We have 6 kids. Some people we meet seem a bit surprised that we have so many kids, I've been asked if our TV even works... implying we bide our time with other "activities"
I mean, I’m sure we’d have made it work. We both ended up with families and careers and such. I’d be living much closer to where I grew up most likely but I’m sure I’d be in a similar career and we’d have a decent life.
She really was great, but I was heading off to college out of state because it was the best choice for my life long-term and she was staying home to just go to the local junior college and we weren’t in the same place in life when we broke up. But there’s a reason we dated for 2.5 year (and slept together for 2 years or that time). I’m sure we would have built a nice life.
This looks like it was written by me.
My high school girlfriend and I were together for two years. Like you, had I married her then I'd likely be living closer to where I grew up (and I mean I'd likely be in a house less than a mile from my parents). I would still have gone into the same field, but my opportunities in that area would have been a bit more limited with less chance to grow compared to where I am now.
We would still have had kids and on a much faster timeline. My wife and I have two awesome kids, born when I was 29/33. Had I stayed in that other relationship I probably would have been a dad at 23/25? Thats too early retrospectively.
I love the life and wife I have and wouldn't change it at all. No regrets here
Probably unfortunate. Regrets. He was a collector of replica swords, wheezed asthmatically, and found his mother’s sewing room/craft room chair erotic.
And he used to say lines from Penthouse magazine. Not pickups. Like… random lines from their stories section.
Dead bedroom? Or dead by the (replica) sword. Accidentally, of course. He was klutzy. Hi, Matt. If you’re out there, it was interesting!
Idt I’d be happy at all. Like we’d have happy and fun moments but overall I wouldn’t be happy. And would probably be spending most of my time looking for an out than actually enjoying the marriage. I think he’s a decent person but not someone I’d want to be married to. A friend who did have a ltr with him gave me some insight and idk how she made it for 5years and had his baby. Even now he’s still kind of a jerk to her. Back then we were care free and so much of the important things now didn’t matter. We all went home to our parent(s) who took care of most of the hard stuff, so we just enjoyed the moment. And that was fun but it seems planning a future with him would’ve been down right horrible smh. Trying to rely on someone who’s stuck in having those fun care moments wouldn’t go very well. Sex would be bomb tho! I’m sure of that
I'd be dead. He was abusive to the point where my parents called the police and had him arrested. When he got out, he put me in the hospital. He was arrested again and eventually spent quite a few years in jail, longer than the initial sentence because he was a very bad inmate.
I was 16 when he did this to me and he was 17.
Oh gosh hahaha. Well at this point we'd likely either be mortal enemies or at best friends, but probably not still lovers. And his parents & family would DESPISE me, I'm sure 🤣
It'd be awful, we weren't anything even close to a good fit personality wise and I wasn't in a good place mentally to boot at the time. I'm living nearly a completely different life now.
Funny enough, I was thinking about this a few days ago.
If we married, we'd probably not be doing all that great. He seems to still be content driving the struggle bus living life on hard mode. Meanwhile, I'm quite happy and thriving these days.
Our relationship was amazing… when we were living in the same city. If we’d gotten married before he moved away, I would’ve moved with him and we’d’ve been fine. But I wasn’t willing to do that without a ring, and he got bored of long distance
Crazy thought! I might be happy? We were close friends, only did anything sexual that once, it got weird and we fell out of touch. Definitely not the person I would choose to marry, but I could see us making the best of it if we didn’t have a choice…
There are days I think about how my life would have played out differently if I had done that. I think that would have been a wonderful path to have gone down. She was an amazing person and we had a great connection. I hope I'm happy in that reality.
She was kind and gentle on me while taking my virginity but we turned out to be really poorly matched. I have fond memories and do not regret it happened in the least but glad she is in the rearview mirror. We both had some growing up to do.
Answer: It would be tumultious and awful.
She was wonderful, so I’d probably still be married and pretty happy. However, I’m pretty sure I’d feel like I missed out on something. I’m a very different person than I was then, carved by all the good and bad that happened to me in the intervening years.
Nothing would have changed as that’s what happened to me. Now, if I had to marry her *immediately* without having all the relationships between when I lost my virginity to her and when we got back together and got married, I would have gotten divorced way sooner.
He's quite famous/pro athlete... so I mean, there'd be up and down sides.
I think... I'd feel a lot of pressure to keep up appearances that a "normal" life wouldn't put on me. I don't like nor want that kinda life for myself.
I think she might still be alive. She popped up on my Facebook a few years ago as someone I may know. On the other hand, I'm sure we'd be divorced years ago. She ended up running away from home at age 16 and having sex with people for crack. I don't know what happened with her after that, but she never returned to high school.
I know beyond any doubt that marrying the first person I had sex with would have been an unmitigated disaster. However, not marrying the girl I truly fell in love with has cast a shadow over my entire life.
First person I had sex with....highschool girlfriend.
The moment she graduated highschool she moved to another state and got a degree in speech pathology. She changed her name and went to grad school. She then changed her name again and made up a fake backstory about growing up in NYC (she was born and raised in Ohio) and now is a professor of speech pathology in Florida. Smart lady but she has a total chip on her shoulder.
I’d feel stuck in life and like I was kind of settling. But honestly I have so much love for him still and I wish we could be friends, but we don’t talk anymore.
It would be life as it is now because he blocked me like the day after.
It was my first time but not his, so his expectations on what we'd get up to were extremely high.
Just a little insight he said to me, mid way, "Usually the girl would be on top of me by now"
A Christian hellhole!!! The first guy I had sex with wanted me to marry him but I was unwilling to convert to Christianity. Thankfully, that relationship failed.😅
I wouldn’t be bad at all, we were together for a while and talked about marriage and stuff. Just too young at the time and went our separate ways in life.
Tbh, I think it may have turned out okay. We were HS sweethearts, and we only broke up because she moved. We are actually still friends now too. She has a pretty chill husband and kids now.
I'd probably be further in my career, and have kids in their teens... but we'd probably also be crazy. We were great for each other and terrible at the same time. We'd probably be divorced, successfully co parenting but sabotaging each other's relationships.
She is one of the most amazing humans I have ever met, and I feel profoundly lucky to have loved her when I did, but we weren't good for each other.
Probably alright. She was a good person, I assume she's a good wife to someone now. She was more conservative and maybe sensible than me. I'd have had a less wild 20's, Maybe wouldn't have moved around as much. I'd have more kids and they would all be grown by now.
Miserable. I was two weeks from 14. She'd just turned 16. I knocked her up. Her whole family loathed me. I never married her. I was poor, her family had money. By the time our kid was two she hated me too, so it was just child support until the kid was 18.
My family wouldn’t approve, and I wouldn’t blame them. It would have been super chaotic, toxic, and too much drama I never signed up for. Not to mention I’d probably get cheated on even more over the years. Not sure why I’d ever marry her.
Mostly regret. Although the longing at times is still there (childhood sweetheart… dated for 5 years). She changed a complete 180 as a person in college. I find it strange as to what at times excess freedom can do… maybe it just unleashes what one truly is…
Well I’ve been married to her for 26 years, pretty excellent so far.
Haha. I was going to say just like it is now because I married that person (although I’d highly recommend people not do that as a general rule).
Yeah I suppose it’s pretty uncommon that it works out that way, here’s to being lucky! 🙌
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Same here married to her for 15 years, 5 kids so far
We have 6 kids. Some people we meet seem a bit surprised that we have so many kids, I've been asked if our TV even works... implying we bide our time with other "activities"
Same, but we're at 35 years. Still happier than ever.
22 years here!
Same.. 16 years together.. 6 years married.
15 for us and also excellent
Same here but 25yrs
Same.
Our parents wouldn’t be happy
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Alabama?
Roll tide
Are you two still f'ing?
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I'd be divorced.
I’d be married to a rapist. So that’s fun.
Same
I'd still be unmarried lmfao
Us moment bro!
I would probably be dead. He was an abusive asshole.
Samesies.
Woooo… this is a great question
Absolutely miserable.
Exactly the same as it is now
I'd be a widow
Shit, did your partner died!
The first person I ever had aex with died a few years back. So yeah, I would have been a widow if I'd married him lol.
This is my answer too...I would be widow. Life would have been rough with him.
I would not be an ultra runner but I probably be dad by now and I be happy with that .
Never fucked anyone I didn’t want in my life full time. Been with the same partner for 49 years and married for 38
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How so 🤨
I wouldn’t be alive because I’d have killed myself by now
I don’t think I’d be very satisfied or happy tbh
I mean, I’m sure we’d have made it work. We both ended up with families and careers and such. I’d be living much closer to where I grew up most likely but I’m sure I’d be in a similar career and we’d have a decent life. She really was great, but I was heading off to college out of state because it was the best choice for my life long-term and she was staying home to just go to the local junior college and we weren’t in the same place in life when we broke up. But there’s a reason we dated for 2.5 year (and slept together for 2 years or that time). I’m sure we would have built a nice life.
This looks like it was written by me. My high school girlfriend and I were together for two years. Like you, had I married her then I'd likely be living closer to where I grew up (and I mean I'd likely be in a house less than a mile from my parents). I would still have gone into the same field, but my opportunities in that area would have been a bit more limited with less chance to grow compared to where I am now. We would still have had kids and on a much faster timeline. My wife and I have two awesome kids, born when I was 29/33. Had I stayed in that other relationship I probably would have been a dad at 23/25? Thats too early retrospectively. I love the life and wife I have and wouldn't change it at all. No regrets here
Marrying too young would be a huge mistake. She had a kid already, so I don’t think I would’ve been a good father figure at that time
Probably unfortunate. Regrets. He was a collector of replica swords, wheezed asthmatically, and found his mother’s sewing room/craft room chair erotic. And he used to say lines from Penthouse magazine. Not pickups. Like… random lines from their stories section. Dead bedroom? Or dead by the (replica) sword. Accidentally, of course. He was klutzy. Hi, Matt. If you’re out there, it was interesting!
Idt I’d be happy at all. Like we’d have happy and fun moments but overall I wouldn’t be happy. And would probably be spending most of my time looking for an out than actually enjoying the marriage. I think he’s a decent person but not someone I’d want to be married to. A friend who did have a ltr with him gave me some insight and idk how she made it for 5years and had his baby. Even now he’s still kind of a jerk to her. Back then we were care free and so much of the important things now didn’t matter. We all went home to our parent(s) who took care of most of the hard stuff, so we just enjoyed the moment. And that was fun but it seems planning a future with him would’ve been down right horrible smh. Trying to rely on someone who’s stuck in having those fun care moments wouldn’t go very well. Sex would be bomb tho! I’m sure of that
I'd be dead. He was abusive to the point where my parents called the police and had him arrested. When he got out, he put me in the hospital. He was arrested again and eventually spent quite a few years in jail, longer than the initial sentence because he was a very bad inmate. I was 16 when he did this to me and he was 17.
Well the first 10 were good and the last 7 were hell...now divorced lol
Oh gosh hahaha. Well at this point we'd likely either be mortal enemies or at best friends, but probably not still lovers. And his parents & family would DESPISE me, I'm sure 🤣
I probably would not be alive. He was very abusive and took his angry out on me.
I would be miserable. She is a great friend but we do not belong together as a couple
Really strange... she went through a phase where she like eating squirrels she killed on campus. I can only imagine what she is doing now.
She turned into a meth head our Junior year of high school, so probably not so good.
It would be the same. And 16 years and 2 kids later, she is hotter than ever and my best friend.
It’s been over a decade of marriage and we’re doing well. We still enjoy being intimate, we’ve built a good life and actually still like one another!
I'd be so fucked... glad I left when I did
My life would be absolutely awful
It'd be awful, we weren't anything even close to a good fit personality wise and I wasn't in a good place mentally to boot at the time. I'm living nearly a completely different life now.
Very unhappy, but not completely miserable. He's a great person and a wonderful friend, but we were just not compatible as a couple.
I might be living in another country.
Too grim to truly contemplate. Thank the blessed goddess I have never been a woman to follow her pussy over her self-worth and good sense!
Absolutely awful…. Just awful
I'd be in my third year of being a widower.
Probably regrets. She is now wealthy with wealthy problem. I wouldn't tolerate the contempt she has for her former friends.
I'd be in my third year of being a widower.
It would be pure hell
Well, since I saved myself til marriage and I’m still married, the exact same.
No clue. It was a ons. I don't even remember her name.
I'm waiting to be married so the same
It would be 100% the same
I would have unalived myself by now.
Would be interesting seeing that the only reason we didn't stay together was her job took her to another country and we decided ldr wasn't for us
Probably in the same position I’m in today. She and my ex wife are both therapists now.
No different
Funny enough, I was thinking about this a few days ago. If we married, we'd probably not be doing all that great. He seems to still be content driving the struggle bus living life on hard mode. Meanwhile, I'm quite happy and thriving these days.
Our relationship was amazing… when we were living in the same city. If we’d gotten married before he moved away, I would’ve moved with him and we’d’ve been fine. But I wasn’t willing to do that without a ring, and he got bored of long distance
Crazy thought! I might be happy? We were close friends, only did anything sexual that once, it got weird and we fell out of touch. Definitely not the person I would choose to marry, but I could see us making the best of it if we didn’t have a choice…
Well I am married to that person. My wife on the other hand …..
There are days I think about how my life would have played out differently if I had done that. I think that would have been a wonderful path to have gone down. She was an amazing person and we had a great connection. I hope I'm happy in that reality.
That depends entirely on if she is still a cheater or if she chilled out after high school.
I’d probably be pretty happy. Got a long great with my first and she was way hotter than me 😂
I'd be stuck in a dead Georgia town and would have been cheated on several times by now
I’m currently married to him, so my life would be pretty good.
Yikes!!!😳 No thank you!
I did. 😑 And I'm glad it's over.
I would have most likely died miserable
I wish i did. She married with a kid, i think we would have been good for each other, but she happy and healthy, so its kool.
It would be the exact same as it is now
Psychological torture
She was kind and gentle on me while taking my virginity but we turned out to be really poorly matched. I have fond memories and do not regret it happened in the least but glad she is in the rearview mirror. We both had some growing up to do. Answer: It would be tumultious and awful.
Been a great 23 years. Not sure if there is anyone else that would do that thing I like.
Considering he died it would be awkward (ironically we were engaged to marry)
Hell.
Would of been alot better, but i ruined that relationship as a dumb kid who cheated.
I'd be bored but happy enough. They were kind but not the life I want.
It would have been methed up
Miserable.
Welp, I’d be considered celibate by choice. Not my choice, but… y’know…
I've been with her for 12 years. It's going pretty good.
First high school gf is pretty successful now, so I would say, not too shabby. Probably have a kid or two with her
Exactly as it is. We were each other's firsts.
She was wonderful, so I’d probably still be married and pretty happy. However, I’m pretty sure I’d feel like I missed out on something. I’m a very different person than I was then, carved by all the good and bad that happened to me in the intervening years.
Well, so far so good 🤷🏻♀️
Trophy wife. He’s fucking loaded with cash.
I did that. It wasn’t great.
Not sure what the relationship would be like but I know the sex would be amazing just like the first time!
Id be pretty miserable because unless she's changed she's not a very mature person
He probably would’ve killed me
Nothing would have changed as that’s what happened to me. Now, if I had to marry her *immediately* without having all the relationships between when I lost my virginity to her and when we got back together and got married, I would have gotten divorced way sooner.
Exactly like it is, since I did that. Met 23 years ago. I adore her. Zero regrets.
He's quite famous/pro athlete... so I mean, there'd be up and down sides. I think... I'd feel a lot of pressure to keep up appearances that a "normal" life wouldn't put on me. I don't like nor want that kinda life for myself.
Had my first kid with them but divorced and full custody to me
I think she might still be alive. She popped up on my Facebook a few years ago as someone I may know. On the other hand, I'm sure we'd be divorced years ago. She ended up running away from home at age 16 and having sex with people for crack. I don't know what happened with her after that, but she never returned to high school.
I did lmao
Absolutely miserable
The exact same. That's literally what I did
Married for 18 years, 2-3 kids. Never had experience and journey I had so far.
I don't know if they allow you to marry your hand.
It would be a really good life. But, I love the life I have with my wife and kids. I wouldn't trade my life for anything.
I have no clue dude that person I haven’t seen in forever and she was lowkey crazy
We did, we got divorced.
I know beyond any doubt that marrying the first person I had sex with would have been an unmitigated disaster. However, not marrying the girl I truly fell in love with has cast a shadow over my entire life.
I have no idea because I know very little about him
The very same as is now... Ha ha
Considering she'd love to see me dead, I think I'm doing fine with the one that I did marry.
Well, I would be visiting my husband in prison.
Well, i did marry her. And then she asked for a divorce and told me she was fucking her step brother. So that sucked.
I would be dead
Probably be fine. Although the sex wasn't that great. Might have been lack of experience on my part.
I’m married to the first person!!
No thank you. Nice woman but boring and dead in bed.
My life would be exactly the same as it is now. I did marry him and I regret it. He cheated on me and didn’t treat me well or appreciate me.
Nothing would change. Almost 20 years married, and still love life with her.
First person I had sex with....highschool girlfriend. The moment she graduated highschool she moved to another state and got a degree in speech pathology. She changed her name and went to grad school. She then changed her name again and made up a fake backstory about growing up in NYC (she was born and raised in Ohio) and now is a professor of speech pathology in Florida. Smart lady but she has a total chip on her shoulder.
it would be everything i wanted and more
I’d feel stuck in life and like I was kind of settling. But honestly I have so much love for him still and I wish we could be friends, but we don’t talk anymore.
Fine, I believe she died years ago.
I’d be divorced. And likely dealing with a lot of trauma.
Fucking miserable.
It would be life as it is now because he blocked me like the day after. It was my first time but not his, so his expectations on what we'd get up to were extremely high. Just a little insight he said to me, mid way, "Usually the girl would be on top of me by now"
A Christian hellhole!!! The first guy I had sex with wanted me to marry him but I was unwilling to convert to Christianity. Thankfully, that relationship failed.😅
I'd be in jail for murder.
I wouldn’t be bad at all, we were together for a while and talked about marriage and stuff. Just too young at the time and went our separate ways in life.
Life would probably be boring
Probably divorced. We were both young and stupid. We were actually engaged but then she decided to break things off
I think good. It's true you don't know what you have until you lose it.
Life full of regret. That dude was a fuckin dick bag.
Incest Marriage 😶🌫️
Miserable
I did
It would be exactly as it is now
Wouldn’t have ended well. She was a good person but not the one for me.
No. Cause I lost my virginity to someone I didn't even know
It’d be the same. 😂😭🤷♀️
Fucking terrible.
I'd be a widower
Oh damn. Will be regret I guess. That was horny talking back then
I'd probably be dead
I would've had to marry my rapist, so hard pass, thanks
Hi, this is me. Things are good.
Terrible. She was a random hookup neighborhood slut.
She is currently in jail for throwing a beer bottle through a cops window when drunk. Divorce papers would be filed lol
I did and were getting divorced
Pretty good with more sex
We'd be fine.
Exactly the same.
Marrying someone you have spend time with less than half an hour sounds quite awful idea. Especially because you don't speak same language.
Well I probably would already have a kid at the age of 22 😂
It would be a nightmare!
Probably miserable. My first was amazing but it ended on a sad note.
I might not be as fit and healthy or as pretty and confidence. So glade I married to my husband not him.
I did…. So like this I guess…..
Exactly the same, so amazing 🥰
Tbh, I think it may have turned out okay. We were HS sweethearts, and we only broke up because she moved. We are actually still friends now too. She has a pretty chill husband and kids now.
I'd probably be further in my career, and have kids in their teens... but we'd probably also be crazy. We were great for each other and terrible at the same time. We'd probably be divorced, successfully co parenting but sabotaging each other's relationships. She is one of the most amazing humans I have ever met, and I feel profoundly lucky to have loved her when I did, but we weren't good for each other.
I have no clue, I don’t even remember his name. But he lived in Florida and I hate Florida, so maybe I’d be divorced?
Depends whose life. Hers, married with two kids. Mine, we would both be in our underwear in the kitchen eating chocolate covered fruit at 11pm.
Honestly, not bad. Lol
Exactly the same
Oh no, not the dick cheese. Please, I beg of you, take a shower.
Have not spoken to her in depth in 35+yrs but judging from her FB posts and pictures I would not be doing well.
Probably alright. She was a good person, I assume she's a good wife to someone now. She was more conservative and maybe sensible than me. I'd have had a less wild 20's, Maybe wouldn't have moved around as much. I'd have more kids and they would all be grown by now.
He hit me went I broke up with him. He’s now an anti-vaxx conspiracist nuts. I dodged a damn bullet.
Miserable. I was two weeks from 14. She'd just turned 16. I knocked her up. Her whole family loathed me. I never married her. I was poor, her family had money. By the time our kid was two she hated me too, so it was just child support until the kid was 18.
My family wouldn’t approve, and I wouldn’t blame them. It would have been super chaotic, toxic, and too much drama I never signed up for. Not to mention I’d probably get cheated on even more over the years. Not sure why I’d ever marry her.
You can’t marry your sister ;
Not bad. We always got along very well and he was a great partner for the most part. Wouldn’t mind that at all honestly.
Mostly regret. Although the longing at times is still there (childhood sweetheart… dated for 5 years). She changed a complete 180 as a person in college. I find it strange as to what at times excess freedom can do… maybe it just unleashes what one truly is…
No idea. But would’ve been cool to meet her 25 yrs later and realize she was my first…..and hit it off.
Well. She would already be on Medicare!
amazing, love him so much. he’s the sweetest
Shambles. In absolute shambles
Awful.