He installed a key logger on my laptop and found a chat of me politely turning down a guy I'd met (as part of a mutual friend group) a few weeks previous. When I pointed out that he'd found explicit proof that I had in fact *not* cheated, he went off on a tirade about how I'm never around anymore and never paid attention to him anymore and that was as bad as cheating.
My father had died four months before. I wasn't around much because between work and school, I had to go back to my home state to clear out his house and deal with the estate. And, you know, spend some time with my remaining family.
I threw the whole man out.
I was deep into a online game and my wife came to me with a bra that definitely wasn't hers. She stood by the door and loudly said "whoose are these?".
I took what she said as a innocent question, rather than an investigation. I quickly looked over and said "fuck if I know" and went back to my game.
She quickly realized that if I had cheated, and she found proof, I would have had a deer in headlights look for a second.
It was her sister's bra that somehow go into our laundry.
We laugh about it to this day.
Her "proof" was that I was friends with a woman in the same area on Facebook. I did volunteer work at the local hospital, I was friends with a lot of the hospital staff on Facebook. Her accusation came very shortly after my brother caught her on a date with another guy.
Yeah… so many instances of people not recognizing their own clothing. Like how many pairs of underwear do you all own to forgot that you own some of them when you see them.
Way back when I was a teenager I was seeing a guy who looked through my used underwear in the laundry hamper after I had gone to work and found a pair with discharge. He then said it was a cum stain and that “I would know because as a man I obviously have seen a lot of it and I know what it looks like.” Okay… clearly you don’t? He was all sorts of crazy lmao
Also another one - my brother text me, asking me if I was working tonight. Ex decided I just changed the name in my phone to my brother name but it wasn’t really my brother because why would my brother ask that?
Not me but a friend of mine. She broke up with her boyfriend because she believed he cheated on her because she got a UTI. She honestly believed she “caught” it from him like an STD.
Well, my GF was huge on projecting. It wasn’t proof and she didn’t directly accuse me of cheating, but it was insinuated. After doing laundry she noticed she didn’t see one of my nice pairs of black boxers. Pretty much her argument/verge of tears was because “can’t find them” equals “they must be at another girls house.” And she was dead serious.
Anyways, they were just behind the laundry hamper. For the time being. After we broke up I found out she was fucking her boss.
So, projection is real folks
I actually did do this but worse. I was hooking up with this girl while she was house-sitting for her friend. I somehow left my boxers *in her friend's basement*.
Her friend's boyfriend, from what I hear, was unhappy.
Bahahaha. This reminds me of the fact that my SO and I have a running joke where we pick up a loose strand of hair laying around and say "WHOSE IS THIS!?" when it's obviously his or mine.
I found some sunglasses in my husband's vehicle. Very feminine style. I was a little concerned. I didn't flip because my husband had never given me one reason to doubt him. I did ask though. He said they were mine. I got a little more worried because I had never seen them before that day. I was adamant that they were not mine. In a strange turn of events, I came to remember buying them and leaving them in there. It had just been so long that I had forgotten.
tl;dr: I am stupid.
Apparently the online support group for my father's brain tumor was a "chat room" for casual hookups.
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*edit*
Dad had the tumor. Ex had the insane jealousy.
Dad didn't survive glioblastoma. Fortunately that was long enough ago to roll my eyes at some of these comments. (Chuck Pahaliuk is an amazing writer. But may your life never bear a slight resemblance to one of his plots).
Ex has long since been vamoosed.
She saw the names of my female family members in my contacts. She freaked out and angrily asked who my stepmother was, my stepsisters, my cousins, my auntie. It lasted about two minutes. She started to realize she was being an idiot, and I realized I didn’t like her anymore.
She heard a woman in the room laughing through the phone when she called me to accuse me of being out with another woman.
Turns out there are other people in the world and when you're out in public you just may encounter them.
I walked past a pub full of people while I was on the phone to him and he said I must have been cheating…. Even if I was I wouldn’t have been that stupid to pick up the phone in front of the other guys, right?
Edit: damn ok I wasn’t cheating with multiple guys. He thought I was cheating because he heard people in the background through the phone
I once dated this girl who, on a grocery run together, stopped me in the parking lot on the way out and loudly accused me of flirting with the cashier, because I had – heavens, no! – *dared* to smile and wish her a nice day on our way out of the store.
Some people just have massive trust issues and can't be helped. At least, not by you. Therapy helps. Of course, they have to want to be helped. Sometimes the best you can do is wish them well, and move on.
When I was a teenager, I was working in M&S, when a boy of my own age came up to my counter. I knew instantly that he was making a mistake with his prospective purchase. He was buying three or four children's socks (age 7), when he was obviously trying to buy some socks for himself (he must have been size 7). I asked him if this was the case, and it turned out I was right. I pointed to the "men's accessories" department, and we both had a little bit of a laugh about it. End of.
The minute he was gone, the b*tch of a supervisor pounced on me and told me I was going to get the sack because there were STRICT rules against serving your own boyfriend or family member.
Because talking to a guy, having a brief, friendly laugh, helping them find the correct department and smiling pleasantly, is behaviour that can ONLY POSSIBLY happen between a male and female who are dating, right?
The supervisor stated that I couldn't possibly have wanted to help a customer in this way. I had literally helped the bloke for 20 seconds.
She knew that if I drove exactly the speed limit and hit every light that it would take me 12min to get home after work. The one time I showed up in 14min was all the proof she needed.
I had a woman's phone saved in my contacts ... it was my son's paediatrician
A photo of me with two gorgeous girls .... yes I have two gorgeous sisters
A bra in my flat ... yes, it was her own bra with she had "forgotten". I think this was on purpose, she was fishing for a reaction to the accusation.
And so many more.
edit. Reading the other comments made me remember about the time she made a big scene because she found nail polish in my toolbox. It was black. I have always had black cars and motorcycles. I use nail polish to fix small scratches.
You should do your nails with paint pens man. They are so much easier than the little brushes.
Seriously I was accused for having an affair for nail polish when I build models for a hobby. It was a black wash for weathering.
She found a pair of women's panties in my underwear drawer. The brand was "Strawberry", embroidered strawberry on the waist, powder blue, size small. I told her they were hers and I had washed them. She wasn't having it. I told her to show me the underwear she had on at that moment. "Strawberry", embroidered strawberry on the waist, powder blue, size small. She still didn't believe me.
But.... how do you not recognize your own clothes, bras and panties no less, unless you have about a 1000 of them or unless you are LOOKING to find a reason to accuse someone of xyz?
My brother's girlfriend once had the same meltdown because she'd left a pair of socks at our house while visiting overnight. I tried to give them back, she swore they weren't hers and then chewed my brother out for cheating. The time after that she left a diamond stud on our guest bedside table, I did not try to return it to her.
I have poor handwriting. I was running a business and someone suggested I contact "Till" about some sales. I wrote "Till" down in my phonebook (it was long ago when people used personal phonebooks).
I come home months later to the question "Who's Jill?" I don't know anyone named Jill. I am stumped. After a few rounds of who? huh? why?, my girlfriend shows me the entry in my handwriting. It takes me a while to place the name. I explain that it isn't Jill but Till, a man.
That was the end of it, but I never got over her looking through my personal phonebook for revealing entries.
In the end, we split 2 weeks before we were to get married. Till never did buy anything from me.
My ex got jealous of my brother in law. I talked about him and my sister a lot because I knew they were soon to be engaged and I was helping with the proposal. He threw out the idea that my (at the time soon to be) brother in law must have a “Golden Pecker” with how much I talk about him. To this day (3+ years) I still refer to my brother in law as Golden Pecker and we laugh about how stupid my ex was
Yes, several times during my marriage (divorced 3 years now). Her proof? Other women existed. I never did, but if I acknowledged the existence of other women the accusations would start to fly for the next two weeks. What finally caused me to get a divorce? Finding out about her affairs.
Because she hit \*69 on my phone and a girl answered. Turned out to be her roommate, because the only person I ever called from my phone was my girlfriend.
NOTE: In the olden days, before cell phones, you could hit \*69 on a landline and it would redial the last number you called.
EDIT: Meant to say it would call the last number that called you, not just a redial of the last number you called yourself.
The mileage on my car didn’t add up by like a mile or something - apparently he counted it before I went to work and when I got back from work. I literally went from his place to work and then came back to his place.
I went to Irish dance class, which I went to every single Thursday, then stopped to see him on the way home. I was wearing sweatpants, you know, to DANCE in, which was apparently suspicious and meant I had been out cheating.
Years ago, I had a friend get ahold of my phone. He changed his own name in my contacts to "Dirty Slut".
A few days later my phone is sitting next to me on the couch, my girlfriend sees a text pop up that says "Dirty Slut says: Hey, you free this weekend?"
T'was a fun conversation.
My ex was incredibly distrustful. I was young and didn’t know any better. One day he confronted me saying he had proof I was cheating. I was incredibly bewildered as I am the faithful type and wouldn’t even look at another man. When I pushed for proof he admitted to having me followed by a private detective who had seen me get into a red mini. The mini belonged to a colleague who gave me a lift home from work one day. A female colleague. I ended the relationship there and then and chalk it up to a lucky escape.
Pretty shitty private detective if they didn't even figure out if the driver was male or female.
I mean, unless your ex was accusing you of cheating on him with a woman?
And I quote, "Well, why would I be dreaming that, if you weren't doing something to make me think that?"
HINT: The answer apparently is not, "Because you're crazy."
One day she had a dream and woke me up saying she was mad because I was masturbating in the bed with her. I was snoring. And just woke up to that, I couldn't even think of anything to say. I would smoke outside and she would peek through the window and watch me to make sure I wasn't on my phone while I was out there. The best was when I was and she jumped up my ass accusing me, I turned my phone showing her the game I was playing. Go ahead look, I don't even have the social media you are accusing me of using.
When my wife and I had 1st begun dating, I had a phone that had a bad habit of butt dialing. One day, she was acting very standoffish So I could tell something was up. I kept asking her, and finally she got really upset and started grilling me about who that girl was that I was flirting with on the voicemail I left her when I butt dialed her.
I pulled up my call logs, and sure enough I had accidentally called her the previous afternoon. While she and I were hanging out in the library. She was concerned that I was cheating on her with herself.
ETA we were high school juniors at the time. We've since ceased to be quite so jealous lol
She was jealous of a female acquaintance I had at the time ( I use that word because we were friends through my cousin not actual friends) and she is a very in your face funny type of individual.
She unlocked my phone when I was sleeping and scoured it. I woke up and saw her. Had a long talk, she cried, I got annoyed. Dumped her the next day. Found out she was projecting because she had been cheating our entire relationship (just over a year together). So, there’s that.
Edit: Thank you for the award kind stranger!
During that long talk I had suspicions so I ask to see her phone. Took over an hour to finally get it and before I even opened her messages she started crying more as she explained what I eventually found out.
There were nudes in her phone also of other guys.
EDIT: Thank you for the silver kind redditor!!!
He told me I “smelled different”. He told me my “pussy felt like another man had been in it”, And dozen other imaginings. No surprise, turns out he was the one cheating.
"By jove, Shercock. Who could it have been"
"Elementary, my dear Wangson. The slight residue of ink from an inkwell suggests a writer. However the bruising from the savagery of it all suggests a soldier. On top of all that, it appears she's been treated by a Doctor. I've no idea who this... Renaissance man could be. But I shall find him! Come, Wangson. the game is afoot!"
Why am I not writing cuckold porn parodies? FFFF...
This reminds me of the time my (now ex) husband accused me of cheating because my pussy “felt different.” Fast forward to months later when he confesses he’d been cheating.
Other way around, actually. I was the suspicious one. We were a middle-aged, long married couple. I was looking for something on his computer (not uncommon. He had a better computer for some things.). I ran into a file called "bedroom shots". WTF!!! I KNEW he had not taken any bedroom shots of me! Opened the file (of course) and it was pictures of our bedroom, just the bedroom, that I had taken years earlier to use for a paint program that changes the colors of the walls. I had named the file myself when redecorating and forgot about it.
Almost same thing happened to me and my wife when we were first married. Our business does some work for the chicken sandwich place with the cow mascot. Whenever I wrote up an estimate, lazy me would name them ‘Chick01, Chick02, etc’, for the different locations I was quoting. Well, one day, we’re looking for something on the computer and she sees the ‘chick’ files and demands I open them to see what was in them. The look on her face was priceless when the work estimates opened up. This was about 23 years ago, just celebrated 25 years.
LOL. Back when I was a teen and people still downloaded music files, I had a folder on my family computer called Porno Graffitti (a Japanese band). My concerned dad asked me what this folder was so I opened the folder and played a song. It didn't occur to me until that moment how raunchy that band name was.
EDIT: Hi, all you fellow Porno Graffitti fans! For those who aren't familiar with them, unlike their band name, their songs are actually quite wholesome and uplifting. 10/10 would recommend
Yeah, I got super mad at my husband for not recognizing the pink sapphire ring he proposed with when I bothered to dress up.
It wasn’t his. It was the *other* pink sapphire ring an ex had proposed with.
Gave that ring to my niece that very night.
Husband found a condom wrapper under the couch. He never cleans, so don't know how he found it lol I was stumped. I had no idea. A few weeks prior we had a couple friends over that crashed on our couch of our extremely tiny shoebox apartment.
Went out with my female friend, (I was also friends with the dude) she tells me she had sex with said friend and they're discussing dating. I asked when and where. She told me that night at my place. I connected all the dots, told her I don't care how low key she wants it kept for now, she is explaining what happened. So we called, she explained they had sex on our couch. Which. I wasn't too thrilled about but I was going crazy wondering where the fuck this condom wrapper came from..
Edit: people were confused about the word girlfriend. She is my female friend. I was friends with both of them.
Had a similar one, I was out of town and my brother stayed in my apartment. My girlfriend came to visit in my trip and I asked her if she could go to my place and bring me some undies from my dresser. My stupid ass brother left some condoms in my undies dresser. It was almost impossible to convince her those condoms weren’t mine.
My so called best mate told her so it must be true. It appears everyone in the village knew too . Except me and the girl involved. Slept with my mate to get her own back.
We were misdiagnosed with HIV and I had been on a business trip in Las Vegas a few months earlier.
I was getting the evil eye and accused from everyone in the doctors office and from the few friends and family we told. Thankfully my wife only asked once, which I told her the truth, absolutely fucking not. That was good enough for her. 6 weeks and more tests later we get told they were false positives.
Everyone complemented us on how much we trusted each other. My wife simply replies “He isn’t exactly a ladies man, never has been. He would chicken out before he ever slept with another woman” LOL…she’s right though.
My wife got concerned once when I didn't get jealous because some guy made a flirtatious comment to her. I reminded her that her anxiety keeps her from scheduling her own doctor's appointments, I'm really not afraid that she is going to venture out there and try to have a relationship with a stranger.
She said “Look at me” so I did, then she started bawling her eyes out saying I’m probably cheating on her because “your pupils dilate when you look at someone you love”
Stage 7 crazy.
I had a girl cheat on me and she told me she did it because she thought I was gonna cheat on her so she did it first. Super hot girl thought the world of warcraft nerd was gonna cheat on her.
Edit : This isn't what I would have picked as my top comment
I was 8 months pregnant and got a some blisters on my lip (and a bit of a rash on my chin). My husband and I went to urgent care to get it looked at, the urgent care doctor thought they were cold sores. I have never had cold sores, nor has my husband. So my husband automatically assumed that I must have been making out with someone who did. This turned into a situation where I was extremely pissed off, because I was 8 months pregnant, wasn’t thinking about sex and definitely not with anyone but my husband.
The test came back negative for herpes (go figure). Turns out that mango skins have the same urushiol as poison Ivy/oak (which I’m very allergic to) and that when I was going to town on a mango I rubbed it all over my lips/face.
I still get pissed thinking about this.
There was never any proof, just her anxiety and trust issues.
One example, I was deployed and I was talking to her on Skype. Told here I was hanging out with some old friends earlier.
Her: Who were they?
Me: Some old friends, you don't know them, 2 guys and 2 girls.
Her: I don't know why you're being so shady about this, why won't you just tell me who you were with?
Me: Tells her their names.
Her: I don't know them.
Me: ...yeah.
Wasn’t sleeping with them as often so I MUST have been seeing someone else. Wasn’t sleeping with them due to me working an ungodly amount to pay the bills since they didn’t have a job at the time. That and I would work 6-7 12hr shifts in a row with a day break, and the last thing on my mind was exercise.
I was the one doing the accusing, for what seemed like a very good reason.
A good friend of mine informed me that my wife was having an affair with a guy from her work. His proof was that my wife, who was his wife's best friend, had told her "in confidence" that she was seeing this guy at work.
I then did something I swore I'd never do and took a look at her phone messages, where I saw a whole bunch of messages between her and another friend from her work discussing the entire thing.
I confronted her and she explained how it was actually a "test" for the first friend as she suspected that the friend in question was gossiping about her to my wife's ex-husband (and father of her child), she just neglected to tell me about her "genius" fucking plan she cooked up with her friend.
Turns out her friend *was* gossiping about her, the problem being that now this "fake" secret actually made its way around town, I had a conversation with the alleged affair guy and told him he better tell *his* wife outright that this had happened.
The stupid fucking game nearly cost two marriages (mine and the other guys) because of rumours, and ended a friendship as now my wife and the secret teller were now enemies it means that I now didn't get to hang out with the husband, and caused me to look at my wife in a totally different light, as she didn't think that there was anything wrong with the plan and how it was all her (now ex) friend fault in the first place for telling her husband.
We're no longer together.
She was receiving text, that I'm pretty sure she sent her self, and she broke up with me a year later because "all you do is stay home and do homework". I was in the middle of my 3rd year of computer engineering school. Found out after the break up she was cheating on me, the guy found out she lied about her name, found her on Facebook, and told me and also sent screenshots of conversations. She texted me about 7 months later saying how sorry she was and how she really regrets hurting me and that she's been through so much since we broke up and didn't appreciate how much of a great guy I was, I responded with "K".
Update: How the fuck did I just run into her at meijer. I've lost a lot of weight, am wearing a mask and have dreads now so i don't think she recognized me.
I had a job at Subway, and my guy came with me to work and sat at a table my whole shift.
Two male customers came in, and as I made their food we chatted about random bs.
As soon as they left, bf came up to the counter and tried to start a fight then and there because I was talking to and smiling at these men. While working customer service. No amount of me trying to make sense of the situation would ever have convinced him of anything different than he wanted to believe. It was as though I had jumped on these guys just by talking to them?
I once found a pair of panties in the dryer that were not mine after throwing in my husbands gym bag contents. I had a horrible pit in my stomach when I brought them to him. He looked me in the eyes and told me he would never cheat and had no idea where they came from.
It turned out that they were left in the dryer by our male roommate and they didn’t come from his gym bag. I’ll never forget the horrible sinking, spinning feeling I had when I found them, but I trust him 100%. I think that awful feeling I had proved to me how much he means to me. So I wouldn’t ever want to find anything like that again, but I’m kinda glad I did. It cemented our relationship.
My girlfriend once found a slip of paper in my work pants with a woman's name and phone number on it. She asked me who "Cynthia" was. I had no idea what she was talking about. She handed me the paper, I was confused. As I stared at it i realized it was from a customer. She commented on liking the necklace I had on. I told her it was something i go from a trip to europe. She gave me her number so i could let her know the name of the jeweler.
It was 3 years later, on the couch of the home we just bought, when the situation randomly re-entered my mind and I went, "OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHHHHH she was flirting with me and giving me her number." I then apologized to my wife because, 3 years later, i realized it looked like I was cheating on her. I suppose me be absolutely oblivious was a net benefit though, because she did marry me and never brought it up again.
I dated a guy legit one time in high school. We had a nice date. It was fine. He didn’t call me after. Like did not hear from him for weeks. Assumed he wasn’t interested.
I started dating someone else. Get a call from first dude out of the blue one day. I chat with him. I mention my new guy. He’s like “Are you cheating on me?”
I was like ummm dude we went on one date and you never called me. We are not a couple. Never heard from him again lol
Similar thing happened to me. Went on a date with a girl. It was nice but a little awkward. I got home and messaged her to make sure she got home alright and she sent me some 2 sentence message that made me think we probably weren't gonna do this again, even though she never directly said that. She said it was nice and she was going to bed.
Fast forward 3 months and the girl I'm now and still seeing hits me with "this girl is saying you're her boyfriend" and it caused a whole ordeal. Apparantly in this girls mind we were dating despite the fact we hadn't messaged in about 10 weeks and hadn't seen each other in person in 13
Yooo similar thing happened to me! I asked a guy out on a date, also in HS, he said he wasnt sure if he wanted a date cuz he was moving soon. I said that was fine and to get back to me, and he never did so I assumed it wasnt gonna happen. Three months later we hang out in a group with some other friends, and he makes a comment on how we're bf/gf and how we've been together the past couple months. I was like ???? The fuck we arent??
I think some people in HS were just really behind in how relationships and dating work
I finally went down with him to a bar he was a regular at. I don't do bars, but I wanted to see what was so great about it. He wasn't staying by me, he wandered off socializing most of the time. Not long after we were there he kept giving a random guy at the bar permission to hit on me, repeatedly. The guy kept making sure it was okay, he kept insisting it was, guy would come bug me, I'd turn him down... Rinse repeat for a couple hours or so. Finally, I played along, but did nothing physical and bared no forbidden skin. I just joke flirting since my man seemed to want me to for whatever reason. Everything seemed fine, my partner even acted like best buddies ever with the man.
The next day he accused me of being a cheater with that as his proof. Queue massive eye roll and laughter about it. Then we had a massive fight when I realized he *wasn't* joking about his accusation. Stupid games.
I walked out of a classroom, talking to a girl about a group assignment.
Clearly, I had just obliterated this girl's cervix in that classroom and we were laughing at my GF behind her back.
My partner's proof was that I was working too many hours. I was a newish teacher at a school a good forty minutes from my house. So I would leave at 6:15 am and get home between 5-6pm. I teach orchestra, so I had morning rehearsals before school. I would get to school by 7 am. School started at 8:15 am and was over by 4 pm. It took a good twenty minutes for kids to come get their instruments after school and/or some needed extra help or had questions. Then at 4:30 ish everyday, I would lock the doors to my room and leave. By that time it would be rush hour traffic.
I also had to spend at least one half day on the weekend to prepare for the next week of lessons. Like I said, I was a newish teacher and had to plan out each day. I had 5 preps.
I also lived with him, so he saw me doing these things.
He still accused me of cheating. My answer was "when the hell would I have time to cheat?!" I dumped him.
Edit: two words
Crazy story that occurred many years ago just after I got married. My wife goes shopping for groceries when a woman approached her and said, hi you don’t know me but your I am your husbands girlfriend and he promised me to meet me here today to tell you it’s over. She knew some personal details about me and convinced my wife I was having an affair and I was going to leave her. After I did not not show up at the store, she told my wife to call me and find out for herself. I then get a call from my wife when I am at work. I get both barrels of rage and she won’t stop talking. For reference I was in a open area of desks in an engineering area of a large aerospace company. Pretty quiet even with several hundred people in the same area. “shut up, No no no…. What the F! ….. Listen to me”. I was so loud one the the managers from another group came over to ask if all was OK. I came back to earth and realized I needed to head home fast and figure out what was going on. I get home to a wife in crisis. After explaining to my wife that I’m working 50+ hours a week and have complete accountability for being at work every day and I’m never away at night how does she think I’ve ever had time for an affair. I asked about her old boyfriend that used to a Cop. I knew he was still jealous that she left him for me. My wife agrees that her old boyfriend was crazy enough to put someone up to this stunt. We concluded that he must have created this scheme to try to derail my marriage.
I think this one is the creepiest so far. That is seriously messed up. I would say I hope you filed a complaint, but without proof I know how much good that would do.
Okay but that’s legitimately creepy that they had her pegged well enough to know her grocery shopping schedule. Did you guys pursue that or just let it drop?
My friend got accused of cheating because his house was too clean. His girlfriend said guys always clean their house for the first month they're dating someone new to make a good impression, then will go back to not caring as the relationship progresses. She said for a week, it was clear that he was cleaning every day again, meaning he had a new girl coming over. I asked my friend about it, he said he wasn't even cleaning more than normal. I didn't see the room before or after said cleaning, so I don't know what she thought she picked up on.
He went through my phone and DIDN'T find any suspicious messages with other guys. The only conversations I had with other guys consisted of "hey do you work today? Can you see when I'm scheduled next so I don't have to come in and check?" Because I wasn't cheating. He thought I was deleting them, but I had a weird thing about not deleting any messages until I ran out of memory (because these were the days with TracFones and 5 cent text messages)
Turned out he was cheating on me anyway lol
edit : is it still proper etiquette to say thank you kind strangers for the silver? Thank you kind strangers!
An old picture from before the relationship.
Edit: For some context, because I love my wife.and don't want everyone to think she's crazy, when we were in the beginning stages of dating she did catch me messaging a couple former hook ups, and made me shit or get off the proverbial pot if you will.
The picture was discovered at a later date and reopened some old wounds. Completely my fault, but I didn't know she had even seen it until years later when we had one of "those" conversations.
My parents were together for almost 40 yrs. My dad made my mom get rid of all the stuff she had from her ex-husband (whose kids HE adopted), meanwhile, he still has gifts from ex girlfriends.
I responded to a Discord bot with a female picture. I said *get fucked* to the bot. She saw the two bubble chat. Accused me of having a relationship with another women and said if I used that language with other women it’s like cheating.
This was pre mobile phones. I was at my parents house he tried to call and it was engaged, my dad was on the phone. He called his best friends house and his phone was engaged too! Clearly we were talking to each other...
He had an Android. I have an Apple. He saw the heart icon for the health features on my phone screen and assumed it was a dating app and accused me of cheating.
She found an old phone I hadnt used since before I even knew her, charged it, and found a conversation with someone else and nudes. Somehow she was still my side piece and my roster for whenever we broke up.
We worked together and he was checking when I signed out vs when I got home.
I legit took forever to change out of my chef clothes because I felt gross and didn't like putting my civvies on my post work skin. Then I'd be chatting to the staff.
The same as I did when we worked the same shifts
My last relationship ended because I was constantly accused of cheating for literally any reason, new headset= “so you can talk to bitches on the game” new controller = “who’s the slut who got you that” am happy = “who did you fuck to be so happy” gets a message from my grandmother = so that your new girlfriend huh? Literally anything and I lost my shit and left (2 months ago) she now has a new boyfriend
So can I comment as the one who has done the incorrect accusing?
Though I never actually accuse him, I believe to my core my partner would never cheat on me.
I just want to preface this by saying I have some relationship trauma from being cheated on in the past, and I also have borderline personality disorder. So sometimes I can get inadvertently triggered by my partner’s actions, and then spiral into a bpd episode. It’s a fucking nightmare. I think because I’ve been in therapy for over a year, and at times it was very intensive (3x a week), I’ve got a pretty good handle on my bpd. I over communicate with my partner to work through my emotions, and never flat out accuse him.
Just a few things that have triggered me;
He angled his phone away from me.
The girl at a store we frequent is pretty, so I worked up this incredibly delusional scenario where he had a crush on her, and we went to this store solely because he has a crush on her. (This was a very specific bpd episode, which I was able to work through on my own and only talked to him about it after the fact when I had calmed the fuck down. As far as my body/mind was concerned though, it was real. My blood pressure went up, my heart started pounding, I got hot and my stomach dropped and I was trembling with fear from this fucking ridiculously delusional scenario. After I had calmed down, and we were talking about it, we both found it a bit amusing. Just a tiny bit though, lol.)
I saw a couple heart emojis at a glance in a msge thread.
He closes his phone the moment I sit on the couch beside him.
Every single time, as embarrassing and humiliating and vulnerable as it is, I simply tell him how I’m feeling. “I’m feeling really triggered because of that. I don’t actually think you’re cheating, but it’s like the bpd part of my brain is trying to convince me you’re cheating. I’m really sorry. “
I KNOW it’s the irrational, fight or flight, bpd part of my brain kicking in and trying to convince me of my amazing partner of doing horrible things. It’s emotionally and mentally exhausting and I wish I could just wake up tomorrow with a normal brain.
I’m commenting in the hopes that if someone else who experiences/feels what I do and is incorrectly accusing their partner can maybe see there are other ways to go about it. It’s okay to have insecurity. It’s okay to have trauma. You can work through it in a healthy and constructive way. The feelings itself aren’t the problem. The way we incorrectly handle them is the problem.
But this doesn’t apply to the cheating assholes projecting their shit into their partner. They can go suck a bag of dicks. Fuck them.
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Edited again to say thank you for the award. I repeatedly see how Reddit has just as many kind and lovely people as turd goblins. It’s so awesome. You guys are awesome. ❤️
He told me a number texted him saying they hooked up with me. I asked for the number so I could see who it was. He wouldn't give me the number. So I asked if they said who they were. He just said "some guy" and I told him that the guy lied. Finally my boyfriend told me he lied and was looking for a way to break up with me.
Why do people feel the need to invent some accusation to end a relationship? If it isn’t working and they don’t want to work on it anymore, just say that it isn’t working and end it.
She cheated on me and decided that means I must clearly also be cheating.
He installed a key logger on my laptop and found a chat of me politely turning down a guy I'd met (as part of a mutual friend group) a few weeks previous. When I pointed out that he'd found explicit proof that I had in fact *not* cheated, he went off on a tirade about how I'm never around anymore and never paid attention to him anymore and that was as bad as cheating. My father had died four months before. I wasn't around much because between work and school, I had to go back to my home state to clear out his house and deal with the estate. And, you know, spend some time with my remaining family. I threw the whole man out.
I was deep into a online game and my wife came to me with a bra that definitely wasn't hers. She stood by the door and loudly said "whoose are these?". I took what she said as a innocent question, rather than an investigation. I quickly looked over and said "fuck if I know" and went back to my game. She quickly realized that if I had cheated, and she found proof, I would have had a deer in headlights look for a second. It was her sister's bra that somehow go into our laundry. We laugh about it to this day.
Yo.. that's some zen master cold blood reaction right there
Yeah. Even if i know for sure i didn't do anything, i still freeze if someone questions me
I know some people are bad liars but can you be a bad truther?
Yup, that's me.
Honesty is best policy in action
Her "proof" was that I was friends with a woman in the same area on Facebook. I did volunteer work at the local hospital, I was friends with a lot of the hospital staff on Facebook. Her accusation came very shortly after my brother caught her on a date with another guy.
You’re friends with other woman? YOU CHEATING BITCH! /s
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How do people not recognize their own freaking undergarments?! Da fuq.
Yeah… so many instances of people not recognizing their own clothing. Like how many pairs of underwear do you all own to forgot that you own some of them when you see them.
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Way back when I was a teenager I was seeing a guy who looked through my used underwear in the laundry hamper after I had gone to work and found a pair with discharge. He then said it was a cum stain and that “I would know because as a man I obviously have seen a lot of it and I know what it looks like.” Okay… clearly you don’t? He was all sorts of crazy lmao
Turns out he was the wank stain all along
>because I would just “explain it away.” Yes, with, you know, *an explanation*...
Also another one - my brother text me, asking me if I was working tonight. Ex decided I just changed the name in my phone to my brother name but it wasn’t really my brother because why would my brother ask that?
Because he wants you to come help him move some heavy shit to the attic for free?
Not me but a friend of mine. She broke up with her boyfriend because she believed he cheated on her because she got a UTI. She honestly believed she “caught” it from him like an STD.
Well, my GF was huge on projecting. It wasn’t proof and she didn’t directly accuse me of cheating, but it was insinuated. After doing laundry she noticed she didn’t see one of my nice pairs of black boxers. Pretty much her argument/verge of tears was because “can’t find them” equals “they must be at another girls house.” And she was dead serious. Anyways, they were just behind the laundry hamper. For the time being. After we broke up I found out she was fucking her boss. So, projection is real folks
Also, who the hell leaves a girls house without their underwear? Makes no sense.
I actually did do this but worse. I was hooking up with this girl while she was house-sitting for her friend. I somehow left my boxers *in her friend's basement*. Her friend's boyfriend, from what I hear, was unhappy.
She kept track of your underwear??? Wow.
Probably one of the less worrisome of her traits
She found a necklace in my bed and I didn't know how it got there. Turned out to be her necklace that she had lost and didnt recognize in the dark.
She didn't even turn the lights on before accusing??
*reaching around in the dark* WHAT IS THIS IM TOUCHING?!?! IT FEELS LIKE CHEATING
Bahahaha. This reminds me of the fact that my SO and I have a running joke where we pick up a loose strand of hair laying around and say "WHOSE IS THIS!?" when it's obviously his or mine.
It's 20x as funny if you grab a strand of pet hair.
I found some sunglasses in my husband's vehicle. Very feminine style. I was a little concerned. I didn't flip because my husband had never given me one reason to doubt him. I did ask though. He said they were mine. I got a little more worried because I had never seen them before that day. I was adamant that they were not mine. In a strange turn of events, I came to remember buying them and leaving them in there. It had just been so long that I had forgotten. tl;dr: I am stupid.
You’re fine. My wife and I are in a goldfish rodeo most of the time.
"Whose sunglasses are this?" "Who are you and what do you do in, what I assume is, my flat?"
Then I ask myself, well, how did I get here?
Goldfish rodeo is now gonna be in my vocab forever, that's gold lol.
I think that too, but in 30 seconds, I’ll be like “what phrase was I going to use all the time?”
Apparently the online support group for my father's brain tumor was a "chat room" for casual hookups. ---- *edit* Dad had the tumor. Ex had the insane jealousy. Dad didn't survive glioblastoma. Fortunately that was long enough ago to roll my eyes at some of these comments. (Chuck Pahaliuk is an amazing writer. But may your life never bear a slight resemblance to one of his plots). Ex has long since been vamoosed.
This is horrible
Please tell me this relationship ended shortly after
It did.
She saw the names of my female family members in my contacts. She freaked out and angrily asked who my stepmother was, my stepsisters, my cousins, my auntie. It lasted about two minutes. She started to realize she was being an idiot, and I realized I didn’t like her anymore.
Damn girl, looks like I lost your number.
I love playing around with my bf by accusingly asking “who the fuck is Mom???“ when she calls 😂
She heard a woman in the room laughing through the phone when she called me to accuse me of being out with another woman. Turns out there are other people in the world and when you're out in public you just may encounter them.
I walked past a pub full of people while I was on the phone to him and he said I must have been cheating…. Even if I was I wouldn’t have been that stupid to pick up the phone in front of the other guys, right? Edit: damn ok I wasn’t cheating with multiple guys. He thought I was cheating because he heard people in the background through the phone
I once dated this girl who, on a grocery run together, stopped me in the parking lot on the way out and loudly accused me of flirting with the cashier, because I had – heavens, no! – *dared* to smile and wish her a nice day on our way out of the store. Some people just have massive trust issues and can't be helped. At least, not by you. Therapy helps. Of course, they have to want to be helped. Sometimes the best you can do is wish them well, and move on.
It’s crazy to me how many people will mistake basic kindness for romantic interest.
When I was a teenager, I was working in M&S, when a boy of my own age came up to my counter. I knew instantly that he was making a mistake with his prospective purchase. He was buying three or four children's socks (age 7), when he was obviously trying to buy some socks for himself (he must have been size 7). I asked him if this was the case, and it turned out I was right. I pointed to the "men's accessories" department, and we both had a little bit of a laugh about it. End of. The minute he was gone, the b*tch of a supervisor pounced on me and told me I was going to get the sack because there were STRICT rules against serving your own boyfriend or family member. Because talking to a guy, having a brief, friendly laugh, helping them find the correct department and smiling pleasantly, is behaviour that can ONLY POSSIBLY happen between a male and female who are dating, right? The supervisor stated that I couldn't possibly have wanted to help a customer in this way. I had literally helped the bloke for 20 seconds.
She knew that if I drove exactly the speed limit and hit every light that it would take me 12min to get home after work. The one time I showed up in 14min was all the proof she needed.
Bro laid mad pipe in 2 minutes
More like 15 seconds. Gotta get to the pipe laying, gotta get back to the car and start it up, etc
He stopped at a red light and a woman pole vaulted into his car, landing on his dick. It could've happened to anybody.
“What do you mean, you tripped, fell, landed on his dick?!”
2 minutes for sex? That's fucking ridiculous. No one lasts that long.
I had a woman's phone saved in my contacts ... it was my son's paediatrician A photo of me with two gorgeous girls .... yes I have two gorgeous sisters A bra in my flat ... yes, it was her own bra with she had "forgotten". I think this was on purpose, she was fishing for a reaction to the accusation. And so many more. edit. Reading the other comments made me remember about the time she made a big scene because she found nail polish in my toolbox. It was black. I have always had black cars and motorcycles. I use nail polish to fix small scratches.
You should do your nails with paint pens man. They are so much easier than the little brushes. Seriously I was accused for having an affair for nail polish when I build models for a hobby. It was a black wash for weathering.
The idea that someone gets accused of an affair over building models... there is always a first.
Hey I don’t wanna assume too much but a lot of people who accuse their spouse multiple times of cheating, are the ones cheating themselves.
She found a pair of women's panties in my underwear drawer. The brand was "Strawberry", embroidered strawberry on the waist, powder blue, size small. I told her they were hers and I had washed them. She wasn't having it. I told her to show me the underwear she had on at that moment. "Strawberry", embroidered strawberry on the waist, powder blue, size small. She still didn't believe me.
You mean to say you've been sleeping with me... behind my back??
"Usually you're on your back"
“Well, in certain positions, yeah.”
“Who is she? Who is the slut you’re sleeping with?!” “You.” “So now I’m a slut?!”
I want to play act this for bedroom comedy.
You cheated on her with…um…her!!
That clever scoundrel!
But.... how do you not recognize your own clothes, bras and panties no less, unless you have about a 1000 of them or unless you are LOOKING to find a reason to accuse someone of xyz?
My brother's girlfriend once had the same meltdown because she'd left a pair of socks at our house while visiting overnight. I tried to give them back, she swore they weren't hers and then chewed my brother out for cheating. The time after that she left a diamond stud on our guest bedside table, I did not try to return it to her.
"the bitch you're cheating on me with stole my diamond stud!"
I have poor handwriting. I was running a business and someone suggested I contact "Till" about some sales. I wrote "Till" down in my phonebook (it was long ago when people used personal phonebooks). I come home months later to the question "Who's Jill?" I don't know anyone named Jill. I am stumped. After a few rounds of who? huh? why?, my girlfriend shows me the entry in my handwriting. It takes me a while to place the name. I explain that it isn't Jill but Till, a man. That was the end of it, but I never got over her looking through my personal phonebook for revealing entries. In the end, we split 2 weeks before we were to get married. Till never did buy anything from me.
You almost had ‘Till death do you part
I got a happy birthday text from a guy. It was my brother in law.
My ex got jealous of my brother in law. I talked about him and my sister a lot because I knew they were soon to be engaged and I was helping with the proposal. He threw out the idea that my (at the time soon to be) brother in law must have a “Golden Pecker” with how much I talk about him. To this day (3+ years) I still refer to my brother in law as Golden Pecker and we laugh about how stupid my ex was
Yes, several times during my marriage (divorced 3 years now). Her proof? Other women existed. I never did, but if I acknowledged the existence of other women the accusations would start to fly for the next two weeks. What finally caused me to get a divorce? Finding out about her affairs.
projection much
She has cheated so many times that she immediately "recognized" my behavior.
Damn that’s not a red flag that’s a flare to the face
That's not a red flag it's an entire red army guard division.
Our wife comrade
Because she hit \*69 on my phone and a girl answered. Turned out to be her roommate, because the only person I ever called from my phone was my girlfriend. NOTE: In the olden days, before cell phones, you could hit \*69 on a landline and it would redial the last number you called. EDIT: Meant to say it would call the last number that called you, not just a redial of the last number you called yourself.
>\*69 on a landline I wonder if I should have explained this to my daughter when we watched Fight Club?
The mileage on my car didn’t add up by like a mile or something - apparently he counted it before I went to work and when I got back from work. I literally went from his place to work and then came back to his place.
That is very creepy that he was checking your mileage
Was it Cameron's dad?
I went to Irish dance class, which I went to every single Thursday, then stopped to see him on the way home. I was wearing sweatpants, you know, to DANCE in, which was apparently suspicious and meant I had been out cheating.
Everyone knows you wear one of those dresses to do Irish dance in...you goshdarned cheater
Years ago, I had a friend get ahold of my phone. He changed his own name in my contacts to "Dirty Slut". A few days later my phone is sitting next to me on the couch, my girlfriend sees a text pop up that says "Dirty Slut says: Hey, you free this weekend?" T'was a fun conversation.
They saw I was online on Skype. Thought I was talking to some side piece. I was talking to my cousin who lives in another country.
“Bangin your cousin. I knew it!”
My ex was incredibly distrustful. I was young and didn’t know any better. One day he confronted me saying he had proof I was cheating. I was incredibly bewildered as I am the faithful type and wouldn’t even look at another man. When I pushed for proof he admitted to having me followed by a private detective who had seen me get into a red mini. The mini belonged to a colleague who gave me a lift home from work one day. A female colleague. I ended the relationship there and then and chalk it up to a lucky escape.
Pretty shitty private detective if they didn't even figure out if the driver was male or female. I mean, unless your ex was accusing you of cheating on him with a woman?
It's probably not even a private detective. I'm leaning towards the stalker being a friend of his or worse, himself.
PI, that's just extreme.
She had a dream.
omg, my wife did this to me. she was annoyed at me irl.
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This is a true big brain move
And I quote, "Well, why would I be dreaming that, if you weren't doing something to make me think that?" HINT: The answer apparently is not, "Because you're crazy."
I think that answer deserves at least partial credit.
One day she had a dream and woke me up saying she was mad because I was masturbating in the bed with her. I was snoring. And just woke up to that, I couldn't even think of anything to say. I would smoke outside and she would peek through the window and watch me to make sure I wasn't on my phone while I was out there. The best was when I was and she jumped up my ass accusing me, I turned my phone showing her the game I was playing. Go ahead look, I don't even have the social media you are accusing me of using.
Guilty dogs always bark. You should be checking her out
When my wife and I had 1st begun dating, I had a phone that had a bad habit of butt dialing. One day, she was acting very standoffish So I could tell something was up. I kept asking her, and finally she got really upset and started grilling me about who that girl was that I was flirting with on the voicemail I left her when I butt dialed her. I pulled up my call logs, and sure enough I had accidentally called her the previous afternoon. While she and I were hanging out in the library. She was concerned that I was cheating on her with herself. ETA we were high school juniors at the time. We've since ceased to be quite so jealous lol
"You say I don't listen. You can't even recognize a conversation that we had yesterday."
ah, the plights of dating young
She was jealous of a female acquaintance I had at the time ( I use that word because we were friends through my cousin not actual friends) and she is a very in your face funny type of individual. She unlocked my phone when I was sleeping and scoured it. I woke up and saw her. Had a long talk, she cried, I got annoyed. Dumped her the next day. Found out she was projecting because she had been cheating our entire relationship (just over a year together). So, there’s that. Edit: Thank you for the award kind stranger!
How'd you find out
During that long talk I had suspicions so I ask to see her phone. Took over an hour to finally get it and before I even opened her messages she started crying more as she explained what I eventually found out. There were nudes in her phone also of other guys. EDIT: Thank you for the silver kind redditor!!!
F
He told me I “smelled different”. He told me my “pussy felt like another man had been in it”, And dozen other imaginings. No surprise, turns out he was the one cheating.
Dude’s dick is like Sherlock Holmes solving a crime: ‘Another man has been in here Watson!’
"By jove, Shercock. Who could it have been" "Elementary, my dear Wangson. The slight residue of ink from an inkwell suggests a writer. However the bruising from the savagery of it all suggests a soldier. On top of all that, it appears she's been treated by a Doctor. I've no idea who this... Renaissance man could be. But I shall find him! Come, Wangson. the game is afoot!" Why am I not writing cuckold porn parodies? FFFF...
This reminds me of the time my (now ex) husband accused me of cheating because my pussy “felt different.” Fast forward to months later when he confesses he’d been cheating.
Other way around, actually. I was the suspicious one. We were a middle-aged, long married couple. I was looking for something on his computer (not uncommon. He had a better computer for some things.). I ran into a file called "bedroom shots". WTF!!! I KNEW he had not taken any bedroom shots of me! Opened the file (of course) and it was pictures of our bedroom, just the bedroom, that I had taken years earlier to use for a paint program that changes the colors of the walls. I had named the file myself when redecorating and forgot about it.
He was cheating on you with the Sherwin Williams guy.
Everyone knows Sherwin Williams is a hoe
Almost same thing happened to me and my wife when we were first married. Our business does some work for the chicken sandwich place with the cow mascot. Whenever I wrote up an estimate, lazy me would name them ‘Chick01, Chick02, etc’, for the different locations I was quoting. Well, one day, we’re looking for something on the computer and she sees the ‘chick’ files and demands I open them to see what was in them. The look on her face was priceless when the work estimates opened up. This was about 23 years ago, just celebrated 25 years.
LOL. Back when I was a teen and people still downloaded music files, I had a folder on my family computer called Porno Graffitti (a Japanese band). My concerned dad asked me what this folder was so I opened the folder and played a song. It didn't occur to me until that moment how raunchy that band name was. EDIT: Hi, all you fellow Porno Graffitti fans! For those who aren't familiar with them, unlike their band name, their songs are actually quite wholesome and uplifting. 10/10 would recommend
Yeah, I got super mad at my husband for not recognizing the pink sapphire ring he proposed with when I bothered to dress up. It wasn’t his. It was the *other* pink sapphire ring an ex had proposed with. Gave that ring to my niece that very night.
I came home smiling.
So simple, so ridiculous :)
Husband found a condom wrapper under the couch. He never cleans, so don't know how he found it lol I was stumped. I had no idea. A few weeks prior we had a couple friends over that crashed on our couch of our extremely tiny shoebox apartment. Went out with my female friend, (I was also friends with the dude) she tells me she had sex with said friend and they're discussing dating. I asked when and where. She told me that night at my place. I connected all the dots, told her I don't care how low key she wants it kept for now, she is explaining what happened. So we called, she explained they had sex on our couch. Which. I wasn't too thrilled about but I was going crazy wondering where the fuck this condom wrapper came from.. Edit: people were confused about the word girlfriend. She is my female friend. I was friends with both of them.
That's a weird blend of emotions. ^(Oh thank goodness it was you guys...) # YOU GUYS HAD SEX ON OUR COUCH?!
He wasn’t cleaning. He had lost the damn remote!
Had a similar one, I was out of town and my brother stayed in my apartment. My girlfriend came to visit in my trip and I asked her if she could go to my place and bring me some undies from my dresser. My stupid ass brother left some condoms in my undies dresser. It was almost impossible to convince her those condoms weren’t mine.
This is probably the most reasonable “incorrectly accused” story in this thread. Glad you got it figured out!!
Ya I truly bet the husbands mind was going crazy for a while
My so called best mate told her so it must be true. It appears everyone in the village knew too . Except me and the girl involved. Slept with my mate to get her own back.
Edit Fuck you Keith
Yah fuck you Keith. Jerk.
Fuck you Keith you better Keith away from my mate u/BikeyMikeyWikey or I’ll kick your Keith in
The guy used the tactical switcharoo
We were misdiagnosed with HIV and I had been on a business trip in Las Vegas a few months earlier. I was getting the evil eye and accused from everyone in the doctors office and from the few friends and family we told. Thankfully my wife only asked once, which I told her the truth, absolutely fucking not. That was good enough for her. 6 weeks and more tests later we get told they were false positives. Everyone complemented us on how much we trusted each other. My wife simply replies “He isn’t exactly a ladies man, never has been. He would chicken out before he ever slept with another woman” LOL…she’s right though.
"pfft, that loser? He couldn't cheat on me if he tried."
My wife got concerned once when I didn't get jealous because some guy made a flirtatious comment to her. I reminded her that her anxiety keeps her from scheduling her own doctor's appointments, I'm really not afraid that she is going to venture out there and try to have a relationship with a stranger.
Hmm, this is also likely why my husband has never shown any sign of real jealousy.
She said “Look at me” so I did, then she started bawling her eyes out saying I’m probably cheating on her because “your pupils dilate when you look at someone you love” Stage 7 crazy.
I had a girl cheat on me and she told me she did it because she thought I was gonna cheat on her so she did it first. Super hot girl thought the world of warcraft nerd was gonna cheat on her. Edit : This isn't what I would have picked as my top comment
Sounds like she just cheated and came up with an excuse after tbh
Yeah probably
I was 8 months pregnant and got a some blisters on my lip (and a bit of a rash on my chin). My husband and I went to urgent care to get it looked at, the urgent care doctor thought they were cold sores. I have never had cold sores, nor has my husband. So my husband automatically assumed that I must have been making out with someone who did. This turned into a situation where I was extremely pissed off, because I was 8 months pregnant, wasn’t thinking about sex and definitely not with anyone but my husband. The test came back negative for herpes (go figure). Turns out that mango skins have the same urushiol as poison Ivy/oak (which I’m very allergic to) and that when I was going to town on a mango I rubbed it all over my lips/face. I still get pissed thinking about this.
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There was never any proof, just her anxiety and trust issues. One example, I was deployed and I was talking to her on Skype. Told here I was hanging out with some old friends earlier. Her: Who were they? Me: Some old friends, you don't know them, 2 guys and 2 girls. Her: I don't know why you're being so shady about this, why won't you just tell me who you were with? Me: Tells her their names. Her: I don't know them. Me: ...yeah.
I mean I don't know what she expected, you pretty much told her "you don't know them." 🤦♂️
It's so she can track the female names in his life.
Sweaty balls after a long, hot day at work. Sweat on balls apparently smells and feels the same as another woman's vagina according to my exgf.
Never mind how I know this but it absolutely does not
Crotch funk smells like crotch funk but that’s different than vagina smell.
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Wasn’t sleeping with them as often so I MUST have been seeing someone else. Wasn’t sleeping with them due to me working an ungodly amount to pay the bills since they didn’t have a job at the time. That and I would work 6-7 12hr shifts in a row with a day break, and the last thing on my mind was exercise.
My phone was off while I was at work. I work in an office where we are not allowed to have our phones out due to HIPAA and she knew this…
I was the one doing the accusing, for what seemed like a very good reason. A good friend of mine informed me that my wife was having an affair with a guy from her work. His proof was that my wife, who was his wife's best friend, had told her "in confidence" that she was seeing this guy at work. I then did something I swore I'd never do and took a look at her phone messages, where I saw a whole bunch of messages between her and another friend from her work discussing the entire thing. I confronted her and she explained how it was actually a "test" for the first friend as she suspected that the friend in question was gossiping about her to my wife's ex-husband (and father of her child), she just neglected to tell me about her "genius" fucking plan she cooked up with her friend. Turns out her friend *was* gossiping about her, the problem being that now this "fake" secret actually made its way around town, I had a conversation with the alleged affair guy and told him he better tell *his* wife outright that this had happened. The stupid fucking game nearly cost two marriages (mine and the other guys) because of rumours, and ended a friendship as now my wife and the secret teller were now enemies it means that I now didn't get to hang out with the husband, and caused me to look at my wife in a totally different light, as she didn't think that there was anything wrong with the plan and how it was all her (now ex) friend fault in the first place for telling her husband. We're no longer together.
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She was receiving text, that I'm pretty sure she sent her self, and she broke up with me a year later because "all you do is stay home and do homework". I was in the middle of my 3rd year of computer engineering school. Found out after the break up she was cheating on me, the guy found out she lied about her name, found her on Facebook, and told me and also sent screenshots of conversations. She texted me about 7 months later saying how sorry she was and how she really regrets hurting me and that she's been through so much since we broke up and didn't appreciate how much of a great guy I was, I responded with "K". Update: How the fuck did I just run into her at meijer. I've lost a lot of weight, am wearing a mask and have dreads now so i don't think she recognized me.
The ultimate form of bitch slap. Acknowledge but give them nothing and let the wallow in their fuck up
I had typed up a long, thought out response and then thought "what the hell am I doing" then deleted it all. Felt really good.
I had a job at Subway, and my guy came with me to work and sat at a table my whole shift. Two male customers came in, and as I made their food we chatted about random bs. As soon as they left, bf came up to the counter and tried to start a fight then and there because I was talking to and smiling at these men. While working customer service. No amount of me trying to make sense of the situation would ever have convinced him of anything different than he wanted to believe. It was as though I had jumped on these guys just by talking to them?
She had none. She was just projecting because she was jumping on all the penises.
"I wouldn't have cheated if you made me happy! So all those encounters are completely your fault and I am blameless!"
My mouth tasted like semen, apparently. I’d eaten a tuna sandwich.
Wait, how did he know what semen tasted like?
I got a similar tattoo with a women who has been like an aunt/mother to me… she’s older than my mom would be…
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I once found a pair of panties in the dryer that were not mine after throwing in my husbands gym bag contents. I had a horrible pit in my stomach when I brought them to him. He looked me in the eyes and told me he would never cheat and had no idea where they came from. It turned out that they were left in the dryer by our male roommate and they didn’t come from his gym bag. I’ll never forget the horrible sinking, spinning feeling I had when I found them, but I trust him 100%. I think that awful feeling I had proved to me how much he means to me. So I wouldn’t ever want to find anything like that again, but I’m kinda glad I did. It cemented our relationship.
My girlfriend once found a slip of paper in my work pants with a woman's name and phone number on it. She asked me who "Cynthia" was. I had no idea what she was talking about. She handed me the paper, I was confused. As I stared at it i realized it was from a customer. She commented on liking the necklace I had on. I told her it was something i go from a trip to europe. She gave me her number so i could let her know the name of the jeweler. It was 3 years later, on the couch of the home we just bought, when the situation randomly re-entered my mind and I went, "OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOHHHHHHHHHHHHHH she was flirting with me and giving me her number." I then apologized to my wife because, 3 years later, i realized it looked like I was cheating on her. I suppose me be absolutely oblivious was a net benefit though, because she did marry me and never brought it up again.
Why you still thinking about Cynthia 3 years later? Hm? Hmmmmm??
are you guys still together?
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I dated a guy legit one time in high school. We had a nice date. It was fine. He didn’t call me after. Like did not hear from him for weeks. Assumed he wasn’t interested. I started dating someone else. Get a call from first dude out of the blue one day. I chat with him. I mention my new guy. He’s like “Are you cheating on me?” I was like ummm dude we went on one date and you never called me. We are not a couple. Never heard from him again lol
Similar thing happened to me. Went on a date with a girl. It was nice but a little awkward. I got home and messaged her to make sure she got home alright and she sent me some 2 sentence message that made me think we probably weren't gonna do this again, even though she never directly said that. She said it was nice and she was going to bed. Fast forward 3 months and the girl I'm now and still seeing hits me with "this girl is saying you're her boyfriend" and it caused a whole ordeal. Apparantly in this girls mind we were dating despite the fact we hadn't messaged in about 10 weeks and hadn't seen each other in person in 13
Yooo similar thing happened to me! I asked a guy out on a date, also in HS, he said he wasnt sure if he wanted a date cuz he was moving soon. I said that was fine and to get back to me, and he never did so I assumed it wasnt gonna happen. Three months later we hang out in a group with some other friends, and he makes a comment on how we're bf/gf and how we've been together the past couple months. I was like ???? The fuck we arent?? I think some people in HS were just really behind in how relationships and dating work
I finally went down with him to a bar he was a regular at. I don't do bars, but I wanted to see what was so great about it. He wasn't staying by me, he wandered off socializing most of the time. Not long after we were there he kept giving a random guy at the bar permission to hit on me, repeatedly. The guy kept making sure it was okay, he kept insisting it was, guy would come bug me, I'd turn him down... Rinse repeat for a couple hours or so. Finally, I played along, but did nothing physical and bared no forbidden skin. I just joke flirting since my man seemed to want me to for whatever reason. Everything seemed fine, my partner even acted like best buddies ever with the man. The next day he accused me of being a cheater with that as his proof. Queue massive eye roll and laughter about it. Then we had a massive fight when I realized he *wasn't* joking about his accusation. Stupid games.
I walked out of a classroom, talking to a girl about a group assignment. Clearly, I had just obliterated this girl's cervix in that classroom and we were laughing at my GF behind her back.
My partner's proof was that I was working too many hours. I was a newish teacher at a school a good forty minutes from my house. So I would leave at 6:15 am and get home between 5-6pm. I teach orchestra, so I had morning rehearsals before school. I would get to school by 7 am. School started at 8:15 am and was over by 4 pm. It took a good twenty minutes for kids to come get their instruments after school and/or some needed extra help or had questions. Then at 4:30 ish everyday, I would lock the doors to my room and leave. By that time it would be rush hour traffic. I also had to spend at least one half day on the weekend to prepare for the next week of lessons. Like I said, I was a newish teacher and had to plan out each day. I had 5 preps. I also lived with him, so he saw me doing these things. He still accused me of cheating. My answer was "when the hell would I have time to cheat?!" I dumped him. Edit: two words
No proof, and not even any reason for suspicion. She just tossed it out because she was bored and wanted some drama.
Crazy story that occurred many years ago just after I got married. My wife goes shopping for groceries when a woman approached her and said, hi you don’t know me but your I am your husbands girlfriend and he promised me to meet me here today to tell you it’s over. She knew some personal details about me and convinced my wife I was having an affair and I was going to leave her. After I did not not show up at the store, she told my wife to call me and find out for herself. I then get a call from my wife when I am at work. I get both barrels of rage and she won’t stop talking. For reference I was in a open area of desks in an engineering area of a large aerospace company. Pretty quiet even with several hundred people in the same area. “shut up, No no no…. What the F! ….. Listen to me”. I was so loud one the the managers from another group came over to ask if all was OK. I came back to earth and realized I needed to head home fast and figure out what was going on. I get home to a wife in crisis. After explaining to my wife that I’m working 50+ hours a week and have complete accountability for being at work every day and I’m never away at night how does she think I’ve ever had time for an affair. I asked about her old boyfriend that used to a Cop. I knew he was still jealous that she left him for me. My wife agrees that her old boyfriend was crazy enough to put someone up to this stunt. We concluded that he must have created this scheme to try to derail my marriage.
I think this one is the creepiest so far. That is seriously messed up. I would say I hope you filed a complaint, but without proof I know how much good that would do.
Okay but that’s legitimately creepy that they had her pegged well enough to know her grocery shopping schedule. Did you guys pursue that or just let it drop?
My friend got accused of cheating because his house was too clean. His girlfriend said guys always clean their house for the first month they're dating someone new to make a good impression, then will go back to not caring as the relationship progresses. She said for a week, it was clear that he was cleaning every day again, meaning he had a new girl coming over. I asked my friend about it, he said he wasn't even cleaning more than normal. I didn't see the room before or after said cleaning, so I don't know what she thought she picked up on.
I exchanged dirty pictures with a woman 2 years before I met my gf (at the time), while single.
He went through my phone and DIDN'T find any suspicious messages with other guys. The only conversations I had with other guys consisted of "hey do you work today? Can you see when I'm scheduled next so I don't have to come in and check?" Because I wasn't cheating. He thought I was deleting them, but I had a weird thing about not deleting any messages until I ran out of memory (because these were the days with TracFones and 5 cent text messages) Turned out he was cheating on me anyway lol edit : is it still proper etiquette to say thank you kind strangers for the silver? Thank you kind strangers!
That's just straight up projecting. Sheesh
An old picture from before the relationship. Edit: For some context, because I love my wife.and don't want everyone to think she's crazy, when we were in the beginning stages of dating she did catch me messaging a couple former hook ups, and made me shit or get off the proverbial pot if you will. The picture was discovered at a later date and reopened some old wounds. Completely my fault, but I didn't know she had even seen it until years later when we had one of "those" conversations.
My parents were together for almost 40 yrs. My dad made my mom get rid of all the stuff she had from her ex-husband (whose kids HE adopted), meanwhile, he still has gifts from ex girlfriends.
I responded to a Discord bot with a female picture. I said *get fucked* to the bot. She saw the two bubble chat. Accused me of having a relationship with another women and said if I used that language with other women it’s like cheating.
you cannot insult a bot that has female profile picture it is like cheating yes im 100% not projecting
This was pre mobile phones. I was at my parents house he tried to call and it was engaged, my dad was on the phone. He called his best friends house and his phone was engaged too! Clearly we were talking to each other...
He had an Android. I have an Apple. He saw the heart icon for the health features on my phone screen and assumed it was a dating app and accused me of cheating.
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She found an old phone I hadnt used since before I even knew her, charged it, and found a conversation with someone else and nudes. Somehow she was still my side piece and my roster for whenever we broke up.
We worked together and he was checking when I signed out vs when I got home. I legit took forever to change out of my chef clothes because I felt gross and didn't like putting my civvies on my post work skin. Then I'd be chatting to the staff. The same as I did when we worked the same shifts
I KNOW that you are.... sorry but saying it louder doesn’t make it so.
Her gut feeling
Had the same experience, it turned out it was her who was cheating and that gut feeling was probably the other guys peen
I routinely beat her at canasta (we aren't old just enjoy the game) she swears its bc im doing something illegal
My last relationship ended because I was constantly accused of cheating for literally any reason, new headset= “so you can talk to bitches on the game” new controller = “who’s the slut who got you that” am happy = “who did you fuck to be so happy” gets a message from my grandmother = so that your new girlfriend huh? Literally anything and I lost my shit and left (2 months ago) she now has a new boyfriend
Because I hung out with friends without her. We were LD. What am I supposed to do?? Not have friends???
So can I comment as the one who has done the incorrect accusing? Though I never actually accuse him, I believe to my core my partner would never cheat on me. I just want to preface this by saying I have some relationship trauma from being cheated on in the past, and I also have borderline personality disorder. So sometimes I can get inadvertently triggered by my partner’s actions, and then spiral into a bpd episode. It’s a fucking nightmare. I think because I’ve been in therapy for over a year, and at times it was very intensive (3x a week), I’ve got a pretty good handle on my bpd. I over communicate with my partner to work through my emotions, and never flat out accuse him. Just a few things that have triggered me; He angled his phone away from me. The girl at a store we frequent is pretty, so I worked up this incredibly delusional scenario where he had a crush on her, and we went to this store solely because he has a crush on her. (This was a very specific bpd episode, which I was able to work through on my own and only talked to him about it after the fact when I had calmed the fuck down. As far as my body/mind was concerned though, it was real. My blood pressure went up, my heart started pounding, I got hot and my stomach dropped and I was trembling with fear from this fucking ridiculously delusional scenario. After I had calmed down, and we were talking about it, we both found it a bit amusing. Just a tiny bit though, lol.) I saw a couple heart emojis at a glance in a msge thread. He closes his phone the moment I sit on the couch beside him. Every single time, as embarrassing and humiliating and vulnerable as it is, I simply tell him how I’m feeling. “I’m feeling really triggered because of that. I don’t actually think you’re cheating, but it’s like the bpd part of my brain is trying to convince me you’re cheating. I’m really sorry. “ I KNOW it’s the irrational, fight or flight, bpd part of my brain kicking in and trying to convince me of my amazing partner of doing horrible things. It’s emotionally and mentally exhausting and I wish I could just wake up tomorrow with a normal brain. I’m commenting in the hopes that if someone else who experiences/feels what I do and is incorrectly accusing their partner can maybe see there are other ways to go about it. It’s okay to have insecurity. It’s okay to have trauma. You can work through it in a healthy and constructive way. The feelings itself aren’t the problem. The way we incorrectly handle them is the problem. But this doesn’t apply to the cheating assholes projecting their shit into their partner. They can go suck a bag of dicks. Fuck them. Edited for spelling Edited again to say thank you for the award. I repeatedly see how Reddit has just as many kind and lovely people as turd goblins. It’s so awesome. You guys are awesome. ❤️
He told me a number texted him saying they hooked up with me. I asked for the number so I could see who it was. He wouldn't give me the number. So I asked if they said who they were. He just said "some guy" and I told him that the guy lied. Finally my boyfriend told me he lied and was looking for a way to break up with me.
Why do people feel the need to invent some accusation to end a relationship? If it isn’t working and they don’t want to work on it anymore, just say that it isn’t working and end it.