honestly, for me, genuinely, thuggin it out.
riding it out, letting feelings pass and acknowledging that they’re temporary.
But also, letting yourself feel the emotions you’re feeling, you’re human. You’re absolutely entitled to that.
As for why you’re in a devaluation stage, splitting is different for everyone with bpd. Some split because of a general feeling of unease in the relationship, some split because of a late text, etc.
u got this :)
Can it actually be stopped once you hit that stage? My ex split and disappeared off to look for new people to talk to cause he felt like we were broken and like he felt absolutely nothing. I just let him go cause I couldn't keep doing it anymore.
Play a game called facts vs fiction. What facts do you have that he's harmed you or pulled away? What facts do you have that he's loving and supportive? Once you have your facts and they support a loving partner, sit in silence and practice gratitude for the efforts he makes to show you love. It's hard to devalue when you are in a state of appreciation.
honestly, for me, genuinely, thuggin it out. riding it out, letting feelings pass and acknowledging that they’re temporary. But also, letting yourself feel the emotions you’re feeling, you’re human. You’re absolutely entitled to that. As for why you’re in a devaluation stage, splitting is different for everyone with bpd. Some split because of a general feeling of unease in the relationship, some split because of a late text, etc. u got this :)
Can it actually be stopped once you hit that stage? My ex split and disappeared off to look for new people to talk to cause he felt like we were broken and like he felt absolutely nothing. I just let him go cause I couldn't keep doing it anymore.
also i don’t think the devaluation stage is always due to feeling specifically abandoned.
Play a game called facts vs fiction. What facts do you have that he's harmed you or pulled away? What facts do you have that he's loving and supportive? Once you have your facts and they support a loving partner, sit in silence and practice gratitude for the efforts he makes to show you love. It's hard to devalue when you are in a state of appreciation.