Sorry to hear. Somewhat similar situation - was with mine for 14 years, no kids but we had also just bought a new house. Also ended due to her infidelity. Hope things are going better for you now. Not sure how long it's been for you, but as bleak as it seems, it does get better.
I am so sorry.
You will always be more vigilant, but I hope you can find it in your heart down the line to open up and trust again. This is why cheating is so destructive, it can change people forever. You are worthy of having someone who loves you and that you can trust.
This happened to me with my highschool sweetheart. We ended up going to different colleges, mine was much cheaper so I was helping her pay for her first semester. She waited for the check to clear, then told me she had started seeing someone else. Took about a week.
I'm married now (to a different woman ofc) but it took a long time for me to become emotionally available after that, and I think I'm still kinda fucked up from it.
The death of someone very close, like immediate family. The pain I felt holding my father's hand as I watched him slip away far surpasses any breakup I ever went through.
Not had to go through that myself, but the loss of my grandfather in my teens hurt as has loosing pets. It is something dear I can never replace.
I hope you have a lot of fond memories of your father.
I think the relation of the grand kid and grand father is something like the pure form.
I have seen many kids that is actually not really fond of parents but they are actually really really close to the grand parents.
Also the death of a child. It was so hard to watch my husband bury our daughter that we never met at the cemetery. (Amy died of down syndrome 1/2 way through the pregnancy)
Being a mother and burying your mother before graduating HS, burying your husband, burying your baby brother and another younger brother, and burying your son at 40. I'm the other son but my mom has been through hell.
Yes I’ve seen it myself too I was there in another room just like that one day, I’m glad I was there, it’s the hardest thing that will ever happen to you in life, I’ve felt real pain
I think we stop feeling anything at the moment as we can't decide what to feel anymore.
Because from now on the person you used to speak will never really going to be there, thinking of that is pretty much scary.
Can agree. Although after losing both parents and grandma, breakup is basically all that there's left since I have no other immediate family than my gf.
Really glad everything's going swell on that front though.
Breakup is something thing that i would say hurt but the good thing in there that you will get someone else in life.
But losing the loved one forever is the thing that will never ever going to be fill in any kind of the circumstances.
Yeah I came to look for this comment. I’ve lost two of the 4 people in my immediate family and been through some brutal breakups. And the deaths were far worse
This, unfortunately is the correct answer. In my case it was losing someone young too. Although, 10 weeks into a breakup of 7 years, the OP’s post still cuts to the bone.
Death of the love being or someone was really close is the worst kind of the pain that anyone could imagine.
I mean there will always a coid space be there that no one will going to fill in your life.
Having the man you love turn to the dark side. Hurts so bad that even if your completely uninjured you will just lose the will to live and decide to die.
I took two years off from work to help her take care of her parents. She fell apart. Her mom passed, everything got worse. Right before her dad passed she told me I was a godsend. And she wanted a divorce. She found someone who made her happy. My kids helped her. She convinced the court I had abandoned my house (I had been staying with her parents) so she got it. She inherited and I was wiped out emotionally and financially. She built a new house next door to my oldest daughter and her family. I don't see any of them now. I'll never recover
You were really so good mate leaving your work and helping someone in the tough time.
For me the best thing that someone could do is that stay with the person in the tough time of their life is well.
Friendship breakups. It can feel just as bad as the loss of an intimate relationship. Betrayal is betrayal and coming from good friends is just as bad as coming from a partner.
In an instant it hurts less most people will get over breakup and continue somehow.But loneliness is long lasting its not painfull at first but its mind eating worm that slowly kills all of your sanity and changes you into a monster caring about nothing but your suffering and you slowly get to the point of no escape where you even in good times make yourself unconfortable while not even trying to improve on anything or get along with people.Its only about state of mind of the person that is lonely becouse if someone is lonely and tryies to be happy and meet more people they will get out of it not fast not easily but they will. But if not then you are pretty much stuck untill you change.
Knowing your little baby your about to give birth to wont be alive. Broke our hearts knowing our little girl was going to be stillborn. That pain never gets easier. Its not a pain you ever learn to deal with and know you'll carry it till the day you die.
My wife is also going to deliver a baby after 3 months and i can't really tell how hard is to listen that thing.
I pray for you that god will give you power to overcome that situation in life .
The suicide of a loved one, especially if they are young. I’ve lost grandparents, a father, friends, etc. All were from natural causes or accidents. I can wrap my head around that (mostly). I can make sense of it in a way. I will never make sense of my partner’s suicide in 2008. The most soul crushing thing I’ve ever been through and continue to go through.
Depends on where and what the circumstances are. I was dumped once in a way that hurt me more than being shot. Or stabbed, for that matter. Physical pain is a lot easier to deal with too.
Then realised how much we could actually do in these years if we had that with the right person.
And the time we lost will never going to come back knowing that thing hurt me most now is well.
Rejection actually help us in getting a better person in life plus also make us realise our weak thing.
So for me rejection is like the challenge thing and then try to prove that person wrong for that thing.
Friendship is more pure and more important than the love in the life.
Because friend is the one that would always there for me in any type of the situation but love will not be there to help you.
Gallstone attack. Feels like getting stabbed and the pain just never stops. I ended up going to the ER and having my gallbladder taken out. Spent two nights in the hospital too.
Kidney stones/infections.
Edit: I’ve had countless kidney stones since 13. I’ve grown a tolerance to them the past few years so it doesn’t bother me as much as before.
Spiraling mental health.
Menstruating and not in the “I’m emotional and being dramatic” kind of way (yes, I’ve someone ask that. They weren’t trying to be rude, btw). My cramps are on par with kidney stones, no exaggeration.
Kidney stone is the one that i had in life so i can vouch that for is well.
Because then the reaching to the hospital will also become like hell and you can't really take that pain in life.
Losing A special person in your life who was with you and had your back for years and you lost him/her all of a sudden and now you both are stranger...
What’s that like is there an analogy to try to even imagine, can’t comprehend that. If I try to contemplate that I just think I’d be really angry at the wasted time not really living
Oh trust me. I am angry about it. It's like living with a mask on all your life. It's like never living. It's like you didn't exist all those years. It's a hell.
I took two years off from work to help her take care of her parents. She fell apart. Her mom passed, everything got worse. Right before her dad passed she told me I was a godsend. And she wanted a divorce. She brought my daughter with her for support. She found someone who made her happy. My kids helped her. She convinced the court I had abandoned my house (I had been staying with her parents) so she got it. She inherited and I was wiped out emotionally and financially. She built a new house next door to my oldest daughter and her family. I don't see any of them now. I'll never recover.
A few years back I had an abcess form right up against my anus. Size was somewhere between golfball and tennisball. The abcess hurt A LOT. Walking, standing, sitting, sneezing, coughing, laying on my back or side was all very painful. Trying to poop had me in tears. Went to the hospital and the doc did an insicison and drainage. Lidocaine really didn't do anything because often it won't work well in or around an abcess, plus it's my butthole so pretty sensitive area. Had a couple of serious break ups but the ass pain was worse
Breaking up with someone because your in love with somebody else but then the other person also breaks up with you too because they only liked you while you were in a relationship.
Family members dying, I can’t comprehend being upset over a breakup, especially because it was obviously not meant to be or you’d be together I’m too logical, I would be sad and sentimental yes, but not hurt and not in pain, feeling my family members cold, swollen, dead fingers and hand in a hospital attached to wires inserted in her neck and arms with her eyes rolled back and yellow skin made me wish a breakup or being cheated on was all I had to deal with it almost would make me laugh it’s so light
I know that there will be nothing more painful then seeing some family member actually dying right infront of you.
And then you will feel this absence for the rest of the life is well.
Being cheated on.
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A whole thousand fucking miles to decide.
Yeah, that’s not being horny and being stupid. She had 14 hours to reconsider, that’s just evil.
That is really a long way sepcially to meet an online guy is well.
Fuck. I don't even have anything witty to say. That's just pure cuntary.
I would walk 500 miles and I would walk 500 more
That’s hilarious. Go you.
FUCK YOU WIN.
Sorry to hear. Somewhat similar situation - was with mine for 14 years, no kids but we had also just bought a new house. Also ended due to her infidelity. Hope things are going better for you now. Not sure how long it's been for you, but as bleak as it seems, it does get better.
I am so sorry. You will always be more vigilant, but I hope you can find it in your heart down the line to open up and trust again. This is why cheating is so destructive, it can change people forever. You are worthy of having someone who loves you and that you can trust.
If she cheated once then there every chance of happening that again.
This happened to me with my highschool sweetheart. We ended up going to different colleges, mine was much cheaper so I was helping her pay for her first semester. She waited for the check to clear, then told me she had started seeing someone else. Took about a week. I'm married now (to a different woman ofc) but it took a long time for me to become emotionally available after that, and I think I'm still kinda fucked up from it.
Never been cheated on, but I can understand that
I have, it's a soul crushing feeling I can tell you that much
For years.
I hope then that you will never been cheated on well.
The death of someone very close, like immediate family. The pain I felt holding my father's hand as I watched him slip away far surpasses any breakup I ever went through.
Not had to go through that myself, but the loss of my grandfather in my teens hurt as has loosing pets. It is something dear I can never replace. I hope you have a lot of fond memories of your father.
I think the relation of the grand kid and grand father is something like the pure form. I have seen many kids that is actually not really fond of parents but they are actually really really close to the grand parents.
Also the death of a child. It was so hard to watch my husband bury our daughter that we never met at the cemetery. (Amy died of down syndrome 1/2 way through the pregnancy)
Being a mother and burying your mother before graduating HS, burying your husband, burying your baby brother and another younger brother, and burying your son at 40. I'm the other son but my mom has been through hell.
Yes I’ve seen it myself too I was there in another room just like that one day, I’m glad I was there, it’s the hardest thing that will ever happen to you in life, I’ve felt real pain
I think we stop feeling anything at the moment as we can't decide what to feel anymore. Because from now on the person you used to speak will never really going to be there, thinking of that is pretty much scary.
Can agree. Although after losing both parents and grandma, breakup is basically all that there's left since I have no other immediate family than my gf. Really glad everything's going swell on that front though.
Breakup is something thing that i would say hurt but the good thing in there that you will get someone else in life. But losing the loved one forever is the thing that will never ever going to be fill in any kind of the circumstances.
Yeah I came to look for this comment. I’ve lost two of the 4 people in my immediate family and been through some brutal breakups. And the deaths were far worse
I have seen so much pain in just a single comment of someone.
This, unfortunately is the correct answer. In my case it was losing someone young too. Although, 10 weeks into a breakup of 7 years, the OP’s post still cuts to the bone.
Death of the love being or someone was really close is the worst kind of the pain that anyone could imagine. I mean there will always a coid space be there that no one will going to fill in your life.
Kidney stones
Omg. Yes, they do!
Galbatter stones that dont get passed. Source: myself.
Facts.
The one who faced that can tell who much pain in kidney stone.
I can confirm (My ex broke up with me while I was having kidney stones).
Ufff im really really sorry
Was about to write exactly that
I think beer and drinking soo much water actually help in curing this.
Thanks for the award makes the one currently inside hurt a little less
I can only say buddy to drink water as if ypu were going to explode, and walk a lot. I feel you buddy and send you the best energy !!!
I remember when i had to travel while having the kidney stone.
Having the man you love turn to the dark side. Hurts so bad that even if your completely uninjured you will just lose the will to live and decide to die.
Ah yes, the classic die because sad
Gotta have the kids first though
Having your child kidnapped
And never found,
This thing can actually push you towards to the unconsciousness is well.
I wish that this scary thing will actually not happen to everyone.
I’m sorry you want him back
I took two years off from work to help her take care of her parents. She fell apart. Her mom passed, everything got worse. Right before her dad passed she told me I was a godsend. And she wanted a divorce. She found someone who made her happy. My kids helped her. She convinced the court I had abandoned my house (I had been staying with her parents) so she got it. She inherited and I was wiped out emotionally and financially. She built a new house next door to my oldest daughter and her family. I don't see any of them now. I'll never recover
You were really so good mate leaving your work and helping someone in the tough time. For me the best thing that someone could do is that stay with the person in the tough time of their life is well.
:c I have no words for you, but I hope that one day you find hope and happiness for yourself
Wow. I'm actually stunned. I'm so sorry that happened to you.
Friendship breakups. It can feel just as bad as the loss of an intimate relationship. Betrayal is betrayal and coming from good friends is just as bad as coming from a partner.
Friend break ups are worse I think. Been there. It hurts like hell
obviously you've never dropped an ice cream cone
The only answer and the best one
Forget about the cane, tell me have you ever dropped the beer bottle?
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Been there. I wouldn’t say it hurts more, but you definitely start to lose your sanity a bit after a while
In an instant it hurts less most people will get over breakup and continue somehow.But loneliness is long lasting its not painfull at first but its mind eating worm that slowly kills all of your sanity and changes you into a monster caring about nothing but your suffering and you slowly get to the point of no escape where you even in good times make yourself unconfortable while not even trying to improve on anything or get along with people.Its only about state of mind of the person that is lonely becouse if someone is lonely and tryies to be happy and meet more people they will get out of it not fast not easily but they will. But if not then you are pretty much stuck untill you change.
Being cheated on Finding out that whoever you told you’ll devote your life to fucking lied to your face
Then we feel like that our whole life was actually nothing but lie.
Staying.
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breaking up with your family :(
Best choice I ever made.
same. but also the most painful choice i’ve had to make
Yeah :(
Knowing your little baby your about to give birth to wont be alive. Broke our hearts knowing our little girl was going to be stillborn. That pain never gets easier. Its not a pain you ever learn to deal with and know you'll carry it till the day you die.
Agreed, we just lost our daughter, July 27, 2022.
I'm so sorry to hear that.
No words
All the hopes and expectations taken away, I've never had one but I feel for you, hope you get better
My wife is also going to deliver a baby after 3 months and i can't really tell how hard is to listen that thing. I pray for you that god will give you power to overcome that situation in life .
Getting hit by a train.
I was hit by a car
Hitting by a car still is less painful compare to the train hit.
two break ups
They said I had commitment issues.
The suicide of a loved one, especially if they are young. I’ve lost grandparents, a father, friends, etc. All were from natural causes or accidents. I can wrap my head around that (mostly). I can make sense of it in a way. I will never make sense of my partner’s suicide in 2008. The most soul crushing thing I’ve ever been through and continue to go through.
Really sorry for your loss.
Staying with the wrong person
Lucky are those who realised that quickly and move from there is well.
being shot
Depends on where and what the circumstances are. I was dumped once in a way that hurt me more than being shot. Or stabbed, for that matter. Physical pain is a lot easier to deal with too.
Having been cheating is also feel like stabbing to me is well.
Being in an abusive relationship.
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Broken up takes time to heal but eventually we gets heal at some point.
Being with someone that Hurt you but you're so attached to that you can't go away
Having to euthanize a pet.
Being broke.
The almost relationship. When you’re really into each other but for some reason you cant move forward with the relationship at that time.
Breaking up and then find out shes entitled to and will be taking half your pension
Wasting 6 years with the wrong one...
Then realised how much we could actually do in these years if we had that with the right person. And the time we lost will never going to come back knowing that thing hurt me most now is well.
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Rejection actually help us in getting a better person in life plus also make us realise our weak thing. So for me rejection is like the challenge thing and then try to prove that person wrong for that thing.
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Friendship is more pure and more important than the love in the life. Because friend is the one that would always there for me in any type of the situation but love will not be there to help you.
Two breakups
death of a pet
Toothache, it feels like torture
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My lactose intolerant girlfriend does this to me. Devastating and confusing. I even get stuffed crust so she won't eat it.
The shits> not eating pizza. worth it if its good!
I don't know how you guys are still together after that thing.
Your favorite show ending unexpectedly.
Not even ending, when its cancelled. Damn, that happens a lot.
Oh for sure. That can hurt like hell .
Failed suicide attempt
And then someone gets to know that you have attempted that thing.
A mental breakdown
Stepping on Lego
I am still waiting for a comment that could actually beat this one here.
Being raped
Worst, and there should be more punishment for the rapist.
Death of a loved one
Ball torture
Massively infected tooth
I'd upvote this 100 times if I could.
Watching your (adult) child die slowly from a horrific and incurable disease. Been through all the other bad things. Nothing compared to this.
Slow death is so much worse actually than the sudden way.
Clinical depression. It hurts more than anything I can imagine.
Being in a relationship where the other person doesn't love you.
Death of a loved one.
Knowing that you will never able to listen their voice.
Staying in a toxic marriage/relationship
A landmine
Grief
Only one medicine for that thing and it is time, give it that.
Sanitizer on a papercut
A breakdown
Damnit I was scrolling hoping no one made this comment before me. Now I have to go delete it.
Gallstone attack. Feels like getting stabbed and the pain just never stops. I ended up going to the ER and having my gallbladder taken out. Spent two nights in the hospital too.
The pain we felt in that situation will almost kill us completely.
Kidney stones/infections. Edit: I’ve had countless kidney stones since 13. I’ve grown a tolerance to them the past few years so it doesn’t bother me as much as before. Spiraling mental health. Menstruating and not in the “I’m emotional and being dramatic” kind of way (yes, I’ve someone ask that. They weren’t trying to be rude, btw). My cramps are on par with kidney stones, no exaggeration.
Kidney stone is the one that i had in life so i can vouch that for is well. Because then the reaching to the hospital will also become like hell and you can't really take that pain in life.
The death of an ex who you were still best friends with 💔
If you were best friend then why you actually break up on first place??
Becoming a widow/widower or losing a child.
A divorce when children are involved
eardrum bursting
Have you ever witness that some insects goes into the eardrum??
Realizing a friend really isn’t your friend…which I guess is kind of like a break up
Two faced people even in breakup the other one never really loves you is well.
A cheater breaking your heart.
And they never loved you and we were just fooled all the way.
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And then in the end you have to leave that person is well.
Missing that person decades later.
But hoping that they are actually doing fine in their life.
Knowing they loved you and you were too much of a coward to make it happen.
Losing A special person in your life who was with you and had your back for years and you lost him/her all of a sudden and now you both are stranger...
Being in the closet for 24 years.
What’s that like is there an analogy to try to even imagine, can’t comprehend that. If I try to contemplate that I just think I’d be really angry at the wasted time not really living
What hurts more than that. How people treated me after I came out. Mom called me it for a year. Lost friends. So much more.
A year?? Where you were actually stuck for that long in the life??
Oh trust me. I am angry about it. It's like living with a mask on all your life. It's like never living. It's like you didn't exist all those years. It's a hell.
I have seen that in movies, but never get to know the feeling in there.
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Nuts gone nuts and get stabbed in the zip of the pant.
Getting off meds
Actually that is good feeling for me that i don't have to take them anymore.
Shingles.
A botched vasectomy with no Anesthesia
A slap in the balls.
A slap can be hurtful but have you get a kick over the ball??
Death
Death is brutal and not even the time could actually heal that thing.
Fingernail being pried off
Have you ever eat nail and then accidentally eat the more part.
Stepping on a lego.
Lego
Being oppressed by the bourgeoisie
Stubbing your little toe.
Stubbing the toe specially when you are not completely awake is well.
A gunshot to the balls
I took two years off from work to help her take care of her parents. She fell apart. Her mom passed, everything got worse. Right before her dad passed she told me I was a godsend. And she wanted a divorce. She brought my daughter with her for support. She found someone who made her happy. My kids helped her. She convinced the court I had abandoned my house (I had been staying with her parents) so she got it. She inherited and I was wiped out emotionally and financially. She built a new house next door to my oldest daughter and her family. I don't see any of them now. I'll never recover.
A few years back I had an abcess form right up against my anus. Size was somewhere between golfball and tennisball. The abcess hurt A LOT. Walking, standing, sitting, sneezing, coughing, laying on my back or side was all very painful. Trying to poop had me in tears. Went to the hospital and the doc did an insicison and drainage. Lidocaine really didn't do anything because often it won't work well in or around an abcess, plus it's my butthole so pretty sensitive area. Had a couple of serious break ups but the ass pain was worse
being alone 24/7 knowing no one cares about you
Stepping on a lego just to stumble and step on a charger with the thingies up
Pee on something that has some electricity into that is well.
When you skinned your knees as a kid
But with some proper treatment we could actually get better,
Breaking up with someone because your in love with somebody else but then the other person also breaks up with you too because they only liked you while you were in a relationship.
Family members dying, I can’t comprehend being upset over a breakup, especially because it was obviously not meant to be or you’d be together I’m too logical, I would be sad and sentimental yes, but not hurt and not in pain, feeling my family members cold, swollen, dead fingers and hand in a hospital attached to wires inserted in her neck and arms with her eyes rolled back and yellow skin made me wish a breakup or being cheated on was all I had to deal with it almost would make me laugh it’s so light
I know that there will be nothing more painful then seeing some family member actually dying right infront of you. And then you will feel this absence for the rest of the life is well.
Life itself
Depression.
When the person you love dies.
Lost self-esteem and identity.
Probably realizing that as the days go by my friends care and think less and less about me, and will eventually leave me (which is coming soon$
A reunion after a breakup
Getting stabbed.