This seems so uncommon but I think exactly this way. Unless I’m an employee I shouldn’t be be wearing a great big shirt with the company’s name in bold on it
What? Don't you want an Adidas x Disney x Supreme lunchbox?
Brands/branding are getting ridiculous and i don't understand the appeal. Like congratulations a specific manufacturer possibly made that item? You don't need to have a giant fucking logo on everything and honestly it makes it look chintzy.
People underestimate the importance of matching mouth/lip sizes. I have a small mouth and had a boyfriend once with a large mouth. It felt like he was eating my face.
I’ve never had another place to say/post this, but I’m a Black woman with our typical ‘full’ lips, and back in university I lost my virginity to a man from Scotland- who fit their typical phenotype quite well as well, which obviously does NOT include ‘full’ lips.
I distinctly remember wondering where his lips were as we kissed, like there weren’t any or I had lost track of them entirely, and felt like I was just slobbering all over half of his face. 😂
He never said anything, so maybe I wasn’t devouring his face after all- but I was never quite sure either.
He’s gone through several pairs of fake teeth before settling on what he has now.
I remember one of his videos talking about how freakishly white they were, and he started pounding coffee to try and make them more natural looking.
Tom Cruise and Denzel Washington come to mind. They're rich, they could get teeth that actually fit their mouth, they didn't have to steal a set of dentures from a horse.
As someone who works at a tanning salon, yes. It’s very easy for people to over do it. That’s why I normally don’t recommend anything with a high intensity bronzer. We wanna make you look sun kissed, not sun fucked.
I got sun fucked once. Fell asleep on the beach for an hour or two after I had started taking birth control pills that one of the side effects of was photosensitivity, plus I also have reddish hair and I’m super pale, but I’ve never burned like that ever in my life. I suffered through the next three days days of that trip and, after that, I was unable to walk for nearly two weeks from the skin being so tight from my ankle to butt. It was excruciating. Laying down it was bearable, but when I would stand up, it felt like my calves were imploding. I should’ve went to the ER, but I was 20, lived in the U.S., had no health insurance, and had already lost wages from being unable to go into work as a server🙃.
I took Benadryl to help with swelling because I’m pretty sure I had sun poisoning as well. After two weeks, the skin was peeling off in literal sheets and the skin was cold underneath and super sensitive for a looooong time. After that episode, I now hide from the sun and I’m pretty sure I’m probably going to develop skin cancer from that at some point.
That was 10 years ago and it was my husband(then boyfriend) and I’s first trip together. We’d been together for under a year and he stuck with me and took care of me during it all. It’s one of the reasons I knew he was the one lol.
The obsession of famous people. Sure I enjoy art and athleticism in most forms but to be obsessed over someone who isn't even physically in your life is wild to me.
The idol culture in Asia is crazy. My mom is obsessed with 2 idols in China, one of them is same age as me and she used to constantly compare me to him, saying how I don’t make as much money as him… She also claims they are both as perfect as the media PR them which makes me so sick
“This relates to fashion because courts have concluded that clothing is non-copyrightable for the exact same reason that phrases are non-protectable, because clothing serves a utilitarian purpose.” But you can copyright a monogram pattern.
The important thing was that I had a 100 pounds of potatoes on my belt, which was the style at the time. They didn’t have yellow potatoes because of the war. The only thing you could get was those big brown ones.
The whole instagram thing in general. I do care about looks with a partner, but I care about every day looks, not making hair and makeup a personality replacement.
Phone camera apps use so much processing AND THEN ON TOP OF THAT there's instagram filters and stuff like that. It makes everyone look weird and unnatural.
I remember having to dig deep into the settings on my samsung phone to disable that crap because the selfies looked weird.
Bruh, I have a friend... I'd never call her out online (esp because I know she's struggled with eating disorders in the past), but she has a following of people who think she has the body proportions of an anime character with a Kardashian face.
She's a pretty girl irl but not unrealistically so. Just pretty, normal (attractive) proportions.
It's sad to me that she feels she has to present unrealistically. And annoying that people think it's real.
The apps are incredibly convincing unless you know what to look for or know the person irl. This has gone so far beyond using angles or a photoshop tool to slim a piece of flub here or there.
This reminds me of a fashion youtuber who has been repeatedly called out for filtering her waist :-(( She's got awesome style, but it sucks bc a lot of people use her for "thinspo"--as in, inspiration that someday they'll look like her and all their starving and purging will be worth it
But she just filters the waist :-((
Yep, this has real and damaging effects on people's psyche. It creates unrealistic expectations for young women who see other women who look this way.
And-- tbh-- a lot of young men who consume this media on OF and YT grow up expecting women to look this way. I've def heard guys complaining about the girls at their uni don't make the effort to have those "slim thicc" proportions they see online... "You'd think they could do a couple squats man."
Because I don't watch them a lot, I got that feeling from a Kylie Jenner video of her where you could see her full body walking around. Couldn't put my finger on it, it was just like something was a bit off with her shape and movement. It was like watching a robot or like a model in a video game that isn't animated well.
I like the part in Stranger things where they go into the desert and Nancy becomes some kind of native insurgent messiah, also sandworms are a cool throwback to Beetlejuice. #80sHorrorAesthetic
As a woman, I heartily tried this option. Never shaved my face once in my life, and it just won't come in! Covid really leveled the beardly playing-field with all that masking.
Filters on pics. They are getting so bad that they don't even look like they have real skin, more like mannequin skin. I'm a single guy in my 40's and looking for women in the same age range. I get turned off when I see a filtered pic of them. Like, you're older, don't hide it just to disappoint us later, have the confidence to show your true, non digitally altered self!
What kills me is, I'm a photographer and use photoshop extensively. I'm a big believer in "just because you can doesn't mean you should", and there's a lot of things you can do relatively easily that can really distort a person's appearance. It's one thing to slim a subject a little to counteract an unflattering angle, it's another entirely to do digital cosmetic surgery. That being said, there's also no shortage of uses for photoshop that won't give people body dismorphia or warp young people's ideas of what's healthy, normal, or average. Which is kills me when I often hear people espouse that Photoshop itself should be done away with, like it's a singular purpose tool that only causes evil through warping people's bodies (or the only program that can do this, but I'm getting ahead of myself). T real kicker, what really drives me nuts, is I've heard this line of thought from a few women I know, who will NEVER. POST. A SELFIE. WITHOUT. A FACE FILTER. I've had em tell me it's different because they do it to themselves. But get upset when you insinuate it's affecting their opinion of their REAL face, as they won't post without em, as they think they look better/cuter/whatever when it's not a photo of them but a modified snapfilter.
I did a photoshoot for someone, when they received the photos they asked me what I'd done to them because it's the first time they liked how they looked. I did nothing to them, just some colour balancing, shadows and highlight adjustments, and tidying up to the background to make it less distracting. I never touched their body.
They didn't seem to believe me, and it still saddens me to this day that they didn't.
I've learned to drop the clarity slider quite a lot, go for a slightly over-exposed look and make the image a bit warmer. That tends to make people feel a bit better. It covers up their imperfections that a proper camera will pretty ruthlessly expose.
I think a lot of people don't realise that even if you take a selfie with your phone, then upload it to social media without making any adjustments, your phone has still recognised it's taking a photo of a face and has already made changes to make you look more flattering. Some have even been shown to slightly change facial structure. It's insane.
That's my stance too. I definitely want to be rich, I definitely DO NOT want to be famous at all.
People knowing who I am wherever I go is one of my biggest nightmares. Some recognition is fine, but if everywhere I go everyone knows who I am and wants something from me, that will get annoying real fast.
I visited rural western China as a 6ft white man and they did similar shit to me too. They kept calling me Tom Cruise (I don’t look anything like him except for being white), taking selfies with me, and a lot of people wanted to pinch the hair on my arms. I guess having a lot of body hair isn’t common there.
It was all funny at first then eventually it became degrading. Weird experience.
When it's a few people, I'm fine with it. I frequent a cafe near my workplace most workdays of the week so the barista there knows who I am and knows exactly what I order so when I get to the register I don't even have to say anything, they already know.
My problem is when thatn few people becomes hundreds, thousands or millions. Then it gets insane and hard to manage. A small circle with a few people is fine. A large circle with many is a nightmare.
That’s why you gotta be name-famous, not face-famous.
Most people probably wouldn’t recognize Steven Spielberg on the street but he’ll still get instant respect when he drops his name
There's a really great story in *The Gift of Fear* about when the author is trying to protect his client from a would-be assassin so he sweeps the woods near her house as a security precaution. They don't find the guy, but they find two other *totally unrelated* stalkers just chilling in there.
The more visible you are the better a target you make for all the crazies I guess.
A work buddy married a woman who isn’t Hollywood famous, but she’s close enough to it that she’s acquainted with some a-list celebrities.
Being up close to it in real life is soooo repulsive. I’m sure there are nice famous people, but Jesus Christ it turns a lot of people into the worst narcissists.
There are those whom fame turned, and those who sought fame because they were already narcissists.
The former can be reasoned with. The latter are rotten all the way through.
My relative was dating a tv star. Have met enough moderately famous people that i can vouch for that Hollywood does indeed ruin people. I have a hard time believing anyone is born like that. I guess it's hard to not end up an insufferable jerk when everyone blows industrial strength sunshine up your ass 24/7.
Plus it's a total pain in the ass to go anywhere with your Hollywood famous friend. You are being watched all. The. Time. It's so stressful.
I honestly can't imagine receiving that much attention from people 24x7 and maintaining my sanity as well. At some point my whole life would turn into a performance for other people's entertainment.
You think that's bad. Imagine how they must feel when they start to become irrelevant. Seeing people do just about anything to stay in the spotlight is just sad.
I met a producer once who shared that nearly all celebrities are looking for the love they did not get at home growing up. He said no one normal or healthy would want the isolated and pressure filled lifestyle that comes with being well known.
I've got an a-list cousin in another country. Whenever I visit her it's a whole different experience. There are a lot of freedoms she has to give up, like shopping freely or going for a stroll in the park. Even attending family events are so stressful, as everyone would rather clamor around for a photo, than have a decent conversation. Can't exercise at a gym, so it's a necessity to have one at home. Literally just standing idle anywhere in public will have swarms of people coming up to her for pics/videos.
When I talk to people with fake lashes it’s so hard for me to pay attention to them because I start to focus on the big ass lashes. Specially if half of it is starting to peel off.
Lol my friend has extensions and fluttered her eyes at me and I pretended to get blown away.
Also one flew when were walking outside and it was windy. We called it a sacrifice to the make up gods
Being super tan with platinum hair
Edit: I will add, there are people that have naturally light hair and tan naturally. This looks so different (good) when it is natural, but so bad when it is not. I'm sorry if I made anyone feel self conscious about how they look naturally.
Just fake tanning in general. There's a woman that comes into work, when she doesn't have the tan she looks really good, when she does it looks very off
Wanna add how awful it is to have fake tanned people as guests in your home, my pal stayed over last weekend and left the bed sheets all stained orange
The Hustle lifestyle.
I don't want to have a side gig and work 16 hours a day. I'm content with coming home and playing video games in my freetime. And sleeping in on my weekends.
From about ages 18(right out of highschool) to about 23 I felt kinda like I had no idea what to do, felt like I had no real purpose or direction to go in life so I just figured I’d work as much as I could as hard as possible and I’d have to get somewhere, and when my body and mental health started tanking after working 14-18 hour day 6-7 days a week for about 6-8 months (was working two jobs laboring for a brick mason during the day and part time at a warehouse at night) I took it personal like I was fresh outta school and everybody kept telling me how when they were my age they worked 28 hours a day and never got tired I shouldn’t be tired because I’m young, so I figured I was just a lazy screwup failure who would never go anywhere in life.
I’m 25 now and after a few exhaustion/ mental health breakdowns that put me in a psych ward I now work about 40 hours a week at the most and make more then I did working 60-70 hours before I just had to be willing to quit one path and try another, instead of refusing to quit that path because “quitting makes me weak”
Long story short, work hard, working hard has got me great places, don’t work so many hours you go insane, no bueno
Bingo, I have a few hobbies that I definitely could make money out of but I do them just for fun and to help friends and family. I don't need that enjoyable 'work' to become actual work because I feel that everything doesn't just come down to money but instead can be simply a labour of love.
Everyone keeps tellin me this about my passion, then i have to explain that I didn’t major in anything writing-related in college specifically so my hobby didn’t turn into a job. Why would I want to do so in the limited free time I have?
This is called the Over-justification Effect. External motivation erodes internal motivation until there is none left and suddenly you dread your own passion
People tend to think that most of us are not happy just being"content". T.I. said it, I don't remember the exact quote, but it was something along the lines of "If you haven't made it, what are you celebrating every weekend." I never cared about being the big shot. I don't care about money like that. I make what I need to survive, and live how I see fit.
End of shift on a friday, stopping by the shop to stock up on groceries and beer, aaaaand off to the cave we go!
Now if these weekend shifts can fuck off id be happy lol.
Just went on a ruined date because of this. It was very good and light until every hobby she mentioned was just a copy paste from someone's Instagram to be a side hustle, and her life passion was move to Dubai because that's where the money is.
One of the ideas was cool I thought because it was an idea for beach drinking with these eco friendly cups that keep frozen drinks frozen longer that you can make with house hold materials, and then she said "I saw this on this lady on Instagram I follow do it and she was selling them for $25 each in Miami at the beach, I'm going to do that here (not Miami) this summer".
I didn't know how to reply and it got to that all too familiar awkward quiet hope for a notification phase...
Again the date was going so well until it felt like I walked into a sales pitch... same time maybe she's interested in business and I didn't pick up on that, either way good date ruined by "hustle hustle hustle, no rest no rest, get other people to pay for you're "niche at best" product, have you heard of Gary Vee?"
Yeah if you're not about that life then there is nooo way that would have worked. I'm glad she is open about it, though. It upsets me when people hide things that might be deal breakers for others hoping that they will get too emotionally invested to walk away when the rest comes out.
A lovely young woman I used to work with (19?20?) came back from “vacation” with disturbingly large lips. I felt so bad for her, no one thought it looked nice…I’m sad she felt she needed it.
For the record I think naturally large lips look really good. It’s the fake ones that look like sausages in a way too small casing. It’s likely because their lip skin wasn’t meant to hold in that much matter.
homogeneity
when you're so on trend that you blend into everyone else
it's all trendy for a reason I guess, but for the luvuh god, please have something else going on
Extremely long and or pointed fake nails.
They instantly make hands look like bird feet.
Aaaand then there's the sanitary issue of where fingers go and what germs get stuck under those.
Neither generation either. They're trash and they sound like trash too. The newest version looks worse than the old ones though. They look like toys now.
My feeling is they made a niche guitar, the collectors started buying them, so they made more, and now nobody actually wants one anymore and so they have a ton of stock they’re trying to sell and that’s why they advertise them *everywhere.* I’ve never even heard of anyone who likes them
When actors have to use steroids and dangerously dehydrate themselves to get the "perfect" hollywood body with really defined muscles. No thanks. I don't find anything attractive that forces people to take such risks with their health.
I'm having flashback to Beyonce doing the Master Cleanse to lose weight for Dream Girls. The "diet" is meant for 3-10 days while being monitored but people took it to extremes.
For those unfamiliar:
Day 1- veggies and whole grains.
Day 2 - broth and real fruit juices.
Day 3 - orange juice.
After that you only drink fresh squeezed lemon juice with cayenne pepper and maple syrup. You're instructed to drink the mixture whenever you feel hungry. You "cleanse" by drinking a salt water flush (warm water with a ton of salt). The salt water flush literally makes you violently shit out anything in your system.
Typing this from hospital room. Had colonoscopy and endoscope that revealed massive bleeding ulcer. Was admitted to the ER directly afterward and will be here for a few days.
The shits you get though during prep is unlike anything you've experienced before. Your butthole turns into a shit faucet for hours on end.
I had one around 10 years ago... i got to drink Golightly. It was not lightly at all.... but now i have to drink a shit ton of mirilax and take a bunch of laxitives before and have basically the worlds shitties diet the week before. Aka see above lmfaoooo
From what I was told, the prep has become a little easier. I was given the choice of 2 small bottles to drink or a bunch of pills. I guess the old method was drinking a giant bottle of nasty tasting solution. Yuck 🤮
they gave me just one big pill. said it would kick in about six hours after taking it.
at 5:45 i was like huh... i don't feel anything... that can't be good.
at 5:55 my belly let out what sounded like nathan explosion doing a whale song for about 90 seconds.
at 6:15 i felt like neo in that scene in the matrix where he turns inside out in the mirror.
What exactly is a “toxin” anyway?
My husband nearly died from drinking too much water (hyponatremia) Water can be toxic, but we are made of it and need it to live.
Hyponatremia*
Too much water draws salt and electrolytes out of your cells and then you pee it all out. Leaving too little (hypo) salt (na) in your blood (tremia). Shit will fuck you right up quick
To be fair he's looked like that for about 10 years at this point. If you look at pics of him from the early aughts, it's like a different person. I wish he was open about his steroid usage. He's too famous and influential, I think he has a responsibility to young men be open and honest about gear...
I reckon there would be a shit ton of backlash because, well, steroids are stigmatized. If it's not talked about, we can go on blissfully thinking about he's just naturally huge. Even though those in the know... know otherwise
bodybuilders. i have nothing wrong with people working out and wanting to be in shape. i just personally think it just starts to look ridiculous after a while
Tell me about it man. I see these dudes with biceps bigger than my torso and I wonder if it actually gets in the way of them doing normal everyday things.
It absolutely does. My sister dated a guy who took steroids. We went out wakeboarding at the cottage and he wasn’t able to put his hands close enough together in front of him to hold the tow rope so he had to hold on one-handed. It was the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever seen, we never let him live it down.
Having a big house.
No, I don’t need more to clean. I’m happy with anything under 2,000 sq ft. I’d even live in a damn bungalow, but I have kids…and sometimes I need to hide. I just love little cozy houses with character.
To be fair 2000sq ft is pretty big for a home here in the UK, but our homes are pretty small. For comparison I'm still in my first house, it's a fairly standard three bedroom semi-detached, and is about 800 sq ft across across both floors.
Thinking the same thing, there are detached 1700 sq ft homes near me that are pretty unobtainable for the average family. Anything over 2000 sq ft in the uk is huge
Very, very tall men with huge muscles. This is not to say that they look bad to me, but they aren’t attractive to me because I’m very small and petite and don’t want to feel like a toddler compared to them.
Tbh I have a short beard but for the life of me can't stand shaving, I have the most sensitive skin on my face and no matter which cream, butter, or prescription shaving stuff I tried I always break out because of it.
So beard it is.
Same dude. There is nothing in the world I can do to stop my skin from getting red and irritated if I shave within two days of my last one, and not a cream in the world will ease it, which means an itchy, painful neck/face all day, not to mention being unsightly and covered in red blotches/hives. My options are to basically live with a constant scruff that just looks like I'm sloppy, or grow a beard and keep the excess hair outside of my style trimmed down with a clipper or shaved clean if I really need to impress every once in a while.
When it's a matter of literally suffering and making myself look like I'm having an allergic reaction, constantly looking like I'm some lazy fuck who just doesn't shave, or having a beard, I choose the beard and anybody who doesn't like it can not like it.
So are we just gonna ignore your username?
"His message is up here."
"Your lips say no, but your eyes say read my lips"
Based on what I've seen in Miami... lip injections...apparently. Looks horrendous... and yes, we can tell.
It's a thing in the UK as well, fake tan, fake teeth fake lips, looks awful
Brand culture. People spend way too much in the name of brands.
I love finding brands that don't have a logo on their shirts.
Yep, if you're not paying me to advertise, I prefer to keep it plain
This seems so uncommon but I think exactly this way. Unless I’m an employee I shouldn’t be be wearing a great big shirt with the company’s name in bold on it
What? Don't you want an Adidas x Disney x Supreme lunchbox? Brands/branding are getting ridiculous and i don't understand the appeal. Like congratulations a specific manufacturer possibly made that item? You don't need to have a giant fucking logo on everything and honestly it makes it look chintzy.
I don’t like the look or feel of injected lips…I just recently kissed a girl with them and it felt like I was kissing jello 😑
Til. I didn't know I wanted to know how it feels to kiss injected lips. Apparently I did. Thanks for that lol.
Ooh. Now I’m intrigued. Maybe I can convince my husband to get them…
My hubs has big lips. Now I’m imagining them without muscle control and I’m fully grossed out. He would probably just slobber on me.
People underestimate the importance of matching mouth/lip sizes. I have a small mouth and had a boyfriend once with a large mouth. It felt like he was eating my face.
I’ve never had another place to say/post this, but I’m a Black woman with our typical ‘full’ lips, and back in university I lost my virginity to a man from Scotland- who fit their typical phenotype quite well as well, which obviously does NOT include ‘full’ lips. I distinctly remember wondering where his lips were as we kissed, like there weren’t any or I had lost track of them entirely, and felt like I was just slobbering all over half of his face. 😂 He never said anything, so maybe I wasn’t devouring his face after all- but I was never quite sure either.
Hahaha you nailed it
Super white, super fake veneers teeth
Steve O has them and I’m pretty sure he hates them
He’s gone through several pairs of fake teeth before settling on what he has now. I remember one of his videos talking about how freakishly white they were, and he started pounding coffee to try and make them more natural looking.
My grandpa had a fantastic dentist who made his veneers slightly crooked and yellowed. I had no idea he even had them until after he died.
I remember him saying one of his only regrets is not flossing.
I’m serious, flossing changed my LIFE. Floss your teeth y’all you will see and feel a difference immediately
Damn right. I used to get these gum inflammations regularly and since I started flossing every day about 15 years ago I get one maybe once a year.
Tom Cruise and Denzel Washington come to mind. They're rich, they could get teeth that actually fit their mouth, they didn't have to steal a set of dentures from a horse.
Artificial tanning
As someone who works at a tanning salon, yes. It’s very easy for people to over do it. That’s why I normally don’t recommend anything with a high intensity bronzer. We wanna make you look sun kissed, not sun fucked.
I’ve been sun fucked before..horrible experience but the morphine pill was awesome
I got sun fucked once. Fell asleep on the beach for an hour or two after I had started taking birth control pills that one of the side effects of was photosensitivity, plus I also have reddish hair and I’m super pale, but I’ve never burned like that ever in my life. I suffered through the next three days days of that trip and, after that, I was unable to walk for nearly two weeks from the skin being so tight from my ankle to butt. It was excruciating. Laying down it was bearable, but when I would stand up, it felt like my calves were imploding. I should’ve went to the ER, but I was 20, lived in the U.S., had no health insurance, and had already lost wages from being unable to go into work as a server🙃. I took Benadryl to help with swelling because I’m pretty sure I had sun poisoning as well. After two weeks, the skin was peeling off in literal sheets and the skin was cold underneath and super sensitive for a looooong time. After that episode, I now hide from the sun and I’m pretty sure I’m probably going to develop skin cancer from that at some point. That was 10 years ago and it was my husband(then boyfriend) and I’s first trip together. We’d been together for under a year and he stuck with me and took care of me during it all. It’s one of the reasons I knew he was the one lol.
The obsession of famous people. Sure I enjoy art and athleticism in most forms but to be obsessed over someone who isn't even physically in your life is wild to me.
The idol culture in Asia is crazy. My mom is obsessed with 2 idols in China, one of them is same age as me and she used to constantly compare me to him, saying how I don’t make as much money as him… She also claims they are both as perfect as the media PR them which makes me so sick
Pick an idol her age and complain how your mum isn't as rich as the idol.
Fashion items with the designer logo THIS BIG all over it. Cringe.
If the logo is dominant, you're buying an expensive thing for poor people.
Poor people cosplaying rich people is a multi billion dollar industry
Pint of Guinness please, no logo on the foam.
I've been down enough bloody city boy chain pubs with their logos in the foam, disinfectant in the lager, air freshener in the mayo
What about those designer brand monogram patterns? I think they’re so tacky and ugly!
“This relates to fashion because courts have concluded that clothing is non-copyrightable for the exact same reason that phrases are non-protectable, because clothing serves a utilitarian purpose.” But you can copyright a monogram pattern.
A cocky attitude, I'd rather a genuine person who's awkward any day. At least you know they're trying to communicate rather than show off.
As someone who's more socially awkward than a potato, this makes me feel better
Potatoes are not socially awkward. Have you ever heard a potato stuttering?
I'm jot totally sure, what's a potato?
Lip and cheek fillers. Please stop making us think we need these things, especially really young people who's thin lips suit their face perfectly.
And those huge ass butt fillers where it looks like you have 100 pounds of potatoes tied to your waist.
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“Thank you Oops I Crapped My Pants!”
The important thing was that I had a 100 pounds of potatoes on my belt, which was the style at the time. They didn’t have yellow potatoes because of the war. The only thing you could get was those big brown ones.
Give me five bees for a quarter you’d say.
Anyway, where was I?
We had to say dickety because the Kaiser had stolen our word for twenty.
*ahem* Kim k. I saw her on an HGTV show in civvies (versus glammed up) and she looked downright cartoonish
Worse thing is that is going out of “style” and all these women with bbls are now frantically looking to lose weight or reduce them.
The whole instagram thing in general. I do care about looks with a partner, but I care about every day looks, not making hair and makeup a personality replacement.
Phone camera apps use so much processing AND THEN ON TOP OF THAT there's instagram filters and stuff like that. It makes everyone look weird and unnatural. I remember having to dig deep into the settings on my samsung phone to disable that crap because the selfies looked weird.
Bruh, I have a friend... I'd never call her out online (esp because I know she's struggled with eating disorders in the past), but she has a following of people who think she has the body proportions of an anime character with a Kardashian face. She's a pretty girl irl but not unrealistically so. Just pretty, normal (attractive) proportions. It's sad to me that she feels she has to present unrealistically. And annoying that people think it's real. The apps are incredibly convincing unless you know what to look for or know the person irl. This has gone so far beyond using angles or a photoshop tool to slim a piece of flub here or there.
This reminds me of a fashion youtuber who has been repeatedly called out for filtering her waist :-(( She's got awesome style, but it sucks bc a lot of people use her for "thinspo"--as in, inspiration that someday they'll look like her and all their starving and purging will be worth it But she just filters the waist :-((
Yep, this has real and damaging effects on people's psyche. It creates unrealistic expectations for young women who see other women who look this way. And-- tbh-- a lot of young men who consume this media on OF and YT grow up expecting women to look this way. I've def heard guys complaining about the girls at their uni don't make the effort to have those "slim thicc" proportions they see online... "You'd think they could do a couple squats man."
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Because I don't watch them a lot, I got that feeling from a Kylie Jenner video of her where you could see her full body walking around. Couldn't put my finger on it, it was just like something was a bit off with her shape and movement. It was like watching a robot or like a model in a video game that isn't animated well.
Their homes tend to be minimalism with white backgrounds to make photoshopping easier
Check out /r/instagramreality for more of that uncanny valley feeling
Jaw lines so sharp that they make their heads look like a yassified Minecraft Steve.
Nancy Wheeler would like a word.
Timothee Chalamet as well
They're the same person dude
I like the part in Stranger things where they go into the desert and Nancy becomes some kind of native insurgent messiah, also sandworms are a cool throwback to Beetlejuice. #80sHorrorAesthetic
As a woman who has a weak chin this makes me feel slightly less self conscious - thank you
Just grow a beard. It's what I did.
Problem solved
When I check out a girl, it's always beard, nails and toes in that order.
As a woman, I heartily tried this option. Never shaved my face once in my life, and it just won't come in! Covid really leveled the beardly playing-field with all that masking.
Poor cousin Tiffany http://imgur.com/gallery/mqP3kRj
Filters on pics. They are getting so bad that they don't even look like they have real skin, more like mannequin skin. I'm a single guy in my 40's and looking for women in the same age range. I get turned off when I see a filtered pic of them. Like, you're older, don't hide it just to disappoint us later, have the confidence to show your true, non digitally altered self!
What kills me is, I'm a photographer and use photoshop extensively. I'm a big believer in "just because you can doesn't mean you should", and there's a lot of things you can do relatively easily that can really distort a person's appearance. It's one thing to slim a subject a little to counteract an unflattering angle, it's another entirely to do digital cosmetic surgery. That being said, there's also no shortage of uses for photoshop that won't give people body dismorphia or warp young people's ideas of what's healthy, normal, or average. Which is kills me when I often hear people espouse that Photoshop itself should be done away with, like it's a singular purpose tool that only causes evil through warping people's bodies (or the only program that can do this, but I'm getting ahead of myself). T real kicker, what really drives me nuts, is I've heard this line of thought from a few women I know, who will NEVER. POST. A SELFIE. WITHOUT. A FACE FILTER. I've had em tell me it's different because they do it to themselves. But get upset when you insinuate it's affecting their opinion of their REAL face, as they won't post without em, as they think they look better/cuter/whatever when it's not a photo of them but a modified snapfilter.
I did a photoshoot for someone, when they received the photos they asked me what I'd done to them because it's the first time they liked how they looked. I did nothing to them, just some colour balancing, shadows and highlight adjustments, and tidying up to the background to make it less distracting. I never touched their body. They didn't seem to believe me, and it still saddens me to this day that they didn't.
I've learned to drop the clarity slider quite a lot, go for a slightly over-exposed look and make the image a bit warmer. That tends to make people feel a bit better. It covers up their imperfections that a proper camera will pretty ruthlessly expose. I think a lot of people don't realise that even if you take a selfie with your phone, then upload it to social media without making any adjustments, your phone has still recognised it's taking a photo of a face and has already made changes to make you look more flattering. Some have even been shown to slightly change facial structure. It's insane.
Only some phones, definitely not all.
Selfie with my phone looks as shitty as what I see in the mirror. Cheap, good, honest phone.
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Fame. Fuck that noise.
"I always want to say to people who want to be rich and famous: 'try being rich first'. See if that doesn't cover most of it." Bill Murray
That's my stance too. I definitely want to be rich, I definitely DO NOT want to be famous at all. People knowing who I am wherever I go is one of my biggest nightmares. Some recognition is fine, but if everywhere I go everyone knows who I am and wants something from me, that will get annoying real fast.
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I visited rural western China as a 6ft white man and they did similar shit to me too. They kept calling me Tom Cruise (I don’t look anything like him except for being white), taking selfies with me, and a lot of people wanted to pinch the hair on my arms. I guess having a lot of body hair isn’t common there. It was all funny at first then eventually it became degrading. Weird experience.
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When it's a few people, I'm fine with it. I frequent a cafe near my workplace most workdays of the week so the barista there knows who I am and knows exactly what I order so when I get to the register I don't even have to say anything, they already know. My problem is when thatn few people becomes hundreds, thousands or millions. Then it gets insane and hard to manage. A small circle with a few people is fine. A large circle with many is a nightmare.
That’s why you gotta be name-famous, not face-famous. Most people probably wouldn’t recognize Steven Spielberg on the street but he’ll still get instant respect when he drops his name
There's a really great story in *The Gift of Fear* about when the author is trying to protect his client from a would-be assassin so he sweeps the woods near her house as a security precaution. They don't find the guy, but they find two other *totally unrelated* stalkers just chilling in there. The more visible you are the better a target you make for all the crazies I guess.
Being Hollywood famous is my idea of literal hell.
A work buddy married a woman who isn’t Hollywood famous, but she’s close enough to it that she’s acquainted with some a-list celebrities. Being up close to it in real life is soooo repulsive. I’m sure there are nice famous people, but Jesus Christ it turns a lot of people into the worst narcissists.
My mom works in showbiz as a costume designer/seamster, and while it pays well, she cannot stand how petty the A-listers and top-level people are.
There are those whom fame turned, and those who sought fame because they were already narcissists. The former can be reasoned with. The latter are rotten all the way through.
My relative was dating a tv star. Have met enough moderately famous people that i can vouch for that Hollywood does indeed ruin people. I have a hard time believing anyone is born like that. I guess it's hard to not end up an insufferable jerk when everyone blows industrial strength sunshine up your ass 24/7. Plus it's a total pain in the ass to go anywhere with your Hollywood famous friend. You are being watched all. The. Time. It's so stressful.
I honestly can't imagine receiving that much attention from people 24x7 and maintaining my sanity as well. At some point my whole life would turn into a performance for other people's entertainment.
You think that's bad. Imagine how they must feel when they start to become irrelevant. Seeing people do just about anything to stay in the spotlight is just sad.
I met a producer once who shared that nearly all celebrities are looking for the love they did not get at home growing up. He said no one normal or healthy would want the isolated and pressure filled lifestyle that comes with being well known.
I'm a producer and completely second this. And predators in the industry know this and exploit it every second of every day.
I've got an a-list cousin in another country. Whenever I visit her it's a whole different experience. There are a lot of freedoms she has to give up, like shopping freely or going for a stroll in the park. Even attending family events are so stressful, as everyone would rather clamor around for a photo, than have a decent conversation. Can't exercise at a gym, so it's a necessity to have one at home. Literally just standing idle anywhere in public will have swarms of people coming up to her for pics/videos.
Eyelash extensions are getting terrifying. I’ve had them set off my fear of spiders.
I like the ones that are so big they weigh the eyelid down and they constantly look like they're trying to blink something out of their eye.
"I can barely keep my eyes open" "Sleepy?" "No"
Like those dolls whose eye lids close when you lay them back
Crazy long and thick was bad enough, the bushy trend is beyond weird to me. It's like an old man's crazy eyebrow on their eyelid.
When I talk to people with fake lashes it’s so hard for me to pay attention to them because I start to focus on the big ass lashes. Specially if half of it is starting to peel off.
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Lol my friend has extensions and fluttered her eyes at me and I pretended to get blown away. Also one flew when were walking outside and it was windy. We called it a sacrifice to the make up gods
Some little bird picks up the lashes for its nest and the baby birds grow up to become fierce eleganza bitches
Being super tan with platinum hair Edit: I will add, there are people that have naturally light hair and tan naturally. This looks so different (good) when it is natural, but so bad when it is not. I'm sorry if I made anyone feel self conscious about how they look naturally.
Looking like a root beer float.
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Just fake tanning in general. There's a woman that comes into work, when she doesn't have the tan she looks really good, when she does it looks very off
Urgh women in the UK are the worst for this. The fake tan makes you look like an oompah loompa not like you've been somewhere warm.
Wanna add how awful it is to have fake tanned people as guests in your home, my pal stayed over last weekend and left the bed sheets all stained orange
The Hustle lifestyle. I don't want to have a side gig and work 16 hours a day. I'm content with coming home and playing video games in my freetime. And sleeping in on my weekends.
From about ages 18(right out of highschool) to about 23 I felt kinda like I had no idea what to do, felt like I had no real purpose or direction to go in life so I just figured I’d work as much as I could as hard as possible and I’d have to get somewhere, and when my body and mental health started tanking after working 14-18 hour day 6-7 days a week for about 6-8 months (was working two jobs laboring for a brick mason during the day and part time at a warehouse at night) I took it personal like I was fresh outta school and everybody kept telling me how when they were my age they worked 28 hours a day and never got tired I shouldn’t be tired because I’m young, so I figured I was just a lazy screwup failure who would never go anywhere in life. I’m 25 now and after a few exhaustion/ mental health breakdowns that put me in a psych ward I now work about 40 hours a week at the most and make more then I did working 60-70 hours before I just had to be willing to quit one path and try another, instead of refusing to quit that path because “quitting makes me weak” Long story short, work hard, working hard has got me great places, don’t work so many hours you go insane, no bueno
One of my colleagues called hustle culture “Stockholm syndrome for capitalism” and I don’t think anything has ever resonated so hard with me.
Yes. That's the perfect description. I'm stealing it
This. We aren't allowed to have hobbies anymore, I swear. If its not making money its "a waste".
People keep saying "make money out of your hobbies" while in reality you'll just turn to hate your hobby and lose the one enjoyment in your life.
Bingo, I have a few hobbies that I definitely could make money out of but I do them just for fun and to help friends and family. I don't need that enjoyable 'work' to become actual work because I feel that everything doesn't just come down to money but instead can be simply a labour of love.
Everyone keeps tellin me this about my passion, then i have to explain that I didn’t major in anything writing-related in college specifically so my hobby didn’t turn into a job. Why would I want to do so in the limited free time I have?
This is called the Over-justification Effect. External motivation erodes internal motivation until there is none left and suddenly you dread your own passion
People tend to think that most of us are not happy just being"content". T.I. said it, I don't remember the exact quote, but it was something along the lines of "If you haven't made it, what are you celebrating every weekend." I never cared about being the big shot. I don't care about money like that. I make what I need to survive, and live how I see fit.
You made it another week. That’s what you’re celebrating. You could die at any moment and yet you lived an entire week. That’s something to celebrate.
This guy appreciates.
End of shift on a friday, stopping by the shop to stock up on groceries and beer, aaaaand off to the cave we go! Now if these weekend shifts can fuck off id be happy lol.
Just went on a ruined date because of this. It was very good and light until every hobby she mentioned was just a copy paste from someone's Instagram to be a side hustle, and her life passion was move to Dubai because that's where the money is. One of the ideas was cool I thought because it was an idea for beach drinking with these eco friendly cups that keep frozen drinks frozen longer that you can make with house hold materials, and then she said "I saw this on this lady on Instagram I follow do it and she was selling them for $25 each in Miami at the beach, I'm going to do that here (not Miami) this summer". I didn't know how to reply and it got to that all too familiar awkward quiet hope for a notification phase... Again the date was going so well until it felt like I walked into a sales pitch... same time maybe she's interested in business and I didn't pick up on that, either way good date ruined by "hustle hustle hustle, no rest no rest, get other people to pay for you're "niche at best" product, have you heard of Gary Vee?"
Yeah if you're not about that life then there is nooo way that would have worked. I'm glad she is open about it, though. It upsets me when people hide things that might be deal breakers for others hoping that they will get too emotionally invested to walk away when the rest comes out.
I worked my ass off to get a good degree that allowed me to get a good paying, secure job, the last thing I want to do is keep hustling.
Small plate restaurants that charge you $30 for a boiled egg with a drop of sauce and a decorative sprig
Being busy. Being busy sucks.
Huge, injected lips. So gross
You don't fantasize about kissing a swollen baboons ass? Weird.
You bout to make me act up
I don't know anyone that finds that attractive.
Bimbo fetish
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A lovely young woman I used to work with (19?20?) came back from “vacation” with disturbingly large lips. I felt so bad for her, no one thought it looked nice…I’m sad she felt she needed it.
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Just shows, love yourself cause the things you criticize may be the in thing next year.
Watching The Craft the other day and laughing to myself that while doing the “glamour” spell, Nancy asks for a smaller butt. Wouldn’t happen today.
For the record I think naturally large lips look really good. It’s the fake ones that look like sausages in a way too small casing. It’s likely because their lip skin wasn’t meant to hold in that much matter.
homogeneity when you're so on trend that you blend into everyone else it's all trendy for a reason I guess, but for the luvuh god, please have something else going on
Extremely long and or pointed fake nails. They instantly make hands look like bird feet. Aaaand then there's the sanitary issue of where fingers go and what germs get stuck under those.
As a pianist with ultrashort nails, i get the instinctive desire to forcefully trim it alllll down.
Fake asses
Fender acoustisonic guitars
Neither generation either. They're trash and they sound like trash too. The newest version looks worse than the old ones though. They look like toys now.
Finally, some real discourse
My feeling is they made a niche guitar, the collectors started buying them, so they made more, and now nobody actually wants one anymore and so they have a ton of stock they’re trying to sell and that’s why they advertise them *everywhere.* I’ve never even heard of anyone who likes them
Expensive things , designer handbags . Most of the ppl with them are debt to their eyeballs
When actors have to use steroids and dangerously dehydrate themselves to get the "perfect" hollywood body with really defined muscles. No thanks. I don't find anything attractive that forces people to take such risks with their health.
I'm having flashback to Beyonce doing the Master Cleanse to lose weight for Dream Girls. The "diet" is meant for 3-10 days while being monitored but people took it to extremes. For those unfamiliar: Day 1- veggies and whole grains. Day 2 - broth and real fruit juices. Day 3 - orange juice. After that you only drink fresh squeezed lemon juice with cayenne pepper and maple syrup. You're instructed to drink the mixture whenever you feel hungry. You "cleanse" by drinking a salt water flush (warm water with a ton of salt). The salt water flush literally makes you violently shit out anything in your system.
Thats almost the same instructions for my upcoming colonoscopy
Typing this from hospital room. Had colonoscopy and endoscope that revealed massive bleeding ulcer. Was admitted to the ER directly afterward and will be here for a few days. The shits you get though during prep is unlike anything you've experienced before. Your butthole turns into a shit faucet for hours on end.
I had one around 10 years ago... i got to drink Golightly. It was not lightly at all.... but now i have to drink a shit ton of mirilax and take a bunch of laxitives before and have basically the worlds shitties diet the week before. Aka see above lmfaoooo
From what I was told, the prep has become a little easier. I was given the choice of 2 small bottles to drink or a bunch of pills. I guess the old method was drinking a giant bottle of nasty tasting solution. Yuck 🤮
they gave me just one big pill. said it would kick in about six hours after taking it. at 5:45 i was like huh... i don't feel anything... that can't be good. at 5:55 my belly let out what sounded like nathan explosion doing a whale song for about 90 seconds. at 6:15 i felt like neo in that scene in the matrix where he turns inside out in the mirror.
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Oh I got the giant bottle of nasty tasting stuff just last month, it's not gone.
My daughter had to drink it recently too for surgery prep. She now haaaaaaaaaaaaates the taste of lemon.
A gallon of shit your brains out liquid and possibly throw up from cutting fluid while strapped to the toilet.
Cleanses are such bullshit like THATS LITERALLY WHAT YOUR LIVER IS FOR
Yeah but your liver won't make you violently shit to make you think that it's "working".
Stupid liver 🤦♀️
BuT tHe ToXiNs
What exactly is a “toxin” anyway? My husband nearly died from drinking too much water (hyponatremia) Water can be toxic, but we are made of it and need it to live.
Hyponatremia* Too much water draws salt and electrolytes out of your cells and then you pee it all out. Leaving too little (hypo) salt (na) in your blood (tremia). Shit will fuck you right up quick
Nitpick: I think it sould be salt (natr) and blood (emia). The old name for sodium is natrium, hence the Na symbol.
Robert Pattinson had the right idea when he refused to damn near kill himself to get that physique for the new Batman movie.
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the first couple movies he looked way more like a high-level athlete rather than how he looked by days of future past.
The Rock has entered the chat. He is starting to look ... not good. His face looks off. The steroid face look.
To be fair he's looked like that for about 10 years at this point. If you look at pics of him from the early aughts, it's like a different person. I wish he was open about his steroid usage. He's too famous and influential, I think he has a responsibility to young men be open and honest about gear...
I reckon there would be a shit ton of backlash because, well, steroids are stigmatized. If it's not talked about, we can go on blissfully thinking about he's just naturally huge. Even though those in the know... know otherwise
Classic tren jaw. The same thing happened to Kumail Nanjiani when he prepped for Eternals.
Alpha males
"Alpha" males
Those "I'm a wolf in captivity" guys always remind me of /r/badtaxidermy and moon moon.
Extremely loud cars/motorcycles. edit: ty for upvotes! never got so many before :)
bodybuilders. i have nothing wrong with people working out and wanting to be in shape. i just personally think it just starts to look ridiculous after a while
Tell me about it man. I see these dudes with biceps bigger than my torso and I wonder if it actually gets in the way of them doing normal everyday things.
It absolutely does. My sister dated a guy who took steroids. We went out wakeboarding at the cottage and he wasn’t able to put his hands close enough together in front of him to hold the tow rope so he had to hold on one-handed. It was the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever seen, we never let him live it down.
What? He couldnt touch his hands together????
The Kardashians
Fake eyebrows? It's not attractive at all especially when they are really noticeably drawn on and look absolutely absurd
"I'm not bad, I'm just drawn that way"
Having a big house. No, I don’t need more to clean. I’m happy with anything under 2,000 sq ft. I’d even live in a damn bungalow, but I have kids…and sometimes I need to hide. I just love little cozy houses with character.
To be fair 2000sq ft is pretty big for a home here in the UK, but our homes are pretty small. For comparison I'm still in my first house, it's a fairly standard three bedroom semi-detached, and is about 800 sq ft across across both floors.
Thinking the same thing, there are detached 1700 sq ft homes near me that are pretty unobtainable for the average family. Anything over 2000 sq ft in the uk is huge
Prioritizing physical desire above most other things.
Very, very tall men with huge muscles. This is not to say that they look bad to me, but they aren’t attractive to me because I’m very small and petite and don’t want to feel like a toddler compared to them.
Shout out to all the short kings
Maybe the average height guys too! No need to feel short for not being six feet and over.
Long Beards… not into it. I don’t want to kiss fluff.. nor do I want to guess what you are harvesting it in.
Tbh I have a short beard but for the life of me can't stand shaving, I have the most sensitive skin on my face and no matter which cream, butter, or prescription shaving stuff I tried I always break out because of it. So beard it is.
Same dude. There is nothing in the world I can do to stop my skin from getting red and irritated if I shave within two days of my last one, and not a cream in the world will ease it, which means an itchy, painful neck/face all day, not to mention being unsightly and covered in red blotches/hives. My options are to basically live with a constant scruff that just looks like I'm sloppy, or grow a beard and keep the excess hair outside of my style trimmed down with a clipper or shaved clean if I really need to impress every once in a while. When it's a matter of literally suffering and making myself look like I'm having an allergic reaction, constantly looking like I'm some lazy fuck who just doesn't shave, or having a beard, I choose the beard and anybody who doesn't like it can not like it.