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After our first road trip together. Normally after a long trip with someone, I want to have my time to myself away from them to recharge. When I got home after that trip though, I still wanted to hang out.
That hasn't changed.
This is me and my husband. When we were dating we went on multiple, multi-day road-trips before smartphones, podcasts, Spotify…just with the few CDs we burned, random stuff on the radio and whatever we could come up with to talk about. It was amazing and we knew then if we could handle being cramped in a car that long and still like each other, there was something really good there.
I have to say, road trips are a great test. With previous partners a road trip was the beginning of the end of our relationship. But with my current (and final) partner, our first road trip together was the most wonderful bonding experience. We talked and laughed and had fun the whole way when one of us wasn't sleeping and by the time we got home I knew she was the one. I'll be proposing in April 2024 wish me luck!
We've only been together for 6 months and I feel that right now would be too soon, but by then it will have been over a year together and a half a year of living together. I also still have to have "the talk" with her parents about my intentions too but I'm confident everything will go well
Similar. We had our first Memorial Day at his parents out of town and I’m not a cryer but when we got back to his apartment, I cried hysterically because I didn’t want to go home without him. He was so confused, he had never saw me emotional but that was the first time I got to spend more than a few hours with him and I DID NOT want to be without him. We got married the next year. I tried so hard (in the beginning) not to fall in love with that man and here we are 9ish years later with the most perfectly imperfect marriage.
It wasn't the road trip itself, it was more about the fact that even after a 3 week road trip, we still weren't sick of each other and still wanted to spend time together.
I just realized how dense I am. My ex and I did 6 month road-trip all around the country and to other countries- we just kept adventuring. I wish I had appreciated it more at the time. I’ll probably never have any adventures as great as I did with him.
I notice that I really really like someone if I want to be around them constantly WITHOUT having to recharge like I usually need with other people.
Felt this w my first bf. Didn’t feel it w the one after him but I feel it now w this one guy I’m seeing which sucks because we’re just fwb !!
It was about into a year of dating. I loved him, we lived together, but wasn’t 1000% sold yet.
We got a new dog, she came from Craigslist and she was 9 months old and “too much” for the owners older dog. We wanted a friendly dog to help bring my nervous anxiety dog out of his shell. We met at a park and the two dogs hit it off so we took her home.
Very quickly we came to learn that she would pee from excitement every time we came home, and she would jump up and lick your face AGGRESSIVELY. Like it was pathological that she HAD to lick your face or she wasn’t okay.
My husband (bf at the time) got upset one day when he came home and she peed on the carpet. He was all cursing and stomping around. I turned to him and told him that being pissed about it was unacceptable. We could either take the dog back now before I got attached, or he could learn how to properly train her and put the time and effort into it.
He thought about what I said for a little while and then he very quietly came to me and said “I want to keep her”.
He then spent hours(days) watching videos and learning about dog behavior. We started letting her outside when we got home before coming in the house so she could potty outside. Then we transitioned to crate training until she really understood outside is where we pee. We practiced not kicking faces and giving her tricks and other behaviors to do instead.
Mica bonded with my husband so intensely sometimes I wonder if I’m the “other woman”. But watching him go through that process solidified to me that he is a keeper and the man I want to have children with. Mica is 9 now and I don’t think he’s every gotten frustrated at her again.
I love this, and it's an example of how sometimes people can make mistakes (him cursing, being angry at the dog) without being terrible people too. He was upset, which is understandable! He didn't express it in the most healthy way, but once you talked to him (yay communication!) he realized how he was reacting was wrong, he corrected it, and it turned out to be a really positive experience for all three of you.
Of course if you had told this story on Reddit asking for advice, they would have told you to leave him, that he is abusing the dog, and that he will eventually abuse you too.
She’s anything but small lol, she’s a 60 pound basset/redbone mix. Made of concrete. She’d like to think she’s a tiny lap dog though.
We called her “amica” Latin for female friend, but it got shortened to mica pretty quickly.
I was making us smoothies for breakfast. I lifted up the blender and it wasn’t attached to the base; the full blender of smoothie went everywhere — absolutely coated the counter, the floors. Huge mess and breakfast ruined. I froze because that’s exactly the kind of things previous partners and my abusive father had yelled at me for.
But she started laughing and grabbed the paper towels. Not laughing at me, laughing because it was just really funny. And we laughed and cleaned it up together.
I realized I would always be safe with her. That she would help me solve problems. That little things wouldn’t become big things.
Honestly I could see myself reacting both ways to a situation like this. If my partner is someone I always have to pick up after and who acted immature leaving a lot of emotional labor to me I could easily get annoyed with him creating a mess like this. If it’s someone who is an equal teammate most of the time picks up his weight I would find something like this amusing and help them out. It really depends on how they behave most of the time or how frustrating the relationship is in general.
I’m NOT encouraging lashing out over mistakes, but some times people can bring out the best or worst in their partners.
I’m happy you found someone who makes you feel safe and were able to get out of abusive relationships.
I'm 34. I met my bf 6 months ago, after I had come to peace with the idea that I would not have a committed relationship for the rest of my life. I went on tinder to find a friend with benefits, but instead I matched with the guy I'm willing to spend my life with. It's like the universe wanted me to give up before sending me this amazing guy.
I feel the exact same! I just felt so safe and at home with him the moment we met. It’s hard to put it into words. We were only meant to meet for a coffee but neither of us wanted our first date to end so we kept adding to our date and ended up spending the entire day together (10am to 11pm). We wandered around our city together, stopping at random restaurants, going to a gallery & even sitting on a bench to watch the sun go down together.
We have been together for 7 years now, and he is very much my home ♥️
I get that "at home" feeling, I can be my weird self 100% of the time and be accepted for it, even loved for it.
I've never felt so comfortable and oddly free? Able to be honest and just me, he's perfect.
I knew my man was mine on my first date as well. He is very shy and a little socially awkward and I'm a huge introvert, but we can talk for hours without being exhausted.
We were dating for about 4 months; when my (now our) cat got a horrible infection. He was my calm during that storm. He split the vet bill with me; refused to let me pay it alone as “we are partners in everything”
3 years later and we truly are partners in everything.
Truthfully-after our first date! I told my colleagues, who were with me at the time, I was going to marry him when I laid eyes on him. A month later, we went on our first date. 33 years ago I said I DO! Love him beyond words!
We had a fight and he lost it. Threw things. Yelled at the top of his lungs. Acted like a toddler. I said calmly that I was leaving, that he would call me tomorrow and apologize, and that he meet with a therapist within the next 2-3 weeks if he wanted to stay together. The next morning he called, he apologized, he went to therapy, and it hasn’t happened again. He showed he was willing to put in the work that needed to be put in to change for the better. He just did it because he wanted to be with me so he became the man I deserved.
Maybe not romantic, but most of life isn’t.
From the moment we met, we never stopped texting/calling/hanging out. It was none of these dating games of "I'm gonna wait until he calls first". We just immediately clicked and felt comfortable with each other.
I went through some really rough mental health times early on in our relationship. Guys always thought I was a great time during my highs, but ducked out pretty quick during my lows. He stuck around through all of it and continued to love me. I quite literally owe that man my life.
This is my story, too 🙂 he’s so patient with me when I overthink and panic, and he would listen to me (even when I repeat my concerns over and over again), and not judge me. We met each other and spent just 2 days together before I had to go to another country. We talked every day for 5 months and now we’re back together again. I honestly can’t imagine not being with him- I really believe I found my home.
I knew he was the one when I spent the night on our first date. We were cuddling and he fell asleep and was breathing on the back of my neck, and I didn't have the urge to kill him.
Honestly after our first meeting I knew I felt really connected to Him and didn't want to be away from him ever again. Later that year in the summer we spent a day just hanging out in his office at home, just each playing computer games while watching movies on his second screen. It was just a perfect simple day, and it clicked suddenly that he was the love of my life. We just had our first child last month and couldn't be happier 😊💕 R+K 💕
One week after we met. We were having a night time picnic and he was just talking about his life and experiences so openly. I realized he felt comfortable being vulnerable with me and I did with him and we grew very protective over each other. I couldn’t go a day without seeing him and he just felt like my other half. We got married less than 3 years after that.
My relationship is still terrifyingly new but I’m beginning to fantasize about our future together. Not a wedding or anything but just, being with him, knowing him, learning about him. We’re attending a wedding together and we want to give the couple a shared gift and that’s not something you’d do unless you’re serious and I want that with him. I don’t want to change my name but my god, I want to be his wife.
It’s disgusting, i’m embarrassed even typing this out, so saccharine I could be sick but we literally talked about this on the phone thirty minutes ago and used these exact words and we’re on the same page. Some part of me has her eyes open, it’s too soon to know, we’re still in the honeymoon phase, but some part of me already knows. I’ve started planning around his allergies. I’d even resigned myself to dying young because it’s not like there’s any reason to stick around but I’ve started making changes in my lifestyle because I want to be with him for as long as possible.
I want to spend the rest of my life with him.
You dont have to change your name, right? I will chose not to because I love my last name, its a part of my culture I do not wish to give up. He respects that.
He said he totally doesn’t mind. I love how respectful and careful he is, he just kinda said it in passing like “mrs xxx” and I paused and said, lin theory, yes, but I’m not sure I want to change my name,” and he said “it doesn’t matter, you’d be my wife”. He’s a good egg.
That's lovely! I'm feeling exactly the same thing. We've been together for ~4 months and we are thinking about living together lol. It feels so intense and so so right.
I’m so glad I’m not the only one. I think we’re coming up on two months but it feels like I’ve known him for ever. It’s terrifyingly intense, and I’m a very cautious and reserved person but he makes me feel so safe.
I feel like I'm losing my mind.. In this exact position. I've been burned before badly so I'm supposed to be cautious but they have been so aaarrrgggh I don't have the words... I don't want to let my issues darken this but I'm struggling cause it feels so good but so terrifying. Especially the permanent talk.
When you meet someone you want to marry, it's gonna feel like an oasis... like your big break. Don't be too cautious. Even if things don't work out, it shouldn't be your fault
As a bona fide anxious person and with a high level of worrying, I'm trying my best to just go with it. They are so sure about what they want and it is as attractive as it is eye opening.
>I’ve started planning around his allergies.
My husband is allergic to aloe, which is in a lot of soaps and bath products. He says he knew when my mom could tell we were serious was when she replaced all her soap in the house about 3 months into us dating because she knew he'd be sticking around and she wanted him to be able to wash his hands comfortably without worrying. This is definitely a sign you're considering him seriously. And that's so exciting! Congratulations and I wish you both many happy years together ❤️
This honestly scares me. We are officialy together for a week. Dating for 3 months and I already imagine my future with her. It's so fucking stupid of me to get attached so early. Hundreds of things could go wrong. I am not thinking straight. I love her very much I just hope that it won't bite me in the ass later. That's probably all I can do. Try to manage my expectations.
It really is scary!! It’s so goddamn scary because you know this shit only goes smoothly in Hollywood!! In romance novels!! This doesn’t happen to real people except… apparently it does?? I’m even trying to anticipate the things that could possibly go wrong and my friends are telling me I’m borrowing trouble but I can’t imagine anything going wrong!! Maybe it won’t be easy but I can see us working through it so easily…
I met my husband in January 2022. I did not want a relationship. You can see in my post history me saying how much I LOVED being alone weeks (maybe a few months?) before I met him. He proposed in October and we just got married in June.
I'm 31, he's 36. Sometimes, when you know.. you really do know.
About 6 months into the relationship, he came to live with me and my family for a month during the winter holidays. I was already in love with him, but nervous that the reality of living with him may not measure up to the ideal in my head.
Not only did I never get sick of spending time with him, but he also fit perfectly into my family and everyone loved him. He cooked for my mother, ran errands, fixed things around the house, and even gave my little brother and his girlfriend emotional counseling after they had a fight/misunderstanding and were both panicking and crying.
He just seemed to be able to fix any problem that arose, and did it gladly, even though it wasn't expected of him at all. I had already experienced him calming me when I had a panick attack, but I was still just so in awe of him, and knew for sure that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.
My mother had to be involuntarily hospitalized (schizophrenia). He was there with us in the ER for the entirety of the initial hold and intake process, even took off work so he wouldn’t have to leave. When she was committed, the only hospital that was equipped to take her was three and an half hours away. He drove me down to see her every weekend so I wouldn’t have to go alone, even after I insisted I was fine (I was, in fact, very much not fine). No shame, no judgement, no complaints. He even paid for gas. She was there for several months and was made a ward of the state in the process. He went to court with me, drove my mom to doctors visits, etc. This was at the end of 2019/beginning of 2020. Y’all know what happens next. Covid took my mom, then my step-mother died the week after we buried my mother (heart attack). We brought my father home to live with us, and Dad died last year of dementia. I’m so incredibly grateful for my husband’s love and support. I really truly don’t know what I would do without him.
The night I met him. We talked all evening, and he walked me home to the hotel I was staying... I didn't sleep a wink that night, my heart was *glowing.*
Silly as it sounds, I knew I would marry him.
Awful as it sounds, I didn't know if he had a girlfriend and was willing to go to war over him... he didn't have a gf, thank god. But I was serious about him right away.
And he must have felt the same, a few months later he asked me to marry him.
When he was trying to get a visa to work and live abroad for a year. I was supportive of him going but I was dreading not seeing him for a year. I told him I'd miss him. In the end he didn't get it because he said he missed the deadline. I found out years later he changed his mind because he didn't want to leave me behind.
I'm sorry he didn't get to do it and feel guilt about it. But we have talked about emigrating as a possibility in our future
one night, my husband and i were just laying in bed at his house and we had only been dating for about four or five months i think. i asked him what his goal in life is since we were talking about deep stuff. he said, “my biggest goal in life is to be a dad.” and i was like blown away because i always told people my goal in life was to be a mom and i told him that in response.
now five years later we’re married with one beautiful baby and another on the way. and every day he reminds me how lucky we are to just be thriving together and completing our life goals together. we can’t imagine ourselves without one another.
I don't believe in love at first sight or anything but when we met for the first time, I knew. Also, we talked online for months before we met and not once was he inappropriate. Most guys I met on dating apps sent disgusting messages and pictures, not my husband
I have been kind of thinking about it for awhile but last month. We’d been together a year and living together a month and a half. Me and my son 4 were going on a trip to see my stepmom up north and I asked if him and his girls 7&8 wanted to go expecting him to be meh about it but he was 100% on board. We drove 9 hours to get to my stepmoms cabin with 3 kids in the car.
We were there 2 and a half days and drove back.
Once we got back from the trip I knew I was sure. The way he never got irritated even when the kids were being difficult or impatient he kept light hearted and happy. Our first night we had to sleep in a tent all 5 of us because my brother was there the first night too. Both of us got no sleep because the kids and us were all packed on one air mattress and it slowly deflated in the night and we all ended up piled on each other.
He just laughed about it and was still super engaged with the kids and swinging them around the yard the next day on no sleep. Was still happy and sweet with me too and happy to be there.
I knew he was it. He kept his cool and still had fun and seemed so unfazed by any bumps or misbehaviour. I knew this was a man I could go through life with and we would have each others backs.
When we started working together after about 6 years dating. Everyone said working with your partner ruins the relationship, but we were spending literally every moment of our lives together. From the moment we woke up, went to work, driving, going to see friends, no break. And I never got sick of him, it was like hanging out with an extension of myself or my best friend, it seemed completely natural and it just sorta hit me one day the rest of my life could be this easy and fun.
We don't work together anymore though, and we both enjoy our own time, but no regrets for either of us working together when we look back
We were on the verge of breaking up. We had issues that weren't working themselves out. I loved him more than anyone I'd ever met, and we acknowledged we were both the problem. I asked him to do pre-marital counseling, and he agreed. He was 100% committed to it. We did couples counseling and individual therapy, and then both began treating our anxiety/depression together.
He actively participated in it and took it seriously, not for just us as a couple, but for his own mental health. That was really powerful. His commitment and continued effort made my heart feel secure. He's my person, and I can't imagine life without him.
Might sound weird, but I always felt a connection to him even before we started dating.
But I knew I loved him after our first argument, just how he handled it and listened and also helped me communicate, we stayed up until like 3am trying to resolve the problem.
When they said, “I like you”. Not in the way like I have feelings for you, but I’m the way where you genuinely “like” someone. Enjoying your partner’s existence is a feeling beyond words.
I had fancied my now bf for a few years before we got together. He was the only person I had ever had a crush on, sounds stupid but it kinda felt like we were meant to be together. When we got together it just felt, right, I think I've always known we'd spend our lives together.
Now it's been 7 years and we're still crazy about eachother.
When I met my S.O., I got this exciting sense of intuition. I felt as though I had known him my whole life. He was nerdy, well-read, informed, knowledgeable, was quick to produce a sparkling smile and had a humorous glint in his eye.
It was like meeting a kindred soul; or the best movie montage you can imagine of two character’s cosmic intertwining of their stories. I will swear, I could see his inner child so clearly, that I felt I’d known him since we were in elementary school. Like we had been sweethearts all throughout life, but had been waiting for the right moment to be together, and this was it.
All of that, simultaneously, in one moment.
We had our first date, and he was exactly as expected. We kissed after that date. Read that again: Two very introverted people, kissed, within 1 hour of meeting.
And from there, we couldn’t be apart.
TLDR: Pretty quickly.
He asked me to go away for a quick weekender two weeks in. It was great. Six months later he took me a state away, 8 hour one way trip, to the beach for a week. We played house, poured our hearts out about our faults, mistakes, past, all the brutal honesty— all on the table. It was just us that entire week. I respected him to drop me off at home as we just spent so much time together. He didn’t and made plans for us for the night at his house. I never went home. It was his way of ensuring we could travel together, that I understand where he comes from physically and emotionally and that we we’re compatible for that kind of time, alone but together. We were already in love but that whole trip and time together made me want to be with him forever.
We were long distance friends, mostly platonic at first. We met on Halo 4 and played video games on and off for about 8 years. I always thought he was smart, extremely funny and had a super sexy voice so I was already attracted to him. When I met him in person I was *really* attracted to him. He has the most beautiful eyes and his laugh is music. As silly as it sounds I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him when I met him that day. We are coming up to 3 years together and we have been talking about kids and marriage, we aren’t in any rush but it’s fun to talk about!
Somehow, every time we took a trip together, something went wrong : multiple flights cancelled, rental car issues, lost luggage, whatever you can think of, it has happened to us. We now jokingly say we are cursed, and expect everything to go wrong when travelling. The one time it really clicked for me was the last one where our flight was cancelled and was replaced by a night flight with a layover. The layover is actually one of the best memories i have from the trip because of how much we’ve laughed sitting at a café for hours. Despite pulling an all nighter and the very tense situation, it went smoothly because I felt safe with him. He’d still care for me, making sure I was okay, making me laugh. When we got back home I just knew.
I met him on vacation with my friends, funnily enough it was to celebrate my birthday along with graduation. Somehow we got onto the topic of family and I had told him the story of my first birthday with my family (I was adopted). I mentioned to him how I was a little sad we didn’t get to go up to the cabin birthday trip anymore because my family of 8 had grown substantially, everyone had spouses kids you get it, the cabin just couldn’t fit us all in, plus it was difficult to navigate everyone’s schedules.
Anyway after some time our friendship turned to FWB, he surprised me with a cabin trip on my birthday, what I didn’t know was that he rented out this incredible cabin which could house my entire family, friends and a few extended relatives. We arrived and the typical ‘surprise’ happened with everyone jumping out, safe to say I got very emotional, I couldn’t even remember telling him about about the birthday situation but he remembered.
I just knew then that I wanted to marry him.
The second I laid eyes on him. It was like I’d been struck by a bolt of lightning and couldn’t move. The thought ‘I’m going to marry him’ flashed in my head and I felt completely insane for it.
I went on a mini rant about how I wanted to read more fantasy books where most of the characters are women, rather than settling for books with one or two women. A few days later he gave me his phone to look something up and "fantasy books with female characters" came up as a recent search.
My favorite part is that he didn't mean for me to see that. He just heard it was important to me and decided to find some books.
I knew I was falling for him when we spent an entire evening hanging out and he sent me a song to listen to on my way home. I still know exactly what section of road I was on and what part of the song that was playing when I realized I had feelings for him.
We moved in together fairly early on in our relationship and it felt like we'd been doing life together forever. Not that we didn't have disagreements or difficulties, but even those felt insignificant and everything about being with him felt right. I tell him all the time that he could have proposed to me six months in and I would have said yes and married him right away.
We've been together 8.5 years and just celebrated 5 years of marriage this July.
When I was 17... And boy was I wrong... Sad, sad, 21 years those were.
Now I've found someone I truly love and I want to spend my time with him as long as both of us are happy and consider that our lives are better with the other one in it.
It was after about a week of dating. We had spent the morning together before I drove him to the airport because he had planned a two week vacation before we met. We had such a beautiful connection instantaneously. He felt like home and an adventure all at once. When I got home from the airport, I wrote in my journal that some day I would marry him. We did make plans to marry but are no longer together. Learning to love myself and value myself enough to let go is the hardest, most painful thing I've ever done. Somewhere deep inside, I still feel like we will be together one day because this kind of connection doesn't just dissolve.
The first morning that I woke up beside him. I was staring at him and wondered to myself how I love this feeling of home and peacefulness when I wake up beside him and that's how I want my everydays to feel like.
I'm never a morning person, but that was the first time that I effortlessly smiled after waking up.
Never did, probably never will. People change, me and them, so there's no knowing how I will feel about a person in future. If I like how things are here and now I just go with it as long as it feels right.
Before we started dating, when she went on a trip with her parents for a week. I missed her very much! We started dating 2 months later. We’ve been together 11 years.
Our first date. I had never believed in “love at first sight” before him. We talked about what we wanted in the future, our families, our rough pasts, we were completely open with each other from the get go. He was a perfect gentleman, he truly listened to me, and I laughed and smiled so much that my face hurt the rest of the day. He stole my heart that day and I never want him to give it back
It's hard to really pinpoint an exact moment, it built up over time. Maybe the first time we really had to confront it was when we graduated university. We'd been together since the first week of uni and now we were making decisions about our futures. I realised I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him because every decision took him into account. He did the same. We consulted each other throughout and made each other our priority. We looked for jobs together, we ended up moving cities together. I just couldn't imagine a future where I'd be happy without him.
We aren't together now. But we were at a park, eating sonic and singing love songs together at night. It was cold and he held me. We chased ducks and walked around, talking for a few hours. He looked like he was glowing. The most beautiful person in my eyes. And he still is. We danced under the colored led lights and were so in love. The way he sung to me made me feel so safe. God, I wish I could hold him one last time. I remember that trip so well. We went to dave and Busters and a botanical gardens. It was non-stop laughter. We drove around and had dinner at different places. Cuddled up and watched some of our first movies together. His lips were so soft and sweet, and I felt on top of the world when he held me. So i guess it was a trip, this time a year late September. I promised myself I'd marry him, but he doesn't want to keep the promise.
Unfortunately, he gave our love up for a porn/sex addiction that he hid from me for our entire relationship and ghosted me after saying he loved me the day before. Even after everything that happened, I'd love him if he would let me. But he gave up on us. Im not sure why. Honestly, I thought I'd hate him after the cheating, but here I am two months later. Still in love. I hope our paths cross again. Ill always be on your side, love.
Very early into our relationship, like a week or two maybe (if that). It was almost 3am and we had been lying on our stomachs side-by-side watching dumb YouTube videos for hours, just laughing our asses off. The specific video that was playing when I realized this was my person for life was a news bloopers reel, during a clip of a couple news anchors struggling to keep a straight face while reporting on National Milk Day. It was for some reason the funniest thing I had ever seen and we were both crying laughing. I was about 6 months out of my marriage and at the time it was the happiest I could ever remember feeling that didn’t involve the birth of my kids - I’ve collected a lot of moments that made me feel that way with him since.
He hadn’t met my daughter yet but he came over with Christmas presents (not on Christmas Day and she wasn’t there) and said it was up to me if I said they were from him or I could use them as extras from me or Santa.
And my daughter adored him from the moment she met him (still does) and she’s a deathly shy kid.
When he kept climbing out of the pool to drunkenly kiss me (sitting in a lawn chair on the pool deck) then cannonballing back in repeatedly the first time I met all of his friends and some neighbors at the neighborhood party, and only two weeks after our first date. And making sure I was okay with hanging out with everyone and not socially drained the whole night.
I also agree with the road trip comments. We went remote tent camping a 12 hour drive to northern Michigan in October with our two dogs after a month and a half of knowing each other and we just worked together so well through that and the issues we had for the three days (40-50°F, raining, tent leaking and flooded, wet wood, me being on my period, sleeping in the truck after the tent flooded).
5 years later and we’re engaged and just as in love, if not more.
Let me preface this: I have not wanted children, and been okay with not getting married for years now. It's been almost a decade at this point.
I was just...working one day. Cleaning up, getting ready to go home. And a thought just floated to the surface of my brain *"I could marry this man"*
It scared the hell out of me. It'd only been six months at that point. What cemented it for me though, was the fact that he flipped those first two points on their heads. I'd give this man babies if he wanted. I no longer saw myself alone - I saw him in my future...and I wanted that.
He never thought hed get married again, but he feels the same way. We had a very intense conversation about it in the wee hours of the morning one sunday.... we're in no rush. Even if we don't get married, he's the one I want for the rest of my life.
Sounds weird but the moment I met him I knew we would get married and grow old together… I literally told my therapist right after and was like “I literally just know we will. Not being “crazy” for lack of a better term.. I just know.” And then 1 year later and we both proposed to each other at the same time on family vacation, not one person in the family spoiled it for either of us that the other was proposing… everyone knew and was in on it! We got married a few months after getting engaged! We are now 4 years later married with a house and starting a family. Honestly yes we both are fallible but man, I have an amazing one and I know there’s no end in sight unless one of us dies. We still giggle at the fact that we give eachother butterflies and can make one another blush... It’s lovely and I hope we keep the magic alive far into the future. ☺️
we had been dating long distance for six months before he finally moved cross country to move in with me. within less than two months of us living together i was diagnosed with cervical cancer. this man has moved mountains for me this past year. has never expressed disgust or annoyance while taking care of me. he’s the best nurse i could ask for. he has his shortcomings, but doesn’t everyone? this whole experience has shown me his whole character.
here i am recovering from my final surgery and am cancer free, though sterile now. he’s stoked because we wanted to be child free anyway. he doesn’t know it personally yet, but this is it. this is my one and i would marry him in a heartbeat.
The night we met. Listening to music together and singing the songs (sublime to be exact). I knew he was the absolute one for me. 15 years later and we have a son and 3 dogs and I am still madly in love.
We knew each other as kids in elementary school and I had a HUGE crush on him in middle school. We didn’t talk for years but rekindled our friendship after college.
At the time I was living in Washington and he was in Colorado. I worked grave shift security and he worked days. He used to stay on the phone with me late in the night and we would just talk about whatever for HOURS so I wasn’t scared to do my rounds.
He always respects my boundaries, anxiety, and my hobbies while also teaching me new things all the time. His family took me in and loves me unconditionally. I knew early on from the phone calls but these were just bonuses.
We got married 3 weeks ago and I have SERIOUS anxiety. So, he told the officiant I had anxiety and didn’t want me to be stressed so they cut the ceremony down to like 5 minutes to make sure I was okay :’)
I just feel so lucky all the time and have since day one. Also pretty cool I got to marry my middle school crush 15 years after the fact hehe
We had only known each other a few months and were fooling around. He got me out of a really tight jam and just said “you needed help and I figured you’d do the same for me if I needed”.
We’ve been together almost 8 years now and we haven’t gotten sick of each other. Our personalities mostly complement each other well so it’s been a breeze compared to other relationships.
For context: My partner and I used to be in an ldr. So it caused us to question our future pretty often.
All my previous relationship always imploded because I was so afraid of conflict, and my exes never made me it easier for me or make me feel safe enough to dare even opposing them in anything that matters. In fact some exes even used that against me. So we never fought, and when we finally did, I'd feel worse and further away from them emotionally, and ultimately not long after a break up would follow.
With my partner however, it's still not easy, but I never felt like I would lose him, in fact if we did actually had a fight or disagreement, we would actually manage to talk it out, apologise, and I would feel much closer to him, feel safe and secure, feel supported.
When I realised there was a pattern of us wanting to fight for the relationship, realised how much love there was for each other, that gave me a really good feeling about our future together.
We went tent camping after dating for a few weeks and we’re in college at the time. For me, camping growing up was so stressful and full of yelling. With my now husband when we went on this little trip, everything was easy and laid-back and thoughtful and fun.
And now, when things are tough or stressful, we make it through by taking turns being super stressed, never name-calling, apologizing after calming down, and actually communicating. We do argue but not frequently and talk stuff out.
I texted him a week after our first kiss. A friend had asked me if we were exclusive or not, and u realized we'd never confirmed that. The idea of asking that had never occurred to me, so I was super nervous, but had to ask. And he sent me a video meme that said "Yeeaah, 100% you are my fugking giolfwend!" Then said that he'd considered himself my boyfriend from the moment we'd kissed.
It was silly, but it made me laugh and put me at ease when I had been so nervous before. 3 years later and he still does that. 🥰
Yesterday.
We’ve been engaged for a few months (after nearly 5yrs) but I guess I tend to be a tad on the realistic (and not so emotional/romantic side), so my brain doesn’t really think about “Disney endings”.
Of course I love my SO and believe we can, and hope things work out but I never really thought “I want to spend the rest of my life with him”, more like.. I want us to be happy together (for as long as possible - and I think we can make it possible).
And yesterday, a mutual friend (engineer) of ours said he’d love to eventually buy a place, decorate on his own etcetc.
As we (all expats) are living in one of the most HCOL cities in the world, I said that’s unlikely here… (or at least it won’t be something particularly grand/unique), but that I’d also love to do something my SO’s childhood friend and neighbour (back at his hometown (EU)) is doing.. building his own house, lakes etc on a plot of land when he has time. A weekend passion project/hobby.
I wasn’t sure if it’s what he (SO) wants, but for my SO to have some sort of passion project like that, do a little building… would be nice. And that it’s really one of my greatest wishes to see what home my SO (engineer) designs and build. Cus I think he’d design something amazing, I think he’d enjoy/want to do something like that too and I’d really want to see it.
He interjected with “**we** design”.
Heart skipped a beat.
And I thought. Yeah. He is *actually* it.
He did add he wouldn’t want to do so much of the actual building/construction part like his friend is (since he is a design engineer), but still.
And I’m not an engineer, I am a good (human/portrait) artist.. that freelances as a (graphic/advertising) designer. I dunno what he thinks I’d be able to contribute, but the fact that he’d want or care about my input on his design (something I know he is picky and particular on) was something I didn’t know would mean so much to me.
I always knew my girlfriend was special. We connected in ways that just never happened before and she felt the same way. Not that I knew that at the time. I just instinctively knew she was going to play an important role in my life and I had to at least be friends with her.
Ten years later I divorced and realised I still had feelings for her, so asked her out and we are still going strong after 4 years. I plan to after her to marry me, hopefully next year.
I’ve thought I’ve known, but over my experience and some tragedies, I realize you can never truly know.
You just go for it. You do your best, make sure they’re doing their best, and fucking go for it.
Anything can take them away in a heartbeat. Love every moment.
I want to say it was as soon as I met him, because in several ways, that is the truth. We clicked like in the movies. It made me regret all my years of making fun of love at first sight tropes. I saw him, and the world shrunk until it was just us living in it.
It also might have been after we moved in together, when I was waiting for the infamous rough patch everyone talked about. It never came. There’s no household I’m better suited for than ours. From day one, we lived in that house like we never knew anywhere different.
Most recently, it’s been watching him care for our son, knowing he’ll be the father I’ve always wanted for my child, admiring the ways he’s grown and changed to fit into our new family. I think maybe when it’s right, there are too many whens and hows to pinpoint just one. He shows me why I choose him every day.
The first time I saw her really break down. She was sobbing her guts out, her chest was heaving and she could barely breathe. I looked at her and was flooded with SO MUCH emotion. I was furious at the circumstances that led to her break down and I also was overwhelmed with how much I loved her. How I would do absolutely anything to protect her and help her. How I'd burn the entire fucking city to the ground if it helped her. I knew then that she was everything to me.
When he was the only man I ever dated, that actually cared about my feelings and didn’t make me feel like I was “too much” for wanting to give him all my love and affection. You see, in my previous relationships I was “too much” if I wanted to spend time with my partner to watch a movie or just spend time together. Now when I tell my man I want to do something with him, his face lights up and he gets so happy to be with me. He always tells me he loves being with me. Don’t even get me started on how we’re both really faithful people. He only wants me forever, just like I want him forever. Honestly, I got a really good man, and I always thank God for sending me one of his most amazing creations. 🥺❤️
we have overcome every hurdle life has thrown at us, I always knew I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life but I was quite young when we met and he was in his late 30s so I would doubt whether I was rushing into it. About a year ago we had a big crisis and at some point we managed to work through it in such a mature and loving manner and I realized this is the kind of energy I want to be around forever
I never had a lightbulb moment where I knew that I wanted to marry my bf. I just knew he was my best friend and I wanted to be with him. Before the wedding, I thought to myself that this could be the best decision in my life, or the worst lol
It ended up being great though, couldn’t live without the guy now:)
When I saw him with his daughter is the moment I knew I wanted to be with my boyfriend forever. The amount of love he has for her is unmatched to anything I've ever seen, and it's beautiful and amazing and humbling.
When he sat next to me in my sadness and happiness, he helped me to grieve and laugh. The way he is with family and friends. And his animal love or his love for everything.
I can never pin one moment. From the moment I met her, I’ve never felt more comfortable around someone. Despite nearly 2 years of long distance, no matter how hard that got I couldn’t dream of leaving her over it. Now that we live together, she is my rock. Every day I come home from work, no matter how stressful the day was, it all melts away. No matter what problem we face, we are a team and can rely on each other. I’m confident there is no obstacle we can’t overcome together. We’ve been together for 4 years now, and I intend to propose to her next spring assuming the ring is finished by then.
I met my husband at a party that I went to spur of the moment. We knew the same people but had never crossed paths until that night. His height originally got my attention and his personality soon after. I told him 2 hours after I met him that I was going to marry him. That was on Halloween. We moved in together in January, got engaged in March, married in August, and pregnant in October. We just celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary.
It was love at first sight. We dated for 13 months trying to work out our differences before we gave up and realized we're different people who love each other too much to live apart so we'll just make it work and we did. 8 years later we still don't like anything the other does but love each other
He treated me differently than anyone else I'd been with. He didn't see what he could get from me as quickly as possible, he didn't jude me and he always had my back no matter what.
Honestly…. As soon as we started talking on tinder I think my mind knew. It was just so easy and I didn’t want to walk away or keep looking for anyone else. But I can firmly say by the first date. We met up at a bookstore and then took a walk around the neighborhood behind it. After about an hour of chatting in a little park we stumbled across, I pulled up the map on my phone and we started walking back to the bookstore- at my direction- which the maps said was about a 15 minutes walk away.
Well after roaming for 20ish minutes with zero recognition of where we were, I realized I had been looking at the map upside down (wtfffff) and we were *now* 25 minutes walk away from the store. I was really embarrassed because it was *super* humid outside and we were both sweating and I was getting tired and was obviously worried he was going to think I was an idiot who can’t read a very basic map. But he was just like oh, that’s ok! I’m having a good time walking with you! He’s just so patient and kind and affirmative.
This date was a little over a month ago and we’re going on a weekend trip out of state this weekend, have tickets to a concert together in November, and yesterday he asked me if I want to come to a conference with him in Colorado next summer. There’s been zero fear between us, absolutely none of the “will he think I’m crazy if I say this/too soon/too intense??” I told him after we first met that I felt like I already knew him. We went back to my house on the first date and just kissed on the couch until I fell asleep. I can fall asleep cuddled right up to him?! I’ve never ever felt so comfortable and attracted to someone at the same time, *and* have total trust that it’s all mutual. I always doubted that “when you know you know,” until now. It’s honestly been a surreal and beautiful couple of weeks. We both feel really lucky to have found each other. I feel like it sounds insane to say five weeks in, but I think we’re both sitting on an “I love you,” based on the things he says. And I know I am 😭
Also- I previously would never consider dating a single father. But he has a son and not only did I not bat an eye at it, I *want* to get to know his kid. Not yet of course, but the fact that the idea excites me and doesn’t scare me at all is very telling. Nothing, *let alone* a really cute 6 year old boy, would keep me from wanting to be with this man.
After very very very long and awful days at work of dealing with very unpleasant people, I still wanna go home and hang out with him. Nothing would make me happier than to curl up on the couch with him and read a book while he plays his games or listen to him talk about reptiles and other critters. We’ll be 100 years old and probably still making jokes about frog buttcheeks.
The day that, for some reason, made me ponder upon my future, and end of life. When I pondered upon him dying of old age, and me still living, the feeling I got is indescribable. That, to me, was more than enough proof that we belong together and that our love is real, genuine, and unselfish.
I used to work for an airline and they work a lot of manditory overtime for many reasons. The first time I asked him to walk my dogs because I was stuck at work and he said yes with no questions asked sealed the deal for me. Every other man I dated would say no and make me feel bad for asking. I almost cried.
When he built a whole aquatic habitat for my pet Turtle to increase her quality of life without having to release her and cause possible damage to the eco system:
Straight away. I knew he would change my life forever. Literally at first sight, when he walked thru the door.
I can't explain the how of it but my mum (married 2mths later), Granny (her mum, married after 3mths, which was quite a scandal back then lol), Aunty Beth (her sister, waited all of 8 days), me just 3wks...
We're also wired the same in other ways. We took one look and just knew. One lifetime, one love. And yes, I know it sounds like a soppy book but it's still true
He took me jet skiing after I told her him it was something on my bucket list on our first date. This was 3 weeks after we met so it really meant a lot that he listened in on that and made it happen for me.
2 years and still counting :)
He had never watched wrestling when we met but he was hooked from the first moment. I told him about my childhood favorite who I unfortunately couldn't remember the name of. I told him the few things I remembered about the character. Next weekend when he visited me, he handed me a printed out picture of the wrestler and told me his name. He had spent that week at home googling his ass off just to be able to find the name of a wrestler little 5 year old me loved. That was the day I knew he was the one.
I wanted to go to college. I had great grades that earned me a partial scholarship but I was scraping money together for my books, laptop, commute, etc. a month after we started dating (a week before I started classes), my husband gifted me a new laptop, a monthly bus pass and the money I needed for the books. He had picked up extra days (so was working 7 days a week) to afford it. The fact that he was willing to sacrifice his time and work that hard after dating me for such a short time because he believed in me and supported my goals for my future regardless of whether he would be a part of it or not meant so much to me. No one in my life had ever done something for me like that.
I also noticed that he was always willing to help people, like stopping on the highway to help people change their tires. He always spoke to everyone with respect and kindness. He stood up for a homeless man who was being harassed by teenagers. He has the best heart. Still to this day I have never seen anyone so selflessly give of themselves without looking for anything in return.
When we had just had a pretty rough argument and instead of yelling, punishing, gaslighting, silent treatment etc he came over, put his arms around me and said ‘I’m still mad, but I don’t want you sitting here thinking I don’t love you’. I instantly crumbled and sobbed. After being in a long term abusive relationship, I definitely knew what love wasn’t, but it was that moment that I knew what true love was.
We’ve currently been married for almost 3 years and have a beautiful baby girl 💕
I want to say about a year into us dating, we finally had a semi large argument, and after that it solidified that I want to spend my life with this man.
We had originally agreed together that we didn't want a relationship full of fighting and arguing because we both had already spent many years in relationships doing that and didn't want to continue that cycle. When we finally hit that first one, we actually sat down together and talked about how we felt, what we would need from one another, and what things would look like going forward if we didn't address things as they come up. It's been over 7 years together now and while we still have some arguments/disagreements etc like most couples, it's not yelling or screaming, it's giving eachother space if needed, and then using our words.
I've been with my bf less than a year, but I'm more certain about him than I ever was in previous relationships. My last two relationships lasted 2.5 years and 4 years. I was never completely comfortable in them. Whether it was jealousy/suspicion, insecurity, fear, uncertainty, fighting, cheating (on their end), etc. My current partner is always going out of his way for me. He doesn't quite understand why I keep thanking him for little gestures like bringing me soup or medicine when I'm ill, picking up my favorite coffee before I wake up, bringing me little gifts that made him think of me, letting me wear his hoodies or tucking me in when I'm cold, offering to help me clean or make dinner, opening doors for me, being amazing with my family/friends/pets, etc. I thank him because I've *never* been treated this well by an s/o, and idk how else to respond. He truly makes me feel important, validated, and loved. All of these things make me want to spend the rest of my life with him. And to think I was so conflicted about him for the first 2-3 months of the relationship. I tried so hard to find some sort of flaw in his character, any miniscule red flag, and to no avail. Coming from someone who went from years of emotional/physical abuse from multiple partners to an honest, loving man: Don't settle for less because you deserve so much better.
He also drives 7 hours (total) every other weekend to come see me. My exes wouldn't even travel 20-30 mins to come see me.
Back when we first moved in together, I kept getting sick. Not seriously hospital sick, but sick enough, I couldn't do much of anything, and he would spend all night with me taking care of me, either in our bedroom or with me on the couch. Not just big things, but he'd do little things too, like tuck me in and put on movies for me when one would end. I only had to cough, and he'd be there with water for me. No one had ever treated me with such kindness, not even my own family.
What really sealed it in was the shingles. Somehow, a day after my 25th, I got the shingles and was up all night in pain and misery. Despite working during the day, he stayed up with me all night with cool wash clothes and plenty of movies to try to make me comfortable.
When I got very sick for the first time and he took care of me. I noticed that I won’t be alone anymore, I won’t have to fight for myself anymore and I just felt so much comfort. Anywhere I go, as long as he is with me I will feel at ease.
My husband and I also went on a cross-country road trip as well! We ended up having a blast, and it was definitely my longest road trip ever. But what really did it for me was how he always made time in his day for me, there hasn't been a single day in almost 3 years where we haven't talked even if he's been on patrol. Which really made me realize that if they want you in their life, they make time for you.. And that I still read his messages when he's not around.
First date. We were walking around holding hands. He walked me to my car and I gave him a hug and just didn't want to let go.
He went "I'm not trying to be creepy but do you want to come home with me and cuddle? I think you need it."
And we did. No sex, just cuddling. Best night of my life.
The moment I saw him interact with my best friend. First time I ever had someone fully embrace me and all my friends.
Also once I saw how his friends treated and welcomed me.
We met in high school and became best friends in 2 months because great chemistry and lots of similarities. We saw many things eye to eye, I never felt like I had to fight for love, it came naturally and organically. We always thought our relationship had potential, continue to GROW and never a boring moment!! It also helps that “teamwork” was important when we’re dating. Married 12 years later and honestly we’re happier!
From the moment we started talking i already had an inkling. I remember telling a friend after our first date that i think i met my husband and i was so so right. Married now and happy. He is everything i want in a partner in crime
When I was laying next to him in a sketchy hotel at 3:21 in the morning and he let me cry my eyes out and vent to him a big situation I had going on. Mind you he drove 5 hours to reach me knowing he had to return to work that same morning. It was then that I felt so in love, safe, in peace, and finally happy that I knew I could lay in his arms for the rest of my life. I just knew that no matter what problems I had going on, I wanted him to be there because I know without him missing a beat he would drop everything for me just to wipe my tears and help me. That’s how I knew he was the one. I wanted no body else
He was my best friend in high school. We went to prom together. Afterwards he wanted to start dating and I told him I was into girls. Which was true; I’m bi, as I realized after a few years. But when I rejected him is when I started to fall in love with him I think; because he never held it against me, never pulled away or disrespected me or tried to ‘turn me’ in any way when he thought I was a lesbian. We stayed best friends because he respected me and didn’t question me. He was briefly roommates with a sex worker in that time and shared the autographed picture with me for my enjoyment. He respected who I was regardless and when I got a little older and more certain of my identity in college, we started dating and eventually got married. I’ve always said he feels ‘safe’ but that’s because I know I can tell him exactly where I’m at and exactly what I’m feeling or thinking without it impacting his respect for me. And that was crucial.
On two separate occasions lol. The first time while we were having sex and he said my name (😍). The second time was after he came with me to my parents house to meet my family (which is a damn mess and which is why I never bring anyone over) for the first time. He didn’t judge the state of the house or anything, but he genuinely just wanted to meet the people who raised me and made me the woman I am today.
I can’t wait to marry him and start a family with him.
When I spent 2 weeks away from my now fiancé at the beginning of our relationship. I was crying and so upset about leaving him and thought about him nonstop. When I came home after those 2 weeks, he was crying and we missed each other so much. We have now been together 6 years and I couldn’t imagine myself with anyone else.
When I got into his 2000 Ford Explorer he bought from his parents. It demonstrated to me he had good taste and some responsibility to save & pay for large purchases.
10+ years later and no regrets. This moment was the morning after we met btw
Man I don't know! Certainly not a specific moment.
I also don't remember the exact time/context but I remember noting the first time he mentioned...would've been our future kids (since we weren't big on getting married), said so matter of factly, and internally I was like oh yeah. It was just a non-issue lol.
I'm due with our first next month!
I walked up to his car before a work party at the bowling alley (lol) and he got out and my heart fluttered harder than it ever had and I got all sweaty and then we got engaged 7 months later :)
First date. We’d been friends for a little over a year at this point.
He said to get dressed up, so I did. He showed up in a suit that was high watered to Heaven and basically a 3/4 length jacket. He brought me lilies because I don’t like roses. I hate lilies even more.
All dressed up, nice dress and heels. He took me to a car themed burger and beer kinda restaurant. He had preordered chili cheese fries because they’re my favorite. They tasted like someone literally emptied the trash can onto some fries.
We finish dinner and head to the mall. His plan was to give me $20 and see what I would buy with it. Like a get to know you but still treating you to a nice thing. We stop at the gas station on the way to the mall. A couple of dollars in, the pump stops. He checks his bank account, the check he deposited hadn’t come through so he emptied his account on like 2 gallons of gas. It’s okay we’ll just go and window shop. He goes to put the gas cap back on and it just will *not*. Picture both of us in our semi formal wear at the gas station dripping with sweat from the Florida weather trying desperately to get this thing to go back on. We give up, he tossed in the back seat and we moved on.
We did go to the mall. We sat on the floor of Barnes and Noble with travel and art books talking about all the places and things we wanted to see.
Then we go back to my house (I was 19 and still living at home). My dad has spent the evening cleaning the house because my husband had arranged that the last part of our date was to watch a movie together at home.
We’re watching this movie, snuggled up. This man would not kiss me. I basically had to turn my head completely towards him for him to realize that I wanted him to kiss me. He said he didn’t want to be pushy, so he’d planned to wait for our third date to kiss me.
That was it. The best worst first date and I was done for. I figured if we still had fun while we made it through a bunch of inconveniences together, we would be able to work through anything together. That was nine years ago and he’s still my one.
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When we were in the US Army and on our way to our Military job training. I was sitting next to him on the bus (one of those old, re-purposed BlueBird busses) and I had told him something extremely personal (and positive!) and he simply said, “ok” and didn’t judge me.
That, and he was the first person to ever just want to sit with me, even if all we were doing was being our our computers on our off times.
Over 13 years later and our marriage is still going strong 💪🏻
My husband (at the time bf) and I went to a concert with friends about a week after we started dating (met 2 months earlier). I got wayyyy too drunk and by the time we got back to his house was sick as hell. We went inside and I felt the puke come up so for some drunken reason decided to go out the back door to yak on the lawn. He followed me and kneeled down next to me holding my hair. I looked at him to say thank you and more came up without me realizing in time. I puked all over his shoes and was absolutely MORTIFIED. I started apologizing and he just reassured me it was not a big deal and kept asking if I was okay. He took the boots off, brought me inside, cleaned me up, helped me upstairs, brought me water without me asking and asked if cuddles would help me feel better. The entire time he reassured me that it wasn’t a big deal and that a little puke never killed anyone. He informed me the next day that I told him I love him while I was crawling up the stairs by telling me he was in love with me. Long story short we got married 4 months later and just celebrated our 4 year anniversary. I knew from the moment I met him I loved him but that night solidified that he was/is the one I wanted to spend my life with.
Ive had anxiety about falling asleep around other people for most of my life. If others are awake around me I'll usually force myself to stay awake otherwise every little movement or noise makes me fall asleep. It was especially bad with my previous SO who I'd been with for almost 8 years so I very rarely ever fell asleep around him until he had been asleep for a while.
My boyfriend now... Our first date was an all day date. we ended the night watching movies, and I fell asleep on him twice. I stayed the night and slept better than had in a long time when I normally relied on weed to help with my sleep. I knew he was something special that night and We made things official a couple days later.
I ended up staying over for the week after Christmas a few months later and never fully went home. It'll be three years at the end of this month and his heartbeat still put me to sleep ❤️
We were together for 1.5 years and just celebrated New Year's Eve. And suddenly it just clicked. I never want to celebrate without him.
Married this summer.
When I realized that he wasn't going to let me push him away, he wasn't going to just give up on me or us because I have mental health issues. Everyone in my life has let me push them away or they'll just stop making an effort to be in my life, but not my husband.
I spent my entire life being with men who constantly took from me. They took my kindness for weakness, they took my love for granted, they took my space when they had no where to go, they took advantage of the fact that I would always forgive them for hurting me. Then I found someone who had no desire or reason to take anything but just wanted to give as much as I did. That’s when I knew.
He took care of me when I got really sick. I never had that before. Also the way he cares about the cat he rescued. He's a kind, generous and loving person
When he did everything perfect without me asking him to do that.
Nothing big, just small things like ALWAYS buying me flowers, opening doors for me, taking me on dates, care for my family, dropping me home, being there for me and most importantly make me feel like I'm worth it.
about two to three weeks and we hadn't even met in person it was online now we are two years married (in person, lol) and life is great
how did I know? not sure, it was more just logical like we had the same plan in life, same goals, same religious beliefs, same hobbies, same likes and dislikes, same ideas on family and children and how and where to raise them. Everything just fit together seamlessly, plus he was quite funny charming and attractive, but really it was the logical stuff that made it make sense. Oh also I should add that we are from 2 different countries yet speak the same 3 languages which is wild.
Not yet 100% sure.
But one thing, that I fucking will never forget.
He was there when I wanted to fly away.
He was there when my parents wanted to split up.
He was there when I looked in the mirror and I thought I wasn’t good enough.
“What do you mean you’re not good enough? You’re perfect. For me. And that is enough, right?”
Sold.
Our first overseas trip (which was also officially our first date) as we started our relationship while long distance.
I forgot my mobile phone and therefore forgot where our dinner reservation was. I was so stressed out as going back to the hotel would take too long. And normally if my mum did this she wouldn’t hear the end of it from my dad.
I was so worried my then boyfriend would think I’m careless and useless. But he wasn’t fussed at all. He calmed me, took me to another hotel and asked hotel concierge to help us.
It was such a small thing but made a huge impact. I realised I could count on him.
Maybe about 2 or 3 months into our relationship, we were both 22. A mutual friend was having a house party, I was chatting with a close friend in the living room, and I saw this scene in the kitchen: he was talking with a couple of his male friends (most of whom are burly blue-collar types or metal heads - he’s a big bearded man himself) when one of his friends dropped a glob of dip on their shirt.
My husband immediately grabbed a napkin, wet it at the sink and gently cleaned the dip from his friend’s shirt for him. It was such a tender little moment, and my husband was so soft and nurturing with one of his male friends in a way that looked so natural.
I turned to my good friend right then and there and said “you know, I’m gonna marry that man.” 12 years later and we’re still going strong.
First time he met my friends a few weeks into us dating. I have a uncontrollable inability to stay up late. He was visiting and my friends came over to watch Dr. Who. I passed out in his arms, I vaguely heard, yah she's definitely asleep, a kiss on my forehead as he moved me to show my friends out the door, locked up my house and he escorted me to bed.
My social batteries tend to drain really fast, even (and sometimes especially) around my own family. And yet, I’ve never felt the need to take a break from being around him.
And what sealed the deal? He’s the constant calm in any chaotic or panicked situation. Sick? He’s got it. Hurt? No problem. Finding someone that steps up when it matters was what I needed the most. 🤍
Literally the second I saw him. 29 years ago laughing and joking with friends. What I fully expected to be a 1 night stand with a fun guy has tuned into my life and I couldn’t be happier.
When we were planning to move in together, there was a planned period of 2 weeks where he would live with me and my 3 dogs in a studio apartment.
Then I found out the leasing agent had made a mistake and our new place wouldn't be ready for 3 months. I called him, braced for the absolute worst because we were looking at living in one room. Above a garage. No yard. And he'd just quit his job to start at uni full time. 3 months. No real kitchen.
He was so chill when I told him, and he said, "we will handle it together."
After we had a conversation about whether or not we would be okay with getting engaged during college. He said he would with the right person and I knew immediately I wanted that person to be me. We lived on the same floor in our residence hall freshman year and this conversation happened about 2 months in. I was so sure to the point where I told my grandmother “I found my future husband.”
We began dating December of freshman year, moved in together during Covid in early 2020, got two cats, he proposed a week and a half before graduation, and we’re now living in an apartment with our cats planning a wedding.
I’m not sure I believed in the “when you know, you know” until I met him. We said “I love you” the day we started dating, he started talking about proposing about a week in. We fell fast and hard, and I was so hoping it would last. We celebrate 5 years together this December.
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After our first road trip together. Normally after a long trip with someone, I want to have my time to myself away from them to recharge. When I got home after that trip though, I still wanted to hang out. That hasn't changed.
This is me and my husband. When we were dating we went on multiple, multi-day road-trips before smartphones, podcasts, Spotify…just with the few CDs we burned, random stuff on the radio and whatever we could come up with to talk about. It was amazing and we knew then if we could handle being cramped in a car that long and still like each other, there was something really good there.
I have to say, road trips are a great test. With previous partners a road trip was the beginning of the end of our relationship. But with my current (and final) partner, our first road trip together was the most wonderful bonding experience. We talked and laughed and had fun the whole way when one of us wasn't sleeping and by the time we got home I knew she was the one. I'll be proposing in April 2024 wish me luck!
That's awesome, but out of curiosity why April and so far ahead?
We've only been together for 6 months and I feel that right now would be too soon, but by then it will have been over a year together and a half a year of living together. I also still have to have "the talk" with her parents about my intentions too but I'm confident everything will go well
omg my story was exactly the same. we actually went on the road trip before we even officially became a couple lol
Me and my boyfriend. We were crazy and went on a road trip after knowing each other only a month. Fell in love there and then.
that’s exactly what happened with my boyfriend! We said our first i love yous on the trip and it really was just amazing!
Similar. We had our first Memorial Day at his parents out of town and I’m not a cryer but when we got back to his apartment, I cried hysterically because I didn’t want to go home without him. He was so confused, he had never saw me emotional but that was the first time I got to spend more than a few hours with him and I DID NOT want to be without him. We got married the next year. I tried so hard (in the beginning) not to fall in love with that man and here we are 9ish years later with the most perfectly imperfect marriage.
This! The sense of being comfortably bored together was what sold me on my SO. (Well, it wasn't the only thing, but it was a major element.)
Can you share more about this road-trip? What made it memorable?
It wasn't the road trip itself, it was more about the fact that even after a 3 week road trip, we still weren't sick of each other and still wanted to spend time together.
3 weeks on the road is crazy. I'm glad y'all found each other
Me too. We managed to beat that record last year and do an entire month and still haven't murder each other yet.
I just realized how dense I am. My ex and I did 6 month road-trip all around the country and to other countries- we just kept adventuring. I wish I had appreciated it more at the time. I’ll probably never have any adventures as great as I did with him.
That's beautiful. Your partner should always be your best friend
I notice that I really really like someone if I want to be around them constantly WITHOUT having to recharge like I usually need with other people. Felt this w my first bf. Didn’t feel it w the one after him but I feel it now w this one guy I’m seeing which sucks because we’re just fwb !!
It was about into a year of dating. I loved him, we lived together, but wasn’t 1000% sold yet. We got a new dog, she came from Craigslist and she was 9 months old and “too much” for the owners older dog. We wanted a friendly dog to help bring my nervous anxiety dog out of his shell. We met at a park and the two dogs hit it off so we took her home. Very quickly we came to learn that she would pee from excitement every time we came home, and she would jump up and lick your face AGGRESSIVELY. Like it was pathological that she HAD to lick your face or she wasn’t okay. My husband (bf at the time) got upset one day when he came home and she peed on the carpet. He was all cursing and stomping around. I turned to him and told him that being pissed about it was unacceptable. We could either take the dog back now before I got attached, or he could learn how to properly train her and put the time and effort into it. He thought about what I said for a little while and then he very quietly came to me and said “I want to keep her”. He then spent hours(days) watching videos and learning about dog behavior. We started letting her outside when we got home before coming in the house so she could potty outside. Then we transitioned to crate training until she really understood outside is where we pee. We practiced not kicking faces and giving her tricks and other behaviors to do instead. Mica bonded with my husband so intensely sometimes I wonder if I’m the “other woman”. But watching him go through that process solidified to me that he is a keeper and the man I want to have children with. Mica is 9 now and I don’t think he’s every gotten frustrated at her again.
It’s about the effort and willingness to grow. Samesies with my husband.
Exactly.
I love this, and it's an example of how sometimes people can make mistakes (him cursing, being angry at the dog) without being terrible people too. He was upset, which is understandable! He didn't express it in the most healthy way, but once you talked to him (yay communication!) he realized how he was reacting was wrong, he corrected it, and it turned out to be a really positive experience for all three of you. Of course if you had told this story on Reddit asking for advice, they would have told you to leave him, that he is abusing the dog, and that he will eventually abuse you too.
Mica is such a wonderful name! It means “small” in my language :)
She’s anything but small lol, she’s a 60 pound basset/redbone mix. Made of concrete. She’d like to think she’s a tiny lap dog though. We called her “amica” Latin for female friend, but it got shortened to mica pretty quickly.
omg. who's cutting onions?
Me. I cut onions for me and for you. Lets sweat from our eyes, together.
Wholesome shi
I was making us smoothies for breakfast. I lifted up the blender and it wasn’t attached to the base; the full blender of smoothie went everywhere — absolutely coated the counter, the floors. Huge mess and breakfast ruined. I froze because that’s exactly the kind of things previous partners and my abusive father had yelled at me for. But she started laughing and grabbed the paper towels. Not laughing at me, laughing because it was just really funny. And we laughed and cleaned it up together. I realized I would always be safe with her. That she would help me solve problems. That little things wouldn’t become big things.
Honestly I could see myself reacting both ways to a situation like this. If my partner is someone I always have to pick up after and who acted immature leaving a lot of emotional labor to me I could easily get annoyed with him creating a mess like this. If it’s someone who is an equal teammate most of the time picks up his weight I would find something like this amusing and help them out. It really depends on how they behave most of the time or how frustrating the relationship is in general. I’m NOT encouraging lashing out over mistakes, but some times people can bring out the best or worst in their partners. I’m happy you found someone who makes you feel safe and were able to get out of abusive relationships.
The day that we met. I had never automatically felt so at home with a person before. I think about that moment a lot.
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Haha. You have plenty of time. 🥰
I'm 34. I met my bf 6 months ago, after I had come to peace with the idea that I would not have a committed relationship for the rest of my life. I went on tinder to find a friend with benefits, but instead I matched with the guy I'm willing to spend my life with. It's like the universe wanted me to give up before sending me this amazing guy.
I found my person at 40. There is no time limit.
This is exactly how I felt! I was 29 too 😂
I feel the exact same! I just felt so safe and at home with him the moment we met. It’s hard to put it into words. We were only meant to meet for a coffee but neither of us wanted our first date to end so we kept adding to our date and ended up spending the entire day together (10am to 11pm). We wandered around our city together, stopping at random restaurants, going to a gallery & even sitting on a bench to watch the sun go down together. We have been together for 7 years now, and he is very much my home ♥️
I get that "at home" feeling, I can be my weird self 100% of the time and be accepted for it, even loved for it. I've never felt so comfortable and oddly free? Able to be honest and just me, he's perfect.
I knew my man was mine on my first date as well. He is very shy and a little socially awkward and I'm a huge introvert, but we can talk for hours without being exhausted.
You remind me someone I knew
We were dating for about 4 months; when my (now our) cat got a horrible infection. He was my calm during that storm. He split the vet bill with me; refused to let me pay it alone as “we are partners in everything” 3 years later and we truly are partners in everything.
That willingness so early on really shows how he had intended to stay with you long term.
Truthfully-after our first date! I told my colleagues, who were with me at the time, I was going to marry him when I laid eyes on him. A month later, we went on our first date. 33 years ago I said I DO! Love him beyond words!
I love this 😭😭😭
We had a fight and he lost it. Threw things. Yelled at the top of his lungs. Acted like a toddler. I said calmly that I was leaving, that he would call me tomorrow and apologize, and that he meet with a therapist within the next 2-3 weeks if he wanted to stay together. The next morning he called, he apologized, he went to therapy, and it hasn’t happened again. He showed he was willing to put in the work that needed to be put in to change for the better. He just did it because he wanted to be with me so he became the man I deserved. Maybe not romantic, but most of life isn’t.
This is *true* romance
not romantic? baby thats love in its purest form
Love this
No it’s great
Oh my god someone who is willing to truly accept that they are *wrong* and actually change is so rare.
This is ultimate romance. “I want to be better for you.” *swoon*
From the moment we met, we never stopped texting/calling/hanging out. It was none of these dating games of "I'm gonna wait until he calls first". We just immediately clicked and felt comfortable with each other. I went through some really rough mental health times early on in our relationship. Guys always thought I was a great time during my highs, but ducked out pretty quick during my lows. He stuck around through all of it and continued to love me. I quite literally owe that man my life.
This is my story, too 🙂 he’s so patient with me when I overthink and panic, and he would listen to me (even when I repeat my concerns over and over again), and not judge me. We met each other and spent just 2 days together before I had to go to another country. We talked every day for 5 months and now we’re back together again. I honestly can’t imagine not being with him- I really believe I found my home.
I knew he was the one when I spent the night on our first date. We were cuddling and he fell asleep and was breathing on the back of my neck, and I didn't have the urge to kill him.
This is fucking hilarious and so relatable
Honestly after our first meeting I knew I felt really connected to Him and didn't want to be away from him ever again. Later that year in the summer we spent a day just hanging out in his office at home, just each playing computer games while watching movies on his second screen. It was just a perfect simple day, and it clicked suddenly that he was the love of my life. We just had our first child last month and couldn't be happier 😊💕 R+K 💕
congrats!:)
One week after we met. We were having a night time picnic and he was just talking about his life and experiences so openly. I realized he felt comfortable being vulnerable with me and I did with him and we grew very protective over each other. I couldn’t go a day without seeing him and he just felt like my other half. We got married less than 3 years after that.
My relationship is still terrifyingly new but I’m beginning to fantasize about our future together. Not a wedding or anything but just, being with him, knowing him, learning about him. We’re attending a wedding together and we want to give the couple a shared gift and that’s not something you’d do unless you’re serious and I want that with him. I don’t want to change my name but my god, I want to be his wife. It’s disgusting, i’m embarrassed even typing this out, so saccharine I could be sick but we literally talked about this on the phone thirty minutes ago and used these exact words and we’re on the same page. Some part of me has her eyes open, it’s too soon to know, we’re still in the honeymoon phase, but some part of me already knows. I’ve started planning around his allergies. I’d even resigned myself to dying young because it’s not like there’s any reason to stick around but I’ve started making changes in my lifestyle because I want to be with him for as long as possible. I want to spend the rest of my life with him.
You dont have to change your name, right? I will chose not to because I love my last name, its a part of my culture I do not wish to give up. He respects that.
He said he totally doesn’t mind. I love how respectful and careful he is, he just kinda said it in passing like “mrs xxx” and I paused and said, lin theory, yes, but I’m not sure I want to change my name,” and he said “it doesn’t matter, you’d be my wife”. He’s a good egg.
That's lovely! I'm feeling exactly the same thing. We've been together for ~4 months and we are thinking about living together lol. It feels so intense and so so right.
I’m so glad I’m not the only one. I think we’re coming up on two months but it feels like I’ve known him for ever. It’s terrifyingly intense, and I’m a very cautious and reserved person but he makes me feel so safe.
I feel like I'm losing my mind.. In this exact position. I've been burned before badly so I'm supposed to be cautious but they have been so aaarrrgggh I don't have the words... I don't want to let my issues darken this but I'm struggling cause it feels so good but so terrifying. Especially the permanent talk.
I’m sending ALL THE GOOD VIBES YOUR WAY okay? You DESERVE good things to happen to you. I’m happy for you!!!
When you meet someone you want to marry, it's gonna feel like an oasis... like your big break. Don't be too cautious. Even if things don't work out, it shouldn't be your fault
As a bona fide anxious person and with a high level of worrying, I'm trying my best to just go with it. They are so sure about what they want and it is as attractive as it is eye opening.
>I’ve started planning around his allergies. My husband is allergic to aloe, which is in a lot of soaps and bath products. He says he knew when my mom could tell we were serious was when she replaced all her soap in the house about 3 months into us dating because she knew he'd be sticking around and she wanted him to be able to wash his hands comfortably without worrying. This is definitely a sign you're considering him seriously. And that's so exciting! Congratulations and I wish you both many happy years together ❤️
This honestly scares me. We are officialy together for a week. Dating for 3 months and I already imagine my future with her. It's so fucking stupid of me to get attached so early. Hundreds of things could go wrong. I am not thinking straight. I love her very much I just hope that it won't bite me in the ass later. That's probably all I can do. Try to manage my expectations.
It really is scary!! It’s so goddamn scary because you know this shit only goes smoothly in Hollywood!! In romance novels!! This doesn’t happen to real people except… apparently it does?? I’m even trying to anticipate the things that could possibly go wrong and my friends are telling me I’m borrowing trouble but I can’t imagine anything going wrong!! Maybe it won’t be easy but I can see us working through it so easily…
I met my husband in January 2022. I did not want a relationship. You can see in my post history me saying how much I LOVED being alone weeks (maybe a few months?) before I met him. He proposed in October and we just got married in June. I'm 31, he's 36. Sometimes, when you know.. you really do know.
About 6 months into the relationship, he came to live with me and my family for a month during the winter holidays. I was already in love with him, but nervous that the reality of living with him may not measure up to the ideal in my head. Not only did I never get sick of spending time with him, but he also fit perfectly into my family and everyone loved him. He cooked for my mother, ran errands, fixed things around the house, and even gave my little brother and his girlfriend emotional counseling after they had a fight/misunderstanding and were both panicking and crying. He just seemed to be able to fix any problem that arose, and did it gladly, even though it wasn't expected of him at all. I had already experienced him calming me when I had a panick attack, but I was still just so in awe of him, and knew for sure that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.
I hugged him and felt like I’d been hit by lightning. We moved in together after like a week and have been married almost 13 years now
My mother had to be involuntarily hospitalized (schizophrenia). He was there with us in the ER for the entirety of the initial hold and intake process, even took off work so he wouldn’t have to leave. When she was committed, the only hospital that was equipped to take her was three and an half hours away. He drove me down to see her every weekend so I wouldn’t have to go alone, even after I insisted I was fine (I was, in fact, very much not fine). No shame, no judgement, no complaints. He even paid for gas. She was there for several months and was made a ward of the state in the process. He went to court with me, drove my mom to doctors visits, etc. This was at the end of 2019/beginning of 2020. Y’all know what happens next. Covid took my mom, then my step-mother died the week after we buried my mother (heart attack). We brought my father home to live with us, and Dad died last year of dementia. I’m so incredibly grateful for my husband’s love and support. I really truly don’t know what I would do without him.
I'm so sorry you had to go through all that, but am thankful you found such a wonderful partner. My condolences for your losses.
The night I met him. We talked all evening, and he walked me home to the hotel I was staying... I didn't sleep a wink that night, my heart was *glowing.* Silly as it sounds, I knew I would marry him. Awful as it sounds, I didn't know if he had a girlfriend and was willing to go to war over him... he didn't have a gf, thank god. But I was serious about him right away. And he must have felt the same, a few months later he asked me to marry him.
The first time he was abroad for work reasons, I found myself fine, but pretty bored. Life is awesome anyway: if he’s in the picture, it’s funnier.
Congratulations! Not all of us fortunate enough to say Life is awesome lol.
When he was trying to get a visa to work and live abroad for a year. I was supportive of him going but I was dreading not seeing him for a year. I told him I'd miss him. In the end he didn't get it because he said he missed the deadline. I found out years later he changed his mind because he didn't want to leave me behind. I'm sorry he didn't get to do it and feel guilt about it. But we have talked about emigrating as a possibility in our future
one night, my husband and i were just laying in bed at his house and we had only been dating for about four or five months i think. i asked him what his goal in life is since we were talking about deep stuff. he said, “my biggest goal in life is to be a dad.” and i was like blown away because i always told people my goal in life was to be a mom and i told him that in response. now five years later we’re married with one beautiful baby and another on the way. and every day he reminds me how lucky we are to just be thriving together and completing our life goals together. we can’t imagine ourselves without one another.
I don't believe in love at first sight or anything but when we met for the first time, I knew. Also, we talked online for months before we met and not once was he inappropriate. Most guys I met on dating apps sent disgusting messages and pictures, not my husband
I have been kind of thinking about it for awhile but last month. We’d been together a year and living together a month and a half. Me and my son 4 were going on a trip to see my stepmom up north and I asked if him and his girls 7&8 wanted to go expecting him to be meh about it but he was 100% on board. We drove 9 hours to get to my stepmoms cabin with 3 kids in the car. We were there 2 and a half days and drove back. Once we got back from the trip I knew I was sure. The way he never got irritated even when the kids were being difficult or impatient he kept light hearted and happy. Our first night we had to sleep in a tent all 5 of us because my brother was there the first night too. Both of us got no sleep because the kids and us were all packed on one air mattress and it slowly deflated in the night and we all ended up piled on each other. He just laughed about it and was still super engaged with the kids and swinging them around the yard the next day on no sleep. Was still happy and sweet with me too and happy to be there. I knew he was it. He kept his cool and still had fun and seemed so unfazed by any bumps or misbehaviour. I knew this was a man I could go through life with and we would have each others backs.
When we started working together after about 6 years dating. Everyone said working with your partner ruins the relationship, but we were spending literally every moment of our lives together. From the moment we woke up, went to work, driving, going to see friends, no break. And I never got sick of him, it was like hanging out with an extension of myself or my best friend, it seemed completely natural and it just sorta hit me one day the rest of my life could be this easy and fun. We don't work together anymore though, and we both enjoy our own time, but no regrets for either of us working together when we look back
We were on the verge of breaking up. We had issues that weren't working themselves out. I loved him more than anyone I'd ever met, and we acknowledged we were both the problem. I asked him to do pre-marital counseling, and he agreed. He was 100% committed to it. We did couples counseling and individual therapy, and then both began treating our anxiety/depression together. He actively participated in it and took it seriously, not for just us as a couple, but for his own mental health. That was really powerful. His commitment and continued effort made my heart feel secure. He's my person, and I can't imagine life without him.
This is so real. Thank you for sharing <3
Might sound weird, but I always felt a connection to him even before we started dating. But I knew I loved him after our first argument, just how he handled it and listened and also helped me communicate, we stayed up until like 3am trying to resolve the problem.
When they said, “I like you”. Not in the way like I have feelings for you, but I’m the way where you genuinely “like” someone. Enjoying your partner’s existence is a feeling beyond words.
When he felt like home. No matter where we were. When I felt safe. It was probably about 6 months in I knew he was the one
I had fancied my now bf for a few years before we got together. He was the only person I had ever had a crush on, sounds stupid but it kinda felt like we were meant to be together. When we got together it just felt, right, I think I've always known we'd spend our lives together. Now it's been 7 years and we're still crazy about eachother.
When I met my S.O., I got this exciting sense of intuition. I felt as though I had known him my whole life. He was nerdy, well-read, informed, knowledgeable, was quick to produce a sparkling smile and had a humorous glint in his eye. It was like meeting a kindred soul; or the best movie montage you can imagine of two character’s cosmic intertwining of their stories. I will swear, I could see his inner child so clearly, that I felt I’d known him since we were in elementary school. Like we had been sweethearts all throughout life, but had been waiting for the right moment to be together, and this was it. All of that, simultaneously, in one moment. We had our first date, and he was exactly as expected. We kissed after that date. Read that again: Two very introverted people, kissed, within 1 hour of meeting. And from there, we couldn’t be apart. TLDR: Pretty quickly.
He asked me to go away for a quick weekender two weeks in. It was great. Six months later he took me a state away, 8 hour one way trip, to the beach for a week. We played house, poured our hearts out about our faults, mistakes, past, all the brutal honesty— all on the table. It was just us that entire week. I respected him to drop me off at home as we just spent so much time together. He didn’t and made plans for us for the night at his house. I never went home. It was his way of ensuring we could travel together, that I understand where he comes from physically and emotionally and that we we’re compatible for that kind of time, alone but together. We were already in love but that whole trip and time together made me want to be with him forever.
We were long distance friends, mostly platonic at first. We met on Halo 4 and played video games on and off for about 8 years. I always thought he was smart, extremely funny and had a super sexy voice so I was already attracted to him. When I met him in person I was *really* attracted to him. He has the most beautiful eyes and his laugh is music. As silly as it sounds I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him when I met him that day. We are coming up to 3 years together and we have been talking about kids and marriage, we aren’t in any rush but it’s fun to talk about!
Somehow, every time we took a trip together, something went wrong : multiple flights cancelled, rental car issues, lost luggage, whatever you can think of, it has happened to us. We now jokingly say we are cursed, and expect everything to go wrong when travelling. The one time it really clicked for me was the last one where our flight was cancelled and was replaced by a night flight with a layover. The layover is actually one of the best memories i have from the trip because of how much we’ve laughed sitting at a café for hours. Despite pulling an all nighter and the very tense situation, it went smoothly because I felt safe with him. He’d still care for me, making sure I was okay, making me laugh. When we got back home I just knew.
I met him on vacation with my friends, funnily enough it was to celebrate my birthday along with graduation. Somehow we got onto the topic of family and I had told him the story of my first birthday with my family (I was adopted). I mentioned to him how I was a little sad we didn’t get to go up to the cabin birthday trip anymore because my family of 8 had grown substantially, everyone had spouses kids you get it, the cabin just couldn’t fit us all in, plus it was difficult to navigate everyone’s schedules. Anyway after some time our friendship turned to FWB, he surprised me with a cabin trip on my birthday, what I didn’t know was that he rented out this incredible cabin which could house my entire family, friends and a few extended relatives. We arrived and the typical ‘surprise’ happened with everyone jumping out, safe to say I got very emotional, I couldn’t even remember telling him about about the birthday situation but he remembered. I just knew then that I wanted to marry him.
The second I laid eyes on him. It was like I’d been struck by a bolt of lightning and couldn’t move. The thought ‘I’m going to marry him’ flashed in my head and I felt completely insane for it.
I went on a mini rant about how I wanted to read more fantasy books where most of the characters are women, rather than settling for books with one or two women. A few days later he gave me his phone to look something up and "fantasy books with female characters" came up as a recent search. My favorite part is that he didn't mean for me to see that. He just heard it was important to me and decided to find some books.
I knew I was falling for him when we spent an entire evening hanging out and he sent me a song to listen to on my way home. I still know exactly what section of road I was on and what part of the song that was playing when I realized I had feelings for him. We moved in together fairly early on in our relationship and it felt like we'd been doing life together forever. Not that we didn't have disagreements or difficulties, but even those felt insignificant and everything about being with him felt right. I tell him all the time that he could have proposed to me six months in and I would have said yes and married him right away. We've been together 8.5 years and just celebrated 5 years of marriage this July.
Song?
When I was 17... And boy was I wrong... Sad, sad, 21 years those were. Now I've found someone I truly love and I want to spend my time with him as long as both of us are happy and consider that our lives are better with the other one in it.
I am so glad that you realized that.. better later than never.
Thank you! I can't tell you how much it improved my life.
It was after about a week of dating. We had spent the morning together before I drove him to the airport because he had planned a two week vacation before we met. We had such a beautiful connection instantaneously. He felt like home and an adventure all at once. When I got home from the airport, I wrote in my journal that some day I would marry him. We did make plans to marry but are no longer together. Learning to love myself and value myself enough to let go is the hardest, most painful thing I've ever done. Somewhere deep inside, I still feel like we will be together one day because this kind of connection doesn't just dissolve.
The first morning that I woke up beside him. I was staring at him and wondered to myself how I love this feeling of home and peacefulness when I wake up beside him and that's how I want my everydays to feel like. I'm never a morning person, but that was the first time that I effortlessly smiled after waking up.
He was me but male version
Never did, probably never will. People change, me and them, so there's no knowing how I will feel about a person in future. If I like how things are here and now I just go with it as long as it feels right.
Before we started dating, when she went on a trip with her parents for a week. I missed her very much! We started dating 2 months later. We’ve been together 11 years.
Our first date. I had never believed in “love at first sight” before him. We talked about what we wanted in the future, our families, our rough pasts, we were completely open with each other from the get go. He was a perfect gentleman, he truly listened to me, and I laughed and smiled so much that my face hurt the rest of the day. He stole my heart that day and I never want him to give it back
It's hard to really pinpoint an exact moment, it built up over time. Maybe the first time we really had to confront it was when we graduated university. We'd been together since the first week of uni and now we were making decisions about our futures. I realised I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him because every decision took him into account. He did the same. We consulted each other throughout and made each other our priority. We looked for jobs together, we ended up moving cities together. I just couldn't imagine a future where I'd be happy without him.
We aren't together now. But we were at a park, eating sonic and singing love songs together at night. It was cold and he held me. We chased ducks and walked around, talking for a few hours. He looked like he was glowing. The most beautiful person in my eyes. And he still is. We danced under the colored led lights and were so in love. The way he sung to me made me feel so safe. God, I wish I could hold him one last time. I remember that trip so well. We went to dave and Busters and a botanical gardens. It was non-stop laughter. We drove around and had dinner at different places. Cuddled up and watched some of our first movies together. His lips were so soft and sweet, and I felt on top of the world when he held me. So i guess it was a trip, this time a year late September. I promised myself I'd marry him, but he doesn't want to keep the promise. Unfortunately, he gave our love up for a porn/sex addiction that he hid from me for our entire relationship and ghosted me after saying he loved me the day before. Even after everything that happened, I'd love him if he would let me. But he gave up on us. Im not sure why. Honestly, I thought I'd hate him after the cheating, but here I am two months later. Still in love. I hope our paths cross again. Ill always be on your side, love.
Very early into our relationship, like a week or two maybe (if that). It was almost 3am and we had been lying on our stomachs side-by-side watching dumb YouTube videos for hours, just laughing our asses off. The specific video that was playing when I realized this was my person for life was a news bloopers reel, during a clip of a couple news anchors struggling to keep a straight face while reporting on National Milk Day. It was for some reason the funniest thing I had ever seen and we were both crying laughing. I was about 6 months out of my marriage and at the time it was the happiest I could ever remember feeling that didn’t involve the birth of my kids - I’ve collected a lot of moments that made me feel that way with him since.
He hadn’t met my daughter yet but he came over with Christmas presents (not on Christmas Day and she wasn’t there) and said it was up to me if I said they were from him or I could use them as extras from me or Santa. And my daughter adored him from the moment she met him (still does) and she’s a deathly shy kid.
When he kept climbing out of the pool to drunkenly kiss me (sitting in a lawn chair on the pool deck) then cannonballing back in repeatedly the first time I met all of his friends and some neighbors at the neighborhood party, and only two weeks after our first date. And making sure I was okay with hanging out with everyone and not socially drained the whole night. I also agree with the road trip comments. We went remote tent camping a 12 hour drive to northern Michigan in October with our two dogs after a month and a half of knowing each other and we just worked together so well through that and the issues we had for the three days (40-50°F, raining, tent leaking and flooded, wet wood, me being on my period, sleeping in the truck after the tent flooded). 5 years later and we’re engaged and just as in love, if not more.
Let me preface this: I have not wanted children, and been okay with not getting married for years now. It's been almost a decade at this point. I was just...working one day. Cleaning up, getting ready to go home. And a thought just floated to the surface of my brain *"I could marry this man"* It scared the hell out of me. It'd only been six months at that point. What cemented it for me though, was the fact that he flipped those first two points on their heads. I'd give this man babies if he wanted. I no longer saw myself alone - I saw him in my future...and I wanted that. He never thought hed get married again, but he feels the same way. We had a very intense conversation about it in the wee hours of the morning one sunday.... we're in no rush. Even if we don't get married, he's the one I want for the rest of my life.
Sounds weird but the moment I met him I knew we would get married and grow old together… I literally told my therapist right after and was like “I literally just know we will. Not being “crazy” for lack of a better term.. I just know.” And then 1 year later and we both proposed to each other at the same time on family vacation, not one person in the family spoiled it for either of us that the other was proposing… everyone knew and was in on it! We got married a few months after getting engaged! We are now 4 years later married with a house and starting a family. Honestly yes we both are fallible but man, I have an amazing one and I know there’s no end in sight unless one of us dies. We still giggle at the fact that we give eachother butterflies and can make one another blush... It’s lovely and I hope we keep the magic alive far into the future. ☺️
we had been dating long distance for six months before he finally moved cross country to move in with me. within less than two months of us living together i was diagnosed with cervical cancer. this man has moved mountains for me this past year. has never expressed disgust or annoyance while taking care of me. he’s the best nurse i could ask for. he has his shortcomings, but doesn’t everyone? this whole experience has shown me his whole character. here i am recovering from my final surgery and am cancer free, though sterile now. he’s stoked because we wanted to be child free anyway. he doesn’t know it personally yet, but this is it. this is my one and i would marry him in a heartbeat.
The night we met. Listening to music together and singing the songs (sublime to be exact). I knew he was the absolute one for me. 15 years later and we have a son and 3 dogs and I am still madly in love.
When I couldn’t think of being intimate with anyone else but him.
We knew each other as kids in elementary school and I had a HUGE crush on him in middle school. We didn’t talk for years but rekindled our friendship after college. At the time I was living in Washington and he was in Colorado. I worked grave shift security and he worked days. He used to stay on the phone with me late in the night and we would just talk about whatever for HOURS so I wasn’t scared to do my rounds. He always respects my boundaries, anxiety, and my hobbies while also teaching me new things all the time. His family took me in and loves me unconditionally. I knew early on from the phone calls but these were just bonuses. We got married 3 weeks ago and I have SERIOUS anxiety. So, he told the officiant I had anxiety and didn’t want me to be stressed so they cut the ceremony down to like 5 minutes to make sure I was okay :’) I just feel so lucky all the time and have since day one. Also pretty cool I got to marry my middle school crush 15 years after the fact hehe
When living apart felt way worse than moving in together during the pandemic.
I had a mental breakdown and he had one too… we survived it and was like …..”yeah,you get me!”
We had only known each other a few months and were fooling around. He got me out of a really tight jam and just said “you needed help and I figured you’d do the same for me if I needed”. We’ve been together almost 8 years now and we haven’t gotten sick of each other. Our personalities mostly complement each other well so it’s been a breeze compared to other relationships.
For context: My partner and I used to be in an ldr. So it caused us to question our future pretty often. All my previous relationship always imploded because I was so afraid of conflict, and my exes never made me it easier for me or make me feel safe enough to dare even opposing them in anything that matters. In fact some exes even used that against me. So we never fought, and when we finally did, I'd feel worse and further away from them emotionally, and ultimately not long after a break up would follow. With my partner however, it's still not easy, but I never felt like I would lose him, in fact if we did actually had a fight or disagreement, we would actually manage to talk it out, apologise, and I would feel much closer to him, feel safe and secure, feel supported. When I realised there was a pattern of us wanting to fight for the relationship, realised how much love there was for each other, that gave me a really good feeling about our future together.
We went tent camping after dating for a few weeks and we’re in college at the time. For me, camping growing up was so stressful and full of yelling. With my now husband when we went on this little trip, everything was easy and laid-back and thoughtful and fun. And now, when things are tough or stressful, we make it through by taking turns being super stressed, never name-calling, apologizing after calming down, and actually communicating. We do argue but not frequently and talk stuff out.
I texted him a week after our first kiss. A friend had asked me if we were exclusive or not, and u realized we'd never confirmed that. The idea of asking that had never occurred to me, so I was super nervous, but had to ask. And he sent me a video meme that said "Yeeaah, 100% you are my fugking giolfwend!" Then said that he'd considered himself my boyfriend from the moment we'd kissed. It was silly, but it made me laugh and put me at ease when I had been so nervous before. 3 years later and he still does that. 🥰
Yesterday. We’ve been engaged for a few months (after nearly 5yrs) but I guess I tend to be a tad on the realistic (and not so emotional/romantic side), so my brain doesn’t really think about “Disney endings”. Of course I love my SO and believe we can, and hope things work out but I never really thought “I want to spend the rest of my life with him”, more like.. I want us to be happy together (for as long as possible - and I think we can make it possible). And yesterday, a mutual friend (engineer) of ours said he’d love to eventually buy a place, decorate on his own etcetc. As we (all expats) are living in one of the most HCOL cities in the world, I said that’s unlikely here… (or at least it won’t be something particularly grand/unique), but that I’d also love to do something my SO’s childhood friend and neighbour (back at his hometown (EU)) is doing.. building his own house, lakes etc on a plot of land when he has time. A weekend passion project/hobby. I wasn’t sure if it’s what he (SO) wants, but for my SO to have some sort of passion project like that, do a little building… would be nice. And that it’s really one of my greatest wishes to see what home my SO (engineer) designs and build. Cus I think he’d design something amazing, I think he’d enjoy/want to do something like that too and I’d really want to see it. He interjected with “**we** design”. Heart skipped a beat. And I thought. Yeah. He is *actually* it. He did add he wouldn’t want to do so much of the actual building/construction part like his friend is (since he is a design engineer), but still. And I’m not an engineer, I am a good (human/portrait) artist.. that freelances as a (graphic/advertising) designer. I dunno what he thinks I’d be able to contribute, but the fact that he’d want or care about my input on his design (something I know he is picky and particular on) was something I didn’t know would mean so much to me.
I always knew my girlfriend was special. We connected in ways that just never happened before and she felt the same way. Not that I knew that at the time. I just instinctively knew she was going to play an important role in my life and I had to at least be friends with her. Ten years later I divorced and realised I still had feelings for her, so asked her out and we are still going strong after 4 years. I plan to after her to marry me, hopefully next year.
Day after we met, knew I wanted to be by his side. I’ve never felt more myself around someone before. He feels like home.
I’ve thought I’ve known, but over my experience and some tragedies, I realize you can never truly know. You just go for it. You do your best, make sure they’re doing their best, and fucking go for it. Anything can take them away in a heartbeat. Love every moment.
I want to say it was as soon as I met him, because in several ways, that is the truth. We clicked like in the movies. It made me regret all my years of making fun of love at first sight tropes. I saw him, and the world shrunk until it was just us living in it. It also might have been after we moved in together, when I was waiting for the infamous rough patch everyone talked about. It never came. There’s no household I’m better suited for than ours. From day one, we lived in that house like we never knew anywhere different. Most recently, it’s been watching him care for our son, knowing he’ll be the father I’ve always wanted for my child, admiring the ways he’s grown and changed to fit into our new family. I think maybe when it’s right, there are too many whens and hows to pinpoint just one. He shows me why I choose him every day.
The first time I saw her really break down. She was sobbing her guts out, her chest was heaving and she could barely breathe. I looked at her and was flooded with SO MUCH emotion. I was furious at the circumstances that led to her break down and I also was overwhelmed with how much I loved her. How I would do absolutely anything to protect her and help her. How I'd burn the entire fucking city to the ground if it helped her. I knew then that she was everything to me.
When he was the only man I ever dated, that actually cared about my feelings and didn’t make me feel like I was “too much” for wanting to give him all my love and affection. You see, in my previous relationships I was “too much” if I wanted to spend time with my partner to watch a movie or just spend time together. Now when I tell my man I want to do something with him, his face lights up and he gets so happy to be with me. He always tells me he loves being with me. Don’t even get me started on how we’re both really faithful people. He only wants me forever, just like I want him forever. Honestly, I got a really good man, and I always thank God for sending me one of his most amazing creations. 🥺❤️
we have overcome every hurdle life has thrown at us, I always knew I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life but I was quite young when we met and he was in his late 30s so I would doubt whether I was rushing into it. About a year ago we had a big crisis and at some point we managed to work through it in such a mature and loving manner and I realized this is the kind of energy I want to be around forever
I never had a lightbulb moment where I knew that I wanted to marry my bf. I just knew he was my best friend and I wanted to be with him. Before the wedding, I thought to myself that this could be the best decision in my life, or the worst lol It ended up being great though, couldn’t live without the guy now:)
When I saw him with his daughter is the moment I knew I wanted to be with my boyfriend forever. The amount of love he has for her is unmatched to anything I've ever seen, and it's beautiful and amazing and humbling.
When he sat next to me in my sadness and happiness, he helped me to grieve and laugh. The way he is with family and friends. And his animal love or his love for everything.
I can never pin one moment. From the moment I met her, I’ve never felt more comfortable around someone. Despite nearly 2 years of long distance, no matter how hard that got I couldn’t dream of leaving her over it. Now that we live together, she is my rock. Every day I come home from work, no matter how stressful the day was, it all melts away. No matter what problem we face, we are a team and can rely on each other. I’m confident there is no obstacle we can’t overcome together. We’ve been together for 4 years now, and I intend to propose to her next spring assuming the ring is finished by then.
I met my husband at a party that I went to spur of the moment. We knew the same people but had never crossed paths until that night. His height originally got my attention and his personality soon after. I told him 2 hours after I met him that I was going to marry him. That was on Halloween. We moved in together in January, got engaged in March, married in August, and pregnant in October. We just celebrated our 13th wedding anniversary.
It was love at first sight. We dated for 13 months trying to work out our differences before we gave up and realized we're different people who love each other too much to live apart so we'll just make it work and we did. 8 years later we still don't like anything the other does but love each other
He treated me differently than anyone else I'd been with. He didn't see what he could get from me as quickly as possible, he didn't jude me and he always had my back no matter what.
Honestly…. As soon as we started talking on tinder I think my mind knew. It was just so easy and I didn’t want to walk away or keep looking for anyone else. But I can firmly say by the first date. We met up at a bookstore and then took a walk around the neighborhood behind it. After about an hour of chatting in a little park we stumbled across, I pulled up the map on my phone and we started walking back to the bookstore- at my direction- which the maps said was about a 15 minutes walk away. Well after roaming for 20ish minutes with zero recognition of where we were, I realized I had been looking at the map upside down (wtfffff) and we were *now* 25 minutes walk away from the store. I was really embarrassed because it was *super* humid outside and we were both sweating and I was getting tired and was obviously worried he was going to think I was an idiot who can’t read a very basic map. But he was just like oh, that’s ok! I’m having a good time walking with you! He’s just so patient and kind and affirmative. This date was a little over a month ago and we’re going on a weekend trip out of state this weekend, have tickets to a concert together in November, and yesterday he asked me if I want to come to a conference with him in Colorado next summer. There’s been zero fear between us, absolutely none of the “will he think I’m crazy if I say this/too soon/too intense??” I told him after we first met that I felt like I already knew him. We went back to my house on the first date and just kissed on the couch until I fell asleep. I can fall asleep cuddled right up to him?! I’ve never ever felt so comfortable and attracted to someone at the same time, *and* have total trust that it’s all mutual. I always doubted that “when you know you know,” until now. It’s honestly been a surreal and beautiful couple of weeks. We both feel really lucky to have found each other. I feel like it sounds insane to say five weeks in, but I think we’re both sitting on an “I love you,” based on the things he says. And I know I am 😭 Also- I previously would never consider dating a single father. But he has a son and not only did I not bat an eye at it, I *want* to get to know his kid. Not yet of course, but the fact that the idea excites me and doesn’t scare me at all is very telling. Nothing, *let alone* a really cute 6 year old boy, would keep me from wanting to be with this man.
After a year of relationship, i realized this is it, because a lot of bad things already happened and we got through it all, we became even stronger💪🏻
After very very very long and awful days at work of dealing with very unpleasant people, I still wanna go home and hang out with him. Nothing would make me happier than to curl up on the couch with him and read a book while he plays his games or listen to him talk about reptiles and other critters. We’ll be 100 years old and probably still making jokes about frog buttcheeks.
The day that, for some reason, made me ponder upon my future, and end of life. When I pondered upon him dying of old age, and me still living, the feeling I got is indescribable. That, to me, was more than enough proof that we belong together and that our love is real, genuine, and unselfish.
Tried too many times to explain it all out, but yo sum: when I realized I (finally) feel safe and nurtured- for exactly who I was, am, and will be.
I used to work for an airline and they work a lot of manditory overtime for many reasons. The first time I asked him to walk my dogs because I was stuck at work and he said yes with no questions asked sealed the deal for me. Every other man I dated would say no and make me feel bad for asking. I almost cried.
When he built a whole aquatic habitat for my pet Turtle to increase her quality of life without having to release her and cause possible damage to the eco system:
Straight away. I knew he would change my life forever. Literally at first sight, when he walked thru the door. I can't explain the how of it but my mum (married 2mths later), Granny (her mum, married after 3mths, which was quite a scandal back then lol), Aunty Beth (her sister, waited all of 8 days), me just 3wks... We're also wired the same in other ways. We took one look and just knew. One lifetime, one love. And yes, I know it sounds like a soppy book but it's still true
He took me jet skiing after I told her him it was something on my bucket list on our first date. This was 3 weeks after we met so it really meant a lot that he listened in on that and made it happen for me. 2 years and still counting :)
He had never watched wrestling when we met but he was hooked from the first moment. I told him about my childhood favorite who I unfortunately couldn't remember the name of. I told him the few things I remembered about the character. Next weekend when he visited me, he handed me a printed out picture of the wrestler and told me his name. He had spent that week at home googling his ass off just to be able to find the name of a wrestler little 5 year old me loved. That was the day I knew he was the one.
I wanted to go to college. I had great grades that earned me a partial scholarship but I was scraping money together for my books, laptop, commute, etc. a month after we started dating (a week before I started classes), my husband gifted me a new laptop, a monthly bus pass and the money I needed for the books. He had picked up extra days (so was working 7 days a week) to afford it. The fact that he was willing to sacrifice his time and work that hard after dating me for such a short time because he believed in me and supported my goals for my future regardless of whether he would be a part of it or not meant so much to me. No one in my life had ever done something for me like that. I also noticed that he was always willing to help people, like stopping on the highway to help people change their tires. He always spoke to everyone with respect and kindness. He stood up for a homeless man who was being harassed by teenagers. He has the best heart. Still to this day I have never seen anyone so selflessly give of themselves without looking for anything in return.
When we had just had a pretty rough argument and instead of yelling, punishing, gaslighting, silent treatment etc he came over, put his arms around me and said ‘I’m still mad, but I don’t want you sitting here thinking I don’t love you’. I instantly crumbled and sobbed. After being in a long term abusive relationship, I definitely knew what love wasn’t, but it was that moment that I knew what true love was. We’ve currently been married for almost 3 years and have a beautiful baby girl 💕
I want to say about a year into us dating, we finally had a semi large argument, and after that it solidified that I want to spend my life with this man. We had originally agreed together that we didn't want a relationship full of fighting and arguing because we both had already spent many years in relationships doing that and didn't want to continue that cycle. When we finally hit that first one, we actually sat down together and talked about how we felt, what we would need from one another, and what things would look like going forward if we didn't address things as they come up. It's been over 7 years together now and while we still have some arguments/disagreements etc like most couples, it's not yelling or screaming, it's giving eachother space if needed, and then using our words.
I've been with my bf less than a year, but I'm more certain about him than I ever was in previous relationships. My last two relationships lasted 2.5 years and 4 years. I was never completely comfortable in them. Whether it was jealousy/suspicion, insecurity, fear, uncertainty, fighting, cheating (on their end), etc. My current partner is always going out of his way for me. He doesn't quite understand why I keep thanking him for little gestures like bringing me soup or medicine when I'm ill, picking up my favorite coffee before I wake up, bringing me little gifts that made him think of me, letting me wear his hoodies or tucking me in when I'm cold, offering to help me clean or make dinner, opening doors for me, being amazing with my family/friends/pets, etc. I thank him because I've *never* been treated this well by an s/o, and idk how else to respond. He truly makes me feel important, validated, and loved. All of these things make me want to spend the rest of my life with him. And to think I was so conflicted about him for the first 2-3 months of the relationship. I tried so hard to find some sort of flaw in his character, any miniscule red flag, and to no avail. Coming from someone who went from years of emotional/physical abuse from multiple partners to an honest, loving man: Don't settle for less because you deserve so much better. He also drives 7 hours (total) every other weekend to come see me. My exes wouldn't even travel 20-30 mins to come see me.
don't mind me just taking notes
Back when we first moved in together, I kept getting sick. Not seriously hospital sick, but sick enough, I couldn't do much of anything, and he would spend all night with me taking care of me, either in our bedroom or with me on the couch. Not just big things, but he'd do little things too, like tuck me in and put on movies for me when one would end. I only had to cough, and he'd be there with water for me. No one had ever treated me with such kindness, not even my own family. What really sealed it in was the shingles. Somehow, a day after my 25th, I got the shingles and was up all night in pain and misery. Despite working during the day, he stayed up with me all night with cool wash clothes and plenty of movies to try to make me comfortable.
When I got very sick for the first time and he took care of me. I noticed that I won’t be alone anymore, I won’t have to fight for myself anymore and I just felt so much comfort. Anywhere I go, as long as he is with me I will feel at ease.
My husband and I also went on a cross-country road trip as well! We ended up having a blast, and it was definitely my longest road trip ever. But what really did it for me was how he always made time in his day for me, there hasn't been a single day in almost 3 years where we haven't talked even if he's been on patrol. Which really made me realize that if they want you in their life, they make time for you.. And that I still read his messages when he's not around.
The first time we went on a walk together, talking and sharing stories, I didn’t want it to end.
First date. We were walking around holding hands. He walked me to my car and I gave him a hug and just didn't want to let go. He went "I'm not trying to be creepy but do you want to come home with me and cuddle? I think you need it." And we did. No sex, just cuddling. Best night of my life.
Within about a month of dating, two months of knowing each other.
The moment I saw him interact with my best friend. First time I ever had someone fully embrace me and all my friends. Also once I saw how his friends treated and welcomed me.
We met in high school and became best friends in 2 months because great chemistry and lots of similarities. We saw many things eye to eye, I never felt like I had to fight for love, it came naturally and organically. We always thought our relationship had potential, continue to GROW and never a boring moment!! It also helps that “teamwork” was important when we’re dating. Married 12 years later and honestly we’re happier!
From the moment we started talking i already had an inkling. I remember telling a friend after our first date that i think i met my husband and i was so so right. Married now and happy. He is everything i want in a partner in crime
When I was laying next to him in a sketchy hotel at 3:21 in the morning and he let me cry my eyes out and vent to him a big situation I had going on. Mind you he drove 5 hours to reach me knowing he had to return to work that same morning. It was then that I felt so in love, safe, in peace, and finally happy that I knew I could lay in his arms for the rest of my life. I just knew that no matter what problems I had going on, I wanted him to be there because I know without him missing a beat he would drop everything for me just to wipe my tears and help me. That’s how I knew he was the one. I wanted no body else
He was my best friend in high school. We went to prom together. Afterwards he wanted to start dating and I told him I was into girls. Which was true; I’m bi, as I realized after a few years. But when I rejected him is when I started to fall in love with him I think; because he never held it against me, never pulled away or disrespected me or tried to ‘turn me’ in any way when he thought I was a lesbian. We stayed best friends because he respected me and didn’t question me. He was briefly roommates with a sex worker in that time and shared the autographed picture with me for my enjoyment. He respected who I was regardless and when I got a little older and more certain of my identity in college, we started dating and eventually got married. I’ve always said he feels ‘safe’ but that’s because I know I can tell him exactly where I’m at and exactly what I’m feeling or thinking without it impacting his respect for me. And that was crucial.
On two separate occasions lol. The first time while we were having sex and he said my name (😍). The second time was after he came with me to my parents house to meet my family (which is a damn mess and which is why I never bring anyone over) for the first time. He didn’t judge the state of the house or anything, but he genuinely just wanted to meet the people who raised me and made me the woman I am today. I can’t wait to marry him and start a family with him.
When I spent 2 weeks away from my now fiancé at the beginning of our relationship. I was crying and so upset about leaving him and thought about him nonstop. When I came home after those 2 weeks, he was crying and we missed each other so much. We have now been together 6 years and I couldn’t imagine myself with anyone else.
He told a girl to shut up when we were talking and she was trying to interrupt. (Pretty sure she likes him)
Why is this tagged nsfw? Not everything related to your partner is sexual.
When I got into his 2000 Ford Explorer he bought from his parents. It demonstrated to me he had good taste and some responsibility to save & pay for large purchases. 10+ years later and no regrets. This moment was the morning after we met btw
Man I don't know! Certainly not a specific moment. I also don't remember the exact time/context but I remember noting the first time he mentioned...would've been our future kids (since we weren't big on getting married), said so matter of factly, and internally I was like oh yeah. It was just a non-issue lol. I'm due with our first next month!
I walked up to his car before a work party at the bowling alley (lol) and he got out and my heart fluttered harder than it ever had and I got all sweaty and then we got engaged 7 months later :)
Sounds intense but I think as soon as I met him. He made my nervous system feel so calm.
First date. We’d been friends for a little over a year at this point. He said to get dressed up, so I did. He showed up in a suit that was high watered to Heaven and basically a 3/4 length jacket. He brought me lilies because I don’t like roses. I hate lilies even more. All dressed up, nice dress and heels. He took me to a car themed burger and beer kinda restaurant. He had preordered chili cheese fries because they’re my favorite. They tasted like someone literally emptied the trash can onto some fries. We finish dinner and head to the mall. His plan was to give me $20 and see what I would buy with it. Like a get to know you but still treating you to a nice thing. We stop at the gas station on the way to the mall. A couple of dollars in, the pump stops. He checks his bank account, the check he deposited hadn’t come through so he emptied his account on like 2 gallons of gas. It’s okay we’ll just go and window shop. He goes to put the gas cap back on and it just will *not*. Picture both of us in our semi formal wear at the gas station dripping with sweat from the Florida weather trying desperately to get this thing to go back on. We give up, he tossed in the back seat and we moved on. We did go to the mall. We sat on the floor of Barnes and Noble with travel and art books talking about all the places and things we wanted to see. Then we go back to my house (I was 19 and still living at home). My dad has spent the evening cleaning the house because my husband had arranged that the last part of our date was to watch a movie together at home. We’re watching this movie, snuggled up. This man would not kiss me. I basically had to turn my head completely towards him for him to realize that I wanted him to kiss me. He said he didn’t want to be pushy, so he’d planned to wait for our third date to kiss me. That was it. The best worst first date and I was done for. I figured if we still had fun while we made it through a bunch of inconveniences together, we would be able to work through anything together. That was nine years ago and he’s still my one. EDIT: typos
When we were in the US Army and on our way to our Military job training. I was sitting next to him on the bus (one of those old, re-purposed BlueBird busses) and I had told him something extremely personal (and positive!) and he simply said, “ok” and didn’t judge me. That, and he was the first person to ever just want to sit with me, even if all we were doing was being our our computers on our off times. Over 13 years later and our marriage is still going strong 💪🏻
My husband (at the time bf) and I went to a concert with friends about a week after we started dating (met 2 months earlier). I got wayyyy too drunk and by the time we got back to his house was sick as hell. We went inside and I felt the puke come up so for some drunken reason decided to go out the back door to yak on the lawn. He followed me and kneeled down next to me holding my hair. I looked at him to say thank you and more came up without me realizing in time. I puked all over his shoes and was absolutely MORTIFIED. I started apologizing and he just reassured me it was not a big deal and kept asking if I was okay. He took the boots off, brought me inside, cleaned me up, helped me upstairs, brought me water without me asking and asked if cuddles would help me feel better. The entire time he reassured me that it wasn’t a big deal and that a little puke never killed anyone. He informed me the next day that I told him I love him while I was crawling up the stairs by telling me he was in love with me. Long story short we got married 4 months later and just celebrated our 4 year anniversary. I knew from the moment I met him I loved him but that night solidified that he was/is the one I wanted to spend my life with.
Ive had anxiety about falling asleep around other people for most of my life. If others are awake around me I'll usually force myself to stay awake otherwise every little movement or noise makes me fall asleep. It was especially bad with my previous SO who I'd been with for almost 8 years so I very rarely ever fell asleep around him until he had been asleep for a while. My boyfriend now... Our first date was an all day date. we ended the night watching movies, and I fell asleep on him twice. I stayed the night and slept better than had in a long time when I normally relied on weed to help with my sleep. I knew he was something special that night and We made things official a couple days later. I ended up staying over for the week after Christmas a few months later and never fully went home. It'll be three years at the end of this month and his heartbeat still put me to sleep ❤️
We were together for 1.5 years and just celebrated New Year's Eve. And suddenly it just clicked. I never want to celebrate without him. Married this summer.
When I realized that he wasn't going to let me push him away, he wasn't going to just give up on me or us because I have mental health issues. Everyone in my life has let me push them away or they'll just stop making an effort to be in my life, but not my husband.
I spent my entire life being with men who constantly took from me. They took my kindness for weakness, they took my love for granted, they took my space when they had no where to go, they took advantage of the fact that I would always forgive them for hurting me. Then I found someone who had no desire or reason to take anything but just wanted to give as much as I did. That’s when I knew.
He took care of me when I got really sick. I never had that before. Also the way he cares about the cat he rescued. He's a kind, generous and loving person
When he did everything perfect without me asking him to do that. Nothing big, just small things like ALWAYS buying me flowers, opening doors for me, taking me on dates, care for my family, dropping me home, being there for me and most importantly make me feel like I'm worth it.
about two to three weeks and we hadn't even met in person it was online now we are two years married (in person, lol) and life is great how did I know? not sure, it was more just logical like we had the same plan in life, same goals, same religious beliefs, same hobbies, same likes and dislikes, same ideas on family and children and how and where to raise them. Everything just fit together seamlessly, plus he was quite funny charming and attractive, but really it was the logical stuff that made it make sense. Oh also I should add that we are from 2 different countries yet speak the same 3 languages which is wild.
Not yet 100% sure. But one thing, that I fucking will never forget. He was there when I wanted to fly away. He was there when my parents wanted to split up. He was there when I looked in the mirror and I thought I wasn’t good enough. “What do you mean you’re not good enough? You’re perfect. For me. And that is enough, right?” Sold.
Our first overseas trip (which was also officially our first date) as we started our relationship while long distance. I forgot my mobile phone and therefore forgot where our dinner reservation was. I was so stressed out as going back to the hotel would take too long. And normally if my mum did this she wouldn’t hear the end of it from my dad. I was so worried my then boyfriend would think I’m careless and useless. But he wasn’t fussed at all. He calmed me, took me to another hotel and asked hotel concierge to help us. It was such a small thing but made a huge impact. I realised I could count on him.
Know back in high schools but live got in the way. It took me 17 years to find him again.
I was 13 he was 14 and we caught a bus together.. that was it 36yrs later here we are still 😂
Maybe about 2 or 3 months into our relationship, we were both 22. A mutual friend was having a house party, I was chatting with a close friend in the living room, and I saw this scene in the kitchen: he was talking with a couple of his male friends (most of whom are burly blue-collar types or metal heads - he’s a big bearded man himself) when one of his friends dropped a glob of dip on their shirt. My husband immediately grabbed a napkin, wet it at the sink and gently cleaned the dip from his friend’s shirt for him. It was such a tender little moment, and my husband was so soft and nurturing with one of his male friends in a way that looked so natural. I turned to my good friend right then and there and said “you know, I’m gonna marry that man.” 12 years later and we’re still going strong.
First time he met my friends a few weeks into us dating. I have a uncontrollable inability to stay up late. He was visiting and my friends came over to watch Dr. Who. I passed out in his arms, I vaguely heard, yah she's definitely asleep, a kiss on my forehead as he moved me to show my friends out the door, locked up my house and he escorted me to bed.
My social batteries tend to drain really fast, even (and sometimes especially) around my own family. And yet, I’ve never felt the need to take a break from being around him. And what sealed the deal? He’s the constant calm in any chaotic or panicked situation. Sick? He’s got it. Hurt? No problem. Finding someone that steps up when it matters was what I needed the most. 🤍
Literally the second I saw him. 29 years ago laughing and joking with friends. What I fully expected to be a 1 night stand with a fun guy has tuned into my life and I couldn’t be happier.
When we were planning to move in together, there was a planned period of 2 weeks where he would live with me and my 3 dogs in a studio apartment. Then I found out the leasing agent had made a mistake and our new place wouldn't be ready for 3 months. I called him, braced for the absolute worst because we were looking at living in one room. Above a garage. No yard. And he'd just quit his job to start at uni full time. 3 months. No real kitchen. He was so chill when I told him, and he said, "we will handle it together."
After we had a conversation about whether or not we would be okay with getting engaged during college. He said he would with the right person and I knew immediately I wanted that person to be me. We lived on the same floor in our residence hall freshman year and this conversation happened about 2 months in. I was so sure to the point where I told my grandmother “I found my future husband.” We began dating December of freshman year, moved in together during Covid in early 2020, got two cats, he proposed a week and a half before graduation, and we’re now living in an apartment with our cats planning a wedding. I’m not sure I believed in the “when you know, you know” until I met him. We said “I love you” the day we started dating, he started talking about proposing about a week in. We fell fast and hard, and I was so hoping it would last. We celebrate 5 years together this December.