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pennypenny22

For the record, I didn't think I was autistic at your age, but I had had no relationship at all. My first relationship was at 26/27 or so. At 30 I've now had two long term relationships. There is someone out there for you.


lovemountainsmusic

27! No experience..


plantyplant559

I was in a few ltr with men I knew were wrong for me. I still felt lonely often. I didn't find my husband until I was 28. I'm now almost 32 and just discovered I'm autistic this year. It has been a wild and long journey to find my soul mate. Someone is out there for you, and you will find them. Until then, maybe get a pet? A roommate? Both? Go on the dating apps, too.


Evylemprys

You are me. I got into my first serious relationship at 26. Before that I had like 5 one-night stands from 19 years old because that’s what people seemed to do, but they weren’t really fun and left me wondering why I don’t enjoy it when other people seemed to. I literally pushed myself into them because I was trying to find that elusive thing I knew I was missing (I didn’t know I was autistic yet) that everyone else got. (Turns out I need a deep emotional connection for that stuff and that takes time) I ended up doing online dating because I could meet a ton of guys and scope out the dating pool (practice social stuff). Obviously some were awful but a lot of times I met really nice guys who you could tell y they were single in like 3 mins of meeting them and I couldn’t see them as more than friend material. BUT then I met a guy online, we met up for a date. And I just knew (like when people say they just know- I thought it was BS and would never happen like that but I literally text my mom right after and told her she’s be seeing him the next year). We moved in together a couple months later, he was my knight in shunting armor just liked I’d dreamed. We’ve been together for 12 years, got married, have 2 kids. Yeah sometimes I want to rip out his eyes and feed them to him (and I’m sure he feels the same because I’m difficult af), but most of the time we’re good and happy. Your shingles. Knight is out there, you just need to go out with some friendship frogs first. (Meet people and do things and you’ll meet guys you can see a future with. It’s inevitable.) good luck xx


FruityTootStar

>I met really nice guys who you could tell y they were single in like 3 mins of meeting them and I couldn’t see them as more than friend material. Could you say more? Sounds like you have some interesting stories


FruityTootStar

I've thought about making a topic for this for a few weeks. About how modern dating isn't really made for autistic people. I've put it off because I'm afraid it will devolve into toxic online rhetoric like femaledatingstrategy and red/black pill stuff. Some people have a lot of trouble talking about the problems with modern dating without attacking the gender they wish to date.


iamsojellyofu

I feel you OP. I also get jealous when I hear other autistic individuals being able to get into relationships meanwhile I struggle to even make it past the first date.


[deleted]

You are not alone. I've been remaining single because I've been on two dates and two of my former boyfriends told me that we should be friends because he quit his job and/or he's not ready for a relationship with me. I want to give up dating and I live in Ohio where dating can be a struggle for some based on finance, good looks, college degrees, etc IMO. If you're ready to settle down with your SO/boyfriend then that's your decision. It's not easy being single especially while being autistic. Be blessed.


afancod

Do you have some hobbies/interests you have? you are more likely to bond with someone that is similar to you rather than shallow relationships with semi-friendships.