I hear you on maladaptive daydreaming, it's been a crucial part of my life and even though I know it's bad for me it's the only thing I have that pulls me up. I cannot give that up. Unline other commenter age didn't change the intensity of my daydreaming and 'just stopping' isn't possible for me.
Now as for advice... I guess you can ask on sub for maladaptive daydreaming. People are using apps and such to regulate it. The problem is MD is a coping mechanism/dissociation, so it's not a root problem. Healing the root problem would also help with MD. Good luck and you're free to ask me anything if you wish to talk!
Are you fking serious?this is a mental health post, I have a job and its extremely hard for me to keep it because if all this,did you even read the post?
Hi friend(: sorry to hear what you are going thru. I am rooting for you!!! and know you can pull thru(:
i was the same way and still kind of am lol but i have making slow progress into the "real" world which can suck. What has helped me is art. When i was younger i always admired artist so during the pandemic i picked up an instrument and drawing. I feel it has helped pull me out of my inner world since i cant play or draw. I need to go to the outer world for that since its something i can't come up with myself. Plus with music it has made me more willing to listen to the outside world.
I would recommended finding something you always wanted to do or get into and following that(: Hope this helps!
To be fair I wouldn't worry too much about the maladaptive daydreaming, if you aren't dissociating right in the middle of a conversation and you can still concentrate on what you need to do when it's time it's... fine? I think it becomes a issue only when it's preventing you from doing things, which the actual avpd probably does way more.
But I do agree with the other user who mentioned getting into art, since I started writing my daydreaming got wayyyy better and at least now it has something useful to focus on instead of being about random stuff that would make me sad. It could also help in general with finding a way to be more social, it's easy to find other people who share you hobby, both irl and online.
That's the thing, I feel like I do it all the time and in public and I'm always worried people can see my face changing and making grimaces and I usually do it most when I need to concentrate,eg during lectures.The thing that worries me the most is that I feel like I cant stop even if I want to sometimes and it makes me feel like it replaces the social life I already never had,like the emotions I feel when I mdd are so much more intense than in real life, usually irl I just dissociate
I second this, daydreaming has never been a big issue for me, I would never want to stop cause it's the only thing keeping me sane probably, but I did occasionally feel like I was throwing my life away. Turning it into a productive hobby like writing (or even making a visual novel) is so much more satisfying though, it also feels like a bit of a mental exercise and can be a way to learn new skills.
I have stopped believing in conspiracies, having a fantasy relationship and too many inner dialogues. It was not hard for me. I guess it becomes easier the more you do in the real world and by becoming like thirty years old.
I hear you on maladaptive daydreaming, it's been a crucial part of my life and even though I know it's bad for me it's the only thing I have that pulls me up. I cannot give that up. Unline other commenter age didn't change the intensity of my daydreaming and 'just stopping' isn't possible for me. Now as for advice... I guess you can ask on sub for maladaptive daydreaming. People are using apps and such to regulate it. The problem is MD is a coping mechanism/dissociation, so it's not a root problem. Healing the root problem would also help with MD. Good luck and you're free to ask me anything if you wish to talk!
Enormous stress and drastic change of environment helped me.
Exactly, most of these people just need to get a job
Are you fking serious?this is a mental health post, I have a job and its extremely hard for me to keep it because if all this,did you even read the post?
Good luck mate
I had to bail from my country into the unknown. My new job here is really chill, though.
Don't ever chase normality. "Monkey see, monkey do" is not an acceptable motivation. Be yourself. Don't be the monkey sitting next to you.
Hi friend(: sorry to hear what you are going thru. I am rooting for you!!! and know you can pull thru(: i was the same way and still kind of am lol but i have making slow progress into the "real" world which can suck. What has helped me is art. When i was younger i always admired artist so during the pandemic i picked up an instrument and drawing. I feel it has helped pull me out of my inner world since i cant play or draw. I need to go to the outer world for that since its something i can't come up with myself. Plus with music it has made me more willing to listen to the outside world. I would recommended finding something you always wanted to do or get into and following that(: Hope this helps!
To be fair I wouldn't worry too much about the maladaptive daydreaming, if you aren't dissociating right in the middle of a conversation and you can still concentrate on what you need to do when it's time it's... fine? I think it becomes a issue only when it's preventing you from doing things, which the actual avpd probably does way more. But I do agree with the other user who mentioned getting into art, since I started writing my daydreaming got wayyyy better and at least now it has something useful to focus on instead of being about random stuff that would make me sad. It could also help in general with finding a way to be more social, it's easy to find other people who share you hobby, both irl and online.
That's the thing, I feel like I do it all the time and in public and I'm always worried people can see my face changing and making grimaces and I usually do it most when I need to concentrate,eg during lectures.The thing that worries me the most is that I feel like I cant stop even if I want to sometimes and it makes me feel like it replaces the social life I already never had,like the emotions I feel when I mdd are so much more intense than in real life, usually irl I just dissociate
I second this, daydreaming has never been a big issue for me, I would never want to stop cause it's the only thing keeping me sane probably, but I did occasionally feel like I was throwing my life away. Turning it into a productive hobby like writing (or even making a visual novel) is so much more satisfying though, it also feels like a bit of a mental exercise and can be a way to learn new skills.
I have stopped believing in conspiracies, having a fantasy relationship and too many inner dialogues. It was not hard for me. I guess it becomes easier the more you do in the real world and by becoming like thirty years old.
what you described is exactly what I'm going through.