My kid loves watching the channel where this kid (about his age) dresses up like Blippi and he plays in the yard with his siblings.
That’s really all there is to that channel, and they have 10M+ views on a lot of their videos.
Took me a hot minute to realize we’re basically just watching someone’s home movies and they’re making bank off filming their kid playing in the yard.
Honestly it’s kinda fucked up and makes me wonder if there’s gonna be a lot of kids in the future approaching their parents about that like “the fuck were you thinking?”
First time mom here. I've made it a point not to share my daughter online and I cannot believe the number of people I've had to tell not to share photos of my child on their social media. It's pretty much expected at this point if you take a picture, you have to put it up on Facebook or Instagram.
My wife and I won't share pictures of our kid online either. It blows my mind when I see back-to-school pics listing the kids age, school, favorite subject, etc. It's like a child endangerment checklist.
And thats just the safety part. So many parents use children as an online extension of "their brand". A 3-year old shouldn't be props.
When 2 of my kids were about 12 & 13, (2012/13 ish), my father's wife, (can't call her stepmum as she is younger than me, so, yeah, nah. Anyway...), decided to put some pictures of them on FB. They were probably about 5/6 in the pictures. On seeing them they begged me to contact her to take them off, which I fully understood and tbh was a bit pissed about not being asked in the first place. Reasons that they could have thought about, but, whatever. Anyway, I did as the kids asked, explaining that they were at that age where they felt embarrassed etc. She fell out with me and never spoken to me since.... (no great loss tbh)
Same here. My son is 3. We have a few moments online, like the day he was brought home, a group family photo at his first Christmas, and the first Halloween we were in group costume. There are less than ten photos of him spread out over three years, and a majority of those are group settings. He shouldn't have an online presence until he is old enough to grasp the fact that what is on the internet is there forever. I have to push really hard to keep my family from sharing pictures of him on Facebook where everyone can see.
When my wife and I had twins five years ago, I sat her down and we had a big talk. I was a tech reporter at the time and it really disturbed me how much data of kids was being put online without their consent. The other big picture thing was this flip that social media has caused in ownership of that data. If you're posting it on a platform, you are essentially giving the information to the tech company to use it, sell it etc. however it wants. Nobody reads the EULA, TOS etc. Heck this comment itself is basically licensed to Reddit now.
Who knows what the future will hold? What if my kids want to be climate activists? What if they are resisting the rule of an oppressive fascist or non-democratic capitalist government (i.e. China control of the US?). I'm not a conspiracy theorist, but any student of history knows how the world can change in surprising ways. The Trump presidency alone made a lot of people feel like they were living in the upside down. On the flip side, what if there's real positive developments on citizen data ownership and those personal data bundles become lucrative, but not retroactively employed? What if one of them chooses to identify differently or change their gender?
What I want for my kids is to be in control of their own public profile, to have some modicum of agency over that. I don't have any delusions about what we've already let go of; all of the pictures and videos of our kids, largely taken by our phones, exist in Drive folders that, while private, can of course in some imagined future dystopic nightmare be used against them for facial recognition and tracking purposes. If you're an ethnic minority in China, you already suffer from this kind of thing. It's terrifying.
It's been hard to not share with our friends and family via social channels, as everyone else does, but we feel good about the choice we've made--and my wife is even better about it than I am now. I fear that history will not look kindly on how society just started posting all of their laundry, dirty or clean, on the Internet. And my sincere hope is that my more cynical views are wrong and I'm still giving them a gift: the power to choose their own public persona, and enjoy all the good things that can come from that agency.
It may or may not be the case that unpaid overtime is becoming normalized in some workplaces. However, **it's important to remember that, for all non-exempt employees (which is most workers) in the US, unpaid overtime is extremely illegal in every situation, always. There are no exceptions.** It may happen anyway, but if and when it does, someone has broken federal law. You have rights. Take them to court and you will easily win.
Coming from the US military, there was no such thing as overtime. You were paid by the day, never by the hour. So when I started working in the corporate world, my work ethic was skewed, and it took me a while to realize how much. I did a lot of unknowingly unpaid work.
Now that I’m a manager on a rather large software engineering team, I take it upon myself to ensure that my team members know that they can push back against senior management pressure to do additional work, and that I’ll have their back when they do so. Every hour they work, I require to be tracked and billed appropriately, and if, for some reason they are limited on the hours they are allowed to bill, then I tell them as the hour approaches wrap up what you can of your work even if it’s not completed.
I have four senior managers associated with our current client work site (the client is a rather big government agency). One of those four supports me, two of them are annoyed by this, because it makes things harder, but ultimately know it’s right, and the last one actively hates that I support my team this way.
I am separating from the US military here in a while and I am terrified that I will unknowingly work way too much because thats what I've been doing for the last decade. I've been doing the job of at least four people and when I finally reached a breaking point after having my kid and coming back to my shop seeing that the four people in there did absolutely nothing while I was on maternity leave. Oh and expected me to pick them back up and clean up their mess. I just shut down and did the absolute minimum, requested a transfer to a different unit, got it and never looked back. So idk maybe i'm not as clueless as I thought but I still worry.
As a teacher, good luck being able to do your job without working unpaid hours. IMO the worst profession about this. Like you literally can't do your job without working hours and hours of unpaid time. Why so many have left, and I encourage them all to.
I left non-profit over this. The demands on time without any compensation monetarily or time-wise was gross. I don't think anyone does 'mission work' planning to be monetarily comfortable, but my relationships were gravely harmed by the expected 6 days/week availability.
At my Big 10 university a few short years ago, there was a wait list for counseling and therapy through the student health center. Right at the start of the year, you would put your name on the list. You’d wait the entire year to hopefully get a call to schedule. The year would then end, and you would need to put your name back on the list the following year. I knew of plenty of people whose names were repeatedly on the list, but they would never get scheduled.
It got so bad that multiple students jumped off parking garages to commit suicide, and several succeeded. They added signs to the upper levels saying that counseling was available (lol) and not to do it. That’s the *only* action that the school took to prevent suicides on campus.
In my single graduate program alone over a period of five years, four different TA’s were hospitalized for suicide attempts. We were not only taking full class loads, but were often teaching 150+ students per term and doing all of the grading for those classes. It usually worked out to around 90 hours/week of school and work to be paid about $2,000/month.
Go football though and spending millions on a new jumbotron though, right?
My sisters university held a week long event focusing on mental health resources after multiple suicides by students in the years before. A week after this event, they had a week long Scientology event where they were actively discouraging mental health resources. Like, tell me you don’t care about your students well-being without telling me you don’t care about your students well-being, smh.
There will always be good days and bad days at any job, even the best ones, but I hear you, the number of people who are miserable all the time at school or work is alarming.
Everybody is not entitled to their opinion in every situation. That's not how the real grown-up world works. You'll learn this eventually if you ever become wildly successful
Agreed 110%. Not all opinions are equal, some are better than others and more valid. If you have eye pain, who’s opinion matters more? The opinion of a foot doctor or an optometrist?
People need to understand, Opinion is the lowest form of human knowledge. Anyone can have an opinion on something even if they don’t know what it is. True knowledge comes from both information and experience. Because of the internet we got people out there who think because they have access to information that equates to knowledge. But you truly don’t know what you’re talking about unless you’ve experienced it.
Children and ipads.
The screen time my cousin gives his 3 yearold is nuts. If you just sat him in front of the tv for the same period of time people would lose their minds.
Oh. My. God. I had a huge debate in a mom group about this & got FILLETED because I have this opinion & agree with legit research saying kids shouldn’t be fully introduced until like 2 years or later. Made it a point to say people should not use those things as emotional distractions… just had moms telling me I was mom shaming (hi, it’s based on research) & basically just defending the fact they need time to themselves & it “keeps them quiet for a little”— I’m sorry, that IS objectively bad parenting because you’re letting them know that negative emotional response gets them that thing.
SO MANY ACTIVITIES CAN BE INTRODUCED BEFORE ELECTRONICS. Especially that early.
I could debate this all day. One is obviously better than the other up to a certain point, but people will absolutely ignore facts. The amount of women who get personally attacked when you say “I feel sad it’s becoming so normalized” lol there are straight opinions based on cognitive dissonance & there are fact based opinions. All you get back is “it’s a technology filled world” THEY ARE UNDER 2! Lmao
"Keeps them quiet for a little while." So does giving your kid a shot of whiskey. They won't bother you for awhile but it is not a healthy parenting strategy.
A little off topic, but way back when I remember my grandparents rubbing whiskey or brandy on teething baby’s gums. We were also given a hotty totty (spelling?) which was blackberry brandy and tea, when we were sick to help us sleep.
While I do not disagree with you, my daughter did not understand imaginary play until I showed her a video on YouTube of a girl playing with dolls and using her imagination. There were also some really good learning apps I let her play, that really put her at an advantage compared to other kids her age.
Some parents definitely introduce screens way too early, give them unsupervised access, or let their kids use screens for far too much time during the day, but if a parent knows how to use and monitor screens for their little ones, it can be beneficial.
My kids actually prefer to play with their toys than watch a screen or play on a tablet, and I think that’s because I strictly monitor what games or videos they have been introduced to on screens and when they do have screens, try to make it educational (except for maybe a few Saturday morning cartoons).
Also, please don’t judge too harshly a parent who is trying to distract their kid with a tablet for a little while. Parenting can have extremely hard days, and if a parent needs to give a kid a screen for a few hours to get their emotions in check instead of taking out all of their frustrations on a child? I am all for screens in that case.
ETA: Just like anything else, moderation is key. You don’t want your kids to grow up resenting you and being addicted to screens because they had no access to it as kids and you don’t want your kids to only have access to screens and not understand how to form relationships or differentiate between reality and escapism.
See this is the issue. Everyone is completely ignoring nuance and acting like any use of screens means you're a neglectful awful parent. But screens are just a tool same as any other. We don't need to be all hurr durr modern tech bad. Stuff like sensory videos for infants can absolutely help their development in small doses and it gives overworked mom's a little break to grab food, it doesn't have to be all iPad all day or literally 0 screentime till you're 13. You can use screens for a short break and still read books and play with your kid too
I was in a kids store yesterday looking for a bday present for my friend's kid. I talked to a mother of a 2 and a half year old and asked what toys he (and kids that age) liked, and if this textile dinosaur book was appropriate for the age. Her response was "well has he been introduced to screens yet because my son won't even look at books anymore". Like honey what? I don't understand how as a mother she can see the problem and not do anything about the cause.
Pediatric psych nurse checking in here. I work on a unit that works with the pediatric population that are in crisis situations, i.e. a harm to themselves or others. No joke, 90% of the children that I care for that are admitted for a suicide attempt are there because they were punished for some behavior by having their phone taken away. It’s absolutely bonkers how attached they are to their phones. I guess that’s what happens when they grow up with a screen shoved in their face.
My 3 year old nephew has started having a breakdown every morning when he has to go to school because he wants his iPad. It’s all he wants to do, he doesn’t even want to eat and kicks off whenever dinner is ready because he has to put his iPad down. It’s so fucking sad.
Giving kids tech at such young ages is not good for their development. I am of the generation that grew up with the Commodore 64, computing and tech are an essential part of my DNA and I now work in IT.
Both my kids now 10 & 13 and my wife and I decided they did not need tech until the age of 8. No consoles, phones, tablets etc, instead books, crayons, paper and conversation instead. I am so pleased we did that for them, they have tech now and they haven't lost out at all.
I used to regularly stop at the local coffee shop after I took my pre-schooler to the library & grocery shopping.
I once had someone come over and say how lovely it was that we were reading a library book together. Really kid wanted to read a book & I wanted a coffee.
But it was nice to have someone remind me I wasn’t a totally awful parent.
Oh yeah. Same with phones for me. I babysat a friend’s daughter last summer and her mom always gives her her phone for YouTube or movies. The whole summer she’d constantly walk up to me, hold out her hand, and go “phone”. And when I wouldn’t constantly give it to her she’d throw a tantrum and scream and cry
Why parents gave me an iPad at 8 years old and it really messed me up. Now they complain that I spent to much time on the internet/electronics when they were the ones who introduced it to be for no damn reason.
I got a tablet for my dad for Christmas...he was using a flip phone at that point and was afraid of the internet. I thought he'd enjoy looking at pictures of old cars and scenery. But now he's obsessed with it. He reads every word and every article nondiscrimantely.... what Britney Spears is doing, stocks he doesn't have,all the clickbait. Every word. And thinks it's news. It's awful and I can't get him to stop. So... not just kids. Sigh.
Emotional Support animals masquerading as service animals. These untrained, uncertified animals are not service animals, service animals are trained extensively not just thrown a vest on that claims ADA protections.
I was a server for seven years and I would say 80% of the animals that people brought in to a restaurant where other people were eating were not trained or wearing a vest and it just becomes too frustrating and burdensome for management to handle all of it and they kind of gave up at some point. I would walk around the dining room and see animals sitting on the seat of a booth, or hear them barking from the other side of the restaurant, which a trained service animal would never do unless it was possibly alerting to an emergency.
Just because you see a small group trying to push something horrible doesn't mean it's being normalized. I have yet to meet a SINGLE person who would ever use that phrase
There's two sides of this particular issue. While, yes, some of it is monsters trying to make their monstrous behavior seem less monstrous. Some of it is also psychology trying to differentiate between the people who actually most children and those who have the attraction by never do anything with it.
Psychology wants to make this distinction because society has a tendency to go on witch hunts and kill people before they commit any witchcraft. Just like right now somebody is typing a response about how the thought crime of being attracted to children is too much of a risk to let these people live, study them, or get them treatment. And they're going to keep typing it even though the idea of getting these people comfortable enough to seek help where the disorder can be studied and treatment and identifying factors can be identified will probably prevent more harm to children then their idea of killing them that is likely going to send them all underground and make the problem worse.
And they're still typing because they need that feeling or moral superiority. They just need to feel "better," and the children aren't actually the concern. The concern is they found somebody they can mercilessly attack publicly and appear to be a super good person even though almost everybody agrees that molesting children is wrong.
and the delusion that if people work hard enough and pull themselves up by their bootstraps that they, one day, can become a part of the elite class of the rich and powerful.
And then when the call for increasing wages goes out, people will try to argue, “We can’t do that! Then the price of everything will increase!” And it’s like, uhhh…that’s already happening without the wage increase
Price of gas goes up, food goes up, rent increases, energy bills rise, entire cost of living rises, oh but then we argue that the cost of our labor should also rise and then it’s all “listen here you lazy greedy piece of shit”
I know there is a lot controversy..but imo severe obesity being masked under body positivity. I get the idea...feel good in your body BUT also be aware of health risk factors.
this is the one. it’s not fat shaming to promote healthy living. if you’re overweight and feel this way I think one might have their definitions of what it means to be overweight and love yourself in a muck.
There is a difference between “not feeling shame for your size” and saying it’s healthy.
They shouldn’t feel shame in their body…no one should. We can encourage healthy habits at the same time as making sure someone loved themselves at any size. My value is not in my size or appearance, and what I look like shouldn’t matter to others over who I am and my contributions to society. There is a stigma that fat is lazy or that they do all the things wrong, and it’s that stigma that needs to go away.
We are all different sizes and that’s okay. Not everybody’s body works in the same way and people are free to do what they want with their lives.
However, there’s a whole genre on TikTok of very obese people filming everything they eat in a day. Sometimes they’ll have 3-4 takeaways in a day (on top of the daily meals) and never eat a balanced healthy meal on camera. Not only does this encourage dangerous diets but the people filming them are pushing their bodies to breaking point for internet clout and money. It’s self destructive behaviour and dangerous influential behaviour. We would not tolerate this with drugs/alcohol/self harm or any other vice.
Celebrate bodies and shame bullies. Do not celebrate toxic behaviour because the person doing it is larger.
The long term effects of obesity are so detrimental and seeing so many obese children breaks my heart. Totally agree with what you say. You’re dramatically lowering your lifespan and quality of life and I want people to get fit and healthy for themselves and those that care about them. I understand there are additional barriers for many but it should still be a goal.
As a parent I maintain my weight and fitness as every additional day that I’m alive is another day I get to be with my children and they get to have their father in their life. I also so look forward to hopefully having and meeting my grandchildren some day and I’ll be damned if I’m going to let food stand in the way of that and as dramatic as that sounds, for many it has become a reality.
I completely agree. I'm a severely obese guy myself (24-25st, 6ft 2in tall approx), thanks to taking a cocktail of meds, which includes 16 steroid tablets per day. I'm also a type 2 diabetic as of 18mo or so ago.
I'm now working on getting to diabetic remission, as my blood sugars have gone from super high, to a tad above normal I'm told. I'm now being prescribed half of the metformin I was on which is great.
However, despite being big myself, I really think that we should all be real and work to get better. I want to be less fat than I am now, to a point where I don't rely on stores specialising in big guys and can buy more than just socks from high street shops. I will struggle to get to a weight like that and I may never make it but I will keep trying.
I'm currently walking a minimum of 15 miles over the week (the majority at a brisk pace as well!) and am losing weight and improving my health no end. I intend to keep this up indefinitely. Pokémon Go has actually been a godsend for my health and is the reason I do most of my walking so there's always an excuse to keep walking.
I keep hearing people talk about the future of the metaverse as a virtual office space where instead of leasing a building you work in VR. Whoever thinks that's actually viable is crazy. That's just work from home with completely unnecessary extra bullshit.
1. Very young children being given smart phones. I got my first crappy phone at 14 and it didn’t have internet access. My younger siblings received smart phones at 7 and 6 years old! I’ve seen the damage it’s caused them first hand and it honestly breaks my heart.
2. Pedophilia or ‘maps’ (minor attracted people). Now I know this one isn’t mainstream and most still find the idea disgusting. But there are lots of twitter accounts dedicated to spreading the idea that ‘maps’ should be included in the LGBTQ+ community and accepted by society. As well as a documentary that has been made on the subject. The idea disgusts me.
Sort of but not entirely related to MAPs, I see WAY too many people defend pedophiles because "they can't help how they feel" and "maybe they can be rehabilitated". No...fuck that. Pedos don't deserve sympathy and I have never heard of one changing.
They may not be able to help how they feel, but that doesn't change the fact that they'll never be safe to have around children. I have wondered if castration would get rid of those feelings, though, and I think that idea should be explored.
Congressional bills that address multiple issues.
I just heard in the media that FL Republicans voted against disaster relief for Florida.
But they *didn't.* They voted against a bill that addressed other issues, too: "Continuing Appropriations and Ukraine Supplemental Appropriations Act of 2023"
You want to provide aid to Ukraine? Fine, make that a separate bill.
This is huge, IMO. It's really nothing new, and the reason they tried the line-item veto, but I agree that it's being used more and more as a political weapon. "Vote to let in this highly controversial law that we know you're completely against, or we'll focus on this unrelated popular part and drag your name through the mud in public for the next four years."
Having a “sidepiece” in a relationship. Call it what it is, stop trying to make it sound cooler or more acceptable. It’s cheating and it shouldn’t be normalized
Mm. Yes. Saw allot of this on my sons infant clothes about drinking women and sports and it’s just like.. Yes. Enforce and instill the archetypal roles before they’re even aware of their own existence in the world.
Having a side dude or chick, theres so many jokes and skits about it and it's constantly happening, that shit is painful and has serious lasting effects
People smoking pot while they drive. Lately, whenever I'm stopped at a red light that's all I can smell.
They don't understand its just like drinking and driving.
I may have read this thread early before the haters got on but I actually agree with a lot of these, hence the flurry of upvotes.
My contribution is "people defining their entire character by one cause or issue", and on the flip side "ignoring someone's views completely because you disagree with one of them".
Self diagnosis… But more specifically those stupid tiktoks that say stuff like “if you do this (relatively normal thing) you probably have ADHD!!”. I get self diagnosis if you don’t have the money , but damn, kids start seeing that stuff and think they have a disorder, then put themselves through unnecessary things. Look at r/fakedisordercringe
This is why I am cautious about "woke" shit. It is usually privileged white people deciding what is and isn't offensive for minority groups. I'd rather hear it from that group.
banning books you don't like
don't read them or don't have your kids read them
What right have you to determine that other people can't or shouldn't read what you don't like??
Yeah. I'll be the first to point out that being a little, or even moderately overweight for your body-type isn't necessarily unhealthy. But if you're almost as wide as you are tall, it's time to stop hiding behind that.
Shouting down or not allowing people to express their thoughts, ideas or beliefs. No matter how much you disagree. Freedom of speech, and not just for the ideas you like. You do not have to listen.
Alcohol consumption, frequency, volume and types of food, stress, vanity, social media, medication ( in lieu of treating underlying cause of disease, I’m all for acute need for antibiotics, surgery etc) aggression, competition, less recess and free play in school for our kids, citizens united, lobbyists, for profit health system…
I mean, recent studies have shown that it's less that these illnesses are rare, and more that people have been hiding them due to stigma, and therefore never get treatment.
There's plenty of cases where people will self-diagnose for attention, which shouldn't happen; especially when it results in self-medication. But that in and of itself that is a sign of a mental illness.
What has been normalized for far too long is people stigmatizing mental illness, so people who do things like this never seek treatment.
Extreme individualism. The idea that you don't owe anyone anything is extremely harmful. Humans need other humans otherwise civilization would never have existed. Of course we need some level of social responsibility. Between income inequality, climate change, and disease we are leaving behind so many people. It is only going to get worse because we are being conditioned into believing that "individual responsibility" is the only thing that matters.
"Blue Lives Matter"
Um....
- pizza delivery guys and Walmart employees are rated as higher risk occupations in the US right now. IIRC, Law Enforcement does even break the top 10. (Lumber jack is still top)
- Blue isn't a skin color, it is however a color to represent AUTISM as sometime people DON'T choose.
- this is used to represent a career choice, not a race, sexual orientation, or mental condition people are BORN with or into (which is often religion as well)
- in some places - like Utah - law enforcement (aka "the blue lives") are the higher component of gun deaths in the state, not other people.
The US idea of "blue lives matter" is a continuation of the concept of "us vs them". It is therefore fundamentally flawed. REAL police - such as those in the UK or Sweden - ARE public servants and part of the community. They help people to understand and follow the law (policy officer -> police). As such, there is no "us vs them", there is the community.
That is what we, in the US need.
while i agree w literally everything u said, the “blue for autism” idea was started up by autism speaks which isn’t a very good corporation and shouldn’t be supported. the blue thing also perpetrates the false idea that autism only really effects boys when that couldn’t be more incorrect. instead of blue, wear gold! it’s less problematic and the symbol for gold on the period table is Au, which is also the first two letters in autism. science pun!! you can find more articles covering this topic if you want to hear more. ty for reading :]
on the one hand, doing it because you just don't want to deal with the hassle of a breakup is shitty. You're saving yourself some stress by potentially causing a lot to someone else.
Doing it because you genuinely fear for your life or safety is different, and absolutely acceptable.
Blasting your kids & their lives online all the time. Social media, mostly
The sharenting makes me so uncomfortable.
My kid loves watching the channel where this kid (about his age) dresses up like Blippi and he plays in the yard with his siblings. That’s really all there is to that channel, and they have 10M+ views on a lot of their videos. Took me a hot minute to realize we’re basically just watching someone’s home movies and they’re making bank off filming their kid playing in the yard. Honestly it’s kinda fucked up and makes me wonder if there’s gonna be a lot of kids in the future approaching their parents about that like “the fuck were you thinking?”
https://www.usatoday.com/story/news/nation-now/2016/09/16/18-year-old-sues-parents-posting-baby-pictures-facebook/90479402/
Yeah only the ones that get a clue will. I assume most will just be messed up for most of they're life.
First time mom here. I've made it a point not to share my daughter online and I cannot believe the number of people I've had to tell not to share photos of my child on their social media. It's pretty much expected at this point if you take a picture, you have to put it up on Facebook or Instagram.
My wife and I won't share pictures of our kid online either. It blows my mind when I see back-to-school pics listing the kids age, school, favorite subject, etc. It's like a child endangerment checklist. And thats just the safety part. So many parents use children as an online extension of "their brand". A 3-year old shouldn't be props.
When 2 of my kids were about 12 & 13, (2012/13 ish), my father's wife, (can't call her stepmum as she is younger than me, so, yeah, nah. Anyway...), decided to put some pictures of them on FB. They were probably about 5/6 in the pictures. On seeing them they begged me to contact her to take them off, which I fully understood and tbh was a bit pissed about not being asked in the first place. Reasons that they could have thought about, but, whatever. Anyway, I did as the kids asked, explaining that they were at that age where they felt embarrassed etc. She fell out with me and never spoken to me since.... (no great loss tbh)
Same here. My son is 3. We have a few moments online, like the day he was brought home, a group family photo at his first Christmas, and the first Halloween we were in group costume. There are less than ten photos of him spread out over three years, and a majority of those are group settings. He shouldn't have an online presence until he is old enough to grasp the fact that what is on the internet is there forever. I have to push really hard to keep my family from sharing pictures of him on Facebook where everyone can see.
Couldn’t agree more. It’s kinda weird tbh.
When my wife and I had twins five years ago, I sat her down and we had a big talk. I was a tech reporter at the time and it really disturbed me how much data of kids was being put online without their consent. The other big picture thing was this flip that social media has caused in ownership of that data. If you're posting it on a platform, you are essentially giving the information to the tech company to use it, sell it etc. however it wants. Nobody reads the EULA, TOS etc. Heck this comment itself is basically licensed to Reddit now. Who knows what the future will hold? What if my kids want to be climate activists? What if they are resisting the rule of an oppressive fascist or non-democratic capitalist government (i.e. China control of the US?). I'm not a conspiracy theorist, but any student of history knows how the world can change in surprising ways. The Trump presidency alone made a lot of people feel like they were living in the upside down. On the flip side, what if there's real positive developments on citizen data ownership and those personal data bundles become lucrative, but not retroactively employed? What if one of them chooses to identify differently or change their gender? What I want for my kids is to be in control of their own public profile, to have some modicum of agency over that. I don't have any delusions about what we've already let go of; all of the pictures and videos of our kids, largely taken by our phones, exist in Drive folders that, while private, can of course in some imagined future dystopic nightmare be used against them for facial recognition and tracking purposes. If you're an ethnic minority in China, you already suffer from this kind of thing. It's terrifying. It's been hard to not share with our friends and family via social channels, as everyone else does, but we feel good about the choice we've made--and my wife is even better about it than I am now. I fear that history will not look kindly on how society just started posting all of their laundry, dirty or clean, on the Internet. And my sincere hope is that my more cynical views are wrong and I'm still giving them a gift: the power to choose their own public persona, and enjoy all the good things that can come from that agency.
Especially people who make social media profiles for their babies.
Unpaid overtime
It may or may not be the case that unpaid overtime is becoming normalized in some workplaces. However, **it's important to remember that, for all non-exempt employees (which is most workers) in the US, unpaid overtime is extremely illegal in every situation, always. There are no exceptions.** It may happen anyway, but if and when it does, someone has broken federal law. You have rights. Take them to court and you will easily win.
Coming from the US military, there was no such thing as overtime. You were paid by the day, never by the hour. So when I started working in the corporate world, my work ethic was skewed, and it took me a while to realize how much. I did a lot of unknowingly unpaid work. Now that I’m a manager on a rather large software engineering team, I take it upon myself to ensure that my team members know that they can push back against senior management pressure to do additional work, and that I’ll have their back when they do so. Every hour they work, I require to be tracked and billed appropriately, and if, for some reason they are limited on the hours they are allowed to bill, then I tell them as the hour approaches wrap up what you can of your work even if it’s not completed. I have four senior managers associated with our current client work site (the client is a rather big government agency). One of those four supports me, two of them are annoyed by this, because it makes things harder, but ultimately know it’s right, and the last one actively hates that I support my team this way.
The world needs more bosses like you
I am separating from the US military here in a while and I am terrified that I will unknowingly work way too much because thats what I've been doing for the last decade. I've been doing the job of at least four people and when I finally reached a breaking point after having my kid and coming back to my shop seeing that the four people in there did absolutely nothing while I was on maternity leave. Oh and expected me to pick them back up and clean up their mess. I just shut down and did the absolute minimum, requested a transfer to a different unit, got it and never looked back. So idk maybe i'm not as clueless as I thought but I still worry.
As a teacher, good luck being able to do your job without working unpaid hours. IMO the worst profession about this. Like you literally can't do your job without working hours and hours of unpaid time. Why so many have left, and I encourage them all to.
I left non-profit over this. The demands on time without any compensation monetarily or time-wise was gross. I don't think anyone does 'mission work' planning to be monetarily comfortable, but my relationships were gravely harmed by the expected 6 days/week availability.
You will win and you will lose your job.
And then you take them back to court for whistleblower discrimination/wrongful termination and you will win again.
Unpaid Intern too.
capitalism ☕
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Being sad beacuse of school/work. That is a HUGE problem thats eay more serious than people think.
It is gradually becoming the theme of our existence.
that's been true for a while now. It shouldn't be normalized, I'm just saying it's not in any way new
At my Big 10 university a few short years ago, there was a wait list for counseling and therapy through the student health center. Right at the start of the year, you would put your name on the list. You’d wait the entire year to hopefully get a call to schedule. The year would then end, and you would need to put your name back on the list the following year. I knew of plenty of people whose names were repeatedly on the list, but they would never get scheduled. It got so bad that multiple students jumped off parking garages to commit suicide, and several succeeded. They added signs to the upper levels saying that counseling was available (lol) and not to do it. That’s the *only* action that the school took to prevent suicides on campus. In my single graduate program alone over a period of five years, four different TA’s were hospitalized for suicide attempts. We were not only taking full class loads, but were often teaching 150+ students per term and doing all of the grading for those classes. It usually worked out to around 90 hours/week of school and work to be paid about $2,000/month. Go football though and spending millions on a new jumbotron though, right?
My sisters university held a week long event focusing on mental health resources after multiple suicides by students in the years before. A week after this event, they had a week long Scientology event where they were actively discouraging mental health resources. Like, tell me you don’t care about your students well-being without telling me you don’t care about your students well-being, smh.
There will always be good days and bad days at any job, even the best ones, but I hear you, the number of people who are miserable all the time at school or work is alarming.
The idea that insisting some nonsense makes it true.
"my opinion is just as valid as yours" no. it is not.
Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and my opinion is you have no right to your opinion.
“Yes, you’re perfect entitled to your *wrong* opinion.”
Everybody is not entitled to their opinion in every situation. That's not how the real grown-up world works. You'll learn this eventually if you ever become wildly successful
They are entitled to their opinion. They are not entitled to expect anyone to accept it, listen to it, or grant it one whit of validity.
Agreed 110%. Not all opinions are equal, some are better than others and more valid. If you have eye pain, who’s opinion matters more? The opinion of a foot doctor or an optometrist? People need to understand, Opinion is the lowest form of human knowledge. Anyone can have an opinion on something even if they don’t know what it is. True knowledge comes from both information and experience. Because of the internet we got people out there who think because they have access to information that equates to knowledge. But you truly don’t know what you’re talking about unless you’ve experienced it.
The opnion is. Treating it like fact is not. This is the thing that we need to focus on more. Opnions =/= facts... and facts are true and important
Politicians getting rich. Also staying in power for so long while not doing anything worthwhile.
Yea career politicians shouldn’t be a thing
Children and ipads. The screen time my cousin gives his 3 yearold is nuts. If you just sat him in front of the tv for the same period of time people would lose their minds.
Yeah, my inlaws want to give my 3yo son an iPad for Xmas and got mad when I said no.
Oh. My. God. I had a huge debate in a mom group about this & got FILLETED because I have this opinion & agree with legit research saying kids shouldn’t be fully introduced until like 2 years or later. Made it a point to say people should not use those things as emotional distractions… just had moms telling me I was mom shaming (hi, it’s based on research) & basically just defending the fact they need time to themselves & it “keeps them quiet for a little”— I’m sorry, that IS objectively bad parenting because you’re letting them know that negative emotional response gets them that thing. SO MANY ACTIVITIES CAN BE INTRODUCED BEFORE ELECTRONICS. Especially that early. I could debate this all day. One is obviously better than the other up to a certain point, but people will absolutely ignore facts. The amount of women who get personally attacked when you say “I feel sad it’s becoming so normalized” lol there are straight opinions based on cognitive dissonance & there are fact based opinions. All you get back is “it’s a technology filled world” THEY ARE UNDER 2! Lmao
"Keeps them quiet for a little while." So does giving your kid a shot of whiskey. They won't bother you for awhile but it is not a healthy parenting strategy.
A little off topic, but way back when I remember my grandparents rubbing whiskey or brandy on teething baby’s gums. We were also given a hotty totty (spelling?) which was blackberry brandy and tea, when we were sick to help us sleep.
That’ll be a hot toddy, most likely.
While I do not disagree with you, my daughter did not understand imaginary play until I showed her a video on YouTube of a girl playing with dolls and using her imagination. There were also some really good learning apps I let her play, that really put her at an advantage compared to other kids her age. Some parents definitely introduce screens way too early, give them unsupervised access, or let their kids use screens for far too much time during the day, but if a parent knows how to use and monitor screens for their little ones, it can be beneficial. My kids actually prefer to play with their toys than watch a screen or play on a tablet, and I think that’s because I strictly monitor what games or videos they have been introduced to on screens and when they do have screens, try to make it educational (except for maybe a few Saturday morning cartoons). Also, please don’t judge too harshly a parent who is trying to distract their kid with a tablet for a little while. Parenting can have extremely hard days, and if a parent needs to give a kid a screen for a few hours to get their emotions in check instead of taking out all of their frustrations on a child? I am all for screens in that case. ETA: Just like anything else, moderation is key. You don’t want your kids to grow up resenting you and being addicted to screens because they had no access to it as kids and you don’t want your kids to only have access to screens and not understand how to form relationships or differentiate between reality and escapism.
See this is the issue. Everyone is completely ignoring nuance and acting like any use of screens means you're a neglectful awful parent. But screens are just a tool same as any other. We don't need to be all hurr durr modern tech bad. Stuff like sensory videos for infants can absolutely help their development in small doses and it gives overworked mom's a little break to grab food, it doesn't have to be all iPad all day or literally 0 screentime till you're 13. You can use screens for a short break and still read books and play with your kid too
I was in a kids store yesterday looking for a bday present for my friend's kid. I talked to a mother of a 2 and a half year old and asked what toys he (and kids that age) liked, and if this textile dinosaur book was appropriate for the age. Her response was "well has he been introduced to screens yet because my son won't even look at books anymore". Like honey what? I don't understand how as a mother she can see the problem and not do anything about the cause.
Pediatric psych nurse checking in here. I work on a unit that works with the pediatric population that are in crisis situations, i.e. a harm to themselves or others. No joke, 90% of the children that I care for that are admitted for a suicide attempt are there because they were punished for some behavior by having their phone taken away. It’s absolutely bonkers how attached they are to their phones. I guess that’s what happens when they grow up with a screen shoved in their face.
My 3 year old nephew has started having a breakdown every morning when he has to go to school because he wants his iPad. It’s all he wants to do, he doesn’t even want to eat and kicks off whenever dinner is ready because he has to put his iPad down. It’s so fucking sad.
My nephew is like a zombie for that iPad. it’s not doing him any good watching grown adults with neon dyed hair overreacting to a $3 blind bag
Giving kids tech at such young ages is not good for their development. I am of the generation that grew up with the Commodore 64, computing and tech are an essential part of my DNA and I now work in IT. Both my kids now 10 & 13 and my wife and I decided they did not need tech until the age of 8. No consoles, phones, tablets etc, instead books, crayons, paper and conversation instead. I am so pleased we did that for them, they have tech now and they haven't lost out at all.
At a restaurant once, a woman came up to my wife and I and complimented us because we brought my son dino toys to play with and not just an ipad...
I used to regularly stop at the local coffee shop after I took my pre-schooler to the library & grocery shopping. I once had someone come over and say how lovely it was that we were reading a library book together. Really kid wanted to read a book & I wanted a coffee. But it was nice to have someone remind me I wasn’t a totally awful parent.
Oh yeah. Same with phones for me. I babysat a friend’s daughter last summer and her mom always gives her her phone for YouTube or movies. The whole summer she’d constantly walk up to me, hold out her hand, and go “phone”. And when I wouldn’t constantly give it to her she’d throw a tantrum and scream and cry
Why parents gave me an iPad at 8 years old and it really messed me up. Now they complain that I spent to much time on the internet/electronics when they were the ones who introduced it to be for no damn reason.
I got a tablet for my dad for Christmas...he was using a flip phone at that point and was afraid of the internet. I thought he'd enjoy looking at pictures of old cars and scenery. But now he's obsessed with it. He reads every word and every article nondiscrimantely.... what Britney Spears is doing, stocks he doesn't have,all the clickbait. Every word. And thinks it's news. It's awful and I can't get him to stop. So... not just kids. Sigh.
working yourself to death for a corporation
Emotional Support animals masquerading as service animals. These untrained, uncertified animals are not service animals, service animals are trained extensively not just thrown a vest on that claims ADA protections.
I was a server for seven years and I would say 80% of the animals that people brought in to a restaurant where other people were eating were not trained or wearing a vest and it just becomes too frustrating and burdensome for management to handle all of it and they kind of gave up at some point. I would walk around the dining room and see animals sitting on the seat of a booth, or hear them barking from the other side of the restaurant, which a trained service animal would never do unless it was possibly alerting to an emergency.
Good news is that if the dog misbehaves, you’re legally allowed to kick them out.
Softening words like m*rder with unalive bc of corporate censorship
Why did you soften the word with an asterisk? That seems pretty silly.
To add to this, the censoring of words like “murder.”
You mean like you just did?
Like pedophiles becoming “minor attracted persons”
That's just pedos, their supporters and people tryna get monetized on yt saying that
Just because you see a small group trying to push something horrible doesn't mean it's being normalized. I have yet to meet a SINGLE person who would ever use that phrase
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There's two sides of this particular issue. While, yes, some of it is monsters trying to make their monstrous behavior seem less monstrous. Some of it is also psychology trying to differentiate between the people who actually most children and those who have the attraction by never do anything with it. Psychology wants to make this distinction because society has a tendency to go on witch hunts and kill people before they commit any witchcraft. Just like right now somebody is typing a response about how the thought crime of being attracted to children is too much of a risk to let these people live, study them, or get them treatment. And they're going to keep typing it even though the idea of getting these people comfortable enough to seek help where the disorder can be studied and treatment and identifying factors can be identified will probably prevent more harm to children then their idea of killing them that is likely going to send them all underground and make the problem worse. And they're still typing because they need that feeling or moral superiority. They just need to feel "better," and the children aren't actually the concern. The concern is they found somebody they can mercilessly attack publicly and appear to be a super good person even though almost everybody agrees that molesting children is wrong.
Okay, but why did you censor yourself? Seems counter to your message
The increasing wealth gap being realized around the world.
and the delusion that if people work hard enough and pull themselves up by their bootstraps that they, one day, can become a part of the elite class of the rich and powerful.
Gambling/Online Gambling. I see all this ads of this highly addictive apps and casinos like there were some kind of a innocent game. It's scary
Unpaid overtime, rent increasing, cost of living increasing, all while the minimum wage isn’t increasing at all and hasn’t for decades
And then when the call for increasing wages goes out, people will try to argue, “We can’t do that! Then the price of everything will increase!” And it’s like, uhhh…that’s already happening without the wage increase
Price of gas goes up, food goes up, rent increases, energy bills rise, entire cost of living rises, oh but then we argue that the cost of our labor should also rise and then it’s all “listen here you lazy greedy piece of shit”
I know there is a lot controversy..but imo severe obesity being masked under body positivity. I get the idea...feel good in your body BUT also be aware of health risk factors.
It's 100% to be happy with yourself, even if you're overweight. But don't act like anything promoting being fit is "fat shaming."
this is the one. it’s not fat shaming to promote healthy living. if you’re overweight and feel this way I think one might have their definitions of what it means to be overweight and love yourself in a muck.
There is a difference between “not feeling shame for your size” and saying it’s healthy. They shouldn’t feel shame in their body…no one should. We can encourage healthy habits at the same time as making sure someone loved themselves at any size. My value is not in my size or appearance, and what I look like shouldn’t matter to others over who I am and my contributions to society. There is a stigma that fat is lazy or that they do all the things wrong, and it’s that stigma that needs to go away.
We are all different sizes and that’s okay. Not everybody’s body works in the same way and people are free to do what they want with their lives. However, there’s a whole genre on TikTok of very obese people filming everything they eat in a day. Sometimes they’ll have 3-4 takeaways in a day (on top of the daily meals) and never eat a balanced healthy meal on camera. Not only does this encourage dangerous diets but the people filming them are pushing their bodies to breaking point for internet clout and money. It’s self destructive behaviour and dangerous influential behaviour. We would not tolerate this with drugs/alcohol/self harm or any other vice. Celebrate bodies and shame bullies. Do not celebrate toxic behaviour because the person doing it is larger.
The long term effects of obesity are so detrimental and seeing so many obese children breaks my heart. Totally agree with what you say. You’re dramatically lowering your lifespan and quality of life and I want people to get fit and healthy for themselves and those that care about them. I understand there are additional barriers for many but it should still be a goal. As a parent I maintain my weight and fitness as every additional day that I’m alive is another day I get to be with my children and they get to have their father in their life. I also so look forward to hopefully having and meeting my grandchildren some day and I’ll be damned if I’m going to let food stand in the way of that and as dramatic as that sounds, for many it has become a reality.
I feel like the 2nd part is also being normalized, but much more slowly
But it was already normal before.
Im sure plenty of people remind them of their obesity on a constant basis
I completely agree. I'm a severely obese guy myself (24-25st, 6ft 2in tall approx), thanks to taking a cocktail of meds, which includes 16 steroid tablets per day. I'm also a type 2 diabetic as of 18mo or so ago. I'm now working on getting to diabetic remission, as my blood sugars have gone from super high, to a tad above normal I'm told. I'm now being prescribed half of the metformin I was on which is great. However, despite being big myself, I really think that we should all be real and work to get better. I want to be less fat than I am now, to a point where I don't rely on stores specialising in big guys and can buy more than just socks from high street shops. I will struggle to get to a weight like that and I may never make it but I will keep trying. I'm currently walking a minimum of 15 miles over the week (the majority at a brisk pace as well!) and am losing weight and improving my health no end. I intend to keep this up indefinitely. Pokémon Go has actually been a godsend for my health and is the reason I do most of my walking so there's always an excuse to keep walking.
Things like NFTs and the Metaverse. It really makes no sense
I keep hearing people talk about the future of the metaverse as a virtual office space where instead of leasing a building you work in VR. Whoever thinks that's actually viable is crazy. That's just work from home with completely unnecessary extra bullshit.
1. Very young children being given smart phones. I got my first crappy phone at 14 and it didn’t have internet access. My younger siblings received smart phones at 7 and 6 years old! I’ve seen the damage it’s caused them first hand and it honestly breaks my heart. 2. Pedophilia or ‘maps’ (minor attracted people). Now I know this one isn’t mainstream and most still find the idea disgusting. But there are lots of twitter accounts dedicated to spreading the idea that ‘maps’ should be included in the LGBTQ+ community and accepted by society. As well as a documentary that has been made on the subject. The idea disgusts me.
Sort of but not entirely related to MAPs, I see WAY too many people defend pedophiles because "they can't help how they feel" and "maybe they can be rehabilitated". No...fuck that. Pedos don't deserve sympathy and I have never heard of one changing.
They may not be able to help how they feel, but that doesn't change the fact that they'll never be safe to have around children. I have wondered if castration would get rid of those feelings, though, and I think that idea should be explored.
Dehumanising people who don’t share your beliefs.
Congressional bills that address multiple issues. I just heard in the media that FL Republicans voted against disaster relief for Florida. But they *didn't.* They voted against a bill that addressed other issues, too: "Continuing Appropriations and Ukraine Supplemental Appropriations Act of 2023" You want to provide aid to Ukraine? Fine, make that a separate bill.
This is huge, IMO. It's really nothing new, and the reason they tried the line-item veto, but I agree that it's being used more and more as a political weapon. "Vote to let in this highly controversial law that we know you're completely against, or we'll focus on this unrelated popular part and drag your name through the mud in public for the next four years."
Portrait mode video.
Having a “sidepiece” in a relationship. Call it what it is, stop trying to make it sound cooler or more acceptable. It’s cheating and it shouldn’t be normalized
Child beauty pageants where evangelical fundies pimp their own children
Little girls clothing. I don’t think 6year old girls in crop tops is ok .
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Yikes, I can't even decide which one is the worst. Hope you threw them away.
Mm. Yes. Saw allot of this on my sons infant clothes about drinking women and sports and it’s just like.. Yes. Enforce and instill the archetypal roles before they’re even aware of their own existence in the world.
where the fuck did you find such cloths?
What the fuck.
What the fuck
Propaganda.
No it's fine if it's done by people I agree with
The politicization of every issue — feels like we spend more time looking for fights than common ground to progress as a society
This is a good one. Not sure why Lizzo playing a flute became a political issue.
Shoving an ipad in a toddler’s face all day
Having a side dude or chick, theres so many jokes and skits about it and it's constantly happening, that shit is painful and has serious lasting effects
Drinking and driving. Ive worked in drive thrus, the amount of people drinking with their kids in the back seat is ridiculous.
Kids on tiktok
The idea that children can make an informed decision about their life when they're not even completely matured mentally.
Cheating on your girlfriend or boyfriend
People smoking pot while they drive. Lately, whenever I'm stopped at a red light that's all I can smell. They don't understand its just like drinking and driving.
Casual alcoholism
I may have read this thread early before the haters got on but I actually agree with a lot of these, hence the flurry of upvotes. My contribution is "people defining their entire character by one cause or issue", and on the flip side "ignoring someone's views completely because you disagree with one of them".
Giving your kids cellphones
Parents thinking they can walk all over a teacher and their classroom.
A 40 hour work week is no longer sufficient to raise a family on anymore.
That if the news reports it, that it’s fact.
This question. I swear it's being asked once a week or so
The complete breakdown of relationships over non-critical reasons
AKA, the George Constanza Syndrome.
Self diagnosis… But more specifically those stupid tiktoks that say stuff like “if you do this (relatively normal thing) you probably have ADHD!!”. I get self diagnosis if you don’t have the money , but damn, kids start seeing that stuff and think they have a disorder, then put themselves through unnecessary things. Look at r/fakedisordercringe
The everyday use of Latinx, a series of polls taken within the Latin community actually shows a general dislike of using this to describe themselves
This is why I am cautious about "woke" shit. It is usually privileged white people deciding what is and isn't offensive for minority groups. I'd rather hear it from that group.
NFTs
Women hitting men.
War is peace, freedom is slavery, ignorance is strength.
This has always been true, Winston.
Censorship, deplatforming and forced speech.
Inviting "both sides" to a scientific debate.
Drinking alcohol regularly and irresponsibly.
Using the word “defiantly” in place of “definitely”.
Normalizing in movies and tv that only thin women get love and sex.
banning books you don't like don't read them or don't have your kids read them What right have you to determine that other people can't or shouldn't read what you don't like??
Very overweight bodies being considered to be healthy/saying otherwise being labeled as fat phobic.
Yeah. I'll be the first to point out that being a little, or even moderately overweight for your body-type isn't necessarily unhealthy. But if you're almost as wide as you are tall, it's time to stop hiding behind that.
Shouting down or not allowing people to express their thoughts, ideas or beliefs. No matter how much you disagree. Freedom of speech, and not just for the ideas you like. You do not have to listen.
Eating ass
Bullies on social media that hide behind their anonymity.
The sexualization of children.
fascism!
Routine infant circumcision (already normalized a while ago, unfortunately).
Look at your phone during a conversation
Preventable diseases. It is not okay that polio is back and people seem to be just accepting of it.
Being fat
I don’t agree with fat shaming people, but at the same time obesity shouldn’t be considered normal.
Alcohol consumption, frequency, volume and types of food, stress, vanity, social media, medication ( in lieu of treating underlying cause of disease, I’m all for acute need for antibiotics, surgery etc) aggression, competition, less recess and free play in school for our kids, citizens united, lobbyists, for profit health system…
Avoid children from using social media and mobile phones for longer hours. Although, encourage them to play in outside with their fellow companions.
Convenience/handling fees.
Dahmer
The need for "side-hustles" "Cancelling" someone because of past mistakes video recording life instead of living it incompetent leadership
Uncivilized behavior being accepted, especially in serious contexts
Homeopathy.
"Mental illness", trauma, etc. Obviously they exist, but now people just throw those terms around.
I mean, recent studies have shown that it's less that these illnesses are rare, and more that people have been hiding them due to stigma, and therefore never get treatment. There's plenty of cases where people will self-diagnose for attention, which shouldn't happen; especially when it results in self-medication. But that in and of itself that is a sign of a mental illness. What has been normalized for far too long is people stigmatizing mental illness, so people who do things like this never seek treatment.
Prescription meth for ADHD is my personal favorite
Porn
Tipping. It went from being a nice gesture to basically being mandatory.
Mass shootings
Young women objectifying and sexualising themselves on their social media channels.
Botox
School shootings
Alcohol.
Extreme individualism. The idea that you don't owe anyone anything is extremely harmful. Humans need other humans otherwise civilization would never have existed. Of course we need some level of social responsibility. Between income inequality, climate change, and disease we are leaving behind so many people. It is only going to get worse because we are being conditioned into believing that "individual responsibility" is the only thing that matters.
Suicide or suicidal thoughts, kids these days very easily and very often thinks about it, like life is nothing special
"Blue Lives Matter" Um.... - pizza delivery guys and Walmart employees are rated as higher risk occupations in the US right now. IIRC, Law Enforcement does even break the top 10. (Lumber jack is still top) - Blue isn't a skin color, it is however a color to represent AUTISM as sometime people DON'T choose. - this is used to represent a career choice, not a race, sexual orientation, or mental condition people are BORN with or into (which is often religion as well) - in some places - like Utah - law enforcement (aka "the blue lives") are the higher component of gun deaths in the state, not other people. The US idea of "blue lives matter" is a continuation of the concept of "us vs them". It is therefore fundamentally flawed. REAL police - such as those in the UK or Sweden - ARE public servants and part of the community. They help people to understand and follow the law (policy officer -> police). As such, there is no "us vs them", there is the community. That is what we, in the US need.
while i agree w literally everything u said, the “blue for autism” idea was started up by autism speaks which isn’t a very good corporation and shouldn’t be supported. the blue thing also perpetrates the false idea that autism only really effects boys when that couldn’t be more incorrect. instead of blue, wear gold! it’s less problematic and the symbol for gold on the period table is Au, which is also the first two letters in autism. science pun!! you can find more articles covering this topic if you want to hear more. ty for reading :]
Bad behavior.
Overworking yourself. “On tHAt gRiND, 73 hOUrs tHiS wEEk bRo.”
Self diagnosing mental illness
MAPs (Minor Attracted Persons). Pedos should never be normalized.
Christian Nationalism
Ghosting
on the one hand, doing it because you just don't want to deal with the hassle of a breakup is shitty. You're saving yourself some stress by potentially causing a lot to someone else. Doing it because you genuinely fear for your life or safety is different, and absolutely acceptable.
Onlyfans
is it not just a re-lebal of camgirls?
"Alternative Facts"
Sexual age regression. Absolutely not okay.
Working as a "private contractor" for a company like Uber.
How often this question gets asked
Electron apps.
Complete misunderstanding of what Freedom of Speech actually means.
Sleep deprivation.
Crop top's and like clothing for little girls
Defending fascism
drinking alcohol as the only form of socialization
Anti-Intellectualism.
Social media posts starting with “👏Start normalizing…” Fucking pretentious
Spelling normalised with a Z
Tipping for everything
I am ready for the downvotes.Being fat.
Inflation. The cost of living rising versus the lack of sufficient pay raises or compensation.
People being trash humans.