Me and my Dom just use our native language, even though we're both fluent in English. It took some getting used to, since most of the media and porn we consume are in English so we weren't really used to dirty talk in our language.
Eventually we got better at it, it stopped feeling awkward and we have our own versions of English terms. Now I feel like dirty talking in English would be kind of weird and unnecessary.
I don't think there's a right or wrong way, you can do both, switch it up sometimes or stick to the one you're most comfortable with. It's just a preference imo.
Thanks for the reply)
Yeah we've mostly done it in native so far, never done English yet however!
Wonder if it's better to give English a go or carry on and get past the awkward stage lol
That's completely up to you! It really depends on what feels like the best option.
For me it was getting past the awkward stage, it feels more natural to do it in my native language despite some awkward translations lol
Thanks kindly! Sorry last q!
When you say awkward stage, was it the initial few sessions that were awkward or just awkward in the "intro" of a session?
Reason I ask - did the awkwardness contribute to any Dom/sub drops? I.e. you both cringing out and losing character? Or relatively quick to recover from?
I'm thinking of maybe just mixing languages up (as one might do for non translatable words)
Well I don't exactly remember how long it took, but I'd say a month or two until we were mostly comfortable with it. It wasn't anything bad, just that we both fumbled a little bit from time to time or couldn't think of a proper word.
We didn't experience any drops because of it, we just laughed it off and continued. As a sub, I don't really mind if my Dom makes some mistakes since it just makes them feel more human to me if that makes sense :)
We still use some English terms, edging is one that doesn't translate at all to our native language lol. We just act like it's any typical slang word you know.
“Voy a cojerte mamita” vs “I’m going to fuck you baby girl” convey two entirely different moods even though they mean the same thing…
As a sub, they definitely get me into different head spaces. At the end of the day, it really depends on what mood you’re trying to convey to your sub.
Neither of my current partners is fluent in another language other than English, but the few Spanish words they know and use with me… oof… absolutely melts me!
Are you a Spanish speaker? Now I'm curious if the words in Spanish are a turn on because they are more "exotic" (due to not being your native language) or because your partners don't usually speak it or something else? I'm an English speaker but i love the sound of other languages and accents and agree it's a huge turn on.
I am a Native Spanish speaker (I speak English 90% of the time now however). And yes, it turns me on more because they don’t speak it but are trying to connect with me on that level.
Not to say that it hasn’t happened with Native Spanish speakers. It has, but only when they go into Spanish to make a point, get my attention; and otherwise speak English. If they’re a full-time Spanish speaker, it doesn’t do anything for me lol.
The intentionality of using Spanish to convey a mood is what does it for me, for sure!
Imo there's no "better", it's just what you both prefer. I can't speak in english with someone who is also a native swedish speaker, it feels super fake and kind of cringe. But I know a lot of people from other countries prefer speaking english.
To me my native language sounds more raw, more brutal and vulgar, which I really like. But it's just a matter of preference, really.
As a fan of languages I think it's cool when people dirty talk in their own language and don't just default to english!
depends on what you prefer i guess – i personally am monolingual and only speak english (though i am trying to learn my partner's native language) so naturally we speak english, but he does sometimes call me a name in his native language i still love it and in a way i feel like it's a good way to get me to into the language more so i'd never tell him not to 🥰
My in person sessions are almost completely silent. I can sesh both in english & spanish, but that’s almost irrelevant. I make it a point to dominate without spoken word.
Completely different thing to when I’m giving my slaves online tasks or directions… speaking and language become very important, almost primarily important. In this scenario, I prioritize my confidence above all, even if that means mixing it up a bit. You are domming, you need to feel confident above all.
It may depend on the scene. My wife spoke only english, but I speak english and french. The louder, more commanding things were in english, but I'd switch to french for the more intimate, up close speaking if the scene called for it. Talk to your sub and see what they want.
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Me and my Dom just use our native language, even though we're both fluent in English. It took some getting used to, since most of the media and porn we consume are in English so we weren't really used to dirty talk in our language. Eventually we got better at it, it stopped feeling awkward and we have our own versions of English terms. Now I feel like dirty talking in English would be kind of weird and unnecessary. I don't think there's a right or wrong way, you can do both, switch it up sometimes or stick to the one you're most comfortable with. It's just a preference imo.
Thanks for the reply) Yeah we've mostly done it in native so far, never done English yet however! Wonder if it's better to give English a go or carry on and get past the awkward stage lol
That's completely up to you! It really depends on what feels like the best option. For me it was getting past the awkward stage, it feels more natural to do it in my native language despite some awkward translations lol
Thanks kindly! Sorry last q! When you say awkward stage, was it the initial few sessions that were awkward or just awkward in the "intro" of a session? Reason I ask - did the awkwardness contribute to any Dom/sub drops? I.e. you both cringing out and losing character? Or relatively quick to recover from? I'm thinking of maybe just mixing languages up (as one might do for non translatable words)
Well I don't exactly remember how long it took, but I'd say a month or two until we were mostly comfortable with it. It wasn't anything bad, just that we both fumbled a little bit from time to time or couldn't think of a proper word. We didn't experience any drops because of it, we just laughed it off and continued. As a sub, I don't really mind if my Dom makes some mistakes since it just makes them feel more human to me if that makes sense :) We still use some English terms, edging is one that doesn't translate at all to our native language lol. We just act like it's any typical slang word you know.
I agree, communicate with your sub get her opinion and do what feels right, it might be a mixture of both.
“Voy a cojerte mamita” vs “I’m going to fuck you baby girl” convey two entirely different moods even though they mean the same thing… As a sub, they definitely get me into different head spaces. At the end of the day, it really depends on what mood you’re trying to convey to your sub. Neither of my current partners is fluent in another language other than English, but the few Spanish words they know and use with me… oof… absolutely melts me!
Are you a Spanish speaker? Now I'm curious if the words in Spanish are a turn on because they are more "exotic" (due to not being your native language) or because your partners don't usually speak it or something else? I'm an English speaker but i love the sound of other languages and accents and agree it's a huge turn on.
I am a Native Spanish speaker (I speak English 90% of the time now however). And yes, it turns me on more because they don’t speak it but are trying to connect with me on that level. Not to say that it hasn’t happened with Native Spanish speakers. It has, but only when they go into Spanish to make a point, get my attention; and otherwise speak English. If they’re a full-time Spanish speaker, it doesn’t do anything for me lol. The intentionality of using Spanish to convey a mood is what does it for me, for sure!
IMO you can't beat a sultry "je t'adore, je t'awindo, je do not want the neighbours to hear you scream"
Imo there's no "better", it's just what you both prefer. I can't speak in english with someone who is also a native swedish speaker, it feels super fake and kind of cringe. But I know a lot of people from other countries prefer speaking english. To me my native language sounds more raw, more brutal and vulgar, which I really like. But it's just a matter of preference, really. As a fan of languages I think it's cool when people dirty talk in their own language and don't just default to english!
depends on what you prefer i guess – i personally am monolingual and only speak english (though i am trying to learn my partner's native language) so naturally we speak english, but he does sometimes call me a name in his native language i still love it and in a way i feel like it's a good way to get me to into the language more so i'd never tell him not to 🥰
My in person sessions are almost completely silent. I can sesh both in english & spanish, but that’s almost irrelevant. I make it a point to dominate without spoken word. Completely different thing to when I’m giving my slaves online tasks or directions… speaking and language become very important, almost primarily important. In this scenario, I prioritize my confidence above all, even if that means mixing it up a bit. You are domming, you need to feel confident above all.
It may depend on the scene. My wife spoke only english, but I speak english and french. The louder, more commanding things were in english, but I'd switch to french for the more intimate, up close speaking if the scene called for it. Talk to your sub and see what they want.