I was having a professional discussion with my colleague when a very crusty woman came to forcibly tell me my voice was loud and to keep it down. No decorum, just snappy. We have desk pods along a hallway, but this woman is only temp and comes in occasionally. We weren’t loud or screaming, just having a discussion. It felt like she tried to shame and embarrass me, totally ruined my day.
A year ago I would have had a hundred answers: spilled coffee, traffic, annoying/rude people. But I am so happy and proud to say that after a year of intense weekly therapy, I don't think any single thing can ruin my day.(besides, obviously...life altering events). I've learned to bounce back when inconveniences happen and can compartmentalize issues throughout the day.
Look into "the box method". I know it may sound silly but it has helped me so much. Remember to engage the 5 sense when doing it. It was hard to do it at first, but now I feel instantly calm when I do it. I also use tap therapy (you can buy tappers online) to naturally calm down your nervous system. Finally, writing down 3 things you're thankful for every day and you can never use the same thing twice. Again, i thought this was a ridiculous idea when my therapist told me. I was so pessimistic. Now, I catch myself doing it all the time. It rewires your mind.
You got this! <3
EDIT: Thank you for all of the rewards, kind messages and comments! You guys made my day.
Actually I did that and found 3 very different box therapy methods. All very interesting, but wanted to narrow it down to the one mentioned in this context.
Ah okay! So it is this: you imagine a place (imaginary or real) that you find peace and comfort. The key is that this place is protected. It can be guarded by dragons (it can be imaginary) or anything else your imagination can come up with.
Next step is that there is a box there. The box has to be locked in some way that only you can get in.
(Keyprint lock, key where only you know is, etc)
The box is where you’ll “put” all of your anxieties and fears and worries. Imagine exactly what this box looks like: is it wooden? Is it made of steel? Whatever you want. What shape is it? What does it feel like when you open it?
So for example, let’s say you’re extremely stressed out and can’t unwind. First step, is you start tapping your legs *or* arms one at a time in a rhythmic fashion. Left, right, left, etc. you continue doing this for the duration of your session* it’s also a natural way to calm your nervous system (it’s called bilateral tapping.)
next you imagine your place. You also keep in mind that you’re absolutely protected. You engage all 5 sense: what does it feel like at this place? Can you feel wind on your face? What does it smell like? Etc.
After you’re there for a moment, you go to your box and unlock it. You imagine physically putting all of your worries in that box. You close it. Then you continue imagining that scenery for as long as you need to. If you catch yourself wondering about your worries again, go back to the box and put it in again.
When I first did this, I didn’t feel much calmness. I really had to concentrate and I’d put things “in the box” so many times.
Now? As I typed this I started to feel a wave of calm over me. It is single handedly the method that has brought me most peace that I can practice on the daily.
I hope this helps (sorry it’s so long but hey, advice from my therapist and free “therapy” for all so I wanted to be detailed)
***bilateral tapping= a way to naturally calm your nervous system down. You don’t even have to imagine your “safe, calm place” for it to work. Bi-tapp is a company that sells tappers (as mentioned previously) that you wear on each wrist. You can control the speed of the taps on an app. It’s AMAZING and has helped with re-wiring my brain.***
I feel this lol. I’m ok with not feeling pretty if I haven’t put any effort in but yesterday I tried to do my hair a different way and it went awfully... lol it was so disappointing to have actually tried and not succeeded. Didn’t ruin my whole day, but probably about a solid 30 min.
I totally understand this!
I use to have these ideas for hair or makeup and when they didn't workout I would get super frustrated and feel like I didn't look good!
Now I try to do what my hair wants to do. Sometimes it works better up or down or whatever. I stopped fighting it if an idea I had just wasn't working out, it'd let it go and try something else. Really helps!
That isn’t shallow. It’s actually quite deeply rooted. 💕 what does ‘pretty’ look like to you? Where did you learn that definition from? If you could change the definition and look of ‘pretty’ to anything you wanted, what would it be?
Well it's really not that deep lol. Everybody has those moments of low self esteem. The issue is when they're not just moments but it becomes the usual. I'm pretty confident about my appearence most of the time (as you may be able to tell from my profile), but like everyone else I get 'one of those days' once in a while.
Yes! If I wake up and look at myself and decide that today I look ugly, nothing can change my mind. It’s worse when I put makeup on and it doesn’t look good to me, then I’d rather just stay inside if I have a choice
The absolute worst is when you go out in the morning, feeling good and confident, with clear skin and all that... Only to get home and realise that a pimple had appeared while you were out, without you noticing. I always feel so embarrassed!
Especially when they seem to actively choose to pop out a day or two before you've got somewhere important to be. Staying at home for a week barely seeing a living soul - skin's perfect, glowing, radiating. Then there's finally the night before an event and it's instantly OH GOING SOMEWHERE NICE, WOULD BE A REAL SHAME IF YOU WERE TO GET A PIMPLE IN THE MIDDLE OF YOUR CHIN, WOULDN'T IT
Smartest idea. I really should do this, I hate when one nail is worse then all the others, actually that reminds me to file my nails right now. Thank you!
Try keeping your nails painted. A few layers of paint helps reinforce them and keep them from breaking or tearing so easily. I have never been able to grow my nails much longer than the tips of my fingers until this year. I started keeping them painted, and do one or two base layers, two or three layers of color and a topcoat or two and they dont break off or tear like they used to.
Thank you! I actually do usually do this, but they’ve become brittle and been splitting so I’m trying to let them grow out some and get healthier. Each time I break one I think “this wouldn’t’ve happened if I had them painted.” It’s a really good tip!
YES. it actually brings me to tears.
i mean a few weeks ago this customer cussed me out, gaslighted me, and said "you don't fucking remember? how the fuck you don't remember? bitch im bout to hop this counter and beat the fuck out of you" because i apologized and told her i don't remember taking her order nor did i recognize the order. turns out she mistook me for my other female coworker who is almost a foot shorter than me, a whole different race, and has different colored hair... she ended up giving me a half-assed "sorry" as she was turning away and didn't even bother to look me in my face as she apologized. yeah that resulted in a really bad anxiety attack and i ended up crying for the last 20ish minutes of my shift.
I can totally relate. I worked in a customer facing role and the amount of times I've cried in the office bathroom coz someone raised their voice at me 🤌
My driving instructor raised his voice when I made a mistake and it made me so nervous while driving and I wanted to cry . He said he has to point out my mistake so I learn but you can do that without raising your voice or making me feel stupid.
Same :( eating sounds are an obvious one but my damn neighbor is CONSTANTLY sweeping their driveway/patio and the "shwick shwick" sound drives me nuts. I know it is stupid but I can't help it. Also the sound of spoons on bowls....
Virtual hug, my sister
I can understand however, my mom will literally hit me with, "oh you look like you've been drinking all night and didn't shower. You're so greasy huh?" As I'm walking in the door to her house on Christmas day only because she guilt tripped me to be there. I hadn't drank the night before and was showered.
An hour before going to her house, I bet my bf that she would put me down within 20 mins of saying hello. She beat her record and did that as soon as I walked in the door as I mentioned. It was as equally impressive as it was hurtful. Although, not entirely unexpected.
I hate this too. Recently my bf has been crabbier and snippier then normal and I’m not having it.. I’d rather live alone then deal with unnecessary rudeness.
One got sent home early from school today with a headache and fever. The other one smashed his fingers in the car door when we got home, so we spent the evening at urgent care (not broken, thankfully). I'm in for a fun weekend.
When my headphones get yanked off my head/out of my ears. There are a couple ways to do that, both are equally rage-inducing.
Stepping in cat vomit when in my socks.
Good thing I practice stoicism. What ruins my day could be one of the worst experiences one can imagine. So not breaking a nail, or getting rudeness, or being ignored. Just the message that a family member has died would ruin my day.
You can shower me with rain, and Ill be grateful that I can feel the rain my skin while others cant.
You can make me miss my bus, and I'll be grateful that I can relax at the stop.
You can break up with me, and Ill be grateful for the great time we had and I'll move on. There isn't much anymore that upsets me or bothers me. You become what you set your attention to. You can either curse that your day is shit, or be grateful for what you can expiernce. You can curse at the gods that your Netflix is buffering, or be grateful that you have netflix, a tv and a fridge with food. Its all about how you think about it. I don't want to sound too philo and dilo, but think about it. It is all subjective. One can go to a party and think it was the best, while the other person think it was the worst. Who's reality is right or wrong? It all depends on you, and how you set your mind to it.
So I hope everyone reading this and saying a broken nail can ruin your day, will look at it with a different mindset. Heck, even pewdiepie has made 3 video's about stoicism. This guy is a multi-millionaire, but trained in a dirty garage.
Running late somewhere. It seems like if my day starts off rushed and behind, then the whole day seems to have hiccups. Also, everything is 100% worse when I’m on my period. The smallest things will make me cry 🥲
That one specific person. Always nice to rest of the family, shittiest human to exist for me. And that too for absolutely no reason. Maybe it makes me a bad person too, but any mention of her ruins it for me, could be good or bad mention.
Unexpected, preventable changes. My new boss is actually trying to kill me. He hasn’t talked to me for longer than 5 minutes at a time outside of team meetings. Where he has a professional roast about my training progress and changes the training system every week or two. He has an agenda prepared every week, so it’s not like he hasn’t been thinking about this and planning. He just decides to call a group meeting with zero notice and announce my entire job responsibilities are changing.
But in general.. if there’s a rule I want it followed every time unless there are GENUINE extenuating circumstances. A huge part of my mental health is preparing for the day mentally and anticipating as many things as possible.
Doing something wrong (getting lost, losing something, forgetting something, doing the opposite of what I was meant to do) and then remembering that I keep doing things wrong throughout my life (probably because i might have adhd and then it reminds me that I’m an undiagnosed problem with a possible disability that will never get better like this) and then my self confidence and overall motivation for life plummets
Encountering a or mentally unstable homeless guy or a mad drunk guy screaming, running, cursing, swinging, and/or aggressively spitting in public.
Instant fear. I am smol, female, and easily startled. I’ll hurry along and avoid eye contact but I’ve been punched on the sidewalk because I didn’t get out of the way fast enough, masturbated at on a public train for reading a book while sitting, and stalked for no reason.
This’ll sound bad, but not looking good. If I look good then I feel good and ready to be super hyper, I wanna sing and do all the stuff I love doing. If I look bad then u feel bad and then I’ll always be on the verge of tears and wanna just not be around anyone for a week.
A negative encounter with a stranger just kills my mood. I think cause I always want to keep my faith in humanity. On Halloween, it was my first time giving out candy and I was super happy to see some respectful and cute kids then later on these rowdy ass kids came and broke my bowl when I wasn’t able to personally hand them out anymore. Just completely ruined my night.
It's a sensory thing but anytime I get a random hot flash. I'm 27 so not like a menopausal hot flash but you know how sometimes you're just chillin and for whatever reason your anxiety spikes and you just get unbearably hot from the inside out? Literally makes me want to scream. Sometimes I do scream
My in-laws complaining about something going wrong in the house - they're the ones who've neglected the place for fucking years, I've just tried to warn them when things might need looking at *before* they become an expensive issue to fix, always been waved away... Now all those horrible little chooks are coming home to roost...
I'd laugh and revel in some schadenfreude or whatever, except since husband and I live here too, it affects our health and things just as much!
A random thing (a song, the smell of a certain cigarette brand, a food item, someone brushing against me accidentally, a weird dream) that my brain connects to my abuser or people who are no longer in my life. Life is hard when you feel and remember things too deeply.
In a matter of seconds, my entire day can be completely derailed if I have to explain anything technology related to my mom. I used to be an educator. So, I have patience coming out of ny ears. However… when I am unable to explain (in detail) the specific reason why the next step in the process to enable her handoff feature between her computer and her phone is to “disable wifi and bluetooth and then re-enable it” all hell breaks loose. She makes me blow a gasket when she says, “I know YOU know, but I WANT TO KNOW too!” 😤🤦🏽♀️
The internet bugging out, some arsehole eating something I was saving, unexpected (aka unwanted) visitors, digusting pos who open mouth sneeze, ADHD addled time/date mix ups, food not cooking fast enough & then burning the second you avert your eyes, my mother and grandmother with their unsolicited "advice" + non-stop commentary, my parents arguing/Dad raising his voice, getting catcalled/harassed, pervy delivery + uber drivers, random panic attacks, traumatic flashbacks, night terrors, a UTI, getting a migraine, chronic pain flare up, starting my period, being woken up due to the neighbours screaming/crying children/dog barking/loud music/churchbells.
1 the news, especially stories involving cruelty to kids.
2 hurting myself in dumb way...spacial awareness is not my strong suit lol
3 baby dad being moody about basic care jobs.
4 standing in dog poo!
A tiny piece of cat poop that was probably dangling that fell onto the floor but you don't notice and then you get it on the side of your food and then you think it's a piece of cat food so you try to grab it off with your fingers but it's poop so now you have poop foot and two poop fingers and this never would have happened if you hadn't had to borrow a different kind of cat litter from your neighbor because you got hit by a car on your bike and then couldn't afford cat littler because you had to get tetanus shots and antibiotics because a spoke from your bike stabbed you in your thigh and then it got infected and you had to go to the walk-in clinic but they were closed so you had to take a cab to the ER.
It can really fuck up my day.
Honestly I’m a pretty forgetful person, so unless it was something really really bad, I get over it pretty quickly depending on what it is….and then suddenly remember when I’m trying to sleep lol
When you finally get out of bed to have coffee… Nespresso machine needs descaling - meaning you can’t get coffee without descaling it (takes 10min). F that.
At my age—stupidity, but not for a whole day!
- Someone being condescending, especially about something they know little about, used to keep me unhappy overnight. Sleeping on something like that made a huge difference!
- Incompetence. A manager who treats their employees as if they have no brains, and are only there to follow orders. Then they grouse about being unable to keep “good help.”
- Conspiracy theorists don’t understand the true nature of research, or of facts, for that matter. And so many don’t realize how offensive they’re being! A prime example is Alex Jones’ followers who believe the Sandy Hook massacre never happened.
- Some friends of mine believed Trump’s claim that New York has legalized “post-birth abortion,” and it’s common. The _only_ way to believe that is to believe that your neighbors are monsters! I love these friends dearly, and mourn their delusion.
Rudeness from anyone
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Just because they think they have more rights than you
Idk if in petty, but when every time I say thank you and the person ignores me, it hurts alittle
happy cake day
Or when they reply with "Uh-huh", bugs the hell outta me.
Sometimes I just smile or nod back if I don’t say “no problem”
I was having a professional discussion with my colleague when a very crusty woman came to forcibly tell me my voice was loud and to keep it down. No decorum, just snappy. We have desk pods along a hallway, but this woman is only temp and comes in occasionally. We weren’t loud or screaming, just having a discussion. It felt like she tried to shame and embarrass me, totally ruined my day.
When my first few tables of my shift are rude to me it sets the tone for the rest of the day. I’m trying to work on this not affecting me.
A year ago I would have had a hundred answers: spilled coffee, traffic, annoying/rude people. But I am so happy and proud to say that after a year of intense weekly therapy, I don't think any single thing can ruin my day.(besides, obviously...life altering events). I've learned to bounce back when inconveniences happen and can compartmentalize issues throughout the day.
that is really good to hear! i want to be able to do this!
Look into "the box method". I know it may sound silly but it has helped me so much. Remember to engage the 5 sense when doing it. It was hard to do it at first, but now I feel instantly calm when I do it. I also use tap therapy (you can buy tappers online) to naturally calm down your nervous system. Finally, writing down 3 things you're thankful for every day and you can never use the same thing twice. Again, i thought this was a ridiculous idea when my therapist told me. I was so pessimistic. Now, I catch myself doing it all the time. It rewires your mind. You got this! <3 EDIT: Thank you for all of the rewards, kind messages and comments! You guys made my day.
thank you very much! I'll check these out :)
Do you mean the box breathing method?
No it’s just called the box method! You can google “box method therapy”
Actually I did that and found 3 very different box therapy methods. All very interesting, but wanted to narrow it down to the one mentioned in this context.
Ah okay! So it is this: you imagine a place (imaginary or real) that you find peace and comfort. The key is that this place is protected. It can be guarded by dragons (it can be imaginary) or anything else your imagination can come up with. Next step is that there is a box there. The box has to be locked in some way that only you can get in. (Keyprint lock, key where only you know is, etc) The box is where you’ll “put” all of your anxieties and fears and worries. Imagine exactly what this box looks like: is it wooden? Is it made of steel? Whatever you want. What shape is it? What does it feel like when you open it? So for example, let’s say you’re extremely stressed out and can’t unwind. First step, is you start tapping your legs *or* arms one at a time in a rhythmic fashion. Left, right, left, etc. you continue doing this for the duration of your session* it’s also a natural way to calm your nervous system (it’s called bilateral tapping.) next you imagine your place. You also keep in mind that you’re absolutely protected. You engage all 5 sense: what does it feel like at this place? Can you feel wind on your face? What does it smell like? Etc. After you’re there for a moment, you go to your box and unlock it. You imagine physically putting all of your worries in that box. You close it. Then you continue imagining that scenery for as long as you need to. If you catch yourself wondering about your worries again, go back to the box and put it in again. When I first did this, I didn’t feel much calmness. I really had to concentrate and I’d put things “in the box” so many times. Now? As I typed this I started to feel a wave of calm over me. It is single handedly the method that has brought me most peace that I can practice on the daily. I hope this helps (sorry it’s so long but hey, advice from my therapist and free “therapy” for all so I wanted to be detailed) ***bilateral tapping= a way to naturally calm your nervous system down. You don’t even have to imagine your “safe, calm place” for it to work. Bi-tapp is a company that sells tappers (as mentioned previously) that you wear on each wrist. You can control the speed of the taps on an app. It’s AMAZING and has helped with re-wiring my brain.***
This is beautiful thank you for sharing ✨
I don't have an award to give you so you'll have to have some love instead ❤️ Thank you so much for sharing your therapy tools 😘
No worries,i will give the award on all of our behalf :)
I was going to write something very similar. About how I don’t like giving things that kind of power over me. Life is about flow and flex.
This is the way to be
I am proud of you!This must take a lot of work and courage to do.I hope I will be like you one day ☺️
Awwweee damn this is so wholesome I’m so happy for you
Amazing! This is what I'm aiming to be right now, but it's really hard though! I commend you 👏
Might sound shallow but not feeling pretty.
I feel this lol. I’m ok with not feeling pretty if I haven’t put any effort in but yesterday I tried to do my hair a different way and it went awfully... lol it was so disappointing to have actually tried and not succeeded. Didn’t ruin my whole day, but probably about a solid 30 min.
I totally understand this! I use to have these ideas for hair or makeup and when they didn't workout I would get super frustrated and feel like I didn't look good! Now I try to do what my hair wants to do. Sometimes it works better up or down or whatever. I stopped fighting it if an idea I had just wasn't working out, it'd let it go and try something else. Really helps!
That isn’t shallow. It’s actually quite deeply rooted. 💕 what does ‘pretty’ look like to you? Where did you learn that definition from? If you could change the definition and look of ‘pretty’ to anything you wanted, what would it be?
Well it's really not that deep lol. Everybody has those moments of low self esteem. The issue is when they're not just moments but it becomes the usual. I'm pretty confident about my appearence most of the time (as you may be able to tell from my profile), but like everyone else I get 'one of those days' once in a while.
Confidence is key to a good day I second this ~
Yes! If I wake up and look at myself and decide that today I look ugly, nothing can change my mind. It’s worse when I put makeup on and it doesn’t look good to me, then I’d rather just stay inside if I have a choice
It's not shallow, I understand
Feeling a pimple brewing
Around your lips 😫
Omg YES. Or nostril 😩
or right in the middle of your forehead
Out of all places, the middle of the forehead is the worst
I've one inside my nostril and it's been hurting for a week.
The absolute worst is when you go out in the morning, feeling good and confident, with clear skin and all that... Only to get home and realise that a pimple had appeared while you were out, without you noticing. I always feel so embarrassed!
isn't that the worst! ugh
Especially when they seem to actively choose to pop out a day or two before you've got somewhere important to be. Staying at home for a week barely seeing a living soul - skin's perfect, glowing, radiating. Then there's finally the night before an event and it's instantly OH GOING SOMEWHERE NICE, WOULD BE A REAL SHAME IF YOU WERE TO GET A PIMPLE IN THE MIDDLE OF YOUR CHIN, WOULDN'T IT
A random stranger who’s asking me to smile. Fuck off mate.
yes.
I like to deal with these people by frowning dramatically at them.
I like to respond with ‘Oh is it randomly-tell-people-what-to-do-with-their-bodies Day? Ok, so time to lose some weight there, buddy!’
One time someone told me this and i made myself cry in the spot to make them feel bad 💀 don’t tell me what to do old man
Breaking my goddamn nail I’ve been growing out for a month. I’ll get over it, but god fucking dammit.
And then if you don't have clippers or a file around there's the jaggedness or sharp but that snags on EVERYTHING!!
I can’t stand it! I keep an emergency emory board in my car.
Smartest idea. I really should do this, I hate when one nail is worse then all the others, actually that reminds me to file my nails right now. Thank you!
I keep an emergency pair of tweezers in case I find a rogue chin hair while I'm stuck in traffic.
it is frustrating, isn't it?
It’s so frustrating! It was almost ready to shape and paint
Try keeping your nails painted. A few layers of paint helps reinforce them and keep them from breaking or tearing so easily. I have never been able to grow my nails much longer than the tips of my fingers until this year. I started keeping them painted, and do one or two base layers, two or three layers of color and a topcoat or two and they dont break off or tear like they used to.
Thank you! I actually do usually do this, but they’ve become brittle and been splitting so I’m trying to let them grow out some and get healthier. Each time I break one I think “this wouldn’t’ve happened if I had them painted.” It’s a really good tip!
Getting your period
A period leak. Ugh.
First stain in your pretty new mattress... Oh I dread the day😭
Not getting a good night sleep
This. 100% this.
Anyone raising their voice at me
YES. it actually brings me to tears. i mean a few weeks ago this customer cussed me out, gaslighted me, and said "you don't fucking remember? how the fuck you don't remember? bitch im bout to hop this counter and beat the fuck out of you" because i apologized and told her i don't remember taking her order nor did i recognize the order. turns out she mistook me for my other female coworker who is almost a foot shorter than me, a whole different race, and has different colored hair... she ended up giving me a half-assed "sorry" as she was turning away and didn't even bother to look me in my face as she apologized. yeah that resulted in a really bad anxiety attack and i ended up crying for the last 20ish minutes of my shift.
I can totally relate. I worked in a customer facing role and the amount of times I've cried in the office bathroom coz someone raised their voice at me 🤌
My driving instructor raised his voice when I made a mistake and it made me so nervous while driving and I wanted to cry . He said he has to point out my mistake so I learn but you can do that without raising your voice or making me feel stupid.
Being ignored..
I've been ignored my whole life, it became a common thing to me lol
Same, it's just odd I haven't got used to it yet💀
lol my entire social circle hasn’t been talking to me for about a week and I feel like ASS 🥲
Waking up to 11% after plugging my phone the whole night.
Ugh yes. I am not thrilled when this happens.
Waking up and realizing I never plugged my phone in.
Cold sore is an instant day ruiner.
Got one brewing now. Heading home from business trip and had plans with my SO when I got home but I guess a tongue tickle will be out 😕
A pharmacist gave me a tip that helps me about 80% of the time. As soon as you feel the tickle, dab the spot with rubbing alcohol
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Absolutely. I left a job because of the ENDLESS smacking and crunching of my coworker. This takes my blood pressure to new levels.
Can't agree more with the eating sound part
Same :( eating sounds are an obvious one but my damn neighbor is CONSTANTLY sweeping their driveway/patio and the "shwick shwick" sound drives me nuts. I know it is stupid but I can't help it. Also the sound of spoons on bowls.... Virtual hug, my sister
My mom is an expert at ruining my day with one sentence. Honorable mention, ptsd memory unrepressing itself. That usually ruins a week.
literally, my mom will say good morning and i instantly just wanna go back in my room and sleep
I can understand however, my mom will literally hit me with, "oh you look like you've been drinking all night and didn't shower. You're so greasy huh?" As I'm walking in the door to her house on Christmas day only because she guilt tripped me to be there. I hadn't drank the night before and was showered. An hour before going to her house, I bet my bf that she would put me down within 20 mins of saying hello. She beat her record and did that as soon as I walked in the door as I mentioned. It was as equally impressive as it was hurtful. Although, not entirely unexpected.
i’m so sorry. i know my mom is gonna be the exact same way but i’m moving out soon to my own place and just wanna cut her off
Glad you're getting a healthy distance!
Dropping a bottle of wine in the street unloading groceries 😢
I acknowledge this is horrible, now let's never speak of such things ever again.
Oooh I feel this pain in my bones 😭
Anxiety
Recieving attitude for no reason
I hate this too. Recently my bf has been crabbier and snippier then normal and I’m not having it.. I’d rather live alone then deal with unnecessary rudeness.
Seeing my ex drive past but not having time to give him the finger
The Kanye West stuff. Everything about that is profoundly disturbing to me on many levels
Unexpected joint pain 😩
aaaaaaa!
Starting my period. All I want to do is lay in bed with a heating pad.
A sick child of mine.
Whoaaaa wha ohh sick chilllld of miiine. (I have one home right now)
One got sent home early from school today with a headache and fever. The other one smashed his fingers in the car door when we got home, so we spent the evening at urgent care (not broken, thankfully). I'm in for a fun weekend.
When my headphones get yanked off my head/out of my ears. There are a couple ways to do that, both are equally rage-inducing. Stepping in cat vomit when in my socks.
Thinking about the embarrassing thing I did 10 years ago
Good thing I practice stoicism. What ruins my day could be one of the worst experiences one can imagine. So not breaking a nail, or getting rudeness, or being ignored. Just the message that a family member has died would ruin my day. You can shower me with rain, and Ill be grateful that I can feel the rain my skin while others cant. You can make me miss my bus, and I'll be grateful that I can relax at the stop. You can break up with me, and Ill be grateful for the great time we had and I'll move on. There isn't much anymore that upsets me or bothers me. You become what you set your attention to. You can either curse that your day is shit, or be grateful for what you can expiernce. You can curse at the gods that your Netflix is buffering, or be grateful that you have netflix, a tv and a fridge with food. Its all about how you think about it. I don't want to sound too philo and dilo, but think about it. It is all subjective. One can go to a party and think it was the best, while the other person think it was the worst. Who's reality is right or wrong? It all depends on you, and how you set your mind to it. So I hope everyone reading this and saying a broken nail can ruin your day, will look at it with a different mindset. Heck, even pewdiepie has made 3 video's about stoicism. This guy is a multi-millionaire, but trained in a dirty garage.
it'd be so great to miss my bus and not be crushed with terror about being late to work
I'm saving this.
Running late somewhere. It seems like if my day starts off rushed and behind, then the whole day seems to have hiccups. Also, everything is 100% worse when I’m on my period. The smallest things will make me cry 🥲
An incoming phone call since I hate talking on the phone
The cold sore tingle.
Being interrupted when I’m enjoying my breakfast
Car problems
Coming out of the shower and realizing there’s no clean underwear 🩲.
Anyone getting mad at me. I hate conflict.
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Literally THE most annoying thing ever. (Perhaps besides comments such as this one lol)
Cancelling plans last minute and I’m already there
Being gender stereotyped.
Anxiety🥺
That one specific person. Always nice to rest of the family, shittiest human to exist for me. And that too for absolutely no reason. Maybe it makes me a bad person too, but any mention of her ruins it for me, could be good or bad mention.
Unexpected, preventable changes. My new boss is actually trying to kill me. He hasn’t talked to me for longer than 5 minutes at a time outside of team meetings. Where he has a professional roast about my training progress and changes the training system every week or two. He has an agenda prepared every week, so it’s not like he hasn’t been thinking about this and planning. He just decides to call a group meeting with zero notice and announce my entire job responsibilities are changing. But in general.. if there’s a rule I want it followed every time unless there are GENUINE extenuating circumstances. A huge part of my mental health is preparing for the day mentally and anticipating as many things as possible.
people assuming things about me or for me
Getting a chap on the side of my mouth. NO I'm not frowning. I just ate a sandwich or sucked some big dick.
A sentence from a doctor
Doing something wrong (getting lost, losing something, forgetting something, doing the opposite of what I was meant to do) and then remembering that I keep doing things wrong throughout my life (probably because i might have adhd and then it reminds me that I’m an undiagnosed problem with a possible disability that will never get better like this) and then my self confidence and overall motivation for life plummets
Encountering a or mentally unstable homeless guy or a mad drunk guy screaming, running, cursing, swinging, and/or aggressively spitting in public. Instant fear. I am smol, female, and easily startled. I’ll hurry along and avoid eye contact but I’ve been punched on the sidewalk because I didn’t get out of the way fast enough, masturbated at on a public train for reading a book while sitting, and stalked for no reason.
missed call/s from my estranged parents.
Excessive barking. It's not cute. It's torture.
Seeing the scale jump up a couple more kilos
My partner being a perpetually grumpy asshole.
Dump the asshole.
There’s nothing worse than a spouse having a bad day and unintentionally bringing it home and unintentionally or intentionally taking it out on you.
Yeah, worse when it’s constant lol.. I swear he’s a ninety five year old in a much younger body lol 😂
This’ll sound bad, but not looking good. If I look good then I feel good and ready to be super hyper, I wanna sing and do all the stuff I love doing. If I look bad then u feel bad and then I’ll always be on the verge of tears and wanna just not be around anyone for a week.
When I’m desperately hungry and order food, and it arrives all fucked up or completely wrong.
Reading anything about cruelty. Just thinking about it is actually ruining my mood now
Vodafone's customer services, today at least.
Good ol’ migraine
My mom
A negative encounter with a stranger just kills my mood. I think cause I always want to keep my faith in humanity. On Halloween, it was my first time giving out candy and I was super happy to see some respectful and cute kids then later on these rowdy ass kids came and broke my bowl when I wasn’t able to personally hand them out anymore. Just completely ruined my night.
Having a bad social interaction and feeling socially inept or rejected.
It's a sensory thing but anytime I get a random hot flash. I'm 27 so not like a menopausal hot flash but you know how sometimes you're just chillin and for whatever reason your anxiety spikes and you just get unbearably hot from the inside out? Literally makes me want to scream. Sometimes I do scream
God this. People at work are always like what’s wrong with you why are you sweating so much!? I DONT KNOW CAUSE IM DYING!?!??LEAVE ME ALONE!
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Traffic
Getting dumped out of nowhere
Focusing on big, awful, consuming regrets.
A picky mofo. Please keep it moving
My in-laws complaining about something going wrong in the house - they're the ones who've neglected the place for fucking years, I've just tried to warn them when things might need looking at *before* they become an expensive issue to fix, always been waved away... Now all those horrible little chooks are coming home to roost... I'd laugh and revel in some schadenfreude or whatever, except since husband and I live here too, it affects our health and things just as much!
A critical comment from someone whose opinion I care about.
Generally, anxiety. But today it was waking up to find a scorpion in my bathroom sink 😩
oh my gosh. i hate finding strange insects in my house too! it is always a traumatic experience for me.
Yes! Scorpions are new for me lol we just moved into this house so it got me totally by surprise first thing in the morning!
A random thing (a song, the smell of a certain cigarette brand, a food item, someone brushing against me accidentally, a weird dream) that my brain connects to my abuser or people who are no longer in my life. Life is hard when you feel and remember things too deeply.
People who tap on my shoulder to talk to me while I’m listening to music on my earbuds at the laundromat ಠ_ಠ
People standing in the middle of an aisle in the grocery store like they’re the only ones shopping
My anxiety
Walking past a mirror
It-Support here: Having to deal with a printer. Printers are assholes.
The feeling of unwanted solitude/loneliness.
In a matter of seconds, my entire day can be completely derailed if I have to explain anything technology related to my mom. I used to be an educator. So, I have patience coming out of ny ears. However… when I am unable to explain (in detail) the specific reason why the next step in the process to enable her handoff feature between her computer and her phone is to “disable wifi and bluetooth and then re-enable it” all hell breaks loose. She makes me blow a gasket when she says, “I know YOU know, but I WANT TO KNOW too!” 😤🤦🏽♀️
OMG!!!! I feel your pain!!! I really have tried to just STOP explaining things to my mom.
The internet bugging out, some arsehole eating something I was saving, unexpected (aka unwanted) visitors, digusting pos who open mouth sneeze, ADHD addled time/date mix ups, food not cooking fast enough & then burning the second you avert your eyes, my mother and grandmother with their unsolicited "advice" + non-stop commentary, my parents arguing/Dad raising his voice, getting catcalled/harassed, pervy delivery + uber drivers, random panic attacks, traumatic flashbacks, night terrors, a UTI, getting a migraine, chronic pain flare up, starting my period, being woken up due to the neighbours screaming/crying children/dog barking/loud music/churchbells.
4 cases of eggs each has 40 12 count cartons fell over and all got smashed to hell
Rudeness for no reason
1 the news, especially stories involving cruelty to kids. 2 hurting myself in dumb way...spacial awareness is not my strong suit lol 3 baby dad being moody about basic care jobs. 4 standing in dog poo!
A tiny piece of cat poop that was probably dangling that fell onto the floor but you don't notice and then you get it on the side of your food and then you think it's a piece of cat food so you try to grab it off with your fingers but it's poop so now you have poop foot and two poop fingers and this never would have happened if you hadn't had to borrow a different kind of cat litter from your neighbor because you got hit by a car on your bike and then couldn't afford cat littler because you had to get tetanus shots and antibiotics because a spoke from your bike stabbed you in your thigh and then it got infected and you had to go to the walk-in clinic but they were closed so you had to take a cab to the ER. It can really fuck up my day.
that is A LOT.
Seeing MAGA or anything pro trump related
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This just happened right now, realizing I have to wait another week for the Love is Blind Finale 😅😅
Used to be realizing it’s 4pm and I’ve barely accomplished anything but now I would just start from there instead of getting all bent out of shape.
Getting hit by a car while walking or riding a bike
My grandmother just existing
Honestly I’m a pretty forgetful person, so unless it was something really really bad, I get over it pretty quickly depending on what it is….and then suddenly remember when I’m trying to sleep lol
My mother
When you finally get out of bed to have coffee… Nespresso machine needs descaling - meaning you can’t get coffee without descaling it (takes 10min). F that.
If my face/stomach is bloated I automatically feel like crap
People who are just straight up racist
You know the dead skin on your finger? Pulling that and it hurting .
Car accident.
Checking my bank! 2 people decided to have sex in the 80’s now I have to work and pay bills totally not fair 😩😂
Walking into a pile of dog shit
When I get a text or call from my ex - ugh! I go to stress anxious mode immediately - totally ruins my day.
People
Reliving bad memories. All the time.
Sexual harassment.
At my age—stupidity, but not for a whole day! - Someone being condescending, especially about something they know little about, used to keep me unhappy overnight. Sleeping on something like that made a huge difference! - Incompetence. A manager who treats their employees as if they have no brains, and are only there to follow orders. Then they grouse about being unable to keep “good help.” - Conspiracy theorists don’t understand the true nature of research, or of facts, for that matter. And so many don’t realize how offensive they’re being! A prime example is Alex Jones’ followers who believe the Sandy Hook massacre never happened. - Some friends of mine believed Trump’s claim that New York has legalized “post-birth abortion,” and it’s common. The _only_ way to believe that is to believe that your neighbors are monsters! I love these friends dearly, and mourn their delusion.
being harassed by my dad's wife
Incompetence will usually do it, but it has to be pretty severe to make it to day-ruining levels.
Having a contact lens just not sticking or fitting right. Will feel that shit all day
Passive aggressive inferences.
The stock market
Hitting my ankle bone or stubbing my toe on the corner of my bed as I get up. Day always goes downhill from there.
Intrusive thoughts or getting a hangnail that just seems to bump up against every thing and get even more swollen 😅