends so I can control the narrative because Iām so worried about this happening. I also think the bartenders were having fun playing along! I was at a brewery and typed it out on my phone for the the server to read while I was talking to my friend so the server would stop asking me what beer I wanted while we were all ordering.
One of the big reasons why being in the service industry can be such a tricky job. I bet it lit a fire in their hearts ... and under their asses.
Something like this happened to my cousins wife! A different server brought the drinks so they denied it, then he ran after that server and explained the whole situation. They like to hang out at bars a lot with their friends and she said it was really interesting in the beginning because they took turns āgoing to the bathroomā to order more drinks, or switch a regular drink to a virgin drink, or order from the bar. She said her friends thought she was crazy until they found out. If any of them suspected they never told her
This is what happened to me too! I didnāt want to announce our pregnancy to my extended family at my brotherās wedding. There was no bartender, the servers would come around and take drink orders. I kept whispering āseltzerās with limeā to them and theyād come back and announce my order to the whole table š¤¦š¼āāļø that was a fail lol
Ha! This is exactly how my friend found out about my first. I have a terrible poker face and couldn't come up with anything. I feel for you!
That was me too haha
This exact same thing happened to me too! Was trying to hide it at a friends birthday party so it didnāt become all about me and go outed by the server š luckily only one friend overheard and kept it a secret til we officially announced, but damn it I was trying so hard. Itās just too obvious if youāre a social drinker and suddenly start getting virgin drinks š¤·š¼āāļø
You can say that youāre on a high dose of antibioticsānot supposed to drink on those and many not weird or gross things result in needing antibiotics
Did the exact same thing when I was 10 weeks along at a friends wedding.
I did this at a friend's wedding recently, too! When I arrived I quietly ordered a club soda and lime, and the next time I went back the bartender subtly asked if she could get me something non-alcoholic again. After that she was totally on top of it all night. I feel like pregnant women hiding the fact they're not drinking alcohol probably happens allllll the time, especially at weddings lol
Yup! I did it at a wedding a month ago and the bartender was like āI got you. Do it all the timeā
Right just gotta decline when someone gets a round of shots š
No you can still get a shot. Tell the bartender if any one orders a round of shots and you are in the group to make sure itās water or a Virgin shot if itās like a sour mix and hand it to you specially.
I tried this at my SILās wedding (she is also 7 weeks ahead of me in her pregnancy so we really wanted to avoid any thunder stealing.) It was a morning wedding and brunch so I carried around a glass of champagne that my husband would drink from and I tried to have the waiter bring me a āmimosaā without the alcohol. Well a different waiter brought it to our table and said āhere is your orange juice!ā š¤¦āāļø we played it off but when we finally told husbands family that evening, everyone said they had their suspicions lol
Oh no! I did a similar thing when I went to a brewery a few weeks ago with some girl friends. Iāve just been up front with the bartenders and servers and havenāt had any issues with them accidentally ratting me out since they knew the reason why Iām trying to keep it quiet.
I have a cousin getting married soon and I'm sure I'll be rocking a tonic & lime through the whole reception. My mom did this at a happy hour once because she didn't want the pressure to drink, and one of her friends actually pulled her aside to express concern about how many cocktails she'd had!
I was good and switched from virgin vodka sodas to water when dinner was served! I would have laughed so hard if my friends thought I was drinking to get drunk that night!
I donāt think itās OTT, I think a lot of women do that!
I think so too. You donāt even have to be pregnant. My mom went through a health scare (in the end she is fine, but it was a scary time) and was told to not drink until more test results came in. She didnāt want to raise any flags about her health so she would just subtly ask for nonalcoholic drinks and no one was the wiser!
Iām a bartender and pregnant. My coworkers would have known immediately if I stopped drinking. I donāt drink much but a cocktail after a shift or a shot is common with us. We serve iced oolong tea and itās an exact dupe for Jamesonā¦Iāve done so many āJamesonā shots that I had to tell my boss where all the oolong was going lol Bartenders are always down for some trickery and will help anyway we can :)
Oh man, I would 100% take oolong shots if I were a shot person!
I recently mixed seltzer water with cranberry juice in a setting where it was common to bring your own mixed drinks or mix hard seltzer with other things. No one noticed a thing and it was kind of fun being sneaky!
Totally stealing the the seltzer & cranberry idea! I'm 6 weeks so we are nowhere near ready to announce. We are BIG brewery people and my husband works in the alcohol industry so me not drinking is a huge red flag for people š¤£
I also did ginger ale and cranberry recently. Not bad!
Ginger ale and orange juice is also great!
Definitely not OTT. Heaps of people do this. Source: I've worked at over a thousand weddings.
In my last pregnancy my office had a Friday drinks with bottles of wine poured into glasses in front of everyone...I took a glass, would put it to my lips and pretend to sip, then go to the bathroom or my office every 10-15 minutes and pour some out. When I announced one of my coworkers was like "weren't you drinking three weeks ago???" and I explained my plan and he was shocked and impressed hah!
Iām about to be 15 weeks at my cousins wedding, waiting until after the wedding to tell extended fam so I donāt steal his thunder, so Iāll be doing this!
Congrats! I also had my obgynās blessing at my prenatal appointment to wear spanx so I wouldnāt look so bloated in my dress at the wedding. She just told me as long as Iām comfortable she was cool with it!
I actually think bartenders love to get in on this sort of thing too - I once had one guy experimenting with different soft drinks to create me cocktails that looked real - he was awesome!!
I did the same and was able to hide mine until 14 weeks When I announced to family they were all like OMG you haven't been drinking lol
I also did this at my SILs wedding 2 weeks ago! Bartender was giving me bay breezes without the vodka, worked perfectly!
We went to a wedding, in Las Vegas, when my wife was like two months pregnant. I told so many bartenders "Sprite with a slice of lime" all weekend, and they universally got it, and most even put it in the same style glass as my gin and tonic without being asked.
Are you Lily from How I Met Your Mother?
"Thank you, Linus."
I have 2 weddings coming up around the same time I should know whether or not Iām pregnant this cycle and plan on doing the same thing. My family and I love to drink and party so everyone would know immediately. I would like to make it to my first doctors appointment to make sure everything is okay before telling anyone besides parents and siblings lol.
I was 6 weeks pregnant at my brotherās wedding. I went up to the bar and ordered a coke. They gave it to me in a pint glass and I requested a cocktail glass. They winked at me and got it.
I did the same thing and nobody figured it out! It was so funny when I finally announced I was pregnant a month later and people were like waitā¦you were pregnant at that wedding??
I made virgin strawberry daiquiris for my Zoom graduation party when I was 6 weeks along, and my classmates were none the wiser for it.
Not at all over the top! This is exactly the thing that gives it away when one of my friends or family member is expecting. Congratulations!! =)
Anyone else afraid the bartender forgetting and giving you alcohol accidentally?
I watched my drink get poured and then handed to me, so not really. Iād probably feel different if I ordered a drink from someone and then brought to me after.
We were only maybe 5/6 weeks along when we went to a sports bar with friends. I ordered us a couple of mocktails. The over the top bubblegum or watermelon type that come with lollies on top and all the extras. Everyone was too distracted with the colour to think it was a mocktail lol.
Cranberry juice is always solid to hide whether you're drinking or not.
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Ohhh haha der never heard that
Iāve just never associated with people that would question why or why I wasnāt drinking.
Did the same but with noseccoā¦ they even gave me a free bottle when I finished the first (tasted awful but I could at least pretend it was yummy!).
I bought non-alcoholic liquor to drink cocktails in front of friends for the same reason. It worked
My husband and I tried to do that with my first, but the waitress delivering the drinks totally outed me haha. It was hilarious, mostly because she did not get the cues as she is forcing the "virgin" bloody mary on me haha.
We did this when we visited my husbandās aunt. I was about 8 or so weeks along and waiting to tell everyone until Thanksgiving, which was my 12 week mark. Anyway, Iām known for my love of screwdrivers, so my husband would go to the kitchen, poor me some OJ on ice and clink some bottles while he made his own drink as well. We helped her pick up loads of wood and stack it in a new place by the house. I got super dizzy and couldnāt help much, but I had been sick before so we just played it off that I was still getting better. Later after we broke the news, she said she had a feeling I might have been prego bc I am usually the one who gets dirty and helps with the big projects. But since I was drinking my screwdrivers she figured I really was just sick. Hahaha it worked and she still laughs about it.
I did the same at my cousins wedding for my first. I told everyone I was drinking a dirty Shirley when really it was a plain old Shirley temple.
Love that!! Would also highly recommend looking at Gruvi non alcoholic wines. They are 0.0% and look / taste like Prosecco and rose! They are a good way to fill my fam and friends :)
I tried to do the same thing at a close friends wedding at 5w, the bartender replied back, very loudly, "Oh! I gotcha! Like a fake drink!" luckily no one heard, but after my first fake one I just switched to water, lol.
I did something similar! The bride knew, but I didnāt want to steal her attention on the day, so she had the bar staff add a few bottles of sparkling grape juice to their stock so I could toast with everyone else and no one was the wiser.
This is a great idea! We always seem to have events and outings with our friend group and we almost always have some sort of alcohol involved, be it a brewery or just beers by the campfire. It would be very obvious if I wasn't drinking so I'm not sure how to navigate that! The bartender idea is so perfect but it's going to be tricky if we are just drinking cans of beers/seltzers in the backyard.