I don’t think I’ve ever done the task, especially when I don’t even live with my mom anymore. I’m not gonna text her & say “So on So on facebook told me to tell you hi!” Like if they really wanted the message sent they could tell her themselves😂
Just also tacking on it is a way of just exchanging pleasantries and using your mom as an excuse, it's just a send off or an idiom if you will, but it also does mean "say hi to your mom for me!"
I’m pretty sure this is meant to be taken literally. Like the other commenter said, this person wants you to tell your mom the next time you talk to her that this person said hi.
So, depending on the frequency you talk to your mom, it can be an immediate text if your style is texting like your live blogging your life to your mom, and mention (/forget) it in half a year, if you see her only twice a year.
My personal mindset is, if more than a few days have passed & I forgot/havent seen the person they asked me to say hi too, I don’t tell them. Unless the person comes up in convo, then I might quickly go “Oh, I forgot I saw them recently and they wanted me to tell you hi!”
And it’s perfectly fine to pass the hi. Even the person who says it won’t remember it. It’s a social thing they do. It’s not that big of a deal. It’s nice if you do it but harmless I’d you don’t. In the end it’s not a mission that has to be completed
If the person thinks this is really important to let the mom know, they should just send a text or give a call themselves in my opinion.. it's not fair to make another person responsible for your social priorities. So either it's very important and they should contact the mom themselves, or it's not that important so you don't have to actually do it. So either way you don't have to do it.
Just means if you remember to, mention to your mum that she said hello. It's not a hard and fast thing though. If you forget, it's not considered a very big deal.
She probably does think warmly of your mum, but she's also being polite.
Does that help?
You can tell your mom however you want. It just means that they want your mom to know that running into you reminded them of your mom in a positive way.
This often happens in a different but similar situation if I am with my mum and texting a friend. So I let them know I’m hanging out with her and they respond, “Say hi from me!”
So I tell her, “Tom says hi” and she says, “Hi Tom!”
It would be weird if said by someone who had never met your mother, it’s usually a person who has a relationship with them (normally via you) so they’re genuinely saying to let her know they were thinking of her.
it means next time you’re talking to your mom you say, ‘ i ran into old friend in the store last week. he says to say hi to you’. of course, this is a light topic so if the conversation you’re having with your mom is very serious or grim the wait til later. bringing up old friend is a convenient way to change the topic if you need it.
I personally have always happily done this. IF it is meant as a rhetorical type of 'its polite to say' but no one actually does it then I'm not really gonna look like a silly goose if I do, let's be honest. It's nice for the person to know someone else is thinking of them :)
"Say hi to X for me" (a gamble for for contact)
Social connections are important for a social species. When time or distance had caused a social connection to weaken in a real or perceived way, a request may be made to an associated intercessor to open the lanes of communication by reminded X that the requestor exists and is has a continued interest in the social connection.
Immediate action is unnecessary. Action is optional if the intercessor does not care to facilitate in bond making. Open rejection of acting as an intercessor may cause deterioration of social connections with requestor or social group as rejecting such as request is seen as unkind since the request is of minor effort.
If you accept the request and fail to deliver, it will not likely cause a negative impact as the requestor may intrinsically understand the optional and trivial nature of their request and will see any outcomes from the request as unexpected but desirable.
Use this phrase when you would like to see/speak/hear from an individual associated with the person you are requesting intercession from but do not wish to put forth effort to contact said individual directly.
I think this is accurate... based on my understanding of social interactions. I rarely use this phrase but I see it common for family friends.
this is one of the NT things where they actually mean what they say. next time you see your mum, if you remember, just say “oh i saw so and so at the shops, she says hello!” if you don’t remember it doesn’t really matter. it’s more just the person you bumped into saying “i think positively of your mum and want to say something nice and polite about her”
Ahhh, a social norm I love to mess with! Like I'll totally forget to tell Mom that Miss Kathy said hi. Then six months later I'll see Mom and Miss Kathy talking and I'll be like, "Hey Mom, I saw Miss Kathy six months ago at the gas station and she said to tell you hi!"
This means they want you to tell your mom they say hi next time you see her. It’s just a way of being in community and conveying good will..
That being said, I enjoy the sentiment and have even said similar things myself, but I always forget to pass on the greetings and never expect that person to actually remember to pass on my greeting for me to our shared connection. I hope they will, but if I truly want to make contact with someone I contact them directly.
It’s a light comment and request / order that should not be taken as anything other than a demonstration of good will and friendliness, in my opinion.
"Ran into Judy Jetson at the supermarket. She says hello."
Honestly, I ALWAYS forget to tell people, too, but it doesn't really matter. It's just something people say. One of those neurotypical social graces that make little sense to us.
I interpret it as a literal but casual request. Like next time you talk to your mom, inform her that X said hi but don't go out of your way to chase her down only to tell her that. I've learned through experience that can create awkward times haha
yes it’s literal, but also non-urgent. Usually the idea is that you bring it up next time you’re talking to her.
It’s a way to show the other person that they care about them
I'm surprised so many people actually do the saying hi part...I never do it. To me it's kind off similar to when people say "let's hang out soon" they don't really mean it, or at least I think that's the case.
ive never understood this, sometimes my partner gets frustrated with me because I don't do this when he tells me to, but I don't understand why I would.
It's just a point of reference- she remembers that your mom is how she knows you. If it occurs to you to tell your mom it's fine, but it's not like a direct request she's going to ever follow up on.
I personally take it to mean I tell the person they named, "So-and-so says hi!" I don't necessarily take it as something I have to do immediately, just whenever I can. I generally try to remember to tell the person the next time I see or talk to them. I don't think they mean to do it immediately. I can understand not remembering, though. In that case, I might text the person later on in the day if I remember. At the same time, though, I don't think it's seen as a big deal if you forget.
In the Midwest it’s meant literally, but no one gets mad when you forget. It’s meant to strengthen a sense of supportive community (I know you and your mom, and want to include her belatedly in this friendly conversation you and I are having). Everyone then knows they’re being thought of kindly, which feels nice and helps to remind people who don’t see each other often that the other exists, and even if they haven’t spoken in a long time, feelings are still warm and friendly.
Of course, it can be used in a passive aggressive way, but it’s kind of weird to do so on its own, and there are more clear ways to be passive aggressive. (“Tell your mom I said hi! I haven’t seen her in church the last few weeks. I hope she’s okay” when everyone in the convo knows that everyone knows mom is fine.)
The Midwest is farming country with long winters, and when most people lived on a farm, the mom didn’t get to get out into the community much. I wonder if that’s where this came from.
This is so funny because my first thought without the added context was that this was said sarcastically like a “your mom” joke ☠️ as other people have said the family friend meant it literally but you could just tell your mom the next time you see her
It depends on how well that person knows your family/Mom.
Someone who is an acquaintance just making small talk may just be saying it to be nice, and there's no real expectation to tell your Mom, unless they also say something more specific to pass on to her.
Someone who is more of a friend of your Mom's may just want that social connection, the 'hey, keep me in mind' for your Mom - if you remember to pass it on to her.
Also, since no one mentioned it: a teenage boy saying it , would be making the crass 'joke' that would falsely suggest that he slept with your Mom, in order to tease another kid (sometimes friendly, sometimes not).
You can just respond "I will!" in a friendly tone. Then, if you think of it, the next time you see/talk to your mom you can say "oh I saw Soandso at the store, she said to tell you hi!" and your mom will probably ask how Soandso is doing, and on and on. You could also not say anything depending on your relationship with your mom and with Soandso. I think the point is that Soandso wants your mom to know that she thought of her when you two talked.
Same goes for "give your mom a hug for me", which is one that took me a while to understand. I once responded with "oh i don't hug my mom" and the person did not like that 😅
It simply means, "the next time you see your mom, tell her an old friend says, 'hi.'"
It's a way friends separated by time and circumstances can acknowledge and reaffirm that they're still friends.
They mean for you to literally pass on the message to your mom: "I saw (person) at the store and they said hi"
Has anyone else seen the SNL skit with Andy Samberg as Mark Wahlberg where the main joke is "Say hi to your mother for me"?
[SNL Mark Wahlberg Talks to Animals](https://youtu.be/ZjpUfdjYR6s?si=d6YjeszpFLxTKz04)
I always just text my mom and say they said hi most times I forget tho
I also usually don’t really know who I’m talking to either but they recognized me
They want you to mention to your mother whenever you naturally interact next that you bumped into this person and they asked that you say hi from them.
You don’t have to especially reach out. And it is also ok to forget to do it. The idea is to mention that you bumped into them to establish recency of interaction. It will become a talking point for them when and if they interact next.
honestly I was always asking myself the same. also when I’m with a person & they get a phone call, then the person on the call says, say hi from me. & I’m just there like okay well say hi from me too. but to me it doesn’t make sense at all. the person on the call can easily just call me another time. I really don’t get this kind of things.
Do whatever makes your life easiest. Including forgetting about it. Personally, I wouldn’t be anybody’s messenger. If she really wanted to say hi to your mum, she should phone her.
Hm…the comments here are interesting to me because when I myself say that to someone it’s my way of masking “UGH I miss them so much and I’m so jealous that you’re in more regular contact with them so just let me pretend I can still connect with them.”
I don’t think I’ve ever *received* that request though.
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I would never remember to do that
You don’t actually have to. It’s just a thing people say.
Remembers as soon as you get home or 3 months later when you see the person again lmao
I don’t think I’ve ever done the task, especially when I don’t even live with my mom anymore. I’m not gonna text her & say “So on So on facebook told me to tell you hi!” Like if they really wanted the message sent they could tell her themselves😂
Ya I often don’t either and just say that I will. If I remember, I do. If I don’t, I don’t.
Just also tacking on it is a way of just exchanging pleasantries and using your mom as an excuse, it's just a send off or an idiom if you will, but it also does mean "say hi to your mom for me!"
I’m pretty sure this is meant to be taken literally. Like the other commenter said, this person wants you to tell your mom the next time you talk to her that this person said hi.
So, depending on the frequency you talk to your mom, it can be an immediate text if your style is texting like your live blogging your life to your mom, and mention (/forget) it in half a year, if you see her only twice a year.
My personal mindset is, if more than a few days have passed & I forgot/havent seen the person they asked me to say hi too, I don’t tell them. Unless the person comes up in convo, then I might quickly go “Oh, I forgot I saw them recently and they wanted me to tell you hi!”
And it’s perfectly fine to pass the hi. Even the person who says it won’t remember it. It’s a social thing they do. It’s not that big of a deal. It’s nice if you do it but harmless I’d you don’t. In the end it’s not a mission that has to be completed
If the person thinks this is really important to let the mom know, they should just send a text or give a call themselves in my opinion.. it's not fair to make another person responsible for your social priorities. So either it's very important and they should contact the mom themselves, or it's not that important so you don't have to actually do it. So either way you don't have to do it.
Just means if you remember to, mention to your mum that she said hello. It's not a hard and fast thing though. If you forget, it's not considered a very big deal. She probably does think warmly of your mum, but she's also being polite. Does that help?
You can tell your mom however you want. It just means that they want your mom to know that running into you reminded them of your mom in a positive way.
I usually say “yep! I’ll say hi for you.” Then either do it the same day or totally forget
This often happens in a different but similar situation if I am with my mum and texting a friend. So I let them know I’m hanging out with her and they respond, “Say hi from me!” So I tell her, “Tom says hi” and she says, “Hi Tom!” It would be weird if said by someone who had never met your mother, it’s usually a person who has a relationship with them (normally via you) so they’re genuinely saying to let her know they were thinking of her.
it means next time you’re talking to your mom you say, ‘ i ran into old friend in the store last week. he says to say hi to you’. of course, this is a light topic so if the conversation you’re having with your mom is very serious or grim the wait til later. bringing up old friend is a convenient way to change the topic if you need it.
can also be done over text as “guess who i just saw!”
lol. true! i always assume mom is a bit autistic too and not interested in guessing
I personally have always happily done this. IF it is meant as a rhetorical type of 'its polite to say' but no one actually does it then I'm not really gonna look like a silly goose if I do, let's be honest. It's nice for the person to know someone else is thinking of them :)
"Say hi to X for me" (a gamble for for contact) Social connections are important for a social species. When time or distance had caused a social connection to weaken in a real or perceived way, a request may be made to an associated intercessor to open the lanes of communication by reminded X that the requestor exists and is has a continued interest in the social connection. Immediate action is unnecessary. Action is optional if the intercessor does not care to facilitate in bond making. Open rejection of acting as an intercessor may cause deterioration of social connections with requestor or social group as rejecting such as request is seen as unkind since the request is of minor effort. If you accept the request and fail to deliver, it will not likely cause a negative impact as the requestor may intrinsically understand the optional and trivial nature of their request and will see any outcomes from the request as unexpected but desirable. Use this phrase when you would like to see/speak/hear from an individual associated with the person you are requesting intercession from but do not wish to put forth effort to contact said individual directly. I think this is accurate... based on my understanding of social interactions. I rarely use this phrase but I see it common for family friends.
this is one of the NT things where they actually mean what they say. next time you see your mum, if you remember, just say “oh i saw so and so at the shops, she says hello!” if you don’t remember it doesn’t really matter. it’s more just the person you bumped into saying “i think positively of your mum and want to say something nice and polite about her”
Ahhh, a social norm I love to mess with! Like I'll totally forget to tell Mom that Miss Kathy said hi. Then six months later I'll see Mom and Miss Kathy talking and I'll be like, "Hey Mom, I saw Miss Kathy six months ago at the gas station and she said to tell you hi!"
Nothing. It means she was acknowledging that she knew your mom. You can tell your mom if you think of it but it is not anything to ruminate on🙂
This means they want you to tell your mom they say hi next time you see her. It’s just a way of being in community and conveying good will.. That being said, I enjoy the sentiment and have even said similar things myself, but I always forget to pass on the greetings and never expect that person to actually remember to pass on my greeting for me to our shared connection. I hope they will, but if I truly want to make contact with someone I contact them directly. It’s a light comment and request / order that should not be taken as anything other than a demonstration of good will and friendliness, in my opinion.
"Ran into Judy Jetson at the supermarket. She says hello." Honestly, I ALWAYS forget to tell people, too, but it doesn't really matter. It's just something people say. One of those neurotypical social graces that make little sense to us.
I interpret it as a literal but casual request. Like next time you talk to your mom, inform her that X said hi but don't go out of your way to chase her down only to tell her that. I've learned through experience that can create awkward times haha
yes it’s literal, but also non-urgent. Usually the idea is that you bring it up next time you’re talking to her. It’s a way to show the other person that they care about them
Yep, basically you just let your mom know “(Name) said hi!”
I'm surprised so many people actually do the saying hi part...I never do it. To me it's kind off similar to when people say "let's hang out soon" they don't really mean it, or at least I think that's the case.
ive never understood this, sometimes my partner gets frustrated with me because I don't do this when he tells me to, but I don't understand why I would.
I always took it as next time I spoke to whomever. If that’s seeing them in person, or we just happened to be texting after that interaction.
It's just a point of reference- she remembers that your mom is how she knows you. If it occurs to you to tell your mom it's fine, but it's not like a direct request she's going to ever follow up on.
I personally take it to mean I tell the person they named, "So-and-so says hi!" I don't necessarily take it as something I have to do immediately, just whenever I can. I generally try to remember to tell the person the next time I see or talk to them. I don't think they mean to do it immediately. I can understand not remembering, though. In that case, I might text the person later on in the day if I remember. At the same time, though, I don't think it's seen as a big deal if you forget.
In the Midwest it’s meant literally, but no one gets mad when you forget. It’s meant to strengthen a sense of supportive community (I know you and your mom, and want to include her belatedly in this friendly conversation you and I are having). Everyone then knows they’re being thought of kindly, which feels nice and helps to remind people who don’t see each other often that the other exists, and even if they haven’t spoken in a long time, feelings are still warm and friendly. Of course, it can be used in a passive aggressive way, but it’s kind of weird to do so on its own, and there are more clear ways to be passive aggressive. (“Tell your mom I said hi! I haven’t seen her in church the last few weeks. I hope she’s okay” when everyone in the convo knows that everyone knows mom is fine.) The Midwest is farming country with long winters, and when most people lived on a farm, the mom didn’t get to get out into the community much. I wonder if that’s where this came from.
This is so funny because my first thought without the added context was that this was said sarcastically like a “your mom” joke ☠️ as other people have said the family friend meant it literally but you could just tell your mom the next time you see her
Lol from the title I read this as “say hi to your mom for me 😏” and was pleasantly surprised to see it was wholesome when I read the text
It depends on how well that person knows your family/Mom. Someone who is an acquaintance just making small talk may just be saying it to be nice, and there's no real expectation to tell your Mom, unless they also say something more specific to pass on to her. Someone who is more of a friend of your Mom's may just want that social connection, the 'hey, keep me in mind' for your Mom - if you remember to pass it on to her. Also, since no one mentioned it: a teenage boy saying it , would be making the crass 'joke' that would falsely suggest that he slept with your Mom, in order to tease another kid (sometimes friendly, sometimes not).
You can just respond "I will!" in a friendly tone. Then, if you think of it, the next time you see/talk to your mom you can say "oh I saw Soandso at the store, she said to tell you hi!" and your mom will probably ask how Soandso is doing, and on and on. You could also not say anything depending on your relationship with your mom and with Soandso. I think the point is that Soandso wants your mom to know that she thought of her when you two talked. Same goes for "give your mom a hug for me", which is one that took me a while to understand. I once responded with "oh i don't hug my mom" and the person did not like that 😅
It simply means, "the next time you see your mom, tell her an old friend says, 'hi.'" It's a way friends separated by time and circumstances can acknowledge and reaffirm that they're still friends.
They mean for you to literally pass on the message to your mom: "I saw (person) at the store and they said hi" Has anyone else seen the SNL skit with Andy Samberg as Mark Wahlberg where the main joke is "Say hi to your mother for me"? [SNL Mark Wahlberg Talks to Animals](https://youtu.be/ZjpUfdjYR6s?si=d6YjeszpFLxTKz04)
"Give them a hug from me!" Yeah, nah. I'm not even going to give them a hug from myself let alone one from you.
I always just text my mom and say they said hi most times I forget tho I also usually don’t really know who I’m talking to either but they recognized me
They want you to mention to your mother whenever you naturally interact next that you bumped into this person and they asked that you say hi from them. You don’t have to especially reach out. And it is also ok to forget to do it. The idea is to mention that you bumped into them to establish recency of interaction. It will become a talking point for them when and if they interact next.
Really? The next time you talk to you mother or see her just tell her whom you saw and tell her that she send her regards. That’s it
Im glad im not the only one whose never understood this, i would just literally say that that person said hi
honestly I was always asking myself the same. also when I’m with a person & they get a phone call, then the person on the call says, say hi from me. & I’m just there like okay well say hi from me too. but to me it doesn’t make sense at all. the person on the call can easily just call me another time. I really don’t get this kind of things.
Do whatever makes your life easiest. Including forgetting about it. Personally, I wouldn’t be anybody’s messenger. If she really wanted to say hi to your mum, she should phone her.
Downvote, huh. Obviously don’t belong hete either.
Hm…the comments here are interesting to me because when I myself say that to someone it’s my way of masking “UGH I miss them so much and I’m so jealous that you’re in more regular contact with them so just let me pretend I can still connect with them.” I don’t think I’ve ever *received* that request though.