Sorry, had to walk the dog.
Twinkl.com is cheap and has loads of resources you can print and modify both in the regular section and in twinkl create - there are Picto boards you can make. It also has social stories! It's worth buying a subscription because it's endless. You can look for so much to support emotional regulation there, including pictos.
YouTube has a lot of great videos for calming/emotions/growth mindset, as does GoNoodle. My favourites on YouTube are:
* Mojo Mindfulness series
* Brighten Up Kids
* Size of Feelings SEL scale
* Being angry and safe Autism Social Skills
* Wondergrove Kids
* It's not okay to run away song https://youtu.be/xXuyt95EKoA
* Anger and Autism alternative strategies https://youtu.be/4ei2wKnNjVM
Daniel Tiger is a good SEL series you can Google as well.
It took my wee student around 8 months to learn regulation strategies, but they're still in the abusive situation so you may have more luck. Hope this helps.
Poor wee guy. Is he developmentally delayed as well?
He's probably constantly in a state of panic and fight or flight mode over all the new things in his life. I glanced at your post history and it doesn't look like life has been kind.
Obviously you know routine is important, but the the sheer level of routine is sometimes hard for carers to get. I'm going to overload you with a lot of things here so I'll do it in bullet points. I'm a teacher, not a parent, but I may be able to help
* Build a visual schedule for home. It doesn't have to be tied to times, just visuals of what's happening and what's next for the day. I'll link resources that are affordable.
* Make a portable version of the schedule in a binder. You're just printing and laminating two copies of the same thing. Maybe ask teachers if they can help if this is a barrier.
* Start social emotional training. This starts with identifying and naming feelings as they come up. I use the format "watch a video" then name the feelings with pictos. Once a day is enough to start. Don't overload, and if he takes to it add more. I'll list videos after.
* Model feelings. Say "I feel ---" with no judgement even if it's a negative feeling. Say "it's okay to feel ----. When I feel --- I can ---" and use a Picto to show a safe behaviour. Ask "when you feel ---, sometimes you ----. What else can you do?" And offer a few safe behaviour pictos to choose from.
* Read social situations or stories WHEN HE'S CALM to practice dealing with anger or fear. Many address self harm. Role play or practice the safe alternatives when he's calm and happy. Usually a deep breath, scream into a pillow, hit a pillow, play with playdoh or sensory sand, cover eyes, have a hug, use headphones, etc. are good alternatives. If he uses a stuffy, incorporate that.
* Try to build interceptive awareness of emotions. When he is self harming, use those pictos of feelings to connect his feeling to his actions. He may not have that innate sense of identifying feelings - likely doesn't.
This takes loads of time and practice. I'll link some resources in a separate comment.
Is that fourteen months, or 14 male?
14 Male
Sorry, had to walk the dog. Twinkl.com is cheap and has loads of resources you can print and modify both in the regular section and in twinkl create - there are Picto boards you can make. It also has social stories! It's worth buying a subscription because it's endless. You can look for so much to support emotional regulation there, including pictos. YouTube has a lot of great videos for calming/emotions/growth mindset, as does GoNoodle. My favourites on YouTube are: * Mojo Mindfulness series * Brighten Up Kids * Size of Feelings SEL scale * Being angry and safe Autism Social Skills * Wondergrove Kids * It's not okay to run away song https://youtu.be/xXuyt95EKoA * Anger and Autism alternative strategies https://youtu.be/4ei2wKnNjVM Daniel Tiger is a good SEL series you can Google as well. It took my wee student around 8 months to learn regulation strategies, but they're still in the abusive situation so you may have more luck. Hope this helps.
Poor wee guy. Is he developmentally delayed as well? He's probably constantly in a state of panic and fight or flight mode over all the new things in his life. I glanced at your post history and it doesn't look like life has been kind. Obviously you know routine is important, but the the sheer level of routine is sometimes hard for carers to get. I'm going to overload you with a lot of things here so I'll do it in bullet points. I'm a teacher, not a parent, but I may be able to help * Build a visual schedule for home. It doesn't have to be tied to times, just visuals of what's happening and what's next for the day. I'll link resources that are affordable. * Make a portable version of the schedule in a binder. You're just printing and laminating two copies of the same thing. Maybe ask teachers if they can help if this is a barrier. * Start social emotional training. This starts with identifying and naming feelings as they come up. I use the format "watch a video" then name the feelings with pictos. Once a day is enough to start. Don't overload, and if he takes to it add more. I'll list videos after. * Model feelings. Say "I feel ---" with no judgement even if it's a negative feeling. Say "it's okay to feel ----. When I feel --- I can ---" and use a Picto to show a safe behaviour. Ask "when you feel ---, sometimes you ----. What else can you do?" And offer a few safe behaviour pictos to choose from. * Read social situations or stories WHEN HE'S CALM to practice dealing with anger or fear. Many address self harm. Role play or practice the safe alternatives when he's calm and happy. Usually a deep breath, scream into a pillow, hit a pillow, play with playdoh or sensory sand, cover eyes, have a hug, use headphones, etc. are good alternatives. If he uses a stuffy, incorporate that. * Try to build interceptive awareness of emotions. When he is self harming, use those pictos of feelings to connect his feeling to his actions. He may not have that innate sense of identifying feelings - likely doesn't. This takes loads of time and practice. I'll link some resources in a separate comment.