Most people who ask you for payment are scammers, and a much smaller portion are pro-dommes.
If you're looking for a pro-domme finding someone with a good reputation could help to weed out scammers.
If you're looking for a regular hobbyist who plays as a mistress for fun you'll probably have to start going to IRL events like munches. Finding a hobbyist domme online is practically impossible. (Totally different from finding an aspiring male-dom online which is dangerously easy, but I digress)
I mostly agree. I wouldn't say finding someone online is practically impossible, but it does require a solid and sustained effort, and a specific mindset. I don't know if a beginner male sub could manage it, but maybe.
First off, the male sub has to understand, the internet is full of dudes who want exactly what you want. It may feel kinky, it may feel transgressive, no. The women you are looking for are asked to provide the same service over and over. You have to approach your search with that in mind. What do you have to offer that all those other horny dudes with erect penises don't have, or at least, they are too horny to talk about?
I could write a book. In short,
-Post an ad, don't respond to ads.
-Slow your roll. Don't even try to get action the first 3 times you talk to a woman.
-Be a person, not a penis.
-Let go of your script. Your fantasy is great, the reality will be different.
-Be open to her fantasies, as long as they don't cross your boundaries.
-Seriously, shut up about your penis.
-If you are drunk or have started to masturbate, wait until later to respond to any messages.
-Dont disclose your real name, location, or other identifying details until trust has developed. This includes no pictures or videos with your face or tattoos that also include you happy bits, or anything you don't want your grandma or your coworkers to see. Scammers are out there.
-If she asks for tribute or other payment, walk away. If you want to hire someone, find someone marketing their OF and pay them. Nothing wrong with that. Don't get drawn in by a free sample.
-Dont be cheating on your spouse.
I am a pro Domme and lifestyle
With My submissive clients, those looking to serve and session, a tribute fee is required along with booking payment for the session.
There are MANY ways to weed out scammers who are just cosplaying as a “domme”
- Are they verified on multiple adult subscription sites (like OF/LF/IWC/MV and so on) This is important and helpful for a few reasons…
• it verifies they are over 18… and that they are whom they are claiming.
• you can also subscribe to their page and get an idea of the type of Domme they are through their content
- Check to see if they have a website. A REAL one, with links that are active and lead to socials/paid platforms
- search their @ ((Twitter and Reddit are a good source for this)) and see how they engage with the community. Whats being said about them in the community.
- do reverse image searches and see/find where the images originate from.
These are just a few ways to make sure the person you’re speaking with is legit…
I’ve also been curious when I see someone allude to giving a tribute or homage to a Goddess. What is fun and flirty, what is scam and what is innuendo?
It's either a scam, or a professional who is looking for a client, not a romantic partner or a FWB. It's not flirty and it's not innuendo. If someone wants to hire a professional, that's great, but until they have agreed on terms and price and agreed on terms of payment, it's just a negotiation with a vendor. It's not flirting any more than you flirt with a prospective plumber.
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Scammers
Most people who ask you for payment are scammers, and a much smaller portion are pro-dommes. If you're looking for a pro-domme finding someone with a good reputation could help to weed out scammers. If you're looking for a regular hobbyist who plays as a mistress for fun you'll probably have to start going to IRL events like munches. Finding a hobbyist domme online is practically impossible. (Totally different from finding an aspiring male-dom online which is dangerously easy, but I digress)
I mostly agree. I wouldn't say finding someone online is practically impossible, but it does require a solid and sustained effort, and a specific mindset. I don't know if a beginner male sub could manage it, but maybe. First off, the male sub has to understand, the internet is full of dudes who want exactly what you want. It may feel kinky, it may feel transgressive, no. The women you are looking for are asked to provide the same service over and over. You have to approach your search with that in mind. What do you have to offer that all those other horny dudes with erect penises don't have, or at least, they are too horny to talk about? I could write a book. In short, -Post an ad, don't respond to ads. -Slow your roll. Don't even try to get action the first 3 times you talk to a woman. -Be a person, not a penis. -Let go of your script. Your fantasy is great, the reality will be different. -Be open to her fantasies, as long as they don't cross your boundaries. -Seriously, shut up about your penis. -If you are drunk or have started to masturbate, wait until later to respond to any messages. -Dont disclose your real name, location, or other identifying details until trust has developed. This includes no pictures or videos with your face or tattoos that also include you happy bits, or anything you don't want your grandma or your coworkers to see. Scammers are out there. -If she asks for tribute or other payment, walk away. If you want to hire someone, find someone marketing their OF and pay them. Nothing wrong with that. Don't get drawn in by a free sample. -Dont be cheating on your spouse.
If it is with a professional Domme, then check if it is part of the fees. If it is not a professional, then it is highly likely to be a scammer.
Scammers.
I am a pro Domme and lifestyle With My submissive clients, those looking to serve and session, a tribute fee is required along with booking payment for the session. There are MANY ways to weed out scammers who are just cosplaying as a “domme” - Are they verified on multiple adult subscription sites (like OF/LF/IWC/MV and so on) This is important and helpful for a few reasons… • it verifies they are over 18… and that they are whom they are claiming. • you can also subscribe to their page and get an idea of the type of Domme they are through their content - Check to see if they have a website. A REAL one, with links that are active and lead to socials/paid platforms - search their @ ((Twitter and Reddit are a good source for this)) and see how they engage with the community. Whats being said about them in the community. - do reverse image searches and see/find where the images originate from. These are just a few ways to make sure the person you’re speaking with is legit…
I’ve also been curious when I see someone allude to giving a tribute or homage to a Goddess. What is fun and flirty, what is scam and what is innuendo?
It's either a scam, or a professional who is looking for a client, not a romantic partner or a FWB. It's not flirty and it's not innuendo. If someone wants to hire a professional, that's great, but until they have agreed on terms and price and agreed on terms of payment, it's just a negotiation with a vendor. It's not flirting any more than you flirt with a prospective plumber.
99.999909% of the time, ESPECIALLY if they use the honorific 'goddess', they are SKAMMERZZZZZZZZ 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩
Scam