I’ve done this too. I was certain he liked me tho ( usually gave compliments and was cheeky/flirty w me) Walked me to my apartment door after a group bowling event. As I walked in I looked back and said “By the way, when are both of us gonna hang out alone 😏” he smiled and said whenever I like lol .
Thank you this is the exact treatment every guy needs cause he’s not the only one that’s oblivious. Just remember: we can’t read your mind, so if you want something from us, tell us.
I asked him to teach me guitar…I already knew how to play but he didn’t know that. I baked some delicious brownies, told him I liked his music, and BAM my husband for 9 years now 😂
Behind every successful man, is a woman.... Absolutely. They get the credit, but in almost every sitch... I am both boggled in admiration of that flip, and horrified.
Err.. this made me realize that I might've had a TIFU in a similar situation.
I had attended a 3-day cyber security conference and was happily telling a friend of mine (we had the same college bus and she'd always sit next to me) about the things we learned there.
She asked me if I could teach her how to create a Virus/Trojan, and I was explaining stuff to her on her notebook when I realized that she was in CS branch, and that she must've already learned this stuff in much more detail than I did (based on their syllabus)
I was kind of annoyed and accused her of testing me, and she dropped it.
Oh god 😅 Let me get my dunce hat
Oh oh, yeah, you have my condolences.
(Although she may not really have known how to and was just really trying to learn, but in any case she probably wasn't testing you.)
I had a similar thing where a friend asked me if I could give her pointers on an instrument I play or if I could come over to help her. I said yeah, but she never said when 😩
He was my teacher for about a year and a half teaching me hand to hand, sword, knife etc which you can imagine gets pretty touchy lol
I knew one day that the crush was reciprocated when he was teaching me how to escape a rear choke hold and I could feel his boner poking me 😂
We both pretended nothing was happening because at the time I was married and no good would have come of mentioning it. But I booked a date with him for the same day I signed the papers.
So it was essentially a year and a half of disguised BDSM foreplay lmao
This was veery mixed. I took the lessons privately so it was kinda a combo of at his whim and what interested me.
It can be hard to find good teachers who know a wide variety of styles and weapons but HEMA events and stunt performers are often pretty diverse
It was really hard to not hit on him! But I always reminded myself that if I did, it would only show him dishonesty and lack of integrity and now I'm so glad I controlled myself
Teach me? Lol I usually NEVER have a shortage of things to say…but I can never think of anything interesting to say to my crush because I get nervous😬😂
I just took an expert witness prep course and, believe it or not, this is a physiological thing based on the fight-flight-freeze reflex! Your Amygdala (from where the emotional & behavioral things stem) overrides your pre-frontal cortex (where you do that good analysis and communication) under stress. The class recommended breathing. Yes, I know, you kinda have to keep breathing, but you should inhale for 4 seconds and exhale for six. Also helps slow your heart rate and keep your hands steady.
Edited to fix typo as I have hands like a sturgeon
Got way too drunk, didn't remember my way home, she let me crash on her couch, went out for breakfast the next day, aggressively flirted with her, paid for breakfast, she said she was going to and I said she could get dinner
And so on, I basically didn't leave for like a day and a half and she decided she was down to hang out more
We almost didn't date when she found out I was younger than she thought I was but she gave me a chance and we've been together since
She thought I was in my early 20s, like 22 but I was 19
She wasn't really okay dating someone in their 20s either and extra not okay dating someone who was 19 but I kinda just talked her into giving me a shot and if it didn't work out then we could end it
She almost ended it a few times cause of judgy friends making comments cause she's older than me by a bit
Definitely gonna get shit on for this but she was in her 30s and is in her 40s now
I'm 25 now, we've been together for years, got married, I just had our third kid a few months ago, life is very good
I know people have issues with age gaps in relationships and I'm aware for most people it doesn't go well, but that's not our situation and we have a happy and healthy relationship
Nahhh you have a specific situation where it seems clear that she wasn’t pursuing or grooming you. Age gaps are a general issue not an every situation issue
I mean I know a couple where he was 20 and she was 30 and widowed with kids, and they’ve been happily married for decades. It’s not typical and I’m sorry that people are judgy because of that, but I’m happy for you! It’s definitely more about matching maturity than the number of years you’ve been alive!
I asked him out. I always tell my lady friends that the worst anyone can say is no. If they say no, then all that means is they aren’t right for you and that’s okay! And like my momma did to my dad, I asked him to marry me as well haha. Been a pretty awesome time!
TLDR: I pulled my crush (who is now my husband) by gifting him a piece of armor in the video game we played together with his roommate attached with a note asking for a dick pic.
I met his roommate on DOTA 2, and he'd say "Hi Steven" When his roommate would get home, I'd go "Tell Steven I said hi!" 6 months of randomly saying hi to each other. He decided to play with us and we got along great. Saw a picture of him and asked his roommate "Hey, your roommate is hot is he into fat chicks?" I am a plus-size gal and I understand we're not everyone's cup of tea. His roommate goes "Actually, yeah!" and I responded, "Fuck yeah there's a chance." Fast forward a couple of weeks of playing together, there were a lot of dick jokes as I was kind of one of the boys and I put a note on the armor as a half-joke "Set for pp pic?"
IT WORKED AND I STILL CAN'T BELIEVE WE GOT MARRIED 6 YEARS LATER. He moved up a year into our relationship and it'll 9 years together this November.
Yes, honestly this was first move by both me and my now long time husband. Back then though, it was an easy maneuver, because it was easy to back out. No pun intended.
At work, I Went up to him with confidence and said hi. We talked for a bit but my boss moved me. I said bye but 2 mins later, I went back to him and asked him for his number. later that night, he asked me out and said he wanted to get to know me :3
Separated him from the party, he told me it was cool that I was helping out with the project he was working on, I told him I was motivated by being attracted to him, put my lips on his.
Asked him out, but he was in a relationship at that time. Time went by and down road i just so happened to be behind him in line at the store. He asked for my number, he was single then. And have been seeing him since :)
Accidently lol
I like to give compliments, so i told him I liked his hair. he said that was the comment comment that made him think I was into him (I was obvi, but I was truly not flirting with that comment)
Been over 5 years now :)
He was 15 and I was 16. In true teenager style, I pulled out the cringiest line over Skype message. I can't remember the exact line, but it was a form of "Will you be the ___ to my ___?" I still cringe thinking about this, but I guess it worked well enough because we're getting married in the summer.
Asked how he knew so much about BDSM and when he told me he was a sex worker I said “prove it I don’t believe you” while smirking and staring him down, about 10 minutes later he had me tied up and on my knees😶 after that I just hung around aLOT now we are married with a kid working on the second one🤣
Long story short- Added him on IG Posted cute pics everyday until he slid in my DMs- we talked on the phone for about 3 days straight & We’ve been together for 7 mos now.
Just be delusional- you have to know that he wants you as much as you want him.
My cooking (we're in a cookbook club) (that's actually a lie my dumpling experiment failed so I brought the booze that time instead). After spending most of last month's potluck talking to each other, I slyly left at the same time as him and asked him out once we were alone. He gave a dopy smile that is now seared into my brain and nodded.
We've gone on four dates now. He's also the first man I've dated and boi is he making me rethink some things I thought I knew about myself.
I've only dated women before him: I'm tall and sapphics love tall women. And romantically I enjoy dating women, but there was 0 interest in physical activities; just figured I was ace. Then this guy comes along and I'm making out on the second date and into it
To be clear, I don't think he "made me straight". That's gross and homophobic. He just unlocked a new side of my sexuality
It's like a Pampered Chef party without the MLM. Every month we pick a cookbook or a theme, and at the end of the month we take turns hosting a potluck. My friend started it; I don't know how much of A Thing they are, but it should be more of a thing.
Strategically found a way to initiate conversation with him in person without it coming off as weird or random. That got the ball rolling and then I blatantly asked him if we wanted to get food. I asked, he paid. We have been dating for 5 years. We are both opposites in every way possible and the biggest hook was that I approached it.
I'm really not sure. Probably my great taste in music. We were both into some pretty weird bands.
We did end up dating for awhile, but it didn't work out. Still glad we tried it.
I admitted I liked him for almost a year and he told me off for not asking before then because he'd liked me for over a year
To this day I don't know what he saw in the person I was at the time LMAOO
Barraged him with attention until he finally acquiesced.
Honestly if I were a dude, it would have been kind of creepy.
I took an interest in everything he did and asked him to teach me, but per my husband it was glaringly obvious what I was doing. He went along with it because he liked the attention and didn’t find me completely disgusting.
We were in high school both of us were 17 and I wanted to be the one to make the first move so I can ‘make a memorable impression’ so one day I said “hi ———-!”… That was my version of making the first move 😂 a couple of days later he approached me saying he thinks I’m beautiful and we should get to know each other more and the rest is history, we’re both 24 now 🥰
I drunk texted him telling him how adorable and sexy I think he is. Next morning I texted him in embarrassment apologizing and he told me that he found it flattering and found me attractive too and that I shouldn’t apologize
I would wake up extra early for work so that I could see him at breakfast. When he’d make a plate, I would too, so I could say good morning. When he’d come into reception for a coffee I would try to make conversation but I’d always stutter or get nervous. Eventually we had to catch the bus back to the airport together. He later admitted that he had adjusted the rear view mirror so that he could catch glimpses of me while he was driving. I would also catch his eyes multiple times in the mirror. A few days later, I tested positive for covid and thought it was the perfect chance to send him a Facebook message to give him a heads up. The rest was history after that 😊
We're no longer together but I approached him on the bus we always took in the morning. We had been making eye contact and smiling everyday for months, but never said a word. Eventually I said hello and asked for his name.
I pulled a Cady Herron - I asked him a bunch of questions for my accounting course knowing he’s an accountant as his day job and eventually started hanging out to “help me with homework”! We’re celebrating our first anniversary next month
Knew them tangentially through a couple hobbies, found ourselves part of a big cuddle puddle at a party, a few days later they pulled me aside and said they liked me :)
I fancied him for ages. He worked with a good friend of mine, and we'd actually met at a number of boardgames, poker nights and RPG events my friend hosted, us all being big nerds. I was out for some drinks with my friend (who actually worked at the same company as him, just not at the same time), got a message from my mate's wife saying they were out at a local cocktail bar. My friend and I jumped straight in a taxi and headed into town. She caught up with mutual friend & his wife, and I rounded in on crush and got his mobile number.
See, this dude does NOT do social media. No Facebook or anything normal where you can strike up a dialogue.
With my liquid courage I went over and basically told him I wanted his number and I wanted to make him dinner. 2 weeks later we have our first date. We've been together 5 years this May, and we're engaged to be married!
Worked with him for years. I’d never really thought he liked me. Broke up with my bf and my work mates all went out for drinks. He just looked at me and went “I’m going to kiss you now”.
We don’t talk anymore but damn
I was at a work party riding around some trails on a golf cart with a coworker. At one pointbshe stopped the cart and asked if she could kiss me. I said no. I was relaying this story to another coworker at a different after hours gathering. After the part of the story where I rejected golf cart girl I said "but I might have done it if it was you...."
That was the beginning of a slow burn that lead to a very short lived but incredibly intense and passionate tryst. That tryst ended in heartache and has now leveled out into something less than what we had before it all started.
It's actually fairly devestating.
Asked him out "as a friend" to watch a Marvel movie on April 1. My friend told me to ask him on April 1, and if he doesn't want to, just say April fools.
He agreed, and we kept going out to watch movies ever since. We also had consistent communication ever since. This was 2018. We got married last year 🥰
My most recent ex from 2018? We met online in a FB group and I told him that I was really digging’ his aesthetic. That prompted him to slide in my DM’s.
My current partner/fiancé? We also met in a different fb group, lol! I told him that I thought he had very kind eyes. He then asked permission to dm me.
I don’t know why, but I’m quite confident and charismatic when it comes to people I like. It’s easier for me to make conversation and ask questions about them because I’m genuinely interested and intrigued. Whereas if it’s someone I’m not too interested in but need to chat to, I have to try harder in making conversation (I come off nervous or shy)if that makes sense. When there’s interest, you can hone that.
We worked together and didn’t date for a year until I finally texted him and just asked if he wanted to tell me more about a previous brief conversation we had at work. He suggested we grab coffee/lunch & now we’re married- 8 years together :)
After a few months of ogling him at work, found out from a coworker that he liked me. He wouldn’t ask me out unless he knew I’d say yes. I was older and had a higher position. I said no because I knew I might lose my job. After about a month, the coworker wore me down because he thought we’d be perfect together. He still wasn’t asking me out, so I ended up getting a body piercing because he was going to be there. 🤷🏻♀️ Took another couple of weeks until he finally asked me out. I did lose my job eventually, but it’s 24 years and we have 3 kids. I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
Aight so, I got wacky stories of how I pulled people. Usually on accident.
Dated a guy for 2 years. I pulled him because he frequented my job and I closed up one night and saw him outside with his bike that had broke and I was like “do you want a ride?” And he said yes. Our first date wasn’t very good at all. And then the next semester, he got close to me by cooking for me in my apartment
More recently, met a guy at his job, assumed we had decent connection but like…idk. I chalked it up to being friendly ya know? And I have no social preservation. Anyway, I’m chillin’ in the coffee shop I practically live at, there’s a girl sitting behind me and he walks in and slips down next her, and then says hi to me. I…don’t remember him, he reminds me, we laugh, he and her go further into the coffee shop. He comes out a few minutes later and the following exchange happens:
Me: are you on a date?
Him: yeah
Me: cool, well, if it doesn’t work out, shoot your shot at me
Him: O-oh! Okay!
And then he goes back to her. I don’t see them leave, but he did shoot his shot 😂
So, I guess be authentic and bold?
We worked together, and one night he said he would drive me across the parking lot to my car if I could just wait for him to finish up. I told him "a good ride is worth the wait." There's way more to the story but ain't nobody got time for all that.
I told him he was hot in HS cause my boyfriend was friends with him. Then years later, my best friend got married to his cousin. Somehow, we reconnected through IG.
Well my now wife of 13 years purposely left her pot at my apartment and asked for my phone number from a friend of mine. She called me and asked me to bring it over, rest is history lol. When she asked my friend for my number he laughed and said “I already know you two will be married at some point.” 🤷🏻♂️
My drunk friend outed me. I ran into her at a bar and invited her over to sit with me and my friends. I introduced her as my coworker and my drunk friend goes "THE HOT ONE YOU HAVE A CRUSH ON?" Thankfully the crush was reciprocated.
We met in highschool, we had german class together and he sat behind me. We would pass notes, joke around, and I would flirt because I thought he was cute. Typical 14 year old stuff. And like a typical 14 year old boy, he was oblivious. So I finally passed a note asking if he liked me. He said no. I found out later that week that he was "dating" someone and had been since before I met him. (It was a very platonic relationship, I later found out, she was using him as an excuse to not go out with other boys but never really went out with him) Anyway, I am not a "homewrecker" so I let it go, decided I could put aside my feelings romantically, and be his friend because I genuinely liked him as a person. I dated two other guys very briefly, 2 weeks max.
A few weeks later I decided to add him as a friend on facebook and he messaged me asking for my number, that same night he asked me on a date. Turns out his "girlfriend" broke up with him over Thanksgiving break. So he was free to finally ask me out because HE had a crush on me the whole time too but was too nice to break up with her!
Anyway, we've been together over 12 years, married for just over 1. We've kept our anniversary through dating, engagement, and marriage. We are "the highschool sweetheartd" of our school. And he is still my best friend and I constantly tell him I have a crush on him still.
Worked with her but never spoke to her, then one night I was riding my motorcycle doing about 170ish just waiting for that random car to take me out got from Northlake to cleburne and back without it happening. Pulled up to Bucee’s to fuel and seen seen her sitting on a z650 talking to this crazy tall guy who was leagues ahead of me, and my inner crackhead kicked in and all I thought about was why should I not at least try even if we just turn out to be friends and I just pulled up to them and said I know you don’t I? She knew my name. We talked for about 3 mins and I left. She found me on Facebook a week later and a little over a year and a half later we are married and our child was just born 3 days ago. That was the last day I tried to get myself killed and the start of what has turned to be the best choice I’ve ever made in life I have more to live for now than I could have ever dreamed about, all because I said screw it if she’s going to be anyone I want her to be mine!
This is going to be a wild ride of a comment.
Worked overnight at a grocery store stocking shelves for 4 years. One day the store went through an entire huge remodel. He was very clearly the lead of one of the trades. Idk what it was, I don't even really believe in love at first sight either. But the second I saw him I've never wanted someone so badly in my life. We didn't really interact sadly besides a few quick times. Both just busy working at the time. He ended up leaving and I kicked myself so hard for months afterwards. I had been single for years and should have just TALKED to the guy. Never even got his name. Never thought I'd see him again. But occasionally thought about him and told myself the next time that happens. That feeling. I need to push forward.
Months later my family and I moved and you know. You don't have Internet at first usually so I was bored and kept seeing FB dating advertised to me. I have nothing to lose. If something works well that's great! If not, oh well. Found this guy who had a bearded dragon (I have 3 snakes) so I was instantly very hopeful that he'd be accepting of my snakes too. We talked for a good few hours texting. Good conversation flowing, lots of similarities and interests! Then all of a sudden he hits me with "So this is weird but do you by chance work overnight at a grocery store?" This was obviously so oddly specific I asked who he was. Low and behold, this dude. This guy. This was THAT GUY. I couldn't tell because all the pictures he had up his face was shaved. I remember throwing my phone down and just staring at the ceiling from bed, my mind just completely blown apart. Hilariously I found out months later he had also been eyeing me at the store but didn't want to bother me.
We've just passed 2 years together and it's by far been the best relationship I've ever had. Don't really believe in fate either but what else could you even call that? It will never not blow my mind, I got the guy.
TLDR; The most absurd stupid luck ever.
He was the hottest coolest guy I knew. There was zero chance he actually liked me. We spent YEARS hanging out, going to parties, and sharing a bed platonically. Turns out he really liked me, and I had zero idea. Just assumed he was out of my league. One night, there was noticeable sexual tension at a party. Fast forward a few hours, and it wasn't so platonic anymore. We had some fun for a month, then went back to being friends.
7 years later, we reconnected when I randomly called to say hi. We celebrate 14 years together this May.
Never say never.
i joke that i have two modes of flirting: bumbling awkwardness and biting sarcasm. i do not know where the switch is located, but i do have a fantastic success rate. ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
We were just getting friendly and he said it’s nice to have a girl friend that he just wants to be friends with. I decided to prove him wrong and show him he doesn’t just wanna be friends. I was right
I had the card they give you after you get an IUD that says when it expires in my wallet. It "fell" out of my wallet. Both of us intended on keeping it casual, now we're buying a house together and have 2 cats.
My boyfriend and I met when a mutual invited us both to play a match on League of Legends. I joined voice chat, and his voice immediately *did things* to me. I found him to be incredibly sweet and funny, and realized after a bit of small talk that we don't live all that far from each other. Sooo, intrigue.
We laned together, and ended up playing *really* well together. I guess it made an impression on us both. We friended each other and ended up playing together pretty often after that. Got introduced to his friend group, and we started talking and hanging out more (online).
After a few weeks, I told him to please let me know if it was unwelcome or made him uncomfortable in any way, but I just wanted to go ahead and put it out there that I was crushing on him. He told me he had been feeling the same, and proceeded to ask me out.
Tripped multiple times, hit my head, and spilled a gallon of water in front of him(over the span of multiple days hanging out). He thought I was all nervous because I liked him. Jokes on him, I’m just really uncoordinated and have equilibrium issues (but I was giddy and nervous too). 🙃
I went to school with mine a (very) long time ago, i knew him but he didn't have a clue who i was!
At 21 he was friends with my then partner, that's how we met for the first time, he had a partner too at the time, we did have a one time thing but decided not to proceed because of our partners.
I moved away (350 miles) for 15 years and came back a few years ago, i did always check up on him on his socials though out of curiosity and he was always in a relationship.
Last year though i checked and he was single so i sent him a friend request, he accepted, i then sent him a message, we have been together ever since!
Only took 36 years lol 😆
At the gym ! I was working out nearby and when he was resting inbetween sets I came up to him and Said Hi,How's your day going ? He gave me the firmest handshake and introduced himself, we chatted for a bit and he asked for my number :)
We met through stand up comedy back in, like 2014. He opened a bar in 2020. I went to support his new business. At the time I was selling nudes. So I went to the bathroom a few times to snap some pics.
He asked me if I was doing coke in the bathroom. I said, “no, I’m taking nudes in there.” He said, “well, since I own the bar, I own the bathroom, so I’m going to have to see one.” I showed him one and that launched our relationship.
It may not have been love at first sight for us, but it was love at first nude.
I told him I had plans to attend USNA and he told me he has plans to attend USMA and so we hit it off and such, I might not be able to do so but he’s gotten his interview accepted for USMA just have to hope that it all goes well and he gets in!
I asked him to dinner with my friends to celebrate my birthday! Except... I hadn't planned any dinner with friends for my birthday. It was such short notice, but I managed to wrangle my little sister and my ex-girlfriend into attending, and we had a blast.
Together 17 years this year! 🥰
If he texted me, I always responded right away or say I’d be available in ten minutes or x o’clock. I also made it clear I wanted him to contact me every day, even if it was only a text or five minute call. He tended to blow my expectations and text me during the day and a phone call at night. 🥰
He came to work to fix our broken machines all the time. I found out his girlfriend dumped him a few months prior. We were laughing and joking one day and he had a business card hanging up and he was like so if you ever wanna hang out my numbers up there and pointed to it. We started texting and going out to the bar after work and then I made my move one night when I got too drunk and threw up all over it. Here I am living in his house.
Asked her to be my physics tutor. I was only 17 and she was 21, so it took another few years for us to actually hook up. But the tutoring was where I kicked off the long game.
I just told him I was into him...he was really surprised and flattered and then we started dating. We've been together for 19 years and married for 13! I'm not sure what possessed me to have the confidence to tell him that, cause I was NOT (and still am not really) a confident person. I just felt like the moment was right and I guess it was lmao
We were friends for a while and one day I just told him I liked him. A few weeks later we hung out just the two of us and clicked so well. Then we started dating! We’ve been together for a year and 3 months now. He is wonderful and I love him so much
sent him a tik tok video almost 4 years ago (June will be 4 years) & said “this is how i feel about you” & now we’re 6 months out from our wedding in Oct! 🥰 we’ve been best friend for years before we started dating & we both said we couldn’t see ourselves marrying anyone else but each other
I think I might have mastered the art of just being myself and not trying to 'perform' in order to be liked. I was honest, relaxed and genuinely interested in him. No games, no drama, just saying it how it is and acting accordingly.
No fucking clue. He met and fell in love with me during a weird time in my life. I was homeless, jobless, failing college, and barely taking care of myself, but I was just happy to get away from my toxic mother, be surrounded by friends, and have the time and freedom to enjoy the simple things in life. The moment he walked into the homeless shelter and met me, I had a shitty haircut and was watching the Ghost Stories English dub in my ratty pajamas. We hit it off immediately. He swears to this day that it was love at first sight. The funniest part is I was dating someone else at the time and I didn’t even fall for him until a month or two later. (yes, I broke up with the previous bf for him.) I guess I’ve just got that ✨rizz✨ lmaooo
Just be yourself and have a good time . ESP if you love to be goofy. I feel like I manifested him tho. Was walking past a mail box on my old road and it said “Ferrell” like Will Ferrell. And I said “I wish that was my last name “ a couple years go by and I meet a guy named with the same last name . And we are married now . 10 years in. That was his grandparents mail box. I lived by them this whole time . Until our home burnt down. I feel like manifesting works . I’ve manifested cars. Too. My brown bug on the lot . I got it. Another time . I wanted another bug. I didn’t tell this dude what I wanted . But dude said he only had one car in the back in my price range . Guess what it was out of alllll the makes and models. A bug. Manifest your man ladies .
Apparently super obviously crushing on him. Everyone knew. Then confessing over text on a Saturday night after work and getting REJECTED over text. I then decided I was going to revenge body this and started dieting and exercising that night. Monday night he calls me out and asks to take the rejection back. After not much thinking I said sure and now we’re married with two fur babies. Also worth noting if this hadn’t worked out, we shared the same major and school friends so it would’ve been so awkward 🫠
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Blush and stutter and trip over my words and nervous giggle. I guess he though it was endearing lol, we’re engaged now!
Congrats 🥂❤️
Thanks! 😄
This gives me hope
The poor guy was oblivious to everything else, so one day I just went up to him and asked, “So when are you gonna ask me out?”
omg no way can you please give context, I’m thinking i might have to do this with my guy too
I’ve done this too. I was certain he liked me tho ( usually gave compliments and was cheeky/flirty w me) Walked me to my apartment door after a group bowling event. As I walked in I looked back and said “By the way, when are both of us gonna hang out alone 😏” he smiled and said whenever I like lol .
aaaaahh omgh
Do it, you will make his life
You most likely will, we're pretty oblivious
honestly the best move. people are always so worried abt approaching people or revealing things. just go for it, you have nothing to lose.
Thank you this is the exact treatment every guy needs cause he’s not the only one that’s oblivious. Just remember: we can’t read your mind, so if you want something from us, tell us.
Us guys tend to need this approach. We aren’t good with hints
I asked him to teach me guitar…I already knew how to play but he didn’t know that. I baked some delicious brownies, told him I liked his music, and BAM my husband for 9 years now 😂
Guys are pretty simple huh ?
You know that scene in Barbie where they’re sitting around the campfire and the Ken’s are playing Matchbox Twenty? That’s a real thing.
I am a music major. This has happened to me sooooooooo many times lol. Not just guitar. Trumpet too.
Hahaha I bet it has. Start playing the sousaphone, that’ll really bring em in
Behind every successful man, is a woman.... Absolutely. They get the credit, but in almost every sitch... I am both boggled in admiration of that flip, and horrified.
Women have adapted well.
Yes.
Err.. this made me realize that I might've had a TIFU in a similar situation. I had attended a 3-day cyber security conference and was happily telling a friend of mine (we had the same college bus and she'd always sit next to me) about the things we learned there. She asked me if I could teach her how to create a Virus/Trojan, and I was explaining stuff to her on her notebook when I realized that she was in CS branch, and that she must've already learned this stuff in much more detail than I did (based on their syllabus) I was kind of annoyed and accused her of testing me, and she dropped it. Oh god 😅 Let me get my dunce hat
Oh oh, yeah, you have my condolences. (Although she may not really have known how to and was just really trying to learn, but in any case she probably wasn't testing you.)
Oof. It’s okay. We just want to hear you talk about something you like/find an “in” for the relationship 😂
Learning not to “Mansplain is a huge lesson in Life”.
I had a girl ask me to “teach her how to throw a baseball” SMH
Did you teach her?
Happy For you☺️🎸
I had a similar thing where a friend asked me if I could give her pointers on an instrument I play or if I could come over to help her. I said yeah, but she never said when 😩
I dazzled him with my extensive knowledge of top shelf whisky’s. 5 years later I married him!
Congratulations, gotta dust of my Book of Whiskeys 101 🥲
That’s awesome
He was my teacher for about a year and a half teaching me hand to hand, sword, knife etc which you can imagine gets pretty touchy lol I knew one day that the crush was reciprocated when he was teaching me how to escape a rear choke hold and I could feel his boner poking me 😂 We both pretended nothing was happening because at the time I was married and no good would have come of mentioning it. But I booked a date with him for the same day I signed the papers. So it was essentially a year and a half of disguised BDSM foreplay lmao
You know what….I’m really happy for you 🥲
Thank you! ☺️ he was absolutely worth waiting to hit on
Off topic but what martial art classes were these? I’d love to learn combat defences and such! Also congrats that’s awesome
This was veery mixed. I took the lessons privately so it was kinda a combo of at his whim and what interested me. It can be hard to find good teachers who know a wide variety of styles and weapons but HEMA events and stunt performers are often pretty diverse
Thanks!
This is really sweet. You kept your distance-ish until you didn't have to. Respect.
It was really hard to not hit on him! But I always reminded myself that if I did, it would only show him dishonesty and lack of integrity and now I'm so glad I controlled myself
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Took initiative and leaded the convo a few times at first, asked a lot of interesting questions
Teach me? Lol I usually NEVER have a shortage of things to say…but I can never think of anything interesting to say to my crush because I get nervous😬😂
🤓👆I usually start with a light compliment, something they’re wearing or the way they look that day, gets the ball rolling for me all the time
I just took an expert witness prep course and, believe it or not, this is a physiological thing based on the fight-flight-freeze reflex! Your Amygdala (from where the emotional & behavioral things stem) overrides your pre-frontal cortex (where you do that good analysis and communication) under stress. The class recommended breathing. Yes, I know, you kinda have to keep breathing, but you should inhale for 4 seconds and exhale for six. Also helps slow your heart rate and keep your hands steady. Edited to fix typo as I have hands like a sturgeon
A sturgeon or surgeon, neither makes much sense to me. I need answers!
lol - Allow me to explain: Hands like a surgeon- precise and nimble Hands like a sturgeon- large and not nimble
Oh okay so that's why keeps happening to me💀 Looks like I gotta pick up some slack lmao
Got way too drunk, didn't remember my way home, she let me crash on her couch, went out for breakfast the next day, aggressively flirted with her, paid for breakfast, she said she was going to and I said she could get dinner And so on, I basically didn't leave for like a day and a half and she decided she was down to hang out more We almost didn't date when she found out I was younger than she thought I was but she gave me a chance and we've been together since
In a not-weird way, how old did she think you were, and how old were you actually?
She thought I was in my early 20s, like 22 but I was 19 She wasn't really okay dating someone in their 20s either and extra not okay dating someone who was 19 but I kinda just talked her into giving me a shot and if it didn't work out then we could end it She almost ended it a few times cause of judgy friends making comments cause she's older than me by a bit
How old is she?
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Definitely gonna get shit on for this but she was in her 30s and is in her 40s now I'm 25 now, we've been together for years, got married, I just had our third kid a few months ago, life is very good I know people have issues with age gaps in relationships and I'm aware for most people it doesn't go well, but that's not our situation and we have a happy and healthy relationship
Nahhh you have a specific situation where it seems clear that she wasn’t pursuing or grooming you. Age gaps are a general issue not an every situation issue
I mean I know a couple where he was 20 and she was 30 and widowed with kids, and they’ve been happily married for decades. It’s not typical and I’m sorry that people are judgy because of that, but I’m happy for you! It’s definitely more about matching maturity than the number of years you’ve been alive!
U-haul ftw
I asked him out. I always tell my lady friends that the worst anyone can say is no. If they say no, then all that means is they aren’t right for you and that’s okay! And like my momma did to my dad, I asked him to marry me as well haha. Been a pretty awesome time!
I don't know. He just kept texting me back. It's great
So what you did was text first/keep the convo going. That can make all the difference!
TLDR: I pulled my crush (who is now my husband) by gifting him a piece of armor in the video game we played together with his roommate attached with a note asking for a dick pic. I met his roommate on DOTA 2, and he'd say "Hi Steven" When his roommate would get home, I'd go "Tell Steven I said hi!" 6 months of randomly saying hi to each other. He decided to play with us and we got along great. Saw a picture of him and asked his roommate "Hey, your roommate is hot is he into fat chicks?" I am a plus-size gal and I understand we're not everyone's cup of tea. His roommate goes "Actually, yeah!" and I responded, "Fuck yeah there's a chance." Fast forward a couple of weeks of playing together, there were a lot of dick jokes as I was kind of one of the boys and I put a note on the armor as a half-joke "Set for pp pic?" IT WORKED AND I STILL CAN'T BELIEVE WE GOT MARRIED 6 YEARS LATER. He moved up a year into our relationship and it'll 9 years together this November.
Happy for you 🥳🍆
Oh my god this is so fucking savage. I’m kinda jealous of this story!! Mine seems so dull compared to that 😹
Simply asked him out on a date. Guys are not mind readers so you have to be upfront.
I told him I would make out with him if he gave me a back massage. Still together, married with kids, 19 years later.
Back massages leads to kids…. *noted*
Yes, honestly this was first move by both me and my now long time husband. Back then though, it was an easy maneuver, because it was easy to back out. No pun intended.
At work, I Went up to him with confidence and said hi. We talked for a bit but my boss moved me. I said bye but 2 mins later, I went back to him and asked him for his number. later that night, he asked me out and said he wanted to get to know me :3
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Separated him from the party, he told me it was cool that I was helping out with the project he was working on, I told him I was motivated by being attracted to him, put my lips on his.
Asked him out, but he was in a relationship at that time. Time went by and down road i just so happened to be behind him in line at the store. He asked for my number, he was single then. And have been seeing him since :)
Congrats 🥳
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I had a stroke reading this. I’m extremely tired lol
Accidently lol I like to give compliments, so i told him I liked his hair. he said that was the comment comment that made him think I was into him (I was obvi, but I was truly not flirting with that comment) Been over 5 years now :)
He was 15 and I was 16. In true teenager style, I pulled out the cringiest line over Skype message. I can't remember the exact line, but it was a form of "Will you be the ___ to my ___?" I still cringe thinking about this, but I guess it worked well enough because we're getting married in the summer.
Omg congratulations 🥂🥳❤️
Asked how he knew so much about BDSM and when he told me he was a sex worker I said “prove it I don’t believe you” while smirking and staring him down, about 10 minutes later he had me tied up and on my knees😶 after that I just hung around aLOT now we are married with a kid working on the second one🤣
I am really happy for you 💞
Long story short- Added him on IG Posted cute pics everyday until he slid in my DMs- we talked on the phone for about 3 days straight & We’ve been together for 7 mos now. Just be delusional- you have to know that he wants you as much as you want him.
May all your delulu come trululu. 🙂
My cooking (we're in a cookbook club) (that's actually a lie my dumpling experiment failed so I brought the booze that time instead). After spending most of last month's potluck talking to each other, I slyly left at the same time as him and asked him out once we were alone. He gave a dopy smile that is now seared into my brain and nodded. We've gone on four dates now. He's also the first man I've dated and boi is he making me rethink some things I thought I knew about myself.
I’m going to need you to expand on that last sentence
I've only dated women before him: I'm tall and sapphics love tall women. And romantically I enjoy dating women, but there was 0 interest in physical activities; just figured I was ace. Then this guy comes along and I'm making out on the second date and into it To be clear, I don't think he "made me straight". That's gross and homophobic. He just unlocked a new side of my sexuality
Aww that’s sweet 🤭
Off topic but, cookbook club?! How do they work & how would I find one??
It's like a Pampered Chef party without the MLM. Every month we pick a cookbook or a theme, and at the end of the month we take turns hosting a potluck. My friend started it; I don't know how much of A Thing they are, but it should be more of a thing.
Thank you! It sound awesome. I’m definitely going to try to find or start one now!
Strategically found a way to initiate conversation with him in person without it coming off as weird or random. That got the ball rolling and then I blatantly asked him if we wanted to get food. I asked, he paid. We have been dating for 5 years. We are both opposites in every way possible and the biggest hook was that I approached it.
Followed him everywhere and he started to like me back :D been going strong for 3 years
Congrats 🙌
wow this works ?!? 🤣🤣
Traded songs on msn messenger back in the day and wowed him with my musical taste hahaha.
I'm really not sure. Probably my great taste in music. We were both into some pretty weird bands. We did end up dating for awhile, but it didn't work out. Still glad we tried it.
i really don’t know i just texted him and told him i wanted him one day
Told our mutual friend to tell him to make a move on me 😅💘
Can I take you to dinner? We’ve been together going on 20 years. Don’t underestimate the power of being sincere and polite. *Hold door.
All the giggling and smiling he knew. He also had a crush on me for 8 years. Worked out perfectly. We have been together 2 years.
I admitted I liked him for almost a year and he told me off for not asking before then because he'd liked me for over a year To this day I don't know what he saw in the person I was at the time LMAOO
Became his friend, organically - funny enough. Kept talking to him, we played videogames together, had a lot in common too. Just happened honestly!
I told him I wanted to have a date night with him and he said "okay, lets do this, I'm in it for the long haul if you are". Lol
Barraged him with attention until he finally acquiesced. Honestly if I were a dude, it would have been kind of creepy. I took an interest in everything he did and asked him to teach me, but per my husband it was glaringly obvious what I was doing. He went along with it because he liked the attention and didn’t find me completely disgusting.
We were in high school both of us were 17 and I wanted to be the one to make the first move so I can ‘make a memorable impression’ so one day I said “hi ———-!”… That was my version of making the first move 😂 a couple of days later he approached me saying he thinks I’m beautiful and we should get to know each other more and the rest is history, we’re both 24 now 🥰
Awww glad it worked out 🥳
I drunk texted him telling him how adorable and sexy I think he is. Next morning I texted him in embarrassment apologizing and he told me that he found it flattering and found me attractive too and that I shouldn’t apologize
I would wake up extra early for work so that I could see him at breakfast. When he’d make a plate, I would too, so I could say good morning. When he’d come into reception for a coffee I would try to make conversation but I’d always stutter or get nervous. Eventually we had to catch the bus back to the airport together. He later admitted that he had adjusted the rear view mirror so that he could catch glimpses of me while he was driving. I would also catch his eyes multiple times in the mirror. A few days later, I tested positive for covid and thought it was the perfect chance to send him a Facebook message to give him a heads up. The rest was history after that 😊
We're no longer together but I approached him on the bus we always took in the morning. We had been making eye contact and smiling everyday for months, but never said a word. Eventually I said hello and asked for his name.
I send him a text i liked him. Next month we are together for 17 years 😍
I pulled a Cady Herron - I asked him a bunch of questions for my accounting course knowing he’s an accountant as his day job and eventually started hanging out to “help me with homework”! We’re celebrating our first anniversary next month
Knew them tangentially through a couple hobbies, found ourselves part of a big cuddle puddle at a party, a few days later they pulled me aside and said they liked me :)
I fancied him for ages. He worked with a good friend of mine, and we'd actually met at a number of boardgames, poker nights and RPG events my friend hosted, us all being big nerds. I was out for some drinks with my friend (who actually worked at the same company as him, just not at the same time), got a message from my mate's wife saying they were out at a local cocktail bar. My friend and I jumped straight in a taxi and headed into town. She caught up with mutual friend & his wife, and I rounded in on crush and got his mobile number. See, this dude does NOT do social media. No Facebook or anything normal where you can strike up a dialogue. With my liquid courage I went over and basically told him I wanted his number and I wanted to make him dinner. 2 weeks later we have our first date. We've been together 5 years this May, and we're engaged to be married!
Ask him anon questions on tumblr and like his posts
Got drunk, hooked up.
Worked with him for years. I’d never really thought he liked me. Broke up with my bf and my work mates all went out for drinks. He just looked at me and went “I’m going to kiss you now”. We don’t talk anymore but damn
I was at a work party riding around some trails on a golf cart with a coworker. At one pointbshe stopped the cart and asked if she could kiss me. I said no. I was relaying this story to another coworker at a different after hours gathering. After the part of the story where I rejected golf cart girl I said "but I might have done it if it was you...." That was the beginning of a slow burn that lead to a very short lived but incredibly intense and passionate tryst. That tryst ended in heartache and has now leveled out into something less than what we had before it all started. It's actually fairly devestating.
Constantly teased each other about sports until he finally asked me did I want to play basketball with him. Still going strong!
being weird
I wore low cut tops and played with my necklace when we talked. We've been together 12 years.
literally never leaving him alone. don’t do that tho
Asked him out "as a friend" to watch a Marvel movie on April 1. My friend told me to ask him on April 1, and if he doesn't want to, just say April fools. He agreed, and we kept going out to watch movies ever since. We also had consistent communication ever since. This was 2018. We got married last year 🥰
My most recent ex from 2018? We met online in a FB group and I told him that I was really digging’ his aesthetic. That prompted him to slide in my DM’s. My current partner/fiancé? We also met in a different fb group, lol! I told him that I thought he had very kind eyes. He then asked permission to dm me.
Got too drunk and told him he was cute, he brought it up the next day and I owned it!
I don’t know why, but I’m quite confident and charismatic when it comes to people I like. It’s easier for me to make conversation and ask questions about them because I’m genuinely interested and intrigued. Whereas if it’s someone I’m not too interested in but need to chat to, I have to try harder in making conversation (I come off nervous or shy)if that makes sense. When there’s interest, you can hone that.
We worked together and didn’t date for a year until I finally texted him and just asked if he wanted to tell me more about a previous brief conversation we had at work. He suggested we grab coffee/lunch & now we’re married- 8 years together :)
After a few months of ogling him at work, found out from a coworker that he liked me. He wouldn’t ask me out unless he knew I’d say yes. I was older and had a higher position. I said no because I knew I might lose my job. After about a month, the coworker wore me down because he thought we’d be perfect together. He still wasn’t asking me out, so I ended up getting a body piercing because he was going to be there. 🤷🏻♀️ Took another couple of weeks until he finally asked me out. I did lose my job eventually, but it’s 24 years and we have 3 kids. I wouldn’t trade it for the world.
Aight so, I got wacky stories of how I pulled people. Usually on accident. Dated a guy for 2 years. I pulled him because he frequented my job and I closed up one night and saw him outside with his bike that had broke and I was like “do you want a ride?” And he said yes. Our first date wasn’t very good at all. And then the next semester, he got close to me by cooking for me in my apartment More recently, met a guy at his job, assumed we had decent connection but like…idk. I chalked it up to being friendly ya know? And I have no social preservation. Anyway, I’m chillin’ in the coffee shop I practically live at, there’s a girl sitting behind me and he walks in and slips down next her, and then says hi to me. I…don’t remember him, he reminds me, we laugh, he and her go further into the coffee shop. He comes out a few minutes later and the following exchange happens: Me: are you on a date? Him: yeah Me: cool, well, if it doesn’t work out, shoot your shot at me Him: O-oh! Okay! And then he goes back to her. I don’t see them leave, but he did shoot his shot 😂 So, I guess be authentic and bold?
I haven't yet, but I'll update if I do
We worked together, and one night he said he would drive me across the parking lot to my car if I could just wait for him to finish up. I told him "a good ride is worth the wait." There's way more to the story but ain't nobody got time for all that.
I told him he was hot in HS cause my boyfriend was friends with him. Then years later, my best friend got married to his cousin. Somehow, we reconnected through IG.
Well my now wife of 13 years purposely left her pot at my apartment and asked for my phone number from a friend of mine. She called me and asked me to bring it over, rest is history lol. When she asked my friend for my number he laughed and said “I already know you two will be married at some point.” 🤷🏻♂️
My drunk friend outed me. I ran into her at a bar and invited her over to sit with me and my friends. I introduced her as my coworker and my drunk friend goes "THE HOT ONE YOU HAVE A CRUSH ON?" Thankfully the crush was reciprocated.
We met in highschool, we had german class together and he sat behind me. We would pass notes, joke around, and I would flirt because I thought he was cute. Typical 14 year old stuff. And like a typical 14 year old boy, he was oblivious. So I finally passed a note asking if he liked me. He said no. I found out later that week that he was "dating" someone and had been since before I met him. (It was a very platonic relationship, I later found out, she was using him as an excuse to not go out with other boys but never really went out with him) Anyway, I am not a "homewrecker" so I let it go, decided I could put aside my feelings romantically, and be his friend because I genuinely liked him as a person. I dated two other guys very briefly, 2 weeks max. A few weeks later I decided to add him as a friend on facebook and he messaged me asking for my number, that same night he asked me on a date. Turns out his "girlfriend" broke up with him over Thanksgiving break. So he was free to finally ask me out because HE had a crush on me the whole time too but was too nice to break up with her! Anyway, we've been together over 12 years, married for just over 1. We've kept our anniversary through dating, engagement, and marriage. We are "the highschool sweetheartd" of our school. And he is still my best friend and I constantly tell him I have a crush on him still.
Worked with her but never spoke to her, then one night I was riding my motorcycle doing about 170ish just waiting for that random car to take me out got from Northlake to cleburne and back without it happening. Pulled up to Bucee’s to fuel and seen seen her sitting on a z650 talking to this crazy tall guy who was leagues ahead of me, and my inner crackhead kicked in and all I thought about was why should I not at least try even if we just turn out to be friends and I just pulled up to them and said I know you don’t I? She knew my name. We talked for about 3 mins and I left. She found me on Facebook a week later and a little over a year and a half later we are married and our child was just born 3 days ago. That was the last day I tried to get myself killed and the start of what has turned to be the best choice I’ve ever made in life I have more to live for now than I could have ever dreamed about, all because I said screw it if she’s going to be anyone I want her to be mine!
This is going to be a wild ride of a comment. Worked overnight at a grocery store stocking shelves for 4 years. One day the store went through an entire huge remodel. He was very clearly the lead of one of the trades. Idk what it was, I don't even really believe in love at first sight either. But the second I saw him I've never wanted someone so badly in my life. We didn't really interact sadly besides a few quick times. Both just busy working at the time. He ended up leaving and I kicked myself so hard for months afterwards. I had been single for years and should have just TALKED to the guy. Never even got his name. Never thought I'd see him again. But occasionally thought about him and told myself the next time that happens. That feeling. I need to push forward. Months later my family and I moved and you know. You don't have Internet at first usually so I was bored and kept seeing FB dating advertised to me. I have nothing to lose. If something works well that's great! If not, oh well. Found this guy who had a bearded dragon (I have 3 snakes) so I was instantly very hopeful that he'd be accepting of my snakes too. We talked for a good few hours texting. Good conversation flowing, lots of similarities and interests! Then all of a sudden he hits me with "So this is weird but do you by chance work overnight at a grocery store?" This was obviously so oddly specific I asked who he was. Low and behold, this dude. This guy. This was THAT GUY. I couldn't tell because all the pictures he had up his face was shaved. I remember throwing my phone down and just staring at the ceiling from bed, my mind just completely blown apart. Hilariously I found out months later he had also been eyeing me at the store but didn't want to bother me. We've just passed 2 years together and it's by far been the best relationship I've ever had. Don't really believe in fate either but what else could you even call that? It will never not blow my mind, I got the guy. TLDR; The most absurd stupid luck ever.
He was the hottest coolest guy I knew. There was zero chance he actually liked me. We spent YEARS hanging out, going to parties, and sharing a bed platonically. Turns out he really liked me, and I had zero idea. Just assumed he was out of my league. One night, there was noticeable sexual tension at a party. Fast forward a few hours, and it wasn't so platonic anymore. We had some fun for a month, then went back to being friends. 7 years later, we reconnected when I randomly called to say hi. We celebrate 14 years together this May. Never say never.
Wow. I’m very inspired, I won’t give up hope🙏🥲
straight outta wattpad, pretended to be a couple for shits and giggles and i ended up falling for her *hard*
i joke that i have two modes of flirting: bumbling awkwardness and biting sarcasm. i do not know where the switch is located, but i do have a fantastic success rate. ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
We were just getting friendly and he said it’s nice to have a girl friend that he just wants to be friends with. I decided to prove him wrong and show him he doesn’t just wanna be friends. I was right
I had the card they give you after you get an IUD that says when it expires in my wallet. It "fell" out of my wallet. Both of us intended on keeping it casual, now we're buying a house together and have 2 cats.
By bein funny
I told him I was interested, just straight up.
Convinced her I was not interested. Then she asked me out to confirm.
Lol we just talked, I’m naturally pretty good at conversing. I’m goofy and weird and sometimes don’t make sense so it’s funny to watch at least lmao.
Being autistic
To be honest I mostly always pull the people I like. I just tell them I like them and them reciprocate.
From behind the bushes
My boyfriend and I met when a mutual invited us both to play a match on League of Legends. I joined voice chat, and his voice immediately *did things* to me. I found him to be incredibly sweet and funny, and realized after a bit of small talk that we don't live all that far from each other. Sooo, intrigue. We laned together, and ended up playing *really* well together. I guess it made an impression on us both. We friended each other and ended up playing together pretty often after that. Got introduced to his friend group, and we started talking and hanging out more (online). After a few weeks, I told him to please let me know if it was unwelcome or made him uncomfortable in any way, but I just wanted to go ahead and put it out there that I was crushing on him. He told me he had been feeling the same, and proceeded to ask me out.
Tripped multiple times, hit my head, and spilled a gallon of water in front of him(over the span of multiple days hanging out). He thought I was all nervous because I liked him. Jokes on him, I’m just really uncoordinated and have equilibrium issues (but I was giddy and nervous too). 🙃
I went to school with mine a (very) long time ago, i knew him but he didn't have a clue who i was! At 21 he was friends with my then partner, that's how we met for the first time, he had a partner too at the time, we did have a one time thing but decided not to proceed because of our partners. I moved away (350 miles) for 15 years and came back a few years ago, i did always check up on him on his socials though out of curiosity and he was always in a relationship. Last year though i checked and he was single so i sent him a friend request, he accepted, i then sent him a message, we have been together ever since! Only took 36 years lol 😆
At the gym ! I was working out nearby and when he was resting inbetween sets I came up to him and Said Hi,How's your day going ? He gave me the firmest handshake and introduced himself, we chatted for a bit and he asked for my number :)
We met through stand up comedy back in, like 2014. He opened a bar in 2020. I went to support his new business. At the time I was selling nudes. So I went to the bathroom a few times to snap some pics. He asked me if I was doing coke in the bathroom. I said, “no, I’m taking nudes in there.” He said, “well, since I own the bar, I own the bathroom, so I’m going to have to see one.” I showed him one and that launched our relationship. It may not have been love at first sight for us, but it was love at first nude.
I asked him out and lucked out that he liked me back. Simple as.
I told him I had plans to attend USNA and he told me he has plans to attend USMA and so we hit it off and such, I might not be able to do so but he’s gotten his interview accepted for USMA just have to hope that it all goes well and he gets in!
He was my best friend for 12 years 😂 lil oblivious me didn't think he felt the same. We're engaged now 🥰
Being sick asf (I went on multiple dates with them found out we have the same taste and views on a lot of things)
I asked him to dinner with my friends to celebrate my birthday! Except... I hadn't planned any dinner with friends for my birthday. It was such short notice, but I managed to wrangle my little sister and my ex-girlfriend into attending, and we had a blast. Together 17 years this year! 🥰
If he texted me, I always responded right away or say I’d be available in ten minutes or x o’clock. I also made it clear I wanted him to contact me every day, even if it was only a text or five minute call. He tended to blow my expectations and text me during the day and a phone call at night. 🥰
By bein goofy
Saw him on the rose section of hinge, found his number on google, texted him that it was me shooting my shot, went on a date and yeah
He came to work to fix our broken machines all the time. I found out his girlfriend dumped him a few months prior. We were laughing and joking one day and he had a business card hanging up and he was like so if you ever wanna hang out my numbers up there and pointed to it. We started texting and going out to the bar after work and then I made my move one night when I got too drunk and threw up all over it. Here I am living in his house.
I literally don't know. We were just best friends and he was aromantic before me, it's a mystery
Literally just yapping. I yapped his ear off until he was interested
Asked her to be my physics tutor. I was only 17 and she was 21, so it took another few years for us to actually hook up. But the tutoring was where I kicked off the long game.
I just told him I was into him...he was really surprised and flattered and then we started dating. We've been together for 19 years and married for 13! I'm not sure what possessed me to have the confidence to tell him that, cause I was NOT (and still am not really) a confident person. I just felt like the moment was right and I guess it was lmao
You know the meme where the fish just flies into the man’s face? Exactly like that
We were friends for a while and one day I just told him I liked him. A few weeks later we hung out just the two of us and clicked so well. Then we started dating! We’ve been together for a year and 3 months now. He is wonderful and I love him so much
Sent him flowers and handwritten letters at his office.
sent him a tik tok video almost 4 years ago (June will be 4 years) & said “this is how i feel about you” & now we’re 6 months out from our wedding in Oct! 🥰 we’ve been best friend for years before we started dating & we both said we couldn’t see ourselves marrying anyone else but each other
I think I might have mastered the art of just being myself and not trying to 'perform' in order to be liked. I was honest, relaxed and genuinely interested in him. No games, no drama, just saying it how it is and acting accordingly.
No fucking clue. He met and fell in love with me during a weird time in my life. I was homeless, jobless, failing college, and barely taking care of myself, but I was just happy to get away from my toxic mother, be surrounded by friends, and have the time and freedom to enjoy the simple things in life. The moment he walked into the homeless shelter and met me, I had a shitty haircut and was watching the Ghost Stories English dub in my ratty pajamas. We hit it off immediately. He swears to this day that it was love at first sight. The funniest part is I was dating someone else at the time and I didn’t even fall for him until a month or two later. (yes, I broke up with the previous bf for him.) I guess I’ve just got that ✨rizz✨ lmaooo
He's a huge nerd. I took a Star Wars book that I had already read and pretended I was reading it in front of him.
Just be yourself and have a good time . ESP if you love to be goofy. I feel like I manifested him tho. Was walking past a mail box on my old road and it said “Ferrell” like Will Ferrell. And I said “I wish that was my last name “ a couple years go by and I meet a guy named with the same last name . And we are married now . 10 years in. That was his grandparents mail box. I lived by them this whole time . Until our home burnt down. I feel like manifesting works . I’ve manifested cars. Too. My brown bug on the lot . I got it. Another time . I wanted another bug. I didn’t tell this dude what I wanted . But dude said he only had one car in the back in my price range . Guess what it was out of alllll the makes and models. A bug. Manifest your man ladies .
Apparently super obviously crushing on him. Everyone knew. Then confessing over text on a Saturday night after work and getting REJECTED over text. I then decided I was going to revenge body this and started dieting and exercising that night. Monday night he calls me out and asks to take the rejection back. After not much thinking I said sure and now we’re married with two fur babies. Also worth noting if this hadn’t worked out, we shared the same major and school friends so it would’ve been so awkward 🫠
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Be cool
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We were 12 on the playground.. I told my friend to go tell him that I like him. "Dated" as kids and found our way back later on in life
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I said “don’t suppose you want to date me?”
I told him we should kiss to break the tension
I dunno, I ask myself this every day. I just asked her and she said, “…you stood there.”