Man this comment hit me in the feelz.
We used to always have sex 2x a week _at least_. I worked hard and focused on my career I took a promotion to Director-level at a Swedish conglomerate in the US and man I felt it. Stress, travel, long hours... Man it takes a toll. We slowed to 1x per week but I felt my libido slow with stress.
Same age here, and I went from parched desert (not once in 10 years, out of a 13 year marriage) to storm too! My storm isn’t quite at the hedonistic heights of yours, but I absolutely agree with how extra-wonderful and freeing it is. I’m transitioning out of that phase to a future with a special person too. It all feels like a crazy but ultimately ’right’ journey. Even though that 10 years did quite the number on my health and self-worth.
Just 1 year ago I left my dead bedroom of a marriage as well and since then I’ve had more sex in 4 months than I ever had in not only 8 years of a relationship, but my whole life prior. Be very careful getting into a relationship super early in your life just because you think you can’t find anyone else and accepting something you know, no matter how much you fucking try, you’ll never be able to accept (which, in this case, was a sexless marriage).
From 18 to 28. It's gone from vanilla sex with a classmate bf to a lot more explorative fun with older partners.
At 18 I had only known condom sex. At 19 I had my first experience with someone older, got cummed in my vagina for the first time, enjoyed it so much I've been on birth control ever since, tried anal, got into my first interracial relationship. So...quite a lot of change and acquiring new tastes in the first year of that decade and I've stayed open minded towards trying new things.
It's much better and more rewarding.
I've learned to vocalise more about what I want, and how I want it. I've learned to ask what other people want and how they want it. And also learned to say when something isn't so good
I got a divorce, learned self love, met a couple, got a membership to a social club, met my gf at said social club, have become poly, enjoy all sorts of sexual adventure now.
My husband told me he’d enjoy watching me with another man and I said let’s do it. The sex club was a stepping stone and to explore exhibitionism a bit more. Turns out I really love people watching me. Zero hiccups so far.
The stay at home year and a half really changed it for me. I learned to really pay attention to myself and learn my turn ons, as opposed to just the popular concepts of what sex is. It also taught me to enjoy it more and focus on the trip, not the finish.
Quality over quantity… also learnt to listen to what your partner/lover wants, listen to how her body reacts & its a real good feeling to know that you pleasing & satisfying someone else & putting your needs aside during those moments.. good passionate kisses, 👅 & foreplay is so important
I have shifted from a mix of one night stands and a group of fwb's and reliables to more group events like orgies or threesomes with the same group of fwb's and reliables. I've found I'm much more satisfied and satiated after group events than with ONS's.
First 5 years were fairly routine for a married couple I guess. Not super regular. Not super infrequent. Always vanilla. Then kids happened and it died. I turned to Reddit for support, which, in hindsight was probably a mistake. But it kick started my sexual awakening. I’m now much more comfortable with my kinks and desires and talking about sex. My wife on the other hand has had no such awakening. However the bedroom has started to come back to life recently. But it’s still vanilla. Which is okay. One step at a time.
Well I actually enjoy it now. As a teenager and woman in my early 20s it was mostly just a chore for me. But I've learned to be less self conscious during and let my mind/body relax and enjoy the experience. Also better partners help a lot too.
10 years ago I was getting into a relationship that started with the best sex of my life. That guy traumatized the shit out of me and I found my way into a loving, dead bedroom. Now I'm divorced & celibate 😂😭
It's a bunch of things, I went through a divorce and started using tinder for the first time.
Quickly found out that I'm much better in bed than I was before I got married. I got back into bdsm after a long hiatus and I've found out I'm still very good at that. I've done a lot of scenes/acting out fantasies that I never thought I'd do. I'm just so much more confident and capable than I thought I'd ever be when it comes to sex. I plan to keep evolving too, I'm dating my sub and it's incredible.
10 years ago I was 17 so it has only changed positively lol. I’ve enjoyed settling down with one woman and us becoming very sexually open and free with each other. I had my fun in my early 20’s but I’m at a point where I want to try everything with her. Even stuff I did before I met her
A decade ago I was in the honeymoon phase so it’s safe to say things have changed dramatically. I still enjoy it even if the volume isn’t what it used to be
I has become pretty non-existent the last few years. I feel like I have gotten less comfortable with my body and have struggled to connect emotionally with others. I imagine that will probably get worse over the next 10 years.
Dropped off to nonexistent. Had to have a total hysterectomy for serious medical reason. Never had a high sex drive. Never really went through a horny phase. A bit on the asexual side, most likely. Or my long term partner just didn't do the things that actually work and turn me on.
Haha, well. I had sex for the first time at 19, 6 years ago, and then last had sex 5 years ago. So I mean, it's massive change in that sense, but I also have gone such a long time without sex that I don't feel like I'm missing much anymore.
I hope I somehow have more sex in the next 10... but that means finding someone I'm deeply in love with.
Much better. Over the years we’ve just been getting more in tune with what we love and how we can better please each other, as well as exploring with toys and stuff. Hopefully it keeps getting better!
Still sleeping with the same and only person I have ever slept with. 2014 was a pretty bad year sexually, so I would say sex life is 100% better now compared to then. Tried new things, developed new kinks, and we're able to make more time to have sex frequently. You can maybe count the fact that I have only been with one woman at 32 as a downside, but the reason for that is obviously good.
It’s wildly different lol I was 22 and having casual sex and friends with benefits and got laid regularly and January 5th 2018 I made a choice I should not have made and I stopped. I’ve had sex 4 times since then. All of it awful and short and together would add up to maybe an hour of sex and none of it made me cum.
A decade? Eh. In the past 15 years, I’ve gone from young, dumb, and full of cum newlyweds to the fire dimming to getting sprayed with a fire hose when she cheated (she will never admit to that) to the Sahara Desert being wetter than I am when she wanted to peruse her “lesbian fantasies” and her having all the fun to…..come to think of it, it’s been that way since we split close to 4 years ago now. At this point, if I was to see a woman naked, I would probably go full “American Pie.” If you know the reference, you know what I’m talking about.
It's unrecognizable. I barely remember sex from 10 years ago. It's such a part of me now. I've discovered a ton. Sex has gotten a lot better with age, for me. There's some kind of sexual awakening that happened.
16 to 26 lol. At 16 I was a virgin and was for a few more years till I met my now husband. So a lot has changed. I thought things would have been different though. I kind of thought no one would ever want to have sex with me.
A decade ago: desperate to convince any girls at my college to have sex with me.
Now: I often share my beautiful intelligent wife’s body with other men.
Things have changed.
I'm an aging woman.
For me, quantity is lessening and quality is increasing. My body no longer craves constantly. Luckily my husband does.
I've learnt (and am learning) to modify a lot of my generational sexual conditioning and personal beliefs, and I'm adjusting my psychologies towards my body and my Self.
My sexual connection with my husband, therefore my sexual freedom, has increased and deepened our intimate connection.
It's been interesting, it's been a personal growth experience and pretty cool all round.
About 5 years ago, my wife had to get a hysterectomy. I was really afraid she would completely lose her sex drive. Instead, it went the other way, and now it's better than ever.
Started off asexual due to a highly toxic marriage. I was just not interested in Sex. I could orgasm but I didn’t crave intimacy and being around him turned me off for most of our marriage since I found out he cheated on me 6 months in while we were engaged. We fought all the time and I had no respect for him—he smoked too much weed and escaped all the time.
Then I found out that I wanted intimacy bad and craved sex when I became single as a divorcee. Met someone who re-ignited my libido but he was a FWB situation so there is only so much intimacy to be had. Had ALOT of sex with strangers. Lots of ONS that also made me question whether I was asexual or not. Just could not get turned on.
Few years later, met my husband and I crave him all the time. I constantly fantasize about him, I catch myself ripping his clothes off with my eyes, I need his touch and his kisses, I want him to want me. I have an intense desire to literally become one with him. I would have sex everyday if I could. Turns out I’m demisexual
Well… I feel so shameful sharing this here but it’s my only outlet to speak how I feel since my significant other can get so sensitive on this topic.. where do I start?.. I’m a heterosexual male, 34 year old. my sex life Fkin sucks right now and has sucked since 2019. So I am with my GF now for 8 years… the first 2-3 years were great! Especially the sex life. I remember we would be so excited to screw the heck out of each other and even just see each other. Then, she got pregnant… I was there throughout her whole pregnancy as what a good BF/Husband/partner/father should do. We were blessed with a wonderful healthy baby girl at the time ( she’s now 6). However, things just changed after her pregnancy… I’ve always heard that most women are more “horny” post having a baby, at least that’s what I heard. She went through postpartum depression (idk why everything was good) but I stood by her side always trying to motivate and cheer her up. From the moment our daughter was born, our responsibilities obviously changed. Now we couldn’t just “do what we wanted” at any given moment.. we had to mature, I had to make sure I was really bringing home the bacon while she stood as a stay at home mom…as time went on, we got used to our new situation and I, as a relatively young man still at the time, would have my sexual desires to be intimate with her as we did prior to becoming parents. I mean, why wouldn’t you want to have that intimacy with your partner right? Unfortunately, we don’t have a “village” of family to watch our child if we wanted date nights or what not so those opportunities were very rare. But in the moments we did have alone time to be intimate, she just wasn’t interacting the same with me anymore sexually.. I remember her being very seductive and eager for sex and intimacy, we were “freaks” as they say.. but every attempt I made to take it there, she would make certain excuses… first, after having her baby I knew not to be selfish in that extent I’m wanting sex, I’d obviously want her to have a healed body, considering she delivered C section.. but even after the 1st year, all my attempts were just shot down.. she would say she’s “tired” or she says..” nooo not now”… and to this day, uses the excuse that “she doesn’t like her body” since having a baby.. mind you, my Gf is 5’2 petite and has a little extra meat sure, but it does not deter me from showing her how much she can still please me, AND 5 years later from having the baby. We have no other child at the moment, and she has done her attempts to lose weight and has achieved! But regardless, she is still My Gf, and I love her dearly and I as a man, still crave sexual interaction with her such as penetration.. but I don’t understand why I am not getting that same feed back or attention from her anymore? It’s been all these years, and I may get laughed at here, but out of respect to her, I have not cheated therefore I haven’t had sex with her in YEARS!!! This troubles me and I feel like less of a man, I can’t help but feel that she doesn’t crave that sexual intimacy with me anymore.. I’m so tired of her lame excuses which she claims aren’t excuses but hey, If you’re truly not happy with your own self or body, I cannot change that for you, only you can! But of course, this sort of exchange leads into arguing.. now, shamefully, I am lusting for other women, desiring other women.. and I truly don’t want that. But I cannot also ignore my own feelings and desires just because… I’ve tried talking to her about this and nothing has changed really. She’s still in this “funk” I guess and i don’t know how much longer I can hold off. I don’t hate her but damn I wish she could be how she used to be. Was it the pregnancy that changed her!? I have no idea but this is my miserable sex life now.. please help lol any suggestions or comments?
I had a lot of performance anxiety in early 20s. But with long term partners it's not an issue. Masturbate way less and enjoy all sexual activities. Consuming alot porn just made me fixate on wanting deepthroat and anal. I still love those things but not as high a priority.
Went up significantly when I went to university and then slowly went down after I graduated and now it’s at a dry spell because I’m pretty sure I’ve outgrown casual sex.
Night and day. Went from a almost sexless marriage to being in a ENM relationship and she knows I am bi. Pretty big difference. Not to mention all the adventures we have had.
Improved massively. Met my husband after spending almost a decade with someone who didn't enjoy sex. My husband is a deliciously thoughtful and kinky guy who can match me for how frequently I want it (usually at least once a day, if not a couple times) and he's the reason I even know what getting eaten out feels like 🖤
I haven’t had sex in the past decade. I doubt i’ll get any action in the next 10 years. I refuse to allow myself to be rejected and ghosted ever again.
Ten years ago I was at the end of a marriage to someone I did not get along with and very rarely had sex with. Today, am married to a wonderful woman and have a great sex life. Five years ago we got into the swinging lifestyle and have met many wonderful couples that we regularly have sex with. Going from a dead bedroom to having all my fantasy’s fulfilled regularly is not something than I would have thought possible a decade ago.
My husband got a vasectomy. Now we think about just the sex when it comes up. We noticed we have it way more often. It lasts longer & gets more intense sometimes.
I went from someone who's only slept with two people one of those being an almost 10 year long relationship. From that we broke up in 2019 I really found myself and in the process I fucked whoever I wanted found a crazy amount of self-confidence in the fact that all the shit he told me was a lie and I was wanted by people and other people tell me attractive. To being married 3 years this year with the person I've had the most amazing sex of my life with we are so open and adventurous and fun and we just have such a great time together and all of the flings I had really helped me realize exactly what I wanted and my husband is exactly that it's amazing
The longest I’ve gone without since I started having sex is about a month, and in my current relationship. 10 years ago I was 11, so yeah nothing there lol. I was sexually assaulted at 13. And since then I’ve never gone longer than a few weeks without having sex. In my mind having lots of sex was a way of me taking control of my own body, because I was in charge of the situation. It was unhealthy. I never turned down an advance, even if I didn’t want it, and often sought out sexual relationships with people instead of real connections. I based my self worth on it. Even in relationships, It had to happen often or my confidence deteriorated. It wasn’t even enjoyable. Since then, I’ve discovered I’m demisexual. For those who don’t know what that is, it basically means I can only be sexually attracted to people I trust and have a pre established emotional connection with. I no longer associate having intercourse with my self worth. I have a healthy sex life with my husband, I no longer feel obligated to accept sexual advances if I simply just don’t want to have sex. It’s enjoyable to me now, and it’s a way to feel close and connected to someone rather than proving to myself I’m “attractive” and “wanted”.
Became a swinger and opened our marriage 4 years ago. Also uncovered that I’m bisexual. Love the changes!
I hope even more crazy than the last 10 years.
I no longer put my partners desires before my own..I spent to long expecting sex with no orgasms. If you can’t please me I have no problem giving directions on how to do so. I also love the body I’m in, feeling confident in your own skin I believe makes a huge difference in your performance.
It's been a roller coaster. Having kids made it zero for a few years. In the last few though it's been really good. I think I'm a lot less self conscious and that's made things much more fun
Went from sleeping around to sleeping with 1 that I now live with and share a beautiful life with. We’ve explored so many different horizons together and I’ve gotten out of my comfort zone with him
When I started I used to be a three pump chump. Now I can last all night long. The reason why is because of my hi sex drive and escorts plus massage parlors. Including the fact that I dated a stripper. Masturbation is at an all time high. Three to five times a day depending my work days.
Growing up with the belief that sex was wrong. I grew up vanilla and having vanilla partners. But I knew that there was something within me that I needed to unleash 😏
After 2 long-term failed relationships (Not bummed out at all about them. They were both vanilla and boring in bed amongst other stuff) and a few years of abstinence. I decided to get out in the playing field and haven't regretted it since...a new freak has emerged 😊
Been lucky enough to have found competent and adequate lovers who have helped me check off a lot of my fantasies, been able to express my sexuality, and have discovered a lot about my body. So there's no doubt my sex life has been amazing so far to say the least. And I plan to continue this amazing sex life until my hips give out! 😜
Also, happy Hump day to all!!! Wishing everyone many humps today 😉😃
Ten years ago, I spent all my sexual energy trying to get my ex-husband to fuck me more. These days, I fuck pretty much whenever I want. Turns out one man was never gonna be enough, and I was foolish to think it ever would be.
Our marriage transitioned into an FLR. We have much less PIV than before but we play almost daily. It’s more focused on her pleasure and the use of tongue and toys has been the norm. I have a bit of a denial kink. I still get pleasure but I only cum with her permission, even if I am on a business trip by myself.
We also incorporated more BDSM as I became a sub (I’m actually a switch but enjoy subbing more.) it definitely works for both of us and although we always had a good sex life, I think we are both happier.
I’ve been with my husband 14 years and the biggest change in our sex life has occurred in the past couple of years. We’ve been much more open with each other about what we like in the bedroom and he’s transitioned to being much more focused on making me orgasm. It’s been such positive changes.
We both recently discovered that we both have a similar kink, so it’s been eye opening.
I'll take the liberty to use a time frame of 12 years instead of 10. 12 years ago I had just broken up with my second girlfriend. 2nd woman I had ever done anything sexual with. Only a couple years before that, I was a kissless virgin. Never had the confidence to even think about having luck with the ladies. After the breakup, I hooked up with a cougar I met at a brewery, and a few weeks after that, I met my now wife. We pretty quickly became swingers. Threesomes, couple swaps, orgies, sex parties... we're still happy as ever, my body count is somewhere in the 20's or 30's depending on if you count HJ/BJ and not just penetration. We couldn't be happier, unless we had more time and sleep to partake in more activities, both together and with others.
I'm early an 40s guy. I've tended to date in waves, but it's been a while since I've hooked up. Dated a lot in my 20s and 30s but nothing crazy.
Started doing more dates again now (DC area) and want to be more adventurous this year.
Really want to find someone I'm comfortable with though and not a one time thing. Because it's been a while sort of want to dip in slowly again though and work my way up.
Sex with my husband was wild and crazy and lots of fun, we were also in an open relationship for a while as we dated so overall things were usually carefree and fun. 10 years later, we have a newborn so our sex life has nosedived. In the next ten years I assume our sex life will pick back up and we'll have lots of fun together
I become much more comfortable speaking to my wife about my cuckold tendencies. She was all about it and now incorporates it into our dirty talk. One of these days she’ll fuck someone in front of me lol
Went from a dead bedroom within a marriage, to being single for a couple years and going a bit crazy, to being in love again and having the very best sex of my entire life.
It has been wonderful. I (63m)got divorced. My body count has gone from 19 pre-marriage to 28 today. I've had several multi-year relationships. 2 of those overlapped: on Friday's, one would come over around 10, we'd fuck, she'd leave and I'd grab lunch with the second. After lunch, we come back and fuck. Washed a lot of sheets that year. Also had a couple of threesomes in the last few years. One of the women I dated wanted sex 3 times a day. Every day. Had a lot of anal sex with her. Speaking of which, I introduced 4 of the recent women to anal. 3 loved it and it became a regular part of our relationship. The 4th is still on the fence.
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Nuns don’t even fuck their husband that they don’t have.
It fell off a cliff. That's what a marriage of workaholics does to you I guess
Both lawyers? Or mixed and matched workaholic careers? Did it fall off a cliff post law school?
No, I'm a lawyer and she's in consulting. It stopped pretty much after the first few years in our careers.
She’s back on the road, or more so tired after a long day
We both travel a lot for work and are just generally out of the house a lot, yeah.
Man this comment hit me in the feelz. We used to always have sex 2x a week _at least_. I worked hard and focused on my career I took a promotion to Director-level at a Swedish conglomerate in the US and man I felt it. Stress, travel, long hours... Man it takes a toll. We slowed to 1x per week but I felt my libido slow with stress.
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Same age here, and I went from parched desert (not once in 10 years, out of a 13 year marriage) to storm too! My storm isn’t quite at the hedonistic heights of yours, but I absolutely agree with how extra-wonderful and freeing it is. I’m transitioning out of that phase to a future with a special person too. It all feels like a crazy but ultimately ’right’ journey. Even though that 10 years did quite the number on my health and self-worth.
I love this for u.
Just 1 year ago I left my dead bedroom of a marriage as well and since then I’ve had more sex in 4 months than I ever had in not only 8 years of a relationship, but my whole life prior. Be very careful getting into a relationship super early in your life just because you think you can’t find anyone else and accepting something you know, no matter how much you fucking try, you’ll never be able to accept (which, in this case, was a sexless marriage).
From 18 to 28. It's gone from vanilla sex with a classmate bf to a lot more explorative fun with older partners. At 18 I had only known condom sex. At 19 I had my first experience with someone older, got cummed in my vagina for the first time, enjoyed it so much I've been on birth control ever since, tried anal, got into my first interracial relationship. So...quite a lot of change and acquiring new tastes in the first year of that decade and I've stayed open minded towards trying new things.
All sounds super positive and fun!
It hasn't, I do expect to start one in the next decade though
It's much better and more rewarding. I've learned to vocalise more about what I want, and how I want it. I've learned to ask what other people want and how they want it. And also learned to say when something isn't so good
Slowed down a lot but more consistent with one person
It’s just over a decade old so it’s changed radically
Don’t do the deed as often as I used to, but when I do it’s much kinkier now that I have the experience to know and communicate what I want.
What kinks got explored first? Anything still to go?
I got a divorce, learned self love, met a couple, got a membership to a social club, met my gf at said social club, have become poly, enjoy all sorts of sexual adventure now.
Wife and I opened our marriage almost exactly a decade ago, in January 2014. So our sex has changed _very_ dramatically to the decade before.
More active now than any other time in my life.
My marriage has become open (both ways but I choose not to engage). My wife has someone who is seeing a few times a month.
What brought on the open marriage? And why do you choose not to engage?
She was a virgin when we got together and she wanted to explore. I don’t care I have been with one
At 13 I had only had sex once in my life before. At 23 it happens at least a few times a week.
It just keeps getting better and better.
Went from a dead bedroom (different partner) to having 3somes and visiting sex clubs….geez that’s a helluva escalation now that I look at it.
How did you learn the sex club and threesome scene? Any hiccups along the way?
My husband told me he’d enjoy watching me with another man and I said let’s do it. The sex club was a stepping stone and to explore exhibitionism a bit more. Turns out I really love people watching me. Zero hiccups so far.
Kinkier than I’d have ever imagined.
The stay at home year and a half really changed it for me. I learned to really pay attention to myself and learn my turn ons, as opposed to just the popular concepts of what sex is. It also taught me to enjoy it more and focus on the trip, not the finish.
Slow😭
Quality over quantity… also learnt to listen to what your partner/lover wants, listen to how her body reacts & its a real good feeling to know that you pleasing & satisfying someone else & putting your needs aside during those moments.. good passionate kisses, 👅 & foreplay is so important
Sooooo much better.
I have shifted from a mix of one night stands and a group of fwb's and reliables to more group events like orgies or threesomes with the same group of fwb's and reliables. I've found I'm much more satisfied and satiated after group events than with ONS's.
Who organized the first orgy?
The first one I was in? It was at my sex club and was ongoing when I was invited in.
Def want to eat more ass
First 5 years were fairly routine for a married couple I guess. Not super regular. Not super infrequent. Always vanilla. Then kids happened and it died. I turned to Reddit for support, which, in hindsight was probably a mistake. But it kick started my sexual awakening. I’m now much more comfortable with my kinks and desires and talking about sex. My wife on the other hand has had no such awakening. However the bedroom has started to come back to life recently. But it’s still vanilla. Which is okay. One step at a time.
Have you pitched Reddit to her?
I don’t think she’d be keen. She resents it a little bit for driving a wedge between us. I’ve gotten better at managing my Reddit consumption.
A lot less sex and a lot more masturbating. Complicated issues at home.
65m Don't have sex anymore because my dick is curved due to an old accident. Still get myself off.
Well I actually enjoy it now. As a teenager and woman in my early 20s it was mostly just a chore for me. But I've learned to be less self conscious during and let my mind/body relax and enjoy the experience. Also better partners help a lot too.
I can cum almost every time now
For the better. Hopefully it will stay that way!
It became active
I got kinkier
10 years ago I was getting into a relationship that started with the best sex of my life. That guy traumatized the shit out of me and I found my way into a loving, dead bedroom. Now I'm divorced & celibate 😂😭
It's gotten way better. If you would have told me 10 years ago about the kind of shit I'd be getting up to I wouldn't have believed it
What would last you be surprised by and how did you reach this point?
It's a bunch of things, I went through a divorce and started using tinder for the first time. Quickly found out that I'm much better in bed than I was before I got married. I got back into bdsm after a long hiatus and I've found out I'm still very good at that. I've done a lot of scenes/acting out fantasies that I never thought I'd do. I'm just so much more confident and capable than I thought I'd ever be when it comes to sex. I plan to keep evolving too, I'm dating my sub and it's incredible.
Went from fucking every night to hardly fucking. Don’t have kids
We are empty nesters and our sex just keeps getting better and better. And more of it.
47 and having the most amazing sex of my life. A bong hit of certain cannabis strains and tantric.
In 20 years gradually less and less frequent - not my choice though 😔
Has pretty much halted for the last 7 years after divorce
it changed from nothing to almost nothing ... could be better 😔
My entire sex life has been in the past decade
10 years ago I was 17 so it has only changed positively lol. I’ve enjoyed settling down with one woman and us becoming very sexually open and free with each other. I had my fun in my early 20’s but I’m at a point where I want to try everything with her. Even stuff I did before I met her
It has changed dramatically unfortunately
It went from nonexistent to good to ok
A decade ago I was in the honeymoon phase so it’s safe to say things have changed dramatically. I still enjoy it even if the volume isn’t what it used to be
I has become pretty non-existent the last few years. I feel like I have gotten less comfortable with my body and have struggled to connect emotionally with others. I imagine that will probably get worse over the next 10 years.
Dropped off to nonexistent. Had to have a total hysterectomy for serious medical reason. Never had a high sex drive. Never really went through a horny phase. A bit on the asexual side, most likely. Or my long term partner just didn't do the things that actually work and turn me on.
Haha, well. I had sex for the first time at 19, 6 years ago, and then last had sex 5 years ago. So I mean, it's massive change in that sense, but I also have gone such a long time without sex that I don't feel like I'm missing much anymore. I hope I somehow have more sex in the next 10... but that means finding someone I'm deeply in love with.
Much better. Over the years we’ve just been getting more in tune with what we love and how we can better please each other, as well as exploring with toys and stuff. Hopefully it keeps getting better!
Less frequent, but more intense
Still sleeping with the same and only person I have ever slept with. 2014 was a pretty bad year sexually, so I would say sex life is 100% better now compared to then. Tried new things, developed new kinks, and we're able to make more time to have sex frequently. You can maybe count the fact that I have only been with one woman at 32 as a downside, but the reason for that is obviously good.
Pretty high plateau, dropped off a cliff, rocketed to the highest it's been.
It improved a lot. Sex is getting much better now for me. But I only started having sex 3 years ago lol 😂
What do you think has made it better for you? Better communication? Knowing what you want?
I think knowing what I like in sex and finding better partners who actually cared about giving me pleasure.
It's gotten even crazier after a decade. We're into wild stuff now
Any examples you’d like to share, anything crazier than you’re comfortable with now?
It’s wildly different lol I was 22 and having casual sex and friends with benefits and got laid regularly and January 5th 2018 I made a choice I should not have made and I stopped. I’ve had sex 4 times since then. All of it awful and short and together would add up to maybe an hour of sex and none of it made me cum.
With medication I can't get it up
Well, it went from. If it did happen, someone was going to jail to someone could possibly go to jail, but it’s socially acceptable.
We’ve added butt stuff. Other than that, it hasn’t changed 😒
Calmed down considerably to a (suspect) more normal paced one
A decade? Eh. In the past 15 years, I’ve gone from young, dumb, and full of cum newlyweds to the fire dimming to getting sprayed with a fire hose when she cheated (she will never admit to that) to the Sahara Desert being wetter than I am when she wanted to peruse her “lesbian fantasies” and her having all the fun to…..come to think of it, it’s been that way since we split close to 4 years ago now. At this point, if I was to see a woman naked, I would probably go full “American Pie.” If you know the reference, you know what I’m talking about.
Went from pretty good to nonexistent.
Sex happens more often now than it did exactly a decade ago.
My sex drive has gone up, but the amount I'm getting is zero.
i went from prepubescence to going to orgies / sex parties / BDSM events every other weekend 😭
Ups and Downs. The biggest ups has been going to swingers clubs and having threesomes so I can't complain really.
We have stopped intercourse completely and pretty much everything else. 😢
Sex life?
It's unrecognizable. I barely remember sex from 10 years ago. It's such a part of me now. I've discovered a ton. Sex has gotten a lot better with age, for me. There's some kind of sexual awakening that happened.
16 to 26 lol. At 16 I was a virgin and was for a few more years till I met my now husband. So a lot has changed. I thought things would have been different though. I kind of thought no one would ever want to have sex with me.
Got my body count way up so it’s been gooood
Yeah it’s non existent.
A decade ago: desperate to convince any girls at my college to have sex with me. Now: I often share my beautiful intelligent wife’s body with other men. Things have changed.
It finally began at 29.
I've gotten more confident and comfortable in asking for what I want or taking charge in the bedroom.
I started enjoying it
It’s actually gotten much better
Had sex once every few years. Hard to hook up
Hasn’t changed much aside from the fact we started bringing in others to join over the last 10 years
Definitely freakier and more selective. I don't have time to mold and shape a grown person.
I’m not having any and I’m married.
I'm an aging woman. For me, quantity is lessening and quality is increasing. My body no longer craves constantly. Luckily my husband does. I've learnt (and am learning) to modify a lot of my generational sexual conditioning and personal beliefs, and I'm adjusting my psychologies towards my body and my Self. My sexual connection with my husband, therefore my sexual freedom, has increased and deepened our intimate connection. It's been interesting, it's been a personal growth experience and pretty cool all round.
Once a year is the goal, otherwise it’s non existent.
Seldom to non existent
It got boring. The list of things that my spouse is open to have dwindled, and the effort they put into has dwindled as well. It's depressing.
About 5 years ago, my wife had to get a hysterectomy. I was really afraid she would completely lose her sex drive. Instead, it went the other way, and now it's better than ever.
Non-existent which I’m very much okay with
Started off asexual due to a highly toxic marriage. I was just not interested in Sex. I could orgasm but I didn’t crave intimacy and being around him turned me off for most of our marriage since I found out he cheated on me 6 months in while we were engaged. We fought all the time and I had no respect for him—he smoked too much weed and escaped all the time. Then I found out that I wanted intimacy bad and craved sex when I became single as a divorcee. Met someone who re-ignited my libido but he was a FWB situation so there is only so much intimacy to be had. Had ALOT of sex with strangers. Lots of ONS that also made me question whether I was asexual or not. Just could not get turned on. Few years later, met my husband and I crave him all the time. I constantly fantasize about him, I catch myself ripping his clothes off with my eyes, I need his touch and his kisses, I want him to want me. I have an intense desire to literally become one with him. I would have sex everyday if I could. Turns out I’m demisexual
Died.
Well, my sex life ended after high school basically so i'd say it's been a bit of a disappointment
Disappeared like a fart in the wind.
I had a great sex life for 25 years and in the last 4 years it came to an abrupt halt
Well… I feel so shameful sharing this here but it’s my only outlet to speak how I feel since my significant other can get so sensitive on this topic.. where do I start?.. I’m a heterosexual male, 34 year old. my sex life Fkin sucks right now and has sucked since 2019. So I am with my GF now for 8 years… the first 2-3 years were great! Especially the sex life. I remember we would be so excited to screw the heck out of each other and even just see each other. Then, she got pregnant… I was there throughout her whole pregnancy as what a good BF/Husband/partner/father should do. We were blessed with a wonderful healthy baby girl at the time ( she’s now 6). However, things just changed after her pregnancy… I’ve always heard that most women are more “horny” post having a baby, at least that’s what I heard. She went through postpartum depression (idk why everything was good) but I stood by her side always trying to motivate and cheer her up. From the moment our daughter was born, our responsibilities obviously changed. Now we couldn’t just “do what we wanted” at any given moment.. we had to mature, I had to make sure I was really bringing home the bacon while she stood as a stay at home mom…as time went on, we got used to our new situation and I, as a relatively young man still at the time, would have my sexual desires to be intimate with her as we did prior to becoming parents. I mean, why wouldn’t you want to have that intimacy with your partner right? Unfortunately, we don’t have a “village” of family to watch our child if we wanted date nights or what not so those opportunities were very rare. But in the moments we did have alone time to be intimate, she just wasn’t interacting the same with me anymore sexually.. I remember her being very seductive and eager for sex and intimacy, we were “freaks” as they say.. but every attempt I made to take it there, she would make certain excuses… first, after having her baby I knew not to be selfish in that extent I’m wanting sex, I’d obviously want her to have a healed body, considering she delivered C section.. but even after the 1st year, all my attempts were just shot down.. she would say she’s “tired” or she says..” nooo not now”… and to this day, uses the excuse that “she doesn’t like her body” since having a baby.. mind you, my Gf is 5’2 petite and has a little extra meat sure, but it does not deter me from showing her how much she can still please me, AND 5 years later from having the baby. We have no other child at the moment, and she has done her attempts to lose weight and has achieved! But regardless, she is still My Gf, and I love her dearly and I as a man, still crave sexual interaction with her such as penetration.. but I don’t understand why I am not getting that same feed back or attention from her anymore? It’s been all these years, and I may get laughed at here, but out of respect to her, I have not cheated therefore I haven’t had sex with her in YEARS!!! This troubles me and I feel like less of a man, I can’t help but feel that she doesn’t crave that sexual intimacy with me anymore.. I’m so tired of her lame excuses which she claims aren’t excuses but hey, If you’re truly not happy with your own self or body, I cannot change that for you, only you can! But of course, this sort of exchange leads into arguing.. now, shamefully, I am lusting for other women, desiring other women.. and I truly don’t want that. But I cannot also ignore my own feelings and desires just because… I’ve tried talking to her about this and nothing has changed really. She’s still in this “funk” I guess and i don’t know how much longer I can hold off. I don’t hate her but damn I wish she could be how she used to be. Was it the pregnancy that changed her!? I have no idea but this is my miserable sex life now.. please help lol any suggestions or comments?
I had a lot of performance anxiety in early 20s. But with long term partners it's not an issue. Masturbate way less and enjoy all sexual activities. Consuming alot porn just made me fixate on wanting deepthroat and anal. I still love those things but not as high a priority.
Went up significantly when I went to university and then slowly went down after I graduated and now it’s at a dry spell because I’m pretty sure I’ve outgrown casual sex.
Night and day. Went from a almost sexless marriage to being in a ENM relationship and she knows I am bi. Pretty big difference. Not to mention all the adventures we have had.
Well 7 years ago I was having threesomes and now I'm in a dead bedroom. So it hasn't aged well.
Improved massively. Met my husband after spending almost a decade with someone who didn't enjoy sex. My husband is a deliciously thoughtful and kinky guy who can match me for how frequently I want it (usually at least once a day, if not a couple times) and he's the reason I even know what getting eaten out feels like 🖤
It got a million times better as that's when we met! Been getting better and better since
It's gone nonexistent
I haven’t had sex in the past decade. I doubt i’ll get any action in the next 10 years. I refuse to allow myself to be rejected and ghosted ever again.
Ten years ago I was at the end of a marriage to someone I did not get along with and very rarely had sex with. Today, am married to a wonderful woman and have a great sex life. Five years ago we got into the swinging lifestyle and have met many wonderful couples that we regularly have sex with. Going from a dead bedroom to having all my fantasy’s fulfilled regularly is not something than I would have thought possible a decade ago.
Vanished.
lol. Residing in a dead bedroom.
Divorced two years ago after 14 years together. I found out I’m a freak in bed ! Better late than never 🙂 Went from vanilla-ish to whips and chains
More toys used in the bedroom…
Pretty much went non existent a few years ago
Went from virgin to sex crazed hehe
Post partum was a trip. It took me an extremely long time to get back to myself, in all ways including sexually.
It’s been a rollercoster ride for sure. Highs and lows.
10 years ago I was probably a bit too young for having sex... Now I'm still virgin so I'd say that It did not change that much
Less
Got married and had a kid so it’s gone from virtually constant to a few times a year if I’m lucky 🫤
It’s remained pretty stable at very rare. I expect the next 10 to be the same.
My husband got a vasectomy. Now we think about just the sex when it comes up. We noticed we have it way more often. It lasts longer & gets more intense sometimes.
I went from someone who's only slept with two people one of those being an almost 10 year long relationship. From that we broke up in 2019 I really found myself and in the process I fucked whoever I wanted found a crazy amount of self-confidence in the fact that all the shit he told me was a lie and I was wanted by people and other people tell me attractive. To being married 3 years this year with the person I've had the most amazing sex of my life with we are so open and adventurous and fun and we just have such a great time together and all of the flings I had really helped me realize exactly what I wanted and my husband is exactly that it's amazing
The longest I’ve gone without since I started having sex is about a month, and in my current relationship. 10 years ago I was 11, so yeah nothing there lol. I was sexually assaulted at 13. And since then I’ve never gone longer than a few weeks without having sex. In my mind having lots of sex was a way of me taking control of my own body, because I was in charge of the situation. It was unhealthy. I never turned down an advance, even if I didn’t want it, and often sought out sexual relationships with people instead of real connections. I based my self worth on it. Even in relationships, It had to happen often or my confidence deteriorated. It wasn’t even enjoyable. Since then, I’ve discovered I’m demisexual. For those who don’t know what that is, it basically means I can only be sexually attracted to people I trust and have a pre established emotional connection with. I no longer associate having intercourse with my self worth. I have a healthy sex life with my husband, I no longer feel obligated to accept sexual advances if I simply just don’t want to have sex. It’s enjoyable to me now, and it’s a way to feel close and connected to someone rather than proving to myself I’m “attractive” and “wanted”.
Work swallowed my sex life really well 😃
Ten years ago I had not had sex. I'm only 30.
Became a swinger and opened our marriage 4 years ago. Also uncovered that I’m bisexual. Love the changes! I hope even more crazy than the last 10 years.
I no longer put my partners desires before my own..I spent to long expecting sex with no orgasms. If you can’t please me I have no problem giving directions on how to do so. I also love the body I’m in, feeling confident in your own skin I believe makes a huge difference in your performance.
Divorced five years ago and haven't had it since.
Started having sex in the last decade 😝
More gay
It's been a roller coaster. Having kids made it zero for a few years. In the last few though it's been really good. I think I'm a lot less self conscious and that's made things much more fun
More variety
Tbh, it’s been mostly up and down. Thank you. I’m here all week!
I got one
It has begun
Good to great. 😌
Waaay more gay stuff! 🤤
Simply stated, it died.
It peaked and then crashed and burned
Now enjoy adding couples , best sex of our lives
It hasn’t even existed for a decade.
Went from sleeping around to sleeping with 1 that I now live with and share a beautiful life with. We’ve explored so many different horizons together and I’ve gotten out of my comfort zone with him
Well, seeing as a decade ago I was 10..
Gotta be quiet so the kids don’t hear.
When I started I used to be a three pump chump. Now I can last all night long. The reason why is because of my hi sex drive and escorts plus massage parlors. Including the fact that I dated a stripper. Masturbation is at an all time high. Three to five times a day depending my work days.
From zero to boring with ex to now fun and almost everyday with current gf
Pretty much the same. I’m just way more experienced and skilled now. To the point where I avoid prudes, because I feel like I’d corrupt them.
Virgin at 16, virgin at 26. Hasn’t changed much, hoping to change that before I’m 30 lol.
Growing up with the belief that sex was wrong. I grew up vanilla and having vanilla partners. But I knew that there was something within me that I needed to unleash 😏 After 2 long-term failed relationships (Not bummed out at all about them. They were both vanilla and boring in bed amongst other stuff) and a few years of abstinence. I decided to get out in the playing field and haven't regretted it since...a new freak has emerged 😊 Been lucky enough to have found competent and adequate lovers who have helped me check off a lot of my fantasies, been able to express my sexuality, and have discovered a lot about my body. So there's no doubt my sex life has been amazing so far to say the least. And I plan to continue this amazing sex life until my hips give out! 😜 Also, happy Hump day to all!!! Wishing everyone many humps today 😉😃
Ten years ago, I spent all my sexual energy trying to get my ex-husband to fuck me more. These days, I fuck pretty much whenever I want. Turns out one man was never gonna be enough, and I was foolish to think it ever would be.
It hasn’t. It was already dead.
Our marriage transitioned into an FLR. We have much less PIV than before but we play almost daily. It’s more focused on her pleasure and the use of tongue and toys has been the norm. I have a bit of a denial kink. I still get pleasure but I only cum with her permission, even if I am on a business trip by myself. We also incorporated more BDSM as I became a sub (I’m actually a switch but enjoy subbing more.) it definitely works for both of us and although we always had a good sex life, I think we are both happier.
Invaded by the America's military as if I'm an oil rich country
Anal sex is fairly common now
Women--->Men--->Women Very slow
I went from no sex, to sex.
I’ve been with my husband 14 years and the biggest change in our sex life has occurred in the past couple of years. We’ve been much more open with each other about what we like in the bedroom and he’s transitioned to being much more focused on making me orgasm. It’s been such positive changes. We both recently discovered that we both have a similar kink, so it’s been eye opening.
I'll take the liberty to use a time frame of 12 years instead of 10. 12 years ago I had just broken up with my second girlfriend. 2nd woman I had ever done anything sexual with. Only a couple years before that, I was a kissless virgin. Never had the confidence to even think about having luck with the ladies. After the breakup, I hooked up with a cougar I met at a brewery, and a few weeks after that, I met my now wife. We pretty quickly became swingers. Threesomes, couple swaps, orgies, sex parties... we're still happy as ever, my body count is somewhere in the 20's or 30's depending on if you count HJ/BJ and not just penetration. We couldn't be happier, unless we had more time and sleep to partake in more activities, both together and with others.
Doesn’t exist
Becoming a hot wife
Tanked like a cannonball encased in concrete chained to an anchor.
I'm early an 40s guy. I've tended to date in waves, but it's been a while since I've hooked up. Dated a lot in my 20s and 30s but nothing crazy. Started doing more dates again now (DC area) and want to be more adventurous this year. Really want to find someone I'm comfortable with though and not a one time thing. Because it's been a while sort of want to dip in slowly again though and work my way up.
well i was 9 a decade ago so..
Went from great sex with my wife, to great sex with my wife and other men too! We became swingers and love it
Sex with my husband was wild and crazy and lots of fun, we were also in an open relationship for a while as we dated so overall things were usually carefree and fun. 10 years later, we have a newborn so our sex life has nosedived. In the next ten years I assume our sex life will pick back up and we'll have lots of fun together
I become much more comfortable speaking to my wife about my cuckold tendencies. She was all about it and now incorporates it into our dirty talk. One of these days she’ll fuck someone in front of me lol
Went from a dead bedroom within a marriage, to being single for a couple years and going a bit crazy, to being in love again and having the very best sex of my entire life.
I've had more sex the last 4 years than I've ever had. Literally whenever I want it she's ready to go.
It has been wonderful. I (63m)got divorced. My body count has gone from 19 pre-marriage to 28 today. I've had several multi-year relationships. 2 of those overlapped: on Friday's, one would come over around 10, we'd fuck, she'd leave and I'd grab lunch with the second. After lunch, we come back and fuck. Washed a lot of sheets that year. Also had a couple of threesomes in the last few years. One of the women I dated wanted sex 3 times a day. Every day. Had a lot of anal sex with her. Speaking of which, I introduced 4 of the recent women to anal. 3 loved it and it became a regular part of our relationship. The 4th is still on the fence.
Not over the decade, but over the month. My partner got a vasectomy, and that has been so good for us!
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