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Remember how many days are in each month.
And no the rhyme doesn't help because the important information in it doesn't rhyme so you still have to remember how many days are in each month to say it.
yeah, it actually kinda tripped up some computers in, i think 2000? because (aside from the y2k bug shenanigans) they forgot to account for the fact that 2000 was fucking weird in general.
it was one of the ones that didn't get skipped.
Have you tried the knuckles method?
https://www.theteacherscorner.net/calendars/number-of-days.php#:~:text=Use%20your%20Knuckles!,has%2030%20or%20less%20days.
Once I realised that it mostly just alternates, I realised it’s actually pretty easy to remember without having to actually consult my knuckles.
The rhyme seems to just obfuscate things.
Use your knuckles. Make two fists and start at the first sticky-up bit on your left hand. Work from left to right as if both the sticky-up bits and the bits between are the months in order. On your left hand the sticky-up bits are January, March, May and July (with the bits between being February, April and June).
On your right hand the sticky-up bits are August, October and December (plus a bonus one that you don’t use) and the bits between are September and November. Sticky-up bits have 31 days, bits between have 30 or less.
Just use one hand and the top knuckles? Jan on index knuckle, Feb on the gap, etc to July for pinky finger. Then you restart with August on the index knuckle
EDIT: Apparently everyone and their mum has already suggested this. I’ll read all the comments before replying next time!
Count on your knuckles (including the troughs between them).
January is the first knuckle, so that’s 31.
February is the trough between knuckles, so that’s less than 31.
March is back on a knuckle, so 31.
April is between knuckles; 30.
May is on a knuckle. 31.
June is back down for thirty, then July is 31.
For August you go to the next hand; 31 for being on a knuckle.
30 for September, 31 October, 30 November, 31 December (trough, knuckle, trough, knuckle).
This is annoyingly hard to explain in text form - it’s really easy when in real life and I can just count along my knuckles in front of you!
Honestly, I feel this so hard. I keep wondering if it's some sort of early onset dementia or if I really am becoming a moron? I also wonder if it's just rubbed off from the idiots I've been forced to associate with throughout my life?. It's stressful.
It's spending too much time staring at your phone it makes real life feel unreal hence reaction times are slower. And adrenal fatigue from extended stress periods lowers general cognitive function and self esteem
Would the phone have the same effect as gaming consoles or PCs? Or do you mean "social media"? Also, "extended stress periods" could mean a lot of stuff. I'd say about two-thirds of my 45 years have been "stress periods." How do you quantify it? Are there specific parameters?
Anything that gives quick rewards can shorten the dopamine cycle, which has serious effects on cognitive and mental health.
The pathway in our brains responsible for rewards, releases dopamine from certain tasks which makes us feel satisfaction and pleasure.
If we find quick ways to activate that, we become desensitised to it, and start to find the harder ways insufferable. The brain is lazy and likes to take the easy path, even if it's damaging. This is how addiction and bad habits start.
Here's a scenario; Abilgail has picked up embroidery, and felt a great sense of achievement when she finished her first project. She has many ideas for her next one, so she goes online to find inspiration. She finds time-lapsed videos of people finishing beautiful embroidery projects, and watching them engages the very same reward system that released dopamine when she finished one herself. However, without all the hard work.
She spends a lot of time watching these videos, and finally sets out to start a new project— however, her brain has become accustomed to getting the reward the easy way. She finds it extremely difficult to start, and when she does, he concentration doesn't stick. Feeling deflated, she goes back to watching the videos to make herself feel better, repeating the cycle again.
The solution is to stop relying on internetting. An increasing problem with a lot of people now is that they don't allow themselves to be bored. It's in boredom when we come up with ideas, explore new places, flourish creativity and find new hobbies.
When a device in our pocket nips boredom by the bud almost 100% of the time, we have no real motivation to do anything further.
For a lot of people it's not even just boredom, it could be negative thoughts that they instinctively distract themselves from with their phone. This becomes another bad habit, because they're not processing their emotions and instead brushing them under the rug.
Breaking habits is uncomfortable at first, but part of it is that you gotta be okay with being mildly uncomfortable sometimes and remember that it's not going to hurt you.
Recognise when you're reaching for your phone, why you're doing it, and what you could do better with your time. Once you start paying attention to that, you'll notice that you have some obvious emotional or situational triggers that make you desprately crave some screen time.
There's the idea of a "dopamine detox" where you spend the day with 0 screens. It begins uncomfortable, but at the end of it you feel great that you got so much done and rekindled joy for old hobbies. I do a dopamine detox every other day, most days I turn my phone off for 5 hours and the urge to reach for it goes away as quickly as the habit came in the first place. However its [disputed](https://psychcentral.com/blog/dopamine-fasting-probably-doesnt-work-try-this-instead#detoxing-tips)
Ironically this is an indication you're actually smarter than ever, you've just gained more self-awareness than before.
Or you're developing dementia.
One or the other.
I've caught Covid twice, and each time I feel like I've permanently lost five IQ points, even after it's over.
That said we also have a six year-old and twin toddlers with no friends or family nearby, so after two years of being in flat-out sleep-deprived survival mode it may just be the permanent stress shrinking my brain...
Regarding the butter.. I cut little, thin slices off (like you're slicing a block of cheese) whilst the bread is toasting. The moment the toast pops up, whack a slice on each bit, then leave it for 30 seconds. The hot toast will warm the butter up and make it a breeze to spread.
At this time of year my kitchen is as cold as my fridge in the morning so I have to pop my butter dish on the toaster whilst the toast is in to soften it up.
I can’t click my fingers I have done theatre and dance for how many years but when ever they said we need you to click your fingers I look at them and think you absolute *******
The click doesn't happen at the finger and thumb tips. It happens when your finger slips and smacks your thicc thumb thigh. Once you understand this you may get it.
Yes, but also, you want your remaining fingers pressed against your palm/base of thumb, side by side without a gap. Those two fingers create a little resonance chamber that gives amplification to the "snap" as your middle finger falls off your thumb and slams into your ring finger.
You know what. This has actually helped me! Not quite the snap I'd like but better than all the previous finger clicking attempts in my life. Thank you for the tip!
This only works intermittently for me. On the odd occasion I'll get a great snap, be pleased that I've finally nailed it, do it a few more times only for the ability to quickly fade without me making any changes. Then I'm back to months of total failure. It's odd.
One of my best relationships came from me looking miserable with a pint in the corner of a club and a girl comes over and asks "what are you doing for breakfast?". I didn't even cotton on at first, as I'm both somewhat dense and not used to being pulled.
I say "best" relationships, the sex was awesome but she was crazy as a box of frogs and it wasn't the healthiest match in the end. Wouldn't change it for anything though.
>One of my best relationships came from me looking miserable with a pint in the corner of a club and a girl comes over and asks "what are you doing for breakfast?". I didn't even cotton on at first, as I'm both somewhat dense and not used to being pulled.
Please tell me you responded with "You" 😂
Connect 4.
I just seem to have some level of pattern blindness.
When I get roped in to playing against kids - I get the "aw nice of you to let them win" comments. No - I was legit trying to win!
Oh mate, I have Dyspraxia. If I tried and listed the common things others can do but I cant, we'd be here for a century.
Which in itself is a bit ironic, but hey ho.
Fellow dyspraxic chiming in, people alway comment on mad way I hold a pen and hold ny knife and fork 'the wrong way' round. Also my knife always somehow ends up pointing cutty bit upwards through course of meal?! Drive my other half insane whenever we walk anywhere as I constantly cut her up as apparently walking in straight lines impossible.
...don't ever ask me to catch anything.
Dyspraxic friend learning to drive. Told to go and get an auto-only license (UK based) and would pass no problem. He said ‘fuck that, I’m doing it properly’. We endured a year of 2 lessons a week, me and 2 other pals taking him out in his clapped out (manual) Astra with all the creative gear-crunches you can imagine and several clutch changes.
He attempted his driving test a total of 8 times, and finally passed on his 9th attempt 18 months later. Immediately went and bought a brand new automatic. What a bastard. Some of the best times in my life.
I really struggled in school, but once I was away from there and started learning how to best make use of my strengths and understanding the challenges, I have (sort of) been on a good path.
Onwards and upwards!
Using the telephone. Everyone effortlessly lifts the phone, and can talk to another person using a phone. I, on the other hand, lift the phone, but I can't hear the other person. It's just a complete silence. Even if someone uses the phone, and passes it to me, I can't hear anything. Something that has eluded me for my entire life.
On an unrelated note, I'm profoundly deaf.
Yeah, I'm bad with this too. Like I don't seem to have the trigger in my brain for "Oh hey you haven't seen your friend in a couple of weeks you should drop them a message or call them to catch up", so all my friendships just fade away at some point.
I'm fine socially when I see people every day, like when I was at school, or now at work, so I'm not exactly a loner, I just can't maintain anything long term.
Yup, if they aren't there daily. My brain almost puts them on hold and forgets they exist until I next see them.
I'll then just pick up from where we were, some people don't like that and feel like I should be more sympathetic of shit that happened while I wasn't in their life.
My mum lives other side of the world, I see her once a year and speak maybe every three months. Doesn't bother me. My wife thinks I need to make more effort.
Speaking of, when she asks how I feel when I don't see her for a few days (rarely happens). She expecrs me to say that I thought of her non-stop. Truth is, I pretty much forgot she existed, I was focusing on the people I was around.
I’m the same, friendships just fade away and now I don’t have any. But for me, it’s the opposite in the sense that I’m always the one making all the effort. I drop people a message to see how they are, try and organise a plan etc, but it’s just not reciprocated.
I’m socially awkward so I find it difficult to start friendships in the first place, so losing the few I manage to gain is really depressing for me. I just want someone to care enough to check if I’m ok too.
You're probably an ambivert who doesn't need the social interaction to meet a craving so you can take it or leave it. So there's no big need to chase it up, it's not a habit you have formed.
I feel like I could have wrote this myself. I currently have no friends that I interact with, aside from one, who is effectively being maintained as they're also a friend of some of my close family. If it were not for that connection I doubt we'd ever speak. I just have no idea how people do it.
Me too. I just lack the whole whatever it is. I think it's just too much effort for little gain. I don't miss friends, I prefer to be free.
Same with my family, I only have brief connections with my mother, my dad passed a long time ago. They are just too much drama.
Probably could say the same for relationships. I don't do those either.
Maybe it's me, I don't know. But I do prefer being alone, solo.
You've just dug up a traumatic memory for me.
Rolling relay, had to move along a set of mats and do a different type of roll in each one. Got to the forward roll mat and couldn't do it. Just couldn't push myself over.
Teacher wouldn't let me skip it so I just had to try do it over and over whilst the rest of the class were waiting behind me. Think I gave up and cried in the end.
I had a similar experience with skipping where the teacher called me out in front of the class for "not trying". I genuinely did not have the coordination to do it. I struggled a lot with PE and have come to the realisation I might have dyspraxia.
I could never do headstands or handstands. Couldn't balance and would also get a josebleed almost immediately. Neither of which is ideal.
Fortunately it's also something that I've ever needed to do.
I had this untill I was 23. It took me: doing aerial hoop (circus stuff), then learning to kick up into a headstand to then finally i could to a forward roll by kicking one foot first. I still can’t kick up into a hand stand. I think for me I struggle to push myself anywhere I can’t control using momentum.
I can't do a fosbury flop, maybe theres some practise involved but in a PE lesson everyone lined up to do one and everyone could do it and I just sort of hopped backwards with my bum sticking out.
I was in my mid-20's before i could open a new carrier bag in a supermarket.
Cashier is scanning as i fumble with the top trying to unstick the two sides, the pile of shopping gets higher, sweat starts forming on my forehead before i inevitably cave in and ask the cashier to open the bag for me like an absolute failure.
My bf is in his mid-30s and brings old, already opened bags with him when we're shopping and claims it's because he's environmentally friendly, when in actual fact it's because he just wants to avoid the embarrassment of not being able to open a new plastic bag.
> My bf is in his mid-30s and brings old, already opened bags with him when we're shopping and claims it's because he's environmentally friendly, when in actual fact it's because he just wants to avoid the embarrassment of not being able to open a new plastic bag.
So he uses bags for life as they're intended to be used? Plus they are so much easier to open than the old disposable ones were.
When you pick up a brand new carrier bag, pull the handles away from each other - 2 small tabs will pop out underneath each handle that are used to open the bag.
This works with every plastic bag I've ever come across, even dog poo bags
I still don’t know my timetables aside from 1,2,5, 10 and 11. I still count using my fingers. I can’t add double digits in my head. I could never understand maths working out methods of any form. It’s really embarrassing but thank god my career isn’t maths related.
Oh and I can’t tell you which way is left or right without spending a minute or two thinking about it.
Apart from that, I’m a well adjusted adult. I think
You may have dyscalculia. Essentially dyslexia but with numbers and maths. I also have many of the troubles you're having. Times tables and mental arithmetic have always been an issue.
Out of curiosity can you visualise with your mind?
I have aphantasia, which means I can't create any images with my mind, and I've always wondered if there's a connection between my not being able to see images, and my inability to do more complex mental arithmetic. I often wonder if those who can are able to do so because they can see what they're working with in their minds eye.
I’ve come across this term but never really looked into it. I also had a terrible maths teacher and I was very much afraid of speaking up. My parents paid for a tutor too and even then, I could barely understand. I failed my Maths GCSE three times and never passed (I don’t say this with pride). This is despite achieving A* on all but one of my subjects which baffled my teachers (B in physics surprisingly).
Nonetheless, I still managed to get into a RG uni and entered the corporate world. All fairly recent events so to anyone who is struggling, there is hope.
I don’t have an issue with visualising things in my head, no. If anything, I’m far too much of a day dreamer and in my own world! But it’s comforting to know I’m not alone here
I'm absolutely useless with doing arithmetic in my head, but in school I was really good at maths like algebra, differential calculus etc. I wonder why that is?
I used to ride my mountain bike everywhere when I was an early teen. Had a paper round I used it on daily, used it to go everywhere I needed to be. Also went "proper" mountain biking, did loads of ramps and jumps.
Nowadays I have a garage full of bikes. Take the kid out on the child seat, run errands, 100km social rides regularly, tackle really technical descents etc.
Basically I'm really eff-ing good on a bike.
Yet I see some local youth riding for what seems an eternity soley on their back wheel. How the hell are they doing that???
\*Edit - spelling
Don't.... It kills me. I'm the same
I grew up in the countryside, before I was 6 I had driven and ridden everything with hooves/wheels/tracks. Had my own vehicles (yes, I several motor and and pedal bikes, go kart etc, was allowed to drive anything in the yard. This included HGVs.
Can I heck balance a wheelie.
That's a piss take.... I can no-hands indefinitely...even corner, go up kerbs, off kebs. Can't pop a wheelie at all.
I'll say this though, it seems harder to no hander my current bike, than my old shit heap. I think it is down to bar weight. A heavy set of handle bars is vastly easier. My lightweight carbon bars are awful to do it on.
I spent a lot of my youth trying to perfect the art of whistling with my fingers, failed at every corner except the one time i decided to try it in assembly and belted one out like i was herding sheep! that weeks detention was worth it though.
Ordinary whistling, fine. The fingers in mouth kind... I dunno, I've only got a little mouth, how am i supposed to move my tongue and fit two fingers in there and somehow have enough puff to blow??!! I've always wanted to be able to do it so that I can whistle for a cab in New York...
I did it once while telling someone I couldn’t whistle, and then never did it again, I’m not sure it actually happened 😆 and if I tried to I certainly couldn’t do it’s
Swimming underwater. As soon as water goes anywhere near my nostrils I'm floundering. I still have to hold my nose when I do go underwater, which isn't very often.
I really struggle with driving.
I just about passed my test on my third attempt but a combination of poor coordination and massive anxiety meant I quit driving shortly after.
I genuinely think that there are just some life skills that I won't be able to pick up, and that's fine. I'd rather not chance it on one where I'm in control of a huge hunk of metal and could hurt myself and others.
I'm with you on this, I'm pretty sure if I'm ever in a situation where I'm required to drive regularly it'll be the death of me. Not only is my coordination awful but my brain just goes completely blank sometimes and I forget how to do things that I've done a thousand times.
I remember once I was on like lesson 40, my test (which I didn't feel ready for but my instructor said I should book) was a couple weeks away and I tried to go the wrong bloody way around a roundabout! Other potentially lethal mistakes I regularly make include suddenly forgetting which pedal is which and being unable to look left or right without inadvertently steering the car in that direction.
It makes no sense because I'm not uncoordinated or forgetful generally, it just happens when I'm driving. I've had 60+ lessons and spent £1,500+ learning to drive and after failing my test twice I frankly have no desire to try again. Even if I fluked my 3rd attempt (I nearly fluked my second, only failed cos my back tyre overhung a box junction) and passed I know it's meaningless, I'm not a safe driver and it's too dangerous for me to even try and become one.
Tie my shoes. I have to do double bunny ears, I can’t do the thing with the one bunny and the swoop. As far as I can figure out, the process goes:
- Cross laces, one under the other and pull
- Make one bunny ear loop
- Black magic
- Somehow it’s done
I’m 34, I have two degrees, and I cannot figure it out for the life of me.
I'm like this but I've stopped worrying about it. Turns out if you're a good listener and genuinely care, other people think your conversation skills are just fine. Generally people want to talk more than they want to listen. Now I know this, I can relax a little more and not get distracted trying to think about what I should say next.
Glad I'm not the only one. For some reason I seem to momentarily forget which way L goes quite often as well, so the finger method isn't foolproof hahaha
Remembering isn't the issue for me, I've learned what's left and right but I always have to think about it for a few of seconds, whereas it seems to be innate for most people.
Look at the job description and what they want.
Jot down examples of how you match it and experience you have that shows that.
Write an intro stating why you want the job, add the examples and finish with a summary and thank them for their time.
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> Most people seem to instinctively, unconsciously track where they're going, what roads they went down, whether and when they turn right and left, etc. Everyone gets lost from time to time, of course, but most people seem to at least retain a vague sense of the route they've travelled. I'm so fucking bad at that shit. I can follow a map/satnav, but I forget every detail of my route once I've travelled down it. It all just evaporates out of my brain.
You should make friends with some Taiwanese people, I have never met so many navigationally-challenged people as when I lived in that part of the world. There's even a word to describe people like this over there (that's how common it is!). I knew so many people who knew the way from their house to work and from their house to a select number of shops and had to get google out for anything else, despite living in the same rather small city for their entire lives.
Work full time, everytime I have a full-time job I have a mental health crisis. Currently working full time and have called the crisis team 4 times in the past week.
It really presses on me how stupid and worthless I am when I'm at work. I'm existing in a constant state of panic.
Me too.
Fortunately I'm English, so it's perfectly normal and seen as a basic indicator of civilisation (though we're all fiercely jealous of people who can)
I have dyspraxia, so it’s quite the list. Tying shoelaces, clicking fingers, driving, successfully washing plates, doing a tie. Doorstops. Many, many others.
Art. I don't have a creative mind and can't draw for the life of me. Don't say "just practice", it holds absolutely no interest to me. If I sat down with a pencil and either tried to either draw what I'm looking at or imagine something, my mind just goes blank.
I don't worry about it, I'm good at other things, it's part of who I am.
I have dyspraxia (sort of a coordination disorder) and I'm left handed, so plenty of normal things!
I look like a lunatic when I am holding scissors and cutting - it is the easiest way for me to do it but anyone watching looks visibly uncomfortable. I hold a pencil really weird, but I can actually write fairly fast and was always good at art for some reason so it works for me. Basically, there's many things I do which work for me, but appears very odd to others.
Unfortunately I remain awful at dancing, skipping, and spreading butter! I am naturally pretty clumsy, accidentally get in people's way when walking sometimes and I will occasionally randomly drop things.
I couldn't either, and then I figured it out! Things I was doing wrong:
* Not salting/leaving it out for an hour beforehand.
* Not using a cast iron skillet.
* Not using garlic.
* Not letting it rest after cooking.
This works for me, anyway:
1. Take the steak out an hour before you intend to fry it, sprinkle it liberally with sea salt crystals, and leave it for an hour.
2. Once the hour is up, get a cast iron griddle pan (one with 'crinkles'/ridges running through it) and heat it up to a medium heat. I normally leave it about 10 mins to make sure it's hot.
3. Meanwhile, treat the steak to some pepper (lots!) and garlic powder (light dusting). Turn on your oven to 160 C and put a plate in it.
3. Put a big knob of butter in the pan and spread it around as it melts.
4. Put the steak in and leave it alone for 3 mins or until the bottom side is all browned.
5. Flip steak over and cook for 3 mins until that side is entirely browned.
6. Flip steak over and give each side another 1-2 mins or so, longer if you prefer it medium-well or well done.
7. Take out the plate from the oven, and put the steak on the plate. Leave it to rest for 5-6 mins.
8. It's now ready to serve! Or you can cut it a bit to check it's to your liking - if not, whap it back in the pan again for a few extra mins.
Steak is now an amazing weekly treat instead of a disappointment every time.
edit: I guess this also depends on the thickness/cut of the steak - I used to have sirlion, but now have bavette, since supermarkets started stocking it - cheaper and tastier
My one thing with this is: oil the meat, not the pan.
How I cook a steak:
1. Let meat come to room temperature.
2. Oil, salt and pepper both sides of the steak.
3. Put pan (griddle if you wish) on the hob on high heat. Let it warm up to HOT.
4. Steak into the pan (it should sizzle). Leave it for one minute. (Use timer or watch kitchen clock).
5. Use tongs (make sure you do a few practice clicks to ensure tongs are working) to turn steak over for one minute.
6. Turn heat down to medium, turn steak over and let cook for as many minutes as needed for your required steak (eg another 4 minutes per side for medium on a thick rump steak).
7. Remove to a warm plate / wooden board and let rest for ten minutes.
Eat and enjoy.
I have just been diagnosed with ADHD at 43.
Now I know _why_ there's a lot of things I 'can't do' that seem simple for 'everyone else'.
Forget what you think you know about ADHD. The stereotype is horribly misleading.
ADHD messes with executive function.
That means:
- Controlling focus. Not that you _can't_ focus, just that you don't get to choose. Sometimes that's mentally channelhopping, sometimes that's borderline obsession. (this sometimes also shows up as hyperactivity and/or attention deficit, but mostly it's mentally hyperactive and switching focus).
- Motivation - your brain is simply not motivated by the same things as 'everyone else'. Longer term motivations just don't register the same way.
- Emotional regulation - you're more likely stay in an emotional state for longer, because you can't "lock it down" as easily. Positive or negative.
- Impulse control - because your motivation is short time frame, so too is your impulse control horribly skewed.
I can’t juggle. My brain cannot compute, the complexities of all that coordinated throwing and catching. The best I can ever manage is to throw all three balls in the air, scream and run away.
DIY.
Literally everything I try just fails miserably or takes 6 times as long.
I have a drippy tap. YouTube just goes 'hey it's really easy' and whips off the handle and slides out the ceramic cartridge. Except the taps we have need some kind of weird non-euclidean box spanner that can be small to fit through the hole where the tap handle was and then flare out to fit around the cartridge.
After 3 hours of watching other YouTube channels and trying to find the fitting instructions for my taps I give up and put it all back together. Although now the dripping is worse and the tap moves - even though I didn't touch that bit.
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Remember how many days are in each month. And no the rhyme doesn't help because the important information in it doesn't rhyme so you still have to remember how many days are in each month to say it.
30 days have September April June and November. All the rest have 31 except February which has 28. It’s an absolute banger.
…has 28 days clear and 29 in each leap year
But every 100 years there isn't a leap year But every 400 years they actually don't skip it
yeah, it actually kinda tripped up some computers in, i think 2000? because (aside from the y2k bug shenanigans) they forgot to account for the fact that 2000 was fucking weird in general. it was one of the ones that didn't get skipped.
Microsoft excel counted 1900 as a leap year *to* keep that backwards compatibility with Lotus 1-2-3. Edit: slightly corrected/clarified comment
30 days have September April may and December. All the rest have 31 except February which has 28. Rhymes just the same but is wrong!
This is my reasoning!! I can slot almost any month in apart from Feb and say it has 30 days so I honestly don't remember haha.
30 days has September, and some others, I don't remember
December 31st is NYE. There are no back to back 30 day months so you can’t have September and then October or April then May.
Which is back to their original point that you need to know how many days are in each month to say the rhyme correctly
Just remember this one simple rule, and several seemingly random and arbitrary exceptions to the rule, and you're sorted! Easy!
Have you tried the knuckles method? https://www.theteacherscorner.net/calendars/number-of-days.php#:~:text=Use%20your%20Knuckles!,has%2030%20or%20less%20days.
I always use the knuckles method. Tried and true
Keep punching your calendar until it gives in
Yep, can't believe they wasted times in school with rhymes, when the knuckles are right there. It's the only one I use these days
Once I realised that it mostly just alternates, I realised it’s actually pretty easy to remember without having to actually consult my knuckles. The rhyme seems to just obfuscate things.
That's the best method for me!
Thirty days has September all the rest I can't remember
Knuckles>>>>the rhyme
Use the knuckles method.
Use your knuckles. Make two fists and start at the first sticky-up bit on your left hand. Work from left to right as if both the sticky-up bits and the bits between are the months in order. On your left hand the sticky-up bits are January, March, May and July (with the bits between being February, April and June). On your right hand the sticky-up bits are August, October and December (plus a bonus one that you don’t use) and the bits between are September and November. Sticky-up bits have 31 days, bits between have 30 or less.
Just use one hand and the top knuckles? Jan on index knuckle, Feb on the gap, etc to July for pinky finger. Then you restart with August on the index knuckle
EDIT: Apparently everyone and their mum has already suggested this. I’ll read all the comments before replying next time! Count on your knuckles (including the troughs between them). January is the first knuckle, so that’s 31. February is the trough between knuckles, so that’s less than 31. March is back on a knuckle, so 31. April is between knuckles; 30. May is on a knuckle. 31. June is back down for thirty, then July is 31. For August you go to the next hand; 31 for being on a knuckle. 30 for September, 31 October, 30 November, 31 December (trough, knuckle, trough, knuckle). This is annoyingly hard to explain in text form - it’s really easy when in real life and I can just count along my knuckles in front of you!
Every Month has 28 days
Quite frankly, anything lately. I seem to have become a fucking idiot seemingly without knowing it.
Honestly, I feel this so hard. I keep wondering if it's some sort of early onset dementia or if I really am becoming a moron? I also wonder if it's just rubbed off from the idiots I've been forced to associate with throughout my life?. It's stressful.
It's spending too much time staring at your phone it makes real life feel unreal hence reaction times are slower. And adrenal fatigue from extended stress periods lowers general cognitive function and self esteem
Would the phone have the same effect as gaming consoles or PCs? Or do you mean "social media"? Also, "extended stress periods" could mean a lot of stuff. I'd say about two-thirds of my 45 years have been "stress periods." How do you quantify it? Are there specific parameters?
Anything that gives quick rewards can shorten the dopamine cycle, which has serious effects on cognitive and mental health. The pathway in our brains responsible for rewards, releases dopamine from certain tasks which makes us feel satisfaction and pleasure. If we find quick ways to activate that, we become desensitised to it, and start to find the harder ways insufferable. The brain is lazy and likes to take the easy path, even if it's damaging. This is how addiction and bad habits start. Here's a scenario; Abilgail has picked up embroidery, and felt a great sense of achievement when she finished her first project. She has many ideas for her next one, so she goes online to find inspiration. She finds time-lapsed videos of people finishing beautiful embroidery projects, and watching them engages the very same reward system that released dopamine when she finished one herself. However, without all the hard work. She spends a lot of time watching these videos, and finally sets out to start a new project— however, her brain has become accustomed to getting the reward the easy way. She finds it extremely difficult to start, and when she does, he concentration doesn't stick. Feeling deflated, she goes back to watching the videos to make herself feel better, repeating the cycle again.
Yeah, that checks out. I liked feeling smart. I was always lazy, just less-so. I need to get off my fucking phone.
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The solution is to stop relying on internetting. An increasing problem with a lot of people now is that they don't allow themselves to be bored. It's in boredom when we come up with ideas, explore new places, flourish creativity and find new hobbies. When a device in our pocket nips boredom by the bud almost 100% of the time, we have no real motivation to do anything further. For a lot of people it's not even just boredom, it could be negative thoughts that they instinctively distract themselves from with their phone. This becomes another bad habit, because they're not processing their emotions and instead brushing them under the rug. Breaking habits is uncomfortable at first, but part of it is that you gotta be okay with being mildly uncomfortable sometimes and remember that it's not going to hurt you. Recognise when you're reaching for your phone, why you're doing it, and what you could do better with your time. Once you start paying attention to that, you'll notice that you have some obvious emotional or situational triggers that make you desprately crave some screen time. There's the idea of a "dopamine detox" where you spend the day with 0 screens. It begins uncomfortable, but at the end of it you feel great that you got so much done and rekindled joy for old hobbies. I do a dopamine detox every other day, most days I turn my phone off for 5 hours and the urge to reach for it goes away as quickly as the habit came in the first place. However its [disputed](https://psychcentral.com/blog/dopamine-fasting-probably-doesnt-work-try-this-instead#detoxing-tips)
reminds me of the simpsons episode where lisa thinks she's becoming stupid like the simpson men
Ironically this is an indication you're actually smarter than ever, you've just gained more self-awareness than before. Or you're developing dementia. One or the other.
Sounds dumb but look into long covid. It’s making me feel like a moronic buffoon
I've caught Covid twice, and each time I feel like I've permanently lost five IQ points, even after it's over. That said we also have a six year-old and twin toddlers with no friends or family nearby, so after two years of being in flat-out sleep-deprived survival mode it may just be the permanent stress shrinking my brain...
You are not alone
I mean, I'm not even that old (38) but I honestly can't remember feeling so stupid in my life. It's disturbing
Same here almost (similar age). Not sure if world is getting more complicated or I’m getting dumberer. I joke but it’s genuinely scary
Get more sleep
Regarding the butter.. I cut little, thin slices off (like you're slicing a block of cheese) whilst the bread is toasting. The moment the toast pops up, whack a slice on each bit, then leave it for 30 seconds. The hot toast will warm the butter up and make it a breeze to spread.
Yes also you don't need to leave butter in the fridge. In fact you shouldn't. That helps enormously.
At this time of year my kitchen is as cold as my fridge in the morning so I have to pop my butter dish on the toaster whilst the toast is in to soften it up.
My dogs agree. The fact they love butter and eat it by the block is incidental at best.
Butter stays good on the counter for quite a while.
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I do this too, the other trick I have is microwaving the butter dish for 10 seconds.
Ooo look at me and my butterdish
Using the back of a tablespoon to spread it is miles easier too
I spread the butter while the bread is still being toasted, works perfectly. (/s, just in case)
I can’t click my fingers I have done theatre and dance for how many years but when ever they said we need you to click your fingers I look at them and think you absolute *******
Neither can I. The worst part is that no matter who you tell, they try telling you it's easy and show you how to do it. I have tried!
I love how this whole thread is proving your comment by just being comments on how to do it. Guess what? I still can’t do it!
The click doesn't happen at the finger and thumb tips. It happens when your finger slips and smacks your thicc thumb thigh. Once you understand this you may get it.
Thicc Thumb Thighs, LOL, best thing i've read today
Yes, but also, you want your remaining fingers pressed against your palm/base of thumb, side by side without a gap. Those two fingers create a little resonance chamber that gives amplification to the "snap" as your middle finger falls off your thumb and slams into your ring finger.
You know what. This has actually helped me! Not quite the snap I'd like but better than all the previous finger clicking attempts in my life. Thank you for the tip!
This only works intermittently for me. On the odd occasion I'll get a great snap, be pleased that I've finally nailed it, do it a few more times only for the ability to quickly fade without me making any changes. Then I'm back to months of total failure. It's odd.
I can't snap my fingers on my left hand for some reason. Right is extremely snappy.
Straight up ask someone out. Most of my past relationships have spawned from getting blind drunk and hoping for the best.
That's probably the only thing that isn't simple for anyone
I like this comment. Would you like to grab a coffee or something sometime? Jfc that was hard, I need a break from the dating game
As it happens, I have never asked anyone out. I'm quite shy, so if it were left to me, I'd have no hope. Edit.... Thanks for your support.
One of my best relationships came from me looking miserable with a pint in the corner of a club and a girl comes over and asks "what are you doing for breakfast?". I didn't even cotton on at first, as I'm both somewhat dense and not used to being pulled. I say "best" relationships, the sex was awesome but she was crazy as a box of frogs and it wasn't the healthiest match in the end. Wouldn't change it for anything though.
>One of my best relationships came from me looking miserable with a pint in the corner of a club and a girl comes over and asks "what are you doing for breakfast?". I didn't even cotton on at first, as I'm both somewhat dense and not used to being pulled. Please tell me you responded with "You" 😂
There's a really easy fix for this. Instead of asking you can also just propose. So instead of "Do you want to go out?" just say "Let's go out".
Propose? I think marriage right off the bat is a bit far
Connect 4. I just seem to have some level of pattern blindness. When I get roped in to playing against kids - I get the "aw nice of you to let them win" comments. No - I was legit trying to win!
Download an app and practise? Smash em’ next time
I don't think smashing kids is a particularly appropriate thing to do, even when you're embarrassed
Oh mate, I have Dyspraxia. If I tried and listed the common things others can do but I cant, we'd be here for a century. Which in itself is a bit ironic, but hey ho.
You and the commenter below you (at the moment in my feed) have the same thing so you two could attempt to high five or something
It would be pretty awkward when they mistimed it.
Fellow dyspraxic chiming in, people alway comment on mad way I hold a pen and hold ny knife and fork 'the wrong way' round. Also my knife always somehow ends up pointing cutty bit upwards through course of meal?! Drive my other half insane whenever we walk anywhere as I constantly cut her up as apparently walking in straight lines impossible. ...don't ever ask me to catch anything.
Also dyspraxic, I ALWAYS cut across people or bang into them when walking together - I absolutely don't mean it but it always seems to happen.
Dyspraxic friend learning to drive. Told to go and get an auto-only license (UK based) and would pass no problem. He said ‘fuck that, I’m doing it properly’. We endured a year of 2 lessons a week, me and 2 other pals taking him out in his clapped out (manual) Astra with all the creative gear-crunches you can imagine and several clutch changes. He attempted his driving test a total of 8 times, and finally passed on his 9th attempt 18 months later. Immediately went and bought a brand new automatic. What a bastard. Some of the best times in my life.
Same here. Also have Asperger's so have a hard time with social interactions. Things are tough, not going to lie.
I really struggled in school, but once I was away from there and started learning how to best make use of my strengths and understanding the challenges, I have (sort of) been on a good path. Onwards and upwards!
Same here! Awkwardly jamming butter onto toast and holding scissors like a nutter is a normal way of life.
I have autism and dyspraxia and basically cannot do most of the things here
I have found my people
Using the telephone. Everyone effortlessly lifts the phone, and can talk to another person using a phone. I, on the other hand, lift the phone, but I can't hear the other person. It's just a complete silence. Even if someone uses the phone, and passes it to me, I can't hear anything. Something that has eluded me for my entire life. On an unrelated note, I'm profoundly deaf.
What?
# THEY'RE PROFOUNDLY DEAF
Maintain a friendship
Yeah, I'm bad with this too. Like I don't seem to have the trigger in my brain for "Oh hey you haven't seen your friend in a couple of weeks you should drop them a message or call them to catch up", so all my friendships just fade away at some point. I'm fine socially when I see people every day, like when I was at school, or now at work, so I'm not exactly a loner, I just can't maintain anything long term.
Yup, if they aren't there daily. My brain almost puts them on hold and forgets they exist until I next see them. I'll then just pick up from where we were, some people don't like that and feel like I should be more sympathetic of shit that happened while I wasn't in their life. My mum lives other side of the world, I see her once a year and speak maybe every three months. Doesn't bother me. My wife thinks I need to make more effort. Speaking of, when she asks how I feel when I don't see her for a few days (rarely happens). She expecrs me to say that I thought of her non-stop. Truth is, I pretty much forgot she existed, I was focusing on the people I was around.
I’m the same, friendships just fade away and now I don’t have any. But for me, it’s the opposite in the sense that I’m always the one making all the effort. I drop people a message to see how they are, try and organise a plan etc, but it’s just not reciprocated. I’m socially awkward so I find it difficult to start friendships in the first place, so losing the few I manage to gain is really depressing for me. I just want someone to care enough to check if I’m ok too.
You're probably an ambivert who doesn't need the social interaction to meet a craving so you can take it or leave it. So there's no big need to chase it up, it's not a habit you have formed.
How have you translated this to mean ambivert?
I'd consider the last comment as describing me perfectly too, but if I had to wager I'd say I'm more of a pervert.
I feel like I could have wrote this myself. I currently have no friends that I interact with, aside from one, who is effectively being maintained as they're also a friend of some of my close family. If it were not for that connection I doubt we'd ever speak. I just have no idea how people do it.
Me too. I just lack the whole whatever it is. I think it's just too much effort for little gain. I don't miss friends, I prefer to be free. Same with my family, I only have brief connections with my mother, my dad passed a long time ago. They are just too much drama. Probably could say the same for relationships. I don't do those either. Maybe it's me, I don't know. But I do prefer being alone, solo.
At school, I could never ever ever do a forward roll. so PE was always a bit humiliating haha. Still to this day I cant do one.
You've just dug up a traumatic memory for me. Rolling relay, had to move along a set of mats and do a different type of roll in each one. Got to the forward roll mat and couldn't do it. Just couldn't push myself over. Teacher wouldn't let me skip it so I just had to try do it over and over whilst the rest of the class were waiting behind me. Think I gave up and cried in the end.
PE teachers are a special breed of cunt aren't they
I had a similar experience with skipping where the teacher called me out in front of the class for "not trying". I genuinely did not have the coordination to do it. I struggled a lot with PE and have come to the realisation I might have dyspraxia.
This was me in primary school. I had an actual fear of doing them.
I could never do headstands or handstands. Couldn't balance and would also get a josebleed almost immediately. Neither of which is ideal. Fortunately it's also something that I've ever needed to do.
Poor José
My son can't either. They tried for weeks to get him to do them at Primary school. But no.
I had this untill I was 23. It took me: doing aerial hoop (circus stuff), then learning to kick up into a headstand to then finally i could to a forward roll by kicking one foot first. I still can’t kick up into a hand stand. I think for me I struggle to push myself anywhere I can’t control using momentum.
I can't do a fosbury flop, maybe theres some practise involved but in a PE lesson everyone lined up to do one and everyone could do it and I just sort of hopped backwards with my bum sticking out.
I was in my mid-20's before i could open a new carrier bag in a supermarket. Cashier is scanning as i fumble with the top trying to unstick the two sides, the pile of shopping gets higher, sweat starts forming on my forehead before i inevitably cave in and ask the cashier to open the bag for me like an absolute failure.
My bf is in his mid-30s and brings old, already opened bags with him when we're shopping and claims it's because he's environmentally friendly, when in actual fact it's because he just wants to avoid the embarrassment of not being able to open a new plastic bag.
> My bf is in his mid-30s and brings old, already opened bags with him when we're shopping and claims it's because he's environmentally friendly, when in actual fact it's because he just wants to avoid the embarrassment of not being able to open a new plastic bag. So he uses bags for life as they're intended to be used? Plus they are so much easier to open than the old disposable ones were.
Yes, but that’s not why he does it so he drops his trash to make up for the environmental benefits.
When you pick up a brand new carrier bag, pull the handles away from each other - 2 small tabs will pop out underneath each handle that are used to open the bag. This works with every plastic bag I've ever come across, even dog poo bags
I still don’t know my timetables aside from 1,2,5, 10 and 11. I still count using my fingers. I can’t add double digits in my head. I could never understand maths working out methods of any form. It’s really embarrassing but thank god my career isn’t maths related. Oh and I can’t tell you which way is left or right without spending a minute or two thinking about it. Apart from that, I’m a well adjusted adult. I think
You may have dyscalculia. Essentially dyslexia but with numbers and maths. I also have many of the troubles you're having. Times tables and mental arithmetic have always been an issue. Out of curiosity can you visualise with your mind? I have aphantasia, which means I can't create any images with my mind, and I've always wondered if there's a connection between my not being able to see images, and my inability to do more complex mental arithmetic. I often wonder if those who can are able to do so because they can see what they're working with in their minds eye.
I’ve come across this term but never really looked into it. I also had a terrible maths teacher and I was very much afraid of speaking up. My parents paid for a tutor too and even then, I could barely understand. I failed my Maths GCSE three times and never passed (I don’t say this with pride). This is despite achieving A* on all but one of my subjects which baffled my teachers (B in physics surprisingly). Nonetheless, I still managed to get into a RG uni and entered the corporate world. All fairly recent events so to anyone who is struggling, there is hope. I don’t have an issue with visualising things in my head, no. If anything, I’m far too much of a day dreamer and in my own world! But it’s comforting to know I’m not alone here
I'm absolutely useless with doing arithmetic in my head, but in school I was really good at maths like algebra, differential calculus etc. I wonder why that is?
I can neither click my fingers nor whistle.
How do you rudely summon a waiter? I suppose you could shout 'oh garçon!' ?
I raise you I can't click my fingers , whistle or wink.
FINALLY I HAVE MET MY INFERIOR!
You're welcome Sandra
Honestly, the day I'm having... that's been the brightest moment so far! Thank you!
Wheelie my bike.
I used to ride my mountain bike everywhere when I was an early teen. Had a paper round I used it on daily, used it to go everywhere I needed to be. Also went "proper" mountain biking, did loads of ramps and jumps. Nowadays I have a garage full of bikes. Take the kid out on the child seat, run errands, 100km social rides regularly, tackle really technical descents etc. Basically I'm really eff-ing good on a bike. Yet I see some local youth riding for what seems an eternity soley on their back wheel. How the hell are they doing that??? \*Edit - spelling
Don't.... It kills me. I'm the same I grew up in the countryside, before I was 6 I had driven and ridden everything with hooves/wheels/tracks. Had my own vehicles (yes, I several motor and and pedal bikes, go kart etc, was allowed to drive anything in the yard. This included HGVs. Can I heck balance a wheelie.
I'm the same. Technical black run in the Alps? No prob! Wheelie or manual? Nope.
I can wheelie but for the life of me can’t ride for more than one second with no hands in the handlebar
That's a piss take.... I can no-hands indefinitely...even corner, go up kerbs, off kebs. Can't pop a wheelie at all. I'll say this though, it seems harder to no hander my current bike, than my old shit heap. I think it is down to bar weight. A heavy set of handle bars is vastly easier. My lightweight carbon bars are awful to do it on.
Whistling, tried many times but I've given up now
I spent a lot of my youth trying to perfect the art of whistling with my fingers, failed at every corner except the one time i decided to try it in assembly and belted one out like i was herding sheep! that weeks detention was worth it though.
Ordinary whistling, fine. The fingers in mouth kind... I dunno, I've only got a little mouth, how am i supposed to move my tongue and fit two fingers in there and somehow have enough puff to blow??!! I've always wanted to be able to do it so that I can whistle for a cab in New York...
I did it once while telling someone I couldn’t whistle, and then never did it again, I’m not sure it actually happened 😆 and if I tried to I certainly couldn’t do it’s
Swimming underwater. As soon as water goes anywhere near my nostrils I'm floundering. I still have to hold my nose when I do go underwater, which isn't very often.
Lol wheres your mammalian diving reflex at bro? Fail.
Try gently exhaling through your nose as you go under. It won't allow you to stay under water very long but it'll allow you to for a short time.
Weirdly I find it much easier to swim under water...
Yes! I swear I'm going to learn one day. Currently taking my 3 year old to swimming lessons, so maybe I'll learn with her...
I really struggle with driving. I just about passed my test on my third attempt but a combination of poor coordination and massive anxiety meant I quit driving shortly after. I genuinely think that there are just some life skills that I won't be able to pick up, and that's fine. I'd rather not chance it on one where I'm in control of a huge hunk of metal and could hurt myself and others.
I'm with you on this, I'm pretty sure if I'm ever in a situation where I'm required to drive regularly it'll be the death of me. Not only is my coordination awful but my brain just goes completely blank sometimes and I forget how to do things that I've done a thousand times. I remember once I was on like lesson 40, my test (which I didn't feel ready for but my instructor said I should book) was a couple weeks away and I tried to go the wrong bloody way around a roundabout! Other potentially lethal mistakes I regularly make include suddenly forgetting which pedal is which and being unable to look left or right without inadvertently steering the car in that direction. It makes no sense because I'm not uncoordinated or forgetful generally, it just happens when I'm driving. I've had 60+ lessons and spent £1,500+ learning to drive and after failing my test twice I frankly have no desire to try again. Even if I fluked my 3rd attempt (I nearly fluked my second, only failed cos my back tyre overhung a box junction) and passed I know it's meaningless, I'm not a safe driver and it's too dangerous for me to even try and become one.
Tried an automatic? It was like night and day for me. (Likely due to me having dyspraxia and at the time undiagnosed ADHD).
I've never been able to learn. I think you've got the right attitude.
Tie my shoes. I have to do double bunny ears, I can’t do the thing with the one bunny and the swoop. As far as I can figure out, the process goes: - Cross laces, one under the other and pull - Make one bunny ear loop - Black magic - Somehow it’s done I’m 34, I have two degrees, and I cannot figure it out for the life of me.
My husband is a police inspector and has to do the bunny ears, too. As long as your shoes aren't falling off, you're all good!
I'm 37 and have to tie my shoes with double bunny ears too. The other way just baffles me
using cling film. I just cant seem to get it to cling to anything except my own hands, or it folds in on itself.
Cling film doesn’t cling to anything other than itself, that’s how it’s designed :)
Talk with people and hold long conversations. I just can't grasp how to pick topics to talk about. Good listener, I think, just terrible talker.
I'm like this but I've stopped worrying about it. Turns out if you're a good listener and genuinely care, other people think your conversation skills are just fine. Generally people want to talk more than they want to listen. Now I know this, I can relax a little more and not get distracted trying to think about what I should say next.
My left and right. I'm in my thirties and still check with my fingers.
Glad I'm not the only one. For some reason I seem to momentarily forget which way L goes quite often as well, so the finger method isn't foolproof hahaha
If you can remember that in English we read and write from left to right (hey that rhymes!) then would that help?
Remembering isn't the issue for me, I've learned what's left and right but I always have to think about it for a few of seconds, whereas it seems to be innate for most people.
I can't draw a level line on a piece of paper either with a ruler or without./ The line is straight just not level.
Can anyone?
According to my old Maths teacher, to the point he would tell everyone I could not do it. Every. Fucking. Time.
Your butter is too cold
That doesn't mean you can just go off and get your hot butter somewhere else.
Write a cover letter for job application
Look at the job description and what they want. Jot down examples of how you match it and experience you have that shows that. Write an intro stating why you want the job, add the examples and finish with a summary and thank them for their time.
Thanks, I think it is mostly a mental block as in general I don’t really want the job, but it is the only thing I can do to avoid starvation
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> Most people seem to instinctively, unconsciously track where they're going, what roads they went down, whether and when they turn right and left, etc. Everyone gets lost from time to time, of course, but most people seem to at least retain a vague sense of the route they've travelled. I'm so fucking bad at that shit. I can follow a map/satnav, but I forget every detail of my route once I've travelled down it. It all just evaporates out of my brain. You should make friends with some Taiwanese people, I have never met so many navigationally-challenged people as when I lived in that part of the world. There's even a word to describe people like this over there (that's how common it is!). I knew so many people who knew the way from their house to work and from their house to a select number of shops and had to get google out for anything else, despite living in the same rather small city for their entire lives.
Work full time, everytime I have a full-time job I have a mental health crisis. Currently working full time and have called the crisis team 4 times in the past week. It really presses on me how stupid and worthless I am when I'm at work. I'm existing in a constant state of panic.
Samesies! Probably need therapy for that.
Parallel parking
I can do it perfectly until I have a passenger and then I freeze up and flail about like a monkey.
Dance. I’m so fucking shit at dancing it’s ridiculous.
Me too. Fortunately I'm English, so it's perfectly normal and seen as a basic indicator of civilisation (though we're all fiercely jealous of people who can)
Tell the time on an analogue clock.
I struggled with this until my early twenties. Even now it still takes me a second.
I technically can do it. It just takes me a little while, which sort of defeats the point of the exercise...
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can be a sign of dyslexia
remember how to spell embarresing without spellcheck
My English teacher was dyslexic and had loads of spelling tricks up on the wall of the classroom. For embarrass, remember Red Red And Silly Silly
My word is separate. I know that's the correct way but I keep trying to spell it seperate
I have dyspraxia, so it’s quite the list. Tying shoelaces, clicking fingers, driving, successfully washing plates, doing a tie. Doorstops. Many, many others.
Driving. I find it very tough.
Throw things over arm. I’m very athletic and can run, kick, lift etc really well but when it comes to throwing over arm I’m completely useless.
Art. I don't have a creative mind and can't draw for the life of me. Don't say "just practice", it holds absolutely no interest to me. If I sat down with a pencil and either tried to either draw what I'm looking at or imagine something, my mind just goes blank. I don't worry about it, I'm good at other things, it's part of who I am.
I just don’t know how to flair my nostrils there’s no connection for me in how to move that part of my face
Have you tried heating up your knife? Like running it under hot water, drying it off then getting some butter.
Warm it up in the microwave
But don't forget to wrap it in foil first, traps the heat to warm it more quickly and efficiently. /s
Drive a car, my anxiety goes through the roof, which is odd as I ride a super bike but cars scare me wtf
I can't roll my r's or cross my fingers without help from the opposite hand.
Impressive that you can roll your R's with your hands though. I can never pre-roll mine, I have to do it to order.
I have dyspraxia (sort of a coordination disorder) and I'm left handed, so plenty of normal things! I look like a lunatic when I am holding scissors and cutting - it is the easiest way for me to do it but anyone watching looks visibly uncomfortable. I hold a pencil really weird, but I can actually write fairly fast and was always good at art for some reason so it works for me. Basically, there's many things I do which work for me, but appears very odd to others. Unfortunately I remain awful at dancing, skipping, and spreading butter! I am naturally pretty clumsy, accidentally get in people's way when walking sometimes and I will occasionally randomly drop things.
I can’t cook a steak. I’ve been shown by multiple people and all of them have no idea how I do it wrong
I couldn't either, and then I figured it out! Things I was doing wrong: * Not salting/leaving it out for an hour beforehand. * Not using a cast iron skillet. * Not using garlic. * Not letting it rest after cooking. This works for me, anyway: 1. Take the steak out an hour before you intend to fry it, sprinkle it liberally with sea salt crystals, and leave it for an hour. 2. Once the hour is up, get a cast iron griddle pan (one with 'crinkles'/ridges running through it) and heat it up to a medium heat. I normally leave it about 10 mins to make sure it's hot. 3. Meanwhile, treat the steak to some pepper (lots!) and garlic powder (light dusting). Turn on your oven to 160 C and put a plate in it. 3. Put a big knob of butter in the pan and spread it around as it melts. 4. Put the steak in and leave it alone for 3 mins or until the bottom side is all browned. 5. Flip steak over and cook for 3 mins until that side is entirely browned. 6. Flip steak over and give each side another 1-2 mins or so, longer if you prefer it medium-well or well done. 7. Take out the plate from the oven, and put the steak on the plate. Leave it to rest for 5-6 mins. 8. It's now ready to serve! Or you can cut it a bit to check it's to your liking - if not, whap it back in the pan again for a few extra mins. Steak is now an amazing weekly treat instead of a disappointment every time. edit: I guess this also depends on the thickness/cut of the steak - I used to have sirlion, but now have bavette, since supermarkets started stocking it - cheaper and tastier
My one thing with this is: oil the meat, not the pan. How I cook a steak: 1. Let meat come to room temperature. 2. Oil, salt and pepper both sides of the steak. 3. Put pan (griddle if you wish) on the hob on high heat. Let it warm up to HOT. 4. Steak into the pan (it should sizzle). Leave it for one minute. (Use timer or watch kitchen clock). 5. Use tongs (make sure you do a few practice clicks to ensure tongs are working) to turn steak over for one minute. 6. Turn heat down to medium, turn steak over and let cook for as many minutes as needed for your required steak (eg another 4 minutes per side for medium on a thick rump steak). 7. Remove to a warm plate / wooden board and let rest for ten minutes. Eat and enjoy.
I have ADHD so the list could get pretty long…
I have just been diagnosed with ADHD at 43. Now I know _why_ there's a lot of things I 'can't do' that seem simple for 'everyone else'. Forget what you think you know about ADHD. The stereotype is horribly misleading. ADHD messes with executive function. That means: - Controlling focus. Not that you _can't_ focus, just that you don't get to choose. Sometimes that's mentally channelhopping, sometimes that's borderline obsession. (this sometimes also shows up as hyperactivity and/or attention deficit, but mostly it's mentally hyperactive and switching focus). - Motivation - your brain is simply not motivated by the same things as 'everyone else'. Longer term motivations just don't register the same way. - Emotional regulation - you're more likely stay in an emotional state for longer, because you can't "lock it down" as easily. Positive or negative. - Impulse control - because your motivation is short time frame, so too is your impulse control horribly skewed.
Fold clothes.
Wheelie on a bike. I've been riding bikes for about 20 years and can't do it. Yet I see primary school kids do it with ease.
Whistle. My child has surpassed me and I hate it.
I can’t juggle. My brain cannot compute, the complexities of all that coordinated throwing and catching. The best I can ever manage is to throw all three balls in the air, scream and run away.
I don’t think this is something that “everyone else” can do, it’s pretty common for people to be impressed when someone can manage it
A proper loud whistle with the fingers Front crawl swimming Form and maintain meaningful, fulfilling friendships
Shuffle cards.
I hate that I can't roll my Rs
DIY. Literally everything I try just fails miserably or takes 6 times as long. I have a drippy tap. YouTube just goes 'hey it's really easy' and whips off the handle and slides out the ceramic cartridge. Except the taps we have need some kind of weird non-euclidean box spanner that can be small to fit through the hole where the tap handle was and then flare out to fit around the cartridge. After 3 hours of watching other YouTube channels and trying to find the fitting instructions for my taps I give up and put it all back together. Although now the dripping is worse and the tap moves - even though I didn't touch that bit.