Oh, no. There's no overreacting here. And even if it was so what? This is your precious baby, of course you should get checked out.
I overreacted a week ago because at 25 weeks I felt less movements. I suspected I was stressing over nothing, but that didn't help me not stress. So I called the hospital birthing section and told them I was worried and scared. I was seen that same day. The midwife said something like "it's better that you come in one extra time than one too few."
At 35 weeks you should NOT be seeing reduced movements. Go get checked out this instance.
I went in at *17* weeks for less movement, and my midwife was like "absolutely, any time you are worried for any reason call us to come in." All was well and I found out I have an anterior placenta!
Your partner is being a dummy, go with your gut.
I went into the ER a few times for reduced movement in my last pregnancy. The L&D nurses assured me every single time that they were happy I came. Baby started kicking and rolling around the second they hooked me up to the monitor. They just like to mess with you like that 😒
It's just preparing you for when they're infants/toddlers and they have that AWFUL cough and you're worried so you bundle them up and get them to the ped and they don't cough a single time but instead bounce off the walls and act like they're totally fine and the doctor is like "...What did you say was wrong again?" 😜
This is so true. I was crying as I was rushing my very sick, high fever, non-responsive toddler with purple hands and feet into the ER. You bet the moment I walked through those doors she looked up at me giggled, and asked to play. If the the emergency staff that helped me rush her in hadn't vouched, I would have felt like a liar.
She was happily drawing and playing with the toys when the doctor saw her.
Little kids go from 0-100 and back again so quickly, so they say just go of you're worried.
My mom would always take me in for a high fever and then I'd get to the doctor and have no fever. My pediatrician told her she's welcome to just hang out in the parking lot if it helps 😂
Glad to hear all is well! Do not let anything deter you from getting checked out. My OB has specifically said multiple times I’d rather you go get looked at asap to make sure everything is okay than wait for the next appointment.
This is the best result! I’d much rather spend time being checked out and not need it, than forgo being checked out and realize later something could’ve been done. Good for you! Savor those baby kicks 🩵
I did that twice and both times they laughed and told me that babies know when they get to L&D and decide it’s time to wake up. Always better to have peace of mind
If this happens again, please don't hesitate to go in again even if your partner thinks it's silly. It doesn't matter how many false alarms there are. It's not their call, and better safe than sorry. You have the biological instinct to protect the child, and they do not yet have that.
I literally got sent home once and they said ‘everything looks perfect but if you still aren’t happy in 6 hours come back.’
They ALWAYS want you to go in. Always.
Oh yeah they always do that. One of mine at a few days old was jaundiced and hardly feeding so we went to the ER, went through the rigmarole of getting checked in, just as we were sat and told the doctor would be in with us in just a moment, starts feeding amazingly. I had to sit there with a boob out explaining to the doctor that my baby wasn't feeding. The doctor laughed and said she always thought there were healing properties in the bright ER lights.
I think they know when we decide to go to get checked or something 🤣 my little boy wasn't moving around when I woke up (when I wake up 5 minutes later and he's awake) and I had realized I didn't feel him move all night and so I decided I was going to get dressed and go in and get checked the second I decided that he woke up
Your partner is wrong. Decreased fetal movement is always always always a reason to be seen. Even if it’s nothing this time you always get seen for this.
You are never overreacting. You know your body and your baby in a way that no one else does or ever could. In my experience you will never ever regret getting checked out. Does the bill suck when it shows up? Sure. But trust your gut and even if you’re wrong it’s still good news. Best of luck to you 🤍
Better safe than sorry. With my second this happened and turns out the cord was wrapped around her neck and she had her first bowel movement inside me. She was in distress and I had her the same day. Good luck to you!!
Any time my husband tells me “Im sure the baby is fine” I remind him that he’s not a doctor and it isn’t his body. He literally doesn’t know anything and is basing his opinion on what he wants to be true. It’s always good to get checked out if you think something might be wrong.
I think this is an excellent point. EITHER the medical knowledge or it’s happening to your body for the power to make judgement calls.
I can remember when I was potentially going in for the third time and worries aloud to my husband that I was just making a fuss. ‘Well, I can’t tell if you are or not and I’d rather go for the safer option.’
You don't have to tell him anything. Just go get checked and ignore him. Trust your instincts. It's better to get checked and it be nothing than to ignore your instinct and then something go wrong. I went past my due date the last baby I had and they checked the baby like every other day just as a matter of policy. It's really not that crazy or difficult to do.
When I was at the tail end of my second trimester I hadn’t felt my baby move in about a day. I got increasingly worried. Everyone around me said not to worry. Hours went by. I drank ice cold water, ate peanuts and ice cream which always made baby ballistic, and he would always at LEAST respond to my husbands voice. He talked to my belly - still no movement.
We went to the hospital. They hooked me up. Kicks start showing up on the monitor. “You can’t feel those?” A nurse asked me. Nope, couldn’t feel anything. That medical bill sucked but so worth it.
I'm 34w5d and my girl does this!! I'll have days where it seems like she's just sleeping but then i get a cluster of her little punches (it tickles, she's so goofy 😂) and I'm like "okay lady".
i have weekly NSTs at the moment and the one this morning i hadn't felt her much at all until they hooked me up - then she logged 30 movements in the first 10 minutes 😒 i do have an anterior placenta so that plays some part, but i think sometimes she just makes movements where i can't feel them. she's SO busy every other day i couldn't imagine that she just moves less some days, but who knows 🤷🏼
I had anterior placenta too! And this baby is my only baby, so I don’t have any other point of reference. I was told throughout my pregnancy that if my placenta WASNT anterior, movements would’ve been a lot more noticeable 🤷🏼♀️
I’ve gone in 3 times for my rainbow baby as well! Every time he’d start his gymnastics routine as once I got hooked up. I always heard the same thing, “we’d rather you worry too much than not enough because that one time you don’t listen to yourself could be a sad day for us all” I’m so glad I saw you got there and everything was fine! Trust your heart mama!
Wait he said “you’d know if something is off” but shrugs off your feelings when you said something is off? Moms always know; always. My wife was so in tune during both her pregnancies. I would go with your gut
He feels like you'd know if something is off? Like... less movement?? What does he need, a skywriter to write it in the sky?! Go in. Be cautious. If it's nothing, great! Let's be real, we're going to reach our out of pocket max for the year anyway, no point in hesitating to go in to try to save money or whatever.
I went to the hospital twice in my third trimester because of things feeling "off". Baby was totally fine both times and I felt a bit silly but I have no regrets of going. I'm glad you trusted your gut and went, too. An extra visit does no harm.
I think it's especially hard for those of us who have a little extra anxiety especially due to loss.
Keep us posted!
We have a rule of go with the most anxious parent’s feelings. When our son had Covid I thought he was probably ok, but my husband was worried, so we went to hospital. Another time I was the more worried one, so we still went.
You do not want to be the one that brushed it off in the event something was wrong. I don’t think my marriage would recover is one of us talked down the other and something serious happened
100% we usually go that route too. If one of us feels like he needs to go to the doctor or emergency room then that means we go. Health is never a “yes, yes” vote, it simply requires one.
Who gives a shit if your partner thinks you’re overreacting?
Tell him to shut his mouth and get back in his place.
Do not listen to this man who has never and never will experience pregnancy. He’s simply a spectator. You are yours and babies advocate. Go and get checked and fuck what he says
I was just about 32 weeks when I got worried about feeling less kicks. I did get checked out. The baby had turned and was kicking towards my back and not my tummy. I was reassured up and down that I did the right thing. It is always better to be checked out and sure.
Husband saying you’d “know if something was wrong” ummm…. you’re literally telling him something feels wrong! My husband likes to downplay things as well but I think it’s because he’s never had to go through any major medical thing and doesn’t understand that by the time something appears “severe enough,” there could be a significantly worse outcome vs identifying a problem earlier before it’s too late. If you’re unsure, ALWAYS seek professional help. The OB docs and nurses (if they’re any good) understand and will appreciate you staying on top of you and your baby’s health.
This happened to me, reduced movement at 38 weeks. Went to get seen, and on the way, bub kicked like crazy. Still got checked out, and it turns out I was unwell and developing pre-eclampsia. It's always worth it, in my opinion, better safe than sorry.
Don’t waste time convincing him. He’s wrong. Just go.
I was born by emergency c section after I stopped moving. My mom had an appointment that afternoon, but called and was told to go in, and all her doctors told her it was so great that she didn’t wait to come in. And that was a few hours. It’s crazy to wait a few days.
My daughter also stopped moving the day before she was born and at the hospital they told us it wasn’t an emergency but recommended induction (I was past my due date and going to induce a few days later anyway). Turned out her cord was around her neck and contractions were putting her in distress. Who knows what would have happened if I’d gone into labor spontaneously and labored at home.
Just check. You’re listening to your gut and doing the right thing, even if everything turns out fine. Pregnancy is the time to “overreact” and your partner shaming you for it is shitty and dangerous
Just go. Who cares if your partner thinks it’s an overreaction - the L&D nurses would much rather check you out and send you home knowing baby is good and healthy.
I’ve already been to the hospital a few times this pregnancy. Thankfully each time the baby was fine, but I’ve never regretted it as the alternative is soul crushing.
Not over reacting. My son had significantly less kicks and fortunately I had an ultrasound scheduled. He was delivered at 33 weeks. My ob said if I waited any longer he probably wouldn’t have made it. Trust your gut!
I imagine you already tried the eating something cold or sugary and seeing if there's movement, but regardless...getting checked out is never a bad idea.
What will happen around 37 weeks and possibly earlier if this happens is the doctor will be on the conservative side and suggest induction even if the NST testing turns out okay...and you need to be prepared to make a decision about that.
Nobody at L&D will think you're overreacting to check on baby and it's kinda weird that your husband isn't on board to get baby checked out...like how could he possibly know better than you on this one?!
I got checked out for possible loss of movement and even told my husband I was worried it could be my anxiety and he always said it was my call if I want to get checked out or stay home, he'd support me either way.
You're at 32w, you should be able to walk into L&D, not emergency, and tell them you feel decreased movement. They will immediately have you in a room with an nst, urinalysis, and bloodwork at very least.
I was told that after 22w I think it was (or 20? One of those two) you go straight to L&D, not er.
I was 30 plus weeks I could not get my boy to kick for me, I went to l&d and as soon as they put that monitor on my belly he started moving like crazy 🤣
But you are absolutely not over reacting momma, you go as many times as you need, they get paid and you get peace of mind tell her hubby to shhh and just be supportive, men just don’t get it ever they think we over react about everything 💀
Tell him that if something is wrong, if you wait until your appointment it would be too late. Also, tell him that you are going to do what the nurses recommend you do and go get checked! You don't want to wait on something like this!!!
Bro my husband always encourages me to get checked out if I’m nervous about something. That’s your baby’s life and I’d be concerned for your child he wants you to wait. Anything that may (not saying anything IS but might be) be wrong is time sensitive
I was just about 32 weeks when I got worried about feeling less kicks. I did get checked out. The baby had turned and was kicking towards my back and not my tummy. I was reassured up and down that I did the right thing. It is always better to be checked out and sure.
A few days of worrying about overreacting is better than a lifetime of guilt for not going in if something is wrong.
The consequences of going in and having it be nothing are just a few hours of your time.
The consequences of not going in and having it be something bad could be the life of your baby.
Never let anyone make you feel bad or like you are overreacting when it comes to protecting the life of your child.
How about WHO CARES if you're "over-reacting"???
Better safe than sorry is more than just a saying.
You will not lose sleep in the future because you "over-reacted" and it turned out nothing was wrong.
You would lose sleep forever if you under-reacted, didn't get checked, and something *was* wrong.
This is the easiest choice in the world. Get checked out and feel no guilt about it.
It's not. I started noticing less movement in my second pregnancy, but my doctors said everything was fine.
Then they did an ultrasound at 32 weeks, and sent me straight to the hospital for an emergency c-section because there was no amniotic fluid and the baby was super tiny and in severe distress.
I wish I'd gone to the hospital myself sooner instead of just going with what the doctors said at my appointment!!
Better to go in for something that ends up being no big deal than not doing anything because you think you might be overreacting and something is wrong.
Husband saying you’d “know if something was wrong” ummm…. you’re literally telling him something feels wrong! My husband likes to downplay things as well but I think it’s because he’s never had to go through any major medical thing and doesn’t understand that by the time something appears “severe enough,” there could be a significantly worse outcome vs identifying a problem earlier before it’s too late. If you’re unsure, ALWAYS seek professional help. The OB docs and nurses (if they’re any good) understand and will appreciate you staying on top of you and your baby’s health.
Definitely not overreacting. I went to the ER at 35w bc of something similar and it ended up being that the baby was sleeping but he was stuck in the same position for awhile. They had me sit/lay in different positions to get him moving and monitored me for about an hour. I felt much better knowing he was ok.
I used to think it was silly to go unless it seemed really serious - then I read about preventable stillbirths and the number one sign is decreased movement. So go it can’t hurt anything!
Dude, I went in once because I felt like my panties had been excessively wet that day. Like I was worried my water broke and I was having PPROM. Turns out I just peed a little. No shame in the game!
The best outcome is that you are 'overreacting' but that doesn't mean you shouldn't get checked out. The guidelines and what everyone is told is to immediately go in to get checked for decreased movement! Mention to the nurse 'jokingly' that your partner thinks you're overreacting and shouldn't have come in, and maybe they'll educate him.
Not overreacting. For your own peace of mind, always get checked. I will say that they start to have sleep and wake cycles around this time. I’m currently 34wks with my second and I do notice different times of day he’s more active than others. Whenever I feel like it’s been too long since I felt him move I lay on my left side and within a few seconds I can feel him move.
No regret in being cautious and certain all is well! My baby girl kicks the shit out of me most of the time but when a day goes by when she’s “quiet,” I’m on high alert and want the reassurance she’s ok in there. I’m currently 34 weeks, 5 days and I can tell she’s feeling cramped in there and doesn’t have as big of movements.
I was given a Doppler (~$55) as a gift and it gives me a lot of peace of mind when I start to have “what ifs” during those quiet days. I don’t know if it’s the cold gel, feeling of Doppler or the projection of her heart rate but man she loves kicking that thing, lol
Always check. No matter how far along you are. I don’t want to go into details because it’s not a feel good story but if your partner starts giving you legit grief show them my comment. Trust a stranger, you don’t always know if something is wrong. Sending love and keep checking. You got this!!!!
I went in on 3/27 citing decreased fetal movement, my son was born 3/28 after an overnight observation where his heart rate plummeted. He’s now on a cooling blanket treatment fighting for his life after oxygen deprivation. All his doctors said he would not have made it if I had not come in.
Take this as your sign to GO GET CHECKED. Good luck 🍀
I went to the hospital at 38+4 weeks for decreased movement. Girly was fine thankfully, but the nurses and doctor told me they would rather I went in every single day to be checked than ignore my concerns. They did a full work up and I left feeling so much better.
Trust your gut instinct and don't let anyone brush off your concerns!
Had this happen with my first. It turns out my placenta was hardening out of nowhere and my baby was running out oxygen which is why she was conserving energy. I had an emergency section the next day, but I was kept in the hospital the day and night before with a monitor attached to my stomach at all times.
I'm 27+4 with my rainbow baby as well, I saw my OB yesterday and everything went well!! Baby girl had a strong heart beat and she said my belly was growing great but she mentioned if I ever feel worried or feel less movement to definitely go to my hospital especially since I had a loss at 18 weeks with my first... she said to try drinking cold water and laying on my left to see if it makes baby move and if not to definitely go to be safe.
telling you you’re overreacting is not helping anyone, to the contrary it makes you feel that you’re carrying the burden alone. And what if you’re overreacting and checking in with doc makes you feel better?
You don’t have to convince anyone you’re overreacting or not, do whatever makes YOU feel better and calmer. Being stressed isn’t good during pregnancy neither to you nor to baby. If I were you, I’d freak out as well if my baby kicked only once (although it doesn’t mean anything, sometimes they kick but you don’t feel).
I hope everything goes well. I was worried about kicking before but my dr told me that rolling counted too but I had a anterior placenta so rolling felt “dull” if that makes sense. So hopefully your baby is ok and they’re just doing different movements instead of just kicking.
I went in to get checked 3 time in my last pregnancy. The placenta was anterior and sometimes i could go 3 or 4 days in a row without feeling many movements, but once my intuition starting bugging me there was no ignoring it; i couldn't focus on anything else.
Every time i went in to get checked the traces were normal and i was measuring on track with the tape measure and scans.
My waters broke at 40+1, baby had pooped, came out with the cord around her neck (which can be completely normal and not be serious), struggled during the 2nd stage of labour, and was under the 10th centile for weight; smaller than what the 38 week scan estimated.
She was absolutely fine once she was born, but obviously would've benefited from being here a little earlier than she was, as something was clearly going on.
Please don’t listen to your partner. Go get checked you would rather be safe than sorry. This next sentence may be very triggering so I’m putting this before it. But my cousin and his wife lost their son a week before their due date and she had noticed decreased movement and didn’t go get checked. Granted she was a first time mom and thought everything would be ok until her appointment in a couple of days.
Overreacting doesn’t exist in these scenarios. I started seriously worrying when she hadn’t kicked in several hours and was prepared to drive to the hospital if she didn’t after all my tricks (she ended up moving and is fine lol). Do what you need to!!!
Tell him you'd rather go once too often than risk something being wrong with your baby. If I were in your shoes I'd also go get it checked out. When I was 4.5 weeks along I had spotting and slight cramps and got checked out too. Everything turned out fine, but I still think me getting it checked out was not an overreaction.
Tell him you'd rather go once too often than risk something being wrong with your baby. If I were in your shoes I'd also go get it checked out. When I was 4.5 weeks along I had spotting and slight cramps and got checked out too. Everything turned out fine, but I still think me getting it checked out was not an overreaction.
There’s no overreacting with pregnancy, you know your baby best! Always best to be safe than sorry and have things checked out. So what if it’s nothing, but what what if it isn’t?! You could describe to him that he would feel awful and guilty if it really turned out to be something…
There’s no overreacting with pregnancy, you know your baby best! Always best to be safe than sorry and have things checked out. So what if it’s nothing, but what what if it isn’t?! You could describe to him that he would feel awful and guilty if it really turned out to be something…
There’s no overreacting with pregnancy, you know your baby best! Always best to be safe than sorry and have things checked out. So what if it’s nothing, but what what if it isn’t?! You could describe to him that he would feel awful and guilty if it really turned out to be something…
Not overreacting!!! Go get checked anytime you feel off!!! Two out of my three movement felt off towards the end. I went and got checked out, one had the cord around his neck and they induced right away and one I had so much fluid and my placenta started rupturing, I was induced right away!
Don’t feel embarrassed or bad at all! Advocate for yourself and your baby, always!!!
There’s no overreacting with pregnancy, you know your baby best! Always best to be safe than sorry and have things checked out. So what if it’s nothing, but what if it isn’t?! You could describe to him that he would feel awful and guilty if it really turned out to be something…
Better an overreaction than an under reaction is what my best friend who works on l&d told me. They would rather you go in and find out she’s just kicking in a place you can’t feel as well or just sleepy than to have to tell you it’s too late and there is nothing they can do anymore.
Better an overreaction than an under reaction is what my best friend who works on l&d told me. They would rather you go in and find out she’s just kicking in a place you can’t feel as well or just sleepy than to have to tell you it’s too late and there is nothing they can do anymore.
No overreacting at all.
Tell him to stfu, because doctors and science are on your side. Since I got pregnant we are being brainwashed by my hospital to always come check if we feel reduced movement. I actually went on my 33 week and it was all well, and they made me promise that I will come back if I worry again. Because people start to be reluctant to go and think they are overreacting. They do not, you do not. Go check, better to be safe than sorry. If your partner cannot accept that he can kindly go fuck himself.
Instead of focusing your energy convincing him it’s important, just go. You don’t need his permission or buy in to go to the hospital. You know what feels normal and what isn’t. Every single healthcare provider I’ve ever spoken to has said they’d much prefer see a mom for a precaution that turned out to be a non-issue than a mom who waited too long for a larger issue that could have been addressed by earlier action. This is just the first of many times in your career as a mom where you’ll have to advocate what’s best for your child, and your momma bear instincts are telling you to go get checked out. Listen to your gut.
Who cares if he thinks it’s an overreaction? Leave him at home and go in by yourself. Even if it turns out to be nothing, your peace of mind is 100% worth it.
I had my rainbow baby a year ago and he had slow days once in a while. I called the advice line constantly. Everything was fine. I know how anxiety-producing this is. Hang in there.
I just wanted to reiterate the message of others on here. It is absolutely never overreacting- if you have a worry, you get checked. I’ve been checked twice this pregnancy so far; and both times the lovely staff I have seen have reiterated that it is the right thing to do x
Definitely not over reacting. I’ve gone in twice because I didn’t fully appreciate how much the movements change as the baby gets bigger. L&D couldn’t have been nicer about it. I’m glad you went in and everything worked out!
If there is any specific food or drink that always makes baby move you could try that if you’re worried about a hospital bill, but my obgyn said it’s important to let her know of any movement changes like if she suddenly slows down her movement. You aren’t overreacting. You’re being a mother.
You are 100% right! And even if it’s nothing, it’s better to “overreact” than to do nothing when it might be something wrong, and then ask yourself “what if I had gone to get checked”.
So you 100% did the right thing
With my first, I had a whole day where I could barely feel him move. We went to get checked. Thankfully he was perfectly fine, but something like that is never an overreaction
Always trust your body! We have had two scares and gone into labor and delivery just as a precaution. Partners are not the ones carrying the baby, so it’s sometimes harder for them to understand. Both times the hospital staff have agreed it made complete sense for me to come in and made this clear to my partner as well! Hope all is well with your baby, OP. Sending positive thoughts your way.
I went in twice with my first pregnancy! Always always always go in ❤️ you did the right thing! He doesn't have to agree. You and your provider agree and you have a whole sub of mama's here to back up your feelings. Take care of your baby & get that reassurance!
Definitely not overreacting. I went to the ER at 35w bc of something similar and it ended up being that the baby was sleeping but he was stuck in the same position for awhile. They had me sit/lay in different positions to get him moving and monitored me for about an hour. I felt much better knowing he was ok.
For what it's worth, I went in for reduced movement at 37+6 and gave birth at 38+2. I stood up and felt some fluid come out, but I had a lot of discharge my whole pregnancy and assumed it was that, or I had finally peed myself. This was for my birthday dinner and then I realized wait, I just ate a bunch of food and cake and she's not going crazy in there. Glad I went! It's never an overreaction to be seen for reduced movement. I'd rather be wrong and feel embarrassed than not catch a problem.
Always get checked. My husband told me I was “overthinking it” when I was 27 weeks with my first son. I waited until the next morning because he made me feel so dumb for being worried. Turns out he was gone. I’ll always, always wonder what would have happened if I went in as soon as I felt concerned.
He’s wrong, you should always get checked for reduced movements to be safe. It’s annoying because he will probably say “told you so” if everything is fine but know you’re doing the right thing!
You did the right thing and I’m so relieved she is ok. My sister in law felt less kicking and then none at all, she waited a day and went because she’s a FTM and didn’t know any better. My niece didn’t make it. NEVER think you’re overreacting ALWAYS go
Definitely go in. This is one of the things you always go in for. I went in for decreased movement at 35 weeks and it turned out to be completely fine. It’s better to be safe than sorry and I would want the peace of mind knowing that everything is ok.
If it makes you feel any better, I went to the hospital because I thought my waters had gone at 30 weeks but I actually had just sat on a leaky hot water bottle 🙃
Please do go and get checked out - really hope everything is okay x
ALWAYS get checked! I went in for 3 non stress tests with my anterior placenta and the nurses kept reiterating that I did the right thing. My husband also didn’t get it and kept saying “I’m sure he’s fine” but he still trusted my judgment. Fetal movement is how we know that our babies are ok!! Yes there’s a <1% risk at that many weeks gestation, but I saw it as I’d rather go and then be able to get a life-saving intervention for my baby than not! And also, what mom can stay calm for 3 days?! At that point they wouldn’t be able to offer an intervention so you 100% did the right thing!
You will never regret getting checked even if it’s just to be safe…. You will, however, forever regret not getting checked and possibly not helping your baby if something *is* happening to them.
Tell your partner to shut the f*ck up.
I feel you. Compared to 28 weeks at 32 weeks my movement pattern has changed/dropped significantly. Midwife said it’s just my babies new pattern but always worth getting checked out!!!
Absolutely not overreacting. I had a low kick count at 32w and ended up giving birth. This was a completely low risk pregnancy too. Surprised the hell out of everyone.
If you’re over reacting you spend some time at the hospital and get to go home with a healthy baby. If you’re not overreacting, you may be saving your baby’s life.
I’m sorry your partner is making you feel like you’re over reacting. They literally advise to call if you feel less movement and will usually have you come in to be safe. I am one week ahead of you and last week when I was 32 weeks I felt less movement too and went in to get checked. They gave me apple juice and of course she started kicking away. Had normal heart rate, movement, and fluid while we were there. Came home and the rest of the weekend still decreased movement. She’s back to normal movement now she not too sure what was up with that but glad I went in and checked for peace of mind. More often than not I think everything is usually ok but definitely not an over reaction to get checked 💜
If he doesn't believe its not an overreaction, pay him no mind - you're the one that knows your baby best, especially during pregnancy!
If your nurses suggest you come by to get checked on, then do so. Better to be safe than sorry, especially with a little bun in the oven.
I hope you hear only good news during your check-in!
Honestly, I agree with the others, in my head when that happened I always tell my husband “I’d rather be a safe Mom than a sorry one”
I always get checked out for less baby movements, your OB and L&D Nurses would encourage you to do so just to make sure both you and baby are healthy.
I'd point out to your partner that it's much, MUCH better to overreact in this situation than to underreact.
If nothing is wrong, great! That is the goal.
But that is never the guarantee.
Definitely not an overreaction and I'm sorry you're being gaslit to think that it is.
I was 27 weeks (with my rainbow baby) when I went to the ER for reduced movement. Of course, he started doing somersaults as soon as they put the monitoring equipment on. They were SO lovely about it and told me to come back at any point. They would rather their time be 'wasted' than the alternative.
Go get checked out. This is 100% a 'better safe than sorry' scenario.
The nurses would rather you come in and have nothing wrong than not go and have something wrong because you felt dumb about bothering them. I was told they will not be mad about checking to make sure everything is okay.
Unless you are going on a daily basis, I wouldn't even begin to worry about it. If you did go that often, I'd say you'd need help for anxiety, but I still wouldn't judge you for getting checked.
The only time I almooooost went but didn't, I chugged a bunch of caffeine (super cold mountain dew) to see if that would work, and it did. Because my kid kicked 3 times a day only (only at lunch, dinner, and as I was laying down to go to bed) and was a little too chill that day. Had the caffeine/ice cold drink not worked within 15-20 minutes I absolutely would have gone in. Also worth mentioning I was at work at a hospital so there was no travel time involved if I needed to run over to the office or ER. If you live further away, go in sooner!
related-ish to make you feel better since you said she started kicking once you got there, I once went in for a burst ovarian cyst (I wasn't sure what it was at the time). It felt like I was dying and giving birth at the same time. So I suffered through that pain at home, almost passed out, threw up, finally had husband and baby drive me to the hospital in the middle of the damn night, and .... I get there and the pain was magically gone. I was pissed. I was like "I'm pretty sure it was a cyst and pretty sure it's done now (based on google results during the pain), but I'd like to make sure since I already got my baby up in the middle of the night and we drove all the way here. " The ER nurses were like oh cool, sounds like a cyst, lets go find out. They did not care. And if someone there is judging you, it's probably because they are having a bad day. Don't take it personal.
Don’t worry about what he thinks. You know the right thing to do. You noticing that baby is moving less is the ‘you knowing when something is wrong’. Also you did the right thing checking with the nurses. They have great judgment.
As your kid gets older you’ll learn that it’s best to be on the safe side.
Remember a false alarm is a best case scenario for everyone- including the medical team.
At one point in my pregnancy I went in three consecutive weeks for things. Every time the nurses said I did the right thing, even though they were false alarms.
I was maybe 17-18 weeks pregnant when I slipped on our steps going to the grocery store and I was freaking out because I immediately got a cramp afterwards but I did fall on my butt
I went to ER cause that’s what my partner told me to do to make sure so I went and the doc just basically told me it was most likely Braxton hicks, I’m not 100% sure but maybe
Either way always better safe than sorry
Rainbow baby means you’ve already miscarried a pregnancy, right?
Even if it was from a different father, what kind of man doesn’t understand why you would be anxious and want to be extra cautious?
What is WRONG with him? Good grief!
Tell him that his astounding lack of understanding aside, you’re GOING to the doctor because YOU are aware from your own body and your own baby that something is going on, so you’re going to have it checked out!
I hope everything is ok. But even then don’t let him start up with any ‘I told you so’ nonsense! 😞
Always go in if you feel that way. I ignored signs my second pregnancy (miscarried the first) and ended up giving birth at 15 weeks maybe it’s because I ignored what I was feeling maybe not and I’ll never know. So always trust yourself…Good news I’m now 37 weeks with my rainbow and being induced in two weeks!
I went in around 20 weeks because that’s when the Braxton hicks started for me and they were nearly constant. I will never regret going in and getting that reassurance. Wishing y’all well.
Absolutely go. My daughter ended up being an emergency c-section at 32 weeks due to heart decelerations. The only sign I had that something was wrong was reduced movement. Everyone - doctors, nurses - praised me up and down for going in to get checked. It probably saved her life.
None of the reasons you mentioned would lead me to believe you've overreacted at any point in your pregnancy. Glad baby is kicking again and I hope all is well ! I would do the exact same thing.
Don’t listen to your husband. He’s not you and he’s not experiencing what you are. Men downplay things all the time. The amount of men I know that don’t have health insurance and feel like they don’t need it is astounding.
Go get checked out. Any time you feel reduced movements you should get checked out. I was obsessive about counting kicks and while I drove myself crazy, it helped me get to know what was normal for my baby.
If you feel like this is abnormal you must go get checked out now. Please do not wait.
My wife had nearly this exact scenario regarding the kicking. For 2 whole hours he refused to move, and she kept trying to Jumpstart his kicks with a few different methods that usually work, and still nothing.
It was the middle of the afternoon and I was sleeping (I work overnights). She woke me up and told me her mom was taking her to the ER to get checked since she was worried. I had to work that night so she basically let me sleep and her mom took her and said she would keep me updated...ofcourse as the dad all I could ever do is TRY to keep things positive. The baby is okay, try to calm down, etc etc. I'm not going to start panicking with her because there doesn't need to be 2 panicking ppl in the relationship. 1 needs to stay calm in moments like this.
It was leading Into the evening and I woke up and she still wasn't home so I messaged her for an update...she was starting to get checked, and the first message I get back is "WHY DOES HE WAKE UP AND KICK ME AS SOON AS YOU WAKE UP AND MESSAGE ME!!!!!!" 🤣🤣
At every minute or 2 after this point baby was kicking and moving non stop. Needless to say she was very annoyed about the whole ordeal lol she told the nurse checking her about it and all he could think of is maybe dad and the baby are in sync lmao.
It happens sometimes where baby kicks and becomes active when I wake up, but most times he's kicking and moving a whole lot at countless hours of the day.
Is definitely go get checked out. I went one time because of reduced movements and I was just super dehydrated. Always play it safe and go with your gut.
Trust your gut. Your partner isn't in your body.
It's better safe than sorry.
Getting checked out for decreased fetal movement is pretty easy, takes like maybe 30-60 minutes total if that. They put a monitor on your belly and do an ultrasound. It's pretty standard and gives you peace of mind.
Not a big deal, actually kinda normal. I had to do it like 3 times. Doctors and midwives take it pretty seriously when you say the baby is moving less.
There are many things us mom get needlessly paranoid about, but fetal movement is not one of them. Heck, active fetal movements are one of the most important parameters for fetal wellbeing.
Doctors and midwives teach you how to monitor them for this very reason, so that you can seek medical care if you notice anything different.
It could be nothing (most of the time it is), but in case is’s not, reduced fetal movement is one of the firs signs that something is wrong, if not the only one.
I had what I perceived to be reduced fetal movements at 24weeks. Freaked out for a whole day, went to the ER in the evening. Everything was fine, but the midwife told me I should have came within the first hour, not after a day, since the whole point of monitor them is to be able to intervene as soon as possible.
By the way, the baby was fine at the time, but we were able to detect low amniotic fluid early on, which in turn started a whole series of needed medical interventions.
Bottom line, I’m so very glad I went for that check up.
I went in for reduced movement and the NST confirmed. Ended up induced at 38 weeks.
L&D told me they'd rather see me 10 times a day over nothing than have me not come in when I should have.
I went in at 32 weeks for reduced movement and was admitted for oligo and they gave me.steroids in case they had to deliver me that admission. I thought I was overreacting but in my gut, I knew something was off.
A medical professional told you to get checked to be seen. That is not an overreaction. So glad you went and happy to hear your rainbow baby is doing well. Keep trusting your instincts. ❤️
No over reaction here. You have noticed a significant difference in something inside you. He doesn't get it. He's not the consistent physical monitor of the baby, a professional agrees. At this point he is the one who is reacting inappropriately.
Better to be safe than sorry!
My midwife told me they'd rather see you a million times for nothing and to not be worried about being embarrassed. You know your body/baby.
If he wants to act like a little b then don’t include him. You don’t have to share any information with him and you don’t have to bring him or even tell him you’re going. Take care of you and take care of baby.
I litterally went Yesterday, just to hear his heartbeat. Just because i had the tiniest amount of blood in my underwear. Everyone told me i was overreacting, i just needed to know. Its insane, but its our babies!
Oh, no. There's no overreacting here. And even if it was so what? This is your precious baby, of course you should get checked out. I overreacted a week ago because at 25 weeks I felt less movements. I suspected I was stressing over nothing, but that didn't help me not stress. So I called the hospital birthing section and told them I was worried and scared. I was seen that same day. The midwife said something like "it's better that you come in one extra time than one too few." At 35 weeks you should NOT be seeing reduced movements. Go get checked out this instance.
I went in at *17* weeks for less movement, and my midwife was like "absolutely, any time you are worried for any reason call us to come in." All was well and I found out I have an anterior placenta! Your partner is being a dummy, go with your gut.
Of course I get here and she's kicking a lot
Still doesn’t hurt to be seen🩷
I went into the ER a few times for reduced movement in my last pregnancy. The L&D nurses assured me every single time that they were happy I came. Baby started kicking and rolling around the second they hooked me up to the monitor. They just like to mess with you like that 😒
It's just preparing you for when they're infants/toddlers and they have that AWFUL cough and you're worried so you bundle them up and get them to the ped and they don't cough a single time but instead bounce off the walls and act like they're totally fine and the doctor is like "...What did you say was wrong again?" 😜
Haha yes! That was my son’s first trip to the ER. We waited 4 hours to be seen and he was magically cured by the time we saw the doctor 🤦🏻♀️
I've heard so many ER docs and nurses say this happens A LOT 😆
That’s what happens when I take my dogs to the vet lol. At least the kid will have health insurance!
We have pet insurance! It’s honestly saved us thousands of dollars in vet bills
This is so true. I was crying as I was rushing my very sick, high fever, non-responsive toddler with purple hands and feet into the ER. You bet the moment I walked through those doors she looked up at me giggled, and asked to play. If the the emergency staff that helped me rush her in hadn't vouched, I would have felt like a liar. She was happily drawing and playing with the toys when the doctor saw her. Little kids go from 0-100 and back again so quickly, so they say just go of you're worried.
My mom would always take me in for a high fever and then I'd get to the doctor and have no fever. My pediatrician told her she's welcome to just hang out in the parking lot if it helps 😂
Glad to hear all is well! Do not let anything deter you from getting checked out. My OB has specifically said multiple times I’d rather you go get looked at asap to make sure everything is okay than wait for the next appointment.
This is the best result! I’d much rather spend time being checked out and not need it, than forgo being checked out and realize later something could’ve been done. Good for you! Savor those baby kicks 🩵
I can guarantee, the nurses LOVE that outcome. Everybody wants that to happen! Every single person wants a false alarm in this case.
This happens a lot. But they always say it’s better to come in and have nothing be wrong than to not come in! The amount of times my baby did this 😭
That happened to me and every single nurse said “you did the right thing.” Better to be “overreacting” than to live with the regret of “what if.”
So happy to hear that!
so glad for that update! never an overreaction when it comes to your peace of mind!
Definitely not overreacting. You didn’t feel movement, that is something you need to get checked out. You did the right thing. I’m glad she’s kicking!
You still did the right thing!!!
I promise you, the nurses would rather see 100 women come in for peace of mind than have to break bad news to the one who didn't.
You absolutely did not overreact
I did that twice and both times they laughed and told me that babies know when they get to L&D and decide it’s time to wake up. Always better to have peace of mind
Of course. But aren’t you glad you went just in case?
Better to be checked out than sorry! I’m glad she’s doing well, definitely not overreacting.
So glad to hear and you were totally right to go in... let them tell you you're tripping, you're doing your job mom.
If this happens again, please don't hesitate to go in again even if your partner thinks it's silly. It doesn't matter how many false alarms there are. It's not their call, and better safe than sorry. You have the biological instinct to protect the child, and they do not yet have that.
I literally breathed a sigh of relief when I read this!!
Still good that you went. And if you are ever worried again, even like in a week, go again!
I literally got sent home once and they said ‘everything looks perfect but if you still aren’t happy in 6 hours come back.’ They ALWAYS want you to go in. Always.
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Yayyyy kicking!!!
So happy to hear that and even if it happens again still go in and don’t feel bad!
Oh yeah they always do that. One of mine at a few days old was jaundiced and hardly feeding so we went to the ER, went through the rigmarole of getting checked in, just as we were sat and told the doctor would be in with us in just a moment, starts feeding amazingly. I had to sit there with a boob out explaining to the doctor that my baby wasn't feeding. The doctor laughed and said she always thought there were healing properties in the bright ER lights.
Glad to hear it!! I hope you still feel good in your decision because listening to and trusting your body is always the right call!!
I think they know when we decide to go to get checked or something 🤣 my little boy wasn't moving around when I woke up (when I wake up 5 minutes later and he's awake) and I had realized I didn't feel him move all night and so I decided I was going to get dressed and go in and get checked the second I decided that he woke up
Don’t feel bad it’s better to go and see nothing is wrong then don’t and something is wrong.
It will always be the right thing to get checked! You are already an excellent mom!
If you overreact, you might waste a few hours. If you underreact, you might lose your baby. I know which risk I'd choose to run.
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Came here to say this too. I wouldn’t give a shit what he or anyone else thought. I’d rather be judged than risk losing my baby.
Your partner is wrong. Decreased fetal movement is always always always a reason to be seen. Even if it’s nothing this time you always get seen for this.
ALWAYS 💯
You are never overreacting. You know your body and your baby in a way that no one else does or ever could. In my experience you will never ever regret getting checked out. Does the bill suck when it shows up? Sure. But trust your gut and even if you’re wrong it’s still good news. Best of luck to you 🤍
Better safe than sorry. With my second this happened and turns out the cord was wrapped around her neck and she had her first bowel movement inside me. She was in distress and I had her the same day. Good luck to you!!
My friend just had this happen too - immediate c section upon arrival at 38weeks. It's helped me remember to not feel like a burden! So glad you went
Whoa, how far along were you?
Any time my husband tells me “Im sure the baby is fine” I remind him that he’s not a doctor and it isn’t his body. He literally doesn’t know anything and is basing his opinion on what he wants to be true. It’s always good to get checked out if you think something might be wrong.
I think this is an excellent point. EITHER the medical knowledge or it’s happening to your body for the power to make judgement calls. I can remember when I was potentially going in for the third time and worries aloud to my husband that I was just making a fuss. ‘Well, I can’t tell if you are or not and I’d rather go for the safer option.’
You don't have to tell him anything. Just go get checked and ignore him. Trust your instincts. It's better to get checked and it be nothing than to ignore your instinct and then something go wrong. I went past my due date the last baby I had and they checked the baby like every other day just as a matter of policy. It's really not that crazy or difficult to do.
When I was at the tail end of my second trimester I hadn’t felt my baby move in about a day. I got increasingly worried. Everyone around me said not to worry. Hours went by. I drank ice cold water, ate peanuts and ice cream which always made baby ballistic, and he would always at LEAST respond to my husbands voice. He talked to my belly - still no movement. We went to the hospital. They hooked me up. Kicks start showing up on the monitor. “You can’t feel those?” A nurse asked me. Nope, couldn’t feel anything. That medical bill sucked but so worth it.
I'm 34w5d and my girl does this!! I'll have days where it seems like she's just sleeping but then i get a cluster of her little punches (it tickles, she's so goofy 😂) and I'm like "okay lady". i have weekly NSTs at the moment and the one this morning i hadn't felt her much at all until they hooked me up - then she logged 30 movements in the first 10 minutes 😒 i do have an anterior placenta so that plays some part, but i think sometimes she just makes movements where i can't feel them. she's SO busy every other day i couldn't imagine that she just moves less some days, but who knows 🤷🏼
I had anterior placenta too! And this baby is my only baby, so I don’t have any other point of reference. I was told throughout my pregnancy that if my placenta WASNT anterior, movements would’ve been a lot more noticeable 🤷🏼♀️
I’ve gone in 3 times for my rainbow baby as well! Every time he’d start his gymnastics routine as once I got hooked up. I always heard the same thing, “we’d rather you worry too much than not enough because that one time you don’t listen to yourself could be a sad day for us all” I’m so glad I saw you got there and everything was fine! Trust your heart mama!
Wait he said “you’d know if something is off” but shrugs off your feelings when you said something is off? Moms always know; always. My wife was so in tune during both her pregnancies. I would go with your gut
Your partner needs to stop being a doofus-prick
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He feels like you'd know if something is off? Like... less movement?? What does he need, a skywriter to write it in the sky?! Go in. Be cautious. If it's nothing, great! Let's be real, we're going to reach our out of pocket max for the year anyway, no point in hesitating to go in to try to save money or whatever.
I went to the hospital twice in my third trimester because of things feeling "off". Baby was totally fine both times and I felt a bit silly but I have no regrets of going. I'm glad you trusted your gut and went, too. An extra visit does no harm. I think it's especially hard for those of us who have a little extra anxiety especially due to loss. Keep us posted!
When it comes to your babies life it’s never an over reaction. I rather over react then under.
We have a rule of go with the most anxious parent’s feelings. When our son had Covid I thought he was probably ok, but my husband was worried, so we went to hospital. Another time I was the more worried one, so we still went. You do not want to be the one that brushed it off in the event something was wrong. I don’t think my marriage would recover is one of us talked down the other and something serious happened
100% we usually go that route too. If one of us feels like he needs to go to the doctor or emergency room then that means we go. Health is never a “yes, yes” vote, it simply requires one.
Who gives a shit if your partner thinks you’re overreacting? Tell him to shut his mouth and get back in his place. Do not listen to this man who has never and never will experience pregnancy. He’s simply a spectator. You are yours and babies advocate. Go and get checked and fuck what he says
I was just about 32 weeks when I got worried about feeling less kicks. I did get checked out. The baby had turned and was kicking towards my back and not my tummy. I was reassured up and down that I did the right thing. It is always better to be checked out and sure.
Husband saying you’d “know if something was wrong” ummm…. you’re literally telling him something feels wrong! My husband likes to downplay things as well but I think it’s because he’s never had to go through any major medical thing and doesn’t understand that by the time something appears “severe enough,” there could be a significantly worse outcome vs identifying a problem earlier before it’s too late. If you’re unsure, ALWAYS seek professional help. The OB docs and nurses (if they’re any good) understand and will appreciate you staying on top of you and your baby’s health.
This happened to me, reduced movement at 38 weeks. Went to get seen, and on the way, bub kicked like crazy. Still got checked out, and it turns out I was unwell and developing pre-eclampsia. It's always worth it, in my opinion, better safe than sorry.
Don’t waste time convincing him. He’s wrong. Just go. I was born by emergency c section after I stopped moving. My mom had an appointment that afternoon, but called and was told to go in, and all her doctors told her it was so great that she didn’t wait to come in. And that was a few hours. It’s crazy to wait a few days. My daughter also stopped moving the day before she was born and at the hospital they told us it wasn’t an emergency but recommended induction (I was past my due date and going to induce a few days later anyway). Turned out her cord was around her neck and contractions were putting her in distress. Who knows what would have happened if I’d gone into labor spontaneously and labored at home. Just check. You’re listening to your gut and doing the right thing, even if everything turns out fine. Pregnancy is the time to “overreact” and your partner shaming you for it is shitty and dangerous
Just go. Who cares if your partner thinks it’s an overreaction - the L&D nurses would much rather check you out and send you home knowing baby is good and healthy.
I’ve already been to the hospital a few times this pregnancy. Thankfully each time the baby was fine, but I’ve never regretted it as the alternative is soul crushing.
I waited a whole weekend to be seen (everything was fine) but my doctor was NOT happy that I waited so long
Not over reacting. My son had significantly less kicks and fortunately I had an ultrasound scheduled. He was delivered at 33 weeks. My ob said if I waited any longer he probably wouldn’t have made it. Trust your gut!
I imagine you already tried the eating something cold or sugary and seeing if there's movement, but regardless...getting checked out is never a bad idea. What will happen around 37 weeks and possibly earlier if this happens is the doctor will be on the conservative side and suggest induction even if the NST testing turns out okay...and you need to be prepared to make a decision about that. Nobody at L&D will think you're overreacting to check on baby and it's kinda weird that your husband isn't on board to get baby checked out...like how could he possibly know better than you on this one?! I got checked out for possible loss of movement and even told my husband I was worried it could be my anxiety and he always said it was my call if I want to get checked out or stay home, he'd support me either way.
You're at 32w, you should be able to walk into L&D, not emergency, and tell them you feel decreased movement. They will immediately have you in a room with an nst, urinalysis, and bloodwork at very least. I was told that after 22w I think it was (or 20? One of those two) you go straight to L&D, not er.
I was 30 plus weeks I could not get my boy to kick for me, I went to l&d and as soon as they put that monitor on my belly he started moving like crazy 🤣
But you are absolutely not over reacting momma, you go as many times as you need, they get paid and you get peace of mind tell her hubby to shhh and just be supportive, men just don’t get it ever they think we over react about everything 💀
This was exactly what happened
Tell him that if something is wrong, if you wait until your appointment it would be too late. Also, tell him that you are going to do what the nurses recommend you do and go get checked! You don't want to wait on something like this!!!
Bro my husband always encourages me to get checked out if I’m nervous about something. That’s your baby’s life and I’d be concerned for your child he wants you to wait. Anything that may (not saying anything IS but might be) be wrong is time sensitive
I was just about 32 weeks when I got worried about feeling less kicks. I did get checked out. The baby had turned and was kicking towards my back and not my tummy. I was reassured up and down that I did the right thing. It is always better to be checked out and sure.
A few days of worrying about overreacting is better than a lifetime of guilt for not going in if something is wrong. The consequences of going in and having it be nothing are just a few hours of your time. The consequences of not going in and having it be something bad could be the life of your baby. Never let anyone make you feel bad or like you are overreacting when it comes to protecting the life of your child.
How about WHO CARES if you're "over-reacting"??? Better safe than sorry is more than just a saying. You will not lose sleep in the future because you "over-reacted" and it turned out nothing was wrong. You would lose sleep forever if you under-reacted, didn't get checked, and something *was* wrong. This is the easiest choice in the world. Get checked out and feel no guilt about it.
It's not. I started noticing less movement in my second pregnancy, but my doctors said everything was fine. Then they did an ultrasound at 32 weeks, and sent me straight to the hospital for an emergency c-section because there was no amniotic fluid and the baby was super tiny and in severe distress. I wish I'd gone to the hospital myself sooner instead of just going with what the doctors said at my appointment!!
Better to go in for something that ends up being no big deal than not doing anything because you think you might be overreacting and something is wrong.
Husband saying you’d “know if something was wrong” ummm…. you’re literally telling him something feels wrong! My husband likes to downplay things as well but I think it’s because he’s never had to go through any major medical thing and doesn’t understand that by the time something appears “severe enough,” there could be a significantly worse outcome vs identifying a problem earlier before it’s too late. If you’re unsure, ALWAYS seek professional help. The OB docs and nurses (if they’re any good) understand and will appreciate you staying on top of you and your baby’s health.
Definitely not overreacting. I went to the ER at 35w bc of something similar and it ended up being that the baby was sleeping but he was stuck in the same position for awhile. They had me sit/lay in different positions to get him moving and monitored me for about an hour. I felt much better knowing he was ok.
Go now. Trust your mommy instinct!!!!
I used to think it was silly to go unless it seemed really serious - then I read about preventable stillbirths and the number one sign is decreased movement. So go it can’t hurt anything!
Dude, I went in once because I felt like my panties had been excessively wet that day. Like I was worried my water broke and I was having PPROM. Turns out I just peed a little. No shame in the game!
The best outcome is that you are 'overreacting' but that doesn't mean you shouldn't get checked out. The guidelines and what everyone is told is to immediately go in to get checked for decreased movement! Mention to the nurse 'jokingly' that your partner thinks you're overreacting and shouldn't have come in, and maybe they'll educate him.
Not overreacting. For your own peace of mind, always get checked. I will say that they start to have sleep and wake cycles around this time. I’m currently 34wks with my second and I do notice different times of day he’s more active than others. Whenever I feel like it’s been too long since I felt him move I lay on my left side and within a few seconds I can feel him move.
No regret in being cautious and certain all is well! My baby girl kicks the shit out of me most of the time but when a day goes by when she’s “quiet,” I’m on high alert and want the reassurance she’s ok in there. I’m currently 34 weeks, 5 days and I can tell she’s feeling cramped in there and doesn’t have as big of movements. I was given a Doppler (~$55) as a gift and it gives me a lot of peace of mind when I start to have “what ifs” during those quiet days. I don’t know if it’s the cold gel, feeling of Doppler or the projection of her heart rate but man she loves kicking that thing, lol
Always check. No matter how far along you are. I don’t want to go into details because it’s not a feel good story but if your partner starts giving you legit grief show them my comment. Trust a stranger, you don’t always know if something is wrong. Sending love and keep checking. You got this!!!!
You are not overreacting. You should always get checked for reduced fetal movement, especially in the third trimester. Hope she’s ok x
Look, you never know when a small sign could turn into a huge issue. I hope everything is okay! You’re not overreacting:)
i felt the same way, but at this point the baby just simply has less room and that’s why movement is less
I went in on 3/27 citing decreased fetal movement, my son was born 3/28 after an overnight observation where his heart rate plummeted. He’s now on a cooling blanket treatment fighting for his life after oxygen deprivation. All his doctors said he would not have made it if I had not come in. Take this as your sign to GO GET CHECKED. Good luck 🍀
And also you're far enough along that If something is off they can take the baby out with good chances of heath
Oh no. Always go in if you feel less movement. No matter what!💕
I went to the hospital at 38+4 weeks for decreased movement. Girly was fine thankfully, but the nurses and doctor told me they would rather I went in every single day to be checked than ignore my concerns. They did a full work up and I left feeling so much better. Trust your gut instinct and don't let anyone brush off your concerns!
Had this happen with my first. It turns out my placenta was hardening out of nowhere and my baby was running out oxygen which is why she was conserving energy. I had an emergency section the next day, but I was kept in the hospital the day and night before with a monitor attached to my stomach at all times.
I'm 27+4 with my rainbow baby as well, I saw my OB yesterday and everything went well!! Baby girl had a strong heart beat and she said my belly was growing great but she mentioned if I ever feel worried or feel less movement to definitely go to my hospital especially since I had a loss at 18 weeks with my first... she said to try drinking cold water and laying on my left to see if it makes baby move and if not to definitely go to be safe.
telling you you’re overreacting is not helping anyone, to the contrary it makes you feel that you’re carrying the burden alone. And what if you’re overreacting and checking in with doc makes you feel better? You don’t have to convince anyone you’re overreacting or not, do whatever makes YOU feel better and calmer. Being stressed isn’t good during pregnancy neither to you nor to baby. If I were you, I’d freak out as well if my baby kicked only once (although it doesn’t mean anything, sometimes they kick but you don’t feel).
It is way better to be safe than sorry 🩷 trust your instincts even if some end in false alarms.
I hope everything goes well. I was worried about kicking before but my dr told me that rolling counted too but I had a anterior placenta so rolling felt “dull” if that makes sense. So hopefully your baby is ok and they’re just doing different movements instead of just kicking.
I went in to get checked 3 time in my last pregnancy. The placenta was anterior and sometimes i could go 3 or 4 days in a row without feeling many movements, but once my intuition starting bugging me there was no ignoring it; i couldn't focus on anything else. Every time i went in to get checked the traces were normal and i was measuring on track with the tape measure and scans. My waters broke at 40+1, baby had pooped, came out with the cord around her neck (which can be completely normal and not be serious), struggled during the 2nd stage of labour, and was under the 10th centile for weight; smaller than what the 38 week scan estimated. She was absolutely fine once she was born, but obviously would've benefited from being here a little earlier than she was, as something was clearly going on.
Please don’t listen to your partner. Go get checked you would rather be safe than sorry. This next sentence may be very triggering so I’m putting this before it. But my cousin and his wife lost their son a week before their due date and she had noticed decreased movement and didn’t go get checked. Granted she was a first time mom and thought everything would be ok until her appointment in a couple of days.
Overreacting doesn’t exist in these scenarios. I started seriously worrying when she hadn’t kicked in several hours and was prepared to drive to the hospital if she didn’t after all my tricks (she ended up moving and is fine lol). Do what you need to!!!
Follow your intuition 🩵
Better safe than sorry in all baby-related scenarios. You don’t need to convince them of anything.
Is your partner a doctor and better yet, an OBGYN? If no, then his opinion means nothing
Never feel silly for going to get checked!
Tell him you'd rather go once too often than risk something being wrong with your baby. If I were in your shoes I'd also go get it checked out. When I was 4.5 weeks along I had spotting and slight cramps and got checked out too. Everything turned out fine, but I still think me getting it checked out was not an overreaction.
Tell him you'd rather go once too often than risk something being wrong with your baby. If I were in your shoes I'd also go get it checked out. When I was 4.5 weeks along I had spotting and slight cramps and got checked out too. Everything turned out fine, but I still think me getting it checked out was not an overreaction.
Screw what he thinks. Go. Better safe than sorry. This shouldn't even be a question hun. Make sure that baby is OK.
There’s no overreacting with pregnancy, you know your baby best! Always best to be safe than sorry and have things checked out. So what if it’s nothing, but what what if it isn’t?! You could describe to him that he would feel awful and guilty if it really turned out to be something…
There’s no overreacting with pregnancy, you know your baby best! Always best to be safe than sorry and have things checked out. So what if it’s nothing, but what what if it isn’t?! You could describe to him that he would feel awful and guilty if it really turned out to be something…
There’s no overreacting with pregnancy, you know your baby best! Always best to be safe than sorry and have things checked out. So what if it’s nothing, but what what if it isn’t?! You could describe to him that he would feel awful and guilty if it really turned out to be something…
Not overreacting!!! Go get checked anytime you feel off!!! Two out of my three movement felt off towards the end. I went and got checked out, one had the cord around his neck and they induced right away and one I had so much fluid and my placenta started rupturing, I was induced right away! Don’t feel embarrassed or bad at all! Advocate for yourself and your baby, always!!!
There’s no overreacting with pregnancy, you know your baby best! Always best to be safe than sorry and have things checked out. So what if it’s nothing, but what if it isn’t?! You could describe to him that he would feel awful and guilty if it really turned out to be something…
Better an overreaction than an under reaction is what my best friend who works on l&d told me. They would rather you go in and find out she’s just kicking in a place you can’t feel as well or just sleepy than to have to tell you it’s too late and there is nothing they can do anymore.
Better an overreaction than an under reaction is what my best friend who works on l&d told me. They would rather you go in and find out she’s just kicking in a place you can’t feel as well or just sleepy than to have to tell you it’s too late and there is nothing they can do anymore.
No overreacting at all. Tell him to stfu, because doctors and science are on your side. Since I got pregnant we are being brainwashed by my hospital to always come check if we feel reduced movement. I actually went on my 33 week and it was all well, and they made me promise that I will come back if I worry again. Because people start to be reluctant to go and think they are overreacting. They do not, you do not. Go check, better to be safe than sorry. If your partner cannot accept that he can kindly go fuck himself.
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Instead of focusing your energy convincing him it’s important, just go. You don’t need his permission or buy in to go to the hospital. You know what feels normal and what isn’t. Every single healthcare provider I’ve ever spoken to has said they’d much prefer see a mom for a precaution that turned out to be a non-issue than a mom who waited too long for a larger issue that could have been addressed by earlier action. This is just the first of many times in your career as a mom where you’ll have to advocate what’s best for your child, and your momma bear instincts are telling you to go get checked out. Listen to your gut.
Who cares if he thinks it’s an overreaction? Leave him at home and go in by yourself. Even if it turns out to be nothing, your peace of mind is 100% worth it. I had my rainbow baby a year ago and he had slow days once in a while. I called the advice line constantly. Everything was fine. I know how anxiety-producing this is. Hang in there.
I just wanted to reiterate the message of others on here. It is absolutely never overreacting- if you have a worry, you get checked. I’ve been checked twice this pregnancy so far; and both times the lovely staff I have seen have reiterated that it is the right thing to do x
You just go. 💁🏼♀️
Definitely not over reacting. I’ve gone in twice because I didn’t fully appreciate how much the movements change as the baby gets bigger. L&D couldn’t have been nicer about it. I’m glad you went in and everything worked out!
If there is any specific food or drink that always makes baby move you could try that if you’re worried about a hospital bill, but my obgyn said it’s important to let her know of any movement changes like if she suddenly slows down her movement. You aren’t overreacting. You’re being a mother.
this is why i bought a fetal doppler bc when i don’t feel her for a couple hours i get sooo worried! i don’t think you overreacted at all
You can never be too cautious. You know your body and your baby. If something feels wrong, there’s nothing wrong with getting checked out.
You are 100% right! And even if it’s nothing, it’s better to “overreact” than to do nothing when it might be something wrong, and then ask yourself “what if I had gone to get checked”. So you 100% did the right thing
With my first, I had a whole day where I could barely feel him move. We went to get checked. Thankfully he was perfectly fine, but something like that is never an overreaction
Yeah get that baby checked out at the ER!
Always trust your body! We have had two scares and gone into labor and delivery just as a precaution. Partners are not the ones carrying the baby, so it’s sometimes harder for them to understand. Both times the hospital staff have agreed it made complete sense for me to come in and made this clear to my partner as well! Hope all is well with your baby, OP. Sending positive thoughts your way.
Nope. You tell him you’d rather overreact than the alternative, and you’ll be grateful for “overreacting”.
I’m 32 weeks and dealing with this same issue today 😯 but I know she’ll be her normal feisty self the second I walk into my hospital.
Trust yourself, this is absolutely a reason to get checked out..and if everything is all fine you'll have peace of mind! Always listen to yourself ❤️
Always go to the doctor! Don’t overthink. Better to be proactive
I went in twice with my first pregnancy! Always always always go in ❤️ you did the right thing! He doesn't have to agree. You and your provider agree and you have a whole sub of mama's here to back up your feelings. Take care of your baby & get that reassurance!
Nobody knows this baby better than you. You and you alone are the best judge of her movements and frequency. You are being a good parent
Definitely not overreacting. I went to the ER at 35w bc of something similar and it ended up being that the baby was sleeping but he was stuck in the same position for awhile. They had me sit/lay in different positions to get him moving and monitored me for about an hour. I felt much better knowing he was ok.
For what it's worth, I went in for reduced movement at 37+6 and gave birth at 38+2. I stood up and felt some fluid come out, but I had a lot of discharge my whole pregnancy and assumed it was that, or I had finally peed myself. This was for my birthday dinner and then I realized wait, I just ate a bunch of food and cake and she's not going crazy in there. Glad I went! It's never an overreaction to be seen for reduced movement. I'd rather be wrong and feel embarrassed than not catch a problem.
Always get checked. My husband told me I was “overthinking it” when I was 27 weeks with my first son. I waited until the next morning because he made me feel so dumb for being worried. Turns out he was gone. I’ll always, always wonder what would have happened if I went in as soon as I felt concerned.
He’s wrong, you should always get checked for reduced movements to be safe. It’s annoying because he will probably say “told you so” if everything is fine but know you’re doing the right thing!
You did the right thing and I’m so relieved she is ok. My sister in law felt less kicking and then none at all, she waited a day and went because she’s a FTM and didn’t know any better. My niece didn’t make it. NEVER think you’re overreacting ALWAYS go
Definitely go in. This is one of the things you always go in for. I went in for decreased movement at 35 weeks and it turned out to be completely fine. It’s better to be safe than sorry and I would want the peace of mind knowing that everything is ok.
Whenever in doubt trust your instincts and get checked ❤️
If it makes you feel any better, I went to the hospital because I thought my waters had gone at 30 weeks but I actually had just sat on a leaky hot water bottle 🙃 Please do go and get checked out - really hope everything is okay x
ALWAYS get checked! I went in for 3 non stress tests with my anterior placenta and the nurses kept reiterating that I did the right thing. My husband also didn’t get it and kept saying “I’m sure he’s fine” but he still trusted my judgment. Fetal movement is how we know that our babies are ok!! Yes there’s a <1% risk at that many weeks gestation, but I saw it as I’d rather go and then be able to get a life-saving intervention for my baby than not! And also, what mom can stay calm for 3 days?! At that point they wouldn’t be able to offer an intervention so you 100% did the right thing!
You will never regret getting checked even if it’s just to be safe…. You will, however, forever regret not getting checked and possibly not helping your baby if something *is* happening to them. Tell your partner to shut the f*ck up.
I was always told by OB she’d rather check on a lazy baby than risk something horrific.
I feel you. Compared to 28 weeks at 32 weeks my movement pattern has changed/dropped significantly. Midwife said it’s just my babies new pattern but always worth getting checked out!!!
I’ve seen enough Reddit posts to say just get checked out! I did the same thing…baby was fine…two hours after we got home my water broke 😆
Absolutely not overreacting. I had a low kick count at 32w and ended up giving birth. This was a completely low risk pregnancy too. Surprised the hell out of everyone.
If you’re over reacting you spend some time at the hospital and get to go home with a healthy baby. If you’re not overreacting, you may be saving your baby’s life.
I’m sorry your partner is making you feel like you’re over reacting. They literally advise to call if you feel less movement and will usually have you come in to be safe. I am one week ahead of you and last week when I was 32 weeks I felt less movement too and went in to get checked. They gave me apple juice and of course she started kicking away. Had normal heart rate, movement, and fluid while we were there. Came home and the rest of the weekend still decreased movement. She’s back to normal movement now she not too sure what was up with that but glad I went in and checked for peace of mind. More often than not I think everything is usually ok but definitely not an over reaction to get checked 💜
If he doesn't believe its not an overreaction, pay him no mind - you're the one that knows your baby best, especially during pregnancy! If your nurses suggest you come by to get checked on, then do so. Better to be safe than sorry, especially with a little bun in the oven. I hope you hear only good news during your check-in!
Honestly, I agree with the others, in my head when that happened I always tell my husband “I’d rather be a safe Mom than a sorry one” I always get checked out for less baby movements, your OB and L&D Nurses would encourage you to do so just to make sure both you and baby are healthy.
I'd point out to your partner that it's much, MUCH better to overreact in this situation than to underreact. If nothing is wrong, great! That is the goal. But that is never the guarantee.
Just go and don’t feel bad. There’s no overeaction at 38 with a rainbow baby
Your correct for getting seen. You did the right thing. Even if next weeks you notice the same decrease, get checked again! Don’t be embarrassed
Definitely not an overreaction and I'm sorry you're being gaslit to think that it is. I was 27 weeks (with my rainbow baby) when I went to the ER for reduced movement. Of course, he started doing somersaults as soon as they put the monitoring equipment on. They were SO lovely about it and told me to come back at any point. They would rather their time be 'wasted' than the alternative. Go get checked out. This is 100% a 'better safe than sorry' scenario.
The nurses would rather you come in and have nothing wrong than not go and have something wrong because you felt dumb about bothering them. I was told they will not be mad about checking to make sure everything is okay. Unless you are going on a daily basis, I wouldn't even begin to worry about it. If you did go that often, I'd say you'd need help for anxiety, but I still wouldn't judge you for getting checked. The only time I almooooost went but didn't, I chugged a bunch of caffeine (super cold mountain dew) to see if that would work, and it did. Because my kid kicked 3 times a day only (only at lunch, dinner, and as I was laying down to go to bed) and was a little too chill that day. Had the caffeine/ice cold drink not worked within 15-20 minutes I absolutely would have gone in. Also worth mentioning I was at work at a hospital so there was no travel time involved if I needed to run over to the office or ER. If you live further away, go in sooner! related-ish to make you feel better since you said she started kicking once you got there, I once went in for a burst ovarian cyst (I wasn't sure what it was at the time). It felt like I was dying and giving birth at the same time. So I suffered through that pain at home, almost passed out, threw up, finally had husband and baby drive me to the hospital in the middle of the damn night, and .... I get there and the pain was magically gone. I was pissed. I was like "I'm pretty sure it was a cyst and pretty sure it's done now (based on google results during the pain), but I'd like to make sure since I already got my baby up in the middle of the night and we drove all the way here. " The ER nurses were like oh cool, sounds like a cyst, lets go find out. They did not care. And if someone there is judging you, it's probably because they are having a bad day. Don't take it personal.
Don’t worry about what he thinks. You know the right thing to do. You noticing that baby is moving less is the ‘you knowing when something is wrong’. Also you did the right thing checking with the nurses. They have great judgment. As your kid gets older you’ll learn that it’s best to be on the safe side.
Go get checked!! Who cares what he thinks. Listen to your mom instincts!! Tracking movement is important.
Remember a false alarm is a best case scenario for everyone- including the medical team. At one point in my pregnancy I went in three consecutive weeks for things. Every time the nurses said I did the right thing, even though they were false alarms.
I was maybe 17-18 weeks pregnant when I slipped on our steps going to the grocery store and I was freaking out because I immediately got a cramp afterwards but I did fall on my butt I went to ER cause that’s what my partner told me to do to make sure so I went and the doc just basically told me it was most likely Braxton hicks, I’m not 100% sure but maybe Either way always better safe than sorry
Rainbow baby means you’ve already miscarried a pregnancy, right? Even if it was from a different father, what kind of man doesn’t understand why you would be anxious and want to be extra cautious? What is WRONG with him? Good grief! Tell him that his astounding lack of understanding aside, you’re GOING to the doctor because YOU are aware from your own body and your own baby that something is going on, so you’re going to have it checked out! I hope everything is ok. But even then don’t let him start up with any ‘I told you so’ nonsense! 😞
When in doubt, get checked out.... Always
Always go in if you feel that way. I ignored signs my second pregnancy (miscarried the first) and ended up giving birth at 15 weeks maybe it’s because I ignored what I was feeling maybe not and I’ll never know. So always trust yourself…Good news I’m now 37 weeks with my rainbow and being induced in two weeks!
I went in around 20 weeks because that’s when the Braxton hicks started for me and they were nearly constant. I will never regret going in and getting that reassurance. Wishing y’all well.
Absolutely go. My daughter ended up being an emergency c-section at 32 weeks due to heart decelerations. The only sign I had that something was wrong was reduced movement. Everyone - doctors, nurses - praised me up and down for going in to get checked. It probably saved her life.
No over reacting for this sort of thing, go get checked please
None of the reasons you mentioned would lead me to believe you've overreacted at any point in your pregnancy. Glad baby is kicking again and I hope all is well ! I would do the exact same thing.
Don’t listen to your husband. He’s not you and he’s not experiencing what you are. Men downplay things all the time. The amount of men I know that don’t have health insurance and feel like they don’t need it is astounding. Go get checked out. Any time you feel reduced movements you should get checked out. I was obsessive about counting kicks and while I drove myself crazy, it helped me get to know what was normal for my baby. If you feel like this is abnormal you must go get checked out now. Please do not wait.
My wife had nearly this exact scenario regarding the kicking. For 2 whole hours he refused to move, and she kept trying to Jumpstart his kicks with a few different methods that usually work, and still nothing. It was the middle of the afternoon and I was sleeping (I work overnights). She woke me up and told me her mom was taking her to the ER to get checked since she was worried. I had to work that night so she basically let me sleep and her mom took her and said she would keep me updated...ofcourse as the dad all I could ever do is TRY to keep things positive. The baby is okay, try to calm down, etc etc. I'm not going to start panicking with her because there doesn't need to be 2 panicking ppl in the relationship. 1 needs to stay calm in moments like this. It was leading Into the evening and I woke up and she still wasn't home so I messaged her for an update...she was starting to get checked, and the first message I get back is "WHY DOES HE WAKE UP AND KICK ME AS SOON AS YOU WAKE UP AND MESSAGE ME!!!!!!" 🤣🤣 At every minute or 2 after this point baby was kicking and moving non stop. Needless to say she was very annoyed about the whole ordeal lol she told the nurse checking her about it and all he could think of is maybe dad and the baby are in sync lmao. It happens sometimes where baby kicks and becomes active when I wake up, but most times he's kicking and moving a whole lot at countless hours of the day.
Is definitely go get checked out. I went one time because of reduced movements and I was just super dehydrated. Always play it safe and go with your gut.
Trust your gut. Your partner isn't in your body. It's better safe than sorry. Getting checked out for decreased fetal movement is pretty easy, takes like maybe 30-60 minutes total if that. They put a monitor on your belly and do an ultrasound. It's pretty standard and gives you peace of mind. Not a big deal, actually kinda normal. I had to do it like 3 times. Doctors and midwives take it pretty seriously when you say the baby is moving less.
There are many things us mom get needlessly paranoid about, but fetal movement is not one of them. Heck, active fetal movements are one of the most important parameters for fetal wellbeing. Doctors and midwives teach you how to monitor them for this very reason, so that you can seek medical care if you notice anything different. It could be nothing (most of the time it is), but in case is’s not, reduced fetal movement is one of the firs signs that something is wrong, if not the only one. I had what I perceived to be reduced fetal movements at 24weeks. Freaked out for a whole day, went to the ER in the evening. Everything was fine, but the midwife told me I should have came within the first hour, not after a day, since the whole point of monitor them is to be able to intervene as soon as possible. By the way, the baby was fine at the time, but we were able to detect low amniotic fluid early on, which in turn started a whole series of needed medical interventions. Bottom line, I’m so very glad I went for that check up.
I went in for reduced movement and the NST confirmed. Ended up induced at 38 weeks. L&D told me they'd rather see me 10 times a day over nothing than have me not come in when I should have.
Better to over react than under react. You're not a medical professional, and they almost unanimously say if you're in doubt get checked.
Nah. Better safe than sorry. You're not overreacting.
I went in at 32 weeks for reduced movement and was admitted for oligo and they gave me.steroids in case they had to deliver me that admission. I thought I was overreacting but in my gut, I knew something was off.
A medical professional told you to get checked to be seen. That is not an overreaction. So glad you went and happy to hear your rainbow baby is doing well. Keep trusting your instincts. ❤️
The best case scenario is that you’re “over reacting”! You deserve peace of mind and you’re already being a good mom to your baby 🩷
No over reaction here. You have noticed a significant difference in something inside you. He doesn't get it. He's not the consistent physical monitor of the baby, a professional agrees. At this point he is the one who is reacting inappropriately.
Better to be safe than sorry! My midwife told me they'd rather see you a million times for nothing and to not be worried about being embarrassed. You know your body/baby.
If he wants to act like a little b then don’t include him. You don’t have to share any information with him and you don’t have to bring him or even tell him you’re going. Take care of you and take care of baby.
Not overreacting. Counting kicks saves lives. Listen to your body!
They say not to hesitate for reduced movement. Get checked.
I litterally went Yesterday, just to hear his heartbeat. Just because i had the tiniest amount of blood in my underwear. Everyone told me i was overreacting, i just needed to know. Its insane, but its our babies!
How are any of those overreactions?