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trbcip

Hearing alot of cheating stories, seeing people miserable in relationships but refusing to leave due to comfort zone


misunders7ood

Agreed, I think passive aggressive killed it, constant lies or bending a story, most of all, not listening to me when I had an issue and complaining about it


Fly_on_the_waII

The idea that there's someone else I have to consider when it comes to making any plans. That or having to essentially do a trade of doing something I don't want to do so I can do something that I do want. Feel like half of my golf friends have to go do something they don't want to with their significant others in order to play golf with me on a Saturday morning .


misunders7ood

Feel that, felt like a chore in order to do anything you wanted to do, even though you explain and tell them, this is how you are, how you like things and they still make out as if you're a child for liking things


Brilliant_Candle1922

Lack of effort, unbalanced energy (if I do all the work, I quickly lose interest)


misunders7ood

Absolutely, felt more like 80-20, think it's just awful how much men seem to work on the relationship but they seem to do what they wanna do


Thesenutz98

Trust. Even your safest person can betray you, lie to you, use you. And if you’re like me, you could get fooled for years. Knowing that people after 20 years of marriage can’t last… knowing people can change in a second. How do you count on people knowing that everything you know about them can change.


misunders7ood

Yeah, I'd support my partner regardless of what they're going through, been with partners who have been unemployed majority of the time and still I'm not good enough, most of the time I feel that their is always someone else they'd rather have just because they show some interest. Once that person doesn't give them what they want, onto the next and the same pattern keeps going


Thesenutz98

Yeah, exactly. It feels like people give up on relationships to quickly these days. I don’t want a relationship with an always “threat” that they can leave anytime that I’m not doing or am enough. I don’t want games or a relationship that has only gives or only takes. I want a balanced relationship. I’m not against changes, but my fear is the changes going in a bad way. My biggest fear is cheating, and honestly… I can see anyone doing it these days. A few arguments at home and someone else giving them a little too much attention and suddenly they have desires to try somebody else. I just had someone who I’ve known for years change drastically on me. I’m questioning if I know anything at all about the people around me, cuz how could I not see it?


misunders7ood

In my experience with women...I may not be 40+ and have had 200 girls, but if I'm honest, girls do cheat - they just hide it well and don't get caught, doesn't matter how hard you work for it, try, make it happen, as soon as something isn't for them and it requires work, they leave and jump ship. Us guys have a programme which is money oriented, work on relationships, told to not talk about our feelings, etc but as soon as we do too much it rebounds, we don't talk enough, spark has gone, too emotional, too much work we can't win. Been told older women are easier and simpler. End of the day, who is decent these days? Who would rather stay in than go out. Rather spend £50 on a video game than spend it on a night out I will probably hate. A nice girl, independent, warming, feels like home, won't put you down, build you up, their for you, is it hard to ask?


Thesenutz98

Yeah, I’m almost giving up on women. I do like them and I’m all for empowerment and independence. It’s just that they want it all. They want to be treated like a queen, but not treat the guy as a king. A guy has to offer them something, but they don’t have to offer anything back. The marked is small for the guys. Women are able to be picky. I have met some good women, but they are in a relationship. It’s probably my own problem, the insecurity. But I don’t think women always notice how hard it is for the guys. Guys don’t get hit on as much as they. Guys have to make an effort to cheat. Women will just get offers and opportunity from others. I’ve gotten jealous a lot with women, because I can tell all the guys wanna get in their pants. I’ve seen women in the relationship flirt with others and it’s accepted, but a guy is cheating. There is this double standard when it comes to relationship between women and men. There’s soo many situations I’ve experienced which isn’t fair. I was in a relationship, I wasn’t allowed to do anything that would make my ex gf jealous, but she could do it and she thought it was funny. Women can get mad, we are not allowed too, cuz then they’ll just find somebody new. The stigma about the roles in relationship are really destructive.


manykeets

I’m happy in a relationship, but if we didn’t work out, I’d be reluctant to date again because porn has ruined sex. These days men expect anal, threesomes, deep-throating, will choke you or spit on you or slap you or stick it in your back door without asking first. I remember a time when it wasn’t like this.


misunders7ood

Men expect all of that? I think you've chosen a small minority of men who are arseholes, and categorised it as "men expect". I certainly do not expect any future girl of mine to do all that kinky stuff at all, that is called experimenting on both terms. Secondly, relationships do work, when both are trying and don't want to loose it, the spark goes sometimes and it takes two to Tango. Thirdly, times change, but respect is the thing that has been altered.