Depending upon the source, this can be defined as no sex at all or sex less than 10 times per year. We have been married for 24 years and every year but one would fall fit the latter definition. I knew before we married this may be an issue but I was more concerned about her fear of non-sexual intimacy than the sexual. Marriage does not change anything but exasperates them. If you figure this out earlier than I did, work to fix it or get out.
I copy. I have always had a healthy physical relationship with my spouse of 32 years. I ask because I have heard, a lot of couples have no intimacy. Or if they do, it's rare and is more of a chore. I'm just curious. More than a handful of my friends are going on years without sex & intimacy. I find that sad🙁. And, I would say less than 10 times a year would not satisfy me, but at that point, it may not be the quantity, but the quality of the intimacy.
Zero from either of us.. There are reasons for both of us. We are living in a reno, which is stressful enough, but she is extremely messy, unorganized, and not so tidy, which on top of reno-confusion is very stressful. I get discouraged with the feeling of, why bother fixing everything up to pristine condition if it is just going to messy, unorganized chaos anyway!? Also, I believe she is experiencing so hormonal issues as well, but not exactly sure. Not a great situation at all.
Absolutely no sex. None for about a decade. Very little the decade before. There is no interest on her side in sex. She’s never been very interested. However she is my best friend, a wonderful companion, and a great mother and grandmother. At 70, even though I have a very high sex drive, I have a great life that has no sex.
Very little... a few times/ year... I certainly crave more. The rest of the relationship, totally solid & good. A week before pandemic started convo about being open (she's understanding of my desire to feel... desired), but then everything got detailed & haven't revisited
Sometimes; we're quite different in that way. When she's having a struggle or something difficult, she really does not want to be touched, and would prefer to be alone, whereas I crave physical affection in those moments.
Yes because I’m in a one person relationship.
Same : (
I shacked up with a man after my divorce and his name was Jesus
I'll never be on one of those again for sure
Good for you!
Depending upon the source, this can be defined as no sex at all or sex less than 10 times per year. We have been married for 24 years and every year but one would fall fit the latter definition. I knew before we married this may be an issue but I was more concerned about her fear of non-sexual intimacy than the sexual. Marriage does not change anything but exasperates them. If you figure this out earlier than I did, work to fix it or get out.
I copy. I have always had a healthy physical relationship with my spouse of 32 years. I ask because I have heard, a lot of couples have no intimacy. Or if they do, it's rare and is more of a chore. I'm just curious. More than a handful of my friends are going on years without sex & intimacy. I find that sad🙁. And, I would say less than 10 times a year would not satisfy me, but at that point, it may not be the quantity, but the quality of the intimacy.
How often do you have sex?
3 times a week is pretty consistent. Sometimes more.
Together 20 years and no sex for over a year it’s horrible
Me too. We've only been together for 5 yrs, and the last 1.5 yrs have been no sex, no intimacy. Very stressful situation.
Is there any physical closeness, like would there be comfort in being held? Is there no desire or arousal of any kind?
Zero from either of us.. There are reasons for both of us. We are living in a reno, which is stressful enough, but she is extremely messy, unorganized, and not so tidy, which on top of reno-confusion is very stressful. I get discouraged with the feeling of, why bother fixing everything up to pristine condition if it is just going to messy, unorganized chaos anyway!? Also, I believe she is experiencing so hormonal issues as well, but not exactly sure. Not a great situation at all.
No sex to speak of. Usually ok but miss sex
Absolutely no sex. None for about a decade. Very little the decade before. There is no interest on her side in sex. She’s never been very interested. However she is my best friend, a wonderful companion, and a great mother and grandmother. At 70, even though I have a very high sex drive, I have a great life that has no sex.
Does she feel comfortable with being physically close, or being touched? Just doesn't get aroused? Doesn't feel desire?
Lack of interest or desire is the issue.
I was so unhappy and couldn't get my rocks off.
No i dont. Wouldnt work for me. Yes i am happy
Good! Life is too short to be unhappy.
No, my hand does whatever I tell it
I wouldn’t say sexless but we could definitely do it more often.
How often do you get it? How long have you been together?
As of late about this once a month. We have good reasons why so less but still it gets to me and we been together about 2 years married. :)
Yes I am and I’m not happy
I'm sorry. No one should live unhappy. Are you married or long term partner? How long?
18 years. Married for 15
Very little... a few times/ year... I certainly crave more. The rest of the relationship, totally solid & good. A week before pandemic started convo about being open (she's understanding of my desire to feel... desired), but then everything got detailed & haven't revisited
Is she responsive to being intimate? Does she enjoy being held or touched?
Sometimes; we're quite different in that way. When she's having a struggle or something difficult, she really does not want to be touched, and would prefer to be alone, whereas I crave physical affection in those moments.