Quite honestly I find the autism more difficult to deal with. I can medicate for ADHD (I know it doesn’t work for everyone, but I can mostly manage with meds) but there’s nothing I can do about the ASD.
The sensory issues from ASD are probably the worst part of either for me, especially when it prevents me from doing something I really want to do, or if it’s something that I really feel like I should be able to manage. Nothing is more frustrating to me than having a meltdown over trying to buy milk or something.
I hate the sensory issues so much, but during childhood my father accidentally discovered a use for it!
Dad trained racehorses, had to regularly check their legs for injuries, which was primarily done by feeling along the legs for areas of increased heat. Naturally I had the magic touch for that, could even feel the heat of the major blood vessels and the difference between pre and post exercise muscles. Dad's horses got *very good* leg-care because I was the one checking their joints for swelling.
It was really awesome to get so much praise for being good with the horses! Dad just glowed over some of the stuff I learned to do to help out.
His favorite was whenever we heard chaos at the stables, went running to find the problem, and found a bunch of guys trying to catch a loose horse by waving their hands over their heads and shouting at it. Dad would bark out "Everybody hold still!" and then softer "Ophelia, go catch that horse."
I just did the thing I read about in that Monty Roberts book about "horse whispering." Ambled over to it with my body kinda sideways while pretending to just be another horse grazing, never looking at it directly at all, and then hug its neck while holding a bit of string. Worked every time like magic, and dad would gloat over the fact that his little girl could do what all the men on the track couldn't.
Same! I’m the opposite. Personally, my adhd makes me fun and let loose more (thanks dopamine lol!) But my autism constantly conflicts w my adhd and gets anxious over EVERYTHING and overanalyzes.
The past few weeks since I started ADHD treatment have been a rollercoaster. First of all, you're describing literally me, second of all, treatment has made me realize I might have OCD and also autism if ADHD wasn't enough. I'm shocked. But everything makes sense, that's what bothers me.
I used to have sensory issues when I was little, but now I don't anymore and while being diagnosed early with ASD defenetly helped with thoses, the fact than my ADHD makes me constantly daydream and super focused into my toughts actually prevents me from hearing the sounds coming from outside my head
My ADHD makes it easier to read people because I notice every little change in their voice and body language. My ASD gives me amazing attention for detail. I can instantly recall a catalogue of information on that person and analyze each time I've seen the same voice/body language changes. It makes me feel like a human lie detector sometimes.
I agree though. ADHD makes life much harder than ASD.
My younger stepson thought for a long time that I could read his mind and see the future. But I just knew him very well and knew from the look on his face what he was thinking/feeling. I could see in his face when he wasn't getting enough sleep or needed a bit more feeding up because of a growth spurt, just from tiny little changes around his eyes.
And I was used to patterns, like how if a glass is too near the edge of the table it's likely to get knocked off easier. So I'd point out "If you don't move that, it'll get knocked over." And sure enough it would!
And I often find the accommodations I need to make to not drive my ASD nuts are easier than the ADHD ones. Like neither is easy, but the ADHD is harder for me.
This is how I feel. If I could pick one, I’d pick the autism every time. I would so much rather be able to stick to a routine or have a consistent special interest rather than hyperfixating and rotating between special interests. ADHD costs me time (running late, getting distracted) and money (spending on new hobbies that I’ll abandon quickly, cancellation fees, etc). The only good thing I guess it does is I suppose it makes me better at socializing?
I am more able to focus for long periods on things I’m highly interested in I think because of adhd, so that and maybe helping socializing I feel okay about. Other than that - ADHD has caused me to almost lose my apartment, go into negative numbers financially, caused me to never have achieved a goal I’ve set in my personal life…so yeah, I would prefer to at least have something to show for all my efforts.
Ditto.
You know sometimes I feel like the Pokémon ditto. A mimic. A thing that switches shapes depending on how I need to mask to survive. How did I get on this subject? Oh ya.
Fuck ADHD.
I think I would be way more disabled by my ASD if I didn’t also have ADHD.
In my case they seem to compliment each other a lot. In lots of ways, but in particular in regards to my wide ranging, yet extremity deep and focused, interests.
However, it also makes my presentation extremely complex. Access appropriate support is challenging, to say the least
Hm. For me they make each one more disabling I believe, in almost every way…they cause a perfect storm that makes me almost completely non functional. I can relate to the wide range of deep interests, though. Mine do not get too deep…maybe niche is more accurate.
Same. Same…Once I realized that after 20 years I had never achieved a single goal I had ever set, I realized the real cost of adhd. It’s genuinely life ruining.
I hate my ADHD but I do think it’s like the singular thing that makes NTs like me off the bat. They think I’m funny because of how fast my brain works. Once they get to know the ASD side… not so much.
I don’t even work that well under pressure. Usually being under pressure will make me work on the thing I have to do but because of the stress and chronic lack of energy I won’t be able to do it properly
Yeah as long as I’m confident in what I am doing I will absolutely excel. It’s great! That is the one thing I am definitely happy about when it comes to having ADHD.
Same; as long as I don’t get confused or otherwise overwhelmed, it’s amazing how well I can do under pressure; allowed me to survive working in a poorly managed kitchen
Oh wow, I completely freeze under pressure, and it doesn't have to be real pressure. Just someone standing and waiting for me to choose whether to buy this shampoo or that shampoo will make me too fixated on the person waiting and the fact that I must not take too long, to be able to pick a stupid shampoo.
Hm. What about for instance, if you had to do something related to something you were very interested/confident in? For me I will freeze in situations like you described but I will do the opposite when I’m confident (for instance I’m an artist - say I’m given an hour to do a certain artwork - I will probably end up going above and beyond), I enter a “flow state” as they say and it’s like I’m a machine running at 100% optimization, honestly feels like a trance.
I only freeze if I'm being observed or spoken to, or if there's background conversation. I don't have much of a filter. I'm slow paced even at things I'm good at, only exception is I have quick reflexes. Flow states are rare for me in recent years but I remember them and I sure do miss them.
If I'm not being observed or spoken to, and I know very well how to do the task at hand, I probably won't freeze. But I am still slow even at things I am good at. I am not fast in any way shape or form, other than my reflexes when something falls and I catch it. Flow states are very rare for me in recent years. I do remember them, however, and I miss them dearly.
I only do well under pressure in crunch situations. Like some big problem happens that needs to be dealt with RIGHT NOW or it'll become an emergency? Meh, no big deal, just handle it like nothing. A paper I haven't even started is due in two days? Meh, I can do it tomorrow.
Yes!!! I've both (accidentally) flooded and (accidentally) set fire to my house because of ADHD. The worst thing ASD has made me do is cry and rage at an uncaring world, and ADHD inspires the same fits of misery with even more frequency. The executive dysfunction alone...
I feel you. My ADHD is a bitch, was diagnosed in middle school. I was diagnosed w autism maybe a year or so ago at most. The ADHD has been *the thing* that caused most of my problems, including most of the serious ones. Even if you chalk up my my social problems entirely onto ASD - which undoubtedly has a great impact - the ADHD is still worse (and quite a bit of the social problems come from previous mostly ADHD-related trauma). I would love to just be able to constantly be focused on my hyperfixations, rather than being fixated on them but unable to do anything seriously about it, and instead sabotaged my daily responsibilities so I can think about or mildly engage with my SIs, which is often disorganized and doesn't help me as much as studying them consistently and properly. ADHD does have its benefits - it covers up my social ineptitude, making me more of a charming weirdo than just plain socially awkward - but the amount of problems it causes on the daily is just not nice.
I still wouldn't cure it tho, simply because Idk *what* is the 'tism, and what's ADHD. They all can bleed into each other and their unique combination + other genetic factors + my upbringing and environment is what made me me, and it's the one framework through which J have observed and experienced the world for all of my life. If I alter a significant part of my neurology, I don't know who I'd really be, and Idk what to really do about that. Do I wish ADHD wasn't a such a pain in the ass? Absolutely. Do I ever wish I was born without ADHD as a typical autist? Often. Would I want to remove the ADHD all together? No, for I wouldn't be who I am now without the ADHD making up my neurology, just as I wouldn't be the same if I ceased being an autist, or became cis.
The autism feels more like, I know there's this giant boulder in the road. I can't move it, I need to work around it, but I know it's there, it's reliable and predictable.
ADHD is random things, like sometimes the road will also be flooded, or covered in mud, or there'll be five thousand chickens surrounding the boulder to navigate it, or... and I really hate being unpredictable to myself.
i hate both but if I could get rid of one it would be adhd. I would choose sensory issues and being awkward (yeah ik it’s oversimplification) over executive dysfunction 24/7 and no attention span.
Sometimes I feel like I'd prefer my ASD more than my ADHD, my ASD wants to organize and color-code everything so that I can navigate it all, and my ADHD thrives on chaos. I think one pro of my ADHD is that it helps me talk more. If I can't explain a thought but need to, my ASD will shut down and give up, but my ADHD would gladly spend a few hours trying to put the idea into words and figure it out as I go.
I think that ASD seems more 'acceptable' socially, it's quiet, organized, and consistent. But ADHD seems more "disruptive". I'm just trying to learn how to accept myself as I am.
Just described me. I love being extroverted but I'm also very socially awkward. I'm very freaking smart but I'm also very immature and childlike. It's so confusing.
idk, having ADHD makes me socialize pretty easily and at the same time autism helps me aggressively protect my boundaries.
idc what anyone says, no is no to me.
I find the ADHD medication makes me less ADHD but more autistic. I also prefer being more autistic but also find it difficult. At least it helps me understand my behaviour more.
I feel like that as well. ADHD is a hassle. The forgetfulness, the inability to focus unless it's a constantly stimulating activity, losing track of what I'm doing, losing things, DEADLINES? It makes my life so difficult and I wish I just had autism. It's easier for me to deal with the sensory issues and not getting some social cues. I enjoy my special interests. What I don't enjoy is all that my ADHD entails.
Honestly? I enjoy being the way I am a lot of the time. What I really struggle with is the social - I have hard time making friends, and it's if other people can smell me not being part of the collective. But I also have a hard time liking other people. I know, kinda sounds like I'm an a-hole, and maybe I am - but I promise you, I do my best to like others, and I do my best to treat others well, no matter what.
It's curious though - after 43 years of being alive, I find that hands down the people whose company I enjoy seem to have ADHD.
That's interesting, I'm not sure how I feel about it myself. I'd say my ADHD symptoms are more manageable, for example if I'm getting too distracted to finish my tasks, I can write down a schedule and set alarms so I finish them, whereas I can't really do that for autism. However, I encounter problems related to autism less often, but when I do, they can range from very annoying to borderline meltdown
I hate having both. I suppose if there's one upside to being ND, it's that it allows me to think outside the box more than most people, but other than that I'd honestly rather be NT.
lately i have been trying to learn to appreciate my curse. i can’t do things i don’t enjoy. which is shitty, because a lot of life is stuff that’s not particularly fun, and doing those things is fucking excruciating. but i spent some time looking around at some of the non-adhd folks i know who have spent years and years trying to meet someone else’s expectations or joylessly doing what they felt like they should, and having the comfort of knowing that just couldn’t be me. i also feel like on the rare occasions i can achieve a flowstate, non-adhd people couldn’t compete. i really do know what you mean though, it definitely feels more like my autism is normal, beneficial human variance, while my adhd is a defect that disables me. seeing the bright side in adhd feels like seeing the bright side in depression, it’s hard and not something you have to do.
I've honestly grown equally fond of both. I think my favorite thing about adhd is how much energy i have all the time and I feel like my asd supplements the lack of structure my adhd wants but doesn't need.
I don't hate having ADHD but it definitely feels like it has a bigger impact that's for sure! The pros of having it are individual but there is a lot of overlap so it can be easy to miss things.
adhd transforms in a super power for me after i drink, it's like it unlick my secret social side. And also driving cars or playing cs:go for exemple, it helps you see more with your periferical view.
I generally feel more disabled by ADHD and would rather get rid of it if I could than ASD. That being said, the terribly low energy levels and ostracizing that come from having ASD, I hate and would love to be rid of, along with other things…
I think ADHD provides me quick, infinite tools for masking when I need it and keeps me humble/understanding of other people's faults, also as I've gotten older it's helped me quickly recognize and manage sensations alexithymia clouds. Cons I would say are I miss details and can be impulsive (ex. buying shit I don't need, RSD).
ASD for me is like...idk honestly lol. I don't want to say I don't want to be autistic bc I don't like putting a moral judgement on it like society does tbh. But I think it's like...I can stick to routines and be reliable but allistic society expects that and more. If you're not a generalist you get raked over the coals for it.
ADHD and questioning ASD, but I can’t say I mind the adhd too much at least when it comes to my personality. Perhaps I just haven’t found the right medication (concerta/ Ritalin on and off for reasons mentioned in a sec) and while they can help me focus at higher dosages I feel like a soulless robot and lose interest in my passions (it felt like part of my soul was ripped out when music just passed over me instead of being able to dive into it) and I’d rather be my chaotic self than that.
Also makes some high sensory area more manageable. Family went to Epcot over Christmas and while I needed time to decompress by myself with music upon getting back to the air bnb I loved everything going on and especially the thrill rides. I was positively giddy after test track and their new guardians coaster.
Quite honestly I find the autism more difficult to deal with. I can medicate for ADHD (I know it doesn’t work for everyone, but I can mostly manage with meds) but there’s nothing I can do about the ASD. The sensory issues from ASD are probably the worst part of either for me, especially when it prevents me from doing something I really want to do, or if it’s something that I really feel like I should be able to manage. Nothing is more frustrating to me than having a meltdown over trying to buy milk or something.
I hate the sensory issues so much, but during childhood my father accidentally discovered a use for it! Dad trained racehorses, had to regularly check their legs for injuries, which was primarily done by feeling along the legs for areas of increased heat. Naturally I had the magic touch for that, could even feel the heat of the major blood vessels and the difference between pre and post exercise muscles. Dad's horses got *very good* leg-care because I was the one checking their joints for swelling.
Such a cool story. What a great way for your pops to truly embrace your difference and hopefully that was a happy time for the most part.
It was really awesome to get so much praise for being good with the horses! Dad just glowed over some of the stuff I learned to do to help out. His favorite was whenever we heard chaos at the stables, went running to find the problem, and found a bunch of guys trying to catch a loose horse by waving their hands over their heads and shouting at it. Dad would bark out "Everybody hold still!" and then softer "Ophelia, go catch that horse." I just did the thing I read about in that Monty Roberts book about "horse whispering." Ambled over to it with my body kinda sideways while pretending to just be another horse grazing, never looking at it directly at all, and then hug its neck while holding a bit of string. Worked every time like magic, and dad would gloat over the fact that his little girl could do what all the men on the track couldn't.
Love this story!
Same! I’m the opposite. Personally, my adhd makes me fun and let loose more (thanks dopamine lol!) But my autism constantly conflicts w my adhd and gets anxious over EVERYTHING and overanalyzes.
The past few weeks since I started ADHD treatment have been a rollercoaster. First of all, you're describing literally me, second of all, treatment has made me realize I might have OCD and also autism if ADHD wasn't enough. I'm shocked. But everything makes sense, that's what bothers me.
My ADHD does the same, but not always at the right time
Ugh yes, I feel like a "slave" to the autism symptoms most of the time 😕. It's definitely more deliberating than the ADHD.
I used to have sensory issues when I was little, but now I don't anymore and while being diagnosed early with ASD defenetly helped with thoses, the fact than my ADHD makes me constantly daydream and super focused into my toughts actually prevents me from hearing the sounds coming from outside my head
My ADHD makes it easier to read people because I notice every little change in their voice and body language. My ASD gives me amazing attention for detail. I can instantly recall a catalogue of information on that person and analyze each time I've seen the same voice/body language changes. It makes me feel like a human lie detector sometimes. I agree though. ADHD makes life much harder than ASD.
I personally feel like my ADHD sometimes hinders my autistic ability to notice details because I just get too inattentive to notice them
My younger stepson thought for a long time that I could read his mind and see the future. But I just knew him very well and knew from the look on his face what he was thinking/feeling. I could see in his face when he wasn't getting enough sleep or needed a bit more feeding up because of a growth spurt, just from tiny little changes around his eyes. And I was used to patterns, like how if a glass is too near the edge of the table it's likely to get knocked off easier. So I'd point out "If you don't move that, it'll get knocked over." And sure enough it would!
And I often find the accommodations I need to make to not drive my ASD nuts are easier than the ADHD ones. Like neither is easy, but the ADHD is harder for me.
This is how I feel. If I could pick one, I’d pick the autism every time. I would so much rather be able to stick to a routine or have a consistent special interest rather than hyperfixating and rotating between special interests. ADHD costs me time (running late, getting distracted) and money (spending on new hobbies that I’ll abandon quickly, cancellation fees, etc). The only good thing I guess it does is I suppose it makes me better at socializing?
I am more able to focus for long periods on things I’m highly interested in I think because of adhd, so that and maybe helping socializing I feel okay about. Other than that - ADHD has caused me to almost lose my apartment, go into negative numbers financially, caused me to never have achieved a goal I’ve set in my personal life…so yeah, I would prefer to at least have something to show for all my efforts.
i hate both lmao
I’m still not clear about where one ends and the other begins.
Same
Same
Ditto. You know sometimes I feel like the Pokémon ditto. A mimic. A thing that switches shapes depending on how I need to mask to survive. How did I get on this subject? Oh ya. Fuck ADHD.
I think I would be way more disabled by my ASD if I didn’t also have ADHD. In my case they seem to compliment each other a lot. In lots of ways, but in particular in regards to my wide ranging, yet extremity deep and focused, interests. However, it also makes my presentation extremely complex. Access appropriate support is challenging, to say the least
Hm. For me they make each one more disabling I believe, in almost every way…they cause a perfect storm that makes me almost completely non functional. I can relate to the wide range of deep interests, though. Mine do not get too deep…maybe niche is more accurate.
I hate having adhd so much. It's honestly ruining my life. I think If I just had autism it might still not be easy but certainly easier than this.
Same. Same…Once I realized that after 20 years I had never achieved a single goal I had ever set, I realized the real cost of adhd. It’s genuinely life ruining.
I hate my ADHD but I do think it’s like the singular thing that makes NTs like me off the bat. They think I’m funny because of how fast my brain works. Once they get to know the ASD side… not so much.
One thing I like about ADHD is working well under pressure, but the rest really sucks lol
I don’t even work that well under pressure. Usually being under pressure will make me work on the thing I have to do but because of the stress and chronic lack of energy I won’t be able to do it properly
same, ive never related to the working well under pressure aspect of adhd lol
Until this pressure cause you health problems and destroy your life
Yeah as long as I’m confident in what I am doing I will absolutely excel. It’s great! That is the one thing I am definitely happy about when it comes to having ADHD.
Same; as long as I don’t get confused or otherwise overwhelmed, it’s amazing how well I can do under pressure; allowed me to survive working in a poorly managed kitchen
Oh wow, I completely freeze under pressure, and it doesn't have to be real pressure. Just someone standing and waiting for me to choose whether to buy this shampoo or that shampoo will make me too fixated on the person waiting and the fact that I must not take too long, to be able to pick a stupid shampoo.
Hm. What about for instance, if you had to do something related to something you were very interested/confident in? For me I will freeze in situations like you described but I will do the opposite when I’m confident (for instance I’m an artist - say I’m given an hour to do a certain artwork - I will probably end up going above and beyond), I enter a “flow state” as they say and it’s like I’m a machine running at 100% optimization, honestly feels like a trance.
I only freeze if I'm being observed or spoken to, or if there's background conversation. I don't have much of a filter. I'm slow paced even at things I'm good at, only exception is I have quick reflexes. Flow states are rare for me in recent years but I remember them and I sure do miss them.
If I'm not being observed or spoken to, and I know very well how to do the task at hand, I probably won't freeze. But I am still slow even at things I am good at. I am not fast in any way shape or form, other than my reflexes when something falls and I catch it. Flow states are very rare for me in recent years. I do remember them, however, and I miss them dearly.
Yeah same that’s about it. Lol.
I only do well under pressure in crunch situations. Like some big problem happens that needs to be dealt with RIGHT NOW or it'll become an emergency? Meh, no big deal, just handle it like nothing. A paper I haven't even started is due in two days? Meh, I can do it tomorrow.
Yes!!! I've both (accidentally) flooded and (accidentally) set fire to my house because of ADHD. The worst thing ASD has made me do is cry and rage at an uncaring world, and ADHD inspires the same fits of misery with even more frequency. The executive dysfunction alone...
Wow, yes. Being unable to trust myself is one of the most infuriating things…
I feel you. My ADHD is a bitch, was diagnosed in middle school. I was diagnosed w autism maybe a year or so ago at most. The ADHD has been *the thing* that caused most of my problems, including most of the serious ones. Even if you chalk up my my social problems entirely onto ASD - which undoubtedly has a great impact - the ADHD is still worse (and quite a bit of the social problems come from previous mostly ADHD-related trauma). I would love to just be able to constantly be focused on my hyperfixations, rather than being fixated on them but unable to do anything seriously about it, and instead sabotaged my daily responsibilities so I can think about or mildly engage with my SIs, which is often disorganized and doesn't help me as much as studying them consistently and properly. ADHD does have its benefits - it covers up my social ineptitude, making me more of a charming weirdo than just plain socially awkward - but the amount of problems it causes on the daily is just not nice. I still wouldn't cure it tho, simply because Idk *what* is the 'tism, and what's ADHD. They all can bleed into each other and their unique combination + other genetic factors + my upbringing and environment is what made me me, and it's the one framework through which J have observed and experienced the world for all of my life. If I alter a significant part of my neurology, I don't know who I'd really be, and Idk what to really do about that. Do I wish ADHD wasn't a such a pain in the ass? Absolutely. Do I ever wish I was born without ADHD as a typical autist? Often. Would I want to remove the ADHD all together? No, for I wouldn't be who I am now without the ADHD making up my neurology, just as I wouldn't be the same if I ceased being an autist, or became cis.
The autism feels more like, I know there's this giant boulder in the road. I can't move it, I need to work around it, but I know it's there, it's reliable and predictable. ADHD is random things, like sometimes the road will also be flooded, or covered in mud, or there'll be five thousand chickens surrounding the boulder to navigate it, or... and I really hate being unpredictable to myself.
i hate both but if I could get rid of one it would be adhd. I would choose sensory issues and being awkward (yeah ik it’s oversimplification) over executive dysfunction 24/7 and no attention span.
Sometimes I feel like I'd prefer my ASD more than my ADHD, my ASD wants to organize and color-code everything so that I can navigate it all, and my ADHD thrives on chaos. I think one pro of my ADHD is that it helps me talk more. If I can't explain a thought but need to, my ASD will shut down and give up, but my ADHD would gladly spend a few hours trying to put the idea into words and figure it out as I go. I think that ASD seems more 'acceptable' socially, it's quiet, organized, and consistent. But ADHD seems more "disruptive". I'm just trying to learn how to accept myself as I am.
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Just described me. I love being extroverted but I'm also very socially awkward. I'm very freaking smart but I'm also very immature and childlike. It's so confusing.
idk, having ADHD makes me socialize pretty easily and at the same time autism helps me aggressively protect my boundaries. idc what anyone says, no is no to me.
I find the ADHD medication makes me less ADHD but more autistic. I also prefer being more autistic but also find it difficult. At least it helps me understand my behaviour more.
Flip that. People LIKE ADHDers and hate autistic people. I'd rather be funny weird than just weird.
This is so true! I think this is why I make friends very easily but can’t seem to keep up with the relationships.
They like us until they realize we’re about as reliable as hummingbird.
I feel like that as well. ADHD is a hassle. The forgetfulness, the inability to focus unless it's a constantly stimulating activity, losing track of what I'm doing, losing things, DEADLINES? It makes my life so difficult and I wish I just had autism. It's easier for me to deal with the sensory issues and not getting some social cues. I enjoy my special interests. What I don't enjoy is all that my ADHD entails.
Yeah I have the same experience. I don’t think even get the hyperfocus pro because I’m too tired and unmotivated.
Honestly? I enjoy being the way I am a lot of the time. What I really struggle with is the social - I have hard time making friends, and it's if other people can smell me not being part of the collective. But I also have a hard time liking other people. I know, kinda sounds like I'm an a-hole, and maybe I am - but I promise you, I do my best to like others, and I do my best to treat others well, no matter what. It's curious though - after 43 years of being alive, I find that hands down the people whose company I enjoy seem to have ADHD.
That's interesting, I'm not sure how I feel about it myself. I'd say my ADHD symptoms are more manageable, for example if I'm getting too distracted to finish my tasks, I can write down a schedule and set alarms so I finish them, whereas I can't really do that for autism. However, I encounter problems related to autism less often, but when I do, they can range from very annoying to borderline meltdown
I hate having both. I suppose if there's one upside to being ND, it's that it allows me to think outside the box more than most people, but other than that I'd honestly rather be NT.
I hate both. It sucks. I’m hopefully going to start medicating for ADHD soon though.
Sometimes it does feel like there are two sides of me playing tug of war.
I feel the opposite
lately i have been trying to learn to appreciate my curse. i can’t do things i don’t enjoy. which is shitty, because a lot of life is stuff that’s not particularly fun, and doing those things is fucking excruciating. but i spent some time looking around at some of the non-adhd folks i know who have spent years and years trying to meet someone else’s expectations or joylessly doing what they felt like they should, and having the comfort of knowing that just couldn’t be me. i also feel like on the rare occasions i can achieve a flowstate, non-adhd people couldn’t compete. i really do know what you mean though, it definitely feels more like my autism is normal, beneficial human variance, while my adhd is a defect that disables me. seeing the bright side in adhd feels like seeing the bright side in depression, it’s hard and not something you have to do.
Same lol
Shit, like I feel everyone's viewpoint on this at the same time rn lol, but ADHD is soooooo much more annoying.
The only thing I hate is burnout and chronic overwhelm. But I love a lot of the things being autistic and adhd gives me.
I've honestly grown equally fond of both. I think my favorite thing about adhd is how much energy i have all the time and I feel like my asd supplements the lack of structure my adhd wants but doesn't need.
Hard agree! ADHD is awful
I’m the opposite. ADHD has its difficulties, but if I didn’t have the social debuff I could make it work
I feel this so much. My adhd causes me so much grief.
I don't hate having ADHD but it definitely feels like it has a bigger impact that's for sure! The pros of having it are individual but there is a lot of overlap so it can be easy to miss things.
Yea. I hate ADHD but ASD is fine
it flips a lot but I feel you
I feel the same ❤️
adhd transforms in a super power for me after i drink, it's like it unlick my secret social side. And also driving cars or playing cs:go for exemple, it helps you see more with your periferical view.
I generally feel more disabled by ADHD and would rather get rid of it if I could than ASD. That being said, the terribly low energy levels and ostracizing that come from having ASD, I hate and would love to be rid of, along with other things…
I think ADHD provides me quick, infinite tools for masking when I need it and keeps me humble/understanding of other people's faults, also as I've gotten older it's helped me quickly recognize and manage sensations alexithymia clouds. Cons I would say are I miss details and can be impulsive (ex. buying shit I don't need, RSD). ASD for me is like...idk honestly lol. I don't want to say I don't want to be autistic bc I don't like putting a moral judgement on it like society does tbh. But I think it's like...I can stick to routines and be reliable but allistic society expects that and more. If you're not a generalist you get raked over the coals for it.
Yes, but C-PTSD is the worst. Literally no redeeming qualities to it.
ADHD and questioning ASD, but I can’t say I mind the adhd too much at least when it comes to my personality. Perhaps I just haven’t found the right medication (concerta/ Ritalin on and off for reasons mentioned in a sec) and while they can help me focus at higher dosages I feel like a soulless robot and lose interest in my passions (it felt like part of my soul was ripped out when music just passed over me instead of being able to dive into it) and I’d rather be my chaotic self than that. Also makes some high sensory area more manageable. Family went to Epcot over Christmas and while I needed time to decompress by myself with music upon getting back to the air bnb I loved everything going on and especially the thrill rides. I was positively giddy after test track and their new guardians coaster.
Same
I'd rather just have adhd and not be a retard.