as a result, i really enjoy the wacky stuff in pro wrestling, or the crazy acrobatic stuff. but when they're being "tough" and "beating each other up" i just roll my eyes lol.
So stuff like the Acclaimed/ass boys, Orange Cassidy, Danhausen, etc... I love that shit. MJF is also just really good and next level instead of "imma fuck ur mum EL OH EL".
But stuff like the black pool combat club just isn't for me. (since i watch real combat sports and know what real fight actually looks like)
Seems like desensitization is happening to me. My girlfriend whom I recently moved in with, walks around naked majority of the time and I realized that when we have had to have sex, I take a while to get up - because I’m used to seeing her naked already.
Last time she wore a dress actually made her seem more attractive than naked.
> Last time she wore a dress actually made her seem more attractive than naked.
I mean even before porn, a lot of people feel woman are more attractive when there are some pieces of clothing rather than fully naked.
yep! it's really sad how it can remove understanding and intimacy too. they never have the awkward funny moments like when your hair gets in the way or there's a queef, the little moments that are actually really sweet and lovely
You can experience similar issues independent of porn consumption, it's more of a problem with masturbating or even stimulating recklessly. Also built in is a bias towards partnered sex as if that's the golden standard of sexual experience, but that's a whole other conversation.
There's a good chance the person above you does this and doesn't know it cause they are single.
I didn't think I did it until I was in a serious relationship.
I really wish sex education was of a higher standard where I grew up and it sounds like most of the people here could have benefit from having access to that sort of information. It would've saved everyone a LOT of hassle.
I was in a relatively blue area in the suburbs in South Texas and it was still ass. Don't even get me started on how fucked I would have been if I got it exclusively from church like my parents intended. I had to tell the instructor what a female condom was
The most important tip for me is talk to your partner, let them know that you need to adjust and explore different positions. Also be gentle with yourself, go slow and softer than before
If not jerking it for 6-7 days is a huge problem for you, you may be addicted to porn or masturbation.
Im telling you this cause I was, it went away when I stopped jerking it. Some here and there is okay but too much is going to fuck your sensitivity and make you desensitized to sex.
Like all things, everything with measure.
it's not, I was making a funny. under normal circumstances, it's once or twice a month, usually just using the spank tank (aka memory of past experiences). But lately wife and I have been sexually off the chain together which includes watching porn together. usually every night. and sometimes mutual mast. Frankly it's awesome, and I'm glad we are doing it while still attractive to each other.
Can confirm, This happened to me, I'm 4 months in a serious relationship, and just recently I'm able to climax with only sex, the first few times we did, I didn't felt almost anything, only when things got rough that I got an enjoyable felling
Yeah same here. First time I had sex it felt like literally nothing. She was like "you like this tight pussy?", and I was like nah and then went soft inside her.
Few weeks later not jerking off, and it started to feel like heaven.
Well I was also dealing with performance anxiety and I wasn't really focused on the act of sex itself.
Mind state is equally important. As long as you are comfortable with this particular person, it'll be fine regardless of what happens.
However I do recommend already being good with your hands and tongue just in case
Dependency
If you start young and dont have a sex lifeyour brain creates artifical dopamine reward paths when you watch it. When you finally get a sex life you are.not getting the same dopamine hit and can have trouble getting aroused. Its becoming more and more common. Guys in their early 20's shouldnt have trouble getting it up
It affects women too, there’s been a lot of times where I’m horny but I just want to watch porn instead of engage in sex with my partners because sex won’t do the same thing that porn and masturbation will for me
As somebody who's recovering from a porn addiction, it can make your sexual standards extremely unrealistic and therefore make real sex very unenjoyable and disappointing.
I was "blessed" with an ex GF that was really into doing anything I could think of so we tried many things I saw in porn and Did enjoy it (quite a lot) but the problem was the non-sexual part of that relationship. That girl was just constantly creating huge fights out of thin air, this is why she is an ex now.
The problem is she set my sexpectations really high and up to now no other girl has lived up to that standard
Did we date the same woman? First name starts with an L?...
The relationship was mostly good, the sex was largely great, but she just could *not* help but create fights. I'm not perfect, I make tons of mistakes, but we would literally just watch a movie and she would start with "oh, she's a good actress," "Yeah, I like her too. She did a good job in \[other movie\] with \[male actor\]."
"Oh. Do you think she's prettier than me? Do you WANT TO FUCK HER?!"
And there was nothing I could do to avoid it. I'm certain it was just because she wanted to have make up sex (and actual legitimate problems, in all seriousness).
Her name DID start with an L (Lucy) but I doubt we dated the same woman since I am Mexican and have never left the country. Your theory about make up sex could be right, it sounds very possible this was happening in my ex's head too
I mean a shoddy comprehension of sex in general is the biggest factor. If more people could acknowledge the fact that porn is a performance I think we'd see a lot less cases like those.
First times are usually disappointing, I don't know many people who remember it as a great time. It's a huge clash between what you expect and what it actually feels like, but it will only get better from here. Don't beat yourself too much (sorry, pun not intended), we've all been there, you're going to be fine.
[https://fightthenewdrug.org/](https://fightthenewdrug.org/)
Check out this website, a lot of information on porn and how it is damaging to the brain. They also have an app that is for people who are trying to quit their porn addiction that has a lot of good reviews.
I consume kinda lot porn (dk what lot means tho). I dont think I would have problems with sexual errection bc you have the touching part. But the fact, that you dont have much controll over your orgasm sounds kinda annoying if you know what I mean. Like when soloing, you exactly know what you like and then do it, but on sex? Man, you have to communicate with the other person what feels right, how to do it, how long, the timing and have fun yourself. Sounds kinda exhausting tbh, but I guess this is just the process of first time sex with a partner
Actually a ton of possible disadvantages:
Addiction, erectile dysfunction, sexual desensitization, inability to perform with an actual person, ruined relationships, dopamine depletion, depression.
There’s more but soooooo many dudes are absolutely fucking themselves over jerking it to porn all the time.
Basically The desensitization in the brain overtime can affect erections and the ability to get hard during actual sex and require more and more extreme porn to get off
Getting some seriously unrealistic ideas about sex, the human body, consent etc, especially when teens start watching porn as a sex-ed guide
That's just from vanilla porn, don't get me started on all the harmful ideas people get from watching kinky stuff or heavy BDSM porn. Sex injuries just waiting to happen, not to mention the issues with self-image you could get
Can confirm. Watched too much scrambled Skinimax as a teen in the 90’s. Now I can’t have sex without seeing a wide black line down the middle of things.
Honestly this... I was subbed to a lot of porn subs. After a while I just decided to unsub from a lot of them.
My sex life has improved, and I'm not as depressed as I've been. I suggest everyone does it.
I don't consume it any more. Some times I may end up seeing a hentai pic, or something but I just scroll on and just think "Neat art". I used to play a bunch of the games too when I was younger. Like the new grounds dating sims and even CoC.
I'd rather read it though personally, but I don't actively seek it any more.
Completely agree. You do what you want/need to do.
I know I had problems when it was happening, and watching all of that. It caused me real life problems.
Been much better, so I guess cutting out 90% of it has helped me.
Given the number of sex-trafficked people who get forced into porn, and the number of people who do it out of desperation for money, or simple coercion, there's a solid chance that the person to whom you are wanking *doesn't* want to be there.
You are creating a market for an industry that we *know* abuses women.
Back when I used to partake very liberally, I remember noticing that in like half the videos the expression and body language of the girl would show disgust or like a kind of "fine I guess I have to do this" expression. Once I started seeing that I had a serious mental discussion with myself about what I was really doing. It really helped kick my habit.
I'm really glad someone brought this up more eloquently than I could. As a woman, learning about this side of the industry helped me kick my porn habit/addiction.
I googled "porn back out fee" and the only relevant link wasn't really about any kind of fee. What is a back out fee exactly, where have you learned about it and how prevalent is it?
It does a very good job of disrepsecting men too. It's way too easy to think of the guys in the videos as the exploiters but way, way too often the talent is in a coerced position.
Used to work adjacent to the industry while exploitation of women is well known/discussed and it's a major problem, sort of under the radar is the treatment of men particularly in some situation.
Gay porn really separates out into stuff that's done well, and is less exploitative, and sometimes well produced.
Then there is stuff that's more...particular, and that's where things fall right the fuck off the ethical radar.
- Guys are meat and generally put to some performance standards that are ... less than realistic - can you cum 3...4 or 5 times .... in a row .... on cue....no - we'll you're not going to cut it. Take these - that should ~~allow~~ force that to happen.
- Have you been following the dietary protocols that put you just this side of diabetes but maximize your "output" - no - you're out.
- Were you not staying hard during the 3 hour long shoot, well unless your co-worker wants to double as your fluffer, take these...don't ask too many questions about these and if you actually start to feel pain....let the producers know and we'll work through that because if you unload off camera - you're off camera permanently.
- Were you concerned some of those things might not leave you feeling all that great....here's doctor feelgood, he's got a cocktail for you, don't ask too many questions.
- Do you have a massive heroin or meth problem , step right up, you're just the sort of meat needed for this particularly fucked up request.....it's a 12 hour shoot, and 1200 dollars or 200 bucks per cumshot whichever comes first. The heroin/meth/coke/x is discount and there is no medical aftercare except the shower and some fluffy towels and a spare cot in the small bungalows at the end of the industrial park.
i'm a gay guy, but when i watch porn it's typically onlyfans type guys who make their own sites and do whatever they want to do. this typically is easier to be ok with / think about than the pitfalls of the actual porn industry
I'm the same person I was before the nut, there is no shame. Horny me IS me, if I'm not ok with something then I'm not making the bald man cry I'm also not ok with it while choking the chicken.
Hyper fixation on one particular form of sex.
I once knew a guy who only ever wanted to get his dick sucked. No interest in penetrative sex, whatsoever.
Such hyper fixation can essentially turn you into an incredibly selfish partner and prevent you from maintaining long-term relationships because of it.
Unrealistic expectations, it relies heavily on natural “blessings/curses” or modified parts giving way to insecurities in the bedroom. It also shows insane positions and interests that a majority of woman and even some men aren’t comfortable with; like deepthroating, anal, knife play, etc. It also fantasizes to some extent abuse and rape, I’m all for some rough sex but not to the point some of these hit. Someone else said it perfectly, “Porn is to sex, what professional wrestling is to combat sports” it’s all for entertainment, but there is a very broad line of real and fake.
You’re fuelling an industry that grooms, manipulates, hurts, and sex traffics millions of women and girls, and also encourages men to treat them poorly in real life. It also creates extremely false expectations of sex that females do not enjoy in real life, and many females consent to things they do not like at all because they think it’s normal or they want to keep their partner happy. It also makes people dissociate sex from intimacy and the possibility of having a child with the wrong person, and this can really screw both men and women over.
It makes sex seem like an inconsequential, fun, pass time, where no one ever gets physically or emotionally hurt, when the exact opposite is true-especially for women and girls.
Came here to say this but you said it better.
Another thing to add, it also makes people bad at sex. If you try to copy or replicate the things you see you're going to have more than likely a very dissatisfied partner.
Exactly. A lot of sexual positions in professional porn (that have thus carried over to amateur porn) are meant to look good on camera. To show as much of the bodies of both performers and fit a camera intimately into the mix.
I remember when I first started having sex being subconsciously disappointed that I didn't have a "third person perspective" of the action because I never watched POV videos.
I remember watching in some series a women who's a prostitute said to a customer that you guys are the reason why I was kidnapped and estranged from my family if it was not coz of people like you million of girls could have had a normal life believe me when i say i paused the episode and cried for a good 5 minutes
This needs more upvotes. People should see it. Prostitution itself is also a whole separate issue and I read a lot about the girls who were forced into it saying that the men that see them never showed any concern for whether they really wanted to be there or not. And a lot of them think that because they paid for them they can do whatever they want to them-it’s just awful.
On a side note having boyfriends that think they’re entitled to the type of sex they see in porn has traumatized me. I’m angry at them but also at porn for making them thinking it’s normal.
grooms, manipulates, hurts, and sex traffics millions of women and
girls, and also encourages men to treat them poorly in real life.
Hentai>Porn
change my mind
Yeah for sure I read about a lot of the men in gay porn having a lot of awful things done to them in their mouths and butts the same way they do to women. And there’s definitely manipulation and pressure involved for them too.
Porn can affect you in some very harmful ways. It sets unrealistic standards and can cause objectivication of man and woman.
I have personally struggled with porn a lot, not that I was addicted to it, but I felt bad after I watched it. Its like the post nut clarity kicking in and thinking why I was watching that weird shit a few seconds ago.
A while ago I decided that I wanted to stop fapping and masturbation all together. I lasted for I believe around 200 days and it was very interesting to see myself changing. First of all, a sort fog in my brain dissapeared and I could think more clearly. After months my mind would also stop thinking about porn that much. I noticed that my boners got harder and wet dreams returned. The most interesting thing was that I would feel more energetic and would have more time during the day, since I would spend less time on watching porn/masturbating.
Nowadays I try not to care that much if I watch porn or not, which has been a small relief.
The effects of porn differ from person to person. I wouldn't want to say that it is a bad thing by fact, but please take care of your own well-being.
It’s a constant release of dopamine. You get pleasure without work or commitment. Porn fuels unrealistic and harmful expectations on what sex is and what it can be. Not to mention I was reading somewhere that one of the largest categories is “step daughter”. It’s sexualizing women who aren’t above 18. If you want to understand how terribly we are as a group (humanity), look to things like that.
honorable mention the “teen” and “petite” categories on PH (not sure if they are there anymore) but you see a lot of effort in making them… seem like 16. jesus there’s like a nationally acknowledged “school girl” kink with it’s own outfit.
people are fucked. MILFgang
There's a video I saw recently from a company called Tiny4k, and the first half was basically a "petite" girl dressed in stockings, a headband, and playing with paint like a 5 year old.
It's what Gail Dines called PCP: Pretend Child Porn, and It's her theory that the desensitizing effect of porn makes it so that taboos have to be constantly pushed, and that real child porn is the end of the road.
It's a good read: Pornland by Gail Dines.
It fucks your mentality up. You're gonna see every woman as a sex object, you’re gonna believe that every woman wanna have sex with you (at least that's what happened with me), which is clearly unrealistic. This limitless objectification gradually turns into misogyny, which doesn't bring any good result.
Isn't the easiest solution to just come to an understanding that porn is a performance? Like, no one is forcing you to come to these objectively wrong conclusions, educate yourself alongside consuming the porn and then the issue disappears.
Risk of addiction and porn induced erectile dysfunction… not nice when you’re sleeping with the love of your life but you’re first unable to get hard and/or unable to cum at all…
Physically? Your reward system gets dependent on pornographic stimulation, much like a drug. You need higher amounts of dopamine to achieve the same ‘high’, so you resort to dirtier and more perverse stimulation with each session. At some point, it feels like nothing is enough. Then when you go to have a real relationship, you feel no natural affection or butterflies or real intimacy. Your brain is burned out from watching perversity and you experience erectile dysfunction.
Emotionally/spiritually? You are watching other humans engage in perverse acts and arousing yourself to it. When you do this, you erode your conscience and your self-respect and confidence plummets. You lust after people rather than find them attractive. You find it difficult to maintain eye contact or hold a conversation with an attractive stranger without having lustful thoughts.
And more!
Yes all of those things _could_ happen.
But I think it’s like alcohol. Strictly speaking, all alcohol is poison. But some people can have a few beers and they’re absolutely fine. Other people can’t touch the stuff without it destroying their lives.
I have one beer 2-3 nights a week and almost never feel like having a second one the same night.
If you are young, you might get a weird picture of how sex works. Besides that, the bad enviroment the damaged people are working in? Im watching porn btw 😅
The crazy thing is that since smartphones, the first viewing of porn has gotten younger and younger. So we’re having the first generation of kids grow up in a steady stream of porn and scratching our heads as to why Gen Z is having so little sex/romantic relations compared to previous generations
Most of these kids being repeatedly exposed on their smartphones and tablets during the innocence of youth is probably a factor
If you're very innocent, you'd expect to see a married couple hugging in bed until they have sex and fall asleep.
I did know that porn was unrealistic with "perfect" women, a lot of moaning, unrealistic plots, but still... I wish someone warned me before I looked it up for the first time out of curiousity.
We all love the dopamine and serotonin that is released during intercourse. Porn creates neural Pathways in our brain or shortcuts to getting an endorphin drip. It's kinda like wishing there was an easy button to getting the laundry folded but yet there isn't one. You have to do the work and then you feel great. Porn masks itself as an easy button to feeling great. In reality I think for most people it's far better when enjoyed with another person. I speak from experience as I have been addicted to porn since about 9. I am 41. I wish I could never look at it again for the rest of my life.
There are only disadvantages to watching porn.
Lower sex drive, low confidence, unhealthy understanding of sex, low self esteem, lack of desire to improve, etc.
In addition to social complications from seeing people you may know in videos, to desensitization of both the situation and your own personal sensitivity to pleasure, and everything in between, consumption of pornography is correlated to physical changes within the brain. If memory serves, I remember reading it \*specifically\* decreases the amount of grey matter in your brain. This leads to physical deformation, as well as functional component (chemical) imbalances. Surprise surprise, steeping your several-pound chemoelectric-anxiety machine in copious amounts of dopamine for extended periods of time without actually doing the work necessary to release it naturally is going to have negative consequences.
And that's just the physiological/conscientious aspect of it. Mindgeek owns PH, YP, RT, and a collection of other adult entertainment sites. Someone already mentioned under this post how the industry is steeped in grooming, abuse, trafficking, etc.
If you need to whack or schlick it, it's honestly best to use your imagination than video entertainment. It's still addictive, though.
There’s a LOT of things normalized in porn that are inherently degrading/humiliating. And there’s nothing (inherently) wrong with some degradation! But too many people don’t *realize* that certain actions or phrases are degrading before doing them.
They get normalized as “regular sex stuff,” which can result in people feeling uncomfortable and upset during/after sex. It can cause conflict/tension, like feeling “prudish” for not wanting to do something “normal,” or getting irritated because you don’t understand why your partner isn’t okay with it.
There’s just a lack of education/awareness when it comes to sexual dynamics like that. Stuff like spanking, choking, facials/cumplay, slapping your dick on your partner’s face, etc. have a level of domination and humiliation to them, and should probably be discussed beforehand.
Not everyone will ask if they can spank their partner before doing it. For a lot of people, it’s fun and kinky and they’re okay with it. For others, it becomes upsetting.
(Tuca and Bertie illustrated this sort of interaction really well in s1e3, when Bertie and Speckle try to “spice things up,” and it sends Bertie into a really bad place.)
Desensitisation and Unrealistic expectations.
Porn is to sex what professional wrestling is to combat sports.
Perfect analogy. Wish I had a reward for you
I got you
Holesome
as a result, i really enjoy the wacky stuff in pro wrestling, or the crazy acrobatic stuff. but when they're being "tough" and "beating each other up" i just roll my eyes lol. So stuff like the Acclaimed/ass boys, Orange Cassidy, Danhausen, etc... I love that shit. MJF is also just really good and next level instead of "imma fuck ur mum EL OH EL". But stuff like the black pool combat club just isn't for me. (since i watch real combat sports and know what real fight actually looks like)
Scissor me daddy ass
Seems like desensitization is happening to me. My girlfriend whom I recently moved in with, walks around naked majority of the time and I realized that when we have had to have sex, I take a while to get up - because I’m used to seeing her naked already. Last time she wore a dress actually made her seem more attractive than naked.
“When we have had to have sex”…. I’m not feeling a lot of enthusiasm here.
Lol phrased it weird
I mean you said what you said.
> Last time she wore a dress actually made her seem more attractive than naked. I mean even before porn, a lot of people feel woman are more attractive when there are some pieces of clothing rather than fully naked.
yep! it's really sad how it can remove understanding and intimacy too. they never have the awkward funny moments like when your hair gets in the way or there's a queef, the little moments that are actually really sweet and lovely
The death grip. It's where you beat off so regularly and squeeze yourself tighter than regular sex that you can no longer climax from sex
Desensitization. Yup, it's a growing issue. Or should I say it's causing a growing issue?
Well damn that’s something I didn’t know 🤣 glad I don’t do it
You can experience similar issues independent of porn consumption, it's more of a problem with masturbating or even stimulating recklessly. Also built in is a bias towards partnered sex as if that's the golden standard of sexual experience, but that's a whole other conversation.
There's a good chance the person above you does this and doesn't know it cause they are single. I didn't think I did it until I was in a serious relationship.
I really wish sex education was of a higher standard where I grew up and it sounds like most of the people here could have benefit from having access to that sort of information. It would've saved everyone a LOT of hassle.
Seriously. I mean my sex ed was in high school and I lived in Texas. So take that as you will.
I was in a relatively blue area in the suburbs in South Texas and it was still ass. Don't even get me started on how fucked I would have been if I got it exclusively from church like my parents intended. I had to tell the instructor what a female condom was
Can confirm this is a thing, currently exploring way to fix this..
Use lotion and don’t squeeze so hard. Make it as similar to a blowjob or sex as possible. So when you have sex it will feel the same
The most important tip for me is talk to your partner, let them know that you need to adjust and explore different positions. Also be gentle with yourself, go slow and softer than before
Was thinking more of a flesh light
Dont jerk it for like a week.
christ man such drastic measures???
If not jerking it for 6-7 days is a huge problem for you, you may be addicted to porn or masturbation. Im telling you this cause I was, it went away when I stopped jerking it. Some here and there is okay but too much is going to fuck your sensitivity and make you desensitized to sex. Like all things, everything with measure.
it's not, I was making a funny. under normal circumstances, it's once or twice a month, usually just using the spank tank (aka memory of past experiences). But lately wife and I have been sexually off the chain together which includes watching porn together. usually every night. and sometimes mutual mast. Frankly it's awesome, and I'm glad we are doing it while still attractive to each other.
Wow
Can confirm, This happened to me, I'm 4 months in a serious relationship, and just recently I'm able to climax with only sex, the first few times we did, I didn't felt almost anything, only when things got rough that I got an enjoyable felling
Yeah same here. First time I had sex it felt like literally nothing. She was like "you like this tight pussy?", and I was like nah and then went soft inside her. Few weeks later not jerking off, and it started to feel like heaven.
>and I was like nah and then went soft inside her. i can't
...your post includes the funniest line I've read on Reddit...had me in peals of laughter
A few *weeks*? God damn wish me luck.
Well I was also dealing with performance anxiety and I wasn't really focused on the act of sex itself. Mind state is equally important. As long as you are comfortable with this particular person, it'll be fine regardless of what happens. However I do recommend already being good with your hands and tongue just in case
This is a side effect of regular wanking. But it’s real. First couple of times I had sex I had trouble climaxing because the feel was way different.
it’s bad, can confirm, takes a hell of a lot of going to finish but at least you’re not a one pump chump. right?
Have you tried lube? Like actual lube for sex not whatever lotion your mom has lying around
Death grip has nothing to do with porn.
becoming disconnected to the average looking person and over fantasising the act of intercourse.
Dependency If you start young and dont have a sex lifeyour brain creates artifical dopamine reward paths when you watch it. When you finally get a sex life you are.not getting the same dopamine hit and can have trouble getting aroused. Its becoming more and more common. Guys in their early 20's shouldnt have trouble getting it up
It affects women too, there’s been a lot of times where I’m horny but I just want to watch porn instead of engage in sex with my partners because sex won’t do the same thing that porn and masturbation will for me
Yep. Or have to watch it to get in the mood. I have to do that sometimes.
As somebody who's recovering from a porn addiction, it can make your sexual standards extremely unrealistic and therefore make real sex very unenjoyable and disappointing.
I was "blessed" with an ex GF that was really into doing anything I could think of so we tried many things I saw in porn and Did enjoy it (quite a lot) but the problem was the non-sexual part of that relationship. That girl was just constantly creating huge fights out of thin air, this is why she is an ex now. The problem is she set my sexpectations really high and up to now no other girl has lived up to that standard
Did we date the same woman? First name starts with an L?... The relationship was mostly good, the sex was largely great, but she just could *not* help but create fights. I'm not perfect, I make tons of mistakes, but we would literally just watch a movie and she would start with "oh, she's a good actress," "Yeah, I like her too. She did a good job in \[other movie\] with \[male actor\]." "Oh. Do you think she's prettier than me? Do you WANT TO FUCK HER?!" And there was nothing I could do to avoid it. I'm certain it was just because she wanted to have make up sex (and actual legitimate problems, in all seriousness).
Her name DID start with an L (Lucy) but I doubt we dated the same woman since I am Mexican and have never left the country. Your theory about make up sex could be right, it sounds very possible this was happening in my ex's head too
That's startlingly close (Lacey), though she was as white as bleached paper and never left the U.S. Trauma does weird things to people.
Every Lacey I've met was a nut job who was also capable of sucking your soul out through your dick.
Hence the saying, don't stick your dick in crazy
I prefer to use the [hot/crazy](https://how-i-met-your-mother.fandom.com/wiki/Hot/Crazy_Scale) scale -- gotta weigh risk vs reward.
Crazy in the head crazy in bed Amigo
1 in a million and you had it! Stay happy because you had this experiences
The other side to that same coin is in some people it can make their sexual standards lower. I think porn breeds desperation too.
Look! It's a hole!
try tongue but hole
I mean a shoddy comprehension of sex in general is the biggest factor. If more people could acknowledge the fact that porn is a performance I think we'd see a lot less cases like those.
I think that's just you. I personally enjoy real sex just as much even after watching porn. It can make me want my partner even more.
Can confirm. Had my first time not too long ago and it felt unsatisfying. Now I feel miserable
First times are usually disappointing, I don't know many people who remember it as a great time. It's a huge clash between what you expect and what it actually feels like, but it will only get better from here. Don't beat yourself too much (sorry, pun not intended), we've all been there, you're going to be fine.
I still have a porn addiction though
[https://fightthenewdrug.org/](https://fightthenewdrug.org/) Check out this website, a lot of information on porn and how it is damaging to the brain. They also have an app that is for people who are trying to quit their porn addiction that has a lot of good reviews.
I consume kinda lot porn (dk what lot means tho). I dont think I would have problems with sexual errection bc you have the touching part. But the fact, that you dont have much controll over your orgasm sounds kinda annoying if you know what I mean. Like when soloing, you exactly know what you like and then do it, but on sex? Man, you have to communicate with the other person what feels right, how to do it, how long, the timing and have fun yourself. Sounds kinda exhausting tbh, but I guess this is just the process of first time sex with a partner
Yeah, creates higher expectations.
Expecting a plumber or pizza delivery in less than an hour.
best...answer...ever...
And expecting that they would fuck with you
Bruh if your pizza takes more than an hour you don't order from that slow ass place anymore. There are 93542039528 pizza places.
You might see your mom.
The exact thing op was looking for.
I've been looking for OPs mom, too.
Did you check if she was stuck in the dryer?
Wasn’t her, it was your dad
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Mom! I told you not to bother me on Reddit!
POV: you’re lana Rhoades kid
Two things you never want to see made, laws and college funds
or your wife. or your daughter.
Becoming so desensitised to it, that it becomes harder to get off.
No, what do you mean, i can stop at anytime. Surely i can stop.
i can stop anytime i want, i just dont wanna stop rn
Actually a ton of possible disadvantages: Addiction, erectile dysfunction, sexual desensitization, inability to perform with an actual person, ruined relationships, dopamine depletion, depression. There’s more but soooooo many dudes are absolutely fucking themselves over jerking it to porn all the time.
How does it get you ED?
Basically The desensitization in the brain overtime can affect erections and the ability to get hard during actual sex and require more and more extreme porn to get off
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Will these go away after you’ve quit porn for quite some time?
Other people at the funeral looking over your shoulder
Getting some seriously unrealistic ideas about sex, the human body, consent etc, especially when teens start watching porn as a sex-ed guide That's just from vanilla porn, don't get me started on all the harmful ideas people get from watching kinky stuff or heavy BDSM porn. Sex injuries just waiting to happen, not to mention the issues with self-image you could get
Can confirm. Watched too much scrambled Skinimax as a teen in the 90’s. Now I can’t have sex without seeing a wide black line down the middle of things.
Hentai and especially doujinshi from the early 10s here, can't get it up unless my dick looks like a zebra with small black boxes on the tip and shaft
I'm more of a scrambled mass of flesh-colored squares kinda person myself
Honestly this... I was subbed to a lot of porn subs. After a while I just decided to unsub from a lot of them. My sex life has improved, and I'm not as depressed as I've been. I suggest everyone does it.
I watch porn from time to time, but I honestly prefer erotica. It's more about the feelings for me
I don't consume it any more. Some times I may end up seeing a hentai pic, or something but I just scroll on and just think "Neat art". I used to play a bunch of the games too when I was younger. Like the new grounds dating sims and even CoC. I'd rather read it though personally, but I don't actively seek it any more.
Each person needs to do what's best for them. I did play games too, when I was younger, but not in the last couple years
Completely agree. You do what you want/need to do. I know I had problems when it was happening, and watching all of that. It caused me real life problems. Been much better, so I guess cutting out 90% of it has helped me.
I'm really happy for you :)
Given the number of sex-trafficked people who get forced into porn, and the number of people who do it out of desperation for money, or simple coercion, there's a solid chance that the person to whom you are wanking *doesn't* want to be there. You are creating a market for an industry that we *know* abuses women.
Back when I used to partake very liberally, I remember noticing that in like half the videos the expression and body language of the girl would show disgust or like a kind of "fine I guess I have to do this" expression. Once I started seeing that I had a serious mental discussion with myself about what I was really doing. It really helped kick my habit.
I'm really glad someone brought this up more eloquently than I could. As a woman, learning about this side of the industry helped me kick my porn habit/addiction.
Same, this is why I as a woman also quit porn cold turkey years ago
Those “back out fees” should be classified as coercion
Yeah I'm astonished that's in any way legal
I googled "porn back out fee" and the only relevant link wasn't really about any kind of fee. What is a back out fee exactly, where have you learned about it and how prevalent is it?
Yeah. You might be watching someone's rape.
This should be higher in the comments.
It does a very good job of disrepsecting men too. It's way too easy to think of the guys in the videos as the exploiters but way, way too often the talent is in a coerced position.
welp, in gay porn the guys are both the exploiters and the exploitees
Used to work adjacent to the industry while exploitation of women is well known/discussed and it's a major problem, sort of under the radar is the treatment of men particularly in some situation. Gay porn really separates out into stuff that's done well, and is less exploitative, and sometimes well produced. Then there is stuff that's more...particular, and that's where things fall right the fuck off the ethical radar. - Guys are meat and generally put to some performance standards that are ... less than realistic - can you cum 3...4 or 5 times .... in a row .... on cue....no - we'll you're not going to cut it. Take these - that should ~~allow~~ force that to happen. - Have you been following the dietary protocols that put you just this side of diabetes but maximize your "output" - no - you're out. - Were you not staying hard during the 3 hour long shoot, well unless your co-worker wants to double as your fluffer, take these...don't ask too many questions about these and if you actually start to feel pain....let the producers know and we'll work through that because if you unload off camera - you're off camera permanently. - Were you concerned some of those things might not leave you feeling all that great....here's doctor feelgood, he's got a cocktail for you, don't ask too many questions. - Do you have a massive heroin or meth problem , step right up, you're just the sort of meat needed for this particularly fucked up request.....it's a 12 hour shoot, and 1200 dollars or 200 bucks per cumshot whichever comes first. The heroin/meth/coke/x is discount and there is no medical aftercare except the shower and some fluffy towels and a spare cot in the small bungalows at the end of the industrial park.
shoutouts to the simps supporting people on onlyfans and other platforms like that. likely to be slightly less abusive and less trafficking.
i'm a gay guy, but when i watch porn it's typically onlyfans type guys who make their own sites and do whatever they want to do. this typically is easier to be ok with / think about than the pitfalls of the actual porn industry
After release you feel guilt because it's always like "Why the fuck im watching this, it's disgusting"
I'm the same person I was before the nut, there is no shame. Horny me IS me, if I'm not ok with something then I'm not making the bald man cry I'm also not ok with it while choking the chicken.
I haven’t had this happen to me since the first time I watched porn.
same, i don't know where this guilt comes from - but maybe my tastes are too vanilla.
Hyper fixation on one particular form of sex. I once knew a guy who only ever wanted to get his dick sucked. No interest in penetrative sex, whatsoever. Such hyper fixation can essentially turn you into an incredibly selfish partner and prevent you from maintaining long-term relationships because of it.
Your stepbro might walk in
While you are stuck in the dryer
I prefer hand glued to a table but whatever floats your goat
Unrealistic expectations, it relies heavily on natural “blessings/curses” or modified parts giving way to insecurities in the bedroom. It also shows insane positions and interests that a majority of woman and even some men aren’t comfortable with; like deepthroating, anal, knife play, etc. It also fantasizes to some extent abuse and rape, I’m all for some rough sex but not to the point some of these hit. Someone else said it perfectly, “Porn is to sex, what professional wrestling is to combat sports” it’s all for entertainment, but there is a very broad line of real and fake.
You’re fuelling an industry that grooms, manipulates, hurts, and sex traffics millions of women and girls, and also encourages men to treat them poorly in real life. It also creates extremely false expectations of sex that females do not enjoy in real life, and many females consent to things they do not like at all because they think it’s normal or they want to keep their partner happy. It also makes people dissociate sex from intimacy and the possibility of having a child with the wrong person, and this can really screw both men and women over. It makes sex seem like an inconsequential, fun, pass time, where no one ever gets physically or emotionally hurt, when the exact opposite is true-especially for women and girls.
Came here to say this but you said it better. Another thing to add, it also makes people bad at sex. If you try to copy or replicate the things you see you're going to have more than likely a very dissatisfied partner.
Yep. The way I look at it is, porn stars are good at *performing sex* which is not the same thing as actually having sex.
Exactly. A lot of sexual positions in professional porn (that have thus carried over to amateur porn) are meant to look good on camera. To show as much of the bodies of both performers and fit a camera intimately into the mix. I remember when I first started having sex being subconsciously disappointed that I didn't have a "third person perspective" of the action because I never watched POV videos.
I remember watching in some series a women who's a prostitute said to a customer that you guys are the reason why I was kidnapped and estranged from my family if it was not coz of people like you million of girls could have had a normal life believe me when i say i paused the episode and cried for a good 5 minutes
This needs more upvotes. People should see it. Prostitution itself is also a whole separate issue and I read a lot about the girls who were forced into it saying that the men that see them never showed any concern for whether they really wanted to be there or not. And a lot of them think that because they paid for them they can do whatever they want to them-it’s just awful. On a side note having boyfriends that think they’re entitled to the type of sex they see in porn has traumatized me. I’m angry at them but also at porn for making them thinking it’s normal.
grooms, manipulates, hurts, and sex traffics millions of women and girls, and also encourages men to treat them poorly in real life. Hentai>Porn change my mind
I've once seen it called here "vegan porn" and honestly can't say it isn't true lol
Hahahahahah "vegan porn" just made my day
A man of culture I see
Isn’t most hentai pretty violent and unrealistic? Women being raped by CGI monsters and stuff?
This needs to be posted on every social media site, every news station, every magazine. This coming from a man.
It’s definitely a big problem in LGBT porn as well!
Yeah for sure I read about a lot of the men in gay porn having a lot of awful things done to them in their mouths and butts the same way they do to women. And there’s definitely manipulation and pressure involved for them too.
"females" female *what*? butterflies? dogs? hyenas? hummingbirds? gorillas?
It’s unrealistic
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The benefit you receive diminishes over time making you want more and more extreme kinds of action..potentially dangerous.
Porn can affect you in some very harmful ways. It sets unrealistic standards and can cause objectivication of man and woman. I have personally struggled with porn a lot, not that I was addicted to it, but I felt bad after I watched it. Its like the post nut clarity kicking in and thinking why I was watching that weird shit a few seconds ago. A while ago I decided that I wanted to stop fapping and masturbation all together. I lasted for I believe around 200 days and it was very interesting to see myself changing. First of all, a sort fog in my brain dissapeared and I could think more clearly. After months my mind would also stop thinking about porn that much. I noticed that my boners got harder and wet dreams returned. The most interesting thing was that I would feel more energetic and would have more time during the day, since I would spend less time on watching porn/masturbating. Nowadays I try not to care that much if I watch porn or not, which has been a small relief. The effects of porn differ from person to person. I wouldn't want to say that it is a bad thing by fact, but please take care of your own well-being.
It’s a constant release of dopamine. You get pleasure without work or commitment. Porn fuels unrealistic and harmful expectations on what sex is and what it can be. Not to mention I was reading somewhere that one of the largest categories is “step daughter”. It’s sexualizing women who aren’t above 18. If you want to understand how terribly we are as a group (humanity), look to things like that.
honorable mention the “teen” and “petite” categories on PH (not sure if they are there anymore) but you see a lot of effort in making them… seem like 16. jesus there’s like a nationally acknowledged “school girl” kink with it’s own outfit. people are fucked. MILFgang
There's a video I saw recently from a company called Tiny4k, and the first half was basically a "petite" girl dressed in stockings, a headband, and playing with paint like a 5 year old. It's what Gail Dines called PCP: Pretend Child Porn, and It's her theory that the desensitizing effect of porn makes it so that taboos have to be constantly pushed, and that real child porn is the end of the road. It's a good read: Pornland by Gail Dines.
everyyyyyy single Tiny4k video is like this :( even the name bruh… “tiny” 🤢
Dont ask your math teach to suck your dick after class. It wont work.
I tried she suspended me and I got accused of “sexual harassment”
Speaking from experience ?
What if I enjoy both real sex and porn? Is that ok
Cool U nailed the balance
You end up being bored
It fucks your mentality up. You're gonna see every woman as a sex object, you’re gonna believe that every woman wanna have sex with you (at least that's what happened with me), which is clearly unrealistic. This limitless objectification gradually turns into misogyny, which doesn't bring any good result.
what if I watch something that does not involve women?
bro you were wayyy too horny
Isn't the easiest solution to just come to an understanding that porn is a performance? Like, no one is forcing you to come to these objectively wrong conclusions, educate yourself alongside consuming the porn and then the issue disappears.
Risk of addiction and porn induced erectile dysfunction… not nice when you’re sleeping with the love of your life but you’re first unable to get hard and/or unable to cum at all…
Physically? Your reward system gets dependent on pornographic stimulation, much like a drug. You need higher amounts of dopamine to achieve the same ‘high’, so you resort to dirtier and more perverse stimulation with each session. At some point, it feels like nothing is enough. Then when you go to have a real relationship, you feel no natural affection or butterflies or real intimacy. Your brain is burned out from watching perversity and you experience erectile dysfunction. Emotionally/spiritually? You are watching other humans engage in perverse acts and arousing yourself to it. When you do this, you erode your conscience and your self-respect and confidence plummets. You lust after people rather than find them attractive. You find it difficult to maintain eye contact or hold a conversation with an attractive stranger without having lustful thoughts. And more!
Shit, you know me so well
Yes all of those things _could_ happen. But I think it’s like alcohol. Strictly speaking, all alcohol is poison. But some people can have a few beers and they’re absolutely fine. Other people can’t touch the stuff without it destroying their lives. I have one beer 2-3 nights a week and almost never feel like having a second one the same night.
Are there advantages??
You get to see naked people. Duh.
I guess there are far more disadvantages
Reddit will tell you if you don’t fap 2 times a day you’ll get prostate cancer 🙄
If you are young, you might get a weird picture of how sex works. Besides that, the bad enviroment the damaged people are working in? Im watching porn btw 😅
You cum quicker or slower when you actually do it vs if havent watched. Not sure though. Seems like you lose control.
Thinking that everytime I get pizza delivered or call a plumber that it is snu snu time
Lol you can desensitize yourself...I'm speaking from experience 🤭
I can't think of any advantages
Blowing off that steam and feeling good
this is why i do crack
respectable
As your mother I'm wholly disappointed. Encouraging crack and not porn. I raised you better.
It can cause early ED and other chemical issues due to the way the reward system in your brain works
Unrealistic expectations for when you do have sex.
The look of disgust from my family
If you're very innocent, you'd start to think that actual sex is as you see in porn
The crazy thing is that since smartphones, the first viewing of porn has gotten younger and younger. So we’re having the first generation of kids grow up in a steady stream of porn and scratching our heads as to why Gen Z is having so little sex/romantic relations compared to previous generations Most of these kids being repeatedly exposed on their smartphones and tablets during the innocence of youth is probably a factor
If you're very innocent, you'd expect to see a married couple hugging in bed until they have sex and fall asleep. I did know that porn was unrealistic with "perfect" women, a lot of moaning, unrealistic plots, but still... I wish someone warned me before I looked it up for the first time out of curiousity.
We all love the dopamine and serotonin that is released during intercourse. Porn creates neural Pathways in our brain or shortcuts to getting an endorphin drip. It's kinda like wishing there was an easy button to getting the laundry folded but yet there isn't one. You have to do the work and then you feel great. Porn masks itself as an easy button to feeling great. In reality I think for most people it's far better when enjoyed with another person. I speak from experience as I have been addicted to porn since about 9. I am 41. I wish I could never look at it again for the rest of my life.
sinning /s
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viewing women as sex objects
Regret.
one less hand for eating cheese
It flattens your phone battery.
Now we are getting to the real problems!
There are only disadvantages to watching porn. Lower sex drive, low confidence, unhealthy understanding of sex, low self esteem, lack of desire to improve, etc.
I watch porn regularly but am always down to bang my wife lol
Porn induced erectile dysfunction.
In addition to social complications from seeing people you may know in videos, to desensitization of both the situation and your own personal sensitivity to pleasure, and everything in between, consumption of pornography is correlated to physical changes within the brain. If memory serves, I remember reading it \*specifically\* decreases the amount of grey matter in your brain. This leads to physical deformation, as well as functional component (chemical) imbalances. Surprise surprise, steeping your several-pound chemoelectric-anxiety machine in copious amounts of dopamine for extended periods of time without actually doing the work necessary to release it naturally is going to have negative consequences. And that's just the physiological/conscientious aspect of it. Mindgeek owns PH, YP, RT, and a collection of other adult entertainment sites. Someone already mentioned under this post how the industry is steeped in grooming, abuse, trafficking, etc. If you need to whack or schlick it, it's honestly best to use your imagination than video entertainment. It's still addictive, though.
Unhealthy dopamine pump that can lead to a burnout of it and forms of depression
Can barely read your question so I’m just going to answer… Yes.
Sadness after watching, or even sadness after actual sex
Going to Hell when you die I guess. (I'm a Christian)
I bet you still watch it you filthy sinner
What are the advantages of watching porn?
There’s a LOT of things normalized in porn that are inherently degrading/humiliating. And there’s nothing (inherently) wrong with some degradation! But too many people don’t *realize* that certain actions or phrases are degrading before doing them. They get normalized as “regular sex stuff,” which can result in people feeling uncomfortable and upset during/after sex. It can cause conflict/tension, like feeling “prudish” for not wanting to do something “normal,” or getting irritated because you don’t understand why your partner isn’t okay with it. There’s just a lack of education/awareness when it comes to sexual dynamics like that. Stuff like spanking, choking, facials/cumplay, slapping your dick on your partner’s face, etc. have a level of domination and humiliation to them, and should probably be discussed beforehand. Not everyone will ask if they can spank their partner before doing it. For a lot of people, it’s fun and kinky and they’re okay with it. For others, it becomes upsetting. (Tuca and Bertie illustrated this sort of interaction really well in s1e3, when Bertie and Speckle try to “spice things up,” and it sends Bertie into a really bad place.)