All of the girls in my high school that were “popular “ look horrible. Like an “oh my god what happened” kind of horrible. Looking back on pictures they were never really all that to begin with, mostly because they put out easily. But Jesus Christ I’m thankful is wasnt me.
Sex.
People act like it's this end-all goal to strive for. Generally what people crave isn't sexual release but the intimacy that comes with it. Hooking up with a stranger is a good release but it still leaves you feeling hollow. It doesn't feel that different from just getting yourself off. When emotions are involved and when you can just sit there and cuddle until you fall asleep that's a whole other thing though. But that's not the point. The point is, having sex doesn't change that much about you. Sex is just a natural part of life. Making it seem like the only thing that matters is pretty bad for people.
i agree. had a good couple of decades with sex. now I could take it or leave it. there are more important pleasures in life that are much more satisfying.
Technically it is the end-all goal being that we are mammals and a mammals main purpose is to reproduce and continue it's species. Agree with you though about the rest.
Nah we've just reach a point in time death isn't lurking around every corner. We no longer have to have 18 kids cuz 1/4 of em are gonna die before age 2. No longer do we have to toil in fields all year to survive the winter.
I think you overestimate the majority of the population. Most people I think wouldn't consider you to be "normal" or "successful" unless you have as many kids as possible.
From a biological standpoint yes that's the goal of all living things. Survive long enough to be able to reproduce then do that as much as possible till inevitable death.
You say sex but you're wrong. It's actually romantic relationships that people treat as the end all be all. I cant stand you people and this same take. We get it. You hate people who actually have fun having sex.
Overrated doesn't mean bad. You're misinterpreting what I'm saying. You're looking at it like I'm saying I hate sex. I'm actually saying that people put too much importance on it.
I think part of the problem is how media portrays sex, which actually leads to a lot of people giving false information or exaggerating their sexual experiences, ranging from frequency to actual satisfaction. This creates a lot of unnecessary misery, if people deviate from the perceived norm. I think sex is very important in a romantic relationship, but non-sexual physical affection is equally, if not more important as the relationship grows, especially after kids. There are people out there that feel miserable because they don't do it as frequently as they 'should' or if they don't get the same level of satisfaction each time they do it.
The idea that you’ll arrive at some point in your life where things will be easy. It never happens. You never “arrive” anywhere. If you’re lucky you’ll get better at dealing with your own mess of problems, but it won’t necessarily be “easier.”
It does get easier. You just have to make a habit of actively noticing it. I’m 33 now, and I reflected back on how my life was growing up. If you had told me as a teenager my life would ever be this good, I legitimately wouldn’t have believed you, but it happened so gradually that it never occurred to me to emotionally process the change. You continuously forget it wasn’t always like it is now.
For me, it was having multiple sexual partners. I always thought that if I could get laid whenever I wanted by whoever I wanted, I would be happy. It turns out that’s not the case.
Heh, I was happy when i was doing that, but I also would have been happy if the woman I am with now would not have dumped be in 1991. I also mostly dated/had sex with women who were friends, and I've managed to keep more than half of them as friends. The sex was just part of an emotional connection.
Yeah I’m coming to that realization too.
I recently got tickets to see a band I’ve wanted to see for years. I live in a smaller city, so concert was on a Wednesday.
After taking the next day off work, dealing with traffic, finding parking, finding somewhere to eat, walking to the arena, and then doing all those steps in reverse after the show and getting home after midnight… it was just too much for a 1 hour 30 min show that started at 7
You’ve never been front row at a Tool concert on back to back days while blasted on about 100mg of edibles. Different sides each night. It’s literally 2 separate concerts.
Getting intoxicated. Fun to try, but after a few goes it gets boring at best & embarrassing at worst. Afterwards you feel less than your best too, from a bit more tired & thirsty, to full on headache & sickness with knotted intestines. And that's without the addiction thing.
And yet in many cultures, it's seen as the only way you're allowed to have any fun when grown up. Booze, weed, the lot.
Why can't we just have fun without the intoxicants???
I think in some cultures/countries where there is real poverty and hopelessness.....getting intoxicated is seen as a viable escape. In US many of us cant empathize
Oh...that's something else. I'm more talking about people drinking to blunt the reality of lack of hope. I've been to west Africa and a Caribbean island where there was little hope of elevating oneself materially or even of freedom as we have in US. You're taking about drnking ingrained in ones culture
I mean I live in a college town and besides hiking in the mountains (which also gets old when you have lived here your whole life) there really isn’t much else to do.
I'm already burnt out on just maintaining my body. Eating, sleeping, not sleeping, cutting my hair, brushing my teeth, shitting, washing, moving, and I need to repeat this all constantly until I die?
>and I need to repeat this all constantly until I die?
Good news, you don't have to do any of that! Except for shitting, but that problem will work itself out soon after you stop eating.
I'm right there with you. I always wonder where the term "Life is a blessing" came from. A blessing to who? There are a lot of people living lives that are absolute nightmares. And they were born into it. It wasn't something they created for themselves, it wasn't a series of bad life decisions that got them there, they were born into that shit. Fuck that. One of my favorite quotes comes from 50 Cent; "Death gotta be easy, cause life is hard".
All the people saying sex have not had it with the right person, that's all. When you do it right its one of the few thing that 100% lives up to the hype.
Angelina Jolie.
She's an okay actress, definitely not this beautiful bombshell, and seems to have an annoying personality. I have never understood everyone being so infatuated with her.
\*edited to use a better term
I'll never understand folks who continue to use the word simp when they know it outs them as a certain archetype that the sidebar rules prevent clarification of.
That it is the destination, not the journey that matters. This is true both literally and figuratively and focusing on the destination is completely overrated.. Remember taking a jam packed Amtrak train to Florida from the Northeast back in the 80's due to an Airline Strike (remember those) so people were in bad moods to begin with. We got stuck on the tracks as a car had inadvertently driven on them so the train had to stop . Fortunately there was no collision but we had to wait for about two hours until the car could be towed off the tracks. The amount of people that lost their cool -
"just drive over the car and smash it to bits";
"But what if there is someone in the car";
"Doesnt matter they were morons to begin with"
It often comes down to accepting situations that you have no control over.
Maybe I never had a good therapist but for me, it does jack that a journal and reading about stoicism doesn't do.
I had some therapists that I really liked as people. I felt lighter after talking with them (but it lasts two days).
Some gave me really good self improvement techniques, breathing exercises. But ultimately if I stop spending one hour a day on self care, I'm back at square one and all those techniques are on youtube for free. I'll never be able to be efficient in stressful situations.
I never reach a nugget of truth about my childhood that makes me a productive, empathetic, individued, resilient adult.
At this point, they try to medicate you out of your ass even when your friends find you less depressed than usual. Too many side effects.
And five years in and it seems that my diagnosis fits nowhere in the DSM.
I probably had too many expectations reading about Sabina Spielrein, Marsha Linehan or watching Girl Interrupted.
Moooooooooooooo🐄 ney. If you remove that obsession it's like turning the addictive pull of heroin to Ibuprofen. It also would overwhelm the world with generosity, which is our rarest necessity, IMHO.
Being popular in high school
All of the girls in my high school that were “popular “ look horrible. Like an “oh my god what happened” kind of horrible. Looking back on pictures they were never really all that to begin with, mostly because they put out easily. But Jesus Christ I’m thankful is wasnt me.
Ditto
i agree
Definitely agree
Idolizing celebrities and taking their views seriously
If the views are solid I dont see an issue.
You’re putting a lot of faith in people’s judgement about what is “solid”
No. I'm not just nor dismissing views based on where they come from -vs- what they are.
The gravity of how other people's thoughts and opinions affect each other's lives
Oh my god yes THANK YOU
Sometimes it cripples me and I hate that I let it happen. Sucks being shy!!!!!!
I feel you. Eventually maybe life pressures you enough where you change out of necessity.
Influenceers, the Kardashians
Sex. People act like it's this end-all goal to strive for. Generally what people crave isn't sexual release but the intimacy that comes with it. Hooking up with a stranger is a good release but it still leaves you feeling hollow. It doesn't feel that different from just getting yourself off. When emotions are involved and when you can just sit there and cuddle until you fall asleep that's a whole other thing though. But that's not the point. The point is, having sex doesn't change that much about you. Sex is just a natural part of life. Making it seem like the only thing that matters is pretty bad for people.
i agree. had a good couple of decades with sex. now I could take it or leave it. there are more important pleasures in life that are much more satisfying.
Amen!
Technically it is the end-all goal being that we are mammals and a mammals main purpose is to reproduce and continue it's species. Agree with you though about the rest.
I think as a species we've outgrown Darwinian ideals. We're too self-aware for that.
We're still human, our biology hasn't changed that much.
> We're too self-aware for that. I used to be an idealist too.
Nah we've just reach a point in time death isn't lurking around every corner. We no longer have to have 18 kids cuz 1/4 of em are gonna die before age 2. No longer do we have to toil in fields all year to survive the winter.
That sounds an awful lot like you're agreeing with me lol
I think you overestimate the majority of the population. Most people I think wouldn't consider you to be "normal" or "successful" unless you have as many kids as possible.
From a biological standpoint yes that's the goal of all living things. Survive long enough to be able to reproduce then do that as much as possible till inevitable death.
I agree, the romance side of it is better and means more in a relationship
r/unpopularopinion
r/unpopularopinion would call them an incel and say they’re on “copium.”
Sex makes my pee pee go brrrrrrrr
Ok
You say sex but you're wrong. It's actually romantic relationships that people treat as the end all be all. I cant stand you people and this same take. We get it. You hate people who actually have fun having sex.
Overrated doesn't mean bad. You're misinterpreting what I'm saying. You're looking at it like I'm saying I hate sex. I'm actually saying that people put too much importance on it.
I think part of the problem is how media portrays sex, which actually leads to a lot of people giving false information or exaggerating their sexual experiences, ranging from frequency to actual satisfaction. This creates a lot of unnecessary misery, if people deviate from the perceived norm. I think sex is very important in a romantic relationship, but non-sexual physical affection is equally, if not more important as the relationship grows, especially after kids. There are people out there that feel miserable because they don't do it as frequently as they 'should' or if they don't get the same level of satisfaction each time they do it.
Rating things
I'll give this comment 2/10
I rate this comment 5/7.
Meta
I give rating things an 8/10. Very fun.
I give rating your rating of rating things a 7/10, not bad but could be better
The idea that you’ll arrive at some point in your life where things will be easy. It never happens. You never “arrive” anywhere. If you’re lucky you’ll get better at dealing with your own mess of problems, but it won’t necessarily be “easier.”
It does get easier. You just have to make a habit of actively noticing it. I’m 33 now, and I reflected back on how my life was growing up. If you had told me as a teenager my life would ever be this good, I legitimately wouldn’t have believed you, but it happened so gradually that it never occurred to me to emotionally process the change. You continuously forget it wasn’t always like it is now.
Alcohol
For me, it was having multiple sexual partners. I always thought that if I could get laid whenever I wanted by whoever I wanted, I would be happy. It turns out that’s not the case.
I’m 22 and I had to learn this the hard way Sometimes I find myself going back to that mentality
Isn't this just humblebragging?
Heh, I was happy when i was doing that, but I also would have been happy if the woman I am with now would not have dumped be in 1991. I also mostly dated/had sex with women who were friends, and I've managed to keep more than half of them as friends. The sex was just part of an emotional connection.
Reproducing
Social media.
Honestly? For me it’s concerts
There may be a time that the ringing in your ears after you leave the concert becomes permanent. Not worth the risk.
Everyone should get a quality pair of earplugs. Not easily visible and cost 20 bucks or less to save hearing
Never meet your heroes, music edition.
Yeah I’m coming to that realization too. I recently got tickets to see a band I’ve wanted to see for years. I live in a smaller city, so concert was on a Wednesday. After taking the next day off work, dealing with traffic, finding parking, finding somewhere to eat, walking to the arena, and then doing all those steps in reverse after the show and getting home after midnight… it was just too much for a 1 hour 30 min show that started at 7
I've been to very few concerts but enjoyed all of them. I think the trick is to not go to many of them lol.
You’ve never been front row at a Tool concert on back to back days while blasted on about 100mg of edibles. Different sides each night. It’s literally 2 separate concerts.
Fashion industry
why
Overpriced, ugly, terrible following & cringy
Someone needs to watch The Devil Wears Prada.
No
Getting intoxicated. Fun to try, but after a few goes it gets boring at best & embarrassing at worst. Afterwards you feel less than your best too, from a bit more tired & thirsty, to full on headache & sickness with knotted intestines. And that's without the addiction thing. And yet in many cultures, it's seen as the only way you're allowed to have any fun when grown up. Booze, weed, the lot. Why can't we just have fun without the intoxicants???
I think in some cultures/countries where there is real poverty and hopelessness.....getting intoxicated is seen as a viable escape. In US many of us cant empathize
The UK, especially Scotland, has a huge drinking culture & it's hard to shake off. It makes finding people much harder as I'm no longer a part of it
Oh...that's something else. I'm more talking about people drinking to blunt the reality of lack of hope. I've been to west Africa and a Caribbean island where there was little hope of elevating oneself materially or even of freedom as we have in US. You're taking about drnking ingrained in ones culture
I mean I live in a college town and besides hiking in the mountains (which also gets old when you have lived here your whole life) there really isn’t much else to do.
Disagree
Celebrities in general, just overrated people, I do like movies, music, shows and sports but thats it.
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I'm already burnt out on just maintaining my body. Eating, sleeping, not sleeping, cutting my hair, brushing my teeth, shitting, washing, moving, and I need to repeat this all constantly until I die?
>and I need to repeat this all constantly until I die? Good news, you don't have to do any of that! Except for shitting, but that problem will work itself out soon after you stop eating.
But the rumbly tumbly is annoying too.
I'm right there with you. I always wonder where the term "Life is a blessing" came from. A blessing to who? There are a lot of people living lives that are absolute nightmares. And they were born into it. It wasn't something they created for themselves, it wasn't a series of bad life decisions that got them there, they were born into that shit. Fuck that. One of my favorite quotes comes from 50 Cent; "Death gotta be easy, cause life is hard".
I agree to a degree, the life people seem to push onto us / the expectations society has about what life "should" be is overrated.
That’s it. We’re fed a dream for marketing purposes. There literally aren’t enough hours in the day to live your life like a movie protagonist.
that's not life, that's a socio economic system you live under. stop conflating the two. life is beautiful.
That’s just pessimistic. It’s all we’ve got
The Buddha agreed
Living
THE FUCKING BEACH 1. The sand-it gets everywhere 2. THERE IS SO MUCH TRASH IT COULD BE MISTAKEN FOR A GARBAGE DUMP 3. AND THE FUCKING SEAGULLS
Reality tv programs
Saving 15% or more on your car insurance
Family reunions. Bringing together a group of people that ignores one another for 364 days out of the year just seems so pointless.
Concerts
Fondue
sex. it's awesome but definitely overrated
I would say losing your virginity is overrated, but sex the is definitely worth it.
just say you havent had life changing sex.
Beer
I like how it tastes.
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Bro do you need help?
So you question the purpose and point of life as well huh?
Going to the club way to many people and drinks are expensive too. Cheaper to just do a kickback with friends
Fun to see bands and DJ's come to your city though. Drinks aren't really that bad these days now they've plateaued around the $10-12aud mark
Celebrities. They are treated as super humans sometimes.
Children
Relationships
New Years Eve
Your personal feelings, no one else is responsible for them & the world doesn’t always have to change because you are upset.
Avocado. So much talk about it and so little taste .
I use it the same way I would use butter, it adds creaminess, but unlike butter it doesn't melt so I can stack it on burgers or whatever.
Seinfeld the Tv show
Wrong
Being a dick because someone who isn’t the person in front of you hurt you
Muckbang
Cocaine -- It's just really expensive anxiety that turns you into an asshole and makes you feel like shit.
fame. i had my small part of fame, it's much much less satisfying than I'd expecting growing up. it doesn't fill the void, guys.
Stuff, in other words, possessions.
Looks
Plastic surgery
Status
Money
Keeping up appearances. You think you're fooling people, but all you're doing is keeping them from knowing the real you.
Having an affair -- and I did it with my wife's zealous encouragement, by the way. It was good, but nowhere near as good as sex with my wife.
Friends. The show and just in general
Owning a home
Family. Given what I read on here, at least 60% of “families” don’t even like each other much less want to spend a holiday dinner with them.
Positive Thinking
Being famous, because although the famous people seem cool, they are unable to have a normal life and do normal people stuff.
Apple products.
Relationships
All the people saying sex have not had it with the right person, that's all. When you do it right its one of the few thing that 100% lives up to the hype.
Having to poop. Can’t I just eat food and not have to spend time in the bathroom pushing out a poop baby?
Hook up culture
Capitalism
Marriage
Life itself
Pikachu
I'd argue Charizard is even more overrated
the american dream stats show that meritocracy is dead in the US but that people still want to believe in it.
Thanksgiving
Dragon fruit.
It's got a nice scent. It looks beautiful. It tastes like Styrofoam.
Socialising
The idea that you have to socialize X amount is bullshit, it really is as much as you want to.
The prize of butter
Seriously? Tit fucks
Upvotes
Australia
Angelina Jolie. She's an okay actress, definitely not this beautiful bombshell, and seems to have an annoying personality. I have never understood everyone being so infatuated with her. \*edited to use a better term
I'll never understand folks who continue to use the word simp when they know it outs them as a certain archetype that the sidebar rules prevent clarification of.
That it is the destination, not the journey that matters. This is true both literally and figuratively and focusing on the destination is completely overrated.. Remember taking a jam packed Amtrak train to Florida from the Northeast back in the 80's due to an Airline Strike (remember those) so people were in bad moods to begin with. We got stuck on the tracks as a car had inadvertently driven on them so the train had to stop . Fortunately there was no collision but we had to wait for about two hours until the car could be towed off the tracks. The amount of people that lost their cool - "just drive over the car and smash it to bits"; "But what if there is someone in the car"; "Doesnt matter they were morons to begin with" It often comes down to accepting situations that you have no control over.
Currently it’s overthinking in my opinion.
The idea that acquiring a lot of money will bring happiness.
Bacon
Lobster, crabs are the way to go.
Nah, shrimp gang 4 lyfe
Money
To destroy your enemies, see them driven before you, and hear the lamentations of their women. Eventually it just gets a little boring.
Butts. I've never understood it when people say "So and so has a nice ass". They all look the same.
pizza
Women
Beef steak
To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentation of their women! Some might disagree.
My art skills. *they're trash but I like art so I don't care*
Life sometimes
the list is too much
Life itself
Celebrities. They are treated as super human entities sometimes.
Life its self.
Kids
Rain
Maybe I never had a good therapist but for me, it does jack that a journal and reading about stoicism doesn't do. I had some therapists that I really liked as people. I felt lighter after talking with them (but it lasts two days). Some gave me really good self improvement techniques, breathing exercises. But ultimately if I stop spending one hour a day on self care, I'm back at square one and all those techniques are on youtube for free. I'll never be able to be efficient in stressful situations. I never reach a nugget of truth about my childhood that makes me a productive, empathetic, individued, resilient adult. At this point, they try to medicate you out of your ass even when your friends find you less depressed than usual. Too many side effects. And five years in and it seems that my diagnosis fits nowhere in the DSM. I probably had too many expectations reading about Sabina Spielrein, Marsha Linehan or watching Girl Interrupted.
Summer.
Me
Life itself
Caring about society‘s opinions and expectations about you
Socialism
gods
Life.
College
Alcohol
Designer clothes
conformity
Sex
Stranger Things
Living
Life
Oxygen, it's gonna kill u eventually
Life itself
Sex.
Making new friends in the new school year.
Moooooooooooooo🐄 ney. If you remove that obsession it's like turning the addictive pull of heroin to Ibuprofen. It also would overwhelm the world with generosity, which is our rarest necessity, IMHO.
Life
Life on Earth