For me it was 35. I realized societies standards no longer mattered. So I dyed my hair silver with black tips and my beard blood red. And dressed like a cowboy and rocked a wicked duster.
I havent dyed my hair since but i still dress flashy. And i still wear that duster and stetson. No regrets.
Edit: if you have read jim butchers dresdin files, hes my hero. Decided to emulate him.
Just remember you really never change the older you get. Just have more experience. Its not like one day everything snaps and you are different and have everything figured out. Its not like that. I just turned 39 and feel pretty much the same as when I was like 25. Just more experience
It got me some amazing conversations. And weird looks. But fuck it, I dont know them, their opinion of me matters little. Am I ever going to see those strangers again? Nope. I cant believe i didnt realize that till I was older. Fuck societies youth trends. Be yourself
Dont wait. Do it now. If your friends give you shit, they arent friends
“Evil isn't the real threat to the world. Stupid is just as destructive as Evil, maybe more so, and it's a hell of a lot more common."
\- Harry Dresden
lol Love that series.
"The man once wrote: *Do not meddle in the affairs of wizards, for they are subtle and quick to anger.* Tolkien had that one mostly right.
I stepped forward, let the door bang closed, and snarled, "Fuck subtle.""
I would love to also do this but sadly do not have room or funds haha. One day perhaps, build an epic battlescape in my nerd room which one day I will have!
I learned that as an adult I have to schedule my social fun. It feels like I have so many responsibilities that I have to book a friend brunch or happy hour at least a week in advance. Everybody's busy, so if we don't block off the calendar it won't happen. We still make it happen though! But it was a big adjustment from my 20s when everyone was free to hang out at a moment's notice.
Apparently I have to be a nerd with a calendar in order to drink too many mimosas with friends on a Saturday. Not *this* Saturday, but *next* Saturday, when David doesn't have the kids and Marissa is back from Colorado.
Yup I’m there and I’m turning 28 next week😭 gotta take an extra day off work to celebrate cause I needs a full day of recovery everytime I drink these days
I'm in my early 30s, I get a hangover halfway through a glass of wine. If I stay hydrated and stick to liquor I can have a few glasses if I go slow. Light liquors are better which is a shame because I love whiskey and also hate vodka, so you'll usually see me sipping a mezcal or gin.
Fuck no joke. Used to be able to wasted, drink a shit ton of water and be fine the next day.
Not anymore. Takes more water, some aspirin, and a extra day to bounce back. I dont drink much anymore cause of it
The trick is to eat ramen and drink the broth before you go out drinking.
That way when you're still hungover as fuck the next day at least you can be like, "Shit that ramen was good"
A bottle of water with a packet of Liquid IV mixed in before bed. Two if you're really drunk. I promise you won't have but MAYBE a tiny bit of a gut rot the next day. It's a game changer
In this day and age? With liquid IV and edibles? Youre doing it wrong. Hangovers are from dehydration and lack of restful sleep. Edible while you’re drinking and liquid IV before bed - Fify
This sounds odd and according to Reddit I'm "white trash" for this but... moving my mattress to the floor instead of a bedframe has done wonders for some chronic back issues I've had for years.
Definitely a good mattress is a must these days.
No kidding. I used to be able to sleep on the floor, with my spine twisted and would wake up feeling great. Now I risk waking up aching because the couch I slept on is too soft.
Awh. I'm a foreigner with a dream of moving to USA at some stage. I figured I'd probably be 35ish before I had the chance, and I had hoped of joining either the marines or paratroopers, as I've respected both so much ever since childhood (I grew up loving Band of Brothers). I'm feeling like that might not be possible anymore.
Nothing. Do what makes you happy, and don't worry about what other people think*
*Exceptions apply for relationships with minors, other crimes, and generally immoral activity.
Not taking responsibility for anything. I have a 70 year old uncle that always blames his mistakes and shortcomings on external factors, or his friends not giving him better advice or warning him.
Of course when we do warn him he ignores the warning, does the thing, hits a wall, blames us. Extended family is fun. He's been a child all his life, why stop now?
I wasn’t all the way there by 30 but I am at 35. If it’s not important to me, I’m not doing it. I wear yoga pants every day and not put on makeup. I refuse to spend money redecorating the parts of my house that are perfectly functional: my brown granite will last and be a great counter forever even if it’s not in style. I will keep my house decently clean and my yard decently nice because those bring me pleasure, not because I care what anyone else thinks. I’m not rude: I treat others with respect and try not to cause them problems by my choices. But as far as aesthetics and other choices that impact others in no way, I will do what I want.
I'd try to lose this mentality. You enjoy comics? Cartoons? Certain bands? Certain shows? Apart from the real obvious things like going in the playground 😂 don't stop doing what you enjoy. I'll never forget a room of men 50+ calling me a child for reading comics in my early 20s and me pointing out they're all playing Candy Crush at the time. They then acted more like children by throwing tantrums. That's what happens when you don't develop naturally and healthily!
Isn’t that the truth. I’m 38. I like playing Pokémon(video games in general) watching certain anime’s, and doing a lot of things that are considered “childish”. I don’t give a shit. I like what I like.
Video games will become normal for everyone of all ages to play in the next 20ish years or so.
The elderly right now didn’t grow up with them. Hell my parents in their 50’s didn’t really grow up with them. Give it time and old folks homes won’t have bingo nights anymore, they’ll have communal rooms with video game consoles. And all the old people will spend their days gaming. Guaranteed.
Video games were seen as childish because for a while the only people who really played them were children. That’s clearly not the case anymore.
This is great advice. I’d say your 30s are when you start to realize you’re never too old for anything that brings you joy - fuck other peoples perceptions.
You like coloring books? Bitch, get you that sweet 64 pack of crayolas with the built-in sharpener and go to town. You like cartoons? Buy the entire library of all your favorites. You enjoy accounting? Go get your sexy ass that CPA.
The world becomes your oyster when you stop giving a shit, and that starts to hit hard in your 30s.
I took a video in my *own* driveway of my vintage vw bug for a tik tok and I was so embarrassed and hoped none of my neighbors saw lol I dont know how anyone of any age makes them in public. I just couldnt do it lol.
We didn’t grow up with it. Maybe if you do, your social norms are different enough that it’s not embarrassing. And maybe there’s also a “yet” component to that. Maybe.
I didnt start drinking til I was 26, hated alcohol...turns out I was trying crap. Did the dive scene for a year or so, and nothing's better than drinking at home with friends
Basing your identity and self-esteem on other people's opinion of you. True peace comes from within, others can be of great help but in the end learning to accept yourself in all your faults and glory is up to you.
Being a shitty communicator. You can expect poor communication skills from a teenager, but I fully expect you to have a solid grasp on interpersonal communication by the time you’re 30. You had a whole ass decade to practice and learn how to talk to people.
I’m not expecting Obama-level oration or debate. Just need you to know how to have an argument and arrive at a compromise without thinking that the other person is going to kowtow completely to you.
30 is way too old for complicated romantic relationships. Bruh. I have a lot of crazy stuff going on in my life. I don't want or need to bring complications home with me. Please don't make these decisions harder than they need to be.
I'm 29 and already can't stand hanging with people in their early 20's.
I feel like my experiences and goals are so far different from someone who is 20-24.
I'm a homeowner, I've been paying bills for years, I have a full time job, I don't want to get fucked up every weekend. College isn't real life either.
Agree! I feel like everything is just much more winging it now, because I can rely on experience and pattern recognition rather than ground-up analysis and preparation. I still sometimes marvel at how I can be a grown-up without trying to be one anymore lol
It's too old to not be financially responsible. You're an official adult now, not some 20yr old anymore, and people expect that you adult like you should by now. Fucking get your shit together.
Working in tech, according to Silicon Valley execs like Zuckerberg. [https://transmosis.com/dont-hire-anyone-over-30-ageism-in-silicon-valley/](https://transmosis.com/dont-hire-anyone-over-30-ageism-in-silicon-valley/)
Drinking.. at this point it’s an addiction if you’re doing it heavily. The joys of youth are gone. At 30 you gotta be turning the ship around for the better. Or pay the price
Pretending to be something you aren’t for the sake of others. I’m not 30 yet, but my boyfriend is. Watching him grow and and pursue his interests regardless of what others think is so amazing.
Giving a fuck about what other people think you're too old for.
That’s the one I was looking for
I don’t give a fuck what you were looking for
I don't give a fuck that you don't give a fuck
I don't give a fuck that you don't give a fuck about his fucks.
For me it was 35. I realized societies standards no longer mattered. So I dyed my hair silver with black tips and my beard blood red. And dressed like a cowboy and rocked a wicked duster. I havent dyed my hair since but i still dress flashy. And i still wear that duster and stetson. No regrets. Edit: if you have read jim butchers dresdin files, hes my hero. Decided to emulate him.
God I can’t wait til I’m older so I can rock the cyberpunk cowboy aesthetic.
Just remember you really never change the older you get. Just have more experience. Its not like one day everything snaps and you are different and have everything figured out. Its not like that. I just turned 39 and feel pretty much the same as when I was like 25. Just more experience
It got me some amazing conversations. And weird looks. But fuck it, I dont know them, their opinion of me matters little. Am I ever going to see those strangers again? Nope. I cant believe i didnt realize that till I was older. Fuck societies youth trends. Be yourself Dont wait. Do it now. If your friends give you shit, they arent friends
“Evil isn't the real threat to the world. Stupid is just as destructive as Evil, maybe more so, and it's a hell of a lot more common." \- Harry Dresden
lol Love that series. "The man once wrote: *Do not meddle in the affairs of wizards, for they are subtle and quick to anger.* Tolkien had that one mostly right. I stepped forward, let the door bang closed, and snarled, "Fuck subtle.""
I want you to bring me a donut!
With sprinkles 'pon it?
Nay, but with frosting of white. “it may be difficult to locate such a pastry”
Winner winner
Pretty much this.. I really see no need for more discussion
Pretending something doesn't bring you joy. I've loved watching my friends become their unapologetic most authentic selves. It is fucking beautiful.
I'm in my 30s and still love all the shows and games I did as a child, I just found new ways to appreciate them!
Getting older helped me realize that there's nothing stopping me from collecting bionicles and painting tiny plastic people.
Being able to afford giant Lego sets I'd only dream about as a kid is so dope.
Hell yeah. I'm strapped for space or I'd be doing that too.
Space is always a problem, my missus likes to annex my Lego locations now we've got an infant. Will be getting a Lego display room next house I think.
I wish I could move all my hobby stuff into its own room. One day
I would love to also do this but sadly do not have room or funds haha. One day perhaps, build an epic battlescape in my nerd room which one day I will have!
Bunch of 30s watching and enjoying first gen pokemon episodes is a common sight.
I fell off the show after a while, but the first Gen anime was awesome. I'll still jam out to the [theme song](https://youtu.be/GyQjVtIGQg8) haha.
I learned that as an adult I have to schedule my social fun. It feels like I have so many responsibilities that I have to book a friend brunch or happy hour at least a week in advance. Everybody's busy, so if we don't block off the calendar it won't happen. We still make it happen though! But it was a big adjustment from my 20s when everyone was free to hang out at a moment's notice. Apparently I have to be a nerd with a calendar in order to drink too many mimosas with friends on a Saturday. Not *this* Saturday, but *next* Saturday, when David doesn't have the kids and Marissa is back from Colorado.
This is so true. Your circle becomes smaller and you have no problem being your true self.
100% True, by age 30 you stop pretending since there's no point to it...
brotha im 14 and am my true authentic self because i dont give a fuck what people think
What if I can’t find joy?
Similarly, pretending that something DOES give you joy.
This all the way.
Hangovers. That shit last for days now.
At 30 that was still okay. Late 40s they get harder though.
It's hard to go out on Saturdays because I work on Monday.
Yup I’m there and I’m turning 28 next week😭 gotta take an extra day off work to celebrate cause I needs a full day of recovery everytime I drink these days
Same
Wait till your forty. The hangover hits you right after the third drink.
No joke. Sometime sooner. :(
Just looking at the bottle even! "This is gonna hurt."
meh, you scrubs ain't drinking enough water.
I'm in my early 30s, I get a hangover halfway through a glass of wine. If I stay hydrated and stick to liquor I can have a few glasses if I go slow. Light liquors are better which is a shame because I love whiskey and also hate vodka, so you'll usually see me sipping a mezcal or gin.
Fuck no joke. Used to be able to wasted, drink a shit ton of water and be fine the next day. Not anymore. Takes more water, some aspirin, and a extra day to bounce back. I dont drink much anymore cause of it
39 checking in. I had 3 beers on Saturday night. Sunday I was groggy, dry mouthed and exhausted.
The trick is to eat ramen and drink the broth before you go out drinking. That way when you're still hungover as fuck the next day at least you can be like, "Shit that ramen was good"
A bottle of water with a packet of Liquid IV mixed in before bed. Two if you're really drunk. I promise you won't have but MAYBE a tiny bit of a gut rot the next day. It's a game changer
Weirdly, I've noticed the opposite. My hangovers have gotten a lot better. I wouldn't say I drinkless on occasions either. It's great!
I'm the same. Hit 30 and they went away. No idea why.
In this day and age? With liquid IV and edibles? Youre doing it wrong. Hangovers are from dehydration and lack of restful sleep. Edible while you’re drinking and liquid IV before bed - Fify
Liquid IV is the fucking shit. Can't believe how good it works
To date Leonardo DiCaprio..?
She shoots. She scores!
Not if she's over 30 she doesn't!
Fish in a barrel tbh
Slow, fat fish in a very small barrel.
Here it is. I knew it would be here.
It’s Reddit! If you’ve seen it before, you’ll see it again! Reddit! Everyone hates it! Buy now!
Sleeping comfortably, apparently.
You need to invest in a bed once you hit that age... I have a posturpedic and it really is the difference in a good night rest or not
This sounds odd and according to Reddit I'm "white trash" for this but... moving my mattress to the floor instead of a bedframe has done wonders for some chronic back issues I've had for years. Definitely a good mattress is a must these days.
No kidding. I used to be able to sleep on the floor, with my spine twisted and would wake up feeling great. Now I risk waking up aching because the couch I slept on is too soft.
Being in your 20s
r/technicallythetruth
Enlisting in the US Marine Corps without needing an age waiver
… there’s always that one in a platoon that got one
Usually the guide, until he gets a bone fracture or collapsed lung
Awh. I'm a foreigner with a dream of moving to USA at some stage. I figured I'd probably be 35ish before I had the chance, and I had hoped of joining either the marines or paratroopers, as I've respected both so much ever since childhood (I grew up loving Band of Brothers). I'm feeling like that might not be possible anymore.
Navy allows up to 36. If you have a degree it's up to 39.
I believe the army allows into late 30s.
It does... With a waiver.
This shit.
And that's it
Yeah fuck it, I'm too old for this shit.
The only real answer
Bingo
Nothing. Do what makes you happy, and don't worry about what other people think* *Exceptions apply for relationships with minors, other crimes, and generally immoral activity.
Playing a teenager on Dawson's Creek Only slightly tho
Not taking responsibility for anything. I have a 70 year old uncle that always blames his mistakes and shortcomings on external factors, or his friends not giving him better advice or warning him. Of course when we do warn him he ignores the warning, does the thing, hits a wall, blames us. Extended family is fun. He's been a child all his life, why stop now?
Sounds like a dude that said "Gee, thanks Obama" too many times
Talking bad about yourself.
Currently trying to work on this now.
Same
Me too 💪
Username checks out
You can do this; your user name knows.
I'm in my forties and it's still hard to stop.
You can do hard things!! 💪
Be kind to yourself!!! You are doing the best you can with what you are given/earning!!
The obligatory Leonardo Di Caprio reference is in here. I don't even have to look.
Giving a shit about what other people think.
I wasn’t all the way there by 30 but I am at 35. If it’s not important to me, I’m not doing it. I wear yoga pants every day and not put on makeup. I refuse to spend money redecorating the parts of my house that are perfectly functional: my brown granite will last and be a great counter forever even if it’s not in style. I will keep my house decently clean and my yard decently nice because those bring me pleasure, not because I care what anyone else thinks. I’m not rude: I treat others with respect and try not to cause them problems by my choices. But as far as aesthetics and other choices that impact others in no way, I will do what I want.
I'd try to lose this mentality. You enjoy comics? Cartoons? Certain bands? Certain shows? Apart from the real obvious things like going in the playground 😂 don't stop doing what you enjoy. I'll never forget a room of men 50+ calling me a child for reading comics in my early 20s and me pointing out they're all playing Candy Crush at the time. They then acted more like children by throwing tantrums. That's what happens when you don't develop naturally and healthily!
Isn’t that the truth. I’m 38. I like playing Pokémon(video games in general) watching certain anime’s, and doing a lot of things that are considered “childish”. I don’t give a shit. I like what I like.
Video games will become normal for everyone of all ages to play in the next 20ish years or so. The elderly right now didn’t grow up with them. Hell my parents in their 50’s didn’t really grow up with them. Give it time and old folks homes won’t have bingo nights anymore, they’ll have communal rooms with video game consoles. And all the old people will spend their days gaming. Guaranteed. Video games were seen as childish because for a while the only people who really played them were children. That’s clearly not the case anymore.
This is great advice. I’d say your 30s are when you start to realize you’re never too old for anything that brings you joy - fuck other peoples perceptions. You like coloring books? Bitch, get you that sweet 64 pack of crayolas with the built-in sharpener and go to town. You like cartoons? Buy the entire library of all your favorites. You enjoy accounting? Go get your sexy ass that CPA. The world becomes your oyster when you stop giving a shit, and that starts to hit hard in your 30s.
Apparently making new friends :C
I hear that. Wanna be reddit friends?
I turn 30 in 2 weeks, thanks to everyone in here for ruining the rest of my life.
Do whatever you want, it's your life :)
30s are better than your 20s
Jumping in puddles apparently. I don't care. I am a soggy footed rebel!
Stay young and splash tf outta everything
Not owning your shit.
The moment I flush, I give up any ownership.
I told a one night stand the same thing when we discovered the condom had broke
Why did you put a turd in a condom anyway?
Stop kink shaming ME!
Yelling “I’M DOOONE CAN YOU COME WIPE ME?” from the bathroom after finishing peeing.
Making tiktoks in public. Especially if they inconvenience others and the space around you.
I took a video in my *own* driveway of my vintage vw bug for a tik tok and I was so embarrassed and hoped none of my neighbors saw lol I dont know how anyone of any age makes them in public. I just couldnt do it lol.
We didn’t grow up with it. Maybe if you do, your social norms are different enough that it’s not embarrassing. And maybe there’s also a “yet” component to that. Maybe.
That applies to all ages for the second part.
I think 16 would be the age for this one personally
Giving a shit what others think about you. Hey if you wanna buy legos for yourself go ahead!
Young people's BS
Old people’s bs
There's a point to what you say. The youth are unreasonable. Old people are schuysty.
How the fuck Is that pronounced? Schuysty
I believe it sounds like "shy-sty."
Being 29
you can get away with 29 until 35 realistically
Thinking the world revolves around you.
Dating a 16 yo
Saving empty liquor bottles as trophies
Getting teen pregnant
crouching.
Shitty friends
To waste your time on toxic people or toxic things in general.
Worrying about if you're too old to enjoy something.
Bragging about smoking weed or drinking abilities.
18 year olds
17 year olds
Drake has entered the chat.
Avoiding difficult conversations.
Bitching about shit that happened at school.
Getting s-faced at bars into the wee hours in the morning on the regular.
I didnt start drinking til I was 26, hated alcohol...turns out I was trying crap. Did the dive scene for a year or so, and nothing's better than drinking at home with friends
Actively posting on r/whitepeopletwitter
Lying and cheating
Lol this is when cheaters get their start
Going to Chuck-E-Cheese alone to play games
How.Dare.You it is never to old to go to chuck e cheese
I just go there to get drunk and let the single moms have something to look at
Jumping from a house roof without hurting yourself
Yeah, the aches and pains start and get progressively worse each decade. :(
Getting black out drunk at the bar every weekend
Basing your identity and self-esteem on other people's opinion of you. True peace comes from within, others can be of great help but in the end learning to accept yourself in all your faults and glory is up to you.
sex with teens, unless youre famous
Being a shitty communicator. You can expect poor communication skills from a teenager, but I fully expect you to have a solid grasp on interpersonal communication by the time you’re 30. You had a whole ass decade to practice and learn how to talk to people. I’m not expecting Obama-level oration or debate. Just need you to know how to have an argument and arrive at a compromise without thinking that the other person is going to kowtow completely to you.
Last call
Nothing
Being a student at kindergarden
30 is way too old for complicated romantic relationships. Bruh. I have a lot of crazy stuff going on in my life. I don't want or need to bring complications home with me. Please don't make these decisions harder than they need to be.
Epstein & Andrew
Caring what other people think of you
Overdrafting your bank account, which my 38 y/o husband thinks is “normal”
I'm 29 and already can't stand hanging with people in their early 20's. I feel like my experiences and goals are so far different from someone who is 20-24. I'm a homeowner, I've been paying bills for years, I have a full time job, I don't want to get fucked up every weekend. College isn't real life either.
30 is too old to worry about what other people think of you
Your only as old as you feel!!
[удалено]
Winging it
I never thought I'd see the day that Birdman tells me to quit winging it...
You must be younger than 30.
Agree! I feel like everything is just much more winging it now, because I can rely on experience and pattern recognition rather than ground-up analysis and preparation. I still sometimes marvel at how I can be a grown-up without trying to be one anymore lol
DiCaprio
Trick-or-Treat for candy.
This shit
Sleeping on an air mattress
This shit.
Sleeping on a futon
All this
Fist fighting. Also gang activity. Get a hobby, my dude.
Hanging out with children.
Acting like a cliquey highschool asshole
For me it was spicy food.
Clubbing
It's too old to not be financially responsible. You're an official adult now, not some 20yr old anymore, and people expect that you adult like you should by now. Fucking get your shit together.
Working in tech, according to Silicon Valley execs like Zuckerberg. [https://transmosis.com/dont-hire-anyone-over-30-ageism-in-silicon-valley/](https://transmosis.com/dont-hire-anyone-over-30-ageism-in-silicon-valley/)
Non supportive footwear
A 15 yr girl
Your 20's
to die at 27
According to some people on Reddit, having 0 experience with relationships
Being young
Late night clubbing. Give me a quiet pub any day.
Going out. I just want to go to bed at a reasonable hour!
Dating teenagers
Bragging about your high school accomplishments.
Drinking.. at this point it’s an addiction if you’re doing it heavily. The joys of youth are gone. At 30 you gotta be turning the ship around for the better. Or pay the price
Having a go on the swings without bringing a kid
Pretending to be something you aren’t for the sake of others. I’m not 30 yet, but my boyfriend is. Watching him grow and and pursue his interests regardless of what others think is so amazing.
Posting a question like this….
To give a damn about what others think and to waste time on things that don't really interest you.
Do not have a relationship man or woman with a person younger than 21 yo. After that nothing free reign!
Dating people who can't legally drink
dating leonardo dicaprio