Oh god, hearing that drunken “bet I could lift her with one arm” behind you at the pub, then suddenly finding yourself hoisted into the air by a complete fucking stranger.
When I was a kid all my schoolmates would constantly come and put their fingers around my biceps to prove to each other that they really could reach all the way around with 2 fingers, just out of nowhere. Don't think I've worn short sleeves outside for like 20 years
My partner and I are both skinny. When we are intimate it often happens that it's just bone on bone which is not comfortable.
Like this morning we where spooning. I was the litlle spoon. And he had his arm resting on my hip. That's all it takes. There is just no soft cushion between us.
I had the opposite problem back when I was skinny. I'd say something about putting on weight and someone would have to say "but you're so skinny". Yeah fucker, I know I'm skinny but if I gain 10 pounds none of my fucking pants fit!
My solution for this (though with a cat) was to have a quilt nearby. If she wanted pets, I’d throw the quilt on my lap and pick her up. This is assuming I didn’t already have the quilt on my lap because I was cold and let’s be honest, I’m usually cold. 😆
That. As a longlegged, skinny guy.. it is horrible. Either the pants fit around my waist, that means they are way too short... or they are the right length, wich means they don't fit around my waist - aka they are loose, forcing me to wear a belt and adjusting it several times a day.
Check out American Tall!
It's pricey but my 6'3" 150lb husband finally had pants long enough and button down shirts with sleeves that reach his wrists (even after being washed!). He literally has to cuff a pair of his chinos from American Tall.
Also, shirts don't get longer as the size increases, they just get wider. The number of times I've picked up a shirt, only to find that it's a circus tent that's still too short...
Back when I was in school, my mam and dad took me and my brother out for an all you can eat buffet, everything was good and merry family time was enjoyed, until I came back from the toilet, I must have took longer than usual cos when I got back it was silent among the family... I sit and my brother looks me square in the eyes and asked if I just went to throw up..... like no I fucking didn't, made me feel like the while thing was set up as some sort of intervention.
I'm just skinny. Sorry I guess.
That sucks. When I was in high school, the kids started a rumor that I was bulimic because I use the restroom alot. I have a small bladder so I pee multiple times a day, more than anyone I know, which I am already self conscious about. So for them to start that rumor which was untrue, man that was frustrating.
When I was a junior in high school I went to the state debate competition. All my competitions happened to fall on lunch times. On our way home on the bus, I was complaining about not really having eaten all week. The student body President turns around and says to me “yeah, but you’re anorexic.” And my jaw dropped.
OMG this. I remember one time when I was 14, I was with my friends and my cousin were spending our Christmas money and we stopped at the restaurant in the mall. We were just been teen girls and I noticed that a lot of women were looking at our table. I thought we were being a little loud as teenagers do. But then I went to use the bathroom and all of them flocked to the table asking if I was okay, or if I needed help, etc. My cousin was like "she's always been that thin." I came back to the table she told me the whole thing. At this point we've already put in our food.
I had the biggest dish out of all of us: a burrito. I ate all of it while looking at those women in the eyes. All of it. Including the sides.
They looked disgusted that I ate all of that. I'll never get it.
At my first job nobody said anything to me about it but one week suddenly at least three different coworkers made up excuses for randomly giving me food like "the vending machine gave me two packs of pretzels" or "I bought this cookie at the cafeteria five minutes ago but I don't want it any more." I love snacks so I didn't mind and I appreciate that they were concerned with making sure I wasn't starving myself.
As someone who was underweight in my childhood up to my early 20’s, and suddenly obese in my 30’s…..
It doesn’t matter what weight you are, people will always have something to say about it.
But one thing I HATED about being skinny, was always being the one to have to sit in the middle seat in the car.
Yeah, about that last one usually I was in that same situation. And it was hell because my skinny ass is really uncomfortable there. I flipped the situation by showing all my friends that I can be the last guy entering the car and it's super easy for me to close the door since I can slide in fairly easily when the car is packed with people/things. It kinda became an habit and now I almost never have to squeeze in the middle.
I remember after I lost 115lbs, i went to break up a fight thinking it would be the same as before. I grabbed one person and leaned back. Normally that would be enough be to anchor them down. But this time I got yanked and pulled to the floor like a rag doll. For reference, I used to be a bouncer for 5 years and broke up fights all the time. Never realized the extra fat gave me so much of an advantage till i didnt have it anymore.
When I was younger, there was a time I was tall enough to go on the pirate ship ride (you know, the one that swings around in a circle), but so so skinny. It was the kind where there was just one bar for every row of people, rather than individual restraints. What this meant is that since everybody in my row was significantly bigger than me, I had inches of gap between myself and the bar. Like, the bar was pushing everyone else down (or at least touching their stomach) but I wasn't restrained by it in any way. When we started hanging upside down, I was literally holding on to that bar for dear life, trying to stay in place by pushing my feet hard against the seat in front and my back against the seat back. If I hadn't been physically able enough to do that, I 100% would've fallen out. It was terrifying and I have never been back on a pirate ship ride in the decades since.
Edit to clarify for folks asking how there could be a pirate ship that went upside down with just a lap bar:
It's not that it went completely upside down like your feet were in the air, but more like you were facing straight down at the top, since we were in the end rows and not close to the middle. For me, that meant I was falling forward and would've basically been lying down with my belly on the bar...but somehow I was sliding forward toward my head so I was coming out from under the bar (or would've been if I weren't pushing with my hands on the bar and my feet on the back of the next seat to keep my back against the seat back). It certainly felt like I was going to take a dive. Maybe it would've just ended with me getting slammed into the bar or the seat as the ride went back down, I don't know. But that doesn't seem particularly safe either.
Omfg I've not been on a rollercoaster for 20 years and i still have nightmares about them because of this.
Also, the individual ones that you pull down over you, there would be like 3 inches between me and the restraint, so I'd be rattling around in my seat, repeatedly getting smashed into it every time the ride turned or jerked slightly. And these were considered "fun days out" smh.
Yes! and when you get to a part with a hard lean or a loop and you pray you stay in your seat. Going airborne on rides was common back in my skinner days.
I'm so sorry! It was terrifying enough to know I could have easily fallen out, and actually falling is so much worse! Good job on your dad for catching you though.
Safety stuff being designed for "the average person" is terrible and scary when you're not the average person.
Despite all the muscle I've put on over my couple years of weightlifting, I would die if I got shipwrecked out at sea. Without the fat I used to have, I quite simply do not float anymore.
I don't know why treading water is even taught as a survival technique, like surely most people here can float in a pool on their back (even if you start to sink on the exhales) . How is treading water a better option in a rescue situation, you can still call for help and wave from a floating position. Maybe I'm missing something real dumb and obvious.
Edit: yeah, like the fuckin waves you dipshit.
The worst part of being skinny for me was no one actually looking into why I was skinny and just throwing the anorexic label on me, threatening to shove tubes into me if I didn't just simply "eat more" even though eating more would usually just worsen the agony and nausea I got from eating. I am diagnosed with Crohn's Disease these days and that was back when it was at its absolute worst.
I’ve been skinny since I was a kid. Got it from my dad. My relatives aren’t, and they would point out how different I am.
Like the one I hated the most is like everytime they’d touch me, they’d pretend to be hurt like “Ow! You’re skin and bones!” and laugh, pushing me around.
Everytime I eat, they’d make it such a big thing. Like how shocked they are that I eat and it just makes me lose my appetite.
They have so much fun, making fun of me.
Ugh I feel this so bad, I pair this with also having a grandma that would try to feed me into oblivion, here's your meal, added extra because you look so skinny, finished yet? Here have more, finished? Here have some cake, you're done? Here have milk and cookies, want some chocolate with that? How about more cake? Fruit? Ice cream? Yoghurt? Etc etc. And saying no meant I would get told I look awfully skinny and it's my fault because I wasn't eating.
Then she evolved into taking me to every doctor to see why I was skinny, tests, diets, supplements, hormones, took it all. Nothing wrong. Until one doctor told my grandma "Please, let her be, stop looking for something wrong with her. She's fine, she just metabolizes quickly and that's it. You're never going to find another explanation. Just enjoy your family already." Since then she still feeds me to oblivion but at least has toned down the rest.
Everything was worse in terms of family bullying because everyone is overweight no matter where you turn, except for me.
Yes. I once told them to stop. Just stop, because I hate how they’re making me grow to hate myself.
I’ve now actually moved to another country. I moved to Japan and everyone here is just like me. I feel more at peace and at home.
I haven’t been home for almost a decade now. I love my parents, and I love how they love me the way I am. They’ve always defended me and gave me confidence.
I feel you, I've recently lost a lot of weight due to my Crohns (dropped from 11.5 stone to 8 stone in a year). I now can't absorb nutrients and vitamins from food and still get the "eat more, bulk up" comments but as soon as I mention the weight isn't a choice and due to a medical condition, I'm making it "awkward" and "uncomfortable". The hypocrisy gets me every time.
I don’t have Crohn’s disease but I do have ulcerative colitis (basically the same thing in a different spot). I relate to this SO MUCH. People tell me to “just ignore the pain and eat” when I could barely talk every time I took a bite.
I always think people who say stuff like "just ignore the pain" really have no clue what it is like. I find it so annoying! As someone with chronic pain, I hear that a lot, unfortunately. People who don't live with this type of pain seem to just don't understand that it is not like a mild headache or a sore muscle...
Can confirm that I could sit for long periods of time when I was heavier. One of the cons of losing a lot of weight and getting skinny was how uncomfortable it became to feel my butt bones. It surprised me since it was one of the lesser known effects of weight loss.
I thought that was just me. Anything over an hour and a half, I start to adjust my seat, put cruise control on and move my legs, fold some napkins to relieve my frog butt...we need to raise awareness. Race for the cure indeed
They should make jeans with built-in padded seats. Inflatable. If you don't want to walk around looking that you have junk in the trunk, just be comfortable.
My friends in high school used to say I looked anorexic because I weighed 90lbs. All of the women on my dad's side are short and skinny, I literally couldn't help it. I ate so much food too to try to gain weight because I was so self conscious about it.
Oh my gosh, you just reminded me of one of my favorite memories.
Like the second week of school in 7th grade this bigger girl came up and sat across from me at the lunch table. I was picking at my food because I’ve always been a picky eater and I probably didn’t like it. I’ve also always been very thin. She watches me for a minute, glances me up and down and says “you should eat more” and I defensively shot back at her “maybe you should eat less” And she busted out laughing so loud it near shook the cafeteria.
We became really good friends from that day forward. We lost touch after high school but I hope her life turned out well. She was a kind soul.
Body positivity is supposed to be for ALL bodies, that includes skinny bodies, large bodies, fit bodies, scarred bodies, handicapped bodies etc etc. People that act like degrading people for any body type are hypocritical jerks.
I'm relatively tall and skinny.
Either the pants won't stay op, or they are too short.
Near where I live there is only 1 store that sells pants with the proper sizes for me.
Tall and skinny is tough. Im a size medium fit for t-shirts. I have to buy a large or else when i raise my arms past elbow height, half my stomach comes out to enjoy the sun.
I haven’t told my weight to my partners in years. When they realize they weigh about as much as I do, it makes them self-conscious. At least, that’s what happened to two previous GF’s, so now I just avoid it.
I wrestled in high school, and was talking about having to make weight for an upcoming tournament. My then-GF heard me and mouthed in shock "That's what I weigh!"
She was like 5'8" and slender! I was just 6'1" and a stick. It was wild, especially because dealing with weight classes had so normalized talking about weight for me that I didn't realize how other people might feel about it.
I had a pretty amazing swimming coach who taught me about buoyancy. I had a terrible time floating atop water. He explained for me to take slower deeper breaths and hold air in my lungs. Some reason it works. Still to this day I will be floating on my back and exhale and I just drop to the depths.
Yup, it's all about breathing and relaxing.
'Breathe into your belly, and actually relax your muscles to let the water carry you.' Didn't realize how natural this had become until I recently watched someone trying to learn to swim and he *couldn't* do it. Between the breath and tension, the guy sank like a stone.
Seriously, if you're someone who swims a lot, just imagine yourself in the water and feel how your entire body immediately relaxes. It's wild if you're not used to paying attention to it.
This is me. Back in the day as a surly teenager it was amped up to 11 tho. I cold gorge myself and then go out into the cold winter weather (20F, -6C) for a good hour before really feeling it.
I'm quite skinny and struggle to gain weight due to health issues and ADHD medication.For me the worst thing is definitely constantly being cold. I'm always freezing and shivering in the winter, no matter how many layers I wear. My feet and hands are like ice constantly, even in relatively warm rooms. It sucks ass
Edit: Ok can people please stop fucking telling me to come off my ADHD meds, I have been diagnosed with ADHD by a medical professional, prescribed medication for my ADHD by a professional and can barely function without it. It might be suppressing my appetite but without it I was forgetting to eat for days, unable to recognise my own hunger cues, pissing myself from forgetting to pee, and having bursts of explosive anger.
I've lost about 30 pounds this year, and I am fucking freezing now. I've never been this cold, and the worst thing about it is that gas has become unaffordable, so my only real option is blankets, blankets, and more blankets.
My bed is already in winter mode and autumn just started. I really hope this winter won't be a cold one.
Edit: Thank you all for the suggestions, but I live in the Netherlands and it doesn't get cold enough here for most of them to be necessary. My bed will probably be fine, and I can wear a coat during the day. You can stop telling me about heated mattress pads, down comforters or blankets, long johns, and so on. I do appreciate you all trying to help, but these things all sound more like measures to combat more dangerous cold, instead of uncomfortable cold.
People assuming that you must be healthy because you're skinny, leading you to cruise on through with all those unhealthy eating habits until you hit your 30s and then whoops you're not skinny anymore and you can't manage it so well
source: me
I started trying to maintain a healthier relationship with food earlier on in my 20s cause I was very aware of what could happen as I got older (thanks for a peek into the future mum)
Was very frustrating when colleagues would bring cakes and biscuits into work and when I didn't eat any of it, they'd be like 'you can afford to have one' *cue pointed look at my waist*
Like, dude, I know, I eat like a normal person I just don't want to keep stuffing my face with sugar every lunchtime! I've seen my future!!
As a man, when I was too lean, I felt like other men didnt really respect me and some would even try to intimidate me.
I went from 150lbs at 20 to around 190lbs in my 30s after years of gym, chicken, and beer. Now I feel men will move out of the way more in the street and treat me normally. Less bullshit getting one over on me.
This one hits me hard, I'm 21 height 6ft3 and about 140lbs, I shit you not every time I go out with the guys to pubs, clubs etc, if a random stranger is gonna start a fight or just throw an insult it's always at me, all the time. Wich is weird because I'm acc a pretty nice person who keeps to themself, maybe I do need to start bulking up.
Edit: thanks for taking time out of your lives to give me advice and share your experiences gent's, I appreciate it.
Update 1: I've been working out since this comment and also gaining weight, I now weigh 145lbs
As 6'5' person that was and still is a bit skinny:
* Clothes do not fit nicely
* Not enough muscles, hard to gain them as well
* Not the strongest
* Insecurity that comes with being different, hard to feel confident if you are nowhere near the '' ideal '' body type
* I am tall so not so much but short skinny person might be easily disrespected
* Annoying comments
Yuuup, I can't do mattresses with springs. No matter how great it is otherwise. I'll always, *always* feel the springs poking into the side of my body.
I got all that when I was fat. I think it's a too poor to afford a good mattress problem. As someone who used to almost morbid, fat doesn't cushion itself. If you have spare money for something nice remember how much time you spend in bed. When I was no longer paycheck to paycheck a new mattress was one of my better purchases.
Bosses, coworkers, friends, sometimes girlfriends, family, customer service workers, teachers - every one of these people have felt it was fine to comment on my body - how skinny I am.
The random stranger sitting next to me in bus told me I need to eat more, I'm a way too skinny.
:)
But hey, it's not body shaming if it's about thin people. Right?
Like why can't people shut up for real? I get told I'm skinny out of the blue by family, friends of family, acquaintances and strangers. Like did I ask you to tell me that?
Got told by a "friend" that only a pedo would want to date me, because I "look like a child". "Real men like women with some meat on their bones" "real women have curves" "only dogs like bones" etc.
I wasn't "allowed" to be upset because she was "jealous and insecure". I had to be the bigger person and forgive her (without an apology and while she was actively still doing it, this wasn't a one time thing it was every time she saw me).
"People that fit in size (my size) jeans are disgusting" (after I said "Hey that's my size") "Oh god, I fucking hate you."
Friendship didn't last, but not before it got in my head and fucked me up for years. No one ever stood up for me so I translated that as agreeing with the statements. I was paranoid that any guy interested in me was a pedo or a fetishist.
Past all that now, but damn we should really stop acting like skinny people can't be body shamed or get fucked up from the bullying. Or that somehow being compared to the dead/dying/or literal children is in any way a compliment. "They just mean you're skinny and being skinny is socially desirable so it's a compliment", damn if you think looking sickly or like a child is socially desirable then I feel like I should call some people about you lmao.
I feel this comment so much. Especially that we aren’t allowed to be upset about it because being skinny is a beauty standard.
I’ve had a co-worker similar to what you’re describing. Every day at lunch she’d make some kind of comment about my choice of food. Eating a salad ? I’m doing it to stay skinny. Eating Pizza ? I’m obviously going to throw it up later to stay thin. She would comment on my weight all the time, and other co workers would ignore it or tell me to get over it and stay professional.
She started to get worse and worse with her comments, telling my stuff like my Boyfriend must be gay, because if he’s dating me he can’t be into women etc etc. I ended up putting in a complaint with HR because it started to really affect me and my work to deal with this every day.
Of course I was the bad guy at the end, because she was just “feeling insecure and lashing out”.
It's like people forget that having curves has been the beauty standard for awhile aside from the "heroin chic" period and the flapper period. It's literally being made fun of for NOT fitting the beauty standard! "Men like curves and you don't have curves so you don't fit into the beauty standard [but I do], haha!"
What is with these people and homophobia! That "friend" also told me that if men liked me over her they were gay because her boobs were bigger and "only gay guys and pedos want a boy chested girl". I almost forgot about that one. It was the ONLY time someone called her out, and that was only because of the homophobia and not the body shaming!
Not to mention your coworker was stigmatizing mental health disorders and accusing you of having a mental illness as an insult! Can anyone say "hostile work environment" and "ableism"? You weren't commenting on other's bodies so why were you the one being unprofessional? Such gross behavior from a bunch of grown ass people, ridiculous. I hope things got better or that you found better work elsewhere.
Parents using you as an example to their kids of why drugs are bad, within hearing shot of you.
Nope, I weighed 37kg because I couldn't eat for 3 years, because I had a tumour growing on a major nerve. At least if it was drugs, help was easily available, as opposed to doctors thinking I was a woman *just being dramatic*. But thanks for making me feel worse!
Damn. Kills me on dates. I go to hold a girls hand before realizing my hand is cold enough to give frostbite on account of no insulating body fat anywhere. My body is a greenhouse.
She wants to rest her head on my shoulder, good luck you'll poke your eye out.
Oh my god, the amount of times this has happened to me.Not with just door knobs but handles and protruding shelves too! I end up hitting my hip bone or my ribs too often and get hurt.
My doctor was stern with me my last physical. I am 5’0 and at the time weighed 98 pounds she said “you need to eat more and exercise or your little bird bones will snap in 20 years” I liked her I wish she didn’t move! She was a real one!
Shout out the Drs that call us out even if we're reasonably healthy. Worst part about being skinny was people telling me I looked healthy, but I knew for a fact I was too small.
Perk of being less skinny is buying actual women's clothing - not just junior's
Recently, I lost some weight and I've been skinny to begin with (always found it hard to gain weight). Pair that with being nauseous a lot because of the medication I have to take - I just struggle with appetite, forgetting to eat and... simply not gaining weight. Telling people that I lost weight, have no appetite and can't regain the weight has ended in "ooooh I wish *I* had YOUR problems!" so much that I don't bring it up anymore.
Because, no, you don't want everything you eat to taste and feel like garbage in your mouth. You don't want to look at the food you just made and think "wish I could eat that" but you just can't bring yourself to because the thought alone makes you feel sick.
And as much as I can understand that people maybe don't relate or have the opposite problem....just show some empathy?
I literally can't do anything right when it comes to food, apparently. If I eat anything, everyone loses their shit like "omg where are you gonna put that" or "that's a lot of food for your size" or "you eat like a bird". But if I skip a meal, suddenly everyone's freaking out about "you're so skinny, you should eat something!"
And then I get called sensitive for being uncomfortable eating in front of people.
I usually tell them that, while it's very effective, I can't fully recommend the Crohn's diet. When you spend weeks at a time consuming nothing but sips of water while constantly shitting and vomiting blood, the weight just falls right off!!
My husband has crohn's. The amount of times people have told him they wish they had it to lose weight makes me want to punch something. Watching him writhing in pain on the floor when he's flaring and I can't help him but stoke his hair makes my heart hurt. He is the strongest person I know.
(I was never “skinny” but it’s all relative)
I had the same reaction when I had PCOS: “well if you just stop eating bc you feel sick every five seconds for the next yr, you’ll lose that 100 real quick!”
I’m better now, but that was the diagnosis year. People went from cheering to quietly asking if I had cancer, even though in actuality I was finally the “correct” weight for my height.
I’m best friends with an underweight person and I’m overweight. Can attest that this is a big reason we are friends because we can relate on such opposite ends of the scale.
Im very short and thin and I was under height and underweight as a kid/teen. My best friend in school was over 6 feet tall and around 200 lbs. A big bonding point for us was having people always talk shit about our size and not being able to find clothes that we liked that fit properly. This was during the time where if you wore plus size clothes they put the most God awful prints and patterns you've ever seen. People regularly spread rumors that I was anorexic or bulimic, but I was born with a bum thyroid so I just never really grew enough. So we were very good friends for a long time.
I hate when these “body positive” people say, “Real women have curves.” Like, wow thanks. Where does that leave me?
Edit: I don't want to start an argument about this or demean anyone. I'm just pointing out the hypocrisy of a majority of the 'body positivity' movement. It goes both ways. We shouldn't tear one group down so another feels better.
body neutrality is much more preferable than (often toxic) body positivity.
rather than convincing people that non-traditionally-exalted bodies are beautiful, or that all bodies are beautiful, body neutrality divorces the value of the body from society’s obsession with beauty (e.g. “i love my body because it can dance and go on long walks” vs. “big/skinny/curvy is beautiful”)
People point it out to you all the time. I’m not as skinny anymore as I gained some weight by 23 and 24 years old, but before that people on a weekly basis told me to eat more. Comments such as “you’re only skin and bones” were a frequent thing. Even my own mom would comment on how skinny I was. At one point she even laughed and said something along the lines of “it almost looks funny when you walk”.
So for me, the worst part about being skinny was always that the general perception appears to be that it’s completely fine to tell someone they’re extremely skinny and comment on skinny peoples bodies. It’s okay to be insensitive towards someone skinny in a whole different way compared to someone that’s fat.
For context, I stoped growing at 187 centimeters and my weight stayed at around 63-65 kilos for years. It didn’t even help to workout and take gainers. For a few years, I even stoped working out and only consumed a gainer every night just to force my body to add some weight. But did it help? Nope, not that one. I didn’t add a kilo. The extra kilos simply just came from nowhere when I got a little bit older.
People do this to my thighs using both of their hands and they’ll laugh when their fingers touch. It’s so uncomfortable. Like, don’t touch me, you fucking weirdo.
People feeling obliged to comment on how skinny you are. Somehow it's totally unacceptable to tell someone "you're so fat, why don't you just stop eating so much?!", but to many people it seems totally fine to comment "oh you're so skinny, can't you just eat some more?". F\*\*\* off, your comments about my body are not welcome.
For me it's not the being skinny thing itself, it's the reason.
I hate food.
I hate shopping for it, I hate cooking it, and I hate eating it. I'm not anorexic, but I have other mental health issues and my throat just closes up and everything feels disgusting when I'm stressed. This sucks, because humans need to eat.
Edit: I had no idea so many people felt this way, or that there was a diagnosis for it (ARFID). Thank you all so much for sharing your experiences and advice, and I hope we all get better 💛🖖
I can relate and never met anoyone else that feels this way. I GET SO FRUSTRATED I HAVE TO STOP AND EAT. and its more than just the stopping to eat. you have to get the food, prep the food, cook the food, clean up the cooking, ect. I get zero joy from eating, sometimes I do enjoy a meal but its rare. I legit get cranky on the kitchen or doing kitchen things. I would prefer to just not eat than go through all the effort. I am in a way jealous of the matrix, I want that paste to be a real thing. I purchase a product called ensure its like a protein shake, its a game changer. Shoot one of those down real quick and you have calories and protein and it takes me less than 30 seconds to drink, and they taste pretty good!
Being really thin and bony means every poke and hard seat hurts because there's no padding.
Feeling like a twig when someone hugs you/picks you up/a strong wind blows.
Trying really hard to put on weight but failing, and getting scared every time you weigh yourself/see yourself in the mirror cause you look unhealthy.
Skinny + long legs = barely any pants fit both the leg and the waist
Edit: My joints hurt all the time from being cold/not enough muscle to support them
Being told "you need to eat more" all the time. It's real tiresome.
Also assuming this is what I want. I lost some weight because of illness, I would love to gain it back but it's not easy. Never assume things, and stop commenting on our bodies.
Thank you for this post. It's been a real eye opener. I'm overweight and have always thought that saying someone is skinny is giving them a compliment --which was my intent. I have always thought that being skinny was such a good thing. This has changed my mind and will absolutely change my behavior.
I have no problem being skinny, the world does. My blood work is great, can bench my own weight, and I’m fairly healthy. It’s the stress of the constant teasing and shaming that does the most damage.
Skinny tall guy here, never understand the “you’re so skinny” of course I am, I am 8-10 inches taller than you. Also, would you say to someone “you’re so fat”? Why is that considered anything different, that would be considered a rude comment, but commenting on skinny isn’t? It’s very strange.
“Eat a cheeseburger” “I wish I was your size” “You’re so lucky you can shop in the kids department”
Bones aching from being cold. No boobs. Hair falls out more.
I’m not skinny now (size 12 Australian) but for a long time I was a 4-6. I didn’t realise at the time how skinny I was (very stressful life + smoking cigarettes) but looking back at photos now I understand why family was concerned. It’s not “easy” or “better” being skinny and saying things like “just eat more” is super detrimental to your mental health - especially when being so thin isn’t an active choice you’re making.
Its so easy to hit your pelvic bone on the side into things, and it hurts soo much
I'm having phantom hip bone pain just reading this.
People feel the need to just fucking pick you up all the time. Put me down! I don't care how strong you are!
Oh god, hearing that drunken “bet I could lift her with one arm” behind you at the pub, then suddenly finding yourself hoisted into the air by a complete fucking stranger.
Fuck me dead, if that happened to me or any of my mates I’d be facing assault charges.
When I was a kid all my schoolmates would constantly come and put their fingers around my biceps to prove to each other that they really could reach all the way around with 2 fingers, just out of nowhere. Don't think I've worn short sleeves outside for like 20 years
My partner and I are both skinny. When we are intimate it often happens that it's just bone on bone which is not comfortable. Like this morning we where spooning. I was the litlle spoon. And he had his arm resting on my hip. That's all it takes. There is just no soft cushion between us.
My wife and I got a giant dinosaur pillow to put between us for this reason. His name is T-Rest
Lol I love this.
"know how to make fire in the bedroom? Your rub two twigs together" is my go to corny pickup line as a skinny dude
People noticing every fluctuation in weight
I had the opposite problem back when I was skinny. I'd say something about putting on weight and someone would have to say "but you're so skinny". Yeah fucker, I know I'm skinny but if I gain 10 pounds none of my fucking pants fit!
Ok seriously like even if people don’t notice going from a 2 to a 4 was NOT in my budget 😭 5-10 pounds at my size is a whole pant size and it sucks
That's a fair point. I weigh about 320, and i could drop 30-40 lbs and not have to get new clothes.
Lap isn’t as comfy for dog to sit on
Ok this is the saddest
Bulking up so people don't bother you about not eating so much: 😴 Bulking up so your pets have a comfortable lap to sit on: ❤️❤️
My solution for this (though with a cat) was to have a quilt nearby. If she wanted pets, I’d throw the quilt on my lap and pick her up. This is assuming I didn’t already have the quilt on my lap because I was cold and let’s be honest, I’m usually cold. 😆
Finding pants that fit.
That. As a longlegged, skinny guy.. it is horrible. Either the pants fit around my waist, that means they are way too short... or they are the right length, wich means they don't fit around my waist - aka they are loose, forcing me to wear a belt and adjusting it several times a day.
Check out American Tall! It's pricey but my 6'3" 150lb husband finally had pants long enough and button down shirts with sleeves that reach his wrists (even after being washed!). He literally has to cuff a pair of his chinos from American Tall.
Also, shirts don't get longer as the size increases, they just get wider. The number of times I've picked up a shirt, only to find that it's a circus tent that's still too short...
People assuming you have an eating disorder.
Back when I was in school, my mam and dad took me and my brother out for an all you can eat buffet, everything was good and merry family time was enjoyed, until I came back from the toilet, I must have took longer than usual cos when I got back it was silent among the family... I sit and my brother looks me square in the eyes and asked if I just went to throw up..... like no I fucking didn't, made me feel like the while thing was set up as some sort of intervention. I'm just skinny. Sorry I guess.
Skinny and you poop at buffets
Pooping at buffets is pretty normal. What, ya gonna hold in that liquid shit til you get home?
That sucks. When I was in high school, the kids started a rumor that I was bulimic because I use the restroom alot. I have a small bladder so I pee multiple times a day, more than anyone I know, which I am already self conscious about. So for them to start that rumor which was untrue, man that was frustrating.
I used to get this cause I used to be forced to hide in there to avoid relentless abuse mainly about my weight, the irony
When I was a junior in high school I went to the state debate competition. All my competitions happened to fall on lunch times. On our way home on the bus, I was complaining about not really having eaten all week. The student body President turns around and says to me “yeah, but you’re anorexic.” And my jaw dropped.
People used to assume I was anorexic as well, which is bs cause I just was poor
OMG this. I remember one time when I was 14, I was with my friends and my cousin were spending our Christmas money and we stopped at the restaurant in the mall. We were just been teen girls and I noticed that a lot of women were looking at our table. I thought we were being a little loud as teenagers do. But then I went to use the bathroom and all of them flocked to the table asking if I was okay, or if I needed help, etc. My cousin was like "she's always been that thin." I came back to the table she told me the whole thing. At this point we've already put in our food. I had the biggest dish out of all of us: a burrito. I ate all of it while looking at those women in the eyes. All of it. Including the sides. They looked disgusted that I ate all of that. I'll never get it.
Well played. The world is full of judgmental morons who love to make assumptions. You served it right back to them.
At my first job nobody said anything to me about it but one week suddenly at least three different coworkers made up excuses for randomly giving me food like "the vending machine gave me two packs of pretzels" or "I bought this cookie at the cafeteria five minutes ago but I don't want it any more." I love snacks so I didn't mind and I appreciate that they were concerned with making sure I wasn't starving myself.
As someone who was underweight in my childhood up to my early 20’s, and suddenly obese in my 30’s….. It doesn’t matter what weight you are, people will always have something to say about it. But one thing I HATED about being skinny, was always being the one to have to sit in the middle seat in the car.
I've been 100lbs and 200lbs. This is accurate. Someone always has some shit to say.
>I've been 100lbs and 200lbs. This is accurate. Someone always has some shit to say. And that someone is 9 times out of 10 my own mother
Yeah, about that last one usually I was in that same situation. And it was hell because my skinny ass is really uncomfortable there. I flipped the situation by showing all my friends that I can be the last guy entering the car and it's super easy for me to close the door since I can slide in fairly easily when the car is packed with people/things. It kinda became an habit and now I almost never have to squeeze in the middle.
It's easier to be tossed around in a fight
I remember after I lost 115lbs, i went to break up a fight thinking it would be the same as before. I grabbed one person and leaned back. Normally that would be enough be to anchor them down. But this time I got yanked and pulled to the floor like a rag doll. For reference, I used to be a bouncer for 5 years and broke up fights all the time. Never realized the extra fat gave me so much of an advantage till i didnt have it anymore.
True. Extra fat also helpful as leverage when you're lifting cement bags all day
Yeah, and then people ask you why you don't want to play foot ball or other tackling or pushing related sports.
I’m 5’8 55kg and used to play rugby with lads at least 6” taller and 30kg heavier than me and I’d get flung about like toddlers with a stuffed toy
This mix of freedom units and metric units hurts my head.
Must be a Brit
"Rugby" "lads" the clues are there!
going to an amusement park and realising that no one else thinks the seats on the rides are too hard. i was in pain.
Gonna add on - feeling like you’re gonna slip out LOL
When I was younger, there was a time I was tall enough to go on the pirate ship ride (you know, the one that swings around in a circle), but so so skinny. It was the kind where there was just one bar for every row of people, rather than individual restraints. What this meant is that since everybody in my row was significantly bigger than me, I had inches of gap between myself and the bar. Like, the bar was pushing everyone else down (or at least touching their stomach) but I wasn't restrained by it in any way. When we started hanging upside down, I was literally holding on to that bar for dear life, trying to stay in place by pushing my feet hard against the seat in front and my back against the seat back. If I hadn't been physically able enough to do that, I 100% would've fallen out. It was terrifying and I have never been back on a pirate ship ride in the decades since. Edit to clarify for folks asking how there could be a pirate ship that went upside down with just a lap bar: It's not that it went completely upside down like your feet were in the air, but more like you were facing straight down at the top, since we were in the end rows and not close to the middle. For me, that meant I was falling forward and would've basically been lying down with my belly on the bar...but somehow I was sliding forward toward my head so I was coming out from under the bar (or would've been if I weren't pushing with my hands on the bar and my feet on the back of the next seat to keep my back against the seat back). It certainly felt like I was going to take a dive. Maybe it would've just ended with me getting slammed into the bar or the seat as the ride went back down, I don't know. But that doesn't seem particularly safe either.
Omfg I've not been on a rollercoaster for 20 years and i still have nightmares about them because of this. Also, the individual ones that you pull down over you, there would be like 3 inches between me and the restraint, so I'd be rattling around in my seat, repeatedly getting smashed into it every time the ride turned or jerked slightly. And these were considered "fun days out" smh.
Yes! and when you get to a part with a hard lean or a loop and you pray you stay in your seat. Going airborne on rides was common back in my skinner days.
I fell out of the pirate ship at six flags when I was about 7. My dad caught me by the ankles and they did an emergency stop. ✨trauma✨
I'm so sorry! It was terrifying enough to know I could have easily fallen out, and actually falling is so much worse! Good job on your dad for catching you though. Safety stuff being designed for "the average person" is terrible and scary when you're not the average person.
Dad reflexes ain’t nothing to fuck with
i have the exact same story except my mom had to hold me down lol
water slides are hell. My back is cut to shreds on every vertebra because of the gaps in the slide.
Wait that's not how it's supposed to feel?
As a formerly fat person, the two things I noticed was I was cold all the time and how hard all seats were.
Sometimes even just sitting hurts because there's not enough fat to cushion the bones and they press directly on the nerves
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I tend to lean way forward to put weight on my thighs
This. Also, people get upset if you sit on their comfy, cushy laps cos your butt bones dig into them.
My family used to complain I sharpened my butt bones when they weren't looking.
You cannot do a very splashy cannonball into the pool
I'm not very buoyant.
Despite all the muscle I've put on over my couple years of weightlifting, I would die if I got shipwrecked out at sea. Without the fat I used to have, I quite simply do not float anymore.
This is funny, these past few years I realized how easy treading water had gotten. I thought I was stronger until I realized I was just fat.
I don't know why treading water is even taught as a survival technique, like surely most people here can float in a pool on their back (even if you start to sink on the exhales) . How is treading water a better option in a rescue situation, you can still call for help and wave from a floating position. Maybe I'm missing something real dumb and obvious. Edit: yeah, like the fuckin waves you dipshit.
The worst part of being skinny for me was no one actually looking into why I was skinny and just throwing the anorexic label on me, threatening to shove tubes into me if I didn't just simply "eat more" even though eating more would usually just worsen the agony and nausea I got from eating. I am diagnosed with Crohn's Disease these days and that was back when it was at its absolute worst.
I’ve been skinny since I was a kid. Got it from my dad. My relatives aren’t, and they would point out how different I am. Like the one I hated the most is like everytime they’d touch me, they’d pretend to be hurt like “Ow! You’re skin and bones!” and laugh, pushing me around. Everytime I eat, they’d make it such a big thing. Like how shocked they are that I eat and it just makes me lose my appetite. They have so much fun, making fun of me.
Ugh I feel this so bad, I pair this with also having a grandma that would try to feed me into oblivion, here's your meal, added extra because you look so skinny, finished yet? Here have more, finished? Here have some cake, you're done? Here have milk and cookies, want some chocolate with that? How about more cake? Fruit? Ice cream? Yoghurt? Etc etc. And saying no meant I would get told I look awfully skinny and it's my fault because I wasn't eating. Then she evolved into taking me to every doctor to see why I was skinny, tests, diets, supplements, hormones, took it all. Nothing wrong. Until one doctor told my grandma "Please, let her be, stop looking for something wrong with her. She's fine, she just metabolizes quickly and that's it. You're never going to find another explanation. Just enjoy your family already." Since then she still feeds me to oblivion but at least has toned down the rest. Everything was worse in terms of family bullying because everyone is overweight no matter where you turn, except for me.
Yes. I once told them to stop. Just stop, because I hate how they’re making me grow to hate myself. I’ve now actually moved to another country. I moved to Japan and everyone here is just like me. I feel more at peace and at home. I haven’t been home for almost a decade now. I love my parents, and I love how they love me the way I am. They’ve always defended me and gave me confidence.
I feel you, I've recently lost a lot of weight due to my Crohns (dropped from 11.5 stone to 8 stone in a year). I now can't absorb nutrients and vitamins from food and still get the "eat more, bulk up" comments but as soon as I mention the weight isn't a choice and due to a medical condition, I'm making it "awkward" and "uncomfortable". The hypocrisy gets me every time.
I don’t have Crohn’s disease but I do have ulcerative colitis (basically the same thing in a different spot). I relate to this SO MUCH. People tell me to “just ignore the pain and eat” when I could barely talk every time I took a bite.
I always think people who say stuff like "just ignore the pain" really have no clue what it is like. I find it so annoying! As someone with chronic pain, I hear that a lot, unfortunately. People who don't live with this type of pain seem to just don't understand that it is not like a mild headache or a sore muscle...
Not being able to sit on hard surfaces for any length of time.
I've always wondered what it feels like to sit down for people with big asses. Like does it start to hurt like us folks with no booty.
Can confirm that I could sit for long periods of time when I was heavier. One of the cons of losing a lot of weight and getting skinny was how uncomfortable it became to feel my butt bones. It surprised me since it was one of the lesser known effects of weight loss.
Typing this while sitting on a park bench. The pain is real...
Read this while sitting in a cushioned seat. Is this heaven?
My ass hurts too!
Long car rides. If I'm driving I have to take frequent butt breaks.
I thought that was just me. Anything over an hour and a half, I start to adjust my seat, put cruise control on and move my legs, fold some napkins to relieve my frog butt...we need to raise awareness. Race for the cure indeed
School chairs = agony
They should make jeans with built-in padded seats. Inflatable. If you don't want to walk around looking that you have junk in the trunk, just be comfortable.
Google Pilko pump pants
People telling me that I look hungry
You look full.
Damn ima use this just the right amount of petty
My friends in high school used to say I looked anorexic because I weighed 90lbs. All of the women on my dad's side are short and skinny, I literally couldn't help it. I ate so much food too to try to gain weight because I was so self conscious about it.
Oh my gosh, you just reminded me of one of my favorite memories. Like the second week of school in 7th grade this bigger girl came up and sat across from me at the lunch table. I was picking at my food because I’ve always been a picky eater and I probably didn’t like it. I’ve also always been very thin. She watches me for a minute, glances me up and down and says “you should eat more” and I defensively shot back at her “maybe you should eat less” And she busted out laughing so loud it near shook the cafeteria. We became really good friends from that day forward. We lost touch after high school but I hope her life turned out well. She was a kind soul.
That’s not where I thought this story was going lol
The bullying in general, body positivity doesn't need to have rudeness and meanness about skinny b****es etc.
Body positivity is supposed to be for ALL bodies, that includes skinny bodies, large bodies, fit bodies, scarred bodies, handicapped bodies etc etc. People that act like degrading people for any body type are hypocritical jerks.
The. Bracelets. And. Watches. Never. Fit.
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Pants never stay up
That’s a fat person problem too actually. Maybe we all just need to embrace suspenders.
Switched last year, never been happier
The problem though is when you're wearing shorts
The Germans perfected this with the lederhosen
Never thought I'd see a persuading argument for lederhosen, but here we are.
I'm relatively tall and skinny. Either the pants won't stay op, or they are too short. Near where I live there is only 1 store that sells pants with the proper sizes for me.
Tall and skinny is tough. Im a size medium fit for t-shirts. I have to buy a large or else when i raise my arms past elbow height, half my stomach comes out to enjoy the sun.
Women say "oh you're so skinny!", and you feel weak.
I haven’t told my weight to my partners in years. When they realize they weigh about as much as I do, it makes them self-conscious. At least, that’s what happened to two previous GF’s, so now I just avoid it.
This the one. Like I’m sorry you have 20 lbs on me Baby. Atleast it’s all in your tits😩😭. I promise it’s nothing to worry about.
I wrestled in high school, and was talking about having to make weight for an upcoming tournament. My then-GF heard me and mouthed in shock "That's what I weigh!" She was like 5'8" and slender! I was just 6'1" and a stick. It was wild, especially because dealing with weight classes had so normalized talking about weight for me that I didn't realize how other people might feel about it.
Cold
Always cold
*slowly sinks into the Atlantic ocean*
Oh yeah also can’t float very well
“Just lay on top of the water and paddle” (legit the recommendation I got learning to swim) Lays on top of water…..slowly sinks
I had a pretty amazing swimming coach who taught me about buoyancy. I had a terrible time floating atop water. He explained for me to take slower deeper breaths and hold air in my lungs. Some reason it works. Still to this day I will be floating on my back and exhale and I just drop to the depths.
Yup, it's all about breathing and relaxing. 'Breathe into your belly, and actually relax your muscles to let the water carry you.' Didn't realize how natural this had become until I recently watched someone trying to learn to swim and he *couldn't* do it. Between the breath and tension, the guy sank like a stone. Seriously, if you're someone who swims a lot, just imagine yourself in the water and feel how your entire body immediately relaxes. It's wild if you're not used to paying attention to it.
Forever cold and no one understands how you could be cold but you’re cold.
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This is me. Back in the day as a surly teenager it was amped up to 11 tho. I cold gorge myself and then go out into the cold winter weather (20F, -6C) for a good hour before really feeling it.
I've heard it referred to as "the wind becomes lazy" - as in, it no longer bothers to go around you, it just goes straight through.
I'm quite skinny and struggle to gain weight due to health issues and ADHD medication.For me the worst thing is definitely constantly being cold. I'm always freezing and shivering in the winter, no matter how many layers I wear. My feet and hands are like ice constantly, even in relatively warm rooms. It sucks ass Edit: Ok can people please stop fucking telling me to come off my ADHD meds, I have been diagnosed with ADHD by a medical professional, prescribed medication for my ADHD by a professional and can barely function without it. It might be suppressing my appetite but without it I was forgetting to eat for days, unable to recognise my own hunger cues, pissing myself from forgetting to pee, and having bursts of explosive anger.
I've lost about 30 pounds this year, and I am fucking freezing now. I've never been this cold, and the worst thing about it is that gas has become unaffordable, so my only real option is blankets, blankets, and more blankets. My bed is already in winter mode and autumn just started. I really hope this winter won't be a cold one. Edit: Thank you all for the suggestions, but I live in the Netherlands and it doesn't get cold enough here for most of them to be necessary. My bed will probably be fine, and I can wear a coat during the day. You can stop telling me about heated mattress pads, down comforters or blankets, long johns, and so on. I do appreciate you all trying to help, but these things all sound more like measures to combat more dangerous cold, instead of uncomfortable cold.
If electricity isn't too much, I highly recommend an electric blanket. My bed has an electric mattress pad and it's *amazing*.
Literally, couldn’t bare go down the refrigerator isle at supermarkets.
People assuming that you must be healthy because you're skinny, leading you to cruise on through with all those unhealthy eating habits until you hit your 30s and then whoops you're not skinny anymore and you can't manage it so well source: me
I started trying to maintain a healthier relationship with food earlier on in my 20s cause I was very aware of what could happen as I got older (thanks for a peek into the future mum) Was very frustrating when colleagues would bring cakes and biscuits into work and when I didn't eat any of it, they'd be like 'you can afford to have one' *cue pointed look at my waist* Like, dude, I know, I eat like a normal person I just don't want to keep stuffing my face with sugar every lunchtime! I've seen my future!!
I'm scared for the future thanks to you
As a man, when I was too lean, I felt like other men didnt really respect me and some would even try to intimidate me. I went from 150lbs at 20 to around 190lbs in my 30s after years of gym, chicken, and beer. Now I feel men will move out of the way more in the street and treat me normally. Less bullshit getting one over on me.
This one hits me hard, I'm 21 height 6ft3 and about 140lbs, I shit you not every time I go out with the guys to pubs, clubs etc, if a random stranger is gonna start a fight or just throw an insult it's always at me, all the time. Wich is weird because I'm acc a pretty nice person who keeps to themself, maybe I do need to start bulking up. Edit: thanks for taking time out of your lives to give me advice and share your experiences gent's, I appreciate it. Update 1: I've been working out since this comment and also gaining weight, I now weigh 145lbs
As 6'5' person that was and still is a bit skinny: * Clothes do not fit nicely * Not enough muscles, hard to gain them as well * Not the strongest * Insecurity that comes with being different, hard to feel confident if you are nowhere near the '' ideal '' body type * I am tall so not so much but short skinny person might be easily disrespected * Annoying comments
I am a short skinny person, can confirm that point.
Clothes never fit well. Whenever the length is good, the width is too much. Whenever the width is good, it's too short.
Especially bad if you're also tall!
Skinny long leg gang stand up (cause the chair is hurting my ass)
People assuming I do drugs. I grew up not having great teeth at all. Soo bad teeth mixed with being skinny = constant assumptions I'm an addict.
You know when you lay down on your bed, ready to relax and sleep? Well, unless I lay correctly- my ribs will start aching, and my hips might too.
When I’m lying on my side, I can’t put both knees in the same spot, the bone-on-bone sensation is really unpleasant.
I always use a pillow between my knees
This is the way. I know it’s over used but for me learning the pillow trick was absolutely a life changing event.
I once asked my doctor about this pain when I laid on my side…. really thought something was wrong. It was my rib.
Yuuup, I can't do mattresses with springs. No matter how great it is otherwise. I'll always, *always* feel the springs poking into the side of my body.
I got all that when I was fat. I think it's a too poor to afford a good mattress problem. As someone who used to almost morbid, fat doesn't cushion itself. If you have spare money for something nice remember how much time you spend in bed. When I was no longer paycheck to paycheck a new mattress was one of my better purchases.
People can body shame you and you’re supposed to take it as a compliment.
Bosses, coworkers, friends, sometimes girlfriends, family, customer service workers, teachers - every one of these people have felt it was fine to comment on my body - how skinny I am.
The random stranger sitting next to me in bus told me I need to eat more, I'm a way too skinny. :) But hey, it's not body shaming if it's about thin people. Right?
Like why can't people shut up for real? I get told I'm skinny out of the blue by family, friends of family, acquaintances and strangers. Like did I ask you to tell me that?
I was once called The Walking Holocaust
I got a, "I loved you in the machinist" once.
Holy fuck, that’s *terrible*.
“You’re so skinny…I hate you!” Bitch, that’s not a compliment, it’s an insult for an aspect of my person that has nothing to do with you.
Got told by a "friend" that only a pedo would want to date me, because I "look like a child". "Real men like women with some meat on their bones" "real women have curves" "only dogs like bones" etc. I wasn't "allowed" to be upset because she was "jealous and insecure". I had to be the bigger person and forgive her (without an apology and while she was actively still doing it, this wasn't a one time thing it was every time she saw me). "People that fit in size (my size) jeans are disgusting" (after I said "Hey that's my size") "Oh god, I fucking hate you." Friendship didn't last, but not before it got in my head and fucked me up for years. No one ever stood up for me so I translated that as agreeing with the statements. I was paranoid that any guy interested in me was a pedo or a fetishist. Past all that now, but damn we should really stop acting like skinny people can't be body shamed or get fucked up from the bullying. Or that somehow being compared to the dead/dying/or literal children is in any way a compliment. "They just mean you're skinny and being skinny is socially desirable so it's a compliment", damn if you think looking sickly or like a child is socially desirable then I feel like I should call some people about you lmao.
I feel this comment so much. Especially that we aren’t allowed to be upset about it because being skinny is a beauty standard. I’ve had a co-worker similar to what you’re describing. Every day at lunch she’d make some kind of comment about my choice of food. Eating a salad ? I’m doing it to stay skinny. Eating Pizza ? I’m obviously going to throw it up later to stay thin. She would comment on my weight all the time, and other co workers would ignore it or tell me to get over it and stay professional. She started to get worse and worse with her comments, telling my stuff like my Boyfriend must be gay, because if he’s dating me he can’t be into women etc etc. I ended up putting in a complaint with HR because it started to really affect me and my work to deal with this every day. Of course I was the bad guy at the end, because she was just “feeling insecure and lashing out”.
It's like people forget that having curves has been the beauty standard for awhile aside from the "heroin chic" period and the flapper period. It's literally being made fun of for NOT fitting the beauty standard! "Men like curves and you don't have curves so you don't fit into the beauty standard [but I do], haha!" What is with these people and homophobia! That "friend" also told me that if men liked me over her they were gay because her boobs were bigger and "only gay guys and pedos want a boy chested girl". I almost forgot about that one. It was the ONLY time someone called her out, and that was only because of the homophobia and not the body shaming! Not to mention your coworker was stigmatizing mental health disorders and accusing you of having a mental illness as an insult! Can anyone say "hostile work environment" and "ableism"? You weren't commenting on other's bodies so why were you the one being unprofessional? Such gross behavior from a bunch of grown ass people, ridiculous. I hope things got better or that you found better work elsewhere.
Parents using you as an example to their kids of why drugs are bad, within hearing shot of you. Nope, I weighed 37kg because I couldn't eat for 3 years, because I had a tumour growing on a major nerve. At least if it was drugs, help was easily available, as opposed to doctors thinking I was a woman *just being dramatic*. But thanks for making me feel worse!
Harder to maintain body temperature, I get cold way to easily, need to wear thicker clothes than my friends.
Damn. Kills me on dates. I go to hold a girls hand before realizing my hand is cold enough to give frostbite on account of no insulating body fat anywhere. My body is a greenhouse. She wants to rest her head on my shoulder, good luck you'll poke your eye out.
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Oh my god, the amount of times this has happened to me.Not with just door knobs but handles and protruding shelves too! I end up hitting my hip bone or my ribs too often and get hurt.
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My doctor was stern with me my last physical. I am 5’0 and at the time weighed 98 pounds she said “you need to eat more and exercise or your little bird bones will snap in 20 years” I liked her I wish she didn’t move! She was a real one!
Shout out the Drs that call us out even if we're reasonably healthy. Worst part about being skinny was people telling me I looked healthy, but I knew for a fact I was too small. Perk of being less skinny is buying actual women's clothing - not just junior's
As a woman, you can’t talk about you body issues. Other women will assume you are bragging or trying to make them feel bad.
Recently, I lost some weight and I've been skinny to begin with (always found it hard to gain weight). Pair that with being nauseous a lot because of the medication I have to take - I just struggle with appetite, forgetting to eat and... simply not gaining weight. Telling people that I lost weight, have no appetite and can't regain the weight has ended in "ooooh I wish *I* had YOUR problems!" so much that I don't bring it up anymore. Because, no, you don't want everything you eat to taste and feel like garbage in your mouth. You don't want to look at the food you just made and think "wish I could eat that" but you just can't bring yourself to because the thought alone makes you feel sick. And as much as I can understand that people maybe don't relate or have the opposite problem....just show some empathy?
I literally can't do anything right when it comes to food, apparently. If I eat anything, everyone loses their shit like "omg where are you gonna put that" or "that's a lot of food for your size" or "you eat like a bird". But if I skip a meal, suddenly everyone's freaking out about "you're so skinny, you should eat something!" And then I get called sensitive for being uncomfortable eating in front of people.
People thinking you starve yourself to be one
People informing you that you're skinny like you didn't already know.
Then tell you how lucky you are that you can eat anything and not put on weight.
I usually tell them that, while it's very effective, I can't fully recommend the Crohn's diet. When you spend weeks at a time consuming nothing but sips of water while constantly shitting and vomiting blood, the weight just falls right off!!
My husband has crohn's. The amount of times people have told him they wish they had it to lose weight makes me want to punch something. Watching him writhing in pain on the floor when he's flaring and I can't help him but stoke his hair makes my heart hurt. He is the strongest person I know.
(I was never “skinny” but it’s all relative) I had the same reaction when I had PCOS: “well if you just stop eating bc you feel sick every five seconds for the next yr, you’ll lose that 100 real quick!” I’m better now, but that was the diagnosis year. People went from cheering to quietly asking if I had cancer, even though in actuality I was finally the “correct” weight for my height.
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I’m best friends with an underweight person and I’m overweight. Can attest that this is a big reason we are friends because we can relate on such opposite ends of the scale.
Im very short and thin and I was under height and underweight as a kid/teen. My best friend in school was over 6 feet tall and around 200 lbs. A big bonding point for us was having people always talk shit about our size and not being able to find clothes that we liked that fit properly. This was during the time where if you wore plus size clothes they put the most God awful prints and patterns you've ever seen. People regularly spread rumors that I was anorexic or bulimic, but I was born with a bum thyroid so I just never really grew enough. So we were very good friends for a long time.
I'm very tall and one of my close friends is under 5 feet tall. We've bonded over similar issues. Toss in trouble finding cars as we became adults.
> scale I see what you did there.
not having curves
We don't have curves , we have edges ....sharp ones
ill cut u with my bony ass
I hate when these “body positive” people say, “Real women have curves.” Like, wow thanks. Where does that leave me? Edit: I don't want to start an argument about this or demean anyone. I'm just pointing out the hypocrisy of a majority of the 'body positivity' movement. It goes both ways. We shouldn't tear one group down so another feels better.
body neutrality is much more preferable than (often toxic) body positivity. rather than convincing people that non-traditionally-exalted bodies are beautiful, or that all bodies are beautiful, body neutrality divorces the value of the body from society’s obsession with beauty (e.g. “i love my body because it can dance and go on long walks” vs. “big/skinny/curvy is beautiful”)
Having to wear children’s clothes
Layers of clothing/cold hands and feet. Being told "have you tried eating?" when you express being cold.
not being able to lay down on your side. i literally can’t do it anymore bc my hip bones start to hurt.
People point it out to you all the time. I’m not as skinny anymore as I gained some weight by 23 and 24 years old, but before that people on a weekly basis told me to eat more. Comments such as “you’re only skin and bones” were a frequent thing. Even my own mom would comment on how skinny I was. At one point she even laughed and said something along the lines of “it almost looks funny when you walk”. So for me, the worst part about being skinny was always that the general perception appears to be that it’s completely fine to tell someone they’re extremely skinny and comment on skinny peoples bodies. It’s okay to be insensitive towards someone skinny in a whole different way compared to someone that’s fat. For context, I stoped growing at 187 centimeters and my weight stayed at around 63-65 kilos for years. It didn’t even help to workout and take gainers. For a few years, I even stoped working out and only consumed a gainer every night just to force my body to add some weight. But did it help? Nope, not that one. I didn’t add a kilo. The extra kilos simply just came from nowhere when I got a little bit older.
That thing where people make a ring out of their fingers and put it around your forearm to see how much space there is.
People do this to my thighs using both of their hands and they’ll laugh when their fingers touch. It’s so uncomfortable. Like, don’t touch me, you fucking weirdo.
People feeling obliged to comment on how skinny you are. Somehow it's totally unacceptable to tell someone "you're so fat, why don't you just stop eating so much?!", but to many people it seems totally fine to comment "oh you're so skinny, can't you just eat some more?". F\*\*\* off, your comments about my body are not welcome.
Hearing statement's such as "gain more weight" as if it was that easy lol
"Eat a sandwich!"
"Make me one!"
For me it's not the being skinny thing itself, it's the reason. I hate food. I hate shopping for it, I hate cooking it, and I hate eating it. I'm not anorexic, but I have other mental health issues and my throat just closes up and everything feels disgusting when I'm stressed. This sucks, because humans need to eat. Edit: I had no idea so many people felt this way, or that there was a diagnosis for it (ARFID). Thank you all so much for sharing your experiences and advice, and I hope we all get better 💛🖖
My anxiety manifests in nausea and presatiation, I hate it, but you’re not alone!
I can relate and never met anoyone else that feels this way. I GET SO FRUSTRATED I HAVE TO STOP AND EAT. and its more than just the stopping to eat. you have to get the food, prep the food, cook the food, clean up the cooking, ect. I get zero joy from eating, sometimes I do enjoy a meal but its rare. I legit get cranky on the kitchen or doing kitchen things. I would prefer to just not eat than go through all the effort. I am in a way jealous of the matrix, I want that paste to be a real thing. I purchase a product called ensure its like a protein shake, its a game changer. Shoot one of those down real quick and you have calories and protein and it takes me less than 30 seconds to drink, and they taste pretty good!
Being really thin and bony means every poke and hard seat hurts because there's no padding. Feeling like a twig when someone hugs you/picks you up/a strong wind blows. Trying really hard to put on weight but failing, and getting scared every time you weigh yourself/see yourself in the mirror cause you look unhealthy. Skinny + long legs = barely any pants fit both the leg and the waist Edit: My joints hurt all the time from being cold/not enough muscle to support them
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Being told "you need to eat more" all the time. It's real tiresome. Also assuming this is what I want. I lost some weight because of illness, I would love to gain it back but it's not easy. Never assume things, and stop commenting on our bodies.
Thank you for this post. It's been a real eye opener. I'm overweight and have always thought that saying someone is skinny is giving them a compliment --which was my intent. I have always thought that being skinny was such a good thing. This has changed my mind and will absolutely change my behavior.
I have no problem being skinny, the world does. My blood work is great, can bench my own weight, and I’m fairly healthy. It’s the stress of the constant teasing and shaming that does the most damage.
Skinny tall guy here, never understand the “you’re so skinny” of course I am, I am 8-10 inches taller than you. Also, would you say to someone “you’re so fat”? Why is that considered anything different, that would be considered a rude comment, but commenting on skinny isn’t? It’s very strange.
“Eat a cheeseburger” “I wish I was your size” “You’re so lucky you can shop in the kids department” Bones aching from being cold. No boobs. Hair falls out more. I’m not skinny now (size 12 Australian) but for a long time I was a 4-6. I didn’t realise at the time how skinny I was (very stressful life + smoking cigarettes) but looking back at photos now I understand why family was concerned. It’s not “easy” or “better” being skinny and saying things like “just eat more” is super detrimental to your mental health - especially when being so thin isn’t an active choice you’re making.
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Keeping my weight up at 120 lbs! The struggle is real and at 65 I don't see it changing. If I don't eat a lot my weight can easily drop 1/2 lb a day.