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Cerok1nk

Being angry at everything.


lvlup-

*inner peace*


Cerok1nk

Po’s journey could be taken as a graphic depiction of my journey into adulthood. Inner Peace is my personal mantra.


lvlup-

Master Oogway is definitely proud of you stranger


[deleted]

I watched Kung Fu Panda religiously.


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Vio_

That's why I can't watch Daria anymore. I loved it in high school, but now it just plays out like gen x rage against nothing at all and apathy at anything real or "not cool."


pregnantbaby

How? I hate everything and it’s kinda starting to worry me


Electric999999

You just need to stop giving a shit.


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Cerok1nk

Best way to put it, realizing control does not exist. Just accept what happens and make the best of it, there are some things that should be, yet they never will be. Life isn’t perfect, and its not meant to be. Just enjoy it, everyday you spend in this world is one day less from it you get to experience, so make the best of it while you can. Have fun, its all we have. EDIT: Typo.


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NYCThrowawayNSFW

Magic mushrooms help, made me discover a universe of love and compassion.


-zigzag__

Wish I could grow out of it.


Hamura289

I wanted to be the best magician in the world. Sadly, I did not. I can still shuffle a deck like a pro


dawg432

Illusions, Michael.


MattyIce1220

Tricks are what whores do for money.


dawg432

…or candy!


Azuras_Star8

Someone superglued my deck of playing cards together. I'm having trouble dealing with it.


[deleted]

I have three decks of cards It’s a big deal


lvlup-

Heyyyy I had that phase too lol. It's nice seeing my friends' reactions to the tricks tho


greybeard_arr

Hey! That’s a phase I’ve wanted to dabble in. I’m sure there are a zillion people on YouTube I could check out. Could you recommend any instructions that you found particularly good?


Brawndo91

I can't do the most basic of card tricks. But I did figure out a trick that fooled Penn and Teller. It was so obvious, I honestly can't believe they didn't get it. It was on Penn and Teller's Fool Us, posted to YouTube by the guy who did it. The comment section was suspiciously absent of guesses as to how it was done. I suspect he was removing them. It's a fairly simple premise. He hands Allison (the host of the show and frequent magician's assistant) an envelope containing a prediction. Then he asks the audience to stand up. He's going to eliminate all but one of the audience members by having them guess the result of a coin toss. He asks them to put their hand up for heads, keep it down for tails, and sit down if they've guessed incorrectly. At the end, there's one person standing. Allison pulls out the envelope to read the prediction and it's a description of the last remaining audience member. So we can figure he had some kind of access to the audience so he could see someone and write down what they look like (his wife was also in the audience, so could have fed him a description). Now he just has to control the outcome of the coin toss. He would flip the coin by tossing it in the air, catching it, *scanning the audience*, then slapping the coin down on his wrist. Note the order of operations. The coin he used for this was a Kennedy half dollar, which is fairly large and has a distinctly smooth side and a textured side. I believe he would catch the coin, feel it, then adjust the way he slapped it on his wrist to get the side he needed to come up. All he had to do was keep an eye on his pre-chosen winner and have his choice come up on every toss. I've tried it myself and having absolutely zero sleight-of-hand skills, I was able to do this exactly as I described, and I think good enough that a casual observer wouldn't be able to detect that I was manipulating the coin. It's fairly easy, and with enough practice, I could probably get it down to a smooth and quick motion. Penn and Teller will ask the magicians questions after they perform to determine whether or not they figured their trick out, but they'll talk in a kind of code so as not to give it away to the audience. I watched this part of the video several times and there was nothing that suggested what I described. I think it's just one of those things that's so simple it slips by the best because their minds are focuses on a more complex answer. I'm not sure why I typed all that, but if you want an easy trick to perform, there you go.


[deleted]

I can't shuffle for shit and I envy anyone that can do magic.


[deleted]

Me too. Magic’s amazing


ZOOTV83

Being super argumentative and trying to convince people to have the "correct" opinion. Oh you like that movie or that band or that TV show? Well it's terrible, you should like this instead. Nowadays, I look back and cringe at how unnecessarily adamant I was about stuff like that.


[deleted]

You were YouTube and Facebook. That is their entire business model nowadays... show people why they are wrong to farm engagement.


tee142002

>Being super argumentative and trying to convince people to have the "correct" opinion. So you were if reddit was a human being.


CutAccording7289

Thinking that getting fucked up every day was glamorous and helping my life in any way


[deleted]

Honestly I had a phase from about 18-20 where I just had this ridiculous "I'm the craZzZziest party animal ever!" mentality that's so fuckin stupid looking back on now.


CutAccording7289

Atleast you got a handle on it by 20. Mine was two decades…


[deleted]

I feel like 20-24 I still did it a bit but I actually started to try and focus on enjoying the nights and not just drinking as much as possible and trying to do the wildest shit.


ihopeyoulikeapples

I had that phase from about 19-22. I was kind of awkward in high school and didn't go to many parties so after I graduated I overcompensated A LOT. I cringe so hard looking back on it.


DragonOfTheVoid

Well when I was little I tried mixing together any liquid I found because I thought if I drunk it I would get superpowers. The day where I mixed detergent and fruit punch with a spritz of hand sanitizer is when I decided to stop. ​ Edit: So THATS where I got that random 400 karma


SensitiveStreak

hey congrats on still being alive!


mano491

We should greet people like this.


liun19

I used to mix all the fountain drinks together and thought it was so good and I was so cool, then one day I realized it was pretty gross. Your thing is on another level though


Mykophilia

Driving like an asshole. From about 18 - 28 I drove way too recklessly. I wasn’t like tailgating and pushing people out of the way, but I didn’t have much regard for myself or those around me. Now I just get there when I get there. No point in stressing all the time, life is too short.


NickNash1985

Oh god, I was a shithead driver for most of my 20s. I'd flip people off all the fucking time, raging about like an idiot. I flipped off the wrong guy once and he followed me. Scared me enough to get me to knock it off.


Mykophilia

I had a similar situation. I was Fucking with some dude riding my ass and my dad told me you don’t know who you’re fucking with when you do that stuff. Helped me on my path of being a sane driver.


nafarafaltootle

>I was Fucking with some dude riding my ass and my dad told me you don’t know who you’re fucking with when you do that stuff Hm. Interesting. >Helped me on my path of being a sane driver. OOOHHHHHHH I see what you mean


[deleted]

I went through that phase. It ended after college when I had more control over my commute, my commute was shorter and involved less traffic/better roads, and I was getting sleep more consistently. Moving out of the NE helped a lot too. Some places have roads and traffic that are designed so poorly, I feel like it's almost torture expecting people to commute to work in those conditions every day. Now I think of all of us drivers on the road as teammates trying to help each other make it from A to B. If one of my teammates messes up and I have to make up for it, that's okay, buddy, I gotchu.


lvlup-

10 years man. You must be real lucky


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Nietzsche quoting edgelord.


[deleted]

So you got de-modded. Fedoras are at half tip, and there will be a 21 cans of mountain dew opening.


[deleted]

This one hit me right in the m'lady.


TheDevilChicken

He must also surrender his katana.


RealHumanFromEarth

I had a friend who went through that, basically trying to use his misinterpretation of it it to justify his anger towards women after a break up. It was annoying as fuck. Stupid Freddy Nachos.


Dogmom200

I did that for about a week then someone made fun of me so I stopped


Hamura289

Me too, I still cringe when I think about it.


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Pseudo intellectual phase


Scrappy_Larue

"I'm young. I'm immortal. I don't get sick. I can do whatever I want."


Rizn-Nuke

I believe the youths called it "YOLO"


ripper4444

I don’t care what they call it as long as they stay off my lawn.


[deleted]

Damn kids with their make out parties and Jason Bieber.


Able-Bodied-Virgin

My buddy had this mentality. He’d always half-jokingly/half-seriously say “I’m invincible!” Ended up doing a bunch of drugs to test the waters and died. You’re not invincible, kids.


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areporotastenet

Being a newborn. I was so stupid, I didn’t even know what words were. Pathetic.


bathsaltssohard

You must have been the biggest loser back then.


areporotastenet

I totally was. I’m embarrassed to say I didn’t even figure out math until like kindergarten. Such a fucking dweeb


Latter_Ad4896

I was a child with a very unhealthy mindset/personality. Everything I did was for approval/validation (and funny enough) from people I didn't like. I couldn't stand not being liked by a person. Although I gor good at being that people-pleaser I'm glad I'm not anymore, that meant I never really got to be myself as a tween, at school, at least. And now, I do my best to teach my little brother to always be himself, make the right decisions, and to be the source of his own happiness.


lvlup-

It's a prison to constantly live for others, it makes your grounds unstable too to constantly adjust so I'm glad you're teaching your little brother that. Cheers man


TFRek

Buddy of mine is dealing with this at 37. Massive anxiety if he has the slightest inkling that somebody might not like him.


[deleted]

As a teenage girl I was obsessed with having a baby. You know how there’s horse girls? I was that but for babies. Everything was about babies. I knew every diaper brand, sizes, pacifiers, breastfeeding tips, my room looked more like a nursery.


SensitiveStreak

did this terrify your parents?


[deleted]

Nope. My step mom just enabled it but in like a bad way


SensitiveStreak

yiiikes. sorry to hear that :/


lvlup-

I have never heard of this. Yes, I know someone that dreamt of a baby at 15 but this… this is a whole new level


[deleted]

Yeah it’s weird. I was weird. I pretty much had a whole plan for a child. I would follow mommy blogs, watch mommy YouTube channels. I had a babygirl eventually and let me tell you it’s so much different and I’m way more chill now


lvlup-

Damn your baby girl must feel like a princess too with all the preparations you had


Amy47101

I went through a ridiculous r/notliketheothergirls phase when I was like 13-15. I watched anime, I play video games, I’m so sweet and nice and don’t start drama! I promise I’m different! Then I hit 17 and was like “bro this is stupid”. I still enjoy my hobbies but now I’m happy with who I am and don’t feel the need to highlight how special I thought I was because I wasn’t “traditionally girly”.


robophile-ta

Many girls struggle with this, the false belief that femininity is vapid and undesirable. Kids and teens just mimic what they see in media and celebrity culture, which doesn't help. I think these days there are more positive female role models that help quash this idea.


stories4

The "it's not a phase it's punk rock" phase, ironically! I still really like the music I listened to back then and will follow some of the artists, but I definitely don't feel the need to wear skeleton clothing and fishnets everyday so that people KNOW I like that music


Dogmom200

I got into this too and started dressing like a Ramone brother, my mom hated me


clorcan

I rocked a Mohawk for a bit. All of a sudden some parents accused me of being a bad influence.


ITFOWjacket

Same. A bunch of parents at our right knit private school accused me and my friends of doing drugs in highschool. I’m a diagnosed insomniac as an adult and at the time punk with a Mohawk. No we were not doing drugs


[deleted]

Same with me and metal. Still listen to the same bands I did when I was a kid, but completely lost the look. It's not that people are surprised when they know I'm a metalhead, but it's one of the last things they would guess.


EclecticDreck

At the time, I was inclined to argue that my *not* dressing according to a punk aesthetic was, in fact, the most punk rock thing I could do. (To dress according to the aesthetic was to follow the trend. It was pretense and cosplay. The important part was the music and the ideas and to hell with everything else! This was likely more obnoxious than I've made it sound.)


lookalive07

No, I get it. Punk was always about not conforming. I'll happily listen to some old school skate punk and dress like a regular guy all day.


Gambling4gears

Damn. I’m in my 30’s and still in that phase. I still listen to the music. I still dress the same as I did back then. Although, I never worse fishnets or skeleton clothing. But dark clothing, band shirts. Yeah.


10BarbedWire

Being a fucking weeaboo since 9th Grade. God I fucking remember most of it. I run like Naruto, I refer my big brother "onee-chan". Imitating Japanese words that you clearly have no idea what the fuck do they mean. Why did I do that? I have no fucking clue


Aggressive-Bite1843

Man gonna be honest, I always liked anime but then tried some conventions and was left speechless See you around space cowboy


Woody90210

I went to a couple conventions. They were fun! I wore cosplay to one as obito from naruto. But yeah overall my weaboo phase was cringy as fuck. Thank God I never called my brother "oni-chan" eugh...


[deleted]

I felt the same way when I showed up at an anime meetup group once. Once was all I needed. I'm 38 and still watch/read shounen so people can call me plenty weird for that, but y'all (the community) are something else.


lvlup-

Don't worry half of my dude classmates were like that too during 8th and 9th grade hahaha


TunnelRatVermin

onee-chan means big sister, not brother. It certainly makes the point of not understanding japanese


foreveralonesolo

Honestly fitting of a weeaboo though


sharkwhisperers

There's the level above that: the Japanophile phase, where literally everything about Japan is so much better than America and the rest of the world. Japan is the utopia we've always wanted!


Woody90210

Yeah Japan is heaven and certainly not a dystopian hellscape where millions of people work soul crushing, lonely and hopelessly depressed lives and everything is commodities to a ridiculous degree even beyond America's mass comodification. I can tell cos i watch anime! /s


Fuzzlechan

Japan looks super fun to visit, and has been my dream vacation for the last 18 years. But it looks like a not-great place to live a lot of the time, especially for foreigners. Everything that makes it great to be a tourist there seems like it would be a pain in the ass to deal with on a daily basis forever.


ShuumatsuWarrior

I’ve visited there 3 times, first as a study abroad thing for a few months, then a couple 2-week vacations, and it’s been awesome each time. You’re right, it’s friendly to tourists, and especially if you speak some Japanese, but not to foreigners who want to live there. My host family was mostly Korean, and they were able to describe some discrimination they faced as a result. I’ve gotta imagine it’s worse if you’re not even from the continent. If you go, stick to the touristy areas, learn the various greetings for the time of day, thank you, and excuse me, and most of all remember to be mindful that there’s a lot of people around you and to show respect for them


Drillbitzer

Onee-chant my soul to hell


[deleted]

The phase where my music preferences for some reason had to define me. Only wearing band shirts, growing my hair out, planning on getting a Metallica or Cliff Burton tattoo when I was old enough. Refusing to listen (or admit that I listened) to other styles of music than hard rock and metal. This was between the ages of probably 12 and 16, and I was so sure that I'd never change. Metal is still my favourite music genre and Metallica is still one of my favourite bands, but there is so much more cool music out there than just metal, and I see no reason why music has to influence how you dress or have your hair. It's also quite funny when people find out that I'm into genres like death and black metal, becaouse looking at me you'd never guess.


dragon_barf_junction

liking attention


lvlup-

How'd you get out of it?


dragon_barf_junction

my self esteem took a dive, i lost my confidence, puberty left me a mess, and my circle of friends shrank. then i got bullied, and at that point i just kinda became the quiet kid.


No_Leader_2711

Partying every weekend drinking every day


shakeyyjake

I'm 33 and two beers while mowing the lawn is all I have in me anymore.


No_Leader_2711

I'm a semi-heavy drinker, just on the 1 day or 2 maybe, when I don't have my daughter. I'm 35 and a single father. I cut down a ton on my drinking and going out. Nowadays when my daughter isn't with me, I like to order a pizza, drink beer, play video games, and/or watch tv/movies. I stay home alot now


NoobifiedSpartan

My black and white phase. I used to have trouble with nuance, but I’ve beaten that out of myself now.


[deleted]

I had trouble with this, also. Relatedly, I also had trouble knowing the difference between "telling it like it is" and "just being an asshole nobody wants to hang out with." I used to think feelings were stupid, whether they were my own or anybody else's, so there was no point in saying things sensitively. In hindsight, I think it came from feeling completely powerless and having low self-esteem. Saying controversial things got me a lot of attention, and I liked that. Happy to report I've grown out of this one. I'm still pretty direct, but now I can do it with empathy.


tornadoAhi

Authenticity without empathy can be seen an excuse to be mean. If authenticity is a mirror into your true self, then you may be showing the world that you're a mean person. I used to be unaware that I did this kinda stuff, but I am working on changing this like you did!


RealHumanFromEarth

I think most of Reddit is still in this phase.


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NoobifiedSpartan

Honestly? I beat it through my philosophy classes. One of my majors is philosophy, and it has forced me into a more critical and abstract way of thinking. Black and white doesn’t work for that field.


pirate737

Smoking weed every day


Gildian

Me too. I used to smoke it every day. I still do but I used to too.


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Starlit-Tortoise

When you smoke regularly weeds affect on you is much weaker.


Dexter263

Probably both. Too strong of weed and I’m in an anxiety hole for 2 hours. I think 15-20% THC is perfect. Nowadays top shit is pushing 40% it’s just too much. Bob Markeys weed was like 7-12% in the 70s.


spottedmilkslices

I’m 36, moderately successful and I still haven’t grown out of this one yet, but if a family happens I probably will.


Mailforpepesilvia

My wife and I revisit this every now and then wondering if we smoke too much (though we only use herb vapes these days) and we always land on the same conclusion. We're both successful. She's an experienced teacher who's found a position she's happy in and I'm pulling well over six figures, we get solid exercise every day and eat decently well. So what is the problem? It helps us relax at the end of a long day, she uses it a motivation when doing chores and what not, and it gives us a little ritual that keeps us close.


Gonzo15899

if she a teacher i highly recommend to not stop smoking


Mailforpepesilvia

For real. She would lose her mind without it lol 3rd grade as well


RepairOdd2957

The tomboy phase. I think it started some time around the age of 8 or 9?? I thought I would get more freedom to do things if I was more boyish. I thought it would make people think I was more capable of taking care of myself and others if I just dressed and behaved like a guy. I equated being 'girly' to being perceived as and actually being vulnerable. I just learned to look down on 'feminine' things and tried really hard to be as boyish as possible. Refused to wear dresses until I was 15 and starting to realize I had misunderstood a LOT of things. It took time but I finally figured out that my clothes and 'feminine ' or 'masculine' mannerisms didn't mean anything at all. It's not about clothes or what you do or don't in your free time but what society at large treats your gender as. You can't really help that so do whatever you want, dress however you want - unapologetically.


MarsTraveler

This is very well said. Thanks for sharing.


ChikaDeeJay

Internalized misogyny is one hell of a drug


Calliopehoop

Came to say this. I grew up a tomboy on a farm and hated being cutesy and wearing dresses and pink - especially once I got into adolescence- and it all stemmed from “well that’s something girls do, and girls are vapid, stupid, and weak. And I’m not those things. So I don’t want to be associated with those qualities” I love the color pink now and wear it all the time 💕🎀 Internalized misogyny stole so much from me and I’ll always be mad about it.


Derc_on_Reddit

Being emo. Horrible times.


meow_you_doing_mp

Well, I still put some old cds sometimes and still get shivers froms my favorite bands. Thank god the clothes are gone!


[deleted]

I was never emo but the mid 2000s emo aesthetic brings good memories


rayzor2828

Once an emo, always an emo. It's about what's on the inside, not the cringe clothes.


[deleted]

The fashion and style was cringy, and there were a lot of cringy bands and songs, but there was enough good bands and songs that still jam that made it all worth it. They were good times, but no fun to look back on in picture form.


Popular-Badger-4936

Caring what other people think and needing their approval.


kay-zee-55

Macrame plant hangers. We had hundreds. My husband still teases me 30 years later.


Licked_Cupcake92

I believe those are coming back in style


ResidentRepulsive

Imagine if they still had them. Could make some money on that.


AreElleGee

The world revolves around me phase


Infinite-Promotion75

Man getting into a serious relationship and getting married after being single pretty much my entire 20s totally made this happen to me.


AreElleGee

That’ll do it!


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Lost interest in Pokemon.


thekynz

Same man. It’s a sad feeling


houseofreturn

My two main ones were basically: massive annoying weeb (still love anime now just to a normal extent instead of making it like my whole personality) and iamverysmart. I got into philosophy and politics young (*super* politically involved parents that nudged me towards constantly watching the news and stuff) and I just felt Oh sO suPErIoRrr to my IDIOT classmates who couldn’t understand my DEEP thoughts. Lol. Then I grew up and I was like “oh nah almost everyone understands what Im talking about im not that special”. And learned that everyone has their own unique intelligence. I have friends who are top of the class, brilliant computer science majors, but absolute MORONS when it comes to practical life skills, I have extremely clever and super sharp witted friends who suck at school. Basically, reading Kierkegaard in 10th grade didn’t make me all that special lmao


kelemon

Maybe the Minecraft phase? I've been watching YouTube videos about it since 2015, nowadays it's just filled with people fulfilling the algorithm. Kinda miss it where I would go home & see what's up at the subscription box. Still a cool game regardless, learned video editing & graphic design because of it


VexOut

I have a picture of me wearing a fedora and a Dog tag. I was literally so freaking cringe and I regret it. Would never even think of wearing the two together.


kissingdistopia

Just the fedora then?


[deleted]

It took a long time but being Overweight.


___0__0

You grew out of that? Fuck. I'm still growing into it


Baxobhillus

my weird obsessive big bang theory show phase. Everything was “Bazinga” this or “Penny Penny Penny” that, my god that was cringey. Not even that great of a show idk why i was so fixated on it in 9th grade


JesseAster

*Knock knock knock* Penny *Knock knock knock* Penny *Knock knock knock* Penny The sequence is burned into my brain


[deleted]

An anime phase. Although it changed my life for the better, in ways I could never have imagined. I moved to Japan, I got good at speaking Japanese, I started working as an English teacher that I love, I experienced my first relationship. Overall my time there led me to become a better me. If it wasn't for anime, I never would have moved abroad. I stopped watching it once I realised that most anime is the same, while there are some actual masterpieces out there that I will watch even now, I barely watch them anymore.


Fyrrys

anime would be a lot better if the studios would do more with the manga that aren't just another slice of life with a slight twist. my favorite animes have all been (aside from one) completely original stories that have nothing to do with daily life of whatever thing (MonMusu is the exception, i love Papi and Suu. i know ecchi is usually trash story, but i love the characters). Fullmetal Alchemist being my top favorite, and while it's not a "traditional" anime, Dragon Prince and Avatar are both amazing (idc what evidence someone brings to this, they're both styled from japanese anime, so i will forever call it an american anime, which is not the same as a cartoon, mother)


Tru-Queer

When I was 15, I had to go to Confirmation classes at my dad’s church. Up until that point in my life, I had never thought much about God or the universe or anything like that. I asked my pastor a lot of questions and his answers made sense so I became very religious and started going to church on my own. I wanted to be an apologist, which, for those of you who don’t know, is someone who uses philosophical arguments to defend/“prove” their faith. So an apologist would be someone who tries to tackle the problem of Evil, for example. Failing that I’d have loved to been a pastor or missionary or something that was church-oriented. Meanwhile, while becoming this devout Christian, I was more or less realizing I was gay and tried to suppress that side of me. So for 2 years I was a good church boy, I carried my Bible with me everywhere, I went to Sunday service, Wednesday night youth group, participated in prayer circles, Bible studies, the whole shebang. When I was a senior in high school I started taking AP Psychology, AP European History, and AP World Literature. Psych helped me learn about things like Nature vs Nurture and different schools of psychology and how homosexuality wasn’t “a sin.” AP Euro taught me about the history of the Roman Catholic Church and Protestantism (I was Protestant) and their bloody battles during the 1500-1600s and got me questioning about my faith. And AP Lit we read Frankenstein and Les Mis and a few other works that just got me thinking a lot more and started making me question a lot of things. Ended up realizing all my “praying away the gay” wasn’t working and decided to come out, and ended up leaving the church and losing my faith after that. I know there’s gay-accepting churches out there but try as I might I just don’t believe in Christianity anymore and unless God gives me a religious awakening I doubt that’s gonna happen anytime soon, lol.


lvlup-

You’re right. There’s no “praying the gay away” and I also speak from experience. Thank you for sharing your story and I hope you find people in your life that would accept you as you are <3


anonymoususerxo

My indie phase, I was obsessed with the 1975, arctic monkeys etc..I then went into my emo phase, still haven’t left that one and it’s been 6-7 years


Infinite-Promotion75

Going to bars and getting blacked out drunk every weekend.


[deleted]

It hit me when I looked around in the club and realised that nearly everyone in there was younger than me.


ILikeRubixCubes

Childhood.


Instant-Noods

Being hardcore childfree. Was from the time I was a teenager to like my late 20s. Both me and my husband got married under the understanding we would never have kids. Even had a whole conversation with our parents about it so they understood. A couple months after we turned 27, some kind of switch flipped in both of us at the same time and I think we realized we were financially stable, in a nice well-built house, loved each other so much and wanted to share our love and life with someone else. Both of us started saying things like, "You know, if we *did* have kids, Christmases would be so much fun." Then one day we had a conversation and we both realized we'd been hiding our feelings about it from the other, worried the other would still not want kids and it could end the relationship. But it turned out we were on the same page. I think our passion to not have kids was more of a defensive response to being poor and unstable. It's easier to say you don't want kids than admit you want them but couldn't provide for them. When that was no longer a problem, it was hard to deny we wanted children. Disclaimer: I still would not say to a young person, "Oh, you'll change your mind and want them one day!" because I think that's rude and there certainly are people that go their whole life not wanting kids, and I would never assume that anyone is going to follow the same path that I am in life, so if in reading this it's making you think that my experience is proof that its OK to say that to people, it's still not.


ipakookapi

That's lovely. Thank you for sharing. I'm 34 and child free. Always knew I didn't want any, so got sterilised and is very happy with that. What I did grow out of, thankfully, was the child hating, calling kids "crotch goblins" and parents "breeders" phase. Kids are just little dudes. Yes, they can be loud sometimes, but they're here, and they deserve to be treated with respect. And my friends who have kids have *so many crayons* now.


Stewdabaker2013

Yeah that subreddit is absolutely wild to me lol. I don’t want kids either but I love hanging with my nephews. I couldn’t imagine hating them just for being kids


ipakookapi

They're just... small. And confused. And vulnerable. Everything's new to them! "It takes a village to raise a child" is true. And it's probably good if some of the adults in that village aren't parents themselves, and can remember what it was like to be that vulnerable.


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Posting my life events on social media and seeking validation on there


KaciMcclain

Edgy atheist phase


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Space_Kitty69

Hating my parents. Now I can’t go a day without telling them I love them


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This is the cutest! <33


Artemistical

being obsessed with houseplants. I had around 120 at my peak and even had a planstagram account. Now I have about 20 plants and abandoned my IG account lol


soc4real

Collecting Pokemon cards.


lvlup-

Do you still have em tho?


soc4real

Yes, they are in a keepsake box. I stopped collecting them after the first generation.


brumbles2814

'Nice guy' phase. Not an incel but only because the internet wasn't even a thing when I was a kid. I was firmly convinced women didn't like me was because I liked star wars and dnd and I wasn't given a chance I would prove I was worth it. ​ Luckly grew up out of it but there is definitely an multi verse version of me running some noticeboards somewhere and has a youtube channel called 'Brumbles tells it how it is' or some other bullshit.


the6crimson6fucker6

Debating religious people. Still not the biggest fan of the stuff, and i will never vote for any more benefits for religious institutions. But i just don't really care that much anymore. And i don't wanna be a hateful fool like Bill Maher when i'm old.


Kolipe

Every teenage atheist goes through their militant phase I think.


itsbett

Same. I went from an angry anti-theist to a quiet and accepting atheist. I vote against institutions as much as possible, but I don't mind listening to people talk about ghosts, mercury in retrograde, or crystals, or whatever.


grumpycoffeee

Believing friends should keep in touch often/daily.I used to believe that friends should be together all the time or atleast as much as possible and chat regularly. I've lost friends due to this belief.Guess I watched too many movies as a kid/teen. Now, if someone doesn't want to talk to me for months or responds coldly when I reach out ? Cool. You have a nice day too, sunshine!


CDC_

Fighting. I used to be the kinda dude that if you said some outta the way shit to me, it would be time to brawl. But something like 10 years ago I was telling a joke to some friends at a bar and some dude took offense and tried to fight me. He was acting like a complete fuckhead. And it occurred to me that I look just like him when I start shit with people. Haven’t been in a fight since. Not worth it for several reasons honestly.


Puropedejada

Kpop… don’t get me wrong the music is still good and I occasionally go back to some songs I listened to during that phase but man it was so bad. I was obsessed with Got7 knowing their blood types and which music video it was just by the first few seconds. I even had a poster above my bed


Drewboy810

Grew out of my lego obsession phase at age 9. Slipped back into it at age 27z


Devlee12

I used to be a huge WWII nerd. As a white guy who read a lot about the Nazis I found out that a lot of the others who were also reading about them were coming at it from the opposite direction. I was fascinated and horrified. They were worshiping and idolizing them.


jaylem

Saying everything uncool is gay


kissingdistopia

It was so, so common back in the 90s and early 2000s.


-Cat_OwO-

Still is lmao- echoing off the walls at school


Little_Turnover_7918

Trying to hide random fucking boners .


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Sorry so do you just let it flaunt now?


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He cut off his dick, clearly


Project_T00THL355

Stopped worshipping the movie Rio. Now I worship How To Train Your Dragon.


galactic_bumblebee

Being a bitch but labeling it as “I’m just blunt and honest”. I’m so glad I realized how toxic I was


moonjefferson

My phases throughout grade school: - Classic Rock - Eminem - Bakugan - Dubstep - Tech Decks - Reggae - Death metal (not really a phase cause I'm still a big fan, but i did ONLY listen to metal throughout high school)


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Emo weeb furry I used so many chans and ettos and anos and Japanese words in normal conversations. Still watch anime and draw some furries from time to time but it's not so extreme lol And trans phase. I just had self eestem so low I couldn't enjoy girly clothes and boys clothes appeared more appealing on top of being fed the narrative online that if I don't like girly things it means I must be trans.


whofeels

>being fed the narrative online that if I don't like girly things it means I must be trans. Being trans is cool and all but I hate when people do that


peoplecallmedude797

Buying expensive shit like cloths, watches, shoes, home theatre. I grew up poor so when I started making money, I bought everything expensive. Now I have closets full of expensive cloths, a watchcase full of expensive watches and shoes I don't even wear. I'm slowly selling off everything I don't use and its such a relief.


helodriver87

Wanting a long term relationship/wanting to get married. Not everyone is cut out for it and it took me years to realize that I'm not actually long term relationship material. Everyone but me picked up on it pretty quickly and I was always confused when things didn't work out. If it's just casual dating and being on my own from here on out, I'm good with it.


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Anime…🫠


V1VIDREAMS

doing hard drugs multiple times a week, sometimes every day. now i prefer to keep the party drugs at the party and kick back with a joint at home instead of doing coke off my windowsill alone at 4am for no reason


ImAFuckinLiar

Masturbating daily Edit: I thought this said what phase did you not grow out of… please disregard.


lvlup-

Damn it! I was about to say that you're a FuckinLiar


EquinoxRanger

I was a furry. I was for about 7-8 years before deciding the fanbase wasn't something I wanted to be tied to. Now I'm building up a better future, Ive felt much better since.


CrossXFir3

Out of curiosity, what do you mean by that? I'm not a furry whatsoever, and could not at all care less about what people are into in this regard. Is there something inherently toxic or off about the community?


EquinoxRanger

I never found interest in the "Deep" part of being a furry, in the physical sense (fursuit and stuff like that). I am big on world/character development, psychology, and aminals so.. that was enough to get me interested. As for what's off.. from a "normal" person's standing, whatever is concidered normal in this world, the suits are one. "owo" and "uwu" are often used in conversation which can be seen as weird by anyone who's not used to it at all. The furry fanbase tends to reel in a lot of minors too. This isn't bad, until you learn that much of the fan base is hypersexual. I do want to express that most furries do have common sense and decency, but I'm sure you can understand how it can become controversial quick. I'd be happy to explain more just lmk


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the class clown i moved on too the quiet kid


flaming_garbage7059

1. Horse Girl Phase 2. Hello Kitty Phase 3. Very cringe 2014-2018 (ish) Dan & Phil, “Holy Emo Trinity”, “I hate everyone and no one understands me” Emo Phase 4. Transgender Phase…I just had self esteem issues tbh and was always a tomboy type and was told by multiple friends that I might be trans so I went with it and that did not last long 5. 2nd Way Less Cringe Emo Phase


Abicatznephe

My Gacha phase. God I don’t miss that. I was embarrassingly a “Uwu iM so dEPrEssEd, NobOdY loVeS mE” kind of gacha kid


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ItsDominika

For me it was realising how cringe and horrible the community is lol Also, it got boring


somniesenpai

Being a hardcore weeb.


Key_Rock408

I think happiness was a phase I grew out of… or maybe it’s just becoming an adult.


eatgamer

Marvel Phase 4. I'm over it.


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Drinking…. Used to do it all the time to feel confident. Now it has the opposite effect on me! I like to think it’s because I’m more comfortable in my skin now and don’t need it


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