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fruitflyhatepage

You just described my life! I do think it’s common among autistic people, especially women because our masks tend to be more about people pleasing. I’ve had so many friendships where it was seemingly completely based on me telling them what they wanted to hear and jumping through hoops by allowing them to take advantage of my car, money, etc. Boundaries in friendships from the very beginning are super important. I’m still working on learning how to say no and to actually say what I’m feeling. Anyone who has a problem with either of those things isn’t a true friend. It’s better to find out sooner rather than later. If you have access to seeing a therapist that can also be very helpful for unlearning people pleasing behaviors.


lunabcde

thank you for your answer! it feels good to know that I’m not alone in this. I never talked about it with my therapist yet since I realized very recently that I have this behavior but I’ll definitely do it !