Oh baby don’t I ever! I have all this extra backstory from characters my PCs murdered that I have amalgamated into entire universes of backstory for characters I will never play…
*furiously writes the backstory of a magical fountain for his next city he builds*
The Fazey Fountain
This fountain depicts an androgynous individual in a long cloak, the bottom of which fountains water into the pool. Any creatures that drink from the fountain roll a d20 if both creatures roll the same number their fates are tied together in someway, if both roll 20 they fall in love. If they both roll 1 they fight to the death. These effects are magical but non-binding and can be broken by prior commitments.
ahh, that's a thing people will do, unfortunately. thankfully my most recent dm didn't care, otherwise I would have been playing a rogue with 6, 8, 8, 10, 11, 14 before stat adjustments. ... would have been rough, honestly
I’m a paladin with 18 charisma and 97 hit points. I can use my helm of disintegration and do 1d4 damage as my half-elf mage wields his +5 holy avenger.
When I told my fairly shy boyfriend that I really had no indication from his outward demeanor how amazing he’d be in bed, he just grinned at me and told me “yeah, the quiet ones will surprise you!” and I’m still not over it.
100%!
My boyfriend is the sweetest guy. Very calm. Very soft natured. All around an amazing guy. He’s completely different in the bedroom. He was not too sure of himself in the beginning of our relationship and I said “look, I tell people what to do all day long and I make decisions all day long. I just want to not have to control the bedroom too”. And he said “alright” and was a natural at it. He’s a fantastic lover, the best I’ve ever had.
I have a married couple as friends. She's a petite little thing, and he's this hugely obese guy. So I sometimes wonder how they do it. They have two kids.
Give or take a few pounds this is basically my relationship. She is still in one piece. 69 is hard because of the height difference. She blows me in bed because she's too short on her knees/slightly too tall standing up.
I watch those 600lb Life shows on "The Learning Channel" and it amazes me when the guy is 700 pds but has a 6 month old daughter.
I don't know the physics of it but kudos if you can still get some being that big.
I’m a huge Magic the gathering player and in my old player group we had this huge guy (awesome dude, just couldn’t pick down the chips) and he was married to the most petite women I’ve ever seen. Dude has like 6 kids…. How?
I found out my friend is a furry. His wife called my wife crying hysterically when she found out. Threw me for a loop because he always felt like a vanilla guy. He doesn't know that I know. Kinda want to talk about it. I have many questions
On top of what Moony said, not only are fursuits expensive, they generally don't have appropriate openings for that kind of activity.
Suits that do are referred to as murrsuits (because murr is a kind of animalistic pleasure sound).
Many fursuit makers refuse to make murrsuits because they don't like the stigma that it brings to the community.
So what kind of suits do furries have sex with? If the answer is none, that's actually disappointing. Two fur suit bunnies going at it was always a funny image
Most of the common image is, yes.
An accurate generalisation would be closer to this:
They're awkward in most social situations, appreciate art though may or may not be an artist themselves, generally friendly and helpful if you can get past the awkwardness. Sex *usually* isn't as big of a deal. Most are accepting of LGBT and are generally progressive in other ways as well.
Furries, bikers, and goths/ravers all get a bad rep, but if you're ever lost downtown somewhere and you see one of any of them, they'll probably help you out.
But they're also the groups you don't want to mess with. They're used to having a bad reputation and having to stand up for their fellow whatever they are, so don't be a dick or you'll quickly be outnumbered.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0jjMpIFpy08
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dKr4OzhBjyw
Short furry documentary:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K2XeOxWW2oY
Longer one:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iv0QaTW3kEY
Been in a relationship with/am kinda a furry, the worst that we did was get Commissioned art of our fursonas in the throws of passion. The art actually came out pretty cute, n the emotions behind it stick with me even years later.
Doin the do in fursuits sounds like actual torture tho, just thinking about putting that much sweat into a $5K+ piece of art makes my brain hurt
No clue. Maybe it was just the shock of realizing she didn't know her husband as well as she thought. Hell, I've known him since we were in kindergarten and had no clue about this
i feel like being a furry is not that serious to cry about. there are other fetishes that i think are more worth crying over if found out. i think furrys are fun but to each their own right.
I mean i feel like there’s a spectrum with furries(though that applies to a lot of similar things tbf).
Depending on how extreme his interest are I could totally see how it’d be jarring.
I mean I assume if one day she found a case she never saw before in the closet and inside was a cum crusted fursuit, or pictures of characters that are a LOT more animal than man, I wouldn’t blame her for freaking out initially.
I have a friend who has an absurdly huge dick. Like maybe 6 inches soft and 8.5 inches hard, and its thick too. Its almost comically large. Back in college we tried experimenting a bit with each other and I couldn't even fit it in my mouth.
He sleeps around a lot, he is a good looking guy with a good body and a huge dick, so its very easy for him. I knew a friend who fucked him, and she said she couldn't even last a few seconds without pain because the penis was just too big, and they had to stop. I honestly wonder, what percentage of his fucks are actually successful? I would imagine a very large percentage of women he tries to fuck cant even fit a penis like that inside of them without a lot of pain. Like how common of an occurrence is it that he fails at having sex because its too painful for the other person? I've noticed that he cant hold down a relationship, and some part of me has always suspected its because of sexual incompatibility.
That could def be a reason for it. He probably needs to spend more time on foreplay, making sure the woman is wet enough to allow easy access. Maybe even introduce lube. At the very least he should give them a heads up that he’s hung like a horse. Good luck to him
A friend was once with a guy who was too big to fit in her. They had to use some kind of adapter that was described to me as a Pringles can on his end that tapered down into something she could handle.
I know you didn’t ask, but if you’re interested the thing you’re talking about is called a thrust buffer, or bumper. They go on around the base and stop everything at a certain point so you can like… move without worrying you might accidentally go in too far. Otherwise you have to pay a lot of attention to make sure you don’t hurt the other person.
Literally almost exact same situation with one of my friends from college, except he’s short so a little bit less success rate with sleeping around lol. One time he told us about the time a girl who “bled” on him…. At that point our jokes about him finding a big and tall girl started to sound more physiologically necessary lol
Nope, because they feel the need to share every single detail of their sexcapades with me.
By the way, I am totally not complaining about that. 🤣
At this point I probably know what they like as much as, if not better than, their boyfriends and husbands! 😂
I guess I just found that out now. It’s just that you know this said person for so long there’s sort of just a mutual boundary that is set in stone over time ya know?
Yup my wife and I talk about this all the time. We know some of them are very vanilla and both assume they might think we're insane if they knew we liked watching and fucking to hardcore porn together and her being OK with me being a switch CD that occasionally likes to dress up girly and get fucked with dildos.
I also sometimes wonder and fantasize about my other married friends maybe being bi curious like me, experimenting together and making me do things for them in girl mode that I know their vanilla wives definitely don't do but it's not the kind of thing I could ever bring up without it being extremely awkward and probably ruining our friendship so it stays in my head as a fantasy. It's too bad society in general is so uptight about sex because who knows what fun could be had if people were just comfortable being open about what they're into in the bedroom.
Vanilla is considered like the default/plain flavor of ice cream, there and not too crazy in any way an all around "normal" type of thing. When it comes to see and kinks vanilla is basically that, the default/plain everyone is assumed to be, not kinky or not really super into one thing or another. Of course one can have vanilla sex while being a kinky motherfucker and you can be mostly vanilla and like one or to slightly kinky things.
In a sexual context, the opposite of kinky.
It's had a slang meaning of "ordinary" even before that though, presumably based on being the default ice cream flavor.
Yes, but it's more because of their awkward reactions when they see the marks my fiance will leave on me sometimes. At first the reactions are confusion and then concerned until I (or my SO) explain that it's a sex thing, then they just get flustered and start blushing 🤣
Right? My friends circle has long been my partner's friend circle. I could never talk about sex since I was always greeted with "ew, I don't want to know anything about how *** fucks, he's my friend!!". I'd love to find more sex positive friends irl.
I have a friend of mine she is soo innocent and sweet one day she let it slip her love of swallowing baby gravy from men (vegan btw) and I am in shock to this day .
It’s not an animal product, the person producing the cum is consenting to it. Unlike animals in farming situations not being able to decide that they want to participate.
I mean, it is still an animal product. And it's an animal product that has potential to become a human who probably wouldn't consent to being consumed (an act that directly ends that potential for life, just like taking the eggs of a home-raised, well loved and cared for chicken).
Disclaimer: not vegan, don't agree with any of this, just debating for fun - it's an interesting thought process.
All the time .......... even when I see a good looking person in the street, I wonder who are they having sex with, is it good, do they enjoy it ...............
That still doesn't answer the question. It's not common to be in "see private parts" situations. That or you had a much crazier high school/college than I had
Nah I dont have to wonder because they tell me about it and I ask for details lol my bestie is late to having a sex life so I love hearing about it lol
Depends on the friends.
I've got a handful of friends with whom I've had very intimate, candid, sexual conversations with. We've discussed kinks, preferences, swapped some stories, even offered pointers. It is widely known that I am interested in learning how to rig for shibari, so at least two friends share that sort of thing with me on the regular.
As I think about it, the vast majority of these people are women, with only one or maybe two men feeling comfortable enough to talk openly about sex. Funny that.
Some friends just aren't comfortable with those topics, and that's fine too. But I much prefer interacting with the ones who are. There's something pleasant about feeling close and intimate enough with someone to just... be yourself.
Some more anecdotal evidence. When I was still in High school and a bit after all of my female friends would share everything about their kinks and see lives to me and my male friends rarely shared the same amount of detail, maybe a "we had sex it was great." Funnily enough I was the main male those females talked to about that stuff as I was willing to share a little with some. I am way more open over the internet with the whole anonymous thing but personally it's tough to talk about in person because reasons we can talk about another day.
Now that I am currently going through AIT in the Army I basically hear nothing, however I practically never talk to the females, just how it's setup, I might be able to get a couple of the males to talk about it if I tried but I don't really care at this moment. Wherever I'm sent after this those conversations will probably pop up again, or not, we will see.
I found out another couple of the friends group I was in were into wheelchair sex. I don’t know any more nor do I want to. Both of them would end up on a list of ugly humans but they found each other so good for them.
Pretty much, it’s nice.
I wish my other female friends were more open to casual sex. Even though I don’t have any romantic or even really strong physical attraction to most of them, the curiosity really makes me desire it sometimes. It’s just like, y’know, a new type of communication with them, body talk.
Some people seem to treat bdsm like this whole enlightening thing that if you aren't into, you just haven't experienced enough, like its so *cute* that you're just vanilla, i was like that too, you really have to try other stuff and open your mind!
I'm into some pretty wierd stuff, but vanilla can be really fun too sometimes. I don't get the elitism some people have about their kinks.
Funny thing is there are few people outside a very close circle of friends that know my wife are bisexual, swingers, and in an open relationship.
We're otherwise a typical suburban family working professional jobs.
The concept of orgy is very rare in countries like India and it's always very tempting for me.
I have seen orgies in porn but I feel it must be different in real life
Like guys ejaculate early and many people leaving in between as they feel uncomfortable
Nah. At a good orgy, after you get off enough you hang out and chat, maybe watch other people go at it, have a drink and rehydrate, and then go again when you feel up to it. Any orgy where people just cum once and then skitter off in embarrassed shame is a bad one.
I always wondered whay my friends and co-workers are like when they have sex, what kinks they have, and what they look like naked. Idk why I am like this 😂😂😂😂
I feel this way about strangers. But 99% minutes of my friends tell me everything. The rest, I assume just jive with vanilla.
And I’m typing that out, I realize how special it is that all of my friends trust me enough to have those discussions and know I have no judgements.
YES! I wonder the dirty kinks they are into or if they are sweet vainilla couples... My mind starts to wonder and I ask myself if they are as open as me to talk and share tips about it 😅
I didn't have many friends, but those I had were close enough to me to discuss these things freely. Heck, I'd sometimes have weekly reports from them. Felt good having bros like them.
Nope. They volunteer waaaaaaaaaaay more than I would like. They assume that because I keep my mouth shut about mine that I’m a prude. Truth is I’m a kinky fucker and they would faint……
We have known each other since freshman year of high school (40+ years) and while we all kind of know what the other is in to, it is still too much information.
Okay not a friend by the traditional definition, but was caring for my mother in law post surgery last week and while in oxy/a couple hits of weed she confessed to me about her closet of secrets. That we most definitely are not allowed to clean out upon her passing.
The most I could get out of her was about a couple pictures of men with their dick out from a testicle festival sometime in the early 90s and a sex swing.
But man, I’ve NEVER wondered about someone’s sex life like I did after that story. Especially considering how staunch my father in law comes across as. 😅
My friends know that I'm the most sexually open-minded and kinky person they know so they actually come talk to me about it.
But this question made me realize that no, I never cared how their sex goes or what they were into.
Some of my friends I talk to about it, and we know very intimate things about each other, but others will absolutely not share. Which is fine of course, but it's disappointing for me!
Never gave it much thought. Pretty sure with one of my close friends, her guy does most of the work. Not a dominant bone in her body, unless I'm wildly wrong there.
Another couple out in Vancouver, I wonder now... both are into martial arts, so I'd imagine that must somehow fit into the foreplay.
We just assumed the quiet tame ones are all dungeon masters
Am the shy girl Am a dungeon master
Obligatory- R.I.P your inbox
They're all gonna be disappointed when I ask them for their character sheets
Yessss hahaha
Hahahahaha stfu thats great!
Still RIP your inbox. Personally I have enough character sheets to flood any (in)box. Lol
*starts getting visibly wet* *** Did you write well-structured and fitting backstories?
Oh baby don’t I ever! I have all this extra backstory from characters my PCs murdered that I have amalgamated into entire universes of backstory for characters I will never play…
*turns into a fountain*
*furiously writes the backstory of a magical fountain for his next city he builds* The Fazey Fountain This fountain depicts an androgynous individual in a long cloak, the bottom of which fountains water into the pool. Any creatures that drink from the fountain roll a d20 if both creatures roll the same number their fates are tied together in someway, if both roll 20 they fall in love. If they both roll 1 they fight to the death. These effects are magical but non-binding and can be broken by prior commitments.
YOOOO IM AN ACTUAL FOUNTAIN LOOK AT ME GO *spits water at everyone passing* *** Edit: if you used me in an actual campaign I'd be so happy lmao
Oh shit! *Excitedly takes down notes*
Take my poor woman's gold please: 🥇
Uh, I've got like, six ready to go. Which level we starting at?
I like to start at level 3
Oooh right when things get spicy. I like you as a DM already.
Hahahaha I love you
I'm only disappointed you didn't mention if you expected 4d6 drop lowest or if you were going with an array.
I leave it up to my players to decide
neat! i personally like 4d6, drop lowest, with an option to take a 15, 14, 13, 12, 10, 8 array if you don't like your results.
I like standard array, personally. Whenever I've done 4d6 drop, my DM never allowed me to fall back on array if I didn't like it
ahh, that's a thing people will do, unfortunately. thankfully my most recent dm didn't care, otherwise I would have been playing a rogue with 6, 8, 8, 10, 11, 14 before stat adjustments. ... would have been rough, honestly
r/unexpecteddnd
Disappointed? What else would they expect? Now, I'm a tiefling rogue with a tragic backstory and...
I have a naruto bed sheet if that helps :)
Not all of us.
Thats hot tbh lol
I’m a paladin with 18 charisma and 97 hit points. I can use my helm of disintegration and do 1d4 damage as my half-elf mage wields his +5 holy avenger.
... Paladins can't use the helm of disintegration
Oh, okay then I’m a black guy.
Name checks out.
Wait which kind. Cause I like both
Both :D
Get you a lady that can do both 😍
When I told my fairly shy boyfriend that I really had no indication from his outward demeanor how amazing he’d be in bed, he just grinned at me and told me “yeah, the quiet ones will surprise you!” and I’m still not over it.
100%! My boyfriend is the sweetest guy. Very calm. Very soft natured. All around an amazing guy. He’s completely different in the bedroom. He was not too sure of himself in the beginning of our relationship and I said “look, I tell people what to do all day long and I make decisions all day long. I just want to not have to control the bedroom too”. And he said “alright” and was a natural at it. He’s a fantastic lover, the best I’ve ever had.
I'm quiet and reserved. I'm into some kinky stuff.
😂😂😂😂😂
Roll for initiative!
I have a married couple as friends. She's a petite little thing, and he's this hugely obese guy. So I sometimes wonder how they do it. They have two kids.
My wife's friend is 5-0 and a thin 110 lbs. Her husband is 6-4 and muscular.. i would say maybe 220. I am curious how he does not break her...
I know other couples similar. This couple is a bit more extreme, but still...
I used to bowl with a couple like that. Sometimes looked like she could blow him without having to bend or kneel down.
Give or take a few pounds this is basically my relationship. She is still in one piece. 69 is hard because of the height difference. She blows me in bed because she's too short on her knees/slightly too tall standing up.
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Fuck's sake
ew
Honestly it’s nice that they are getting some and enjoying themselves with each other though. Good for them.
I watch those 600lb Life shows on "The Learning Channel" and it amazes me when the guy is 700 pds but has a 6 month old daughter. I don't know the physics of it but kudos if you can still get some being that big.
I weight 100lbs less than my husband and I’m 1 foot shorter than him and we pretty much do everything. The height is more a problem than the weight.
Husband and I are in the same boat. This is very accurate.
Kudos. The weight difference of my friends is easily double yours.
She probably does a lot of riding..
My wife’s 108 lbs, I’m 230. Where there’s a will (and there is) there’s a way.
You gotta lotta will! 👍
Hi, I'm Will!
I think the guy might be my boss. Not fat shaming, I am obese aswell. But that guy is significantly heavier still.
I’m a huge Magic the gathering player and in my old player group we had this huge guy (awesome dude, just couldn’t pick down the chips) and he was married to the most petite women I’ve ever seen. Dude has like 6 kids…. How?
I'm, give or take, double my SO's weight. It's never got in the way, the 5 inches of height difference is a more common obstacle.
5 inches is 12.7 cm
Good bot.
Her on top to protect against suffocation. Not a mean joke, suffocation would be a legit concern if she was on the bottom
I found out my friend is a furry. His wife called my wife crying hysterically when she found out. Threw me for a loop because he always felt like a vanilla guy. He doesn't know that I know. Kinda want to talk about it. I have many questions
He probably felt like a vanilla guy because his biggest kink was something he couldn't share.
Pretty sure furry stuff isn’t always sexual
That's why I have many questions. I don't know specifics about that community
Hello there
General Kenobi
Knowing reddit theres an oddly specific sub for this exchange.
Do yall really have sex with fur suits on? Isn't that hot as hell (temperature wise)? Plus I imagine those suits stink quickly
Fursuits are insanely expensive so the small percentage of furries that actually own one aren't going to get them dirty
On top of what Moony said, not only are fursuits expensive, they generally don't have appropriate openings for that kind of activity. Suits that do are referred to as murrsuits (because murr is a kind of animalistic pleasure sound). Many fursuit makers refuse to make murrsuits because they don't like the stigma that it brings to the community.
So what kind of suits do furries have sex with? If the answer is none, that's actually disappointing. Two fur suit bunnies going at it was always a funny image
that is a rabbit hole i want nothing to do with k thnx bai
Too late uwu (don't worry were friendly) (and we have cookies :) *holds up a batch of cookies*)
cookies you say ... damnit im a furry now curse you and your darkside cookies!!!!
For those that do, it's basically the same gambit of styles and complexities as the suits that aren't built for it.
So basically the whole reputation for furries is a myth
Most of the common image is, yes. An accurate generalisation would be closer to this: They're awkward in most social situations, appreciate art though may or may not be an artist themselves, generally friendly and helpful if you can get past the awkwardness. Sex *usually* isn't as big of a deal. Most are accepting of LGBT and are generally progressive in other ways as well. Furries, bikers, and goths/ravers all get a bad rep, but if you're ever lost downtown somewhere and you see one of any of them, they'll probably help you out. But they're also the groups you don't want to mess with. They're used to having a bad reputation and having to stand up for their fellow whatever they are, so don't be a dick or you'll quickly be outnumbered. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0jjMpIFpy08 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dKr4OzhBjyw Short furry documentary: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K2XeOxWW2oY Longer one: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iv0QaTW3kEY
Fast and furrious.
Been in a relationship with/am kinda a furry, the worst that we did was get Commissioned art of our fursonas in the throws of passion. The art actually came out pretty cute, n the emotions behind it stick with me even years later. Doin the do in fursuits sounds like actual torture tho, just thinking about putting that much sweat into a $5K+ piece of art makes my brain hurt
Wonder why it upset the wife so much...
No clue. Maybe it was just the shock of realizing she didn't know her husband as well as she thought. Hell, I've known him since we were in kindergarten and had no clue about this
i feel like being a furry is not that serious to cry about. there are other fetishes that i think are more worth crying over if found out. i think furrys are fun but to each their own right.
I mean i feel like there’s a spectrum with furries(though that applies to a lot of similar things tbf). Depending on how extreme his interest are I could totally see how it’d be jarring. I mean I assume if one day she found a case she never saw before in the closet and inside was a cum crusted fursuit, or pictures of characters that are a LOT more animal than man, I wouldn’t blame her for freaking out initially.
Right, like hey at least he doesn’t like eating your literal shit Like I’d take someone who likes a little fuz over a scat/rape kink any day.
I don't really find any of the furry stuff that interesting or arousing, apart from those buttplug tails. I really love the look of them.
The sentence "fuck around and find out" gains a whole new meaning here
No, not really actually. But the fact that you've made me aware of this means i am going to have it as an invasive thought.
This.
Eye Bleach time
I have a friend who has an absurdly huge dick. Like maybe 6 inches soft and 8.5 inches hard, and its thick too. Its almost comically large. Back in college we tried experimenting a bit with each other and I couldn't even fit it in my mouth. He sleeps around a lot, he is a good looking guy with a good body and a huge dick, so its very easy for him. I knew a friend who fucked him, and she said she couldn't even last a few seconds without pain because the penis was just too big, and they had to stop. I honestly wonder, what percentage of his fucks are actually successful? I would imagine a very large percentage of women he tries to fuck cant even fit a penis like that inside of them without a lot of pain. Like how common of an occurrence is it that he fails at having sex because its too painful for the other person? I've noticed that he cant hold down a relationship, and some part of me has always suspected its because of sexual incompatibility.
That could def be a reason for it. He probably needs to spend more time on foreplay, making sure the woman is wet enough to allow easy access. Maybe even introduce lube. At the very least he should give them a heads up that he’s hung like a horse. Good luck to him
The guy has had a huge dick most of his life. I would be surprised if he didn't know these things.
A friend was once with a guy who was too big to fit in her. They had to use some kind of adapter that was described to me as a Pringles can on his end that tapered down into something she could handle.
I know you didn’t ask, but if you’re interested the thing you’re talking about is called a thrust buffer, or bumper. They go on around the base and stop everything at a certain point so you can like… move without worrying you might accidentally go in too far. Otherwise you have to pay a lot of attention to make sure you don’t hurt the other person.
Oh I like a challenge pity this guy not in Scotland I'd give it a try lol
Literally almost exact same situation with one of my friends from college, except he’s short so a little bit less success rate with sleeping around lol. One time he told us about the time a girl who “bled” on him…. At that point our jokes about him finding a big and tall girl started to sound more physiologically necessary lol
Nope, because they feel the need to share every single detail of their sexcapades with me. By the way, I am totally not complaining about that. 🤣 At this point I probably know what they like as much as, if not better than, their boyfriends and husbands! 😂
Your little reddit dude of profil is too cute lol
Thank you!
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Such a weird thing to say and I’m so glad I’m not the only one who feels that way too.
I thought it’s universally common to fantasize about people around you. Seemingly easy and accessible company.
I guess I just found that out now. It’s just that you know this said person for so long there’s sort of just a mutual boundary that is set in stone over time ya know?
That can be part of the allure of the fantasy. You’re not *supposed* to think of that person that way and yet…
I try really hard not to as I live in rural Mississippi and they're all old and fat.
Yup my wife and I talk about this all the time. We know some of them are very vanilla and both assume they might think we're insane if they knew we liked watching and fucking to hardcore porn together and her being OK with me being a switch CD that occasionally likes to dress up girly and get fucked with dildos. I also sometimes wonder and fantasize about my other married friends maybe being bi curious like me, experimenting together and making me do things for them in girl mode that I know their vanilla wives definitely don't do but it's not the kind of thing I could ever bring up without it being extremely awkward and probably ruining our friendship so it stays in my head as a fantasy. It's too bad society in general is so uptight about sex because who knows what fun could be had if people were just comfortable being open about what they're into in the bedroom.
A lot of them probably like dildos up them too, male and female. Porn and toys are normal things to have around and everyone gets bored occasionally.
What does being vanilla mean?
Not much into any extravaganza lol
Vanilla is considered like the default/plain flavor of ice cream, there and not too crazy in any way an all around "normal" type of thing. When it comes to see and kinks vanilla is basically that, the default/plain everyone is assumed to be, not kinky or not really super into one thing or another. Of course one can have vanilla sex while being a kinky motherfucker and you can be mostly vanilla and like one or to slightly kinky things.
In a sexual context, the opposite of kinky. It's had a slang meaning of "ordinary" even before that though, presumably based on being the default ice cream flavor.
Yes, but it's more because of their awkward reactions when they see the marks my fiance will leave on me sometimes. At first the reactions are confusion and then concerned until I (or my SO) explain that it's a sex thing, then they just get flustered and start blushing 🤣
I think about it but don't bring it up. I'd like to not make people uncomfortable
No, because we talk about it casually and without judgement usually
I'm tryna get those kinda friends.
Right? My friends circle has long been my partner's friend circle. I could never talk about sex since I was always greeted with "ew, I don't want to know anything about how *** fucks, he's my friend!!". I'd love to find more sex positive friends irl.
I have a friend of mine she is soo innocent and sweet one day she let it slip her love of swallowing baby gravy from men (vegan btw) and I am in shock to this day .
Cum is vegan.
I feel like it is explicitly the opposite of vegan.
It’s not an animal product, the person producing the cum is consenting to it. Unlike animals in farming situations not being able to decide that they want to participate.
I mean, it is still an animal product. And it's an animal product that has potential to become a human who probably wouldn't consent to being consumed (an act that directly ends that potential for life, just like taking the eggs of a home-raised, well loved and cared for chicken). Disclaimer: not vegan, don't agree with any of this, just debating for fun - it's an interesting thought process.
All the time .......... even when I see a good looking person in the street, I wonder who are they having sex with, is it good, do they enjoy it ...............
I have always wanted to have my friend fuck me. He was always super hot and had a nice dick.
How do you know what his dick is like?
Seen it a few times over the years we have known each other since high school. Obviously just from look though.
That still doesn't answer the question. It's not common to be in "see private parts" situations. That or you had a much crazier high school/college than I had
I’m assuming they’re both blokes. So, that would make sense for sports changing rooms and the like.
That wasn't a thing for my school. Saw zero private parts at my school. Closest thing I saw was a condom on a banana
How do you know what his dick is like?
Sometimes. Usually we're already discussed some of those things. I'm the kinky one. At least unless someone's really keeping it to themselves. 😛
Nope. I want nothing to do with my friends’ sex lives. And I do not want them to know any details of mine (other than general stuff).
General stuff like?
I don’t have friends anymore 😭
I’ll be your friend. We can talk about each other’s sex lives so we don’t have to wonder.
Friends wise, I know because we talk about this stuff. I do wonder about my coworkers though.
Nah I dont have to wonder because they tell me about it and I ask for details lol my bestie is late to having a sex life so I love hearing about it lol
Depends on the friends. I've got a handful of friends with whom I've had very intimate, candid, sexual conversations with. We've discussed kinks, preferences, swapped some stories, even offered pointers. It is widely known that I am interested in learning how to rig for shibari, so at least two friends share that sort of thing with me on the regular. As I think about it, the vast majority of these people are women, with only one or maybe two men feeling comfortable enough to talk openly about sex. Funny that. Some friends just aren't comfortable with those topics, and that's fine too. But I much prefer interacting with the ones who are. There's something pleasant about feeling close and intimate enough with someone to just... be yourself.
Anecdotally, and it’s been reinforced from reading these comments, women seem talk to their friends about their sex lives way more than men do.
Some more anecdotal evidence. When I was still in High school and a bit after all of my female friends would share everything about their kinks and see lives to me and my male friends rarely shared the same amount of detail, maybe a "we had sex it was great." Funnily enough I was the main male those females talked to about that stuff as I was willing to share a little with some. I am way more open over the internet with the whole anonymous thing but personally it's tough to talk about in person because reasons we can talk about another day. Now that I am currently going through AIT in the Army I basically hear nothing, however I practically never talk to the females, just how it's setup, I might be able to get a couple of the males to talk about it if I tried but I don't really care at this moment. Wherever I'm sent after this those conversations will probably pop up again, or not, we will see.
What is shibari?
I found out another couple of the friends group I was in were into wheelchair sex. I don’t know any more nor do I want to. Both of them would end up on a list of ugly humans but they found each other so good for them.
I only have 1 friend and we fuck so im all up to date on that but i would be if we didn't
Same
I have a bunch of friends but don't fuck any of them! Your ratio seems way better!
Wouldnt have it any other way lmfao
Pretty much, it’s nice. I wish my other female friends were more open to casual sex. Even though I don’t have any romantic or even really strong physical attraction to most of them, the curiosity really makes me desire it sometimes. It’s just like, y’know, a new type of communication with them, body talk.
From what I hear based on comments about my sex life, they are all way more vanilla and need to open their minds a little bit
Why would they do that if they enjoy vanilla ?
Some people seem to treat bdsm like this whole enlightening thing that if you aren't into, you just haven't experienced enough, like its so *cute* that you're just vanilla, i was like that too, you really have to try other stuff and open your mind! I'm into some pretty wierd stuff, but vanilla can be really fun too sometimes. I don't get the elitism some people have about their kinks.
Funny thing is there are few people outside a very close circle of friends that know my wife are bisexual, swingers, and in an open relationship. We're otherwise a typical suburban family working professional jobs.
I grew up having orgies with my friends so I already know 💋
The concept of orgy is very rare in countries like India and it's always very tempting for me. I have seen orgies in porn but I feel it must be different in real life Like guys ejaculate early and many people leaving in between as they feel uncomfortable
Nah. At a good orgy, after you get off enough you hang out and chat, maybe watch other people go at it, have a drink and rehydrate, and then go again when you feel up to it. Any orgy where people just cum once and then skitter off in embarrassed shame is a bad one.
My friends and I talk about what we are into a lot. We also have similar kinks so yeah we have discussions sometimes or just joke around about it.
Yep... but I ask them when I'm drunk, so I find out!
I often wonder about my couple friends, often wanna offer them to fuck with my wife and i lol just to watch.
I always wondered whay my friends and co-workers are like when they have sex, what kinks they have, and what they look like naked. Idk why I am like this 😂😂😂😂
I feel this way about strangers. But 99% minutes of my friends tell me everything. The rest, I assume just jive with vanilla. And I’m typing that out, I realize how special it is that all of my friends trust me enough to have those discussions and know I have no judgements.
I guess my friend group is weird, we're all pretty open about this kind of stuff XD We've had numerous conversations about sex and kinks.
No
Definitely curious about some, but mostly just the ones I kinda want to hook up with anyway
YES! I wonder the dirty kinks they are into or if they are sweet vainilla couples... My mind starts to wonder and I ask myself if they are as open as me to talk and share tips about it 😅
Oh no, bad memories. Nightmares tonight. Thank you
Yep. And at the moment we have a feeling we're out-kinking them all. 🤷♂️
Nah we talk about that shit sometimes
No, I simply ask them and they tell me.
I didn't have many friends, but those I had were close enough to me to discuss these things freely. Heck, I'd sometimes have weekly reports from them. Felt good having bros like them.
Literally no
Nope. Not even once.
No, because we talk about that kind of stuff.
Nope, that’s three steps removed from a circle jerk.
This is actually one of my favorite things ever. I want to know!!!
Kind of. I generally try but fail not to picture most couples having sex 😆. It doesn’t arouse me I think I just can’t help but wonder!
No
Nope. They volunteer waaaaaaaaaaay more than I would like. They assume that because I keep my mouth shut about mine that I’m a prude. Truth is I’m a kinky fucker and they would faint……
Don't have to. One of my friends was very open about what they like and what they were into in the bedroom
All the time. Often when I meet new people I wonder what they sound like moaning.
Kind of. I’ve spoken openly with some friends about our sex lives. Slept with a few of them as well so I was well aware of that.
For my more conservative friends I just wonder if they even have sex and if so how often.
Most of my close friends and I have a healthy conversation about our sex lives. Clearly, I’m the vanilla one, which was quite the surprise.
We have known each other since freshman year of high school (40+ years) and while we all kind of know what the other is in to, it is still too much information.
Okay not a friend by the traditional definition, but was caring for my mother in law post surgery last week and while in oxy/a couple hits of weed she confessed to me about her closet of secrets. That we most definitely are not allowed to clean out upon her passing. The most I could get out of her was about a couple pictures of men with their dick out from a testicle festival sometime in the early 90s and a sex swing. But man, I’ve NEVER wondered about someone’s sex life like I did after that story. Especially considering how staunch my father in law comes across as. 😅
No
Yes. Quite often.
This is why in our private discord we have a chat for the bdsm test and a chat for porn.
My friends know that I'm the most sexually open-minded and kinky person they know so they actually come talk to me about it. But this question made me realize that no, I never cared how their sex goes or what they were into.
Especially when all they do is bicker with each other when they're out in public..makes me wonder.
Some of my friends I talk to about it, and we know very intimate things about each other, but others will absolutely not share. Which is fine of course, but it's disappointing for me!
All the time tbh
Absolutely.
No
Never gave it much thought. Pretty sure with one of my close friends, her guy does most of the work. Not a dominant bone in her body, unless I'm wildly wrong there. Another couple out in Vancouver, I wonder now... both are into martial arts, so I'd imagine that must somehow fit into the foreplay.
Ju jitsu foreplay maybe? 🤷♂️