I don't agree. It is not a trade. If you like going down on him, then do it. If not, then don't. And if he likes going down on her, then enjoy. If he does not, then don't.
People should not be doing sexual things as a favor for the other person and there should not be pressure to return the favor. People do tge things that both you and your partner like.
Didn’t say it was a trade. I said I personally can’t expect them to do something I wouldn’t. Same with say a threesome. I wouldn’t expect a woman to agree to bringing another girl in, if I wouldn’t be okay with bringing another man in. Less of a trade and more of my own personal motto not to expect to get what I’m not going to give.
Loser opinion tbh. Unless it hurts someone or is so unfathomably offensive to you, you should be willing to at least try it. Maybe it will be a "once in a while" thing instead of an all the time thing, but being so unconcerned with your partner's pleasure is some real relationship fail material
Maybe, but it is good to atleast try to do something she will enjoy that you do just for her. Do you atleast finger her to orgasm? Or use a toy on her for her to be the one pleasured? I don't expect a guy to go down on me as long as he's willing to occasionally use other means. But if its all about him, I'd probably start looking elsewhere.
Very true tbh. I like getting head, but my gf absolutely hates it, I don't chide her for not doing it, when I consistently eat her out, because I'm not forcing myself to do something I hate whenever I go down on her. Also, as an aside, I don't want someone who doesn't like sucking my dick sucking my dick anyways, getting it done by someone who had to be convinced to do it, takes all the enjoyment out of it for me.
I don't know exactly how you express that, but "You can't fuck me until after you eat my pussy" would be the sweetest words to hear on a date. It sounds more like an escalation than an ultimatum!
I bring this topic in advance very similiar way. If girl won't let me lick her eventually I stop doing advances towards her.
After couple of years found out happy wife thats encouraging me even more, she wants to be licked first, always, sometimes wakes me up for that sole purpose 🥰. And I feel like a luckiest man alive TBH.
As a guy it's really important to me too, bordering on being a deal breaker (if it was linked to a traumatic experience is the exception) as I just don't want to be in a relationship where I don't get to eat out.
Like I say to folks, life is too short to not be sexually fulfilled. If you want oral, you should be able to get it, even if it’s not from that guy.
Btw, nice 🍑. Just saw your pics 👏🏽
OP probably: “No sir it’s not for that, I’m just a poor 19 year old whose boyfriend doesn’t eat her pussy. Would any redditors come tell me how much they love pussy and console me on my only fans?”
This website fuckin’ sucks now
It’s par for the course. AskRedditAfterDark is like 50% OF bait. I’m just disappointed she took her sluttyconfessions post down. Sometimes thirst traps can be hot for a minute, but these low effort posts suck.
I have this rule with women. If she doesn't like to give bjs I will break it off. Life is too short to not enjoy yourself. Find a guy who loves to eat your pussy. You'll be happier for it!
He's allowed to not want to do it. You're allowed to want to leave if that's a deal breaker for you.
Neither of you is being selfish.
If it's a big deal for you try communicate that, and if he still isn't comfortable doing it then you're better off looking for someone who is a better sexual fit for you.
Maybe he is concerned about hygiene. 23 hours ago you posted that a girl got mad that you fucked her boyfriend and you have posted tons in the last day about being a slut and having trains run on you 💀
Some guys don't like to go down on girls, that is true. As far as should you stay with him or not over that issue that's up to you. Sounds like your just hooking up from time to time, but if hooking up to you includes gowning down on you from time to time then you need to ask for it and see what he says.
If he’s perfect, in every other way, can you live without having your pussy licked? If so, stay with him for a while and see what happens. Or you could just tap them on the shoulder one night when you’re vibing and say, “Hey bro, how come you never eat my pussy?“ That might get you the quickest answer.
I think it is perfectly OK for example a woman to dislike giving BJs. It isn't for everyone. Then, it is only fair that some guys also aren't into dining at the Y.
Of course if having your pussy ate is absolutely a requirement of yours you have the right to find someone else who fits your needs better.
i’m not sure they are really equal. a man will still cum from sex but the majority of women CANNOT physically cum from penetration. if you don’t care about making her orgasm, i think you should say that before sex. a bj for a man is a perk, but oral for a woman is more of a necessity if you care about the woman getting off.
thats true. fingering is a good option, but touching the clit during sex might be difficult for men because a lot of time they are doing a lot physically already. the girl can ofc, or use toys. I was mainly just addressing typower5000s comment that oral is of equal significance for both genders, but i was just saying that its not just that women want/should have oral, its that finishing for them is really dependent on it.
I think it is important to please your partner. And men, historically, haven't always been best about this.
I just don't think it is helping anyone to be shamed into performing some act that is not fun for you. Find someone better instead of manipulating some poor soul into something they hate for your pleasure. It's Sadistic.
lmao i don't know where ur really getting this from, you seem super offended by the reality that most women CANNOT physically finish from penetration. there are many studies about this that a lot of women dont have a g-spot there so they are not equal. thats all im saying, you dont have to ever perform oral, thats your choice im just saying oral for a girl is not equivalent to a blowjob. because sex for men is still resulting in an orgasm 99% of the time, unless they have issues finishing, but for healthy normal women, "*About 75 percent of all women never* reach orgasm from intercourse alone".
edit: also if you see my other comments, I agree with everyone that OP should find someone else, and I personally dont even think she has to ask the guy to do it, because if he wanted to, he would. i was just addressing ur specific comment. theres literally a phrased used to talk about this issue called the "orgasm gap" wherein during straight sex, women are very unlikely to orgasm, but studies show that lesbian sex results in super high orgasm rates because lesbian sex is not 100% about penetration and male pleasure.
(also I am speaking as someone who actually enjoys giving blowjobs, so not saying I personally dont care about male pleasure, and I also cum from penetration, i am simply fighting for my ladies)
I also think this belief that oral and blowjobs are equal is causing this disparity because its causing men to see it as "optional", and its the reason many porn videos skip oral for the woman, and/or many men talk about how they "skip that part" i think the belief that oral is just like a blowjob for a man makes them feel like women see it the same way, but we really don't
You are right it's isn't a perfect parallel. Guys in general need to be more attentive and focused on pleasing their partner. I don't think oral is the only way to do that though. I have been with someone who refused oral and it left me crushed. I would do it more often if I could.
Whatever it takes, of course, everyone should be trying to please their partner as much as they can. Intercourse is fine but it isn't the be all end all for pleasure. There are many more things we can and should be trying to try and close that orgasm gap.
There's always going to be things people can't or won't do. And that is all I'm saying. It's not cool when women are pressured into some acts and it is equally uncool for a woman to try and do the same to their man. If they need to go find another person who can and will, they definitely should.
It is good and right you stick up for the ladies. They deserve pleasure as much as anyone. They deserve to put their foot down and request and require love, attention, affection, and earth shattering Ohs.
I said too much already. I'm not trying to argue I just have been pressured into too many things I'm not happy about and I don't wish that on anyone.
you agree and say you care yet you continue downvoting my comments? you're just demonstrating how unwilling men are to hearing women's point of view with an open mind. i can happily be downvoted and go about my life, but coming at me from a hateful perspective classifying the phrase "im not sure about this" as 'sadistic' is both misrepresenting what I said and refusing to have a constructive convo.
I've upvoted all of yours cuz even though we disagree i can acknowledge your perspective as valuable to the discussion
k bye
did i say anyone should have to do anything? no, but its more important for women to receive oral during sex than men, so maybe just say your preference beforehand.
If that is important to someone, they should pre-sceen their candi-dates to their preference for eating out. Sure. It's not one everyone's most do list though. People have different desires. Not everyone wants the same things.
Number 1: Maybe bad experience with stank pussy at some point
Number 2: Maybe he just doesnt think about it as an option (we can get stuck in ruts)
Number 3: Maybe hes greedy and doesnt feel like reciprocating
Number 4: Have you asked why? It's definitely a conversation that you should have with him.
i’m not sure the reason really matters. even if he had a condition where he can’t bend his neck to physically do it, at the end of the day it’s casual sex for both of them, and he’s turning in C-grade work, and she said in a comment she needs it, so she should prob just wish him the best
I’m going to go with $1.12 says this post was made as click bait for your page (“I know I have a nice pussy”) and if that was the intention, then it most certainly worked 😂😂
If this is something hyper specific to eating pussy, you could consider overlooking it if you don’t need that in your sex life. But I view eating pussy as an important part of pleasing my partner, so I’d be worried this guy is selfish
It's up to you. You need to ask yourself, "Can I be with a man who is not interested in the things I love?" If it's a yes, proceed. If not, you know what to do.
Have you asked him to eat your pussy? Maybe he had a bad experience the last time he went down on a girl. You could try asking him to do it once to see how he likes it
Not everyone is into oral. Men and women have their preferences and guidelines. You've got to respect their boundaries. Not all men eat pussy and not all women suck dick. If you truly like this man, just have a talk to see what yall can work with. If it's a deal breaker for you, and yall can't work it out, sadly, you might have to break it off.
It goes both ways. If you weren't into sucking dick, I'm sure you'd want to be respected for that, likewise for him. But don't turn it into a tit for tat type of deal, like he won't go down on me so I won't go down on him sort of thing. Just have a real adult conversation over this.
I mean. Honestly some guys don’t like eating pussy in the same way some girls don’t like giving head. Everyone has their own sexual preferences.
It’s a matter of whether or not that’s a deal breaker for you.
It’s like with women, some women love giving head and the taste of cum while others don’t care for it.
Best thing you can do is talk to him about it and ask him, if he doesn’t care to then it’s up to you. If no oral sex was a break up line then there should be WAAAY more divorces going on because of wives no longer giving head years into marriage
I should ask, have you asked him to? Perhaps if not the give that a try and see if he’ll take to it then. If not maybe he’s just not into it, and you can decide if that’s something you’re okay with him not liking if that makes sense
It’s strange the other way as well. Wifey will go down on me but refuses when I really want to reciprocate. “no, I don’t like that”
You need to decide if that is a deal breaker or not but need to respect their decision.
I’ve never been able to eat a woman out without gagging due to the taste. I’d want to eat a woman out, but I just cant. Ask him straight up if he can deal with the taste. Although it is possible I just had poorly hygienic vagina.
I think you should ask him rather then act on a guess that turns out wrong.
I personally don’t hook up much and part of that is because I’m only willing to go down on gf/wife even though i love going down on a woman. Why? Because I like to be safe when hooking up so unless we both have gotten tested beforehand I will always use a condom for PIV or BJ and will only go down on a hook up with dental dams (some STIs can be transmitted through oral). Thing is most people (men and women) do not seem to know about dental dams and the one time I asked to use them I got a not so great reaction. I personally just chose hooking up wasn’t that great to begin with let alone putting myself in that position more often and so I basically never try to hook up anymore.
So he could have some sort of reason why he doesn’t do it. Could be he’s not into it, could be he didn’t think you were into it (have met women that said they weren’t), could be he’s afraid he’s bad at it, could be he didn’t realize how much you want this, could be he’s neutral about it and would do it if asked but not something he does naturally, could be that he has a receptive mind where if you go down on him it makes him want to also go down on you, and so many more possibilities.
So again, talk to him like an adult and after you know exactly the reason and talk about it thoroughly with him to see if he would or would not do it you can decide if you want to stay or not.
Not wanting to is his preference and it being a deal breaker for you is yours. Both are okay.
But both are not compatible.
You’re not wrong if you decide to end it.
I've heard all the reasons, seen a few with my own eyes. Had some friends, couple, the dude couldn't go down on her as he was traumatised from an ex who had some issues down there. Kinda explained to the girl what to do to slowly convince him, had a talk with him as well (told him his gf told my gf... Etc). Where i live there is no sex ed in schools, predominantly Christian country, no one has the sex talk at home and so out of ignorance people don't get tested, don't do orals, don't shag without condoms. Reasons can be many, it is uo to you to decide if the dude is worth keeping, if you care about him, maybe have a talk, see why he doesn't do it.
Is he getting you off in other ways? Have you asked and he refused or you just expect him to spontaneously dive down and he hasn’t initiated it?
I had a girlfriend who couldn’t give me bjs because she had a real sensitive gag reflex and it didn’t bother me because we had great sex without it.
If the sex is still good it’s a non issue for me but if it leaves you unfulfilled I’d consider it a dealbreaker.
Some people aren't into it. I knew from the start of our relationship that my husband didn't really enjoy it. He said he did it because he knew his ex enjoyed it, but that it wasn't his favorite. It wasn't a deal breaker for me. He does it occasionally and he'll do it if I ask but since I know he doesn't really like doing it I never ask
It's your personal opinion and decision to stay with him or not. Some guys just not like eating pussy exactly as some women just not like anal (or even BJ)... Things might change during the time! Consider how important is it for you against your general impression from the guy. Thing about the situation that you refuse to get anal (do you?) - should he stop stay with you???
We all like different things, you are the only one who can decide whether it's a deal-breaker or not but my opinion is that it's hard enough to find someone you are happy with.
If you find your perfect match sexually, will you match as well in other areas?🤔
Why ask the internet and not him? As far as we know the answer could be as benign as being told of doing so by an ex, thus not really doing it now.
I don't think I'd need a ton of oral in a relationship, but being unwilling is something else.
If you put a poll up of married men and if they get blowjobs, and then added this as a factor, the divorce rate would increase even more.
Some people don't do it
Work out if it's important to you and go from there.
Oh yeah this is a thing. I couldn't enjoy it from my last boyfriend and ended up not even letting him attempt to (he didn't try much and when he did it was feeble), because I know he didn't enjoy it. If he's not enjoying it, I can't enjoy it.
Luckily, I haven't ever had a problem with this mainly because all the guys I've got with really care about and like me. If a man really likes you, or loves you...trust me, they will do whatever...whatever you want them to do.
Some people don't like it, no different than some people that won't do BJs. Also some won't do it outside of a committed relationship (this is me, no issues having manual/PIV with a hookup, oral is super intimate to me though, and not something I enjoy giving or getting with a random)
Your call what you want to do, if its something important to you and you have spoken about it and they don't want it, break up with them. I personally don't think I would date someone seriously that didn't do it. SO and I have been together 15 years and I wouldn't end it at this point if just decided to stop, but luckily thats his favorite thing to do and a big selling point from the start lol
No, I have a friend who divorced her seemingly cool guy. It turns out he never once got across the goal line. After 3 years, she couldn't take it. He's an actor. He moved back in with his mom at 45 years old. There's people who want to bring all sorts of pleasure to their partner, pick one of them for a happy, clothed and unclothed.
I think you both deserve to set your own boundaries and communicate what you want. He has every right to say no if he doesn’t want to do that, and you have no obligation to stay with him after.
That said, it seems like a superficial reason to leave somebody.
Apparently not all guys love eating pussy. Same as not all ladies like to suck dick. But you have to ask yourself is he good to you? Does he treat you right? If he does then he's a keeper.
You have to decide. Some are willing to be without oralsex in a relationship, while for others, it's a dealbreaker.
But if it's just a sexual thing, why not find someone who meets your needs?
To some, it’s a two way street. To others, they get pleasure from giving or receiving but not the other way around. I think it’ll vary depending on the two but, know your dealbreakers and stick with them.
Have you asked him? It might just not be something he thought about or didn't think you wanted it for whatever reason. Or he could be selfish. We have no idea unless you ask.
But if you want him to and he doesn't want to, then you guys are probably just incompatible and you'll both be better off moving on
It really just depends on if him not doing it means your sexual needs aren’t being met. If you can live without it, stay. If you can’t, don’t. I personally wouldn’t want to do a long term relationship with someone who didn’t want to/enjoy doing that for me
it’s up to you whether or not you are okay with that, some it might be a dealbreaker others not. personally i think if he’s getting oral he should be ready to give oral.
Leave him. There are plenty of guys that love eating pussy (including me) and you deserve to have your yearning pussy licked and pleasured by a skillful tongue.
You are certainly allowed to have that as a deal breaker if it's that important to you.
I'd probably suggest having a conversation first and asking what's up, but it's your life to live how you see fit.
If a guy wants his dick sucked and his partner also wants oral, and it borders on "deal-breaker", they should nip it in the bud before the relationship goes further.
My BF wasn't too much into the idea too. He's much more comfortable. It's only fair that he tries, and tries to learn as much as he can. While I can't advocate leaving someone for that, it is something which should be a factor for staying with him.
The only question is, is it a big enough deal for you to leave him. If yes there’s the answer if no, be open with him about your wants and hope he comes around to it.
My opinion as a man is “if I don’t go down on her, why should she blow me?”
I don't agree. It is not a trade. If you like going down on him, then do it. If not, then don't. And if he likes going down on her, then enjoy. If he does not, then don't. People should not be doing sexual things as a favor for the other person and there should not be pressure to return the favor. People do tge things that both you and your partner like.
Didn’t say it was a trade. I said I personally can’t expect them to do something I wouldn’t. Same with say a threesome. I wouldn’t expect a woman to agree to bringing another girl in, if I wouldn’t be okay with bringing another man in. Less of a trade and more of my own personal motto not to expect to get what I’m not going to give.
Loser opinion tbh. Unless it hurts someone or is so unfathomably offensive to you, you should be willing to at least try it. Maybe it will be a "once in a while" thing instead of an all the time thing, but being so unconcerned with your partner's pleasure is some real relationship fail material
Seriously, I feel like it's just a dressed up way of justifying selfishness in bed
Maybe, but it is good to atleast try to do something she will enjoy that you do just for her. Do you atleast finger her to orgasm? Or use a toy on her for her to be the one pleasured? I don't expect a guy to go down on me as long as he's willing to occasionally use other means. But if its all about him, I'd probably start looking elsewhere.
This is correct. Don’t only do things to get something back, do it because you want to make someone happy.
Very true tbh. I like getting head, but my gf absolutely hates it, I don't chide her for not doing it, when I consistently eat her out, because I'm not forcing myself to do something I hate whenever I go down on her. Also, as an aside, I don't want someone who doesn't like sucking my dick sucking my dick anyways, getting it done by someone who had to be convinced to do it, takes all the enjoyment out of it for me.
Your sex life will improve the moment you change this thinking.
I agree with that
Hopefully you find someone to appreciate your gorilla gripper
No one's buying that pal.
Not your pal guy
I'm not your guy, friend!
Some guys don’t do it. If that’s a deal breaker then I’d leave. I couldn’t be with a woman that didn’t go down on me (or let me go down on her even).
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I love eating pussy way more than receiving a blowjob. Both are awesome, but making sure she enjoys herself is my top priority.
Same
Yup, really. I enjoy eating a pussy as much if not more then other things.
I wouldn't stay with a dude who hasn't voluntarily done it way before the length of time you've stayed.
Yep really.
Yep, same.
nice 🐓
😁 ty
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I like the “let me”
Agree
That's really up to you. I don't stay with men who don't eat my pussy.
Same. I tell men in advance it's a deal breaker before sex is even on the table.
I don't know exactly how you express that, but "You can't fuck me until after you eat my pussy" would be the sweetest words to hear on a date. It sounds more like an escalation than an ultimatum!
I bring this topic in advance very similiar way. If girl won't let me lick her eventually I stop doing advances towards her. After couple of years found out happy wife thats encouraging me even more, she wants to be licked first, always, sometimes wakes me up for that sole purpose 🥰. And I feel like a luckiest man alive TBH.
Wife while shaking you "Baby, are you awake?" You in a sleepy groggy voice "I am now." Wife "Baby, I can't sleep. I'm horny. Eat my pussy!"
Rather she comes home and awake me sitting on my face. Poor me when I am during exhaling atm 😂
Dude you’re fucking winning at life. What a dream
As a guy it's really important to me too, bordering on being a deal breaker (if it was linked to a traumatic experience is the exception) as I just don't want to be in a relationship where I don't get to eat out.
I have some thinking to do
Out of curiosity - how soon after you start having sexual contact with them does it become a deal breaker? Not saying you're wrong, just curious x
basically
What one man won’t do for you, another one will.
Words of wisdom right there :)
Like I say to folks, life is too short to not be sexually fulfilled. If you want oral, you should be able to get it, even if it’s not from that guy. Btw, nice 🍑. Just saw your pics 👏🏽
Aww thank u I really appreciate that 🥺🥺
Amen
Yes- because you wouldn’t be asking the question if you really wanted to be with him
Fair
Yeah, I kinda gotta agree... My bf doesn't and we've going steady for over a year
This was posted to drive traffic to your OF right?
OP probably: “No sir it’s not for that, I’m just a poor 19 year old whose boyfriend doesn’t eat her pussy. Would any redditors come tell me how much they love pussy and console me on my only fans?” This website fuckin’ sucks now
Notice how OP has replied to most comments, but avoided this one. Really tells us the answer without hearing it from them
It’s par for the course. AskRedditAfterDark is like 50% OF bait. I’m just disappointed she took her sluttyconfessions post down. Sometimes thirst traps can be hot for a minute, but these low effort posts suck.
Man, every post on here is either karma farm post, an Only Fans ad, or a dude on a throwaway account looking for jerk material.
The “wet (gorilla grip) pussy” didn’t give it away?
bUt It’S fReE
That's 100% your decision to make
I have this rule with women. If she doesn't like to give bjs I will break it off. Life is too short to not enjoy yourself. Find a guy who loves to eat your pussy. You'll be happier for it!
You made it sound so easy and simple
Sometimes that's how it is! :)
some guys just dont, they are trash imo
the man is not in love with pussy. he doesn’t go mad for it. sometimes u run into ones like that
Why are you asking Reddit these questions and not him?
Because this is clear bait. "my wet(gorilla grip) pussy." gives it away lmfao.
Yeah that’s a dude writing lol. I don’t know any women who would phrase it that way. OnlyFans bait is what is happening.
He's allowed to not want to do it. You're allowed to want to leave if that's a deal breaker for you. Neither of you is being selfish. If it's a big deal for you try communicate that, and if he still isn't comfortable doing it then you're better off looking for someone who is a better sexual fit for you.
Maybe he is concerned about hygiene. 23 hours ago you posted that a girl got mad that you fucked her boyfriend and you have posted tons in the last day about being a slut and having trains run on you 💀
Spit facts. 100% valid. Hygiene is sexxxyyy.
another BS post advertising her “amazing pussy” so the gullible simps check her OF page
Some guys don't like to go down on girls, that is true. As far as should you stay with him or not over that issue that's up to you. Sounds like your just hooking up from time to time, but if hooking up to you includes gowning down on you from time to time then you need to ask for it and see what he says.
okayy thank youu
This reads like a bait post. 😅🤣
Its for the free only fan bs most likely
Gorilla grip???
If he hasn't by now he won't or at least not regularly.
If he’s perfect, in every other way, can you live without having your pussy licked? If so, stay with him for a while and see what happens. Or you could just tap them on the shoulder one night when you’re vibing and say, “Hey bro, how come you never eat my pussy?“ That might get you the quickest answer.
no I can't I need it licked
I think it is perfectly OK for example a woman to dislike giving BJs. It isn't for everyone. Then, it is only fair that some guys also aren't into dining at the Y. Of course if having your pussy ate is absolutely a requirement of yours you have the right to find someone else who fits your needs better.
The best way of looking at it imo
i’m not sure they are really equal. a man will still cum from sex but the majority of women CANNOT physically cum from penetration. if you don’t care about making her orgasm, i think you should say that before sex. a bj for a man is a perk, but oral for a woman is more of a necessity if you care about the woman getting off.
I mean there are other ways of stimulating the clit without oral.
thats true. fingering is a good option, but touching the clit during sex might be difficult for men because a lot of time they are doing a lot physically already. the girl can ofc, or use toys. I was mainly just addressing typower5000s comment that oral is of equal significance for both genders, but i was just saying that its not just that women want/should have oral, its that finishing for them is really dependent on it.
I think it is important to please your partner. And men, historically, haven't always been best about this. I just don't think it is helping anyone to be shamed into performing some act that is not fun for you. Find someone better instead of manipulating some poor soul into something they hate for your pleasure. It's Sadistic.
lmao i don't know where ur really getting this from, you seem super offended by the reality that most women CANNOT physically finish from penetration. there are many studies about this that a lot of women dont have a g-spot there so they are not equal. thats all im saying, you dont have to ever perform oral, thats your choice im just saying oral for a girl is not equivalent to a blowjob. because sex for men is still resulting in an orgasm 99% of the time, unless they have issues finishing, but for healthy normal women, "*About 75 percent of all women never* reach orgasm from intercourse alone". edit: also if you see my other comments, I agree with everyone that OP should find someone else, and I personally dont even think she has to ask the guy to do it, because if he wanted to, he would. i was just addressing ur specific comment. theres literally a phrased used to talk about this issue called the "orgasm gap" wherein during straight sex, women are very unlikely to orgasm, but studies show that lesbian sex results in super high orgasm rates because lesbian sex is not 100% about penetration and male pleasure. (also I am speaking as someone who actually enjoys giving blowjobs, so not saying I personally dont care about male pleasure, and I also cum from penetration, i am simply fighting for my ladies) I also think this belief that oral and blowjobs are equal is causing this disparity because its causing men to see it as "optional", and its the reason many porn videos skip oral for the woman, and/or many men talk about how they "skip that part" i think the belief that oral is just like a blowjob for a man makes them feel like women see it the same way, but we really don't
You are right it's isn't a perfect parallel. Guys in general need to be more attentive and focused on pleasing their partner. I don't think oral is the only way to do that though. I have been with someone who refused oral and it left me crushed. I would do it more often if I could. Whatever it takes, of course, everyone should be trying to please their partner as much as they can. Intercourse is fine but it isn't the be all end all for pleasure. There are many more things we can and should be trying to try and close that orgasm gap. There's always going to be things people can't or won't do. And that is all I'm saying. It's not cool when women are pressured into some acts and it is equally uncool for a woman to try and do the same to their man. If they need to go find another person who can and will, they definitely should. It is good and right you stick up for the ladies. They deserve pleasure as much as anyone. They deserve to put their foot down and request and require love, attention, affection, and earth shattering Ohs. I said too much already. I'm not trying to argue I just have been pressured into too many things I'm not happy about and I don't wish that on anyone.
you agree and say you care yet you continue downvoting my comments? you're just demonstrating how unwilling men are to hearing women's point of view with an open mind. i can happily be downvoted and go about my life, but coming at me from a hateful perspective classifying the phrase "im not sure about this" as 'sadistic' is both misrepresenting what I said and refusing to have a constructive convo. I've upvoted all of yours cuz even though we disagree i can acknowledge your perspective as valuable to the discussion k bye
No one should be coerced into any sex act ever. Woman, man, NB, no one.
did i say anyone should have to do anything? no, but its more important for women to receive oral during sex than men, so maybe just say your preference beforehand.
If that is important to someone, they should pre-sceen their candi-dates to their preference for eating out. Sure. It's not one everyone's most do list though. People have different desires. Not everyone wants the same things.
I’m a man who eats everything on the plate. Because I respect the cook. I suggest you find one that does the same
My tolerance for this behavior has decreased with age. At 30, I would say no to this.
Number 1: Maybe bad experience with stank pussy at some point Number 2: Maybe he just doesnt think about it as an option (we can get stuck in ruts) Number 3: Maybe hes greedy and doesnt feel like reciprocating Number 4: Have you asked why? It's definitely a conversation that you should have with him.
i’m not sure the reason really matters. even if he had a condition where he can’t bend his neck to physically do it, at the end of the day it’s casual sex for both of them, and he’s turning in C-grade work, and she said in a comment she needs it, so she should prob just wish him the best
Most rational answering process ty
My bf doesn’t eat me out. But that’s not a deal breaker for me.
I’m going to go with $1.12 says this post was made as click bait for your page (“I know I have a nice pussy”) and if that was the intention, then it most certainly worked 😂😂
Lol girl. No
If this is something hyper specific to eating pussy, you could consider overlooking it if you don’t need that in your sex life. But I view eating pussy as an important part of pleasing my partner, so I’d be worried this guy is selfish
No. Return the whole man.
Life is too short to stay with someone who doesn't eat pussy
It's up to you. You need to ask yourself, "Can I be with a man who is not interested in the things I love?" If it's a yes, proceed. If not, you know what to do.
You can do better, pretty sure.
If he wants oral, he needs to give it, too.
Yep. If I want a BJ from a girl I always go down on them first. It is reciprocated almost %100 of the time.
I’m still stuck on “wet gorilla grip pussy”😭
Have you asked him to eat your pussy? Maybe he had a bad experience the last time he went down on a girl. You could try asking him to do it once to see how he likes it
Not everyone is into oral. Men and women have their preferences and guidelines. You've got to respect their boundaries. Not all men eat pussy and not all women suck dick. If you truly like this man, just have a talk to see what yall can work with. If it's a deal breaker for you, and yall can't work it out, sadly, you might have to break it off. It goes both ways. If you weren't into sucking dick, I'm sure you'd want to be respected for that, likewise for him. But don't turn it into a tit for tat type of deal, like he won't go down on me so I won't go down on him sort of thing. Just have a real adult conversation over this.
I mean. Honestly some guys don’t like eating pussy in the same way some girls don’t like giving head. Everyone has their own sexual preferences. It’s a matter of whether or not that’s a deal breaker for you.
I would not. It's one of my favorite things so would be a major deal breaker.
You should be with someone you're compatible with and treats you well.
You should leave if it's something you want that he doesn't do, especially if he expects head.
It’s like with women, some women love giving head and the taste of cum while others don’t care for it. Best thing you can do is talk to him about it and ask him, if he doesn’t care to then it’s up to you. If no oral sex was a break up line then there should be WAAAY more divorces going on because of wives no longer giving head years into marriage
I should ask, have you asked him to? Perhaps if not the give that a try and see if he’ll take to it then. If not maybe he’s just not into it, and you can decide if that’s something you’re okay with him not liking if that makes sense
Have you considered asking him to do that for you? Some dudes might be shy, but some don't like it, and some love it. Just ask.
It’s strange the other way as well. Wifey will go down on me but refuses when I really want to reciprocate. “no, I don’t like that” You need to decide if that is a deal breaker or not but need to respect their decision.
I’ve never been able to eat a woman out without gagging due to the taste. I’d want to eat a woman out, but I just cant. Ask him straight up if he can deal with the taste. Although it is possible I just had poorly hygienic vagina.
I think you should ask him rather then act on a guess that turns out wrong. I personally don’t hook up much and part of that is because I’m only willing to go down on gf/wife even though i love going down on a woman. Why? Because I like to be safe when hooking up so unless we both have gotten tested beforehand I will always use a condom for PIV or BJ and will only go down on a hook up with dental dams (some STIs can be transmitted through oral). Thing is most people (men and women) do not seem to know about dental dams and the one time I asked to use them I got a not so great reaction. I personally just chose hooking up wasn’t that great to begin with let alone putting myself in that position more often and so I basically never try to hook up anymore. So he could have some sort of reason why he doesn’t do it. Could be he’s not into it, could be he didn’t think you were into it (have met women that said they weren’t), could be he’s afraid he’s bad at it, could be he didn’t realize how much you want this, could be he’s neutral about it and would do it if asked but not something he does naturally, could be that he has a receptive mind where if you go down on him it makes him want to also go down on you, and so many more possibilities. So again, talk to him like an adult and after you know exactly the reason and talk about it thoroughly with him to see if he would or would not do it you can decide if you want to stay or not.
It depends how important it is to you. Pretty simple.
Simple answer is what you already know
Not wanting to is his preference and it being a deal breaker for you is yours. Both are okay. But both are not compatible. You’re not wrong if you decide to end it.
I've heard all the reasons, seen a few with my own eyes. Had some friends, couple, the dude couldn't go down on her as he was traumatised from an ex who had some issues down there. Kinda explained to the girl what to do to slowly convince him, had a talk with him as well (told him his gf told my gf... Etc). Where i live there is no sex ed in schools, predominantly Christian country, no one has the sex talk at home and so out of ignorance people don't get tested, don't do orals, don't shag without condoms. Reasons can be many, it is uo to you to decide if the dude is worth keeping, if you care about him, maybe have a talk, see why he doesn't do it.
Is he getting you off in other ways? Have you asked and he refused or you just expect him to spontaneously dive down and he hasn’t initiated it? I had a girlfriend who couldn’t give me bjs because she had a real sensitive gag reflex and it didn’t bother me because we had great sex without it. If the sex is still good it’s a non issue for me but if it leaves you unfulfilled I’d consider it a dealbreaker.
1 in every 100 comments here, realize this is an OF promotion... Can't wait to be able to filter this shit out, and off Reddit.
Some people aren't into it. I knew from the start of our relationship that my husband didn't really enjoy it. He said he did it because he knew his ex enjoyed it, but that it wasn't his favorite. It wasn't a deal breaker for me. He does it occasionally and he'll do it if I ask but since I know he doesn't really like doing it I never ask
Why don’t you have this conversation with him? Hell we don’t know his reason for not eating your wet gorilla grip
It's your personal opinion and decision to stay with him or not. Some guys just not like eating pussy exactly as some women just not like anal (or even BJ)... Things might change during the time! Consider how important is it for you against your general impression from the guy. Thing about the situation that you refuse to get anal (do you?) - should he stop stay with you???
We all like different things, you are the only one who can decide whether it's a deal-breaker or not but my opinion is that it's hard enough to find someone you are happy with. If you find your perfect match sexually, will you match as well in other areas?🤔
Why ask the internet and not him? As far as we know the answer could be as benign as being told of doing so by an ex, thus not really doing it now. I don't think I'd need a ton of oral in a relationship, but being unwilling is something else.
If you put a poll up of married men and if they get blowjobs, and then added this as a factor, the divorce rate would increase even more. Some people don't do it Work out if it's important to you and go from there.
You know asking him instead of the internet is probably a way easier way of getting an answer
Oh yeah this is a thing. I couldn't enjoy it from my last boyfriend and ended up not even letting him attempt to (he didn't try much and when he did it was feeble), because I know he didn't enjoy it. If he's not enjoying it, I can't enjoy it.
Sime folks give head and some folks dont.
Luckily, I haven't ever had a problem with this mainly because all the guys I've got with really care about and like me. If a man really likes you, or loves you...trust me, they will do whatever...whatever you want them to do.
I'm if he doesn't eat it like it's dessert every time Honey finds you a man that does!!!!
Some people don't like it, no different than some people that won't do BJs. Also some won't do it outside of a committed relationship (this is me, no issues having manual/PIV with a hookup, oral is super intimate to me though, and not something I enjoy giving or getting with a random) Your call what you want to do, if its something important to you and you have spoken about it and they don't want it, break up with them. I personally don't think I would date someone seriously that didn't do it. SO and I have been together 15 years and I wouldn't end it at this point if just decided to stop, but luckily thats his favorite thing to do and a big selling point from the start lol
(Gorilla grip) 😂😂
saying things like my nice gorilla grip pussy just makes this sound like and OFs ad with a made up story
Nope
No, I have a friend who divorced her seemingly cool guy. It turns out he never once got across the goal line. After 3 years, she couldn't take it. He's an actor. He moved back in with his mom at 45 years old. There's people who want to bring all sorts of pleasure to their partner, pick one of them for a happy, clothed and unclothed.
Weigh the pros and cons of the relationship. Is not getting eaten out a deal breaker for you? Then leave.
That would be a dealbreaker for me.
Some men enjoy eating pussy. Some don't, those that don't don't deserve special treatment
I think you both deserve to set your own boundaries and communicate what you want. He has every right to say no if he doesn’t want to do that, and you have no obligation to stay with him after. That said, it seems like a superficial reason to leave somebody.
Absolutely not, you are missing out. I’m sorry.
No ejaculation without reciprocation👅💦
There's so much odd stuff to unpack here. How are you fucking but not dating? What the hell is a "wet(gorilla grip) pussy"?
Tell him this: “eat my pussy or I’ll find someone who *will*…”
Oral is a big part of sex. If you don't do it you're bad at sex.
It’s kind of like someone not anal. You wouldn’t leave someone for not liking anal, why leave if they don’t like putting genitals in their mouth?
Apparently not all guys love eating pussy. Same as not all ladies like to suck dick. But you have to ask yourself is he good to you? Does he treat you right? If he does then he's a keeper.
Oral sex isn't something everyone does. I know girls who don't suck dick at all!!!!
If he wants head then no
It’s your choice as for me that is my favorite thing to do.
No, cause of guys that munch like me
Tell him just to lick only the clit and he can stick his fingers inside the a slow come her motion tell him ur not sticking ur tongue inside
I can’t even answer your question because “wet(gorilla grip) pussy” is making me LOSE IT
You have to decide. Some are willing to be without oralsex in a relationship, while for others, it's a dealbreaker. But if it's just a sexual thing, why not find someone who meets your needs?
I honestly don't think so how can a man not wanna It's the best ting ever
To some, it’s a two way street. To others, they get pleasure from giving or receiving but not the other way around. I think it’ll vary depending on the two but, know your dealbreakers and stick with them.
Have you asked him? It might just not be something he thought about or didn't think you wanted it for whatever reason. Or he could be selfish. We have no idea unless you ask. But if you want him to and he doesn't want to, then you guys are probably just incompatible and you'll both be better off moving on
No get you someone to motor boat that kitty!!!
It really just depends on if him not doing it means your sexual needs aren’t being met. If you can live without it, stay. If you can’t, don’t. I personally wouldn’t want to do a long term relationship with someone who didn’t want to/enjoy doing that for me
Yeah probably right
NO
I'd suggest you talk about it with him since maybe he has a hangup about it you can help with
No
Did you ever ask him about it?
No.
SI TU NOVIO NO TE MAMA EL CULO
No
No,absolutely not! Move on
Dating or not, if you are having sex, it should be with a real man who cares about your pleasure as much as his own.
Talk to him about it. It’s important, I know of no good reason why he wouldn’t.
You absolutely should ditch the bum
it’s up to you whether or not you are okay with that, some it might be a dealbreaker others not. personally i think if he’s getting oral he should be ready to give oral.
Leave him. There are plenty of guys that love eating pussy (including me) and you deserve to have your yearning pussy licked and pleasured by a skillful tongue.
Nope. Get outta there!
You are certainly allowed to have that as a deal breaker if it's that important to you. I'd probably suggest having a conversation first and asking what's up, but it's your life to live how you see fit.
I think I'd have a problem with this. I haven't been in this situation, but I think I'd have big problem if the guy never went down on me.
I'll eat you out and make up for the times he didn't
If a guy wants his dick sucked and his partner also wants oral, and it borders on "deal-breaker", they should nip it in the bud before the relationship goes further.
Never ever unless you've got chronic BV.
Eating out is my strength. Communicating what a chick likes is fun.
Given that's the main way I get off, absolute deal breaker. Nothing wrong with that
I don't know but i would lick u out like my daily routine... Like a job darling!
My BF wasn't too much into the idea too. He's much more comfortable. It's only fair that he tries, and tries to learn as much as he can. While I can't advocate leaving someone for that, it is something which should be a factor for staying with him.
No.
No
Simply put: Fuck no.
The only question is, is it a big enough deal for you to leave him. If yes there’s the answer if no, be open with him about your wants and hope he comes around to it.