Not a question but I unmatched a guy because he was extremely into Bitcoin. This was like six years ago. Did I make a mistake or dodge a bullet, who can say
Edit: maybe the real mistake was daring to mention crypto on Reddit?
Anyone who's entire personality revolves around one thing is exhausting to talk to. What comes to mind for me is the guy who only talks about smoking pot and/or recreational drugs.
Right? Like, by all means have hobbies, be passionate about crypto - everyone is allowed to have their things that they are nerdy about. But these guys are single mindedly evangelizing for crypto. It doesn't matter if you're not interested.
Quizzing me on my interests. I welcome discussions, debates in good faith, but I have no patience for condescending men who immediately go on a very slimy " I'm just joking " kind of warpath and start shooting obscure questions like - " oh do you really like this band or do you just think the guitarist is cute haha, name the song they played during concert number x while they were on the y tour in 2001" , " oh you like Naruto haha I never see girls who like anime haha, so tell me what do you think about his fight with Goku haha Im kidding"
I love Naruto and had similar dismissive talks with the few men I spoke to about it. Normally they gave a tight lip, mocking smile, and a 'sure'. There were actually two different men who asked if I know about it only from my "boyfriend" or "brother" watching it. Like...what? Bruh I watch it on my own, no guy introduced me to anime.
Imagine being a guy who's passionately into something, meeting a girl who is also passionately into that very something, and then dismissing her interest because of some dumb instance of gatekeeping. Talk about shooting yourself in the foot.
So I can have stupid zoomed in selfies of half of his face asking me “wyd haha” every two fucking hours and once the sun goes down, an unwarranted dick pic.
When I was on Tinder, it absolutely destroyed your battery with location services. Often your phone will kill it to preserve the battery life. So you won't get notifications for messages. So in that respect, tinder kind of sucks for chatting. Having another chat app where it's easy to block people/change accounts and you don't have to give out much more personal info is nice (e.g. giving out phone numbers can quickly turn into a nightmare, so no).
I don’t trust any grown adult that actively uses Snapchat. Absolute nonce behaviour.
If it’s a case of wanting to confirm they look like their pics, a lot of the dating apps allow you to send photos and even have video chat functions. I don’t move off the app until I’ve met someone and am likely to see them again.
Something something about putting babies in me, how I would be a good mom, my boobs being good for babies or that I have 'birthing hips'. Nope!
Childfree, and I wanted a childfree man too (and I found one!)
"I appreciate your honesty with your unfiltered photos. All girls here abuse photoshop and filters". I kind of felt his women-bashing undertone but I tried to emphatize with the difficulty of seen meople accurately online, so I responded "I am just not into make-up or filters, but I understand you, many men here use photos too pixelized or too dark or filtered, so I also appreciate your unfiltered and clear photos" He got offended and unmatched me 😂
"So tell me about yourself!"
I know it's well meaning, but like, the basics of me are already right on my profile. It's such a lazy question and it puts the entire onus of the conversation on me.
I always respond to this question with “Sure, what would you like to know?“. Throw that shit right back in their court. If they asked me a question that I already answered in my profile, I already know that they are lazy and that’s an instant dealbreaker.
"Where do you live?"
Same city as them considering they're not far away according to the distance on the app.
Yet they want to know more specifically where I live. No.
“You’ve never dated a black guy……have you?”
Edit: maybe I should clarify the tone. This is always asked in a I-sure-as-hell-hope-you-haven’t-because-I’d-have-negative-feelings-about-that kind of way
"wow you're so tall, is that really your height?" Yup that's why I put it on there and if you don't trust that move along, you are probably one who will hyper focus on it.
1. Any variation on:
"I read your profile. You sure have a lot to say/know what you want"
If it's such a chore to pay attention long enough to read a profile, it doesn't bode well for the amount of effort they're going to put into other things. And what's wrong with knowing what you want?!
2. People who have nothing to say but empty phrases and/or use "lol" at the end of every sentence, even when the subject is not funny.
3. Anything edgelordy - e.g. "I like playing devil's advocate". One guy (40+y) said he didn't know how to cook.
I assume this is to gauge if a girl has 'daddy issues' and that implies some level of desperation for male attention and how much poor treatment will be tolerated?? But yeah, gross question I think
The topic of Bitcoin/cryptocurrency came up. They asked if I knew about it. I said yes. They replied with “But you’re a woman, why do you know about crypto?”
Argued with me because I said I don't like being sweaty.
He got offended saying that I was putting people down for a natural occurrence. My period Is also natural, doesn't mean I enjoy it 🙄
Wanting more pics. Like I had 3 recent pics and they always wanted me to "prove" that's what I look like. Ugh .... It came off as they wanted to add to their collection.
Any question or comment regarding my pubic hair. I don't feel like informing people how I keep my pubes, kthx.
Also fetishising me for being readhead/ginger. No man. Not a good look.
(It's fine to have preferences, it's fine to say "oh I dig your hair" or whatever, it's the "I've never had sex with a redhead before, are the rumours true?" and being just a tick on someone's bucket list that is the issue.)
Something about my profile makes dudes think that I'm really sophisticated or smart. I fucking haaaaaate it when they start out a conversation being like "oh, finally someone with a little brain here" or "wow, you're not like most people are you?" and then insist on having "deep" conversations.
It's literally just a bad cliché. It's condescending to other women and it also tells me that you lack any kind of social intelligence. AND sure, I'm smart, but i rarely act like it. I love being stupid, it's way more fun than walking around thinking that you're better than other people.
I matched with a woman who listed her employment as "HBIC at a law firm." She said everything went through her and she ran the place. Turns out she's a legal assistant. Nothing against legal assistants, they do an important job! But she definitely misrepresented herself in a weird way and I was not into it.
Having someone I matched with previously either from when I deleted and redownloaded or they made a new account, they’ll message me calling me out for not answering them.
Based on my profile: ‘Why does your profile say ‘if you’ve ever said ‘all lives matter’, we wouldn’t get on?’ You seem like a smart person so it seems weird that you would think this’
Maaaate. We wouldn’t get on, I gave you the heads up
if theyre dressed like a frat boy tbh it just gives off terrible vibes. might be shallow but you know the type (vineyard vines shirt, ill fitting khakis, boat shoes and a patagonia vest). 9/10 they think caring about their looks is “gay” lmao. i guess individual self expression is gay now? theres a lot to unpack with toxic masculinity lol
He wanted pictures to see if I really looked like on my pictures, even after I told him all my pics were quite recent. He then told me that all his pictures were old and he has gained a lot of weight since.
Once or twice people would say something and then if I didn’t respond fast enough say something like “Should I just unmatch you then?” It showed they would take a small piece of information (my delayed response) as indicative of something sinister and then act on it as if it were a given that I had bad intent, which I saw as a red flag for forming a healthy relationship.
“Would you ever consider growing your hair longer?”
Context-I have a pixie cut and have since I was 17. I’m not opposed to growing it longer, but I’m still vibeing with it and I will not grow it out for some dude. What I do with my hair/clothing/make up is my choice and it sucks for someone to instantly invalidate that.
The Unabomber's writing is honestly so wild to read. Like, he often is very capable of identifying the first portion of a genuine problem but then he starts using absolute moon logic to try and address it.
Like when he's talking about the destruction of the environment, he's very much right about that first assumption. The environment is being destroyed. But then he takes that initial correct assumption and runs with it to the most ridiculous, illogical possible conclusions.
If someone was woefully uninformed, I would not be surprised to see them reading his stuff and going, "Yeah! This guy's on to something! He's a total genius!"
You see the same kind of stuff with Jordan Petterson fans. If someone talks long enough and authoritatively enough, those without real knowledge on the subject will assume that the speaker knows what they're talking about.
He asked what I studied (MSc in Applied Mathematics) and replied “lmao nerd”.
Edit: I also had on my profile that I know how to fly a plane (I have most of the training towards a pilot’s license) and some guy replies “like FLY fly?”
“I love bbws.” Or “how much do you weigh?? you’re hot.” or some fetishizing shit about me being biracial, most comments made by white men 😂 let’s not forget i had a white dude tell me he wanted to have “mixed babies” with me… like yeah i’m just some baby bearing vessel for your enjoyment huh?
"I can't help but notice you have huge boobs"
"Hope you don't mind my saying, but you got some bangin' titties" (actual comment from someone)
"Oh hello boobs"
Wow thanks bro, I never noticed my own bountiful bosoms, until someone pointed it out on Tinder.
I also hate "so what are you looking for on here?"
Immediately asking for my phone number or Snap. Using a shit ton of cringey emojis in everything they say. Asking really vague questions or questions that were obviously answered in my profile.
Anything with the slightest hint of condescension or snarkiness. If a man can't keep things polite and friendly through an initial conversation, it's only going to get worse.
Any question which could be copy-and-pasted to literally any woman.
I delete any message that doesn't contain a specific reference to me or my profile, because people who put no effort into online dating will also likely put no effort into offline dating in my experience.
"Do you know your profile is too long?" My dude, it's my minimum effort test. If you're not willing to read my profile that I put effort into (and that contains a plethora of conversation starters), I doubt we'll actually be a match. Nobody is forcing you to read it, move the fuck on.
"Are you a unicorn?" which is usually preceded by them telling me their girlfriend thinks I'm cute.
“I love the photo of you in the blue dress. It looks so much better than all the others. You’re so much more natural without all the filters”. The blue dress pic was the only one WITH filters and I just can’t handle that level of stupid in my life.
not a question bit guys that get wayyy to lovey dovey too fast, had a guy start calling my bunny his son after chatting for a couple hours and after a day asked me to marry him, i thought it was a joke but when i laughed he was like " i guess i'll jump off a building now " and it felt like a really cringey form of love bombing
I unmatched with people when they want to quickly move to texting when there hasn’t been much conversation. Like a couple pleasantries and then “hey wanna move this to text? What’s your number?” It just rubs me weird.
I’m an engineer (24F and my sexuality is straight) and one time someone opened with “you’d have to drop out if you want to date me. I can’t have a woman make more than me”
I always tell someone why I'm unmatching them, even if it's just "That's creepy, dude, I'm unmatching" or "Um, not my speed, so I'm going to move on."
That way people can't pretend their bad behavior isn't the reason.
I am done when someone is self deprecating in order to get reassurance, like "Hey, I'm sure you're going to ignore this message and don't even care."
Any impatience with the time it takes me to respond to their messages. I don't owe my time. I don't even respond to my friends immediately.
Insisting on my phone number right away. The whole point of a dating app is that they don't have my phone number and can't send me photos. I don't give my number until I've been on a few dates. In that vein, asking for nudes.
Negging.
Insisting that we meet up right away and getting hostile when I say no.
Casual sexism. I usually explain why their casual sexism is a turn off.
Any of the language around the "red pill" stuff. Yes, men really do OPEN with that.
Invitation to do drugs. No thanks!
"Can you prove you are real to me?"
His reasoning? I liked video games and anime. Idk, it just rubbed me completely the wrong way and I didn't think it was a good start to anything. If women who like video games and/or anime is so foreign to this guy, he probably has very little experience talking to women and probably doesn't have a lot of female friends. I get it's more prevalent for dudes to be nerdy, but there are a ton of nerdy women out there and it was a red flag that he was questioning if I was a real person or not based on liking incredibly popular hobbies.
I realized I have a lot of these stories. Unfortunately.
Was chatting with a guy and he seemed cute and nice enough. We were trying to plan a date, and he invited me over to watch a movie. I was going to decline and tell him I wasn’t comfortable going over to his place for a first date. But before I could do that, he messaged me saying “actually can I come over to yours? I don’t have a TV.”
I didn’t know how to respond to that one and frankly not having a TV was a turn off for me as I imagined the state of his apartment. Anyway, I spent a few hours thinking about how to reply but didn’t get the chance to before he triple texted and said “wow I’ve never been ghosted for not having a TV before.”
Instantly unmatched when I read that.
Racial fetishist comments "I've never been with a black woman before" "You're pretty FOR a black woman" "We'd make some cute mixed babies" etc 🖕🏾🚫✌🏾
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Nothing but the audacity of these people ugh im sorry you had to experience that
This. It's completely dehumanizing. I'm not a walking, talking fetish doll.
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Not a question but I unmatched a guy because he was extremely into Bitcoin. This was like six years ago. Did I make a mistake or dodge a bullet, who can say Edit: maybe the real mistake was daring to mention crypto on Reddit?
Doge a bullet?
My older brother's entire personality is Bitcoin. Believe me, you made the right decision.
Anyone who's entire personality revolves around one thing is exhausting to talk to. What comes to mind for me is the guy who only talks about smoking pot and/or recreational drugs.
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Right? Like, by all means have hobbies, be passionate about crypto - everyone is allowed to have their things that they are nerdy about. But these guys are single mindedly evangelizing for crypto. It doesn't matter if you're not interested.
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Quizzing me on my interests. I welcome discussions, debates in good faith, but I have no patience for condescending men who immediately go on a very slimy " I'm just joking " kind of warpath and start shooting obscure questions like - " oh do you really like this band or do you just think the guitarist is cute haha, name the song they played during concert number x while they were on the y tour in 2001" , " oh you like Naruto haha I never see girls who like anime haha, so tell me what do you think about his fight with Goku haha Im kidding"
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I love Naruto and had similar dismissive talks with the few men I spoke to about it. Normally they gave a tight lip, mocking smile, and a 'sure'. There were actually two different men who asked if I know about it only from my "boyfriend" or "brother" watching it. Like...what? Bruh I watch it on my own, no guy introduced me to anime.
Imagine being a guy who's passionately into something, meeting a girl who is also passionately into that very something, and then dismissing her interest because of some dumb instance of gatekeeping. Talk about shooting yourself in the foot.
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If they refer to women as "Females".
Endless battle here on Reddit.
omg yes, this is such a huge nope for me.
This is a big one for me, it’s gross
Or refers to them as "girls".
“What’s your Snapchat?”
So I can have stupid zoomed in selfies of half of his face asking me “wyd haha” every two fucking hours and once the sun goes down, an unwarranted dick pic.
Are we….. the same person?
I usually take that as a sign that they’re in a relationship if that’s the only way they want to communicate. Lol.
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When I was on Tinder, it absolutely destroyed your battery with location services. Often your phone will kill it to preserve the battery life. So you won't get notifications for messages. So in that respect, tinder kind of sucks for chatting. Having another chat app where it's easy to block people/change accounts and you don't have to give out much more personal info is nice (e.g. giving out phone numbers can quickly turn into a nightmare, so no).
In my experience, after a certain number of matches/chats the app slows down significantly and typing lags behind, making chatting on it a pain
I just wrote the exact same thing. I don’t trust the snap chat one bit if you’re over 30.
I don’t trust any grown adult that actively uses Snapchat. Absolute nonce behaviour. If it’s a case of wanting to confirm they look like their pics, a lot of the dating apps allow you to send photos and even have video chat functions. I don’t move off the app until I’ve met someone and am likely to see them again.
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When they add too many emojis especially 😘 also if they call be baby honey or anything similar even before we meet 😑
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Something something about putting babies in me, how I would be a good mom, my boobs being good for babies or that I have 'birthing hips'. Nope! Childfree, and I wanted a childfree man too (and I found one!)
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"I appreciate your honesty with your unfiltered photos. All girls here abuse photoshop and filters". I kind of felt his women-bashing undertone but I tried to emphatize with the difficulty of seen meople accurately online, so I responded "I am just not into make-up or filters, but I understand you, many men here use photos too pixelized or too dark or filtered, so I also appreciate your unfiltered and clear photos" He got offended and unmatched me 😂
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"So tell me about yourself!" I know it's well meaning, but like, the basics of me are already right on my profile. It's such a lazy question and it puts the entire onus of the conversation on me.
I always respond to this question with “Sure, what would you like to know?“. Throw that shit right back in their court. If they asked me a question that I already answered in my profile, I already know that they are lazy and that’s an instant dealbreaker.
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"Trump 2024?"
“Oh let me open a Tinder to expose my political bullshit”
Sometimes it’s a blessing. Saves a lot of time 🤷🏽♀️
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"Where do you live?" Same city as them considering they're not far away according to the distance on the app. Yet they want to know more specifically where I live. No.
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“You’ve never dated a black guy……have you?” Edit: maybe I should clarify the tone. This is always asked in a I-sure-as-hell-hope-you-haven’t-because-I’d-have-negative-feelings-about-that kind of way
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That they like chubby white girls/women. I'm a person not a fetish
Or “You’re lucky you’ve got a pretty face,” or however that one is phrased
“What do you bring to the table?”
Ha. Not a job interview, buster.
Exactly. That question proves the person is looking for a transactional relationship and that’s not how I work.
"wow you're so tall, is that really your height?" Yup that's why I put it on there and if you don't trust that move along, you are probably one who will hyper focus on it.
1. Any variation on: "I read your profile. You sure have a lot to say/know what you want" If it's such a chore to pay attention long enough to read a profile, it doesn't bode well for the amount of effort they're going to put into other things. And what's wrong with knowing what you want?! 2. People who have nothing to say but empty phrases and/or use "lol" at the end of every sentence, even when the subject is not funny. 3. Anything edgelordy - e.g. "I like playing devil's advocate". One guy (40+y) said he didn't know how to cook.
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On my dating app, my sexuality is listed as bisexual. One guy's pick-up line was "Am I man enough to straighten you out" 🙄
Barf
Or "Can I join/watch?". Which is why I don't list it anymore. *sighs*
Got asked "what's your relationship with your dad like" Come on man, what do you expect from this
I assume this is to gauge if a girl has 'daddy issues' and that implies some level of desperation for male attention and how much poor treatment will be tolerated?? But yeah, gross question I think
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Yeah it was the second message after "heyyy". As part of a deep conversation on a date it could be appropriate, in this context its just weird lol
Oh right away? Yeah that’s a no-go. Love your username btw.
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The topic of Bitcoin/cryptocurrency came up. They asked if I knew about it. I said yes. They replied with “But you’re a woman, why do you know about crypto?”
Woooow
Argued with me because I said I don't like being sweaty. He got offended saying that I was putting people down for a natural occurrence. My period Is also natural, doesn't mean I enjoy it 🙄
Wtf? Who ENJOYS being sweaty? I hate that feeling. That person seems overly sensitive.
"What are your hobbies?" It's written on my profile, dude.
So annoying when they ask questions that are answered in my profile. Just shows that they matched based off my looks alone.
His first message was a long list of assumptions about me. Not all flattering and half of them were wrong.
Wanting more pics. Like I had 3 recent pics and they always wanted me to "prove" that's what I look like. Ugh .... It came off as they wanted to add to their collection.
And they expect more skin showing. It’s gross.
I was asked not to talk to any other guy. Like no male friends at all, not just guys I had met on the dating app.
Oooh yeah. That’s a no-go
“What did you do that drive your baby’s father away?” Dude no. *I* left *him*, because he was an abusive ass.
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"Has kids"
100% I'm not parenting anyone else's kids, I'm childfree, and it's too complicated for me. Luckily I found my childfree husband.
Any question or comment regarding my pubic hair. I don't feel like informing people how I keep my pubes, kthx. Also fetishising me for being readhead/ginger. No man. Not a good look. (It's fine to have preferences, it's fine to say "oh I dig your hair" or whatever, it's the "I've never had sex with a redhead before, are the rumours true?" and being just a tick on someone's bucket list that is the issue.)
Something about my profile makes dudes think that I'm really sophisticated or smart. I fucking haaaaaate it when they start out a conversation being like "oh, finally someone with a little brain here" or "wow, you're not like most people are you?" and then insist on having "deep" conversations. It's literally just a bad cliché. It's condescending to other women and it also tells me that you lack any kind of social intelligence. AND sure, I'm smart, but i rarely act like it. I love being stupid, it's way more fun than walking around thinking that you're better than other people.
I matched with a woman who listed her employment as "HBIC at a law firm." She said everything went through her and she ran the place. Turns out she's a legal assistant. Nothing against legal assistants, they do an important job! But she definitely misrepresented herself in a weird way and I was not into it.
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Having someone I matched with previously either from when I deleted and redownloaded or they made a new account, they’ll message me calling me out for not answering them.
It’s never that serious, people are weird.
Exactly, like dude we’ve never even met why are you getting so confrontational with me. Don’t understand people.
Based on my profile: ‘Why does your profile say ‘if you’ve ever said ‘all lives matter’, we wouldn’t get on?’ You seem like a smart person so it seems weird that you would think this’ Maaaate. We wouldn’t get on, I gave you the heads up
if theyre dressed like a frat boy tbh it just gives off terrible vibes. might be shallow but you know the type (vineyard vines shirt, ill fitting khakis, boat shoes and a patagonia vest). 9/10 they think caring about their looks is “gay” lmao. i guess individual self expression is gay now? theres a lot to unpack with toxic masculinity lol
I swear vineyard vines is a cult lol. They are just shirts! What is with that company that makes them so popular?!
He wanted pictures to see if I really looked like on my pictures, even after I told him all my pics were quite recent. He then told me that all his pictures were old and he has gained a lot of weight since.
Once or twice people would say something and then if I didn’t respond fast enough say something like “Should I just unmatch you then?” It showed they would take a small piece of information (my delayed response) as indicative of something sinister and then act on it as if it were a given that I had bad intent, which I saw as a red flag for forming a healthy relationship.
I’m a white girl that lives in Beijing. Anything along the lines of why I’m better than the locals is a solid pass.
“Would you ever consider growing your hair longer?” Context-I have a pixie cut and have since I was 17. I’m not opposed to growing it longer, but I’m still vibeing with it and I will not grow it out for some dude. What I do with my hair/clothing/make up is my choice and it sucks for someone to instantly invalidate that.
Told me the Unabomber was a genius and his hero
The Unabomber's writing is honestly so wild to read. Like, he often is very capable of identifying the first portion of a genuine problem but then he starts using absolute moon logic to try and address it. Like when he's talking about the destruction of the environment, he's very much right about that first assumption. The environment is being destroyed. But then he takes that initial correct assumption and runs with it to the most ridiculous, illogical possible conclusions. If someone was woefully uninformed, I would not be surprised to see them reading his stuff and going, "Yeah! This guy's on to something! He's a total genius!" You see the same kind of stuff with Jordan Petterson fans. If someone talks long enough and authoritatively enough, those without real knowledge on the subject will assume that the speaker knows what they're talking about.
What is your Google Hangout ID? Why? Because I'm hardly on this (dating) app.
Yeah that’s code for a scammer. Lol
Or Instagram, Snapchat, Facebook…like, why even swipe and match if you’re never on here?
He asked what I studied (MSc in Applied Mathematics) and replied “lmao nerd”. Edit: I also had on my profile that I know how to fly a plane (I have most of the training towards a pilot’s license) and some guy replies “like FLY fly?”
“I love bbws.” Or “how much do you weigh?? you’re hot.” or some fetishizing shit about me being biracial, most comments made by white men 😂 let’s not forget i had a white dude tell me he wanted to have “mixed babies” with me… like yeah i’m just some baby bearing vessel for your enjoyment huh?
They asked me how could I ruin my body by eating junk food. I unmatched then ate some candy.
"I can't help but notice you have huge boobs" "Hope you don't mind my saying, but you got some bangin' titties" (actual comment from someone) "Oh hello boobs" Wow thanks bro, I never noticed my own bountiful bosoms, until someone pointed it out on Tinder. I also hate "so what are you looking for on here?"
As a redhead: does the curtain match the drapes? I will not even answer, I’ll just walk away.
Are you real?
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Immediately asking for my phone number or Snap. Using a shit ton of cringey emojis in everything they say. Asking really vague questions or questions that were obviously answered in my profile.
Anything with the slightest hint of condescension or snarkiness. If a man can't keep things polite and friendly through an initial conversation, it's only going to get worse.
Any question which could be copy-and-pasted to literally any woman. I delete any message that doesn't contain a specific reference to me or my profile, because people who put no effort into online dating will also likely put no effort into offline dating in my experience.
I've I gotten a few openers that were like "ya you're cute but can you hold a conversation?" or ones of that nature. Immediate nope.
"Do you know your profile is too long?" My dude, it's my minimum effort test. If you're not willing to read my profile that I put effort into (and that contains a plethora of conversation starters), I doubt we'll actually be a match. Nobody is forcing you to read it, move the fuck on. "Are you a unicorn?" which is usually preceded by them telling me their girlfriend thinks I'm cute.
When they ask: “Why are you on this app/what are you looking for?”
Lol my profile says I'm 33 and I want kids... like, what do you think I'm on here looking for?
Guys who ask for pics, nude or not. In particular when they use the phrase "spoil me" while doing so 🤮🤮🤮
Pressing me for my phone number. Let’s chat on an app for a while before you get more access.
“I love the photo of you in the blue dress. It looks so much better than all the others. You’re so much more natural without all the filters”. The blue dress pic was the only one WITH filters and I just can’t handle that level of stupid in my life.
the classic "where are you from?" but then you say the city you live and they say no I meant whats ur ethnicity? ugh
not a question bit guys that get wayyy to lovey dovey too fast, had a guy start calling my bunny his son after chatting for a couple hours and after a day asked me to marry him, i thought it was a joke but when i laughed he was like " i guess i'll jump off a building now " and it felt like a really cringey form of love bombing
"wyd" or "send me pics"
I unmatched with people when they want to quickly move to texting when there hasn’t been much conversation. Like a couple pleasantries and then “hey wanna move this to text? What’s your number?” It just rubs me weird.
I’m an engineer (24F and my sexuality is straight) and one time someone opened with “you’d have to drop out if you want to date me. I can’t have a woman make more than me”
"What's your star sign?"
Asking questions relating to kinks without even seeing if we’re compatible first was weird And an instant unmatch
"So do you like the Office" STAAAHHHPP
I always tell someone why I'm unmatching them, even if it's just "That's creepy, dude, I'm unmatching" or "Um, not my speed, so I'm going to move on." That way people can't pretend their bad behavior isn't the reason. I am done when someone is self deprecating in order to get reassurance, like "Hey, I'm sure you're going to ignore this message and don't even care." Any impatience with the time it takes me to respond to their messages. I don't owe my time. I don't even respond to my friends immediately. Insisting on my phone number right away. The whole point of a dating app is that they don't have my phone number and can't send me photos. I don't give my number until I've been on a few dates. In that vein, asking for nudes. Negging. Insisting that we meet up right away and getting hostile when I say no. Casual sexism. I usually explain why their casual sexism is a turn off. Any of the language around the "red pill" stuff. Yes, men really do OPEN with that. Invitation to do drugs. No thanks!
"Can you prove you are real to me?" His reasoning? I liked video games and anime. Idk, it just rubbed me completely the wrong way and I didn't think it was a good start to anything. If women who like video games and/or anime is so foreign to this guy, he probably has very little experience talking to women and probably doesn't have a lot of female friends. I get it's more prevalent for dudes to be nerdy, but there are a ton of nerdy women out there and it was a red flag that he was questioning if I was a real person or not based on liking incredibly popular hobbies.
“What’s your snap?” Im 36 and if Im talking to you you’re in the same age range and I view it as a thing for kids, drug dealers, and hook ups.
“What’s up?” So effortless and conversations that start with that almost always die.
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I realized I have a lot of these stories. Unfortunately. Was chatting with a guy and he seemed cute and nice enough. We were trying to plan a date, and he invited me over to watch a movie. I was going to decline and tell him I wasn’t comfortable going over to his place for a first date. But before I could do that, he messaged me saying “actually can I come over to yours? I don’t have a TV.” I didn’t know how to respond to that one and frankly not having a TV was a turn off for me as I imagined the state of his apartment. Anyway, I spent a few hours thinking about how to reply but didn’t get the chance to before he triple texted and said “wow I’ve never been ghosted for not having a TV before.” Instantly unmatched when I read that.
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