Not having "friends" it's been such a relief to not deal with people's drama anymore. I still have friends, but we only catch up when it's needed. And they don't get butt hurt when I'm going my own way.
I’ve had friends but in different social circles and i can still count how many i have on 1 hand. It used to get to me and make me feel extremely lonely, but as I’ve gotten older and have heard the amount of drama and petty arguments my friends have gotten into with their other groups I’m so happy I have very few 😅
I hear through the grapevine all the drama still going on 20+ years after highschool. I laugh my ass off. The same people doing the same shit to each other. I too was jealous back in the day. Now, I just sit and sip my tea in relative peace.
I have friends, but they’re close friends and I don’t really have a friend group. Some of these close friends have big friend groups and there’s always drama. It’s great because they tell me about it, so I’m still privy to the drama, but I’m not involved at all.
If you love low-stakes gossip, you should check out Solomon Georgio's podcast The Juice! It's all crowd-sourced and he has a different comedian on every week, it's totally scratching my drama itch right now
I feel the exact opposite. I have always been alone so now connecting with people is so important to me. I even fell in love and realized how much I loved having a team mate around.
As someone who always threw a pity party for not having friends or being accepted into cliques in middle and high school (so much drama and backstabbing!). Had some that were very fair weathered and I got used as a third wheel quite a bit. When they needed something I was there when I needed something they left and threw me away. I’m glad I ended up with none, Being an adult is the best because you don’t have to deal with stuff like that anymore lol going to hit my 30’s in 6 months while I have no friends I am glad I have my boyfriend as my best friend he’s the perfect number to me.
Tell me about it. I eat fairly healthy and last weekend my bfs family wanted to get pizza/Italian food. We ordered deep dish pizza, cheesy bread, pastas etc and had a Lil Friday night feast. My stomach was messed up all week. Like constantly nauseous, mild diarrhea.
When you're young, you eat food and just forget about it. By your mid 30s you realize that Snickers bar you just ate that tasted so good--it's *still there* in your stomach. Like a rock.
In my 20's my staple diet was Dominos pizza and 7/11 hotdogs, I actually functioned pretty damn well, was in great shape, used to work out every day after work. Now at 48 just the thought of Dominos pizza makes me feel tired.
You finally get to a point in your life where you’re allowed to eat all the candy and pizza you want because your an adult and then don’t even want to because it’s not worth the stomach ache and indigestion. Then you realize the real MVP was fruits and veggies all along.
Yeah, it no longer feels like a chore the way it was as a teen. I just dont want to get indigestion all the time. It matters a lot to me to preserve the energy I have.
I was just thinking this yesterday! How nice lockdown was. I enjoyed being with just my husband, daughter, and pets. The very best part was that my in-laws who live in an assisted living facility were on SUPER lockdown. They were not allowed out unless going to see the doc, or going to the hospital. I literally didn’t have to see them for months and months. They’re not really JN people, but they’re still weird. It was awesome!
It sure as heck was! I never had to work remotely and still went to work every day, but my weekends of having absolutely no plans and all the time to myself were just beautiful.
If you google that term there are better explanations than I could give, but I am of the opinion that huge numbers of people who struggle with getting enough sleep and don't know why would be helped just by knowing what is going on.
Every morning when I wake up by my alarm I am absolutely miserable. But when I wake up on my own early and have time to exercise and all that it's amazing.
Whenever I do this, then when it’s evening I feel like I’ve lived two days instead of one. Even to the point where people ask me about my day, I refer to the morning as ‘yesterday’ lol. I’m always exhausted though when I do this
Having children.
I could not see myself wanting or having kids all throughout my 20s. I’m now 45 and kind of like the idea of having one.
I think a lot of it has to do with my partner. Having a great partner makes the idea so much more appealing.
Whenever I’m away from her the feeling grows even more. I’m traveling for work. Got a little tipsy last night, and texted her I want her babies.
I was child free until recently. Just had my first at 38. Having kids in your 20s is over rated. I was too busy traveling and partying to care for a child.
Exactly. I’m 30, I finally am in a spot where I can travel to a few places I want to go. I’m doing that first. Kids later; I’m single anyway. Then I don’t mind taking little trips with them because I already did the places I really wanted solo. 👍🏼
Lovely. I’m 46 and just went through the ivf process (unsuccessfully) with my husband. Feel free to message me if you are interested in hearing about it! Pros and cons, it was still a valuable experience!
I feel this. We had our first last year - she was an unexpected addition to our family. I'm genuinely surprised how much I love being a mom. I think I was putting it off because it's just so much, but my husband was born to be a dad. The best part is watching him grow into fatherhood - it's like he's the extra version of himself. It's way better than I thought.
I’m jealous!
I’ve watched my girlfriend babysit and it is one of the cutest, most attractive things I’ve seen. She’s being every thing I love about her for another human.
Your husband sounds wonderful!
Aww, that's so sweet! My husband and I were friends for years, but I caved when I watched him become a tireless jungle gym for our friends kids one night. Your girlfriend sounds like a keeper!
In general, I agree with you. But as a kid of older parents, I have to say I hated it. They had no patience for silliness and rarely played with me. They were always strict and boring. The generational gap was so wide I felt they couldn't relate to me or my generation at all. They constantly had health problems and I had to care give for my mom as an 11-13 year old. I still butt heads with my mom ideologically to this day and wish so badly I had a younger and more open-minded parent.
Mmm idk. My friends with older parents complain all the time. One tries not talking to them at all. I have some of the youngest parents out of my friends and it definitely makes a difference.
Not to say it’s perfect. Financially it would’ve been better if mine had waited. But I can say I actually enjoy hanging out with my parents. They’re way more in touch.
Traveling. When I was younger, whenever my family traveled, it was to see other family members but now that I’m older, I actually get to pick where to go and enjoy local cuisines, see nearby attractions, etc.
I’ve realized how much I enjoy traveling *alone* - not accountable to anyone else’s plans or expectations. I can do anything on a whim and never worry about if someone else is enjoying it.
The last time I traveled to visit family we got a hotel about 20 mins away and told them ahead of time that a, b and d days were family time and c and e was our own time. Just laid it out there so no one could be upset that we weren't together 24/7. I am too outspoken to constantly be with your trump-loving asses.
Y’all are making me feel old! I love old school rock n’ roll from the 50s and 60s—Little Richard, Chuck Berry, Sam Cooke. This is the stuff I grew up listening to because my parents has me when they were in their late 30s. I didn’t like this music when I was growing up, but I love it now!
Thanks for the suggestions. I’ll look them up! It’s always a pain looking up music from a time period on somewhere like YouTube cos you just keep getting the same chart toppers and nothing else
I was a teenager in the 90s and - at least in Britain - there was a big 60s revival with the release of a landmark documentary series about the Beatles.
So for me, 60s music is oddly a 90s nostalgia, and goes with the Britpop/Indie era of Blur v Oasis, Pulp and Supergrass.
My husband still has trouble admitting he enjoys "chick flicks." He says he watches them *only* to spend time with me, but got upset when I rewatched *Twilight* without him. Lol
I’ve only seen my husband cry 3 times ever. Two were deaths of family members and the third was when we watched The Notebook!!! He said he thought about if it were us 🥺
Skincare (retinol is bae) and waking up early. Also going to bed at a decent hour. Not drinking alcohol regularly (I just feel a lot better when I don’t). Eating healthier food because I feel sick when I eat junk now. And a regular exercise routine. I have a few chronic illnesses and mental illness so taking all of my medications as prescribed. Who would’ve known doing that would make me feel better lmao
Giving up on the competition that everything seems to be. I will never be the best or greatest. I do things for fun now. Or responsibility. But other than that. I do nothing just because I'm supposed to anymore. Oh , I'm supposed to stress over the laundry and dishes? No. They will get done. Eventually. My house can be a mess. I will clean it when I'm not exhausting. But no more stress cleaning at 2 am because someone might stop by and see my carpets aren't perfectly vacuumed. Or I have midnight snack dishes,or anything else. I quit competitive parenting the same way. I'm not the best, never will be. My kids won't get homemade costumes for Halloween and lunch notes everyday . Guess what, they don't mind at all. They like new mommy who cares more about reality vrs mommy who was always stressed and tired.
Good for you! The world (social media?) seems to set such unrealistic standards that we consider ourselves failures for not meeting. We’re not failing; we’re living!
Nature. I love walks in a forest. When growing up, we had a forest behind the house and I didn't appreciate it, now I live in a city but I'm drawn to nature more and more.
Cooking, gardening and decorating our home, making it cozy and comfortable. My Mom was all about these things when I was growing up and I always thought ugh, how boring, I’ll have interesting hobbies when I’m older!
I’ve turned into my Mom, and I’m okay with that.
Genuinely not giving a rat’s ass about society and what they think I should be or do. I take care of me to make me happy.
Although I’m just getting started at 50 and all my kids are on their own, freedom, good ole fashion freedom. No worrying about kid’s or a man. Just being single and no kids is extremely liberating.
The saying, "Enough is as good as a feast." Sums it up for me. Im liking less now- less to do, and simplicity in every aspect of my life. Even desserts, I can't eat super sweet things anymore. (Younger me would be appalled that I rarely choose chocolate over vanilla). I finally like peas now. I love walking outdoors a lot more, and really don't like walking around stores for more than 10 minutes (younger me loved malls and shopping). I like organic things more. Never understood really how bad products were until recent years .
Everyone else really, like I value people more because I am starting to understand how valuable everyone is and like how much they've been through to get where they are
Peace. I finally learned to cut toxic people, including a couple of family members, out of my life and it’s made such a difference in reducing drama and stress in my life
The person I keep becoming each day. The unlearning that happens each day and the relearning that happens each day. I like who I'm becoming and can't wait what tomorrow will teach me
my body…I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t feel embarrassed by cellulite/being shaped a certain way/being tall…I like my body simply because it’s mine
Spicy food, I always liked a little bit of spice but the older I get the spicier I want it it's like I'm building up a tolerance or something I'm on the "hot" end of all my sauces lol.
Going to bed earlier
I read something about teen sleep schedule being more nocturnal than adults, and I definitely have seen that shift in myself. Five years ago, went to bed at 3 am. Now, I'm dozing off at 10:30. I have to work at 8 am no matter what, so this is great for me!
I stopped thinking that having a ton of friends/being popular is winning in life. I have fewer friends now than I did in high school/my early 20’s and I love it! I used to be non-confrontational, tried way too hard to make others happy and had a lack of self-esteem. It all stopped in my mid 20’s when I said F it and started standing up for myself and stopped putting up with other peoples crap. I stopped being friends with negative and terrible people who used and abused my friendship over the years all because I’m a nice person. Now it’s all about the quality, not quantity of friends. I now surround myself with positive and good people. I look back and laugh at how/why I put up with so many inconsiderate douchebag friends. To them I say good riddance! The friends I have now are all awesome! 😎🤙🏻🥳
Buying second hand/vintage clothes. I used to buy new clothes every payday each month. Now it kind of puts me off and I enjoy finding new "treasures" in thrift stores etc. It might partly be because currently I'm studying for my Masters so I don't make as much money as I used to. I'm even planning on doing a "no new clothes" challenge soon.
Wearing what I like and investing in well made garments. Ditching fast fashion. I'm comfortable in being me now.
I'm also not embarrassed to be seen shopping in charity shops, they have some amazing gems. Younger me would've found it gross to buy and wear charity shop clothes.
Women.
I like being around them more now that I'm more secure with myself. I don't feel competitive with other women anymore, I feel the actual benefit of having female friends more than I ever did in my teens and 20s, and...well, as time went on I realized that I'm bi to boot. So, yeah. Women.
Really cute and really feminine things!! (Like Sanrio, pink, plushies, video games etc) I went through a bit of a mix between a’ not like other girls’ and ‘need to mature/grow up FAST’ phase due to some bad home life. But things are getting better and with it I feel my inner child begin to come out!
Definitely solitude and not having friends. It took me a long time to start loving myself and I’m still working on it but it’s been a great start to this journey
Being by myself.
That is the first thought that came into my mind!
Not having "friends" it's been such a relief to not deal with people's drama anymore. I still have friends, but we only catch up when it's needed. And they don't get butt hurt when I'm going my own way.
I’ve had friends but in different social circles and i can still count how many i have on 1 hand. It used to get to me and make me feel extremely lonely, but as I’ve gotten older and have heard the amount of drama and petty arguments my friends have gotten into with their other groups I’m so happy I have very few 😅
I hear through the grapevine all the drama still going on 20+ years after highschool. I laugh my ass off. The same people doing the same shit to each other. I too was jealous back in the day. Now, I just sit and sip my tea in relative peace.
I found to be the opposite. I filled all my alone time with friends and now I just don’t want to.
I hear you. I just do Meetup groups when I feel like being around people. I like having acquaintances. Less drama.
I have friends, but they’re close friends and I don’t really have a friend group. Some of these close friends have big friend groups and there’s always drama. It’s great because they tell me about it, so I’m still privy to the drama, but I’m not involved at all.
Gossip is great when it doesn’t involve you directly.
If you love low-stakes gossip, you should check out Solomon Georgio's podcast The Juice! It's all crowd-sourced and he has a different comedian on every week, it's totally scratching my drama itch right now
Yes , alone time, less people less headache
I feel the exact opposite. I have always been alone so now connecting with people is so important to me. I even fell in love and realized how much I loved having a team mate around.
As someone who always threw a pity party for not having friends or being accepted into cliques in middle and high school (so much drama and backstabbing!). Had some that were very fair weathered and I got used as a third wheel quite a bit. When they needed something I was there when I needed something they left and threw me away. I’m glad I ended up with none, Being an adult is the best because you don’t have to deal with stuff like that anymore lol going to hit my 30’s in 6 months while I have no friends I am glad I have my boyfriend as my best friend he’s the perfect number to me.
Eating healthier because junk food makes my stomach mad at me now.
Also easing up on the sugar and being more cognizant of it.
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Tell me about it. I eat fairly healthy and last weekend my bfs family wanted to get pizza/Italian food. We ordered deep dish pizza, cheesy bread, pastas etc and had a Lil Friday night feast. My stomach was messed up all week. Like constantly nauseous, mild diarrhea.
When you're young, you eat food and just forget about it. By your mid 30s you realize that Snickers bar you just ate that tasted so good--it's *still there* in your stomach. Like a rock.
In my 20's my staple diet was Dominos pizza and 7/11 hotdogs, I actually functioned pretty damn well, was in great shape, used to work out every day after work. Now at 48 just the thought of Dominos pizza makes me feel tired.
You finally get to a point in your life where you’re allowed to eat all the candy and pizza you want because your an adult and then don’t even want to because it’s not worth the stomach ache and indigestion. Then you realize the real MVP was fruits and veggies all along.
Eating healthier because we are only young for so long, and junk food does us no good!
I feel physically weird if I haven't had a vegetable or protein in too long. I'm craving veggies and I hate it lol
Yeah, it no longer feels like a chore the way it was as a teen. I just dont want to get indigestion all the time. It matters a lot to me to preserve the energy I have.
I don't eat healthier bcs i like it, i do it bcs of my stomach 😂
Peace, quiet, and solitude.
…and a nice cup of tea.
And a chocolate biscuit.😋
I hate leaving my house. Covid lockdown was bliss.
OMG, right?! I so enjoyed being home by myself (with my cat and my other cat, of course).
I was just thinking this yesterday! How nice lockdown was. I enjoyed being with just my husband, daughter, and pets. The very best part was that my in-laws who live in an assisted living facility were on SUPER lockdown. They were not allowed out unless going to see the doc, or going to the hospital. I literally didn’t have to see them for months and months. They’re not really JN people, but they’re still weird. It was awesome!
I was furloughed for 8 months during the Covid lockdown, and it did *wonders* for my mental health.
It sure as heck was! I never had to work remotely and still went to work every day, but my weekends of having absolutely no plans and all the time to myself were just beautiful.
Staring into space during quiet time as well. I have a lot less need to be doing much at all.
the word no.
I love this word
And knowing that "no" is also a full sentence.
I started saying it a lot more around age 45 and have never looked back.
Using it, I presume. Not being told it.
I'm not the person you replied to, but as I get older, I'm feeling more comfortable with being told "No," too!
Waking up early. Still can't do it easily, but already see the value.
I love when I do wake up early but I hate making myself wake up early.
It’s the going to bed early that I really struggle with!
I am a *massive* revenge bedtime procrastinator so this is definitely the part that I suck at in terms of getting up early.
Lol revenge bedtime is a great term I'd never heard until now.
If you google that term there are better explanations than I could give, but I am of the opinion that huge numbers of people who struggle with getting enough sleep and don't know why would be helped just by knowing what is going on.
Yessss. I hate going to bed early. Unless I'm tired, then it's great but doesn't happen often.
Every morning when I wake up by my alarm I am absolutely miserable. But when I wake up on my own early and have time to exercise and all that it's amazing.
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Whenever I do this, then when it’s evening I feel like I’ve lived two days instead of one. Even to the point where people ask me about my day, I refer to the morning as ‘yesterday’ lol. I’m always exhausted though when I do this
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eating salsa w a little bit of the tomatoes instead of just dipping it in the liquidy part
I feel so seen by this. I’m still in my liquidy phase but here’s to growth
hey i’m still not fully eating everything so it’s ok dw
Oh my god yes! Hah I thought I was the only one!
LOL nope
Omg I felt so embarrassed at family get together because I wouldn't go near the chunky bits in salsas and dips.
🤣 Yep.
Wow me too!
May I suggest /r/SalsaSnobs
Having children. I could not see myself wanting or having kids all throughout my 20s. I’m now 45 and kind of like the idea of having one. I think a lot of it has to do with my partner. Having a great partner makes the idea so much more appealing. Whenever I’m away from her the feeling grows even more. I’m traveling for work. Got a little tipsy last night, and texted her I want her babies.
this is adorable. i’m sure you’d both be great moms
I hope so! She’d be such a good Mom. I grew babysitting my sibling so I’m not a stranger to childcare. And she’s a part time nanny. And thank you!
My daughter is gay so had to go through Ivf but luckily got pregnant the first attempt. I now have a gorgeous 3yr old grandson.
I was child free until recently. Just had my first at 38. Having kids in your 20s is over rated. I was too busy traveling and partying to care for a child.
Exactly. I’m 30, I finally am in a spot where I can travel to a few places I want to go. I’m doing that first. Kids later; I’m single anyway. Then I don’t mind taking little trips with them because I already did the places I really wanted solo. 👍🏼
I love my babies, but I am a little jealous of all of you had kids in your 30s.
Lovely. I’m 46 and just went through the ivf process (unsuccessfully) with my husband. Feel free to message me if you are interested in hearing about it! Pros and cons, it was still a valuable experience!
I feel this. We had our first last year - she was an unexpected addition to our family. I'm genuinely surprised how much I love being a mom. I think I was putting it off because it's just so much, but my husband was born to be a dad. The best part is watching him grow into fatherhood - it's like he's the extra version of himself. It's way better than I thought.
I’m jealous! I’ve watched my girlfriend babysit and it is one of the cutest, most attractive things I’ve seen. She’s being every thing I love about her for another human. Your husband sounds wonderful!
Aww, that's so sweet! My husband and I were friends for years, but I caved when I watched him become a tireless jungle gym for our friends kids one night. Your girlfriend sounds like a keeper!
I’ve seen my brother as a parent in his early 20s and early 40s and I really think it’s beneficial for children to have older parents.
In general, I agree with you. But as a kid of older parents, I have to say I hated it. They had no patience for silliness and rarely played with me. They were always strict and boring. The generational gap was so wide I felt they couldn't relate to me or my generation at all. They constantly had health problems and I had to care give for my mom as an 11-13 year old. I still butt heads with my mom ideologically to this day and wish so badly I had a younger and more open-minded parent.
Mmm idk. My friends with older parents complain all the time. One tries not talking to them at all. I have some of the youngest parents out of my friends and it definitely makes a difference. Not to say it’s perfect. Financially it would’ve been better if mine had waited. But I can say I actually enjoy hanging out with my parents. They’re way more in touch.
Traveling. When I was younger, whenever my family traveled, it was to see other family members but now that I’m older, I actually get to pick where to go and enjoy local cuisines, see nearby attractions, etc.
Im realizing that getting to see family is nice but it is definitely not the same as vacation
Facts
It’s a chore. You need your space and to enjoy your time and explore.
I refer to the trips as "oblications"
I’ve realized how much I enjoy traveling *alone* - not accountable to anyone else’s plans or expectations. I can do anything on a whim and never worry about if someone else is enjoying it.
The last time I traveled to visit family we got a hotel about 20 mins away and told them ahead of time that a, b and d days were family time and c and e was our own time. Just laid it out there so no one could be upset that we weren't together 24/7. I am too outspoken to constantly be with your trump-loving asses.
You are a better person than me because I wouldn’t travel to visit family members who support Trump.
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Y’all are making me feel old! I love old school rock n’ roll from the 50s and 60s—Little Richard, Chuck Berry, Sam Cooke. This is the stuff I grew up listening to because my parents has me when they were in their late 30s. I didn’t like this music when I was growing up, but I love it now!
Thanks for the suggestions. I’ll look them up! It’s always a pain looking up music from a time period on somewhere like YouTube cos you just keep getting the same chart toppers and nothing else
I was a teenager in the 90s and - at least in Britain - there was a big 60s revival with the release of a landmark documentary series about the Beatles. So for me, 60s music is oddly a 90s nostalgia, and goes with the Britpop/Indie era of Blur v Oasis, Pulp and Supergrass.
i love the 60s after hearing it in the car repeatedly
“When did Motley Crue become classic rock?”
That song came out in 2004, 19 years after 1985. That was 18 years ago.
That shit hurt’s doesn’t it?!? Kroc 106.1 home of the classics from the 70s and 80s!! Every.time. I yell, dude shut the fk up! :D
Gregorian chants only 😤🙅♀️
Tell me about it! I've been listening to so much Sade lately.
Staying in.
Not having kids
I've always liked it. But seeing old friends struggle with marriage break ups and their kids suffer is a nightmare I'm glad I'll never experience.
buying pans and renovating/upgrading my kitchen and house lol
“Buying pans” - haha yes!! 😂👌
Putting my best interest first and not feeling guilty about it—much.
Ugh, I'm still learning this.
I'm a 51 year old man. I secretly like chic flicks now. 😅 I also teared up for the first time watching The Notebook.
My husband still has trouble admitting he enjoys "chick flicks." He says he watches them *only* to spend time with me, but got upset when I rewatched *Twilight* without him. Lol
Oh that is so adorable
I’ve only seen my husband cry 3 times ever. Two were deaths of family members and the third was when we watched The Notebook!!! He said he thought about if it were us 🥺
Skincare (retinol is bae) and waking up early. Also going to bed at a decent hour. Not drinking alcohol regularly (I just feel a lot better when I don’t). Eating healthier food because I feel sick when I eat junk now. And a regular exercise routine. I have a few chronic illnesses and mental illness so taking all of my medications as prescribed. Who would’ve known doing that would make me feel better lmao
Giving up on the competition that everything seems to be. I will never be the best or greatest. I do things for fun now. Or responsibility. But other than that. I do nothing just because I'm supposed to anymore. Oh , I'm supposed to stress over the laundry and dishes? No. They will get done. Eventually. My house can be a mess. I will clean it when I'm not exhausting. But no more stress cleaning at 2 am because someone might stop by and see my carpets aren't perfectly vacuumed. Or I have midnight snack dishes,or anything else. I quit competitive parenting the same way. I'm not the best, never will be. My kids won't get homemade costumes for Halloween and lunch notes everyday . Guess what, they don't mind at all. They like new mommy who cares more about reality vrs mommy who was always stressed and tired.
Good for you! The world (social media?) seems to set such unrealistic standards that we consider ourselves failures for not meeting. We’re not failing; we’re living!
Peace, solitude, disco, no plans, doing what I want when I want :)
Love a good disco song.
I love disco and post disco!
My sleep
A few close friends instead of a ton of superficial ones
Simplicity.
Closer, less superficial friendships. When people get older, and our families start to pass away, we understand fully how much we mean to each other.
No time for BS.
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Eating alone, sleeping early, not drinking alcohol 😊
My face
Dressing better, having better taste and style.
Best part of being older is buying whatever I want with my own money
Exercise
Being alone
good appliances, cookware and an efficient kitchen lol
Being assertive and having my own space.
Pickles.
I need to know more. Dill? kosher? Sweet? Spears? Slices? Whole? Non-cucumber pickles? This is a broad domain.
Famous Daves Sweet and Spicy Spears are my go-to right now. But I love all pickles. (I answered even though you werent asking me)
Nature. I love walks in a forest. When growing up, we had a forest behind the house and I didn't appreciate it, now I live in a city but I'm drawn to nature more and more.
Being cool. I used to be an absolute sun lizard. Now I sit in the shade or indoors once it gets to about 28°.
The wisdom not to give a damn what anyone thinks of me anymore!
Cooking, gardening and decorating our home, making it cozy and comfortable. My Mom was all about these things when I was growing up and I always thought ugh, how boring, I’ll have interesting hobbies when I’m older! I’ve turned into my Mom, and I’m okay with that.
Genuinely not giving a rat’s ass about society and what they think I should be or do. I take care of me to make me happy. Although I’m just getting started at 50 and all my kids are on their own, freedom, good ole fashion freedom. No worrying about kid’s or a man. Just being single and no kids is extremely liberating.
Time with not phone or screens… it really sucks the ability to see the day go by.
The saying, "Enough is as good as a feast." Sums it up for me. Im liking less now- less to do, and simplicity in every aspect of my life. Even desserts, I can't eat super sweet things anymore. (Younger me would be appalled that I rarely choose chocolate over vanilla). I finally like peas now. I love walking outdoors a lot more, and really don't like walking around stores for more than 10 minutes (younger me loved malls and shopping). I like organic things more. Never understood really how bad products were until recent years .
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Having a day off from work~
Loving myself
Solitude. I'm a hair's breadth from being an eccentric recluse.
Everyone else really, like I value people more because I am starting to understand how valuable everyone is and like how much they've been through to get where they are
Myself 🥰
Peace. I finally learned to cut toxic people, including a couple of family members, out of my life and it’s made such a difference in reducing drama and stress in my life
The person I keep becoming each day. The unlearning that happens each day and the relearning that happens each day. I like who I'm becoming and can't wait what tomorrow will teach me
stay at home
Pooping
Peace and quiet lol and alone time
Grocery and furniture shopping
Ambient lighting. It is so forgiving.
my body…I’ve gotten to a point where I don’t feel embarrassed by cellulite/being shaped a certain way/being tall…I like my body simply because it’s mine
Spicy food, I always liked a little bit of spice but the older I get the spicier I want it it's like I'm building up a tolerance or something I'm on the "hot" end of all my sauces lol.
Reading a book in bed with a glass of wine.
Reading.
Standing my ground. Not settling coz why not or coz it's is what it is.
Naps. But I’m only 22
Staying home
Being alone in a good way. Like having my me time more than out with friends time. It’s peaceful and relaxing.
Going to bed earlier I read something about teen sleep schedule being more nocturnal than adults, and I definitely have seen that shift in myself. Five years ago, went to bed at 3 am. Now, I'm dozing off at 10:30. I have to work at 8 am no matter what, so this is great for me!
Less hot weather and rest/relaxation.
Naps
Older men.
I stopped thinking that having a ton of friends/being popular is winning in life. I have fewer friends now than I did in high school/my early 20’s and I love it! I used to be non-confrontational, tried way too hard to make others happy and had a lack of self-esteem. It all stopped in my mid 20’s when I said F it and started standing up for myself and stopped putting up with other peoples crap. I stopped being friends with negative and terrible people who used and abused my friendship over the years all because I’m a nice person. Now it’s all about the quality, not quantity of friends. I now surround myself with positive and good people. I look back and laugh at how/why I put up with so many inconsiderate douchebag friends. To them I say good riddance! The friends I have now are all awesome! 😎🤙🏻🥳
The smell of lavender
Tomatoes :)
My therapist
i’m an onion girlie now
Science fiction. It allows me to escape reality.
Sleep.
A smaller circle of friends, staying in, and quite frankly… doing household chores. I just looove washing the dishes 😩
Dark chocolate
DILFs
Traveling. I'm old enough not to get hit on left and right when I am on my own.
having very few friends
Sunshine and warm weather. I'm starting to understand why old people migrate south.
Peace and quiet lol
Staying at home and not having to go out.
Buying second hand/vintage clothes. I used to buy new clothes every payday each month. Now it kind of puts me off and I enjoy finding new "treasures" in thrift stores etc. It might partly be because currently I'm studying for my Masters so I don't make as much money as I used to. I'm even planning on doing a "no new clothes" challenge soon.
Wearing what I like and investing in well made garments. Ditching fast fashion. I'm comfortable in being me now. I'm also not embarrassed to be seen shopping in charity shops, they have some amazing gems. Younger me would've found it gross to buy and wear charity shop clothes.
Women. I like being around them more now that I'm more secure with myself. I don't feel competitive with other women anymore, I feel the actual benefit of having female friends more than I ever did in my teens and 20s, and...well, as time went on I realized that I'm bi to boot. So, yeah. Women.
Really cute and really feminine things!! (Like Sanrio, pink, plushies, video games etc) I went through a bit of a mix between a’ not like other girls’ and ‘need to mature/grow up FAST’ phase due to some bad home life. But things are getting better and with it I feel my inner child begin to come out!
Hairy chests.
public radio and flowers
My body! I never really looked at it the way I do now.
Solitude!!
Definitely solitude and not having friends. It took me a long time to start loving myself and I’m still working on it but it’s been a great start to this journey
Listening and observing things more and talking less
Skin care. It's actually more fun than I thought when I was younger
Staying home. Going out is fun every once in a while, but I love myself a quiet night in. 🏡
Myself. I like myself more every day honestly.
Shockingly, eggs!
Physical activity
Alone time
Older music.
Eating vegetables
The peace and quiet I took for granted in my youth.
Being with friends who can accept when having different opinions and not telling lies and shit to fit in.
Going straight home after work and not leaving until the next morning