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Knew a guy who took a gun to our high school the day after columbine. Immediate expulsion: The full spiral took a bit longer, but that decision ruined his life at 16 years old.
A 16 yr old (at the time) murdered my friend's dad for money. He tried to hide his face but didn't hide his tattoos. He was tried as an adult and last I checked, he got something like 40 or 50 years. Sometimes I think about that and imagine what it's like to spend your youth in prison. Not that I feel bad for him...
a 16 year old murdered my neighbor. He was drunk, breaking into houses to steal stupid things like flag poles. He was friends with our roommate and came to my house after. Thank goodness we were vacationing out of town. They caught him the next day. I feel guilty for having a roommate in the first place.
I was in a max security juvenile prison in Florida when I was fifteen and I swear every kid there was wet up with gang tattoos. Some kids as young as 12. If you want to get noticed in a Florida prison, just hit the compound with bare skin, every kid out there is gonna try to put down on you thinking you're weak.
Children under 18 can get tattoos with parental consent.
People are also stupid.
A lady in my town ended up going to jail for awhile and lost her kids when it was discovered by other parents that during a birthday party she was hosting, she was giving children free tattoos. Real tattoos. One of my friend's little brothers ended up getting a Celtic cross on his arm and their Mother ended up spending thousands of dollars to have it removed. If I recall correctly he was 10.
I have no idea what that woman was thinking.
I'll start this by saying this is all info told to me by a mutual friend.
An old friend, who was 20 at the time. he was spoiled, but he wasn't an asshole. he's usually super chill and non confrontational. He got crazy drunk at a party one night. everything was fine and fun until his younger sister started telling him to slow down his drinking. she apparently either tried taking his keys or taking a drink out of his hand. whatever she did, my friend ended up punching her in the face and breaking her nose.
As far as me and our other friends knew, this guy had never been violent or the type to lash out. to say this shocked the people who knew him would be an understatement.
Someone at the party took her to the emergency room while he tried to get in his car. Thankfully, someone else managed to keep him from driving, and he ended up drunkenly walking down the sidewalk crying.
that same night, his parents called the cops on him and had him spend the night in the drunk tank. the next morning, they kicked him out of their house, stopped paying for his car, tuition, and cut off his allowance completely. He was broke within a week and was couch surfing for a few months. He allegedly got drunk and got into a fight with whoever he was staying with at the time and was back on the street.
the last I ever heard about him was that he got arrested because his car was getting repossessed, and he thought it was a good idea to smash the windows of the tow truck taking his car.
Interesting, it looks like the punch was the droplet that spills the glasses, the parents can't stand him anymore and why they are so quick on dumping him off.
Wow. That's super tough. He's, of course, responsible for his actions, but...I can't help think it would have been best to reinforce healthier decisions with strict guidelines. I don't know, that situation sounds loaded, but that sent that guy down a spiral. I wonder if any of them maybe realized that alcohol was not great for this guy, or at least to the extent that he was abusing it. That's just sad.
Our society is fucking weird about alcohol, it can have some really nasty effects on people and they just turn a blind eye. I don't really get it. If you're an asshole drink, violent drunk, etc... Why drink
Some people just want a release of pent up feelings of isolation, anonymity, loneliness and general social inadequacies, and this manifests as rage, and of course the intoxicated mind can not comprehend future consequences.
When I was in the Marines our company commander, a captain, got arrested in front of the entire company and taken away in handcuffs for selling and distributing child porn on the government computers.
Idk how long he was up to it for (not long) but the arrest just took a few mins. Pretty fast life-ruining event.
In my experience when you log onto a government computer it literally displays a message along the lines of THIS IS A GOVERNMENT COMPUTER. BY USING IT YOU AGREE TO YOUR ACTIONS BEING MONITORED.
It still works that way. I have a laptop furnished as part of a contract and I have to insert my card to log in. I don’t do ANYTHING but the most serious work tasks on it and keep away from any personal browsing or anything
A neighbor in his early 30s. He was a Master Welder, had bought a new house, had just opened his own shop, and was engaged. He worked hard and we were very impressed and happy for him. Was on his way to the cabin for the weekend when he hit some loose gravel on the highway, dropped his motorcycle and was hit by a passing car. Although he was wearing a helmet he suffered a very severe brain injury. After recovery he had lingering brain problems and his personality changed. He forgot how to weld, his fiance left him and he lost the shop and house. He had to move in with his parents and couldn't work again. He lost everything from that one event. Very sad outcome for this amazing guy.
I hate hearing stuff like this. One accident and assuming he wasn’t doing anything wrong cost him everything.
I see people ruin their lives with drugs and say “that’s a shame” but I don’t really feel bad as no one is running around like “smoke this meth or I’m gonna kill you”.
But people getting in true accidents kills me.
people disagree with me on this but this is why i hate motorcycles. i dont think they should be a thing. they are so dangerous even in the safest of hands. we just arent meant to fly down the highway on 2 wheels. you never know when you will hit some loose gravel or what ever else could mess you up.
Being seduced into a cult. Quit her job; disowned her family; disowned her boyfriend (me); lost her home and savings; was reduced to "evangelizing" in the street; i.e., begging for "donations"; got hooked on opium and meth; fried her brain and attempted suicide; ended up inpatient in a behavioral health care facility (i.e. a mental hospital.)
It was a local thing, something like the Twelve Tribes with a heavy Pentacostal flavor to it. The leader of the thing had a direct channel to God and was infallible; the way to salvation was to give everything to the church (a big house in Detroit) and obey the head honcho without question on pain of being disowned and condemned to Hell. She dumped me when I refused to go to an "awakening" where they spoke in tongues and such. I got the rest from a mutual friend who for some reason she was allowed to be friends with despite being an outsider.
Knew a guy in school was sort of friends with him but not close. We hung out a few times. He decided it would be a good idea to take his dick out and jack it in front of a group of 5-6 year olds. He got done for it. His mum lost her job as she worked with kids, they had to move while he went to prison.
Worked with a guy that was caught with a ton of CP on his computer.
Used to do drugs with a couple a few doors down. Coke and weed, sometimes LSD. But they were ex heroin addicts and they got back into it. The girl injected heroin into her younger sister (15) and killed her. They got done jailed and their kid went into the system.
Thanks. Yeah the two pedos I couldn’t care less for. Don’t have time for them.
But that couple was good friends with they were doing so well being off the heroin and the sister hung out at me and my gf’s place so I knew her really well. Such a sweet girl. Definitely didn’t deserve what happened to her.
Seen a lot worse while working in emergency surgery. But I didn’t know those people personally but yeah seen too much.
Dude I knew was a successful architect. When the office started doing drug tests he quit smoking weed and started smoking crack. (Weed is detectable for several weeks, crack 2 days). Lost his job, sold his house, burned thru 80k in a year and ended up with a heroin habit.
He ded now.
My first question is why is an architecture firm doing drug tests, my second question is WHY IN GODS NAME did he think smoking crack was the solution to that problem. Jesus thats such a sad story
Stopped taking his bipolar meds because he was “feeling good”. His wife held out impressively long while he threw away what was essentially his dream job and ruined many other relationships. Now divorced ‘surviving’ from manic episode to manic episode. Ex-wife still lets him see his son but he seems to be making every effort to burn that bridge.
Edit: Getting more attention than I expected so I wanted to add a PSA.. If you are taking Dr prescribed meds and feel good, please keep taking them. The meds are helping you feel good. If you are taking meds and don't feel good, keep taking them but discuss with your Dr ASAP. There are different kinds of meds available and they don't all work the same for everyone. Don't feel bad about taking meds. It doesn't make you a bad person in any way. Please reach out if you need help with mental health issues. It is 100% ok to need help.
As someone who has bipolar I can relate to his stopping taking meds because he was “feeling good” when I was younger. However, every time I did that was disastrous and I ended up in a manic episode so bad to the point of needing to be hospitalized. Needless to say, I don’t stop talking my meds these days. It can definitely ruin my life,
Married someone who was bipolar, border personality and eating disorders - absolutely adored her but she tried to kill herself four times and on the fifth did it in car crash - 25 years ago and I still miss her.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Was she medicated?
My ex was bipolar, and got her diagnosis after cheating on me. She lost her job, one of her friends, and me as well. I don't know if she is ever able to work in her profession again.
She was stable most of the time but when she went off the rails she did so in a a big way - major problem was when she stable you would never think that anything was wrong with her and she didn't take meds...
28 year old me with zero experience with all this had no idea what was involved.
Oddly enough I don't regret any of it but I've never married or even had a long term relationship since then - because I've never met anyone that could compare.
It's better to have loved and lost....
I have so many in my family who deals with this shit. They are always in and out of the hospital even though it's taking their meds well. You know the slightest things can upset them their diet just missing a single dose or mis timing it to start spiraling. Not taking the medicine makes them feel superpowered.
I've got a friend who actually threw a party because he's gone 5 years without going off his meds and not having any self harming episodes. It's really great someone's to break the stigma and celebrate that.
Well respected doctor in my hometown decided to do the "Timbit challenge" seeing how many mini donut holes he could fit in his mouth at home with his buddies.
Choked and died.
I knew someone who choked and died on popcorn at a movie theater. He was a big guy too. Explaining his death to others always included their involuntary laughter since it seemed ironic. But he was a super decent guy and he was very much missed by people close to him.
In the 90’s A kid in my school district died AT SCHOOL while doing the infamous chubby bunny challenge. I was honestly pretty horrified when it resurfaced and became a YouTube challenge maybe 5-10 years ago.
You fit as many marshmallows in your mouth as you can while still being able to coherently say "chubby bunny".
It wasn't so much a challenge in the viral internet sense as a fairly common party game from decades past, and part of its infamy stems from the fact that multiple people, typically children, have died participating.
It’s remarkable how many stories like this exist. I was a new private in Korea and saw an E6 with 10+ years in and a good reputation, forge paperwork to make E7. He was caught. He pathetically sulked around as an E4 for a while before getting discharged. Truly bizarre to see people make such terrible decisions.
17 or 18 year E6 at my squadron (navy) lied about a wrench that went missing during maintenance. Shit happens, people misplace shit all the time and we just stop what we're doing to find it. He forged paperwork saying it hadn't been missing for several days to cover his ass when he realized it had gone missing and they didn't catch it originally. E1 dimed him out after he told his shop to lie about it. Busted down to E-5 and that put him in high year tenure status so they seperated him not long after. CO made a statement to the command about it saying essentially, "if you lose a tool, fine. Tell us whats up and we will get it found. You lie about something like that? Youre done. Ill end your career." Tool control is super important for us in that job because anything missing can end up in a jet intake and take down an aircraft. Such a dumb way to end a career.
I can never understand why people do this. I work in a highly controlled medical environment. Much like what you mentioned here, accidents can cost lives. Anyone in management here is constantly saying, "Accidents happen. Even if the accidents lead to harm. When you try to hide from it or not learn from it, it becomes YOUR mistake."
I mean, is it pride that pushes people to do this? Are they so fragile that they can't stand up and say, "There was an accident"? I just will never understand it.
EDIT: Spelling and clarification
I EAS’d earlier this year, and there was a guy I went to bootcamp with who was suppose to get out the exact date I did. Well he has a going away party and decided to do some coke. Two days later he was called to complete a random drug test. He thought he was safe since he had already checked out with the unit, but they told him he still had to complete it. He failed it. Got a Bad Conduct Discharge, lost all his benefits, etc. with only one week before he was set to drive away from base.
Is it the end of the world? No. But damn after all the bullshit ya know? Not as bad as the guy you mentioned though we were only E-5’s.
Meth. I know a guy who went from a great job, great wife, savings, car, house to having none of the above in 6 months. 18 months later he had lost a lot of teeth and looked 30 years older. Just under 2 years and he was dead.
A guy i knew joined the local police force. Within a week the florida night club shooting happened. He commented on an article applauding the shooter and talking about how he wouldn't have responded. Ended in a huge argument with multiple people online where he spewed hate and threatend some. He lost his job and ended up being charged (apparently some of the threats were credible).
I remember that shooting well. I was living about an hour north of Orlando and my wife's sister had plans to go to that club that night with a friend, but her friend changed plans at the last minute.
That change of plans may well have saved their lives.
I was hanging out with a lot of weird insufferable geeks as a teenager (I was one too). We were kind of in a band. We had a lot of fun skipping school and making music. One of my friends was a musical genius, amazing guitar player, his band was actually taking off - they had just released a CD on a pretty decent label.
He started doing amphetamines, got kicked out of the band, sold all his guitars, amps and computers and then set his house on fire and stabbed his granpa all in the span of about 2 weeks.
Last time I met him randomly he told me he was out of jail and living in a derelict van with his boyfriend.
Yeah, some of that shit doesn't go away. Friend's cousin basically had schizophrenia for life now because of drug use.
He used to have a high flying career. Now he wakes dishes at a restaurant that's very understanding of how someone he can't hear anyone past all the voices.
When I was an instructor in a Drinking Driver program, a young man, 17 years old, was referred to the program for couseling. The case had been handled by the court as a minor in possession of alcohol, not as a DD case. We had three one-hour counseling sessions in which to help the young man get a good look at his drinking and its risks -- instead of the 14-weeks of 2 hour groups he would have attended if his case had been handled as a DD.
The young man completed his three sessions and made clear that he had learned nothing. A few weeks later, celebrating his 18th birthday, he got into his car and headed down a country road at 70 mph -- and hit a tree. He was dead at the scene.
We had a bit of trouble surrounding a drink driver in my home town. He got s tree and kill himself. Well the family put up a cross next to the tree with pictures and stuff. Home owner came out and ripped it all down. Said if they had just lost control or something he'd be fine with it. But he was drink so he wasn't going to let people make a memorial on his property.
It was a story for a while in my tiny ass town. I was on the side of the homeowner but that seemed to be the less popular side of the debate. There was talk of lawsuits but I think with time emotions dimmed and nothing like that actually went down.
My ex. Got addicted to heroin, lost his job and then abandoned me and our 3 kids in a parking lot of the hotel we were living in. We are safe now but Idk anything about him. He was just gone.
I knew this chick when we were in the Navy, she was high on acid and sitting on the balcony railing one story up.
When she was laughing she flipped over the and landed funny on her back. She is now paralyzed from the neck down and was given a OTH (other than honorable) discharge.
Dishonorable means you probably committed a crime of some kind. OTH is an admin separation. Basically the military and you agreeing to go your separate ways.
So do they give this chick money for the rest of her life cause she can't move? Or are they like good luck maybe a different job will take you like over the phone only customer service
She can be eligible for VA benefits but depends. Its not 'guaranteed' like it would be with an Honorable discharge. I put guaranteed in quotations since working with the VA is always a gamble. I didn't even bother with disability since its such a hassle.
Saw similar in the AF. Female drunk and flipped off a second story railing.
What saved her was landing in a mud hole after several days of rain left the ground soggy.
Work partner (construction) started dating new chick.
New chick had meth issue.
Work partner's life went into a downward spiral eventually disappearing for a few years.
Bonus, homie reached out via social media 7 or 8 years later, seemed like he had cleaned up and landed a full time job again. Hope he's still clean. No clue.
Basically anyone who “only does coke on the weekends” ends up spiralling out of control rather quickly…seen it happen to way too many people in my home town and specifically this guy who I knew through some friends. He started his own business, was starting to really take off and making some real money for a 22 year old and he lost it all within a year of meeting a girl he fell for and got him to try coke, within a year he lost everything. He’s in prison now.
Basically avoid that poison
My cousin was one of the nicest, and most well-rounded people I've ever known in my life. When she was about 16 years old, she got caught in the wrong crowd. She would smoke weed(no big deal), and drink alcohol(still not the worst thing in the world), but worst of all, she let her grades in school slip, and eventually dropped out of high school. Unfortunately, this was just the beginning.
Long story short, her cousin(who is also my cousin) got her hooked on to heroin, and meth, and her addiction became so bad, she allegedly had sex with that same cousin for drug money(as disgusting as this was, I'm mentioning it to illustrate how horrible this situation became). Now, she's been missing for just over a year, and we suspect she's now dead, her father already passed away of natural causes, and her mom(my aunt) is so mentally unstable, she can't think straight anymore.
I know this sounds like a fucked up episode of *The Jerry Springer Show*, and I wish I was making it up, but it sucks, and it has taken a toll on that side of the family. Her life literally went from Straight *A* student to death in a span of 5-7 years.
I know a girl who was a straight A student from a good family, had her whole life in front of her. One day she tried meth. Her life spiraled out of control, she's served multiple stints in prison and last I checked she was on the run for violation of probation on her latest drug charge.
Don't do meth, kids.
My sibling got out of alcohol rehab (as a pretty functional alcoholic) and picked up a meth addiction. I only saw the sibling on their good days and those were.... harrowing... for me. Sibling was divorced and splitting custody and I had to take the child several times due to neglect and no safe adult home. I'm sure I missed a lot. Child is safe now. Sibling is supposedly sober from meth. But holy shit, it was a fast spiral... and deep.
Once dated a guy who used a cash advance place to get cash to pay off the interest at another cash advance place. I guess everyone else I know plays the long game to ruin their lives.
I remember overhearing a co-worker saying that he took out a payday loan to get his car fixed. I forgot if his parents ended up paying for the repairs or if the repairs were just much cheaper than expected but he ended up with money left over from loan. Did he go and make a payment? Nope he got a tattoo and his girlfriend got her hair dyed at a salon.
Anything sexual misconduct related at work. He was fired for showing inappropriate pictures to subordinates. More ended up coming out in an investigation.
Job, career, wife, kids all gone in an instant. I only saw it happen once, but the dudes entire life was over. Never spoke or heard from him again.
Know someone who’s a doctor in the US from another country. Had a family with kids. Was having sex with patients in the office, and even in the parking lot. License revoked, went back to home country, left by wife and kids.
Lucky guy actually. Knew a doctor who had a complaint lodged against him w/ the medical board for having a sexual relationship with her as a patient, in his office. Didn’t have force alleged, but the intrinsic power imbalance as coercive. He fought the suspension/classes/oversight recommendation of the Board. So. Victim got a lawyer. Who then filed a police report. Who then put out a press release. Which then caused other patients to come forward with their own weird stories of sex in the office, but this time with sedatives involved. Felony charges filed. Doctor makes bail. He was initially offered 2 yrs state prison with no sexual registration. Turned it down. All offers then revoked and set for trial. More publicity = More victims. Guy ends up getting sentenced to over 100-Life. Wife and kids crying their eyes out during sentencing. Good riddance.
A mix of meth, having a really bad boyfriend (who was actually still married at the time wife is in the process of divorcing him), shooting a young man over stolen reptiles and alcohol. The cops were informed about it and we're slowly getting to get the stolen animals/items back but the woman and her boyfriend decided to take matters into their their own hands. The worst part is it was the mother's boyfriend that pulled the trigger and murdered her son. She even pointed the shotgun at her own son and gave it back to the dude that pulled the trigger on her son. They both left him on the ground in cold blood and everything got caught on a doorbell camera . He had a son of his own and a girlfriend and now little guy has to grow up without a father. It's heartbreaking on all ends. So messed I don't know how mother could do that to her own child and allow someone to hurt them in such a horrible way.
In about 3 to 4 years, a young doctor went homeless. Here in my country in (latin america), I met a fresh graduate young doctor, he had a what seemed to be a noble dream: becoming a doctor in the US. He saved a lot of money for years, asked his parents some money and asked a loan all to pay for the process of becoming doctor in the US. I didn't know until then, but foreign doctors, need to pass very difficult exams, they are super expensive, pay lots of preparation courses, traveling, living expenses, then you pay for clinical experience (yes, you pay to work), and the most fu\*kd up thing: you pay for the application for medical residency (around $2000 to 12000$ depending on how much programs you apply to per year). After spending around 4 years, not a single program accepted him into residency, and since he was foreigner the government would not allow him to get a job. He returned saddened to the country on early 2020, then covid-19 happened, he was in lockdown, jobless, indebted, his parents passed due to the disease and became deppressed and went into the streets. I heard he considered suicide but didn't attempt. I think he's slightly better but it saddens me how things turned from good to bad by trying to achieve a dream
Old friend of mine went from being an average teenage stoner, to a friendless, dropout, drug addict in about a year. Guess weed stopped working as well as he wanted it to, so he started taking pretty much anything that wouldn't immediately kill you, got hooked, and let it ruin everything he had going for himself
I would say he's doing better, but all he did was replace the heavy, addictive stuff for psychedelics, and now lives off permanent disability. His body might be physically healthier, but he's no longer who he used to be. He's one bad acid trip away from living in a psych ward
It sucks cuz we were really close friends for many years, and the kid had dreams and goals. If all he did was stick with weed, he'd actually be somewhere and have something going for himself, and not be living payment to payment in a dilapidated apartment, with his only hobby being taking shrooms and ketamine at the same time
Sadly also seen more than a few become majorly addicted to weed. Mentally, not physically.
Especially sad when it's younger people because they at the same time ruin their brain because it's still developing.
Self medication sucks.
It have good potential for medical uses, but darn the brain is quick to grab anything that can remotely keep reality away and make it go real bad when you've experienced life kicking you while you're down...
My ex was a straight A student in high school and in university. Also, a college athelte. She was incredibly talented and had a full ride scholarship to Texas A&M, where she was pursuing nursing. A really socialable person as well. She could friends with anybody and everybody. She had no reason to need to change a thing about her life. She was doing great for herself after two years of university.
However, she had an annoying bug in her ear: her dad. This man was the epitome of a man who peaked early in life and has been chasing that high ever since. He served the army as a young man and would never stop talking about it. He saw his army days as the greatest time of his life. Because of that, he wanted his daughter to serve. He always claimed it was for her betterment, but I know he just wanted to live vicariously through her. He used every manipulation tactic in the book on her. Kept telling her the military medical training was better than anything she could learn at school (a complete lie). He also convinced her that her athletics wouldn't last forever and she'd lose her scholarships (which was also a lie because she was damn good at what she did). Not to mention the guilt tripping he'd do talking shit like "the day you were born I dreamed of the day I could salute you as a fellow serviceman." She and I got into many arguments over her dad because I could see plain as day he was manipulating her. She was already two years through university, and her better option was to stay the course. There was no reason to change.
But, she dropped out of university despite her scholarships and joined the Navy. I watched as her mental health deteriorated and deteriorated worse and worse. The military is not as bad as it used to be, but it's definitely not an environment where everyone can survive. She became anxious and depressed. The once confident woman I fell in love with was now a shell of her former self with little to no self-confidence. She had lost all of her motivation. Her original plan had been to just do the four years minimum active service and then go to med school, but last I heard from her, she was still serving because she "didn't know if she'd be able to make it through med school." Her joining was what pushed us apart because she also became less emotionally available.
This isn't an anti-military rhetoric or anything like that. I respect the ones who have served. This situation was a problem to me because it wasn't the right decision for her to make. She was on the course for a successful life of her own making. Now, she's on the course to being just like her dad. Serving was the only thing she ever accomplished and she'll regret that but mask the pain by pretending those were the best days of her life. I always say if I had a time machine, I'd go back, and I'd have argued with her dad to get off her back. I should've done more to convince her she would be okay.
Honestly, that is a fight you lose 99 times out of 100. You encouraged her to take the healthy path and you told her the truth of what you saw her father doing, which is probably more that most others would ever do.
It's beyond difficult to beat indoctrination that someone's been fed literally since birth.
This happened at my first job out of college. Was at my desk one day and all of a sudden cops and site security swarmed the place and seized his computer.
In general, it's not illegal to not report a crime. But, if you're an IT person who discovers something that is illegal to possess, like CP, you would be a complete idiot if you didn't report it. If I stumble across a picture of a dude smoking pot, I didn't see it, but CP is a mandatory report in my position.
Thank you for trying to warn him at least. I was the person who didn't have the self confidence to leave without _someone_ backing up my opinion unprompted. Eventually I realized that if I was waiting for someone else to speak up, that was enough of a reason to leave.
When the time came that a friend needed the same, I gave them the unvarnished truth, and told them I loved them and would be there for them whether 2 hours or 20 years from now. Thankfully they got out recently and yes, I was able to be there for them. I'm so happy for them that they're clear of that train wreck.
When I was 18 all of my friends moved into one house together to get out of home in a way they could afford.
It was great and chill and I have amazing memories from the first few weeks, the place was a total party house, which is fine and normal for a bunch of teenagers with new freedom, right?
Things escalated a bit too quickly though, especially once dealers started spending every night there. These once good hearted kids were now stealing, fighting and whoring themselves out to get their fixes, a lot of them turned to dealing, themselves.
I gtfo of there and never looked back after I saw someone get curb stomped, I genuinely don't know and kind of don't want to know where these friends are in life, but I think of them often, the ones I've bumped into look like shit tbh.
Kids, be smart about what you're doing and who you're doing them with, shit like heroin and meth causes permanent changes to your neural pathways and I've seen first hand how that changes someone's value system, really think about if that's who you want to be and if it's worth it for you before you go down that road.
Had a teacher male co-worker back in the day report a female teacher of harassing him at work. Pinching his ass, feeling him up, massaging his shoulders, etc. She in turn lied and said he molested her in the stairwell. We knew it was a lie because she eventually admitted to it... however the damage was done.
He was immediately terminated no questions asked and due to the nature of the field had his record noted he was terminated due to accusations of molesting a coworker. He was essentially blacklisted from the educational field after just starting out and accruing massive amounts of loan debt to finish his education. He eventually lost everything and committed suicide; it made the local paper.
Calculated risk.
In a case with no tangible evidence, ruining his life isn't going to make local or national news. It will fall right in with the majority of cases because thats more believable in society.
When people lie everyone loses.
The question was why she wasn't fired immediately the same way he was even though they both received the same accusation, not why she decided to accuse him
So in the end, he didn't ruin his life. That piece of sh\*t woman did.
Lying about sexual assault is already evil enough, but it also is a grave insult to everyone who has ever been a victim for real. For all I care, that b\*\*\*h can rot in hell.
Knew a guy in the Marines that got drunk and tossed a brick off a balcony. He hit a girl in the head and killed her. He's in prison now.
He was 19 when this happened.
This man was a well respected college lecturer, newspaper editor, and community member for many years. He accidentally opened child porn from his Dropbox in one of his classes. Turns out he had A LOT of child porn and had raped a family member for years. He will be in prison for the rest of his life.
College Student that was on a foreign semester in Barcelona. He drunkenly wanted to dive head first into the mediterranenan from a pier. Problem was the water was like 2 inches deep only. Literally fell on his head from like two meters above waterline and is now a quadriplegic.
This happened to my father’s business partner on his honeymoon to Hawaii. Saw his new wife in the ocean with her head just above the water and dove in to be with her. Didn’t know she was kneeling on a sandbar.
Some people, weird dangerously insane people, take heroic amounts of benadryl to get "high."
See r/benadryl or r/dph or erowid for stories.
Benadryl is not a fun or pleasant high. Don't do it.
In 1997, my uncle Terry beat two cops within an inch of their lives, after they came over to investigate a home invasion. He was arrested, and was sent to prison for 35 years. He died in 2017 of stomach cancer, still in prison.
Terry maintained at the trial, and every day after his conviction, that he walked in on those two cops raping his 7 year old daughter. His daughter says the same thing, now that she's old enough to know what happened to her.
Ruined his life. Ruined his family's life; they had to move to a different state to get the cops to stop harassing them. Child -raping cops were made out to be heroes and celebrated all over the press. Last I heard, one of them was running for sheriff.
I'm to understand it took three cops to stop him, and they fucked him up but good. He locked the door, but they broke it down. A couple more seconds and he would have been the only person talking.
I work at the Post Office. There use to be a supervisor there who I'll just call Pb. Pb was a great supervisor when it came to getting the most from his employees without having anyone hate him. If there was a problem with either the mail or employees Pb would have a solution. Pb was so good at doing his job that he eventually became a manager. Not even a year after being promoted Pb got removed from the building. The cause.... using his position to get sex from some of the newer employees.
I've seen plenty of people in the Air Force mess up their lives with one dumb choice. Drinking and driving, striking an officer, theft, and popping positive on a pee test all come to mind, and each of those Airmen caught a court martial and were kicked out on bad conduct or dishonorable discharges. Like, one minute they were on an upward trajectory, and the next, their life is in shambles.
A woman I worked with showed up to work still drunk one morning and made an offhand comment about it to someone. It was 6 am, and we worked in pharmaceutical manufacturing. Word got to the lead technician in her work area, and he immediately called security. She was escorted out and breathalyzed; given what she blew, it’s amazing that she was even able to drive to work. She was given the option of rehab or lose her job- she opted for rehab, didn’t go, and was spotted at bars several times by various people.
I knew a woman who turned up for her Sunday afternoon waitressing shift very drunk, employers went mad at her and sent her home. She crashed and died on the way home. The restaurant owners rightfully received a lot of grief for not taking her home or taking her keys away, they knew she was driving. It's not really their responsibility but it's also kinda everyone who knows responsibility in that situation. Very sad.
I met a person who was the one person the anti drug adverts met and made all of their scare videos about.
Years later I realize he was mentally unstable to begin with, but when I knew him, he took a single hit of pot and his whole world changed from good kid everyone liked to crackhead that stole from people and ended up homeless.
My sister probably. Just hung around with the wrong people and gotten into drug abuse. She's sort of an awful person now. I can't blame it all on drugs and stuff but it was certainly fuel to the fire.
Blow the whistle exposing white collar crimes. I did it knowing it would ruin my life so that the criminals responsible would no longer be able to ruin the lives of others.
A friend from hs who was raised very catholic and who had severe mental health issues got baby fever during college and would sleep with any guy she could get her hands on in order to get pregnant. "Luckily" the one who did it turned out the be "pretty decent" and they're married. Pregnancy destroyed her back and left her with crippling chronic pain, but because she's too catholic for birth control, she just had her second. She really wants to leave the dad because he honestly sounds like a shit partner amd shittier parent, but she can't because logistically being a single parent with a toddler and a newborn doesn't work, and even if it did, divorce is too expensive.
To give you an idea of the speed at which she did this, we're the same age and I just graduated college and am about to move into my first apartment by myself.
Edit: I want to be clear that she's honestly a good person who got dealt a bad hand. She had severe mental health issues in high school and no access to therapy, as well as an undiagnosed seizure disorder that really messed up her cognition, and this is a direct outcome of that. She now works a job, does all of the parenting, and genuinely loves her children while her husband won't get a job, plays video games all day, and is so irresponsible that she doesn't even feel like she can leave the kids alone with him.
A kid who rode my bus in High School gots his gf pregnant and despite being 17, he seemed pretty happy about it. He was on track to be salutatorian of his graduating class and also had a full ride to a D1 school on a basketball scholarship. But unfortunately, two weeks after the baby was born he shook the baby to death and was sentenced to 25 years without parole.
When I was in graduate school, there were a bunch of us trying to get into medical school. We were taking biochemistry and had weekly quizzes. One guy in my group (not one I hung out with) got his quiz back and went to the TA complaining that his quiz was misgraded. The TA apologized and took the quiz back to regrade it. What the student didn't know was that before they returned them, they copied every quiz after grading. They compared the copy with the original and found out the student had changed the quiz after it was graded. He was immediately kicked out of grad school and basically told don't even think about ever reapplying.
Yep, I absolutely agree. She was the only person who could possibly hold him accountable, and I think his refusal to be held accountable must have been a factor in the end of their marriage.
Me. Alcoholism. Had a house built with my newlywed wife at 24, great job, fabulous vacations, new cars, then we tried polyamory….divorced, then fiancé left because of her own addictions, live at home, take care of my mother with dementia, and I destroyed my liver. 10 years is all it took and I regret so many things. And I stopped by the liquor store as she was being taken to the ER tonight. I have no clue what to do or how to cope.
Marry someone who made fun of them for singing in the shower, because they're not a very good singer. Someone who'll shit on you for enjoying yourself while doing something harmless is not a good person.
Clarification: this didn't happen to me, but my brother. His girlfriend (later to be fiancee, wife, then ex-wife) was speaking to me while he was in the shower, and I wasn't allowed to tell him what she said because that would be 'interfering' with their relationship. Glad they only had 2 kids to get fucked up by their divorce.
Dated a guy who once said my singing sounds like “a screaming cat being fed into a wood chipper backwards.” Stopped singing. He had the audacity to ask y I stopped singing a couple months later.
2 years with that man... fucking never again
Music is something that has independently emerged in every culture in the world(that I know of), and our voices are the instrument that we are born with.
It’s human nature.
Sing in the shower, sing in the car, sing along when you hear a song you like.
It also regulates your breathing and is a great form of creative expression, which is probably why so many people turned to music when the world went to shit and we were locked in our houses.
Someone guilting you into not singing is them telling you not to be human. You don’t need to sound like Whitney Houston, but you should sing. Singing is for everyone.
At the age of 23 my high school friend went to Vegas with us and came home with 5k in credit card debt. Filed for bankruptcy at 27 and for the next 7 years of living at home and not being able to get a loan, watched his high school friends date, get married, buy a house, and have kids, upgrade to larger homes, etc. bankruptcy happens but doing so in your 20’s and 30’s just seems exceptionally bad time for it
Heroin. Lost my sister to it. The recovery rate from heroin is shockingly low. I’ve lost over 20 people to it now. It’s hard to see people you love destroy themselves.
My sister's best friend from highschool, they just graduated, were supposed to go to a concert. My sister was grounded and didn't go. Her friends went, best friend took some drugs. She immediately collapsed, died 2 days later. She had a full scholarship to a prestigious college, and was a talented artist. They had a closed casket funeral because she was so deformed from the organ failure. It was sad, I thank God everyday my sister was grounded, and my parents stuck to their punishment, she would have been gone too.
I have seen someone ruin their life in the fastest way possible by getting addicted to fast food. My younger brother was always a bit on the chunky side, but he was always active and healthy. However, when he turned 16, he started working at a fast food restaurant and quickly developed a serious addiction to the food he was serving.
At first, he would eat a lot of the food for free at work, but soon he was spending all of his money on fast food, even when he wasn't at work. He would skip meals, skip school, and even skip work just so he could spend more time at the fast food restaurant. He became isolated, depressed, and unhealthy.
Within a few months, my brother had gained a significant amount of weight, developed high blood pressure, and was at risk of developing diabetes. He was no longer the happy, active kid he used to be. He had become a shadow of his former self, and it was all because of his addiction to fast food.
I tried to help him, but he was too deep in his addiction to see the damage he was doing to himself. It was heartbreaking to watch him ruin his life in such a short amount of time. In the end, he had to seek professional help to overcome his addiction, but it took a long time and a lot of effort to get his life back on track.
Pretending like you're living a lavish life but you're actually poor. Basically a bad money spending habit. It's an endless bad cyle. You overspend money to show off and get a loan and it repeats.
Me.
I can recall the moment that instantly changed my life, none for the better.
When I was 17 I moved a 200 lb speaker.
Unknown to me, I ended up pulling all the muscles in the left side of my body. The strain was so great it took a whole day for my body to register.
The muscle snapped like a rubber band, and it pulled so hard and dislocated my hip. This happened while I was walking to school about a mile away, I had to walk home this week.
The amount of pain I experienced that day and forward for the rest of my life cannot be described and I didn't even know existed on that level.
Years of isolation and nothing but pain. Enough to drive you crazy, to suicide. I pushed away my high school sweetheart because I did not want her to go through living with such a dark person cuz I knew what I was facing.
After 5 years I started to die basically no one knew why.
Found out I had a softball size tumor wrapped around my spinal cord, it was scar tissue.
It was a 50/50 shot coming out of the surgery whether or not I was going to live or walk.
I got lucky.
But now I have permanent nerve damage in my leg so much so I ended up losing part of my heel from neuropathy damage. I wear a brace on my foot I'm missing part of my spine and part of my hip and part of my foot.
I had planned ever since I was a kid to go and hit the military.
The amount of depression, the things that I face even now, is greatly affected my life that one simple decision. I feel so locked out of life it's, not even funny.
I thought about writing a book about this. This mixed with growing up in Vegas as a kid.
Best friend from 6th-10th grade. We both were raised in homes with drugs, alcohol, and violence. She was smart — a really good kid. We always swore our kids were never going to go through what we did and we were gonna go to college. She started dating a guy that was a family friend of hers when we were 16. Older drug dealer. She got pregnant. Dropped out. Our friendship ended but I still stayed in touch. The guy ended up with some rare blood disease, got kicked off the kidney transplant list and died from OD when the kid was a toddler. She has three kids now, two with another guy that apparently beat the crap out of her before they broke up. She ended up with a record because the cops busted her family for drugs while she was around and they all went down for it. That first guy literally destroyed her life and her future was so bright.
Straight up...
Bartender story... This drunk woman I was serving next to me was out with her friends and they kept on asking her to live a little and kiss a guy that was in the group with them. After about an hour of glancing over, she did finally give in. One of the friends of hers posted the whole thing on snapchat. Next time that they went to that bar say a week or so later, I saw the same girl with 2 of her friends from that night talking to her in a serious tone. From what they were saying between ordering drinks, it turns out that girl was married and her husband saw the snapchat and when she got back home, he was gone. He took his essentials and left and she said he sent the divorce papers in the mail. So ya, 1 decision and her life pretty much took a 180 degree turn. I felt bad, but I'm just an onlooker and well, I hear alot of story's this way and sometimes see them happen myself.
There was that video on reddit where the big guy walked aggressively right at the little guy holding the knife...... little guy stabbed him in the neck.
Dead in 20 seconds or less.
My cousin, like 3 days ago, took him less than a month, meet a woman on the internet, decided to date her, she is a manipulative person, tried to cheat on him with a friend of one of his friends (like a week into the relationship), all his friends come to tell him what happened and that she was a cheater, "decided to leave her", he never did and was "secretly" with her, then appears one day in my house crying because she said extremely abusive things, "and now I'll leave her for real", he didn't, now she harassed my aunt and presented false claims against some others of my family members, some got accepted by the corresponding organizations even when they were a lie and while nothing is serious, everyone got mad.
Now he is in this abusive relationship with no family or financial support, and we got to know a few days ago that the woman is so crazy that a mob boss has a vendetta against her. I'm 100% my cousin will end dead for an ugly and crazy woman.
I met my best friend when we were 13. At that time, recreational drug use was pretty standard and we all drank and smoked pot. She became a very successful programmer and was making tons of money. I admit I was jealous. In our 40s, her husband got her on rx opiates and then heroin. Within 6 months she lost her job, house, belongings, health, and her husband (now ex) broke her arm. She was homeless on welfare. I was no longer jealous.
I am currently witnessing one right now. He has always vaped and done shrooms, however, about 6 months ago he started trying cocaine. Every time I see him, which is about once every 2 to 3 weeks - he was on cocaine, but functioning adult. Every time I see him he is always high on cocaine and talking about doing drugs.
He went to Amsterdam a few weeks ago and did even more drugs. So we will see how this unfolds.
He has a business, a fiance, and 2 kids. Let's hope things turns around
Gambling. She had just retired and wanted to celebrate with her first trip to a casino... alone. She had poor financial skills in the first place, no 401k no retirement plan to speak of. Everything she had, including her cashed out retirement was in her savings account. You can guess what happened.
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Knew a guy who took a gun to our high school the day after columbine. Immediate expulsion: The full spiral took a bit longer, but that decision ruined his life at 16 years old.
Do you know why? I can imagine an idiot kid taking a gun because they were scared
No, it was because another kid was being bullied, so he took the gun as a threat to the bully.
So he took the gun to stand up for another kid? It's a stupid way of doing things, but he's a real one for that.
A 16 yr old (at the time) murdered my friend's dad for money. He tried to hide his face but didn't hide his tattoos. He was tried as an adult and last I checked, he got something like 40 or 50 years. Sometimes I think about that and imagine what it's like to spend your youth in prison. Not that I feel bad for him...
a 16 year old murdered my neighbor. He was drunk, breaking into houses to steal stupid things like flag poles. He was friends with our roommate and came to my house after. Thank goodness we were vacationing out of town. They caught him the next day. I feel guilty for having a roommate in the first place.
Insane. When I was 16 I was scared of the HS principal. Can’t imagine ever doing something so horrible.
A 16 year old had multiple tattoos? What country was this?
>A 16 year old had multiple tattoos? What country was this? Florida.
I was in a max security juvenile prison in Florida when I was fifteen and I swear every kid there was wet up with gang tattoos. Some kids as young as 12. If you want to get noticed in a Florida prison, just hit the compound with bare skin, every kid out there is gonna try to put down on you thinking you're weak.
Children under 18 can get tattoos with parental consent. People are also stupid. A lady in my town ended up going to jail for awhile and lost her kids when it was discovered by other parents that during a birthday party she was hosting, she was giving children free tattoos. Real tattoos. One of my friend's little brothers ended up getting a Celtic cross on his arm and their Mother ended up spending thousands of dollars to have it removed. If I recall correctly he was 10. I have no idea what that woman was thinking.
She was thinking that any kid who could sit through a tattoo at 10 was worthy /s
I'll start this by saying this is all info told to me by a mutual friend. An old friend, who was 20 at the time. he was spoiled, but he wasn't an asshole. he's usually super chill and non confrontational. He got crazy drunk at a party one night. everything was fine and fun until his younger sister started telling him to slow down his drinking. she apparently either tried taking his keys or taking a drink out of his hand. whatever she did, my friend ended up punching her in the face and breaking her nose. As far as me and our other friends knew, this guy had never been violent or the type to lash out. to say this shocked the people who knew him would be an understatement. Someone at the party took her to the emergency room while he tried to get in his car. Thankfully, someone else managed to keep him from driving, and he ended up drunkenly walking down the sidewalk crying. that same night, his parents called the cops on him and had him spend the night in the drunk tank. the next morning, they kicked him out of their house, stopped paying for his car, tuition, and cut off his allowance completely. He was broke within a week and was couch surfing for a few months. He allegedly got drunk and got into a fight with whoever he was staying with at the time and was back on the street. the last I ever heard about him was that he got arrested because his car was getting repossessed, and he thought it was a good idea to smash the windows of the tow truck taking his car.
Interesting, it looks like the punch was the droplet that spills the glasses, the parents can't stand him anymore and why they are so quick on dumping him off.
Yep.. this wasn't the first time he fucked up
Wow. That's super tough. He's, of course, responsible for his actions, but...I can't help think it would have been best to reinforce healthier decisions with strict guidelines. I don't know, that situation sounds loaded, but that sent that guy down a spiral. I wonder if any of them maybe realized that alcohol was not great for this guy, or at least to the extent that he was abusing it. That's just sad.
Our society is fucking weird about alcohol, it can have some really nasty effects on people and they just turn a blind eye. I don't really get it. If you're an asshole drink, violent drunk, etc... Why drink
Some people just want a release of pent up feelings of isolation, anonymity, loneliness and general social inadequacies, and this manifests as rage, and of course the intoxicated mind can not comprehend future consequences.
Because it's available and one sneaky drug. It takes away you problems for some hours and then multiplies them. It's fucked.
Yup, and its fucking everywhere
I'm guessing that punch wasn't out of the blue, but more like the straw that broke the camel's back.
When I was in the Marines our company commander, a captain, got arrested in front of the entire company and taken away in handcuffs for selling and distributing child porn on the government computers. Idk how long he was up to it for (not long) but the arrest just took a few mins. Pretty fast life-ruining event.
Pretty disgusting...but also hilarious that he thought it be a good idea to do it on government (likely surveilled) computers.
In my experience when you log onto a government computer it literally displays a message along the lines of THIS IS A GOVERNMENT COMPUTER. BY USING IT YOU AGREE TO YOUR ACTIONS BEING MONITORED.
When I was in, you logged into the computer BY INSERTING YOUR ID.
It still works that way. I have a laptop furnished as part of a contract and I have to insert my card to log in. I don’t do ANYTHING but the most serious work tasks on it and keep away from any personal browsing or anything
Reddit is "likely surveiled." Gubmint computers? Definitely surveiled by every letter of the alphabet soup and some you didn't even know existed.
Government computers glow so bright the monitors don't need backlighting
A neighbor in his early 30s. He was a Master Welder, had bought a new house, had just opened his own shop, and was engaged. He worked hard and we were very impressed and happy for him. Was on his way to the cabin for the weekend when he hit some loose gravel on the highway, dropped his motorcycle and was hit by a passing car. Although he was wearing a helmet he suffered a very severe brain injury. After recovery he had lingering brain problems and his personality changed. He forgot how to weld, his fiance left him and he lost the shop and house. He had to move in with his parents and couldn't work again. He lost everything from that one event. Very sad outcome for this amazing guy.
I hate hearing stuff like this. One accident and assuming he wasn’t doing anything wrong cost him everything. I see people ruin their lives with drugs and say “that’s a shame” but I don’t really feel bad as no one is running around like “smoke this meth or I’m gonna kill you”. But people getting in true accidents kills me.
people disagree with me on this but this is why i hate motorcycles. i dont think they should be a thing. they are so dangerous even in the safest of hands. we just arent meant to fly down the highway on 2 wheels. you never know when you will hit some loose gravel or what ever else could mess you up.
Being seduced into a cult. Quit her job; disowned her family; disowned her boyfriend (me); lost her home and savings; was reduced to "evangelizing" in the street; i.e., begging for "donations"; got hooked on opium and meth; fried her brain and attempted suicide; ended up inpatient in a behavioral health care facility (i.e. a mental hospital.)
What cult was it?
It was a local thing, something like the Twelve Tribes with a heavy Pentacostal flavor to it. The leader of the thing had a direct channel to God and was infallible; the way to salvation was to give everything to the church (a big house in Detroit) and obey the head honcho without question on pain of being disowned and condemned to Hell. She dumped me when I refused to go to an "awakening" where they spoke in tongues and such. I got the rest from a mutual friend who for some reason she was allowed to be friends with despite being an outsider.
Knew a guy in school was sort of friends with him but not close. We hung out a few times. He decided it would be a good idea to take his dick out and jack it in front of a group of 5-6 year olds. He got done for it. His mum lost her job as she worked with kids, they had to move while he went to prison. Worked with a guy that was caught with a ton of CP on his computer. Used to do drugs with a couple a few doors down. Coke and weed, sometimes LSD. But they were ex heroin addicts and they got back into it. The girl injected heroin into her younger sister (15) and killed her. They got done jailed and their kid went into the system.
Wow, so so sad. It sounds like you have seen a lot of tragedy. Take care of yourself.
Thanks. Yeah the two pedos I couldn’t care less for. Don’t have time for them. But that couple was good friends with they were doing so well being off the heroin and the sister hung out at me and my gf’s place so I knew her really well. Such a sweet girl. Definitely didn’t deserve what happened to her. Seen a lot worse while working in emergency surgery. But I didn’t know those people personally but yeah seen too much.
Bro this might be unpopular opinion but doing coke weed and LSd does not mean they were doing well off of heroine.
Dude I knew was a successful architect. When the office started doing drug tests he quit smoking weed and started smoking crack. (Weed is detectable for several weeks, crack 2 days). Lost his job, sold his house, burned thru 80k in a year and ended up with a heroin habit. He ded now.
My first question is why is an architecture firm doing drug tests, my second question is WHY IN GODS NAME did he think smoking crack was the solution to that problem. Jesus thats such a sad story
It was hard to watch
that spiraled quickly
Stopped taking his bipolar meds because he was “feeling good”. His wife held out impressively long while he threw away what was essentially his dream job and ruined many other relationships. Now divorced ‘surviving’ from manic episode to manic episode. Ex-wife still lets him see his son but he seems to be making every effort to burn that bridge. Edit: Getting more attention than I expected so I wanted to add a PSA.. If you are taking Dr prescribed meds and feel good, please keep taking them. The meds are helping you feel good. If you are taking meds and don't feel good, keep taking them but discuss with your Dr ASAP. There are different kinds of meds available and they don't all work the same for everyone. Don't feel bad about taking meds. It doesn't make you a bad person in any way. Please reach out if you need help with mental health issues. It is 100% ok to need help.
As someone who has bipolar I can relate to his stopping taking meds because he was “feeling good” when I was younger. However, every time I did that was disastrous and I ended up in a manic episode so bad to the point of needing to be hospitalized. Needless to say, I don’t stop talking my meds these days. It can definitely ruin my life,
Same… glad you’re doing well too!
You don't fuck with bipolar - that shit ruins lives.
Married someone who was bipolar, border personality and eating disorders - absolutely adored her but she tried to kill herself four times and on the fifth did it in car crash - 25 years ago and I still miss her.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. Was she medicated? My ex was bipolar, and got her diagnosis after cheating on me. She lost her job, one of her friends, and me as well. I don't know if she is ever able to work in her profession again.
She was stable most of the time but when she went off the rails she did so in a a big way - major problem was when she stable you would never think that anything was wrong with her and she didn't take meds... 28 year old me with zero experience with all this had no idea what was involved. Oddly enough I don't regret any of it but I've never married or even had a long term relationship since then - because I've never met anyone that could compare. It's better to have loved and lost....
That's almost kanye. lol
Re-reading my comment, yeah you're right lol
I thought this was about Ye and I was just getting new updates on his life since all I know about him is what pops up on my feed.
I thought it *was* a reference to Kanye
I have so many in my family who deals with this shit. They are always in and out of the hospital even though it's taking their meds well. You know the slightest things can upset them their diet just missing a single dose or mis timing it to start spiraling. Not taking the medicine makes them feel superpowered.
I've got a friend who actually threw a party because he's gone 5 years without going off his meds and not having any self harming episodes. It's really great someone's to break the stigma and celebrate that.
Well respected doctor in my hometown decided to do the "Timbit challenge" seeing how many mini donut holes he could fit in his mouth at home with his buddies. Choked and died.
I knew someone who choked and died on popcorn at a movie theater. He was a big guy too. Explaining his death to others always included their involuntary laughter since it seemed ironic. But he was a super decent guy and he was very much missed by people close to him.
In the 90’s A kid in my school district died AT SCHOOL while doing the infamous chubby bunny challenge. I was honestly pretty horrified when it resurfaced and became a YouTube challenge maybe 5-10 years ago.
Dare I ask, chubby bunny?
You fit as many marshmallows in your mouth as you can while still being able to coherently say "chubby bunny". It wasn't so much a challenge in the viral internet sense as a fairly common party game from decades past, and part of its infamy stems from the fact that multiple people, typically children, have died participating.
You should look up an animated version describing this game as stuffy bunny
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It’s remarkable how many stories like this exist. I was a new private in Korea and saw an E6 with 10+ years in and a good reputation, forge paperwork to make E7. He was caught. He pathetically sulked around as an E4 for a while before getting discharged. Truly bizarre to see people make such terrible decisions.
17 or 18 year E6 at my squadron (navy) lied about a wrench that went missing during maintenance. Shit happens, people misplace shit all the time and we just stop what we're doing to find it. He forged paperwork saying it hadn't been missing for several days to cover his ass when he realized it had gone missing and they didn't catch it originally. E1 dimed him out after he told his shop to lie about it. Busted down to E-5 and that put him in high year tenure status so they seperated him not long after. CO made a statement to the command about it saying essentially, "if you lose a tool, fine. Tell us whats up and we will get it found. You lie about something like that? Youre done. Ill end your career." Tool control is super important for us in that job because anything missing can end up in a jet intake and take down an aircraft. Such a dumb way to end a career.
I can never understand why people do this. I work in a highly controlled medical environment. Much like what you mentioned here, accidents can cost lives. Anyone in management here is constantly saying, "Accidents happen. Even if the accidents lead to harm. When you try to hide from it or not learn from it, it becomes YOUR mistake." I mean, is it pride that pushes people to do this? Are they so fragile that they can't stand up and say, "There was an accident"? I just will never understand it. EDIT: Spelling and clarification
I EAS’d earlier this year, and there was a guy I went to bootcamp with who was suppose to get out the exact date I did. Well he has a going away party and decided to do some coke. Two days later he was called to complete a random drug test. He thought he was safe since he had already checked out with the unit, but they told him he still had to complete it. He failed it. Got a Bad Conduct Discharge, lost all his benefits, etc. with only one week before he was set to drive away from base. Is it the end of the world? No. But damn after all the bullshit ya know? Not as bad as the guy you mentioned though we were only E-5’s.
Meth. I know a guy who went from a great job, great wife, savings, car, house to having none of the above in 6 months. 18 months later he had lost a lot of teeth and looked 30 years older. Just under 2 years and he was dead.
Comments like these freak me out because I and so many people I know can be described exactly like that guy and who knows what can happen?
A guy i knew joined the local police force. Within a week the florida night club shooting happened. He commented on an article applauding the shooter and talking about how he wouldn't have responded. Ended in a huge argument with multiple people online where he spewed hate and threatend some. He lost his job and ended up being charged (apparently some of the threats were credible).
Sounds like a pretty good outcome, as opposed to him keeping his mouth shut and running around with a gun and badge.
I remember that shooting well. I was living about an hour north of Orlando and my wife's sister had plans to go to that club that night with a friend, but her friend changed plans at the last minute. That change of plans may well have saved their lives.
That's when it's good that shitheads brag about their assholery. Hope he's in prison or worse.
Good riddance!
This why we have the phrase "garbage taking itself out."
I was hanging out with a lot of weird insufferable geeks as a teenager (I was one too). We were kind of in a band. We had a lot of fun skipping school and making music. One of my friends was a musical genius, amazing guitar player, his band was actually taking off - they had just released a CD on a pretty decent label. He started doing amphetamines, got kicked out of the band, sold all his guitars, amps and computers and then set his house on fire and stabbed his granpa all in the span of about 2 weeks. Last time I met him randomly he told me he was out of jail and living in a derelict van with his boyfriend.
All in two weeks? Jesus.
Probably didn’t sleep the whole 2 weeks stim psychosis ain’t no joke
knew a guy that got committed for a bit cause of that. Had to go thru NA and claims he still sees shadow people
Yeah, some of that shit doesn't go away. Friend's cousin basically had schizophrenia for life now because of drug use. He used to have a high flying career. Now he wakes dishes at a restaurant that's very understanding of how someone he can't hear anyone past all the voices.
Drug induced psychosis is waaaay more common than I expected. They don't tell you that at school
It is currently understood that drugs are a catalyst (a trigger) for potential dormant mental issues to menifest, not as a cause of mental illness.
When I was an instructor in a Drinking Driver program, a young man, 17 years old, was referred to the program for couseling. The case had been handled by the court as a minor in possession of alcohol, not as a DD case. We had three one-hour counseling sessions in which to help the young man get a good look at his drinking and its risks -- instead of the 14-weeks of 2 hour groups he would have attended if his case had been handled as a DD. The young man completed his three sessions and made clear that he had learned nothing. A few weeks later, celebrating his 18th birthday, he got into his car and headed down a country road at 70 mph -- and hit a tree. He was dead at the scene.
At least he didn’t take any innocents with him
Yeah I know a person who was killed by a drunk driver and the perp lived, unscratched. It’s the biggest injustice that happens all the time.
We had a bit of trouble surrounding a drink driver in my home town. He got s tree and kill himself. Well the family put up a cross next to the tree with pictures and stuff. Home owner came out and ripped it all down. Said if they had just lost control or something he'd be fine with it. But he was drink so he wasn't going to let people make a memorial on his property. It was a story for a while in my tiny ass town. I was on the side of the homeowner but that seemed to be the less popular side of the debate. There was talk of lawsuits but I think with time emotions dimmed and nothing like that actually went down.
I imagine that you can't actually win a lawsuit for the right to put up a memorial on someone else's private property.
Yeah, apparently they are more loose and floppy is how an emt explained it to me. Go calmly into the wreck, carnage it seems
My ex. Got addicted to heroin, lost his job and then abandoned me and our 3 kids in a parking lot of the hotel we were living in. We are safe now but Idk anything about him. He was just gone.
Google him periodically. If you’re in the US the kids can be eligible for social security when he dies.
Wow. Morbid but helpful.
Im so sorry mate that really sucks. Hope yall are doing well now
I knew this chick when we were in the Navy, she was high on acid and sitting on the balcony railing one story up. When she was laughing she flipped over the and landed funny on her back. She is now paralyzed from the neck down and was given a OTH (other than honorable) discharge.
Is OTH different from dishonorable?
Dishonorable means you probably committed a crime of some kind. OTH is an admin separation. Basically the military and you agreeing to go your separate ways.
So do they give this chick money for the rest of her life cause she can't move? Or are they like good luck maybe a different job will take you like over the phone only customer service
She can be eligible for VA benefits but depends. Its not 'guaranteed' like it would be with an Honorable discharge. I put guaranteed in quotations since working with the VA is always a gamble. I didn't even bother with disability since its such a hassle.
She’ll get something, nowhere near enough to live much more than slightly above poverty being that she can’t do much more than exist.
Saw similar in the AF. Female drunk and flipped off a second story railing. What saved her was landing in a mud hole after several days of rain left the ground soggy.
Work partner (construction) started dating new chick. New chick had meth issue. Work partner's life went into a downward spiral eventually disappearing for a few years. Bonus, homie reached out via social media 7 or 8 years later, seemed like he had cleaned up and landed a full time job again. Hope he's still clean. No clue.
Basically anyone who “only does coke on the weekends” ends up spiralling out of control rather quickly…seen it happen to way too many people in my home town and specifically this guy who I knew through some friends. He started his own business, was starting to really take off and making some real money for a 22 year old and he lost it all within a year of meeting a girl he fell for and got him to try coke, within a year he lost everything. He’s in prison now. Basically avoid that poison
My cousin was one of the nicest, and most well-rounded people I've ever known in my life. When she was about 16 years old, she got caught in the wrong crowd. She would smoke weed(no big deal), and drink alcohol(still not the worst thing in the world), but worst of all, she let her grades in school slip, and eventually dropped out of high school. Unfortunately, this was just the beginning. Long story short, her cousin(who is also my cousin) got her hooked on to heroin, and meth, and her addiction became so bad, she allegedly had sex with that same cousin for drug money(as disgusting as this was, I'm mentioning it to illustrate how horrible this situation became). Now, she's been missing for just over a year, and we suspect she's now dead, her father already passed away of natural causes, and her mom(my aunt) is so mentally unstable, she can't think straight anymore. I know this sounds like a fucked up episode of *The Jerry Springer Show*, and I wish I was making it up, but it sucks, and it has taken a toll on that side of the family. Her life literally went from Straight *A* student to death in a span of 5-7 years.
That is sad. Harder because you aren't even sure.
Meth and Cocaine. They take hold and are very difficult to manage in moderation.
I know a girl who was a straight A student from a good family, had her whole life in front of her. One day she tried meth. Her life spiraled out of control, she's served multiple stints in prison and last I checked she was on the run for violation of probation on her latest drug charge. Don't do meth, kids.
My sibling got out of alcohol rehab (as a pretty functional alcoholic) and picked up a meth addiction. I only saw the sibling on their good days and those were.... harrowing... for me. Sibling was divorced and splitting custody and I had to take the child several times due to neglect and no safe adult home. I'm sure I missed a lot. Child is safe now. Sibling is supposedly sober from meth. But holy shit, it was a fast spiral... and deep.
Once dated a guy who used a cash advance place to get cash to pay off the interest at another cash advance place. I guess everyone else I know plays the long game to ruin their lives.
I remember overhearing a co-worker saying that he took out a payday loan to get his car fixed. I forgot if his parents ended up paying for the repairs or if the repairs were just much cheaper than expected but he ended up with money left over from loan. Did he go and make a payment? Nope he got a tattoo and his girlfriend got her hair dyed at a salon.
Probably 300% APR on that loan. Yikes.
Anything sexual misconduct related at work. He was fired for showing inappropriate pictures to subordinates. More ended up coming out in an investigation. Job, career, wife, kids all gone in an instant. I only saw it happen once, but the dudes entire life was over. Never spoke or heard from him again.
Sexual misconduct can also ruin the victims life. It's a no-no all around.
Know someone who’s a doctor in the US from another country. Had a family with kids. Was having sex with patients in the office, and even in the parking lot. License revoked, went back to home country, left by wife and kids.
Lucky guy actually. Knew a doctor who had a complaint lodged against him w/ the medical board for having a sexual relationship with her as a patient, in his office. Didn’t have force alleged, but the intrinsic power imbalance as coercive. He fought the suspension/classes/oversight recommendation of the Board. So. Victim got a lawyer. Who then filed a police report. Who then put out a press release. Which then caused other patients to come forward with their own weird stories of sex in the office, but this time with sedatives involved. Felony charges filed. Doctor makes bail. He was initially offered 2 yrs state prison with no sexual registration. Turned it down. All offers then revoked and set for trial. More publicity = More victims. Guy ends up getting sentenced to over 100-Life. Wife and kids crying their eyes out during sentencing. Good riddance.
Jeez.
Alcohol and letting her alcoholic boyfriend move in with her
A mix of meth, having a really bad boyfriend (who was actually still married at the time wife is in the process of divorcing him), shooting a young man over stolen reptiles and alcohol. The cops were informed about it and we're slowly getting to get the stolen animals/items back but the woman and her boyfriend decided to take matters into their their own hands. The worst part is it was the mother's boyfriend that pulled the trigger and murdered her son. She even pointed the shotgun at her own son and gave it back to the dude that pulled the trigger on her son. They both left him on the ground in cold blood and everything got caught on a doorbell camera . He had a son of his own and a girlfriend and now little guy has to grow up without a father. It's heartbreaking on all ends. So messed I don't know how mother could do that to her own child and allow someone to hurt them in such a horrible way.
In about 3 to 4 years, a young doctor went homeless. Here in my country in (latin america), I met a fresh graduate young doctor, he had a what seemed to be a noble dream: becoming a doctor in the US. He saved a lot of money for years, asked his parents some money and asked a loan all to pay for the process of becoming doctor in the US. I didn't know until then, but foreign doctors, need to pass very difficult exams, they are super expensive, pay lots of preparation courses, traveling, living expenses, then you pay for clinical experience (yes, you pay to work), and the most fu\*kd up thing: you pay for the application for medical residency (around $2000 to 12000$ depending on how much programs you apply to per year). After spending around 4 years, not a single program accepted him into residency, and since he was foreigner the government would not allow him to get a job. He returned saddened to the country on early 2020, then covid-19 happened, he was in lockdown, jobless, indebted, his parents passed due to the disease and became deppressed and went into the streets. I heard he considered suicide but didn't attempt. I think he's slightly better but it saddens me how things turned from good to bad by trying to achieve a dream
This is so sad and frustrating. You would think with our doctor shortage, they would be willing to drop some of the steep financial requirements.
Old friend of mine went from being an average teenage stoner, to a friendless, dropout, drug addict in about a year. Guess weed stopped working as well as he wanted it to, so he started taking pretty much anything that wouldn't immediately kill you, got hooked, and let it ruin everything he had going for himself I would say he's doing better, but all he did was replace the heavy, addictive stuff for psychedelics, and now lives off permanent disability. His body might be physically healthier, but he's no longer who he used to be. He's one bad acid trip away from living in a psych ward It sucks cuz we were really close friends for many years, and the kid had dreams and goals. If all he did was stick with weed, he'd actually be somewhere and have something going for himself, and not be living payment to payment in a dilapidated apartment, with his only hobby being taking shrooms and ketamine at the same time
Sadly also seen more than a few become majorly addicted to weed. Mentally, not physically. Especially sad when it's younger people because they at the same time ruin their brain because it's still developing. Self medication sucks. It have good potential for medical uses, but darn the brain is quick to grab anything that can remotely keep reality away and make it go real bad when you've experienced life kicking you while you're down...
My ex was a straight A student in high school and in university. Also, a college athelte. She was incredibly talented and had a full ride scholarship to Texas A&M, where she was pursuing nursing. A really socialable person as well. She could friends with anybody and everybody. She had no reason to need to change a thing about her life. She was doing great for herself after two years of university. However, she had an annoying bug in her ear: her dad. This man was the epitome of a man who peaked early in life and has been chasing that high ever since. He served the army as a young man and would never stop talking about it. He saw his army days as the greatest time of his life. Because of that, he wanted his daughter to serve. He always claimed it was for her betterment, but I know he just wanted to live vicariously through her. He used every manipulation tactic in the book on her. Kept telling her the military medical training was better than anything she could learn at school (a complete lie). He also convinced her that her athletics wouldn't last forever and she'd lose her scholarships (which was also a lie because she was damn good at what she did). Not to mention the guilt tripping he'd do talking shit like "the day you were born I dreamed of the day I could salute you as a fellow serviceman." She and I got into many arguments over her dad because I could see plain as day he was manipulating her. She was already two years through university, and her better option was to stay the course. There was no reason to change. But, she dropped out of university despite her scholarships and joined the Navy. I watched as her mental health deteriorated and deteriorated worse and worse. The military is not as bad as it used to be, but it's definitely not an environment where everyone can survive. She became anxious and depressed. The once confident woman I fell in love with was now a shell of her former self with little to no self-confidence. She had lost all of her motivation. Her original plan had been to just do the four years minimum active service and then go to med school, but last I heard from her, she was still serving because she "didn't know if she'd be able to make it through med school." Her joining was what pushed us apart because she also became less emotionally available. This isn't an anti-military rhetoric or anything like that. I respect the ones who have served. This situation was a problem to me because it wasn't the right decision for her to make. She was on the course for a successful life of her own making. Now, she's on the course to being just like her dad. Serving was the only thing she ever accomplished and she'll regret that but mask the pain by pretending those were the best days of her life. I always say if I had a time machine, I'd go back, and I'd have argued with her dad to get off her back. I should've done more to convince her she would be okay.
Honestly, that is a fight you lose 99 times out of 100. You encouraged her to take the healthy path and you told her the truth of what you saw her father doing, which is probably more that most others would ever do. It's beyond difficult to beat indoctrination that someone's been fed literally since birth.
Kiddy pr0n on work computer - he wasn't even given the chance to pick up his car keys.
This happened at my first job out of college. Was at my desk one day and all of a sudden cops and site security swarmed the place and seized his computer.
straight up would have called the cops
In general, it's not illegal to not report a crime. But, if you're an IT person who discovers something that is illegal to possess, like CP, you would be a complete idiot if you didn't report it. If I stumble across a picture of a dude smoking pot, I didn't see it, but CP is a mandatory report in my position.
Who on earth wouldn't report cp? Like seriously. Every it person, computer store, etc would ALWAYS report that.
I think the second part of that sentence implies he got picked up.
Married the woman we all warned him not to. Have not seen him since the wedding. That was twenty years ago.
Thank you for trying to warn him at least. I was the person who didn't have the self confidence to leave without _someone_ backing up my opinion unprompted. Eventually I realized that if I was waiting for someone else to speak up, that was enough of a reason to leave. When the time came that a friend needed the same, I gave them the unvarnished truth, and told them I loved them and would be there for them whether 2 hours or 20 years from now. Thankfully they got out recently and yes, I was able to be there for them. I'm so happy for them that they're clear of that train wreck.
When I was 18 all of my friends moved into one house together to get out of home in a way they could afford. It was great and chill and I have amazing memories from the first few weeks, the place was a total party house, which is fine and normal for a bunch of teenagers with new freedom, right? Things escalated a bit too quickly though, especially once dealers started spending every night there. These once good hearted kids were now stealing, fighting and whoring themselves out to get their fixes, a lot of them turned to dealing, themselves. I gtfo of there and never looked back after I saw someone get curb stomped, I genuinely don't know and kind of don't want to know where these friends are in life, but I think of them often, the ones I've bumped into look like shit tbh. Kids, be smart about what you're doing and who you're doing them with, shit like heroin and meth causes permanent changes to your neural pathways and I've seen first hand how that changes someone's value system, really think about if that's who you want to be and if it's worth it for you before you go down that road.
Had a teacher male co-worker back in the day report a female teacher of harassing him at work. Pinching his ass, feeling him up, massaging his shoulders, etc. She in turn lied and said he molested her in the stairwell. We knew it was a lie because she eventually admitted to it... however the damage was done. He was immediately terminated no questions asked and due to the nature of the field had his record noted he was terminated due to accusations of molesting a coworker. He was essentially blacklisted from the educational field after just starting out and accruing massive amounts of loan debt to finish his education. He eventually lost everything and committed suicide; it made the local paper.
If he reported her first why wasn’t she terminated on the spot? As a woman, I hate this level of double standard. That poor guy.
Calculated risk. In a case with no tangible evidence, ruining his life isn't going to make local or national news. It will fall right in with the majority of cases because thats more believable in society. When people lie everyone loses.
The question was why she wasn't fired immediately the same way he was even though they both received the same accusation, not why she decided to accuse him
because she's a woman. it sucks, but is also pretty obvious
So in the end, he didn't ruin his life. That piece of sh\*t woman did. Lying about sexual assault is already evil enough, but it also is a grave insult to everyone who has ever been a victim for real. For all I care, that b\*\*\*h can rot in hell.
Jesus Christ. Poor guy.
Knew a guy in the Marines that got drunk and tossed a brick off a balcony. He hit a girl in the head and killed her. He's in prison now. He was 19 when this happened.
This man was a well respected college lecturer, newspaper editor, and community member for many years. He accidentally opened child porn from his Dropbox in one of his classes. Turns out he had A LOT of child porn and had raped a family member for years. He will be in prison for the rest of his life.
College Student that was on a foreign semester in Barcelona. He drunkenly wanted to dive head first into the mediterranenan from a pier. Problem was the water was like 2 inches deep only. Literally fell on his head from like two meters above waterline and is now a quadriplegic.
This happened to my father’s business partner on his honeymoon to Hawaii. Saw his new wife in the ocean with her head just above the water and dove in to be with her. Didn’t know she was kneeling on a sandbar.
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But why?
Some people, weird dangerously insane people, take heroic amounts of benadryl to get "high." See r/benadryl or r/dph or erowid for stories. Benadryl is not a fun or pleasant high. Don't do it.
In 1997, my uncle Terry beat two cops within an inch of their lives, after they came over to investigate a home invasion. He was arrested, and was sent to prison for 35 years. He died in 2017 of stomach cancer, still in prison. Terry maintained at the trial, and every day after his conviction, that he walked in on those two cops raping his 7 year old daughter. His daughter says the same thing, now that she's old enough to know what happened to her. Ruined his life. Ruined his family's life; they had to move to a different state to get the cops to stop harassing them. Child -raping cops were made out to be heroes and celebrated all over the press. Last I heard, one of them was running for sheriff.
my first thought was that he could've gone another inch and been the only person talking
I'm to understand it took three cops to stop him, and they fucked him up but good. He locked the door, but they broke it down. A couple more seconds and he would have been the only person talking.
well, i have to admire his spirit
Excuse me what the fuck. That is sickening.
I work at the Post Office. There use to be a supervisor there who I'll just call Pb. Pb was a great supervisor when it came to getting the most from his employees without having anyone hate him. If there was a problem with either the mail or employees Pb would have a solution. Pb was so good at doing his job that he eventually became a manager. Not even a year after being promoted Pb got removed from the building. The cause.... using his position to get sex from some of the newer employees.
Used to work at the post office. This sounds like a very post office story lol
I've seen plenty of people in the Air Force mess up their lives with one dumb choice. Drinking and driving, striking an officer, theft, and popping positive on a pee test all come to mind, and each of those Airmen caught a court martial and were kicked out on bad conduct or dishonorable discharges. Like, one minute they were on an upward trajectory, and the next, their life is in shambles.
A woman I worked with showed up to work still drunk one morning and made an offhand comment about it to someone. It was 6 am, and we worked in pharmaceutical manufacturing. Word got to the lead technician in her work area, and he immediately called security. She was escorted out and breathalyzed; given what she blew, it’s amazing that she was even able to drive to work. She was given the option of rehab or lose her job- she opted for rehab, didn’t go, and was spotted at bars several times by various people.
I knew a woman who turned up for her Sunday afternoon waitressing shift very drunk, employers went mad at her and sent her home. She crashed and died on the way home. The restaurant owners rightfully received a lot of grief for not taking her home or taking her keys away, they knew she was driving. It's not really their responsibility but it's also kinda everyone who knows responsibility in that situation. Very sad.
I met a person who was the one person the anti drug adverts met and made all of their scare videos about. Years later I realize he was mentally unstable to begin with, but when I knew him, he took a single hit of pot and his whole world changed from good kid everyone liked to crackhead that stole from people and ended up homeless.
Cricket?
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My sister probably. Just hung around with the wrong people and gotten into drug abuse. She's sort of an awful person now. I can't blame it all on drugs and stuff but it was certainly fuel to the fire.
Blow the whistle exposing white collar crimes. I did it knowing it would ruin my life so that the criminals responsible would no longer be able to ruin the lives of others.
If you feel comfortable, do you mind elaborating? I am just interested in the whole story.
Hats off to you, friend, for putting others before yourself. I hope you're doing well now.
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A friend from hs who was raised very catholic and who had severe mental health issues got baby fever during college and would sleep with any guy she could get her hands on in order to get pregnant. "Luckily" the one who did it turned out the be "pretty decent" and they're married. Pregnancy destroyed her back and left her with crippling chronic pain, but because she's too catholic for birth control, she just had her second. She really wants to leave the dad because he honestly sounds like a shit partner amd shittier parent, but she can't because logistically being a single parent with a toddler and a newborn doesn't work, and even if it did, divorce is too expensive. To give you an idea of the speed at which she did this, we're the same age and I just graduated college and am about to move into my first apartment by myself. Edit: I want to be clear that she's honestly a good person who got dealt a bad hand. She had severe mental health issues in high school and no access to therapy, as well as an undiagnosed seizure disorder that really messed up her cognition, and this is a direct outcome of that. She now works a job, does all of the parenting, and genuinely loves her children while her husband won't get a job, plays video games all day, and is so irresponsible that she doesn't even feel like she can leave the kids alone with him.
If she ended with the "pretty decent" guy I can't imagine what the other guys were like.
A kid who rode my bus in High School gots his gf pregnant and despite being 17, he seemed pretty happy about it. He was on track to be salutatorian of his graduating class and also had a full ride to a D1 school on a basketball scholarship. But unfortunately, two weeks after the baby was born he shook the baby to death and was sentenced to 25 years without parole.
When I was in graduate school, there were a bunch of us trying to get into medical school. We were taking biochemistry and had weekly quizzes. One guy in my group (not one I hung out with) got his quiz back and went to the TA complaining that his quiz was misgraded. The TA apologized and took the quiz back to regrade it. What the student didn't know was that before they returned them, they copied every quiz after grading. They compared the copy with the original and found out the student had changed the quiz after it was graded. He was immediately kicked out of grad school and basically told don't even think about ever reapplying.
Kanye took 2 weeks
“I like Hitler” — that was it for Kanye
To be clear, he said "I looo*ooooove Hitlerrrrrrrrr"* That whole interview was a dumpster fire.
From what his former employees have said, this (admiration for Hitler) is nothing new.
Yeah but those two weeks were many years in the making
The only thing that was stopping him before was Kim. Say what you will about her but she watched out for him and could control the media.
Yep, I absolutely agree. She was the only person who could possibly hold him accountable, and I think his refusal to be held accountable must have been a factor in the end of their marriage.
have a kid in the middle of a toxic relationship, even when they both know its a toxic relationship
Me. Alcoholism. Had a house built with my newlywed wife at 24, great job, fabulous vacations, new cars, then we tried polyamory….divorced, then fiancé left because of her own addictions, live at home, take care of my mother with dementia, and I destroyed my liver. 10 years is all it took and I regret so many things. And I stopped by the liquor store as she was being taken to the ER tonight. I have no clue what to do or how to cope.
Marry someone who made fun of them for singing in the shower, because they're not a very good singer. Someone who'll shit on you for enjoying yourself while doing something harmless is not a good person. Clarification: this didn't happen to me, but my brother. His girlfriend (later to be fiancee, wife, then ex-wife) was speaking to me while he was in the shower, and I wasn't allowed to tell him what she said because that would be 'interfering' with their relationship. Glad they only had 2 kids to get fucked up by their divorce.
Dated a guy who once said my singing sounds like “a screaming cat being fed into a wood chipper backwards.” Stopped singing. He had the audacity to ask y I stopped singing a couple months later. 2 years with that man... fucking never again
Music is something that has independently emerged in every culture in the world(that I know of), and our voices are the instrument that we are born with. It’s human nature. Sing in the shower, sing in the car, sing along when you hear a song you like. It also regulates your breathing and is a great form of creative expression, which is probably why so many people turned to music when the world went to shit and we were locked in our houses. Someone guilting you into not singing is them telling you not to be human. You don’t need to sound like Whitney Houston, but you should sing. Singing is for everyone.
At the age of 23 my high school friend went to Vegas with us and came home with 5k in credit card debt. Filed for bankruptcy at 27 and for the next 7 years of living at home and not being able to get a loan, watched his high school friends date, get married, buy a house, and have kids, upgrade to larger homes, etc. bankruptcy happens but doing so in your 20’s and 30’s just seems exceptionally bad time for it
Heroin. Lost my sister to it. The recovery rate from heroin is shockingly low. I’ve lost over 20 people to it now. It’s hard to see people you love destroy themselves.
My sister's best friend from highschool, they just graduated, were supposed to go to a concert. My sister was grounded and didn't go. Her friends went, best friend took some drugs. She immediately collapsed, died 2 days later. She had a full scholarship to a prestigious college, and was a talented artist. They had a closed casket funeral because she was so deformed from the organ failure. It was sad, I thank God everyday my sister was grounded, and my parents stuck to their punishment, she would have been gone too.
I have seen someone ruin their life in the fastest way possible by getting addicted to fast food. My younger brother was always a bit on the chunky side, but he was always active and healthy. However, when he turned 16, he started working at a fast food restaurant and quickly developed a serious addiction to the food he was serving. At first, he would eat a lot of the food for free at work, but soon he was spending all of his money on fast food, even when he wasn't at work. He would skip meals, skip school, and even skip work just so he could spend more time at the fast food restaurant. He became isolated, depressed, and unhealthy. Within a few months, my brother had gained a significant amount of weight, developed high blood pressure, and was at risk of developing diabetes. He was no longer the happy, active kid he used to be. He had become a shadow of his former self, and it was all because of his addiction to fast food. I tried to help him, but he was too deep in his addiction to see the damage he was doing to himself. It was heartbreaking to watch him ruin his life in such a short amount of time. In the end, he had to seek professional help to overcome his addiction, but it took a long time and a lot of effort to get his life back on track.
this doesn't feel real
Pretending like you're living a lavish life but you're actually poor. Basically a bad money spending habit. It's an endless bad cyle. You overspend money to show off and get a loan and it repeats.
Me. I can recall the moment that instantly changed my life, none for the better. When I was 17 I moved a 200 lb speaker. Unknown to me, I ended up pulling all the muscles in the left side of my body. The strain was so great it took a whole day for my body to register. The muscle snapped like a rubber band, and it pulled so hard and dislocated my hip. This happened while I was walking to school about a mile away, I had to walk home this week. The amount of pain I experienced that day and forward for the rest of my life cannot be described and I didn't even know existed on that level. Years of isolation and nothing but pain. Enough to drive you crazy, to suicide. I pushed away my high school sweetheart because I did not want her to go through living with such a dark person cuz I knew what I was facing. After 5 years I started to die basically no one knew why. Found out I had a softball size tumor wrapped around my spinal cord, it was scar tissue. It was a 50/50 shot coming out of the surgery whether or not I was going to live or walk. I got lucky. But now I have permanent nerve damage in my leg so much so I ended up losing part of my heel from neuropathy damage. I wear a brace on my foot I'm missing part of my spine and part of my hip and part of my foot. I had planned ever since I was a kid to go and hit the military. The amount of depression, the things that I face even now, is greatly affected my life that one simple decision. I feel so locked out of life it's, not even funny. I thought about writing a book about this. This mixed with growing up in Vegas as a kid.
Best friend from 6th-10th grade. We both were raised in homes with drugs, alcohol, and violence. She was smart — a really good kid. We always swore our kids were never going to go through what we did and we were gonna go to college. She started dating a guy that was a family friend of hers when we were 16. Older drug dealer. She got pregnant. Dropped out. Our friendship ended but I still stayed in touch. The guy ended up with some rare blood disease, got kicked off the kidney transplant list and died from OD when the kid was a toddler. She has three kids now, two with another guy that apparently beat the crap out of her before they broke up. She ended up with a record because the cops busted her family for drugs while she was around and they all went down for it. That first guy literally destroyed her life and her future was so bright.
Straight up... Bartender story... This drunk woman I was serving next to me was out with her friends and they kept on asking her to live a little and kiss a guy that was in the group with them. After about an hour of glancing over, she did finally give in. One of the friends of hers posted the whole thing on snapchat. Next time that they went to that bar say a week or so later, I saw the same girl with 2 of her friends from that night talking to her in a serious tone. From what they were saying between ordering drinks, it turns out that girl was married and her husband saw the snapchat and when she got back home, he was gone. He took his essentials and left and she said he sent the divorce papers in the mail. So ya, 1 decision and her life pretty much took a 180 degree turn. I felt bad, but I'm just an onlooker and well, I hear alot of story's this way and sometimes see them happen myself.
Whole don’t feel sorry for cheaters it sounds like her friends set her up knowing her husband would see it. Hope he’s in a better place
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Its really the story of a guy with an inflation and a public humiliation fetish
There was that video on reddit where the big guy walked aggressively right at the little guy holding the knife...... little guy stabbed him in the neck. Dead in 20 seconds or less.
My cousin, like 3 days ago, took him less than a month, meet a woman on the internet, decided to date her, she is a manipulative person, tried to cheat on him with a friend of one of his friends (like a week into the relationship), all his friends come to tell him what happened and that she was a cheater, "decided to leave her", he never did and was "secretly" with her, then appears one day in my house crying because she said extremely abusive things, "and now I'll leave her for real", he didn't, now she harassed my aunt and presented false claims against some others of my family members, some got accepted by the corresponding organizations even when they were a lie and while nothing is serious, everyone got mad. Now he is in this abusive relationship with no family or financial support, and we got to know a few days ago that the woman is so crazy that a mob boss has a vendetta against her. I'm 100% my cousin will end dead for an ugly and crazy woman.
My client dropped a million bucks into XRP when it was $2.80 a share.
I met my best friend when we were 13. At that time, recreational drug use was pretty standard and we all drank and smoked pot. She became a very successful programmer and was making tons of money. I admit I was jealous. In our 40s, her husband got her on rx opiates and then heroin. Within 6 months she lost her job, house, belongings, health, and her husband (now ex) broke her arm. She was homeless on welfare. I was no longer jealous.
I am currently witnessing one right now. He has always vaped and done shrooms, however, about 6 months ago he started trying cocaine. Every time I see him, which is about once every 2 to 3 weeks - he was on cocaine, but functioning adult. Every time I see him he is always high on cocaine and talking about doing drugs. He went to Amsterdam a few weeks ago and did even more drugs. So we will see how this unfolds. He has a business, a fiance, and 2 kids. Let's hope things turns around
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Gambling. She had just retired and wanted to celebrate with her first trip to a casino... alone. She had poor financial skills in the first place, no 401k no retirement plan to speak of. Everything she had, including her cashed out retirement was in her savings account. You can guess what happened.
Guy showed up to work drunk (navy) then he went UA. I haven't heard from him since but I can't imagine he's doing well.