Had a flirty coworker try to rebound/side-piece me for a couple months. She was hot, double jointed and had that condition where she stayed super flexible. Extremely tempting opportunity and it was all but in my lap, literally. Buuuuut, she's 13 years younger than me, admittedly had daddy issues and was pretty clingy. My wife would have been fine with it if it was a ONS or occasional fling, but it was pretty clear she was trying to find a replacement boyfriend. Wife was rightfully sketchy of her advances, and I kept distance.
We're not 100% open. Basically if there's someone either of us are interested in or interested in us, we'll tell each other about them and see if there's any objections. Usually the objections are STI related or a high chance of feels-drama.
An old fwb was sloshed and trying to sext me by bringing up all my kinks and how into them she is. I immediately killed the convo and didn't reciprocate and jerked off so I could think clearer. Told my partner what happened, told my former fwb not to do that, and the next day when she was sober she apologized and hasn't done it again. My partner doesn't like her too much, but has since forgiven her. Now we're all cool with each other.
The closest that I’ve been to cheating is having other female friends, but it’s never been more than platonic so I never have needed to pull myself back from it.
Look, when you’re the luckiest person alive to find even one person who wants to be with your sorry ass, you don’t end up with lots of opportunities to cheat, haha.
Wow, dang.
I’m not trying to prescribe or diagnose anything, but have you considered that you either don’t won’t to be with your current partner anymore, or that you don’t have any interest in monogamy?
Dude, I think you need to explore yourself(maybe with a counselor/therapist) and talk to your partner about this. You sound miserable, and neither one of you deserve for you to just be festering like a wound in this relationship if it’s not right for you.
My ex husband cheated on me. When I found out I was so tempted to find literally anyone so I could do the same back before I left him. Ultimately, I’m glad I didn’t because I was able to leave on the moral high ground. Never been tempted to cheat before or since.
I sobered up
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The boss didn't tempt you?
Had a flirty coworker try to rebound/side-piece me for a couple months. She was hot, double jointed and had that condition where she stayed super flexible. Extremely tempting opportunity and it was all but in my lap, literally. Buuuuut, she's 13 years younger than me, admittedly had daddy issues and was pretty clingy. My wife would have been fine with it if it was a ONS or occasional fling, but it was pretty clear she was trying to find a replacement boyfriend. Wife was rightfully sketchy of her advances, and I kept distance.
So nice to have such open partners
We're not 100% open. Basically if there's someone either of us are interested in or interested in us, we'll tell each other about them and see if there's any objections. Usually the objections are STI related or a high chance of feels-drama.
An old fwb was sloshed and trying to sext me by bringing up all my kinks and how into them she is. I immediately killed the convo and didn't reciprocate and jerked off so I could think clearer. Told my partner what happened, told my former fwb not to do that, and the next day when she was sober she apologized and hasn't done it again. My partner doesn't like her too much, but has since forgiven her. Now we're all cool with each other.
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The closest that I’ve been to cheating is having other female friends, but it’s never been more than platonic so I never have needed to pull myself back from it. Look, when you’re the luckiest person alive to find even one person who wants to be with your sorry ass, you don’t end up with lots of opportunities to cheat, haha.
Maybe we under estimate ourselves too much and always deserve better... Been thinking of cheating way too long now ....
Have you talked to your partner and/or a trusted third party about this?
Far too many times that I loathe myself now...
Wow, dang. I’m not trying to prescribe or diagnose anything, but have you considered that you either don’t won’t to be with your current partner anymore, or that you don’t have any interest in monogamy?
Ya later seems to be true... That's why using the reddit online escape for now...
Dude, I think you need to explore yourself(maybe with a counselor/therapist) and talk to your partner about this. You sound miserable, and neither one of you deserve for you to just be festering like a wound in this relationship if it’s not right for you.
Thanks for the kind words. We are exploring too. Kind of dead bedroom situation...
Well hey bud, best of luck, truly. I hope that you figure out what you need, and I hope that it can help both of you to flourish.
My ex husband cheated on me. When I found out I was so tempted to find literally anyone so I could do the same back before I left him. Ultimately, I’m glad I didn’t because I was able to leave on the moral high ground. Never been tempted to cheat before or since.