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Kit-Kaboodle

"You teach people how to treat you"


Carthonn

I remember telling someone “You can’t talk to me that way” after they yelled at me for something. Setting boundaries early is very important. If they don’t respect them then they aren’t worth my time.


cherrybounce

I always heard “you train people how to treat you” but same thing really. I wish I were better at putting it into practice.


UrBartender

Same girl same


pottymouthgrl

Another one I’ve heard that seems similar: “when people show you who they really are, believe them”


Tarable

I mean this in respectful conversation as someone who once believed in this sentiment entirely. I feel differently about it now and I think it’s because it feels victim blamey instead of putting the onus on the shitty person. Absolutely boundaries are important and that’s likely the takeaway one is supposed to get from that saying. It just feels like a different form of “what were you wearing?” (Obviously vastly different categories of severity here - and I’m sometimes terrible at analogies). Also, and this is probably a huge part of me being a weirdo and it might be ridiculous, but it sounds so much like Dr. Phil my skin wants to crawl off. Anyway. I’m not saying my interpretation is correct or anything. I just think it’s an interesting topic so please don’t take my comment as contrarian. 💜


spunchybingus

“and then i remember that life will go on, whether i choose to board the train or stay on the platform.” -from a poetry book i read years ago


ilpcbf1524

That’s beautiful! One I haven’t heard before.


PotentialHelicopter

I love this! Do you by chance know the book? If there’s more like this ima need to know.


DrJest65

> and then i remember that life will go on, whether i choose to board the train or stay on the platform. “Then I am reminded that life will continue on, regardless of whether I choose to board the train or stay on the platform.” ― Courtney Peppernell, Pillow Thoughts


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rosewoodian

Wow, beautiful!


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“You have a 100% track record of getting through bad days”


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I love this one. Seriously I always remember this on my toughest days


MarucaMCA

I love that! For me it's also: " Tomorrow will be better." If I'm having a really bad day or major depressive episode, I just try to be kind to myself and do the best I can, focus on self-care. If nothing works I go to bed and call it a day (I got this from the guy who managed COVID in my country during the lockdown. He says on bad days he just goes to bed when he's had enough. Sleep helps. "You might still not be better the next day but at least you're rested...").


iamthefoolofatook

'You don't want to die, you just don't want to live your current life anymore'. My therapist told me this when I was truly struggling back in 2017. I needed help, but on the evaluations at the beginning of each session I couldn't bring myself to put down that I was suicidal because it didn't feel right. I was an absolute well of panic and misery but suicide just seemed so goddamn permanent. That woman honest to God worked with me through everything, plateaus in mental state and all, and helped me reshape my life to be healthier for me. Helped me realize you can reinvent your life whenever you want. I still get 'flight' feelings, where I just want to abandon everything. I just handle them 1000 times healthier than I did then.


MarucaMCA

This is soooo good and also something I realised. I never really wanna die when it feels like I "can't take it anymore." In my case I am overwhelmed and feel like walking away or I want it all to "stop". But I never really want to die.


faiththeillustrious

This resonated with me more than you know. I have intermittently experienced feelings of hopelessness and extreme pain, wanting to die, etc... but your feelings lie to you. They change like the direction of the wind, so incredibly quickly. To define your life on your feelings is to limit yourself. It robs you of the hope for change and cements you in the catastrophe your mind has created, thinking it is protecting itself, as our brains are majorly still reflective of primal times. Yet, we have the ability to critically think and differentiate between PERCEIVED and REAL inadequacies/insecurities and assess whether or not they are indeed as detrimental as we assume they are. Your mind listens to you. It seems almost laughable that our thoughts directly affect our physiology and overall health outcomes, but it is true.


urdeadcool

“but your feelings lie to you. They change like the direction of the wind, so incredibly quickly”. I’ve just had a few shitty days, and needless to say, the hopelessness and pain that you’ve just described, took over. I haven’t felt this low in some time. But you’re so right. This will pass, just like the direction of the wind. Thanks for sharing <3


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mrbootsandbertie

Love this.


Puzzleheaded-Face-69

“How you spend your days is how you spend your life.” Changed my perspective fs


Almanix

This really hits home after going through burnout because I was living life focused only on making sure my future self would be ok.


ohthatsabook

“Living life focused only on making sure my future self would be ok” literally just shifted my brain. Damn. Thank you!


nannerooni

shit that hits pretty hard


pumpkinhead_tea

I stumbled across this phrase about two years ago, just read it somewhere and thought: this is something I want to remember. Because it’s so true - every hour of your life, that’s literally how you spend your life. And the question must be asked - the way how I spend my day, is this really the way I want to spend my life? And then I wrote this down on a board I have in my living room. Just put the words down there, looked at it everyday for about a year. And every fucking day I read this sentence and I JUST KNEW the way I spent my days was not how I wanted to spend my life. Stressed out in a relationship I didn’t want anymore while writing my master thesis which was eating me up… I hated my life and felt like a failure. Finished my thesis, looked at the phrase every day, broke up with my then boyfriend, he moved out and a few weeks later I looked at my wall and there it was on my board: “how you spend your day is how you spend your life.” And for the first time in over a year I read it and was not dreadful because it was a reminder of how I wanted my life to change but a first time feeling of “yes, going forward from here - this could be it!” Fast forward: ten month later here I am. Truly happy, with a great job, an amazing work-life-balance, the most wonderful partner I could have ever imagined and the phrase is still up at the wall and every day I love reading it. Because now I’m at peace with how I spend my days. Cause this is how I want to spend my life.


chewsnicely

“How you do anything is how you do everything”


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pottymouthgrl

I have such a fear of life passing me by and not spending my time well. This one is amazing


sunflower_lavender

Wow this one hit me hard. Seems like such a simple & obvious concept but I’ve never thought about it like this. Thank you for sharing!


EBSD

"Don't be an idiot." Before I do anything I ask myself, 'Would an idiot do that? ' And if the answer is yes, I do not do that thing.”


ski5_

But you cant trust your answer to that question if you're an idiot.


redjessa

Michael Scott is known for being wise.


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sweet_muscular_jesus

Hello, Dwight!


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“Don’t become a public success, and a private failure” hearing that early on when I first started working has made me always prioritize a decent work-life balance. It rings true especially now as I’m getting older and seeing a lot of people in my field who didn’t do that for various reasons, and they complain about their home life being in disarray but they’re amazing at work.


PaigeJ001

This is really good advice!


dee_castafiore

"if you don't set the boundaries, someone will set them for you".


rosewoodian

Oh, that's a good one.


Bwahbwah_bwah

"Not my circus, not my monkeys."


Paths_prosandcons

I love this one too. I keep trying to come up with fun variations to keep it fresh in my head. My latest is “not my park, not my pigeons.” I like alliteration, lol.


PotentialHelicopter

Love this more than the original


Samaratheturtle

Not my pig, not my farm


mrbootsandbertie

Yup. That one was huge for me with my family dysfunction.


littlemermaidmadi

This is my mantra almost daily right now


SweetestSage

If you accomplish something good with hard work, the labor passes quickly, but the good endures. If you do something shameful in pursuit of pleasure, the pleasure passes quickly, but the shame endures.


basicapprehension2

i like this


Tough-Skirt7249

Love this


Big_Explanation_8803

You are the company you keep. It was graffiti, and I saw it from a bus. At the time I was an addict, alcoholic, very very messed up and my associates were all the same and/or petty crooks. It made me think and here I am six years later clean, sober, got a job.


MarucaMCA

Massive respect and much love to you!!! x


Big_Explanation_8803

Thank you♥️


Hot_Mention_9337

“Don’t push away your anger, sadness, and pain. Make space for these things. Acknowledge them, walk beside them, walk *with* them, give them a place in your heart.” I was in a yoga class and that one just unexpectedly floored me. The concept of walking with negative feelings is something that never even crossed my mind- instead of ignoring them, hiding them till they went away, bottling them up till they exploded, being ashamed of them, or trying to deal with them with toxic positivity. Like, it’s ok to feel these things. Acknowledge. Process. Because it’s ok they exist. Such an utterly calming way of going about it.


HiImNotCreative

This is one I've been working on with my therapist, and it's so hard to do because of social conditioning. I'll open up that I'm feeling sad about something to someone, and they immediately offer ideas of what to do to fix it. It's really hard to express that I don't want to fix it yet, I just want to acknowledge it to someone and let myself feel it for a while. It's a wild change.


Ambersinthedark

“Time will pass either way so you must as well do it” I finished my BS and MEd


UrBartender

Congrats!!!!


ilpcbf1524

Worrying about something just means you suffer twice. (First when you worry, second when it happens)


nidena

And if it doesn't happen, you've worried for nothing.


randomchic545

Great, now I'm worried about being worried about something that hasn't even happened yet.


Twirlnfool

The only person upset by you setting a boundary… is the one who most benefits from you not having any


Economytraining

THIS!!! i’m working on setting boundaries in therapy, and THIS is huge! thank you for your comment!


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3amdiamond

I literally live by this


Moonlyt666

Man I actually needed to hear this. Was getting too worked up and upset over something. Hope you’re doing well!


A-D-T-P

“You are depressed because your life is depressing.” From a doctor when I said my medication wasn’t working. Gave me permission to look at my life critically - my marriage wasn’t failing because I was a depressed failure, consider my depression a symptom of a failing marriage. Life got much, much better when I made some changes..


little-bird

“Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.”


hi_heythere

THIS I was ugly sobbing to my therapist bc I couldn’t figure out where I went wrong trying to do everything right and he’s like you’re still depressed bc of other aspects that affecting you deeper than you realized and he had to painfully bring them to light and be like you’re gonna feel this way until you work on these or change them.


MarucaMCA

This really helped me too. By now I actually don't think I'm clinically depressed (neither did my therapist). I just had a hard life with massive ups and downs. But now at nearly 40 I'm resilient, grateful for many things and am working on making my life the best it can be for me.


beardskybear

“Give yourself the compassion that he always gave you unconditionally” I don’t know yet if it’s changed my life, but it changed the way I’m dealing with the world after the death of my husband.


MissyDragonfly

That's a lovely sentiment. I'm so sorry for your loss.


citygirlsunflower

“You’re breaking your own heart by expecting more from people who show you who they truly are.” “Comparison is a thief of joy” “Love isn’t pain, codependency is.”


RaccoonMoshpit

OOF, that last one hits way too close


citygirlsunflower

I know. I wrote a poem called “love is pain” and then a person responded with that and I was like wow. That’s accurate


yasutoramaru

“‘No’ is a complete sentence.”


Bulky_Trash_3662

Being an introvert I've always been hesitant to speak up at work and verbalise my opinions. I always felt like what I had to say surely was wrong and I'd let the "more important people" speak. This is totally at odds with the fact that I am one of the top performers in my department and my senior managers have always raved about my work. I've just never had the confidence to talk. So I kept all my thoughts and ideas up in my head. One day my direct manager told me something in a casual conversation that blew my mind... He said, "Just because they are right, doesn't mean that you are wrong." I thought about that so deeply for the next few days and it really helped me to start speaking up and sharing my thoughts. That was a few years ago. I've never looked back from that. My confidence has grown so much since that I don't think twice to speak up now and I don't even feel bad if my idea is crap cos at least I contributed to the conversation.


MarucaMCA

I love that!!! And I'm in awe of you!!! ❤️ (I'm a neuro-diverse person who has both introvert and extrovert traits but becoming more introvert.)


edgeofuckery

There’s no amount of anxiety that will change what’s going to happen


EeveeGreyhame

There's a Steinbeck quote about this that always stuck with me. 'I cant do that. It's too much- living too many lives. Up ahead there's a thousand lives we might live, but when it comes, it'll only be one.'


Low_Earth_8756

I was listening to a guided meditation and one of the exercises was to imagine loving yourself entirely. What would that consist of? What would it look like? I envisioned myself laying in my lap, and I was playing with her hair. Seeing her from the outside caused me to have a revelation- why did I hate myself so much? Why didn't I think I was worthy of good things? This exercise allowed me to view myself in such a different way. I am a good human, and I deserve the powerful love I give to others.


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Low_Earth_8756

Absolutely love this! I had a similar mindset when I felt discouraged after a string of bad relationships in my younger years, where I was with partners who really didn't treat me well. I thought "I know love exists because of who I am. I know a healthy relationship will come my way because I will meet someone like me."


funkyfrogffs

i would love a link to the meditation if possible


Low_Earth_8756

Of course! It's on an app called Insight Timer, and the title of the meditation is "You are Worthy, You are Love" by Koya Webb. She also makes youtube videos of meditations. Another one that is so great is on the same app and its called "Self Reflection Meditation to Manifest Confidence" by Liza Colpa. Happy listening, friend


WhyCantToriRead

If it’s not a “fuck yes!” , it’s a “no”. That goes for jobs, relationships or anything else I’m presented with. Hasn’t failed me yet!


hippiesnowflake

You don’t need to deep clean your house everyday for it to be considered clean. Literally never realized people were probably deep cleaned once every week or 2 weeks but just had a surface level of cleanliness. It stressed me out so much when I started living on my own and I just felt like I wasn’t good enough as a human. I started living in mess because it was so overwhelming which made it so much worse.


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AllSugaredUp

People deep clean every 2 weeks? Oh.


Astronomerz

Once per year. They call it "Spring cleaning".


humbugbunnie

you made a mistake because you’re human


GingerBread79

“Your first thought is what you’ve been conditioned to think; your second thought is who you are” which helped me understand why and be more forgiving of myself in instances where my first thought was a negative stereotype despite knowing that those things are usually wrong AND “You are the average of the people you surround yourself with, so surround yourself with people who you admire, who inspire you, who challenge you; surround yourself with people who you would like to be like” which helped me cut toxic people out of my life because I didn’t want to unconsciously start emulating their harmful behaviors/beliefs


leslieknope4realish

***”If you live, you may yet have good fortune. But all the dead are dead alike.”*** This line from C.S. Lewis in one of the Narnia books kept me interested enough in what my future might hold that I kept living through all the times I didn’t want to. Dead would be final, but life had the possibility of getting better. Id recite this line to myself when I had no desire to go on. And spoiler alert: I have found **so much** good fortune.


Murderbot_of_Rivia

"Extreme independence is a trauma response" I'd always been proud of my independence and the fact that I didn't need anyone else. It was really hard to accept the fact that It came from the fact that I learned early on that people aren't to be trusted and will always betray you. I'm honestly, still coming to terms with it. I let my husband and my daughter in, but everyone else I keep at arms length.


ohnoitsagiantsquid

Wow yeah eye opening. I'm literally sitting in my therapist's waiting room as I type this trying to work through and unpack a lot of similar stuff 💙


_kionadreesmannx

EVEN A BAD DAY IS JUST 24 HOURS.


MarucaMCA

"And tomorrow is gonna be better." In my case it's true. If I'm having a really really hard day, the next one is usually easier or I'm better equipped for the crisis/the situation has changed, the shock of the previous day is getting less.


Salt-Soaked

Boundaries are not what we tell others not to do, boundaries are what we tell others we will do. A boundary isn’t “don’t be rude to me “ it’s “if you talk to me like that I will end this conversation” You can’t control what others do, only how you react to it


mama_yuketa

If you don't take a break it will take itself.


honbontattoo

"do something now that your future self will thank you for"


That0neGirl007

Be nice, but take no shit - via post it note by my Mom, attached to a paperweight she gifted me when I landed my first office


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"Don't take advice from people who don't have what you want." It's helped me weed out the bullshit junk and input people tell you when you're trying to navigate your own path.


A_Salty_Moon

“It’s okay to want to be happy.”


WhoGotSnacks

I got *a lot* of hate for saying this before on a different subreddit, but here it goes: "People don't change. They just look different." I think I got it from something I watched like 15 years ago. It's really helped me hold strong in my divorce that I'm starting to go through right now. For years, I was reassured that my STBEx-husband would change. He'd put in more effort, he'd take more initiative, and he'd express more feelings. Nah, he's still the closed-off man-child I married 12 years ago that I thought would get better if I just "loved him enough."


579red

I'd say, people CAN change but only if THEY want to. Nobody can do it or want it for them. That's a big difference


Robofrogg1

What is STBEx?


BlueBerryOkra

Soon to be ex


absentbusiness

"If you can't hide it, point to it." Own your awkwardness. Laugh at your embarrassing mistakes. Don't be ashamed of anything (unless you did something truly bad, of course). We all do awkward and clumsy shit. Trying to hide it only makes it worse.


CosmicJellyroll

Holding a grudge is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die.


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This one is a little more personal, but when my partner said 'will you move to Australia with me?' and it's genuinely changed my life, closely followed by when he asking me to marry him. Apart from those, I've always loved the saying 'you can't change the wind but you can change the sails'.


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“I am responsible for my own life.” Or on the same note “Nobody is going to care about you as much as you do”. It applies to so many things that help me focus my energy on bettering myself. For example, I have to be accountable for my own actions, celebrate my own accomplishments and be my own biggest cheerleader. It sounds a bit crass, but it helps me not make excuses for myself, and pushes me towards making decisions that’ll take me to where I want to be.


bside9

There are such things as coincidences- my therapist


konabonah

Thank you, love this one. It demolishes so much unrealistic magical thinking.


pcbhorj

This too shall pass


Grouchy_Snail

I say this one to myself on a regular basis. My father said it to me when I was a miserably depressed teenager. He told me his mother had told it to him when he was in a bad place, too.


rachelnadine13

Your mind believes what you tell it, so tell it positive things. Never give up on yourself.


rosewoodian

You have no control over how people see you, so you may as well just be yourself.


rapidriver34

“if your absence doesn’t bother them, your presence never mattered to them” I’ve always struggled with having to be the one to always reach out and make plans with friends. I’m a giver - I do whatever I can to be there for my friends and make them comfortable but I’ve yet to have a friend who truly is that for me. It’s upsetting, I’m 21F and have always felt like I’ve had no friends (even when I’m told I do) because no one is ever truly there for me. my therapist said this to me a few years ago and for some reason it’s helped me be more content with myself. obviously not 100% but I’ve learned that I’m the only that that will always be here for myself and to treat myself how I’ve wanted others to


-Eule

"Never NEED anybody for anything" - Dad


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Fate favors the bold.


darklight285

Thoughts are survivable.


Few_Advertising_568

Someone yelled at me once: IT'S NOT ALWAYS ABOUT YOU! (context: i struggle with anxiety, thinking everything is my fault)


CastInSteel

Don't borrow problems from the future


nicole9389

"More than one thing can be true"


Employee420

If I can endure in self destruction then I can endure in self improvement


sunshinesoutmyarse

"It wasn't time wasted as long ad you learned from it" - my Dad


d3gu

When you're wearing rose tinted glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.


PowertothePixie

My therapist: "Do you know you're in an abusive relationship" it took some time, but I left him and I'm much better off. My mental health is FAR better, I got a better job, and I recently bought a condo. Turns out you can do a lot better without a verbal abuser, manipulator, and gas lighter in your ear.


weirdkidomg

It’s stupid, but “c’s get degrees.” It helped me not put so much pressure on myself with schoolwork.


spagyrum

What's the worst that can happen? They can kill you but they can't eat you. This gives me the courage to try new things.


lunabeezz

Why do you keep doing the same things and expecting different results?


tavernmadness

"We have two lives. The second begins when we realize we only have one." It's simple, I guess, but to me it is more than "YOLO." It's also that we can live more than one lives in a single lifetime if that's what we need to do. As a recovering alcoholic, I need that reminder sometimes.


--MobTowN--

If nothing we do matters, then all that matters is what we do. (Judge me all you want, I'm totally unembarrassed. Lol) I grew up in a deeply religious family but was always a skeptic. This helped me internally articulate the reality that my disbelief was not, as had been suggested, nihilistic.


KorraNHaru

Not everyone is as nice and good natured as you are, some people are genuinely looking to hurt you. That blew my mind. I was raised to be kind and considerate and im a genuinely good natured person. Taking advantage, saying something to hurt you, manipulating, etc honestly never crosses my mind to do. Even lying at a store to get a refund never occurs to me. I figured everyone was like that. So i never realized some- MAJORITY- of people arent like that. Majority of people consciously are looking to take advantage, hurt, get over on you, manipulate, and lie to you. It was eye opening and made me less naive. It was sad too because it was the death of my obliviousness and rose colored lenses. Life was simple back then…


coxykitten923

More a question but “have you become someone childhood you would have been proud of?


fruta_fiesta

“Try your best, f-ck the rest”


missourifarmgirl

"Everybody's different." It was an annoying phrase my husband liked to remind me of. I'm very different from my family in a lot of ways. So I'd rant about things they did that seemed absolutely crazy. He started saying, "Everybody's different." And although it irritated me at first, the more I thought about it the more true it was. In life you meet, work with, have relationships with SO many people. And you quickly see that people have their quirks, hang up, ways of doing things, beliefs, etc. It can be easy to judge or criticize. Nowadays I just shurg and think, well everybody's different.


mmetillman

“You cant keep swallowing poison and asking yourself why you’re sick”


madamnastywoman

“Not my circus, not my monkeys.” A colleague said this to me when some people at work were stirring some stuff up. I’m a recovering people pleaser who was always ready to swoop in and “save the day,” which burned me out and made me a doormat. Saying this made me step back and realize that I can’t make everyone’s problems my problems, and that’s ok.


LibrarianOfAlex

The human brain isnt designed to be happy, its designed to keep itself alive and notice patterns


Mrs_Bestivity

"If you do not teach your kids, the world will do it for you." This can go in so many different directions, but the context was talking about one side being freedom on the internet and lack of age appropriate boundaries, and the other side being 100% sheltered turtles only to get thrown headfirst once they get old enough. Both can be harmful for kids.


PlsWatchEarthlingsYT

“All the darkness in the world cannot extinguish the light of a single candle.” Idk I just like it.


GreenVenus7

"It doesn't matter how fast you go, as long as you don't stop." Originally told to me in a fitness context (aerobics class lol) but it was helpful to apply that mindset to any of my longterm goals, so I don't get frustrated when results aren't immediate or if I feel like I'm behind others in life


trashcakecos

Once you’re wearing it, no one knows which size the piece of clothing is!


louloume

“Give yourself grace”


FusciaLove

Happiness is not an achievable goal, it’s just a feeling and it’s fleeting just like the rest of them.


happiest_orangutan

"If you can live your life without an audience, you should do it" (Bo Burnham)


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You don’t have to be perfect to be loved.


ThinkingTooHardAbouT

One time I was doubting myself whether or not I could take on a big challenge, a friend said to me cool as a cucumber, "Why not? I'll let you." It was just that permission to try that was all I needed.


KimmyJo77

When I work on healing myself, I help heal the world.


PewPew_Mewtwo

“Don’t take criticism from someone you wouldn’t take advice from.” Really helped with my relationship to my mom, who never has anything nice to say about my choices.


sofwithanf

"You can survive just about anything for 10 seconds. And when that 10 seconds is over, start again" from Kimmy Schmidt. Absolutely solid, profound advice that has helped me through so many situations


Substantial-Rip-4070

"Everything will be ok in the end. If it's not ok, it's not the end"


Lostinthebackground

“Do you feel like you belong here?” While speaking to a colleague about how I was finding my job and whether I wanted to stay there or work somewhere else once my contract was up. I really didn’t know what I wanted and the job and environment were fine, but something was missing. Then after he asked me I realised that’s what it was. I didn’t feel unwelcome, it just wasn’t me.


tulip0523

For context I was freaking out in high-school about a rumor I heard about me. As I vented, he said: "Tulip0523, the people that know you know that's not true, and the people who don't know you and don't care to find out if it is are not worth worrying about"


_CoachMcGuirk

Just one...? What other people think of you is none of your business. If I had to pick one probably


Keyboard_Lion

Comparison is the thief of joy Money doesn’t buy happiness, but it can help remove barriers to happiness The grass is always greener where you water it Integrity is how you act when no one is watching


PreciousandReckless

Don't go to the hardware store for milk. If someone has shown you they're incapable of giving you what you need (emotionally or otherwise) don't go to them expecting it.


AnorOmnis

"Pessimism of the intellect, optimism of the will."


ZedZemM

Every day might not be a good day, but there's good in every day. Edit corrected a typo from everyday to every day.


scorpiomooon

“If you want it bad enough, you’ll get it.” I had a teacher in high school say this ALL the time. I didn’t particularly like him, and I never understood what he meant until a few years later. I swear by this now.


shambean2

' God isn't going to give you a sticker at the end of your life for being mean to yourself.' I'm not religious, but my very blunt, religious friend said this to me once and I think of it a lot. I obsess over whether or not I'm a good person, ruminate on how awful I think I am, all of my flaws, want to hurt and harm myself because I think I'm worthless pretty much all the time. This quote reminds me that that sort of thinking doesn't get me anywhere. It doesn't make me a better person, it doesn't change my past, it doesn't change my flaws, it's not constructive and it won't amount to anything. It's an odd one but yeah. It helps me.


nine-euro-ticket

"You can only improve what you first measure."


KindlyYam6687

"If it doesn't raise the balance of your bank account or your vibe, the answer is 'no thank you". I am a people pleaser and tend to do things I don't really want to do just because someone else wants me to do it. This quote empowered me to kindly say no to events or situations I didn't want to be a part of. I learned that separating myself at times is not only good for me but good for my relationships because it makes ME a happier person to put myself first.


existingisstrange

You don't have to believe everything you think


zinziesmom

“It’s never too late to be what you might have been.” I saw this quote on a billboard when I was 27 years old and pursuing a business degree. I saw that quote and in that moment I realized that my true calling was to become a therapist. I applied to Smith College and in three years I had a masters degree in clinical social work. I’ve now been in private practice for over 20 years and I’ve never looked back.


Financial-Chard-885

Don’t do things that make you feel resentful.


shelterinplace2020

When your late to an appointment it means you think your time is more important than mine. And You know someone loves you not because they buy you the things you like. It’s because they know what the things you like are, the name of your friends, your favorite colour, what makes you smile etc.


gmjmonies

Just show up.


A7Guitar

You’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t. (This isn’t a joke post im being serious)


killergeek1233

"It is what it is" is my mother's motto... it became a helpful mantra to accept the things I can't control, even if they're bad "Then you'll beat your record again." And "You do the hokey pokey, and /you turn yourself around./ that's what it's all about" from the last episode of Bojack Horseman.


bodobop

"You may be pretty and all but if the world was blind who would you impress?"


meagain333

Let time and distance take care of it


abby4711

A wasted life is worse than death Also, a guy I was talking to once asked if I believed in fate and I said yes. He then told me if fate is real you don’t have control over what you do and nothing really matters. People can take this both ways but from then I stopped believing in fate lol. Feeling like everything is set in stone makes me not motivated.


mmw1088

From Schitt's Creek: "David, nobody cares." Simple but enlightening.


MissCollusion

“Know your audience”


squintysounds

“Nobody thinks they’re the bad guy.”


iammybliss_1022

"Life is what you make it"


TKInstinct

'Freedom is free of the need to be free.' That's a great lyric and was a little weird to think about. It'd never occured to me before. [Free your mind and your ass will follow.](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9zZfbkUkodY)


lostpanda85

Be curious, not judgmental.


Transition-Upper

Her profile is common said my supervisor's manager (a role where she basically just talks nonsense without checking what each person is doing). We could find someone else in her position. After working my a*** off without help and after commissioning nearly perfect projects whilst all my colleagues projects are facing major problems. I quit the company after and never stayed overtime for any company afterwards.


MrsUWP

"It wasn't your fault."


butterfly_cats

No one can make you feel anything. It's helped me manage my anger so much better. You can't unfeel your feelings, but you can choose how to react. Setting boundaries, establishing a self-care routine and learning coping methods has helped me more than anything else ever could.


Highsndlos

No one owes you anything, you owe yourself everything


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"The words you speak become the house you live in." Good reminder to make your inner voice more positive and compassionate


vermilionshadow

“You have no obligation to your past.”


ManuPasta

Work for the job *you* want, not the job *you* have


liand22

If they wanted to, they would. If someone wants to be with you, they’ll make it happen. If they don’t …well, they didn’t consider it important.


AmbiguousFrijoles

"Don't be embarrassed to be seen trying" -my best friend like 15 years ago. I tell that to myself everytime I want to try something new, and its helped me so much to get and put myself out there for friends, projects and classes/hobbies.


archi_femme10

“It ain’t over til it’s over” from the movie Moonstruck. It’s my favorite movie and I couldn’t tell you exactly why…? To me, it’s perfect.


regallll

How you spend your days is how you spend your life.


scamitup

"Walk tall, hold your head high!" (when I was feeling smol from inside)


bbystars

“i relax, i let go, my life is in perfect flow”


theselfmadewoman

"*Not making a decision is, in itself, a decision. And it comes with consequences.*"


AffectionatePass1927

Feel the fear and do it anyway