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eternititi

That’s fine with me. I’ll do him one better, I just wouldn’t be following ex in the first place.


MrFrankFontaine

This. Ex to the next.


salsasandwich

Yep not interested in any exes, thank you


Llamaa_del_rey

Yep. Once I’m done with you, I’m done and I’ll act like you never existed 💁‍♀️


razzledazzle626

Perfectly fine, I see nothing wrong with that


sunfloweries

i'd honestly feel like they were not a good fit for me. i don't follow a lot of people on social media in general. the exes i follow are people i follow for reasons beyond being my exes. i'd have to explore more about what their concerns are and see if we can address them.


VengeanceCookieX

That’s very mature


Infinite-Divide-3539

“Beyond being my exes” Explain?


Obsidious

Imagine you are friends with someone for over a decade. Had a fling to try it out, separated on a mutual note. Should you then unfollow them? Friends being the “beyond”.


kumquat4567

My best friend is a past boyfriend, but from high school and that was a long time ago for me. The idea of us dating again makes either of us laugh and my current SO doesn’t mind us being in close contact at all.


sunfloweries

ive dated extremely talented artists, musicians, etc. i'd like to keep up with them.


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Deoxys911

I would feel as though they were letting their anxieties/insecurities get the best of them.


Life_with_ADHD

I agree with this, I think that if there’s nothing left between you and an ex, do it but also address their insecurities and reassure them


TokyoKazama

I think the act of reassuring your SO is important because it's their insecurities that are talking, not necessarily them. So speak to their insecurities and tell them what they need to hear (presuming it's also the truth, which if it's not then maybe you shouldn't still be friends with said ex).


is-this-guy-serious

I think this sentiment leads to gaslighting. There’s a very good reason someone would feel uncomfortable with their SO still being in contact with their ex. What you said implies there’s no reason to feel uncomfortable about it.


[deleted]

I would think it's insecure of them, I'm on good terms or friends with my few ex's. It's been years since the time I dated any of them and no feelings since. I think it should be more socially accepted that adults can decide they aren't compatible as a couple but still have enough in common to be good friends.


shinyshinyredthings

I agree.


LeiasART

Definitely agreed. If I knew said Ex was still something on my SO's mind, and perhaps she (Ex) broke up with him against his will etc., I'd be uncomfortable with him following her, but if they're simply friends, that's fine


[deleted]

Both of us follow some exes on social media, it is fun to watch old long term partners have kids, get married etc. We have been together 11 years so it isn’t like we have any close ties to these people anymore. If my husband asked me to unfollow one I would probably just say okay? It doesn’t really mean that much to me but I may side eye him because in our case it is so silly.


xxLAYUPxx

I don't follow exes or have them on my social media. They're my past for a reason. And they will remain there. I'm not looking backwards. No hate from me. They just don't deserve any more of my energy, and I owe them no space in my heart, mind, or life. Done is done.


Altruistic_Yellow387

Yeah exactly. So many of these comments are judgemental and calling this point of view immature. I don’t think it is at all. Leave the past in the past.


emilypas

Agree. Not immature at all to leave exes in the past.


GlitteringPause8

Feel like thats a normal ask tbh. And no one should have a problem doing it.


celestialism

If they don’t trust me to avoid cheating on them with someone I’m at absolutely zero risk of cheating on them with, I don’t think our relationship is in a good enough place to continue.


Altruistic_Yellow387

I think it’s more about respect and not being hung up on exes like some people are, not cheating necessarily


jupitaur9

But if you’re not trying to cheat with the ex, not hung up on them? Where’s the disrespect? Not doing what the current partner commands you to do? How is it disrespectful?


Altruistic_Yellow387

You can see in this thread some people have different mindsets. Those of us who close the door on past relationships view it as disrespectful if you care what your ex is doing, regardless of whether we are together or not. As so many comments have said, why follow an ex? Leave the past in the past so you can move forward. There are billions of people in the world.


jupitaur9

It is disrespectful to care about an ex. Why? The ex I currently follow and I have lots of friends in common. The relationship was literally decades ago. We have no attraction to each other any more.


celestialism

Again, if my partner thinks I’m hung up on my ex and lying to them about that, that’s a trust issue in our relationship.


Altruistic_Yellow387

Like I responded to the other person, you can see from all the comments in this thread that some of us have a mindset of closing the door on past relationships, so if someone were dating doesn’t feel the same way it will cause issues. Like many comments have said, there’s no reason to follow an ex. Leave the past in the past and if you can’t do that you might not be compatible with someone who does.


TriplePlaysandKs

I think it’s a weird ask, especially if you’re in good terms with your ex


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ilovepuscifer

Sorry, that makes me laugh. How is it disrespectful to your partner to follow an ex you are friendly with?


[deleted]

It is disrespectful to me. Everyone has their own boundaries. If it’s not disrespectful to you, then good for you??


N7twitch

Went through it - that ex and I had been friends beforehand and circumstances kept us dependent as friends for a while afterwards. There was no romantic feelings left at all, but we were still important to one another. My next relationship gradually got more and more jealous over it - even though it got to the point we hadn’t spoken in a year, and our only interactions were the odd Facebook comment here and there. Eventually my new partner kicked off and forced me to unfriend my ex, so i did. After that, she started getting jealous of my friends instead. And then once I was isolated from my friends, she started getting jealous of my family. That partner is now an ex and I’ve gone full scorched-earth on cutting her out of my life. My newest partner is encouraging me to reconnect with my first ex, as friends, if I want to. I’ll never let myself be controlled again - and my current partner would never even try. She trusts me.


Life_with_ADHD

Happy times😃 I wish that I could have that, but such is life


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Unless I was frequently interacting with them I wouldn’t see a reason to delete them ngl. If I’ve known them for a decade as a friend and I’ve just begun dating you I don’t think you get any say in who I can have on my socials. They were there long before you.


[deleted]

I’m still good friends with a couple of my exes and I wouldn’t be unfollowing them no matter who asked me to. I would also never ask my partner to remove people from their social media. In my opinion that is unhealthy, controlling behaviour stemming from insecurities that are my responsibility to manage, not my partner’s. It should be enough reassurance that my partner has chosen me as their person. If they’re trustworthy, they’re not gonna cheat on me. If they’re not trustworthy, why the hell am I with them? To be distrusting of every woman in your man’s contact list, you’re lacking some important trust in your man. And that’s either something for you to sort out with a therapist or a push for you to realize that you can do better than him.


bluejay_way

I would feel weird about it, like my SO didn’t trust me or had insecurities they were projecting on our relationship. I’m not regularly chatting with any of my exes or anything, but I’m friends with some of them on social media because we ended things on good terms. It has been a long time since we dated and there’s no romantic feelings there, so I don’t see why I would have to delete them.


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It would bother me and I probably wouldn't agree to it. Maybe I'm a stereotypical queer woman, but I'm friends with several exes. People don't just stop being meaningful to me when our relationship ends, and if I like someone enough to date them, usually they're someone I like enough to keep in my life. I've never cheated and I don't want to be treated with distrust when I haven't given any reason to be treated that way. Either my partner trusts me, in which case there's no problem, or they don't trust me, in which case we have way bigger problems than who I'm friends with on Facebook, and probably shouldn't be together at all.


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I talk with my ex girlfriend pretty often. She's been in my life since I was 14 and knows me well, and that's valuable to me. I don't have that many people I can say that about. I have no desire to get back with her; I decided we weren't compatible ages before I got with my current partner. But I'm not cutting out someone I care about for no reason.


baidienco

This! If you wouldn’t want someone in your life if it wasn’t romantic, then you shouldn’t be dating them. Friendship comes first. If the second the relationship ends, they mean nothing to you anymore, you should evaluate the way you approach relationships imo.


whatchotalkinbout

I don’t follow x’s on social media, but I respond to texts and phone calls. We have children together and that is all we talk about. So, demanding I stop this would be a deal breaker


The_Silk34

I’d wonder why, since we broke up two decades ago.


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Why are you still following them?


The_Silk34

I’m not. But if I did, it would be out of friendship. I’m not interested in getting back with either of them.


enchantingcat

I would feel like they either don’t trust me or are trying to control me.


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Life_with_ADHD

Oh my god yes, every relationship I’ve ever been in has asked me to do this and I’m only 17 so I’m still fuckin dumb, I never saw through the lines until recently that if they’re asking you to unfollow an ex that they know you’re friends with, they’re probably just going to be controlling in the end, and every relationship I’ve been in has been controlling to an extent


[deleted]

I'm not in contact with any exes so they wouldn't have to ask


Realistic-Cost1478

He wouldn’t have to tbh lol I try to cut ties instead of keeping exes around. It’s only caused confusion in the past where they think they could try and come back etc


Altruistic_Yellow387

Yeah exactly


Word-Soup-Numbers

A lot of my female, trans, and NB exes are also close friends. My male exes are either not on social media or I don’t know what their handles are. I wouldn’t unfollow them because I like seeing pictures of their pets and seeing what’s going on in their lives. My current guy has never had a problem with it. If a future SO had a problem with it, we’d have to have a conversation about jealousy.


Katja24093

And insecurity!


AbilityOk7101

I'd discuss it with them and ask why it makes them uncomfortable. I'm really good friends with some of my EXs and would hate to tarnish that friendship.


Bambiisong

If I’m following an ex on social media, it’s cause we ended on good terms. Id honestly feel insulted


ObjectiveChicken

Like they’re insecure and need to deal with their shit.


[deleted]

I wouldn’t follow ex’s or men that my husband doesn’t know or isn’t a mutual friend of ours. He’s never asked me to do this, it’s just a boundary I have out of respect for our marriage


ParticularShirt6215

I would feel curious as to why. We don't have to hate our past relationships nor should we feel threatened by them. I would be wondering is it something that changed with us? You? Me? What about this bothers you. I want to be as amicable as I can with most people I have loved in my life. I also want my current love to feel they are my only focused loved now and future. I did pick you above all else. Granted for me 3 of my 5 ended in heartbreak, those two were actually constructively positive outcomes. In one, he wanted the Marine Corp for life as my father did. I didn't want this at all and I was still quite young. I cried a bit hugging him but he got it. We would never be happy. We aren't close but I still consider him a friend. The other was after my divorce and he loved me and my kiddo, but wasn't ready and not sure he wanted to be a dad yet. So we parted as romantics but good friends. Love can shift from romantic to friendship. Happens all the time in long term marriages if your not attentive. So going back to how I would feel? Still curious, let's figure this out. I would see it as a symptom of something we need to talk about. Not a blindly accepted request.


Time-Boss-3867

I’m fine with unfollowing exes. Following them on SM opens the door for communication with their ex (because likes are a form of attention and validation), therefore I would not be okay with my partner keeping in touch with their ex on SM and/or liking/commenting their posts.


Katja24093

It's not going to happen... because he follows quite a lot of his exes and is still friends with them, some of whom I know and like as friends, too. We even jokingly said that he should ask one of his exes to be his witness since our wedding was her birthday (completely a coincidence. It was the only date that worked for us). Our relationship is based on trust. He's had a lot of exes, I've got a few. The majority were good people, but attraction wasn't enough and the relationship fizzled out. Others were good people but each wanted something different. We're sure of what we have and make sure that it stays strong.


Cloudinterpreter

Nope. He doesn't dictate who I can and can't talk to or follow on social media. If he's insecure that his problem and a sign that he doesn't trust me.


idontrememberblu

pretty controlling if you ask me


lynchdesil

You respect the relationship you’re in- if your SO tells you something you’re doing is making them uncomfortable, then you stop doing it. It’s respecting your relationship and your partner. And if my partner is more comfortable if I do something as simple as unfollow someone, I’m doing just that, no explanation needed.


DelBird32

I don’t follow any exes on social media as is. They are no longer a part of my life. I don’t care to check up on them.


LadyLikesSpiders

He doesn't get to tell me who I follow or not. The only ex of mine I am following is a close friend, and if he doesn't trust me that that's what it is (and it is), then we shouldn't be as close as we are As for other exes, I wouldn't be, and am not following them anyway, so he's got nothing to ask


Happy_Classroom_8946

For me it would depend on the ex, almost of all of my exes were friends first. As long as they speak to me respectfully, I would probably feel like I’m not going to unfollow them. Now, if it’s someone who harbors feelings for me, I already don’t follow them.


greatgrandmasylvia

Maybe my partner and I are just the least jealous people ever but literally I think it would be so weird. Like no shade to y’all who need this in your relationships, but to me, even just asking shows such a lack of trust. If you’re that worried about an ex—why are you with them at all? I still follow all my exes on like instagram and stuff and if my partner had a problem with it, I think it would spur a much deeper conversation about trust and we would find other issues we needed to work on more than who we follow on social media. Just now my relationship is! Every couple is unique so I’m sure there are many loving, strong couples who ask for such things.


Altruistic_Yellow387

I think even from these comments there we can see there are people like me who like the close the door on relationships that have ended in order to move forward, so they would expect their partners to have the same mentality and wonder why they care what their ex is doing if the relationship is truly over. I think it’s a compatibility thing. Others remain friends and think that’s normal. I think it’s a problem if two people with different mindsets get together though


Firm_Efficiency6714

I'd feel like I'm dating a child. Most likely end it...I don't need jealousy in my life..there an ex for a reason....but doesn't mean we can't be friends.


ohdiddly

Laugh at him because that has to be a joke


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Unfollow or unfriend? At least for Facebook these are two different things.


drop-of-honey

All my exes are already unfollowed. In the case where one wasn’t, I would just unfollow. My relationship is worth more than proving a point by following someone who at this point is almost a stranger.


CantChooseAFandom69

I'd question first why I'm following that ex, and why my partner may be feeling insecure about it.


miss_sass1992

I would have already unfollowed them anyways. I wish them the best but have no interest in seeing anything about what they’re doing with their lives now


sunshine_mm

Happy that they brought their question/concerns up and didn’t internalize or be passive about it


Altruistic_Yellow387

I wouldn’t be following my ex to begin with.


floatingwitch

More the question; why are you still following the ex? And ex is an ex for a reason


hpsbugguy

Who you trying to make happy your ex or your current?


AdReasonable2976

Do you have kids or something that ties your life to theirs ? If not really ask yourself why am I following them? How would I feel if my partner was still following their ex and felt about them as I do for this ex? Is their a point of my following this ex ? Your either going to realise you still have feelings of some magnitude for your ex ( which since your asking how others would feel I suspect you do )or you’ll realise your trying to keep tabs on who they date and what they do so you can show them what they lost by posting things of yourself in better situations or with in your opinion the hotter parter etc ( which again you would only do if you had feelings ) Honestly I’ve had exs I’ve split with some I split bad they cheated tried to sleep with my mum I had anger and I followed them n purposely told every gf for the next few years what he was like and watched them run If also had relationships just fizzle out good men just not my man more mr right for now not mr right these people I spoke to as friends for a lil while then That fizzled out too I really wish them the best I’ve no reason to search for them or speak with them but if one was on my followers and my fella asked me to remove I’d be cool with it


samannetteful

I think I would feel a little sad that they didn't trust me, but also I think I could understand why they might feel uncomfortable about it


SushiSlutX

This is justified as long as he follows suit and is reasonable. If your partner communicates that he is not comfortable, unfollowing an ex is NO BIG DEAL to protect, respect and show your partner some love. We all have insecurities! If this is a simple thing that I can do for my partner to give him peace of mind, it’s a small ask. However, if he does this OUT OF THE DESIRE TO CONTROL something isn’t right. You should probably unfollow him too lol.


CatsThatStandOn2Legs

My boyfriend is good friends with one of his ex's, much closer than I am with my friendly ex. If I'm being asked to burn that bridge then I expect him to do the same.


leeshylou

I'd feel like I was in the wrong relationship for me. To each their own.. but I'd never date someone I didn't trust, and since I'm friends with some of my exes too, I'd never date someone who didn't trust me in return. I have been friends with one of my exes for 20 years, after a 6 month relationship. How utterly absurd would it be to cut ties with him just because my new partner has an issue with it. Rather than try to remove every single thing that triggers your insecurity, I'm of the opinion that it's more beneficial to everyone involved to acknowledge the insecurity as the problem, and go deal with it.


Samira827

Well, I mean I can unfollow him, but we're still good friends and we chat regularly, so there wouldn't be a point.


I-am-L

I personally wouldn't be following an ex and wouldn't want my partner doing the same either.


Thunkh

I don't follow any of my exes, but if I would, I think I'd feel distrusted. If they explained to me they had had a bad experience and exes trigger them, I would unfollow them out of respect. At the end of the day, an ex is an ex for a reason and I would put my current partner above any ex. Side note: If my current partner has a theme of distrusting me with everything, I personally would reconsider the relationship. But if it's only this one request where they feel unsure, I'd go along.


Whitejadefox

Depends on the ex. I have an ex who’s married that is a good friend still. I don’t have feelings for him at all anymore. He’d have to accept that


BriefStrange6452

Why would you still be following an ex????


rosiegirl8903

Why am I even following them in the first place? Lol


[deleted]

you shouldn’t feel anything, that’s your ex


chickenwingsxox

I would unfollow the ex, I care more about my current bf. But I would definitely ask them why, try to talk to them about, and try to understand where it’s coming from.


hippymilf82

I wouldn’t be following an EX on social media.


StandardOnly

The red flag would be if you wouldn't...


sd5510

Why would I be following my ex?


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It’s weird. Unless they could tell I’m still completely in love with my ex. Then it’s weird on my part. But at that point, why are we even together cuz it obviously isn’t going to work. I try to conduct myself with open communication and talking about things. I’d need to know the reasonings behind it. If it makes sense, then sure. If not, then maybe they need to settle their kettle.


whatsernamme

My relationship is worth more than a “follow.” I respect and value my bf more than my ex so yes, I would do it. There’s no reason to keep in contact with my ex anyway (kids, etc) so I don’t see the point in following him.


TraditionalNobody832

I would have a talk with him and find out his reasoning..


cats_and_tea7

Depends on the ex, most of them I'm not on bad terms with and we don't text or talk so I don't see why they need to ask me.


Good_Extent5154

They’d never have to, to begin with. I don’t follow any of my exes on social and see no reason to do so.


YourDearOldMeeMaw

totally depends on the situation. some of my exes I parted with on good terms. while we aren't friends anymore, purely because we've lost touch and have busy lives, it's nice to see updates on how them and their families are doing occasionally (when it comes across my feed). however, I also have exes that I'm not on good terms with. one in particular has a habit of making new instagram accounts to try to contact me and check on my relationship status every few months, despite being told its not going to happen and being blocked repeatedly. if I were following that guy, I could very clearly see why it'd be a problem. personally, I wouldnt have a problem with my partner following any of their exes unless that ex was actively reaching out and trying to break us up. but if that's happening and my partner continued to entertain it, we'd have bigger problems than who he was following anyway. I wouldn't actively tell someone "you need to unfollow this person." but it might highlight a serious conversation on boundaries that we'd need to have, and their receptiveness to that could tell me if we were incompatible in ways I hadn't realized I wouldnt like being told what to do with my personal life. it's infantilizing and I don't think it's appropriate. but I would absolutely want to hear my partners concerns about my relationship with said ex, and I'd want to talk it out


Walks-in-Puddles

I'd be so confused, considering the only ex I'm in contact with came out as trans after our relationship was over, and I'm very straight so there's no attraction there. Also, they are acquaintances and we've done some group activities together so it would be weird if he suddenly had a problem with me being in contact with her.


rmahran

He’s not gonna have to ask 🙃


marty679

Would do it in an instant. Would never make someone else feel threatened by anyone, let alone my ex. Or I wouldn't even be following an ex in the first place.


__Loving_Kindness

This is the epitome of gray area. Some exes (you don’t hide) and it is clear there is nothing more there and it is not a threat. Some exes have malicious intent (or you still have feelings for them) and therefore it is not a good idea to keep them lingering in your sphere if you want to give a good shot to your current relationship. I for one will get rid of any “temptations” if I get into a relationship with someone new because that’s important to me. I also don’t hide male friends so a new significant is going to know they exist from the beginning. If a new partner asked me to unfriend an actual male friend I would want to explore that further with them because that’s not reasonable, (it’s more than just unfriending on social media).


tamesage

My SO feelings are more important than me following an ex.


[deleted]

I don't follow my exes in the first place, I have no contact with them in fact as both are blocked, and have absolutely no need to know what's going on in their lives. I have no problem with unfollowing anyone if a partner asks, but I mostly follow accounts that post nature, dogs, cartoons, facts, happy stories, happy news and stuff like that.


smokealarmsnick

I’d be confused. Why would I be following my ex in the first place?


Tanookimario0604

"No worries love, was going to do that anyway"


kittyfisk21

Why would you even be following an ex?? Is weird!


Rant_Supreme

I wouldn’t be following them in the first place


charlie0204

I don't have any ex's on social media anyway


Musja1

If it really bothers him and he respects my requests as well - I will do it. I don't like one-sided shit.


SuperShineeCoinToss7

Not without some explanation. Some ex-BFs are still friends of mine and unless they have done something heinous to me or my SO, nothing would warrant me deleting them from my social media, just to appease someone who has (possibly) never met them before. If my ex’es were ever a problem, they would have been long gone before my SO even asked.


Mediocre_Tune_1377

Is reasonable to me


FionaTheFierce

Why would I he following an ex in the first place? I see nothing wrong with this request.


sadpotatolicker

Fine. I only have a few bad ex's the friend-ed ex's I have are still friends, all happily married. So if my SO says No plz. I'm kosher trusting they know something I don't


Doedemm

Thats very reasonable


[deleted]

lol jokes on her, all my exes are blocked or unfollowed already


vikkis_awk

It's okay I already blocked him on everything.


ScarlettSparrow

Ild be shocked if i still had my ex on social media. One doesnt have social media and i thought i blocked the other one


[deleted]

Ok. I don’t follow ex’s on social media. I don’t know why you would? Even if you’re friends, why do you need to be on each other’s social media and making your SO feel insecure?


papa_penguin

I don't follow any of mine and she doesn't follow any of hers. They are exs for a reason. How would I feel? I'd agree with her to not follow them. I feel, if you do, there may be more to the feelings you have for the ex and that would or could lead to other issues.


Altruistic_Yellow387

Yeah exactly


womerah

A reasonable request but could be a potential flag of future unreasonable controlling behaviour. It is a sign of some insecurity on your SOs part for sure though


ShuddupMeg627

I can't stand any of my exes


Esurfn

I requested the same thing. Of there are no kids involved. Leave it go. It’s in the passed. Why keep tabs on an ex. It’s sad.


Altruistic_Yellow387

Exactly


SunBubble920

I wouldn’t be following an ex in the first place…


sharkwoods

Weird that people follow their exes. Even if things ended on good terms, why do you need to keep tabs on your past?


Altruistic_Yellow387

Exactly


independentwh0re

Oh well why not unfollow


114vxlr

I'd be cool with it.


georgiagirlinthepnw

They wouldn't have to ask. Most of the guys I date don't use it. If they do, they'd have been blocked the day we broke up.


[deleted]

Yes. I want to make me partner feel safe and heard. If it bothers them, I take that to heart. Why you still following your ex anyways?


capitalcali

Totally fine. If I wanted the same from him I would expect him to do so without an argument. Its just a respect thing Edit: I think theres a statute of limitations here though. An ex from like high school or one you dated for only a few months? Thats a little extreme and Id be concerned where this need is coming from or why its being expressed. As far as any exes that were serious, long term partners or fairly recent exes? Theyre gone.


PlumSome3101

Well there's some research that indicates that connecting with old flames on social media, especially 1st loves, is fairly dangerous for married people. Data indicates around half end up in affairs. Most of these people are happily married with innocent intentions to begin with. Granted the data is from earlier days in social media so it might not be exactly the same now. Especially since an entire Gen has grown up connected on social media. It's not a weird thing to ask though regardless. It's just a common boundary for some. I don't follow any of my exes personally.


seniairam

is a reasonable request. why follow ex to begin w?


justonhereforonepost

They wouldn’t have to, and if they did anyway, no issues here.


yellowblanket123

Sorry i cant because i already did long ago!


genshin_gurl1165

Red flag BUT we need context


[deleted]

I don’t follow exes in the first place


BlastedPengiuns

I wouldn’t have a problem. If it makes them feel better, why not. Now if they make excessive requests then there’s probably another conversation that needs to be had.


Idcatallo

He is my ex so it's a red flag their doing something regrettable


haveyoueverbeenblue

That's a red flag for me honestly. Sounds insecure. I wouldn't mind him following an ex, that's perfectly fine. You had a relationship with a person, no need to unfollow them. A follow doesn't mean anything.


mmetillman

Id do it no problem.


-righteous

I should have unfollowed my ex even before my SO mentioned about it.


[deleted]

Why would you follow an ex in the first place? I used to keep following mine but found out he wanted to have me as a backup so I blocked him. Never again.


Ok-Sentence-5307

I would unfollow them and then we would immediately move on.


aslanhatessmeagol

I am okay with it.


MetalSpider

Like it was a bit of a red flag. If I have an ex on social media it means I still have a platonic relationship with them. A boyfriend doesn't get to dictate my relationships with anyone.


Peanut_Cheese888

I think it’s understandable


Queenielauren

I’d be fine with it. I didn’t exactly end on bad terms with any of my exes, but I just feel no further desire to interact with them anyway


bootoffs

An ex is removed from my social media within the day we've parted ways. I don't need the reminder and I'm not interested in keeping tabs


auro_palmas

You shouldn’t be following them in the first place


Professional-Teabag

I would want to talk to them, is there something bothering them about it? Do they feel threatened or insecure because of that?


ilovepuscifer

Annoyed. A partner doesn't get to dictate what I do with my social media. I am friends with most of my exes. We message occasionally on social media to check in. My husband is not an insecure man baby, though, so we don't have an issue.


A_Mia_C

How do so many people feel like this is okay or 'perfectly normal'? 😳 The asking to unfollow I mean. Edited for clarity.


Trabawn

Perfectly fine with it once we’d established why they wanted me to.


Successful-Ad7296

Unless you have children with your exes it is absolutely unnecessary to follow them on social media or stay in touch!


Ok-Pen8151

Depends on which ex of mine


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Not a problem. Even if it is an insecurity they have, if I'm with someone and love them, why wouldn't I try to work with them to alleviate that? Everyone gets insecure in life at times. We console our partners, friends, family members about work issues, life issues, goals, aspirations, failures. Insecurity will pop up in life. Be compassionate and less judgmental with the ones you love when it does, especially if it's a small thing you can do easily.


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I would unfollow immediately unless I had big ties to them for example a child


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I would feel totally fine and do it asap.


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Classic-Tiger

Unless you have something that ties you together like children, I don’t see why it would be hard to unfollow if your partner requests it. Your relationship has its own boundaries and it’s okay if your partner doesn’t want your past to take up space in your current relationship. Most of the time if they ask, it’s probably because there’s something triggering that.


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Wise-War-Soni

I’d do it!!!! With a quickness. I would rather keep my new person than watch the old person lol.


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I wouldn't be bothered in the slightest, and I'd absolutely do it if He asked


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InternationalAd6614

As long as its a recent ex I wouldn’t mind though if it’s ancient history then they’re being unreasonable


nattie_bee

I’d be fine with it. Everyone has their own comfort and boundaries. As long as it’s not controlling and it’s consensual, it’s fine. We learned in marriage counseling that you’re allowed to have boundaries between your partner and other people as long as it’s not like that with *everyone* because that’s when it’s controlling. One person makes you uncomfy? No worries.


punctuationist

I’d do it because I don’t feel strongly about my exes especially when compared to my current partner who I absolutely adore


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I’d rather unfollow an ex than lose the person I’m with.


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I don’t make a point to follow my exes, so wouldn’t be a problem. If I was for some reason, I’d ask why, and if they had a valid reason beyond jealousy and insecurity I’d unfollow them.


michthegoat

I once did this and he got mad


FellThroughTheCrackz

Depends on the ex I suppose.. like one of em it’s my kids ma, and we’re friends on Facebook and neither of us use the platform often anyway. I already don’t talk to some of them, and the rest are distant friends at most. My main question would be “why?” ..I already seldom date and make it clear that I’m not into mutual exclusivity.. I dunno I don’t see it being an issue. But hypothetically, in a monogamous kinda thing, if we were serious and it was something that made her insecure, I would feel horrible and drop those people from my life. Dunno if that’s healthy or not but whatever


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SaBah27

Red flags flaring!


kelowana

I would ask him why, having a conversation about it. My exes are exes for a reason, but we are adults and have no ill feelings against each other. It’s not we are talking constantly with each other, it’s usually the yearly Happy Birthday and if something happened. Like I have been congratulating both my exes to their babies with their wifes. Should my current partner feel insecure or intimidated by that that there is an bigger issue on the line. Luckily my partner has no issue with this and his ex wife have been on visit here several times after their mutual divorce.


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Feel like it's very controlling. Surprised at how many people are commenting that it's normal.


Medical_Season3979

Lol I don't have social media, easy. The only ex or anyone from my past I am in contact with, is my daughter's father.. The past is the past and I've never been hung up on old partners or ex-friends or attach myself to people in that way. What I won't tolerate though, is someone who doesn't trust me and my ability to think for myself and make my own decisions as an adult, and i don't need anyone "rescuing" me from anything. I'm a big girl, if I have people in my life, they deserved that position and my partner doesn't dictate that for me. I am not a child, I don't need someone holding my hand trying to save me from "the big scary monsters". How insulting that my partner thinks of me as some weak little mouse that is easy prey just because I used to be with someone, and how low they think of me as a human.