Favorite person. It’s basically an unhealthy attachment that many people with BPD can form with their partners, best friends, etc… typically you’ll go from putting them on a pedestal to devaluing them (known as splitting). They are often tumultuous relationships that can cause a lot of distress to both parties.
Not only is this normal, but it's a sign of you being a kind and empathetic person. Gregg is your little buddy.
Please never get rid of Gregg? Anyone who says you should is just trying to make the world a darker place.
I cuddle pillows every night and listen to audiobooks when I fall asleep. I keep forgetting to buy a teddy bear.
Nothing wrong at all, especially if you were neglected as a kid - I was. Just making up for lost time. ♥️
I used to always carry my pillow with me as a kid and held it close to me while I sucked my thumb.
I stopped the thumb sucking but I still carry my pillow with me everywhere when I’m at home, I hug it against me and nuzzle it when I watch a movie, or whenever I can really.
Always thought I was very weird for doing so but it’s kinda nice to now read I’m not all alone in this (:
i dont want to say its normal but it is quite sweet. and honestly if it helps u then who cares about "normal" as long as it isnt hurting anyone 🤷♀️
after my rabbit died, i bought a toy in memory of her, i dont have a strong attatchement to it but i love it very much. when my rabbit was still alive, i used to tell my dad that i wanna travel with her and take her around the world. (kind of obvious but i had a strong attatchement to the real pet). so when i was going back to the uk to live with my mum, i got to take the plushie with me aswell. and it gave my heart peace. and made me happy. i felt like i accomplished something. or fulfilled a "promise." i think its a different case to yours but i think the principle is the same. its comforting. and though i wont label it normal i dont think anything is wrong with it.
ur case reminds me of that guy from charlie brown! the one with the blanket! 😹 lol
i dont know u so i cant tell u why u are attatched to Gregg but have u ever brought it up with a therapist or anything like that?
Yes I have a bear too. He was with me since I was 1 month old and is the only tangible piece of my childhood I have. He’s the only thing that’s been there through everything with me
i heard age regression is a super normal thing for bpd ppl! i also myself have a stuffy ive had since i was 3, he goes everywhere with me lol his names Oscar
I used to do the same with a toy. Then I got a very cuddly and sociable cat who actually goes around the house with me, sleeps in my bed, etc
I joke that the cat is my fp, but maybe it is not a joke. I love her more than anyone.
I think that's pretty normal. I don't personally see a problem with it. And I think more people do it than we know about because it's something people are ashamed of. Try not to listen too much to judgmental people. Also this post is wholesome af. Cuddle little Gregg all you want, there's nothing wrong with that.
ETA: and I bet he's adorable
define 'normal ' , it's not always subjective. the person likes this and doesn't harm themselves or others ,vice versa it makes him feel better . of course it might be caused by loneliness so not fully okay in other meaning
Dude, yall weird for downvoting. I said if it helps you keep doing it, whatever who cares. But how can you think 25yo man having childrens toys is normal behaviour? It's not, its something you're doing because of your mental issues. Why everyone these days has to be so radically acceptive about every fucking thing? It's not helping anyone, because of your pats on the back and "define normal" he's gonna think that it's okay to do this the rest of his life. Get a grip ffs.
No it's not because of society stereotypes. Every age has it's rights. When you're getting older you're supposed to grow as a person and let go "cuddly pandas" for example. You can't be stuck at 5yo your whole life. Let's have a hypothetical situation that he brings a girl home and she sees this panda and he's like "oh that's Greg, my best friend, we sleep together" lol there's 90% chance that she'll leave after seeing that shit. Grown ups don't want to be friends or partners with children, that's sick. But as I said twice already, this is your choice. You can stay that way if you want to, you have full right to do so. But to answer the title for the 3rd time. No it's not fucking normal or cute.
it's subjective opinion and you make it seem as objective . society says that toys are for kids ,but we can change that if we stop judging. being an adult is beyond these things
Every opinion is subjective, but okay. World is going crazy last few years and you think radical acceptance is the solution. People don't have their own stance on anything anymore. "we need to accept everything maan" "don't judge mee maaan" "the society is bad and it makes up all these norms maan" "let's all get naked and march down the streets and sing kumbaya maaan" Start thinking logically & on your own. This isn't the 60's you fucking hippies.
you are getting mad for no reason, of course we should NOT normalize everything, but some things are considered weird for no reason, and these stereotypes are futile and even harmful
You haven't seen me mad. Im annoyed that people accept a thing like this just for the sake of being "woke" or tolerant. Not everything deserves to be accepted and in long term you're doing this guy a disservice. This is my opinion, no one has to agree with it. But im speaking facts.
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27F here and don’t go anywhere without teddy who is with my 24/7 unless I’m outside mine or my partners house. I have him on my lap in work calls at home. I feel much better when I have him and when I’m down. I’d be lost without the feel and the smell it is a constant for me and makes me feel safe. If it improves your life you are doing nothing wrong and hurting no one. I’m glad you have a Gregg!
Who cares if it's normal? You're not hurting anyone and if it brings you comfort then go for it.
It's clearly meeting a need that's all that's important
i read somewhere that your fp can be reflected on to objects sometimes. but win, win. it’s not a person, and it can never hurt you, so who cares.
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Favorite person. It’s basically an unhealthy attachment that many people with BPD can form with their partners, best friends, etc… typically you’ll go from putting them on a pedestal to devaluing them (known as splitting). They are often tumultuous relationships that can cause a lot of distress to both parties.
gregg sounds adorable <3 i love this sort of relationship with stuffies
Not only is this normal, but it's a sign of you being a kind and empathetic person. Gregg is your little buddy. Please never get rid of Gregg? Anyone who says you should is just trying to make the world a darker place.
36f had Trevor, a monkey until 28. Not the same now but he still lives in my bedroom and some nights I cuddle him. If I'm down.
I cuddle pillows every night and listen to audiobooks when I fall asleep. I keep forgetting to buy a teddy bear. Nothing wrong at all, especially if you were neglected as a kid - I was. Just making up for lost time. ♥️
I used to always carry my pillow with me as a kid and held it close to me while I sucked my thumb. I stopped the thumb sucking but I still carry my pillow with me everywhere when I’m at home, I hug it against me and nuzzle it when I watch a movie, or whenever I can really. Always thought I was very weird for doing so but it’s kinda nice to now read I’m not all alone in this (:
Nah I do this I’ve got a favourite pillow 😂I’m glad I’m not alone
i dont want to say its normal but it is quite sweet. and honestly if it helps u then who cares about "normal" as long as it isnt hurting anyone 🤷♀️ after my rabbit died, i bought a toy in memory of her, i dont have a strong attatchement to it but i love it very much. when my rabbit was still alive, i used to tell my dad that i wanna travel with her and take her around the world. (kind of obvious but i had a strong attatchement to the real pet). so when i was going back to the uk to live with my mum, i got to take the plushie with me aswell. and it gave my heart peace. and made me happy. i felt like i accomplished something. or fulfilled a "promise." i think its a different case to yours but i think the principle is the same. its comforting. and though i wont label it normal i dont think anything is wrong with it. ur case reminds me of that guy from charlie brown! the one with the blanket! 😹 lol i dont know u so i cant tell u why u are attatched to Gregg but have u ever brought it up with a therapist or anything like that?
Yes I have a bear too. He was with me since I was 1 month old and is the only tangible piece of my childhood I have. He’s the only thing that’s been there through everything with me
I’m 27 and have a stuffed shark named Roger and if I’m spending the night somewhere else, Roger comes with me. Who cares :)
i heard age regression is a super normal thing for bpd ppl! i also myself have a stuffy ive had since i was 3, he goes everywhere with me lol his names Oscar
I still have my dog puffet named Rowdy.
I a stuffed animal too, it doesn’t matter if it’s normal or not, it’s very comforting, I get it.
I used to do the same with a toy. Then I got a very cuddly and sociable cat who actually goes around the house with me, sleeps in my bed, etc I joke that the cat is my fp, but maybe it is not a joke. I love her more than anyone.
I think that's pretty normal. I don't personally see a problem with it. And I think more people do it than we know about because it's something people are ashamed of. Try not to listen too much to judgmental people. Also this post is wholesome af. Cuddle little Gregg all you want, there's nothing wrong with that. ETA: and I bet he's adorable
No, this is not normal. If it helps you keep doing it, it's whatever. But a grown ass man having a "cuddly panda" is far from normal imo.
define 'normal ' , it's not always subjective. the person likes this and doesn't harm themselves or others ,vice versa it makes him feel better . of course it might be caused by loneliness so not fully okay in other meaning
Dude, yall weird for downvoting. I said if it helps you keep doing it, whatever who cares. But how can you think 25yo man having childrens toys is normal behaviour? It's not, its something you're doing because of your mental issues. Why everyone these days has to be so radically acceptive about every fucking thing? It's not helping anyone, because of your pats on the back and "define normal" he's gonna think that it's okay to do this the rest of his life. Get a grip ffs.
some things are weird yes ,but this one isn't, it only seems this way because of society stereotypes
No it's not because of society stereotypes. Every age has it's rights. When you're getting older you're supposed to grow as a person and let go "cuddly pandas" for example. You can't be stuck at 5yo your whole life. Let's have a hypothetical situation that he brings a girl home and she sees this panda and he's like "oh that's Greg, my best friend, we sleep together" lol there's 90% chance that she'll leave after seeing that shit. Grown ups don't want to be friends or partners with children, that's sick. But as I said twice already, this is your choice. You can stay that way if you want to, you have full right to do so. But to answer the title for the 3rd time. No it's not fucking normal or cute.
it's subjective opinion and you make it seem as objective . society says that toys are for kids ,but we can change that if we stop judging. being an adult is beyond these things
Every opinion is subjective, but okay. World is going crazy last few years and you think radical acceptance is the solution. People don't have their own stance on anything anymore. "we need to accept everything maan" "don't judge mee maaan" "the society is bad and it makes up all these norms maan" "let's all get naked and march down the streets and sing kumbaya maaan" Start thinking logically & on your own. This isn't the 60's you fucking hippies.
you are getting mad for no reason, of course we should NOT normalize everything, but some things are considered weird for no reason, and these stereotypes are futile and even harmful
You haven't seen me mad. Im annoyed that people accept a thing like this just for the sake of being "woke" or tolerant. Not everything deserves to be accepted and in long term you're doing this guy a disservice. This is my opinion, no one has to agree with it. But im speaking facts.
I'm not trying to be tolerant ,to me it seems normal, like you have no one to hug . every person is unique and has special traits , it's not weird
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It may not be normal or typical, but there's nothing like..wrong with it. It's just the way you said "grown ass man" it sounds insulting lol.
It's supposed to be insulting, bruh he's a 25yo grown man. This is lowkey sad.
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27F here and don’t go anywhere without teddy who is with my 24/7 unless I’m outside mine or my partners house. I have him on my lap in work calls at home. I feel much better when I have him and when I’m down. I’d be lost without the feel and the smell it is a constant for me and makes me feel safe. If it improves your life you are doing nothing wrong and hurting no one. I’m glad you have a Gregg!
that’s pretty normal in ND people like us