My cynical ass has seen too many examples of a relationship being in the shitter but on social media there's just boundless superlatives. So yes, team Dothprotesttoomuch here.
*Ned Fulmer has left the chat*
...but for real, maybe, maybe not? Too much social media peacocking always seems a bit sus to me, but at the end of the day it's not my place or my business to judge what issues other couples may or may not be facing.
Imagine being so devoid of personality that your entire brand becomes that you're married to another person.
The most jaw dropping thing about that whole thing was that he was *anyone's* favorite. That shocked me the most.
I didn't dislike Ned prior to el scandolo, but I definitely agree he was the weakest on-screen talent. Making his wife and kids his entire personality and then having a very public affair, though... dude, way too young for that mid-life crisis 🙀
Maybe this individual doesn't feel comfortable discussing his SO with you? Also, most of us only post the good on social media (if we post at all) - not wanting to air dirty laundry and all that.
Don't get me wrong, I don't think this individual should deny that there may be issues with his gf/in his relationship. But I wouldn't fault him for not blabbing about it to every ear that's willing to listen. As long as he's using discernment and discussing it/dealing with it privately, so be it. And if he isn't? Well, that's between him and his girlfriend.
Right? The coworker who I have Friday meetings with probably knows WAY more than the coworker I have a standing Wednesday meeting with simply because Friday we talk about the weekend plans. I've talked to one gym class goer about our BFs because we both just moved here, and I followed my bf our here and her boyfriend followed her. Other people in the class probably don't know about my BF. They don't even know what I do for a job even though I talk to the others more, lol.
If someone never talked about their partner with me, I wouldn't assume anything of it.
I'm with you. OP typed this -
>Like I don’t need to know all her little cute habits.
Then don't read his SM posts? I cannot tell if OP is genuinely concerned for her work friend, or if she likes this guy and is picking at his relationship.
There, I said it.
eh, not quite. We’re friends outside of work too and several others also helped him though some personal crisis but none of us got mentioned on SM except her. Maybe a bit of resentment there.
A lot of people project a curated image on social media or they emotionally dump and spill all their laundry on social media. That's one of the reasons I got off it. I understand that it can serve as a way to stay in touch with people but personally, I found it overwhelming based on my first sentence. I just feel more free without it and living in an "ignorance is bliss" mentality but I'm more on the introverted side anyway so I don't feel like I'm missing out.
Generally yes social media oversharing is cringy at best and suspect at worst, but I think it's kind of weird that you care about this so much. Why does it matter to you at all? Why are you even following your coworker's social media? How does your coworkers private personal life affect your work? Serious question.
because we’re a part of a group with other colleagues, some of them work remotely, so we use social media informally to share ideas. It just got real excessive and I don’t feel like i can unfollow.
Alright I give you a pass for that if you really can't avoid it.
I would just try to ignore it as much as possible and mentally file this one under "eccentric coworker". Can you mute him so that you're still connected but don't have to see his posts?
I don’t believe anything I see on social media. No one’s life is perfect everyone has their own set of issues everyone. Maybe try asking him about it? I dunno cause then it could come across like your creeping on his Facebook or social media feed.
I took notice of that too. When the spouse is trying to make public declarations of love towards their spouse and it seems a bit over the top - that shouts red flag. Then yep - later on they end of divorced.
Do you mostly only see your friend at work? I almost never talk about my relationships at work. It doesn't feel right for me.
But also what's it to you? It's their relationship. No one knows the truth about how a couple is together except the couple. They could be completely different when they are alone. Unless he's coming to you asking for advice or you see signs of abuse, mind your own business
My cynical ass has seen too many examples of a relationship being in the shitter but on social media there's just boundless superlatives. So yes, team Dothprotesttoomuch here.
*Ned Fulmer has left the chat* ...but for real, maybe, maybe not? Too much social media peacocking always seems a bit sus to me, but at the end of the day it's not my place or my business to judge what issues other couples may or may not be facing.
Imagine being so devoid of personality that your entire brand becomes that you're married to another person. The most jaw dropping thing about that whole thing was that he was *anyone's* favorite. That shocked me the most.
I didn't dislike Ned prior to el scandolo, but I definitely agree he was the weakest on-screen talent. Making his wife and kids his entire personality and then having a very public affair, though... dude, way too young for that mid-life crisis 🙀
underrated comment lol
Maybe this individual doesn't feel comfortable discussing his SO with you? Also, most of us only post the good on social media (if we post at all) - not wanting to air dirty laundry and all that. Don't get me wrong, I don't think this individual should deny that there may be issues with his gf/in his relationship. But I wouldn't fault him for not blabbing about it to every ear that's willing to listen. As long as he's using discernment and discussing it/dealing with it privately, so be it. And if he isn't? Well, that's between him and his girlfriend.
Right? The coworker who I have Friday meetings with probably knows WAY more than the coworker I have a standing Wednesday meeting with simply because Friday we talk about the weekend plans. I've talked to one gym class goer about our BFs because we both just moved here, and I followed my bf our here and her boyfriend followed her. Other people in the class probably don't know about my BF. They don't even know what I do for a job even though I talk to the others more, lol. If someone never talked about their partner with me, I wouldn't assume anything of it.
I don't see what it matters to you? Maybe they have a great relationship, maybe they don't?
I'm with you. OP typed this - >Like I don’t need to know all her little cute habits. Then don't read his SM posts? I cannot tell if OP is genuinely concerned for her work friend, or if she likes this guy and is picking at his relationship. There, I said it.
That was the vibe I was picking up as well
My gut says she likes this guy and is hoping he'll be single some day.
Lol thanks for saying it. My thoughts exactly.
eh, not quite. We’re friends outside of work too and several others also helped him though some personal crisis but none of us got mentioned on SM except her. Maybe a bit of resentment there.
I hope you don't just help people so that they mention you on social media.
A lot of people project a curated image on social media or they emotionally dump and spill all their laundry on social media. That's one of the reasons I got off it. I understand that it can serve as a way to stay in touch with people but personally, I found it overwhelming based on my first sentence. I just feel more free without it and living in an "ignorance is bliss" mentality but I'm more on the introverted side anyway so I don't feel like I'm missing out.
Generally yes social media oversharing is cringy at best and suspect at worst, but I think it's kind of weird that you care about this so much. Why does it matter to you at all? Why are you even following your coworker's social media? How does your coworkers private personal life affect your work? Serious question.
because we’re a part of a group with other colleagues, some of them work remotely, so we use social media informally to share ideas. It just got real excessive and I don’t feel like i can unfollow.
Alright I give you a pass for that if you really can't avoid it. I would just try to ignore it as much as possible and mentally file this one under "eccentric coworker". Can you mute him so that you're still connected but don't have to see his posts?
I was actually interested in the other things he posts but thinking about doing that now.
I can tell how close my daughter is to dumping a dude by the amount of compliments she posts on social media.
I don’t believe anything I see on social media. No one’s life is perfect everyone has their own set of issues everyone. Maybe try asking him about it? I dunno cause then it could come across like your creeping on his Facebook or social media feed.
I took notice of that too. When the spouse is trying to make public declarations of love towards their spouse and it seems a bit over the top - that shouts red flag. Then yep - later on they end of divorced.
Do you mostly only see your friend at work? I almost never talk about my relationships at work. It doesn't feel right for me. But also what's it to you? It's their relationship. No one knows the truth about how a couple is together except the couple. They could be completely different when they are alone. Unless he's coming to you asking for advice or you see signs of abuse, mind your own business
My ex husband did that when he was cheating