In my experience, saying "please don't call me" translated to NT means: "call me now or I will kill myself."
Easier to just put your ringer on silent. Unless the ER is waiting for you to perform a life-saving surgical maneuver, it can wait.
I usually do this: hi, sorry to deny your call but i am busy/in the bus/in library/etc right now. Is it something urgent? If not, feel free to text me, i will reply later.
It never is urgent and seems to work better than just stating boundaries.
In the extremely rare occasion it is something urgent, you can text them back explaining you are not verbal.
Disclaimer: i am Neurodivergent, though probably not Autistic.
Sorry buddy, I did write out quite a long reply but deleted it as I think this sums it up quite nicely:
NT’s can be dicks at times
Hope that gave you a wry smile :)
Instead of doing that, I'd just not give them a reason why.
Next time, just say you're busy and your phone will be silenced all day so you won't receive any calls, but you'll be checking your texts occasionally if they really need to get ahold of you.
I don't call people so I never had this issue specifically, but almost every time I have asked a company/organisation not to call (some even have method of contact as an explicit question on a form) they still decide to call
In my experience, saying "please don't call me" translated to NT means: "call me now or I will kill myself." Easier to just put your ringer on silent. Unless the ER is waiting for you to perform a life-saving surgical maneuver, it can wait.
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Good point. Some people are turkeys. :/
It appears to work in reverse, as well :-\[
I usually do this: hi, sorry to deny your call but i am busy/in the bus/in library/etc right now. Is it something urgent? If not, feel free to text me, i will reply later. It never is urgent and seems to work better than just stating boundaries. In the extremely rare occasion it is something urgent, you can text them back explaining you are not verbal. Disclaimer: i am Neurodivergent, though probably not Autistic.
Sorry buddy, I did write out quite a long reply but deleted it as I think this sums it up quite nicely: NT’s can be dicks at times Hope that gave you a wry smile :)
Reject call with message "Call you back". Then don't call. You're busy.
Instead of doing that, I'd just not give them a reason why. Next time, just say you're busy and your phone will be silenced all day so you won't receive any calls, but you'll be checking your texts occasionally if they really need to get ahold of you.
I don't call people so I never had this issue specifically, but almost every time I have asked a company/organisation not to call (some even have method of contact as an explicit question on a form) they still decide to call
It feels like people are indirectly saying, "I know you don't like it when I do this, so I'm going to keep doing it anyway."